Unit Understand Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Module Understanding Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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INFORMATION SHEET PR-4.1-1

“Building Self-Esteem and Self Confidence”

Learning Objectives:
After reading this Information Sheet, you should be able to:
1. Identify some ways on how to build self-esteem and self confidence
2. Differentiate self-esteem and self-confidence
3. Explain the importance of self-confidence.
4. Understand inferiority complex and how to deal with it
5. Recognize aggressive, assertive, and submissive.

Everyone admires a self-confident person. We may even envy them a little. Self-confident
people seem at ease with themselves and their work. They invite trust and inspire confidence in others.
These are attractive characteristics.

Self-confidence is about understanding that you trust your own judgment and abilities, and that
you value yourself and feel worthy, regardless of any imperfections or of what others may believe about
you.

Self-esteem is a more general sense that we can cope with what's going on in our lives, and that
we have a right to be happy. Also, self-esteem comes in part from the feeling that the people around us
approve of us. We may or may not be able to control this, and if we experience a lot of criticism or
rejection from other people, our self-esteem can easily suffer unless we support it in other ways.

So what, then, is the precise difference between self-confidence and self-esteem?

"Confidence" comes from the Latin word fidere, meaning "to trust." To be self-confident is to
trust in oneself, and, in particular, in one’s ability or aptitude to engage successfully or at least
adequately with the world. A self-confident person is ready to rise to new challenges, seize
opportunities, deal with difficult situations, and take responsibility if and when things go awry.

Just as self-confidence leads to successful experience, so successful experience leads to self-

confidence. Although any successful experience contributes to our overall confidence, it is, of course,
possible to be highly confident in one area, such as cooking or dancing, but very insecure in another,
such as mathematics or public speaking.

"Esteem" is derived from the Latin word aestimare, meaning "to appraise, value, rate, weigh,
estimate," and self-esteem is our cognitive and, above all, emotional appraisal of our own worth. More
than that, it is the matrix through which we think, feel, and act, and reflects and determines our relation
to ourselves, to others, and to the world.

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People with a healthy self-esteem do not need to prop themselves up with externals such as
income, status, or notoriety, or lean on crutches such as alcohol, drugs, or sex. To the contrary, they
treat themselves with respect and take care of their health, community, and environment.

Confidence and Behavior

Take a look at the examples in the table below, which compares confident behavior with
behavior that's associated with low self-confidence. Which thoughts or actions do you recognize in
yourself and in the people around you?

Behavior Associated With Low Self-

Confident Behavior
Confidence

Doing what you believe to be right, even if others Governing your behavior based on what
mock or criticize you for it. other people think.

Being willing to take risks and to go the extra mile to Staying in your comfort zone, fearing failure,
achieve better things. and avoiding risk.

Working hard to cover up mistakes, and

hoping that you can fix the problem before
Admitting your mistakes, and learning from them. anyone notices.

Waiting for others to congratulate you on your Extolling your own virtues as often as
accomplishments. possible to as many people as possible.

Accepting compliments graciously. "Thanks, I really Dismissing compliments offhandedly. "Oh

worked hard on that prospectus. I'm pleased you that prospectus was nothing really, anyone
recognize my efforts." could have done it."

Self-confident people are generally more positive – they value themselves and trust their own
judgment. But they also acknowledge their failures and mistakes and learn from them.

Why Self-Confidence Matters

Self-confidence is vital in almost every aspect of our lives, yet many people struggle to find it.
Sadly, this can be a vicious cycle: people who lack self-confidence are less likely to achieve the success
that could give them more confidence.

For example, you might not want to back a project that's pitched by someone who's visibly
nervous, fumbling, or constantly apologizing. On the other hand, you might be persuaded by someone

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who speaks clearly, who holds their head high, answers questions with assurance, and readily admits
when they don't know something.

Confident people inspire confidence in others: their audience, their co-workers, their bosses,
their customers, and their friends. And gaining the confidence of others is one of the key ways to
succeed.

Ways to Develop Self Confidence and Keep It

1. Building Confident Habits

- To build a strong sense of self-esteem, and the confidence that develops from it, aim to
develop good habits (and to break bad ones). Look after your physical and mental health:
regular exercise can improve both. Make sure that you're getting enough sleep and eating
properly. Not doing so can lead to feeling bad in yourself, and likely about yourself.

2. Reviewing Past Achievements

- Your self-confidence can increase when you're able to say, "I can do this, and here's the
evidence." As part of your Personal SWOT Analysis, you'll have identified things that you're
good at, based on your past achievements.
- Review these achievements, and use them to make positive affirmations about what you
can do. These affirmations can be particularly powerful if you tend to undermine your own
confidence with negative self-talk.

3. Setting Confidence-Boosting Goals

- Setting and achieving goals is an important part of developing self-confidence. Goal setting
is the process you use to set yourself targets, and to measure how successfully you hit them.
- When you're self-confident, you trust your own judgment and abilities. It means having a
strong sense of self-worth and self-belief.
- Boosting your confidence means developing good habits that will improve your self-esteem,
whatever other people think of you. Feeling good about your past achievements, and
setting yourself achievable goals for the future, helps you to build and maintain that
confidence.

