LEARNING ACTIVITY SHEET

QUARTER 2 / SEMESTER 1/Week1

Name:_____________________________________________Score:_______

Grade & Section _________________________Subject: Personal Development

Name of Teacher: ________________________________Date: _____________

I. Title: PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS

II. Type of Activity: Concept notes with formative activities

LAS for summative assessment ( Written Work Performance

Task)

III. MELC:
1. Discuss an understanding of teenage relationships, including the acceptable
and unacceptable expressions of attractions. (EsP-PD11/12PR-Ia-9.1).
2. Express his/her ways of showing attraction, love, and commitment. (EsP-
PD11/12PR-Ia-9.2).

IV. Learning Objective/s:

1. To describe relationships and development of attachment.
2. To differentiate personal and informal relationships.
3. To identify the Three components of love.
4. To enumerate ways on responsibilities in relationships.

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 V. Reference/s:

For Print Material/s:

Personal Development, DepEd First Edition 2016, pg 77

Module in Personal Development 2nd Ed.2017, Doriden de Classica A. Fabre,
pg 77
Personal Development, Ricardo Rubio Santos, pg 133

For Online Resources:

https://www.google.com/search?q=relationship&tbm=isch&tbs=sur%3Afm&hl=fil&ve
d=0CAMQpwVqFwoTCMiytPr71eoCFQAAAAAdAAAAABAC&biw=1349&bih=
667/July 18, 2020.

https://www.google.com/search?q=family&tbm=isch&ved=2ahUKEwj8uvD7-
9XqAhUEfpQKHSnADUoQ2-
cCegQIABAA&oq=family&gs_lcp=CgNpbWcQAzIHCAAQsQMQQzIECAAQQ
zIFCAAQsQMyAggAMgIIADICCAAyBAgAEEMyAggAMgIIADICCABQm-
YYWMX7GGCbgRloAHAAeASAAZIBiAHTCZIBBDAuMTCYAQCgAQGqAQtn
d3Mtd2l6LWltZ7ABAMABAQ&sclient=img&ei=JHsSX_yYCIT80QSpgLfQBA&
bih=667&biw=1349&tbs=sur%3Afm&hl=fil/July 18, 2020

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/communication-success/201507/what-is-
your-relationship-attachment-style/July 18, 2020

https://www.google.com/search?q=three+attachment+styles&hl=fil&source=lnms&tb
m=isch&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwil-
IexhtbqAhVbIqYKHQopBpsQ_AUoAXoECAwQAw&biw=1366&bih=667/July
18, 2020

https://www.bing.com/images/search?q=boy%20and%20girl&qs=n&form=QBIR&qft=
%20filterui%3Alicense-L2_L3&sp=-1&pq=boy%20and%20gir&sc=8-
11&cvid=53421DACA1B3470EB1203610092E857F&first=1&tsc=ImageBasic
Hover/Sept.1, 2021

https://www.google.com/search?q=anxious++hugcartoon&tbm=isch&ved=2ahUKEwi
On_vM5tzyAhV90IsBHf5xCG4Q2-

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 cCegQIABAA&oq=anxious++hugcartoon&gs_lcp=CgNpbWcQAzoECAAQE1
CGrAFY87EBYKG0AWgAcAB4AIABmgGIAc4EkgEDMC40mAEAoAEBqgEL
Z3dzLXdpei1pbWfAAQE&sclient=img&ei=Nu8uYY6sNP2gr7wP_uOh8AY&bih
=667&biw=1349&hl=fil/Sept.1, 2021

VI. Concept Notes with formative activities

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PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP

Belonging to a group generates many benefits like having a

support system when you need some shoulder to cry on or draw some
strength from. A relationship that nurtures help one to survive. There are
many types of relationships depending on the nature of interaction that exist
between two or more entities. Examples are transactional relationships in
business, professional relationship, friendly relationship, romantic
relationship and more. Every relationship has specific objectives or purpose
that a person wishes to pursue because of a need, want and desire.
Privacy and intimacy are two characteristics that define
personal relationship. It involves a degree of commitment between people.
Informal or impersonal relationship may have a commitment not to a person
or group of persons, but to an entity such as organization, a principle, or a
cause.

ATTACHMENT STYLES

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Secure Attachment Style

Those with a strong Secure Attachment Style

manifest at least a number of the following traits on
a regular basis:

• Higher emotional intelligence. Capable of

conveying emotions appropriately and
constructively.
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• Capable of sending and receiving healthy

expressions of intimacy.

• Capable of drawing healthy, appropriate and reasonable boundaries when

required.

• Feel secure being alone as well as with a companion.

• Tend to have a positive view of relationships and personal interactions.

• More likely to handle interpersonal difficulties in stride. Discuss issues to solve

problems, rather than to attack a person.

• Resiliency in the face relational dissolution. Capable of grieving, learning, and

moving on.

People with the Secure Attachment Style are not perfect. They too have ups and
downs like everyone else and can become upset if provoked. Having said this, their
overall mature approach to relationships makes this the healthiest of the four adult
attachment styles.

