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Hannah Personal Theory (AutoRecovered)
Hannah Personal Theory (AutoRecovered)
Hannah Personal Theory (AutoRecovered)
A Personal Theory
Presented to
Ma’am Myrtle C. Orbon
Psychology Department
Submitted by:
Hannah Marie Z. Quilatan
December 2021
II. Overview of the Theory
This theory has been influenced by her personal experiences as a child until young
adulthood. Hannah Quilatan’s Only Theory was built on the assumption that family conditions
contribute to the development of one’s personality. She suggests that being the only son or the
only daughter of the family may cause parental favoritism, which creates a negative impact on
the siblinghood and the overall familial relationship. She believed that favoritism may promote
sibling envy among the children and cause hostility towards their parents. She carefully
developed concepts that interfere with the harmonious relationship within the family structure.
Childhood:
Quilatan was born on July 5, 2001 in Daet, Camarines Norte. Living as the only
daughter in the family, she was considered as the family’s princess. She grew up being
pampered by her parents, Marlyn Quilatan and Frederic Quilatan. And despite of their
busy schedules, they were still attentive of her. Her mom, especially was fond of her. She
always bought her new dresses and stuff. She was always chosen to bring up in different
events than her brothers. She always gets what she wants. Moreover, she believed that
she was an obedient child. She made sure she does well in school. She helped with the
household chores. Despite being pampered, she knew her responsibilities as a daughter
and as a sibling.
At such an early age, she was forced to take the responsibility of being the eldest
child in the family. She thought, her older brother was their family’s headache. She was
expected to act responsible for themselves. Every time their parents had to leave home;
she always took charge of the whole household. She even used to take her little brother to
kindergarten when she was only in the 2 nd grade. She was used to the idea that she should
However, as a child, she already felt that her two other brothers hated her. She
would often hear them saying their parents never scolded her, when they always did.
They would often say that she always gets what she wanted, and they never did. They
would often say that she was always right, and they never were. She thought they were
unhappy seeing their parents always being in favor of her. But because she was still in
her innocence, she never really thought of what was the real deal.
Adolescence:
As an adolescent, Quilatan still knew there was a gap between her and her
siblings. She still hasn’t tried to talk about their problem. She guessed that it was better to
keep her mouth shut than to ruin their siblinghood. She just continued her life having
She studied high school in an Adventist institution near their neighborhood, along
with her younger brother. Since there were only a few students enrolled in their school at
that time, they shared the same classroom. During the years they spent together, she only
realized how distant he became with her. She also remembered how his brother’s best
friend was always mad at her. He always said things like she was always unfair with her
brother and that she was pathetic. She felt so bad every time she would hear things like
this from other people. Ever since she could remember, she was always referred to as the
favorite child.
There was a time when they competed with each other in a singing competition in
a school event. Her brother won. It was fine with her, since it’s her brother’s first time
competing. She felt bad she lost, but she accepted it right away and was happy for her
brother’s victory. However, as she described it, seeing his sister lose was like an
achievement for him. He was taunting her for losing against him. He wanted her to accept
her defeat, though it shouldn’t have been a big deal. She was disappointed for how her
Young Adulthood:
Times passed. And by the time she went for AUP to begin college, her
relationship with her siblings turned the other way around. Her brothers became sweeter
and expressive. There were times that they would ask for the phone from their mother, to
ask how well was she doing and ask her things about her time there. She was happy that
she felt the love from her brothers as she was away from her family.
However, during her stay there, she suddenly felt sick. On December 2020, she
went home to Bicol. She needed to go home for proper treatment. It was found out that
she had to undergo biopsy, in fear of having lymphoma cancer. It was the most terrifying
news she heard in her entire life. She was scared. She had never been admitted for
sickness. It was only because of the car accident she had as a child. Ever since, she never
was hospitalized. And for her, undergoing that operation was the bravest thing she had
done. But then, after that same operation, she had reactivated a dengue virus. For the
second time, she had to be readmitted. She had to stop with her studies. She felt like a
burden to her family. She was depressed. For Quilatan, this was the darkest time of her
life.
IV. Introduction
by social relationships. She believes that the development of personality ultimately starts
from the home. The family serves as a source of love and emotional refuge. They help
form the core foundation of a person. They create a huge impact in a person’s ability to
survive life’s difficulties and the cruelness of the outside world. However, having bad
relationships inside the home could pose a great danger into a developing personality.
This might lead to hostility and hatred. And worse, the destruction of the family as a
whole.
complicated when there is only one of the genders that exists among siblings. Parents
tend to prioritize the only son/daughter in the family. Mothers usually prefer their only
daughter. Fathers tend to pick their only son. People prefer to bond more with people of
the same sex. This is what we call, gender preference. Since they can relate to one
another, they appear to bond and connect more. The commotion begins as the parent
starts spending more time to this only child, rather than his/her other siblings. And
because the child appears only one, parents tend to be overprotective of him/her. They
start giving them more attention, more time, more incentives, etc. than usual. This
safe, they tend to forget that they still have other children who need equal love and
attention from them. This is now where sibling envy comes in. Sibling envy simply
means jealousy towards another sibling. As the other children watch their only
sister/brother being pampered by their parents, they begin to question their parents’ love
for them. They start asking why do they not receive equal treatment from their parents.
They begin to ask their worth. And this anxiety, or the feelings of worry and uneasiness,
towards their parents. Children with hostility tend to withdraw/detach from the family.
They feel uncomfortable being around their parents’ company. They do not feel the need
to seek for their parents’ approval. As they felt deprived of the need to be loved and
I. Rebellious Personality
parents’ views and principles. The rules set by their parents now becomes a
symbol of control, instead of a way of to maintain peace inside the home. Rules
now become a nuisance. A tool to control their life and prevent them from being
happy.
People who possess this type of personality, do not like to be told what to
do. They see themselves as the master of their own lives. They fear that people
would always try to invalidate them. To curse them for the decisions they make.
Since the child had experienced being neglected by their parents, he/she
introversion and low self-esteem. As the child grows, his/her ability to interact or
socialize with other people maybe largely affected. His/her experiences of neglect
actual world. They prefer their own company, as they are used to be left alone as a
child. They would rather have small circle of friends, rather than a large group of
acquaintances. They prefer living, alone. Rather than having many but being left
Healthy Parenting
Parents must ensure that they pay equal attention to every child in the
remember that they have to address every child accordingly with their needs.
A. Love and Belongingness- The child must feel that he/she is loved and cared.
He/she must feel that he/she is at home with his/her family. Parents must
ensure to provide equal attention to every child. They must be able to make
their children understand that each one of them is valued. No one is loved
B. Security- Parents are expected to provide a safe haven for their children,
where they can find peace and comfort away from the cruelness of the world.
They must feel secured with their parents. Parents must be able to guide them
C. Unconditional Positive Regard- Children must feel that they are accepted as
they are. That no matter what they have done, their parents will always be
there to support them. They must know that whatever they do, whatever
the family is the most basic unit of community, she believes that social relationships
take a huge part in the development of personality. Her theory clearly states that
largely influenced by the environment, rather than biological forces. For her,
relations, particularly within the family, the researchers believed that perceptions of
parental favoritism are more likely to occur with daughters than sons. (Megan
demographic and family characteristics, which includes family size, race, children’s
gender, age, marital and parental status, and gender composition of the family.
(Connidis & Campbell, 1995; White & Riedmann, 1992). Some, are found to be
contributing factors, but not all. Some have been found to predict patterns of
Pillemer, 2013).
accounted for by the association among these factors. (Megan Gilligan, J. Jill