Types of Behavior

1. Submissive – (or passive) are often referred to as ‘People pleasers’ as they would rather please
the other person and avoid conflict rather than make their point.
- It can be defined as failing to stand up adequately for your rights. It usually means putting
up with a situation in which you feel uncomfortable rather than being honest about what
you really think or feel.

People who are submissive tend to:

a. Avoid stating their needs and feelings;
b. Communicate their needs and feelings in an apologetic way; and
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c. Give others rights that they don’t claim for themselves.

Submissive behavior sounds like this:

“I’m really sorry. I just don’t have the time to go through those reports with you now.
I’ve got to get all these accounts finished before lunch time. My boss is a real pain, asking me to
do this today. I’d really like to help you. I’ll look at it later if that’s okay?” or

“I’ll feel really bad if I ask them to stop doing that.”, “Will I feel silly…”; “They won’t like
me if I do that.”; “I’ll feel guilty about turning them down.”

2. Aggressive - is often defined as establishing one’s rights in a way that violates or ignores the
rights of others: In other words, getting your own way at other people’s expense. Aggressive
behavior often involves putting people down, making them feel guilty, intimidated, small,
incompetent, foolish or worthless.

People who are aggressive tend to:

a) Encourage others to do things by flattery or manipulation;
b) Ignore the needs and feelings of others, either intentionally or by default; and
c) Take rights for themselves that they don’t give to others.

Aggressive behavior sounds like this:

“Do you think I’ve nothing better to do than check those reports?”

3. Assertive - is usually defined as standing up for your own rights without dismissing on the rights
of others. It means being honest with yourself and others, putting forward your own views and
stating clearly and honestly what you want, think and feel. It means being self-confident and
positive but not dogmatic. Behaving assertively means being firm in expressing an opinion but
understanding the other person’s point of view and being prepared to reach a workable
compromise.

People who are assertive tend to:

a) Being clear and direct in what you say;
b) Stating your needs and feelings in a straightforward way; and
c) Standing up for your rights without violating the rights of others.

Assertive behavior sounds like this:

“I’m unable to help you with those reports this morning. I am doing accounts at the
moment, and I’ll be pleased to help you this afternoon. What time suits you?”

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What is Inferiority Complex?

It was a French psychologist, Alfred Adler who first coined the term “Inferiority Complex.” Adler
believed that all humans go through feelings of inferiority as children. In turn, they spend the rest of
their lives trying to compensate for these feelings.
The American Psychological Association (APA) defines an inferiority complex as “a basic feeling
of inadequacy and insecurity, deriving from actual or imagined physical or psychological deficiency.”
Normally, these feelings change from the dependence of childhood and evolve towards the
independence of adulthood. Despite this change, these feelings of inferiority still exist at more persisting
and varying levels. They become so paralyzed that they become extremely shy and have the feeling of
overwhelming unworthiness. Worse, they tend to prevent themselves from failure by not trying at all.

Symptoms of Inferiority Complex

1. Extreme sensitivity towards other people’s opinions.

- Is there anything more upsetting than other people talking about you? You might feel overly
sensitive about other people’s opinions of you, to the point that it affects your every action.

2. Constructive criticism is particularly hard for you.

- You can’t take any sort of constructive criticism well. But healthy criticism is good for
everyone. We all need to hear certain things that can help us become better people.
However, you just can’t stand people telling you you’re wrong.

3. You want to be flattered all the time.

- In fact, you go out of your way so you can get flattered. Being told that you’re great gives
you an unbelievable high. You rely on these words of praise so much, that when you don’t
get them, you feel unworthy.

4. Social withdrawal.
- You fear people’s opinions of you so much, that you don’t even want to socialize entirely.
You’d rather be on your own rather than risk feeling inferior to others.

5. You’re constantly comparing yourself to other people.

- This is one of the most telltale signs of inferiority complex. You just can’t help but keep
comparing yourself to others. You always think you’re not as successful, or not as physically
attractive, or not as popular.

6. You’re a perfectionist.
- To you, nothing is ever good enough. Being a perfectionist can actually be great. It means
you always do the best you can. But you take it to a whole other level. You focus and nitpick
on every little thing that it actually hinders your work, not better it. And you never feel any
sort of satisfaction with it.

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7. Social media affects you quite negatively.

- It’s normal to question your self-worth when you leave in an age where gratification is the
meaning of happiness. Social media affects you in a way that it drastically triggers feelings of
shame and inadequacy.

8. You constantly cover your flaws.

- Everyone should see you as nothing less than perfect. You go out of your way just so the
world can see you in the best light possible. And you never do anything that might make you
less appealing, even forsaking your own feelings.

How to Overcome Inferiority Complex

1. You have to deal with your past and tackle difficult emotional memories.
2. You need to be kind to yourself.
3. Try to surround yourself with people who uplift you.
4. Learn to say no and practice the art of “silence.”
5. Be more assertive.
6. You have strengths. Recognize them.
7. Talk to yourself better.
8. Embrace what makes you different.
9. Let go of any unreasonable expectations.

