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Week 2 CCC Template: Part 2 – Describing

Communication Patterns

Name

Instructor

Communication

Jan 08, 2022

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Part 1: Identifying Patterns

Strategic Step 1- self talk & internal monologue

I'll take my time assessing the issue and determining whether or not my buddy actually needs my

support or is just taking advantage of me. Instead of giving in and being powerless to say no, I'll

speak to myself and look back on previous experiences to help me make a more informed choice

in the long run. As Mclean Scott explains, "From planning to problem-solving, internal conflict

resolution, and assessments and judgments of ourselves and others, we interact with ourselves

via intrapersonal communication, affected by encounters with cultures and communities since we

formed our first idea." (McLean, S. 2018).

Strategic Step 2-self reflect

There are times when I find it difficult to say "no," especially in the context of an interpersonal

relationship. Because of my upbringing and the culture in which I was raised, I've always been

self-conscious about my appearance. As soon as Mclean Scott said, "We may categories

ourselves in numerous ways, and our cultural background may play a crucial influence in who

we choose to engage with," I understood what he meant. As I look back, I realize how much my

upbringing and the culture of never saying no to anybody who asks for aid has influenced my

current outlook.

Strategic Step 3- social comparison

I want to use logical thinking to conquer and empower myself in the process. There has been

researching showing that people compare themselves to those of similar social rank or with
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whom they have comparable features, as stated by Leon Festinger. My goal is to have a small,

like-minded social network so that I may avoid excessive social comparisons.

Declaration 1: Self-talk and internal monologues will help me attain my aim of being able to say

no.

It's a common occurrence when my buddy Stacy comes to me, claiming that she needs money to

pay her expenses. In the meantime, I'll tell her that I have to take care of my errands before I can

say yes. After that, I'll give myself some space and time to think and reflect on what's happened.

This objective might be hindered by overthinking and giving in to the temptation to say "yes."

Declaration 2: Self-reflection will be an important tool in helping me overcome my inability to

say no.

Regular practice of affirmations and self-awareness will help me achieve my goals. Accepting

the fact that times have changed and that you cannot assist everyone is an important life skill. For

this, I will need to be able to take into account all aspects of the scenario at hand. The societal

pressure to constantly provide a helping hand, even if it means hurting my own back, will be a

hindrance to my endeavor. It's time for me to get used to saying "no" and putting myself first

without feeling guilty.

Declaration 3: I'm going to use social comparisons to get a better idea of what a good result

looks like in order to be able to say no.

Social comparison on social media is going to be a problem for me. The ability to recognize and

accept that some people have more or fewer resources than others allows you to be able to say no
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more often. Analyzing how I am the only one who always agrees with everyone else's requests

As a result, I'm able to say "no" without feeling guilty.

Part 2: Plan and Practice

2A. Surroundings

The meeting will take place at lunch at Top Sushi, a popular sushi restaurant in the area.

Lunchtime traffic will be in full swing. The private environment of a restaurant will assist since

the conversation will not be disrupted by any social discomfort. Saying no and avoiding the guilt

trap are much simpler when you're out in the open.

2B. People

Stacy: Hello, Harpreet! How are you doing these days?

Me: Hello, Stacy. How have you been? What's going on? How was the party that you attended?

It seemed to be of the highest quality.

Stacy: Oh my goodness, the party was out of this world. I'll give you the rest of the tale another

time. As for everything else, it's been difficult. A favor needed to be asked of you.

Me: Oh, my God. What's wrong, Stacy?

Stacy: I'd want to know whether you can assist me out since my hours have been reduced.

Me: Honey, please accept my heartfelt condolences for your misfortune. I wish I could be of

assistance, but I am unable to do so due to the volume of work I am now juggling. This financial
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advisor, on the other hand, is an excellent choice. For free, he conducts workshops on how to

budget and manage your money.

2C. Reflection

There are numerous ways to say "no" and not feel bad, and this rehearsal has allowed me to think

about them in detail. As I now see, saying no does not imply causing conflict. With Stacy, I

learned the importance of setting boundaries, and now I know that I need to do the same with

everyone. There's no reason why I should be forced to give up control of my time, aims, or

resources to anybody or anything.

References

1. McLean, S. (2018). Exploring interpersonal communication version 2.0., Our

Internal Monologue.

2. McLean, S. (2018). Exploring interpersonal communication version 2.0., Self

Concept and Social Comparisons

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3. Festinger, L. (1954). A theory of social comparison processes. Human

Relationships, 7, 117–140.↑