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A Cooperative Game For A Couple of People
A Cooperative Game For A Couple of People
❏ 1 Together
❏ 1 Apart
❏ 1 Agree
❏ 1 Disagree
❏ 2 YES
❏ 2 NO
❏ 6 Action
❏ 6 Challenge
❏ 30 Question
Me Yellow
We Orange
Them Blue
Health Green
Wealth Turquoise
Relations Mauve
Setup
1. You may start by sitting opposite each other.
3. Establish eye contact with your partner and keep it for at
least 10 seconds.
6. Place the Agree and Disagree cards on one side of the space
between you, face up.
7. Place the Together and Apart cards on the other side of the
space between you, face up.
8. Shuffle all the other cards and then split them between
Together and Apart, face down.
Each round you take turns playing one card at a time from your hand.
The types of cards you can play are Question, Action and Challenge.
1. Place it in the middle of the space between you and read it out
loud.
2. You can discuss with your partner the meaning of the question,
but try not to agree on or hint at your answer.
5. At this point you may want to discuss your answers. Take your
time. Remember to listen :)
You play the Challenge cards on yourself (by placing them in front
of you, instead of the middle of the table). These count as one
theme on both Agree and Disagree at the same time.
You can continue adding cards to Agree and Disagree as long as there
are less than 3 cards with the same theme (colour/symbol) in each
line.
If you happen to have 3 cards with the same theme on either Agree or
Disagree (including active Challenge cards) then that line is lost.
Shuffle all the cards from that line back into the Together stack
and skip to phase 3.
When both of you are done with your hands, because you either can’t
or don’t want to play any more cards, then you can discard the cards
from either Agree or Disagree. Decide which line is more convenient
for you to get rid of (usually it’s the one with more cards lined
up). Set the discarded cards away, they won’t be back in the game.
Good team work.
Count the number of cards left in your hands. Transfer that number
of cards from Apart to Together. For example, if you have 2 cards
left and your partner has 3, transfer 5 cards from Apart to
Together.
If there are still cards left in the Apart stack, the game can
continue. Decide how many cards each player will draw from Together
for the next round (minimum 1 per player, usually no more than 5).
Then draw those cards from Together and begin a new round.
Win condition
You both win the game when you get to the bottom of Together (the
Together card is visible as there are no more cards on top of it)
and
You both lose the game if there are no more cards in Apart.
Variations
For an easier game, try starting with more cards on Apart than
Together.
FAQs
1. I’m undecided between YES and NO on a Question card. Which one
should I pick?
If there were a Depends card, or a Sometimes card, you’d pick
that. We get it, life is not binary and answers to relationship
questions are nuanced. Try to pick the answer that mostly
represents your view. If you’re 49% YES and 51% NO then pick NO
and discuss your answer with your partner after you both
revealed your cards.
2. But neither YES or NO are options for me, as the Question is
irrelevant to me (or to us).
Hmmm. Try to interpret the question in a broader sense. If it’s
still irrelevant, pick a random answer and then please let us
know. We want to hear your story!
3. Why is this game only for couples?
We started by making this game for monogamous relationships,
and we would love to explore ways to extend its mechanics to
different kind of relationships. If you have ideas, let’s
collaborate! Drop an email to johanan.menapace@gmail.com.
4. I have feedback/suggestions/criticism for you.
Amazing! You can start by jotting down your reflections here
bit.ly/couple-game-feedback and we can take the conversation
forward via email (johanan.menapace@gmail.com) or videocoffee
:)