Anxious-Preoccupied Attachment Style

Those with a strong Anxious-Preoccupied

Attachment Style tend to manifest at least several
of the following traits on a regular basis:

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 • Inclined to feel more nervous and less secure about relationships in general,
and romantic relationships in particular.

• Inclined to have many stressors in relationships based on both real and

imagined happenings. These stressors can manifest themselves through a
variety of possible issues such as neediness, possessiveness, jealousy,
control, mood swings, oversensitivity, obsessiveness, etc.

• Reluctant to give people the benefit of the doubt, tendency for

automatic negative thinking when interpreting others’ intentions, words, and
actions.

• Requires constant stroking of love and validation to feel secure and accepted.
Responds negatively when not provided with regular positive reinforcement.

• Drama oriented. Constantly working on (sometimes inventing) relationship

issues in order to seek validation, reassurance, and acceptance. Some feel
more comfortable with stormy relationships than calm and peaceful ones.

• Dislike being without company. Struggle being by oneself.

• History of emotionally turbulent relationships.

Dismissive-Avoidant Attachment Style

Those with a strong Dismissive-Avoidant

Attachment Style tend to manifest at least several of
the following traits on a regular basis:

• Highly self-directed and self-sufficient.

Independent behaviorally and emotionally.

• Avoid true intimacy which makes one www.dreamstime.com

vulnerable and may subject the Dismissive-

Avoidant to emotional obligations.

• Desire freedom physically and emotionally (“No one puts a collar on me.”
Pushes away those who get too close (“I need room to breathe.”)

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 • Other priorities in life often supersede a romantic relationship, such as
work, social life, personal projects and passions, travel, fun, etc. In these
situations, the partner is frequently excluded, or holds only a marginal
presence.

• Many have commitment issues. Some prefer to be single than to settle down.
Even in committed relationships, they prize autonomy above much else.

• May have many acquaintances, but few truly close relationships.

Fearful-Avoidant Attachment Style

Those with a strong Fearful-Avoidant Attachment Style tend to manifest at least

several of the following traits on a regular basis:

• Often associated with highly challenging life experiences such as grief,

abandonment and abuse.

• Desire but simultaneously resist intimacy. Much inner conflict.

• Struggle with having confidence in and relying on others.

• Fear annihilation, physically and/or emotionally in loving, intimate situations.

• Similar to the Anxious-Preoccupied Style, suspicious of others’ intentions,

words, and actions.

• Similar to the Dismissive-Avoidant Style, pushes people away and have few
genuinely close relationships.

As mentioned earlier, most people have various degrees of the four attachment
styles, which may change over time.

Although those who are predominantly the Secure Attachment Style tend to make
strong partners, it is also possible for those who are predominantly the other three
styles to be in successful relationships. Self-awareness, mutual-support, mutual
willingness to grow, and courage to seek professional help when needed are some of
the crucial elements to positive relational development. The absence of these
elements, however, may generate issues of incompatibility in relationship.

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 THREE COMPONENTS OF LOVE BY ROBERT STERNBERG’S
1. Intimacy -being open and vulnerable to that person whom we deeply trust,
we feel connected with, and values us with unconditional positive regard.
2. Commitment- act of deciding to consistently fulfill and live by agreements
made with another person, entity, or cause, and where the values of
integrity and respect serve as guide to one’s behavior and thinking.
3. Passion- intense state of being that drives and consumes a person to
pursue an interest, a vision, or a person.

Attraction serves as the first step toward liking someone, and among all the
basis of attraction that were discussed, reciprocity (mutual liking) is what triggers
a couple to move toward romance and intimacy, and eventually, to commitment.

TEN RULES FOR FINDING LOVE AND CREATING LONG-LASTING,

AUTHENTIC RELATIONSHIPS

1. You must love yourself first

2. Partnering is a choice
3. Creating love is a process
4. Relationships provide opportunities to grow

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 5. Communication is essential
6. Negotiation will be required
7. Your relationship will be challenged by change
8. You must nurture the relationship for it to thrive
9. Renewal is the key to longevity
10. You will forget all this moment when you fall in love

Task 1: You can do this State whether the following statements are a fact or a bluff.
Put your answers in a separate sheet of paper.

___________1. One must be responsible for what we think and say to the other
person.

___________2. One is not responsible to fulfill a promise when in a relationship.

___________3. Relationship is not mutually beneficial.

___________4. Mutual Respect is important in a relationship.

___________5. Relationships also thrives on the support given by one party to

another.

Task 2: A definition is given in each item, find the answer (word) in the box and write
it in your activity notebook.

1. State of connectedness between people.

2. Strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personalities.
3. One main ingredient in a good relationship.
4. The act of binding yourself (intellectually or emotionally) to a course of action.
5. The responsibility that binds a couple to mutual and legal relationship of love,
trust, and commitment.

