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SUBJECT: ENGLISH
TOPIC: THE WAY RELATIONSHIPS WORK TODAY

Let's start with a quote: “Finding someone who brings out the best in you and
encourages you to be better is what love is all about. Someone with whom you are fully
at ease and who knows you from head to toe. Someone with whom you can share all of
your experiences and who is actually your companion and best friend "

Love has changed through the generations. Nowadays, love is primarily about
attraction. There is no room for emotions or feelings. Most people love to satisfy their
selfish desires. Not all people, but at least eight out of every ten.

Loving someone in the past was due to care, emotion, and respect. Active dating,
coffee or any type of outing wasn't possible due to lack of time, money or
opportunity. Today, love is lacking these essential attributes. Approaching the
content which I’m supposed to write on, the way relationships work today. I would
start with the difference between love and relationship.

Love is unconditional, living in a relationship is not!

Few love songs, in my perspective, terribly collapse love and relationships. We are
all impressed by songs, young and old, and we mistake an attitude or a sensation of
love with a relationship.

You love someone in a love song for how wonderful they make you feel, what they
do for you, and how they satisfy your desire for beauty.

In fact, as far as I can tell, you either love someone as they are or you are not in love
with them.

"I'M IN LOVE" is a powerful sentence. It refers to the early stages of a relationship

when you can love and appreciate all about your partner. When we're in love, we
find imperfections endearing rather than irritating. Our hearts expand wide to the
feeling and state of love for the other person when we are freshly impressed with a
wonderful someone.
However, when we begin a relationship, the distinction I'm referring to becomes
apparent. Because love is neither a sensation nor an absolute. Relationships are
made up of a structure, a set of commitments, routines, and common interests that
must meet each partner’s most basic needs. When your basic needs aren't satisfied
in a relationship, it becomes a burden rather than a source of support, and it needs
to be changed or ended.

I'm curious as to what percentage of individuals believe that relationships end when
love fades.

Certainly, a lot!

My view is that many people believe it is simpler to end a relationship when they
believe love is really not present or it's not sufficient. It might not be true, but it
appears to be more convenient to believe it is.

Even if it appears to be torturous!

Dating is still frowned upon in Indian society, yet it provides benefits for both persons
and should be acknowledged. The film Kabir Singh depicted a distinct side of dating
in college while also emphasizing its stigma. Dating allows you to assess the other
person in preparation for a future marriage or intimate connection.

Dating was formerly believed to be a magical experience. In earlier times, having a

relationship and being in love with someone was a good experience and a blissful
feeling. There was, however, a lot of stigma and restrictions on individuals dating,
but whoever dates becomes the happiest person. However, this is no longer the
case.

People in India regard dating and love as meaningless, and caste, status, and
religion are all important to them. Few people do not date in India because of all of
these factors. Fear of their parents, relatives, society, and culture is to blame. As a
result of most of these circumstances in India, many people, including the Bollywood
industry, have created films and web series to glorify love, dating, and relationships.

Listed down are the two movies which show us what love and relationships meant in
earlier generations and the current generation.
HUM SAATH SAATH HAIN: This is an evergreen film. This film is still popular
because it depicts three love tales set against the backdrop of family drama and
complexities. It also emphasizes the purity of love between the two people, as it did
in former times. This film demonstrates how people in the past knew how to make
love not just physically but emotionally, spiritually, and socially with the other person.

STUDENT OF THE YEAR: This film depicts how people are now solely concerned
with themselves and their needs (to appear popular) in school. The true essence of
love and dating has vanished, and people, including schoolchildren, are more
concerned with sexual preferences, appearances, and hook-ups. It demonstrates
how a person's beauty may make them beautiful and famous, but it also
demonstrates how the meaning of dating, relationships, and love has vanished.

Individuals' dating and relationship situations change far too frequently. However,
one point that stands out the most is that dating in India is a complete waste of time.
In India, dating and love are frowned upon. Even in the twenty-first century,
people's thought processes have not altered, and they still regard love or
dating as unfavourable.

We observed how people used to date, have relationships, and what it meant to be
in love. However, in today's world, this is not the entire picture. People have evolved,
as have their cognitive processes and the essence of love. Arranged marriages are
still prevalent in society, but love marriages have also emerged as a widespread
occurrence, altering dating and relationship dynamics. Nowadays, dating means
experimenting and interacting with other people. That's okay! However, the trouble
arises when these flings make things difficult for others, cause harm to others, and
destroy the true meaning of love and love-making, which has been reduced to
sexual preferences and hook-ups.

"If you're bored, go try online dating, find someone, and have fun and hook-ups”. is a
common phrase we've heard recently. People have lost sight of the true meaning
and enchantment of love and are merely interested in obtaining a boyfriend/girlfriend
tag. People are now using online dating applications such as tinder, bumble, and
others, yet these programmes are destroying the value of love, compassion, and
value. Relationships and being with somebody are no longer considered happiness,
but rather a trend. Many people still believe in old-fashioned love, but modern trends
like internet dating and hook-ups have rendered love and dating a waste of time.

This is what today's youth is experiencing but I feel that a relationship is truly
worthwhile when you have a supportive, loving companion who helps you grow as a
person. You and your partner grow together in a relationship. Encourages one
another. Help each other in achieving your short-term and long-term goals.
Relationships bring out the best in you. If one person is faulty, the other
compensates for it with strength. There will be conflicts, insecurities, and other
issues in any relationship. You must, however, continue to hold each other's hands.
You must always be there for each other and never give up. I would end with a
quote “Find one reason to stay in the relationship even though there are thousands of
reasons to go”.

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