Reference:
• https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/hide-and-seek/201510/self-confidence-versus-
self-esteem?fbclid=IwAR3lg2FfqK_NlRGYmTK5-S0izmuWZiG0tI7b60pttE93vL7OmgNDMOW70Ac
• https://www.mindtools.com/selfconf.html?fbclid=IwAR0h1yCMBahibr0jTUHtUbvpLjxC-
SIZ70yC5jaiQKaCdbjT_by913MHRsk
• https://hackspirit.com/9-mindful-steps-to-help-you-overcome-your-inferiority-complex/
• https://www.everydayhealth.com/emotional-health/understanding-inferiority-
complex/?fbclid=IwAR14uqTICaa0R1gWI_MK7DEhRbH20zXpaJDl4iMlZbkNT7CIk_fHa5M6T78
• http://m.mystarjob.com/articles/story.aspx?file=%2F2012%2F3%2F19%2Fmystarjob_atwork%2
F20120319114544&sec=mystarjob_atwork&fbclid=IwAR02QPfwJHGpNiVRvPYHo_dW6U6CJD5S
pF-yIxdOE8ez8756gABwFoy_0Zs
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SELF-CHECK PR-4.1.1
“Building Self-Esteem and Self Confidence”

Direction: Fill in the blanks with the correct answer.

1. __________________________ comes from the Latin word fidere, meaning "to trust."

2. _________________ derived from the Latin word aestimare, meaning "to appraise, value, rate,
weigh, estimate," and self-esteem is our cognitive and, above all, emotional appraisal of our
own worth.

3. _________________________ are often referred to as ‘People pleasers’ as they would rather

please the other person and avoid conflict rather than make their point.

4. _______________________ is often defined as establishing one’s rights in a way that violates or

ignores the rights of others: In other words, getting your own way at other people’s expense.

5. ______________________ is usually defined as standing up for your own rights without

dismissing on the rights of others. It means being honest with yourself and others, putting
forward your own views and stating clearly and honestly what you want, think and feel.

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SELF-CHECK ANSWER KEY PR-4.1.1

“Building Self-Esteem and Self Confidence”

1. Confidence

2. Esteem

3. Submissive

4. Aggressive

5. Assertive

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STUDENT NAME: __________________________________ SECTION: __________________

PERFORMANCE TASK PR-4.1.1

PERFORMANCE TASK TITLE: Building Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

PERFORMANCE OBJECTIVE: After completing this written work you’ll be able to analyze a situation
and formulate your responses if you were to be aggressive, submissive or assertive.
TOOLS AND MATERIALS: None
EQUIPMENT: None
ESTIMATED COST: None
Direction: Consider a given situation and analyze it below based on various responses that you can
give.

Example:
Situation
My friend keeps borrowing my books and never returns them.
1.) Aggressive Response
I will never lend you another one!
Positive outcome:
I would not lose my books.
Negative feelings:
I feel bad that I might hurt my friend’s feelings or even lose a valuable relationship over a
simple book.

2.) Submissive/Passive Response

I will ignore it. It’s only a book.
Positive outcome:
I keep my friend happy. He has the book and won’t hear a complaint from me.
Negative feelings:
I lost my books which costs me. I also need them as reference but now I cannot use them.

3.) Assertive Response

I lend you several of my books and I am happy to lend more to you. I understand that you may
not have had enough time to read them. I use many of them as reference and I need them
back. I appreciate if you can return them soon after I give them to you.
Positive outcome:
My friend now understands that I need the books back and I will get to keep my friend.
Negative feelings:
I feel good now but I understand being assertive requires courage, planning and skill.

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Situation:
Your boyfriend/girlfriend wants you to break up with him/her, for the reason that you are always busy
and you have no time for her/him.

➢ Aggressive Response:

Positive outcome:

Negative feelings:

➢ Submissive/Passive Response:

Positive outcome:

Negative feelings:

➢ Assertive Response:

Positive outcome:

Negative feelings:

PRECAUTIONS: None
ASSESSMENT METHOD: PERFORMANCE TASK CRITERIA CHECKLIST

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STUDENT NAME: __________________________________ SECTION: __________________

PERFORMANCE TASK CRITERIA CHECK LIST PR-4.1.1

CRITERIA SCORING
Did I . . .
1 2 3 4 5
1. Understand the given topic well?
2.
Able to answer all the given questions?
3.
Applied the knowledge that I learned from the topic to the activities?
4.
Interpret and comply with instructions?
5.
Analyze a situation and formulate your responses if you were to be
aggressive, submissive or assertive?
TEACHER’S REMARKS: ❑ QUIZ ❑ RECITATION ❑ PROJECT

GRADE:

5 - Excellently Performed
4 - Very Satisfactorily Performed
3 - Satisfactorily Performed
2 - Fairly Performed
1 - Poorly Performed

___________________________
THC8-TEACHER

Date: ______________________

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