E F E O H O L D K C
F A L L E N G O R O
G M A R R I A G E M
B I O E E S T P S M
N L O V E V T E P I
I R E L G V R E E T
K K C M S N A E C M

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 L S D N S I C B T E
O E F K O M T L I N
E R E L A T I O N T

Task 3: Put a HEART before each statement that you think is a sign of a
healthy relationship and put an X mark on each statement that you think is a sign of
an unhealthy relationship.
_________1. You must love a person even if they disagree with you.
_________2. Respect between people is important to strengthen relationships.
_________3. You should keep secrets to your partner.
_________4. Space at times is important to avoid toxic relationships.
_________5. You must isolate yourself from friends and family.
Task 4 You can do more Complete the statement by filling out the blanks with your
personal answer.

1. Relationship for me is________________________________________.

2. Love for me is______________________________________________.
3. Commitment for me is________________________________________.
4. I am attracted to_____________________________________________
because___________________________________________________.
5. At the moment, the best relationship I have is with
my____________________________________because_________________
_____________________________________________________.

Task 5 Below is an illustration about the chemical basis of love. Briefly explain the
idea of the illustration.

Explanation:_______________________
_________________________________
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 www.common.wikemedia.org

Task 6 Analyze the illustrations below about the different attachment styles and
explain each.

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Explain the Illustration above.

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Task 7 Challenge yourself Think of a good title for an

essay relevant to the triangular theory of love.

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Task 8 Read the letter from mom and internalize her message.

Dear Son,

The First time I saw your face at the operating room. I felt loved and the desire
to fight the difficulties in life. Your eyes are so bright, your tiny nose so tender to touch,
your cute little lips, so adorable and so sweet. I love every inch of your skin. The smell
of your toes, your brown hair that covers your sensitive head. I just love everything
about you.

I carried you for 9 months, yes, its so hard but its all worth it. I cuddle you
morning till night. I breast feed you. I can’t sleep when you cry. My heart is so
overwhelmed. You are my great love.

Now you are older, by 10 years or more, you are still my baby angel, and
nothing will change at all. I hope someday when you will have a family of your own.
Choose someone who respects you and loves you unconditionally. You will remember
how much mommy loves you and be prepared for life ahead. You are no longer
vulnerable for I raised you to be tough and with love. My prayers are with you. All I ask
God is to cover you with his protection and love.

Love,

Mommy
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Task 9 After reading the letter of mom, pretend you are his/ her son or daughter and
make a letter to respond her feelings for you.

Letter for Mom

Task 10: Level Up Answer the questions. Refer to the letter from mom and your
response letter. Put your answers in a separate sheet of paper

1. What are the three words to describe your relationship with your family?
Parents? Siblings?
2. What three words describe your relationship with your friends? Peers?
Boyfriend? Girlfriend?
3. Which relationships are important to you and why?
4. What are the qualities you are looking for a partner?
5. How does one prepare for a relationship?

Task 11: Briefly answer the following questions.

1. What kind of relationship does the letter

described?_____________________________________________________
______________________________________________________________
2. Who are involved in the relationship? Described each character.
______________________________________________________________
______________________________________________________________
______________________________________________________________
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 3. How do you describe the love of a
mother?_______________________________________________________
______________________________________________________________
______________________________________________________________
4. How can a mothers love impact the life of her
son?__________________________________________________________
______________________________________________________________
______________________________________________________________
5. What is your message to the most important person in your life?
______________________________________________________________
______________________________________________________________
______________________________________________________________

Task 12: After enumerating the 10 basic rights in a relationship, choose one and think
of a poster slogan that shows one basic rights in a relationship. Use long bond paper.
Here is a sample--→

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VII. Notes to Teachers:

• Instruction/Reminder: all answers will be put on a separate sheet of paper.

• “Rubrics” Refer to the following Scoring System/Criteria applicable to all the

exercises given. This will serve as your guide in the pointing system (score of
the students).

• Teachers may use this rubric for all tasks with description, elaboration,
process/explanation, and interpretation.
HEART OF ASSESSMENT (for all task with description, elaboration,
process/explanation, and interpretation)
Categories 5 points 3 points

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Describe Provides a complete Provides a partial
and accurate description of key
description of the key elements of what is
subject matter asked.
elements of what is
asked.
Analyze Accurately relates Somewhat proficient in
answer to the main answering the main
ideas of the topic. idea of the topic.
Interpret/Evaluate Suggests logical facts Suggest literal
and ideas with multiple meaning of ideas
substantial points. confined with limited
point of view
interpreted as opinion.
Process/Explanation With original idea and Adequate control of
insightful, logical ideas in fewer details.
sequence of
appropriate details.
Slogan Demonstrates full Good quality with
quality and variety of variation of materials
recyclable materials. used, but with limited
(10 points) indigenous and
recyclable materials. (6
points)
Letter The message is clear, The message is
original, insightful and unclear, somewhat
with great expression literal and does not
of feelings and ideas. express a good feeling
(10 points) with substantial
points/ideas. (6 points)

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