Domestic Violence means aggressive/ abusive behaviors,

used by a batterer to gain or maintain power and control

over another person. It’s the situation in which someone attacks
and tries to hurt.

The batterer vs The victim

the batterer- a person who uses abusive behaviors to
establish and maintain power and control over another
person. Batter- a bate zdravăn
the victim: a person who is abused, harmed or killed by
another person.
Domestic violence is not physical violence alone. Domestic
violence is any behavior the purpose of which is to gain power and
control over a spouse, partner, girl/boyfriend or other family
members. Abuse is a learned behavior; it is not caused only by
anger, mental problems, drugs or alcohol, or other common
excuses.

Types of Abuse:
Control
Controlling behavior is a way for the batterer to maintain dominance
over the victim.

Not allowing their freedom of choice. Calling or coming home

unexpectedly to check up on the victim. Invading the victim’s privacy
by not allowing time and space of their own.

Physical Abuse
Hitting, kicking, biting, slapping, shaking, pushing, pulling,
punching ( a lovi cu pumnul), choking, beating, scratching,
pinching (a ciupi, pisca), pulling hair, stabbing (a injunghia),
shooting, drowning, burning, hitting with an object,
threatening with a weapon. The batterer hitting or kicking
walls, doors, or other objects during an argument, throwing
things in anger, destruction of property
Sexual Abuse
Emotional Abuse
Insulting or criticizing to undermine ( a discredita, submina)
the victim’s self-confidence. Consistently disregarding,
ignoring, or neglecting the victim’s requests and needs.
 Verbal Abuse
Verbal abuse is any abusive language used to denigrate, embarrass
or threaten the victim. Name calling. Telling the victim that he/she
is unattractive or undesirable. Yelling, screaming, terrorizing or
refusing to talk.
Economic Abuse
Controlling the family income and either not allowing the
victim access to money or limiting their access to family
funds. This may also include keeping financial secrets or
hidden accounts. Spending money for necessities (food, rent,
utilities) on nonessential items (drugs, alcohol, hobbies.)

The Roots of
Violence

Some people with very traditional beliefs may think they have the
right to control their partner, and that women aren’t equal to
men. Others may have an undiagnosed personality disorder or
psychological disorder. Still others may have learned this behavior
from growing up in a household where domestic violence was
accepted as a normal part of being raised in their family.
- Alcohol and drugs may contribute to violent behavior.
- Low self-esteem - Desire for power or control
- Accusations of being unfaithful
 Effects of Domestic Violence
nightmares, severe anxiety, and uncontrollable
thoughts
Depression and prolonged sadness
 Involuntary shaking
Changes in eating and sleeping patterns
Low self-esteem and questioning sense of self
Suicidal thoughts or attempts
Hopelessness
Feeling unworthy
Apprehensive (neincrezut / temator) and
discouraged about the future
Inability to trust
Unmotivated

In conclusion:
No cause of domestic violence, however, justifies the actions of
the abuser, nor should it be used as a rationale for their behavior.

It is our mission to raise awareness about domestic

violence. Raising domestic violence awareness can
help victims find professional counseling and
prevent more people from getting hurt.
 October was first declared as National
Domestic Violence Awareness Month in 1989.
Since then, October has been a time to
acknowledge domestic violence survivors and
be a voice for its victims.