Lesson 8: Emotional Intelligence

Learning Objectives:
At the end of this lesson, the students are expected to:
 Understand emotional intelligence.
 Identify the educational implications on the use of emotional intelligence inside the
classroom.
 Practice the use of emotional intelligence in their daily lives.
Introductory Questions:
1. What do you think is the essence of emotional intelligence?
2. When can you say that a person is emotionally intelligent? Why do you say so?
3. How did you respond if you felt demotivated? What did you do to overcome this?

Introduction of the topic:

When it comes to success, the emotional intelligence of a student matters as much as their
cognitive ability. They may be different from each other but it can be just as important.
Intelligence, in general sense, is the ability of a person to identify new ideas and apply these to
different situations. In this chapter, the reader will be able to encounter the theory of emotional
intelligence by Daniel Goleman. Moreover, they will be able to find out the components of
emotional intelligence that can be utilized and help them in achieving their goals.
Short Story and Questions
Daniel is a typical bad boy college student with physical features that make girls'
jaws drop. He wears clothes that make him look even more handsome and is also friendly. However,
along with these good traits, Daniel is a student that is not so good when it comes to academics. He
always does his tasks at its due date and he's always the last one to get picked during groupings since
they see him as an excess baggage. One day, In the middle of a busy classroom, there is Daniel who's
asleep. He looked tired and out of mood that time even though he was always the energetic one and
the person that starts the noise in their room so that Maureen approached him. Maureen is an
extroverted classmate of his who sympathizes very well with others' feelings. She is also talented,
pretty, and friendly as to which everyone admires. They had a deep conversation, Maureen shared
her experience as what Daniel’s experiencing right away. She narrated to Daniel about the story of
her being once a hyper girl in her class during her high school days. That then came a problem to her
where she felt tired, and unmotivated in herself. After telling her story, Maureen then shared how she
overcame it. She said “If you are feeling down and unmotivated, just think of people that love and
care about you. They can be your light at the end of the dark tunnel you are travelling”. Eventually,
Daniel realized how precious life is when you surround yourself with the kind of person like what
Maureen does.
1. What do Maureen notice about Daniels’ behavior?
2. If you were in the situation, how would you approach Daniel?
3. Did the story help your perspective on approaching other people? In what way?
Lesson
Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman
How did Emotional Intelligence start? A Brief History
In 1870, Charles Darwin first commented on the term Emotional Intelligence. This was
first named Social Intelligence that was identified by EL Thorndike in 1930. Later on, Wecher
suggests that affective components of intelligence may be essential to success in life, this is why
Psychologist Abraham Maslow describes how people can build Emotional Intelligence in 1950.
After a couple of years, Howard Gardner’s book: The Shattered Mind, introduces the concept of
Multiple Intelligences. Psychologists Peter Salovey and John Mayer published their landmark
article in 1980. By then, Emotional Intelligence was popularized by Daniel Goleman with his
best-selling book.
Who is Daniel Goleman?
Daniel Goleman is a Psychologist and Science
Journalist who was born in Stockton, California on March 7,
1946. He was an author of more than 10 books with the topic
on Psychology, Education, Science, Ecological Crisis, and
Leadership. Among these books, his best-selling book is
Emotional Intelligence. Foremost, the founder of Emotional
Intelligence Theory.

What is Emotional Intelligence?

Emotional Intelligence (Emotional Quotient or EQ) refers to the ability of a person to
understand, use, and manage their own emotions in positive ways to relieve stress, communicate
effectively, empathize with others, overcome challenges and defuse conflict. Wherefore, this
intelligence helps a person to connect with their feelings then turn these into action and make
you succeed in life.
Daniel Goleman, described emotional intelligence as a person’s ability to manage his feelings in
order for them to express it appropriately and effectively. Emotional Intelligence is the largest
single predictor of success in the workplace, he added.
The Components of Emotional Intelligence
The Emotional Intelligence is commonly defined by five categories:
1. SELF- AWARENESS
It is defined as the ability of a person to recognize his own emotions and how it affects your
thoughts and behavior. A person with emotional self-awareness is usually receptive to and was
able to learn from, more than a person who does not have this. Wherein you know your strengths
and weaknesses, and how you would overcome them.
2. SELF- MANAGEMENT
A person with emotional intelligence has the ability to control their impulsive feelings and
behaviors, and manage your emotions in healthy ways. In which your emotional reaction is
proportional to the given challenges.
3. SOCIAL SKILL
People who possess emotional intelligence are able to build trust with other people. They can
understands the emotions, needs, and concerns of other people where they can gain the respect
from the person they meet. Having these will ultimately help you to communicate and interact
with each other.
4. EMPATHY
Being an empathetic person is where you are able to connect your thoughts from someone else’s
shoes. You understand where this person is coming from. Even if the exact situation has not
happened to you, you can draw on your life experience to imagine how it may feel and be
compassionate about what they are going through.
5. MOTIVATION
A person with high emotional intelligence is self-motivated. He is inspired by doing what he
truly wants and accomplishing their goals rather than being influenced by outer factors. It drives
you to reach your goals and targets indirectly.
Advantages and Disadvantages of Emotional Intelligence
A person who is emotionally intelligent can be ultimately more productive and successful
in life. In which, they strengthen their communication and interaction among other people who
are also sharing their common visions towards one goal. Besides, the students who have strong
emotional intelligence can be more likely to make stronger bonds with their peers and
communicate well within this. Hence, they were able to avoid getting too much stress from
school responsibilities.
On the other hand, a person who is fully aware of their feelings might be good at
controlling their emotions and hiding their own feelings which is not good over other people. As
well as they can use this in a negative manner such as for manipulating other people. In which
these can affect the learning process of a student in the classroom.
Final Note
The lesson concludes that Emotional Intelligence is the ability of a person to understand
and manage their own emotions and those of other around them. Some people have emotional
intelligence naturally while others have to work a little harder to achieve it. For them to be able
to achieve success in life, this theory suggests that a person should have these five attributes:
Self-awareness, Self-management, Social Skill, Empathy, and Motivation. Emotional
Intelligence is definitely a necessity in today’s competitive working environment as long as we
are working with humans in every role. EI is a factor in personal and professional success, unlike
IQ which does not change significantly over a lifetime, it allows for “Continuous Improvement”
helping you to achieve your objectives and improve the quality of your life. So, make an active
step towards your self-development today.
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