DHARMARAM VIDYA KSHETRAM, BANGALORE

Skills and Applications in Counselling

Counselling Dialogue Between Counsellor and Counselee

Submitted by: Submitted On:

Bro. A. George 08-10-2021

Submitted To:
Rev. Fr. Wilson
Counsellor : Hello XXX, welcome, take your seat.
Counselee : Thank you.
Counsellor : Where are you from?
Counselee : I come from Thanjavur.
Counsellor : Ok, Thanjavur….. Thanjavur is a very wonderful place I
think it is an agriculture and harvest city isn’t.
Counselee : Yes…yes you are correct.
Counsellor : Hmm…You came by…
Counselee : By bus.
Counsellor : By bus Hmm…..ok your travel is comfort.
Counselee : Yes it was good, yes is was comfort.
Counsellor : ok, ok Hmmm… ok, just say about yourself.
Counselee : Yes sir, My name is XXX, as I told I am from Thanjavur
Counsellor : Hmm…
Counselee : I have my parents, my Father, my Mother
Counsellor : Hmm
Counselee : I have two brothers
Counsellor : Hmm..
Counselee : My parents are Farmers
Counsellor : ok…
Counselee : My elder brother already got married
Counsellor : ok…ok…
Counselee : and have son also
Counsellor : Hmm
Counselee : the other one unmarried
Counsellor : ok
Counselee : I am a third one. I am a seminarian
Counsellor : ok… ok… seminarian? (Studying in seminary)
Counselee : Yes…. Yes….
Counsellor : Ok… ok…Hmm…. Before starting this session just I will
give you confidential that I never going to share these things
with others whatever you will share hear it will keep in
secret.
Counselee : Ok sir…. Thank you.
Counsellor : How can I help you?
Counselee : Sir, actually I have a family problem.
Counsellor : ok…
Counselee : so actually my two elder brothers know…
Counsellor : yaha.
Counselee : they did not co-operate they did not well co-operate with my
parents as I told you they are Farmers.
Counsellor : Hmmm….
Counselee : so whenever my father ask any help they did not ready to
help him out.
Counsellor : Hmmm… ok
Counselee : they both are in different way sir…
Counsellor : Hmmm….
Counselee : so they not helpful to my father.
Counsellor : ok….ok….Hmmm…
Counselee : Whenever I make call to my father whenever my father call
me he use to share with me about our family problems.
Counsellor : Hmm…
Counselee : so these are thing are depressing my mind. It’s making more
anxiety.
Counsellor : ok…..
Counselee : I am not able to concentrate on my studies because of my
brothers problem known from my family level
Counsellor : Hmm….ok…..ok….. some more you can say about your
family? Anymore details about your family?
Counselee : Yes….. yes…… actually my second elder brother we
searching a life partner
Counsellor : ok…..
Counselee : more than two to three years we have been searching we are
not able to find out
Counsellor : Hmmm…Hmm….
Counselee : that is the other problem another problem is my first elder
brother one who already got married
Counsellor : Hmm..
Counselee : not able to work in the family level
Counsellor : Hmm..ok…
Counselee : for your kind information we are joint family not a necular
family we are joint family.
Counsellor : Hmmm….
Counselee : my sister in law also not that much co-operate and not that
much help in the house hold work.
Counsellor : ok…
Counselee : my elder brother whatever tells she will do
Counsellor : Hmmm..
Counselee : she never consent with my father and mother.
Counsellor : Hmmm
Counselee : openly we can tell that she not equalize with my family
members.
Counsellor : ok….Hmmmm
Counselee : and my second elder brother is, he is in his own world
Counsellor : ok…
Counselee : because of may be depression or may be more than three
years we are searching for a girl we not able to find out
Counsellor : Hmm… Hmmm..
Counselee : may be that may be the reason also he was depressed and
worried also
Counsellor : ok…..
Counselee : he may think weather I am going to get marry or what?
Counsellor : Hmmm…
Counselee : so these are the things are making me as well as making my
father more depressed more anxiety
Counsellor : ok…ok.. Hmmm…. your elder brother is working in
somewhere?
Counselee : yes….basically he is driver
Counsellor : ok…
Counselee : at present now and then help out in my family level
Counsellor : Hmm….
Counselee : not full time
Counsellor : ok…..ok…. Hmm… what about your second elder brother
he is working in somewhere are farmer?
Counselee : he had been worked in Malaysia for a last four years
Counsellor : ok…
Counselee : now reason only he came back to India
Counsellor : ok….
Counselee : because he wants to get married know…..
Counsellor : ok…. ok…..
Counselee : for that purpose he had come to India.
Counsellor : Hmmm…ok
Counselee : more than now …..more than six are more month over
Counsellor : ok…
Counselee : still we are not able to get a life partner for my second elder
brother
Counsellor : Hmmm..
Counselee : that also we are facing a big problem
Counsellor : ok…..Hmm….
Counselee : almost every day at my home they are always fighting and
Quarreling.
Counsellor : Hmm….
Counselee : lot of misunderstandings is there
Counsellor : Hmm..
Counselee : because my father alone can’t manage know…..
Counsellor : Hmmm..
Counselee : since it is joint family it’s not so easy to manage one person
Counsellor : Hmmm..
Counselee : when they helped out no problem
Counsellor : Hmmm….
Counselee : because all they own way….
Counsellor : Hmmm….
Counselee : my father alone can’t manage the family members
Counsellor : Hmmm…
Counselee : so, whenever he call me he use to share with me my family
Matters
Counsellor : Hmm….according to your sharing, you said that you have a
joint family and you have your father, mother, and two
brother isn’t
Counselee : yes…..yes…..
Counsellor : you are a farmer family one of your elder brother is driver
and your second elder brother is working in Malaysia isn’t
Counselee : yes…yes….
Counsellor : Hmm…when your father share like this how do you feel?
Counselee : sometime I feel more depressed
Counsellor : ok….
Counselee : sometime I not interested also because the same family
Matters they repeat know keep on tell know…
Counsellor : Hmm..ok…
Counselee : so in which way I can help them..
Counsellor : Hmmm
Counselee : since I am a seminarian.
Counsellor : Hmmm..
Counselee : I am helpless
Counsellor : ok…..
Counselee : only I can hear my father voice only.
Counsellor : Hmm
Counselee : I can’t help him out
Counsellor : ok…according to your thinking how do you will come out
from this situation?
Counselee : may be some kind of advice or some kind of counselling
may be needed
Counsellor : ok…
Counselee : so that I can debate the consulate to my father also.
Counsellor : ok…ok…. your are a religious have you speak or advised
your brothers
Counselee : one or two times I used to tell
Counsellor : ok…
Counselee : when I give any advice that movement they are ok
Counsellor : Hmm…..
Counselee : maybe that will to on two or three day ok
Counsellor : Hmm…
Counselee : then again it will be as usual
Counsellor : Hmm ok …… XXX as you told that you are very depressed
and sometimes getting angry that irrational thinking you
have. May be your parents thinking you are a religious if you
say to your brothers they may obey to you. As a home work
practice put yourself in your brother’s place and think. How
I will behave in my family? 2. If you are depressed or anger
just close your eyes and give deep inner silence. Practice
these two exercises and we will meet on next week. Thank
you

Counselee : Thank you.