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Lessons

About Leadership
The Tips will guide you how to be a good leader of the team
Always remember that a good leader always wants the best for his employees and they should
always use consideration and follow the right structure for effective leadership philosophy acts.
Good leaders will reward good work performed by their employees. What lessons that help them to be the
good leaders? Here are 12 lessons about leadership that you must know :
Lesson # 1 : Everyone is a follower, but not everyone is a leader.
The label “leader” is too important to give to everyone or anyone without considerable thought. Those who bear it
have a special responsibility for getting significant work accomplished. Significant work
involves the use of such adaptive skills as accurately reading reality, envisioning a preferred future,
managing change, resolving conflict, and developing trust. It is transformational not transactional.
Lesson # 2 : Leaders value history.
Honoring one's unique history offers the courage and strength often needed to move with confidence
into an uncertain future. Claiming and celebrating corporate and community history also reminds
leaders where they came from, how their collective story has unfolded and evolved over time, and
helps leaders to mark and celebrate the successes achieved in the course of their journey.
 Reviewing history helps leaders
to claim their place in the fabric
of their community and invites the
future expression of individual gifts
and contributions. In developing
a shared understanding of history,
leaders begin to comprehend the
legacy which is theirs To Hold in
Trust long into the future.
Lesson # 3 : Leaders, who deny the reality of the inner life, recreate
repressed parts of themselves in the external environments in which
they lead.  
They have been accomplished and acclaimed, competent and charismatic, and in every instance
their “fall” has been a shock to most. When examined more closely, we discover three things: They
had cultivated a public persona of perfection. They had become confused about the origins of their
own power. They had become disconnected with their inner selves.
There is a falseness - a lack of authenticity
about the person. They come to believe
they are their public personas, not their
real selves. The inability to integrate all
aspects of the self creates a shallowness
and increases the tendency to see in
others what cannot be claimed.
When we think we are the sole authors of ourselves
and our gifts, we become a “god” rather than the
bearers of god-given gifts. The former leads to
egomania; the latter leads to trusteeship.
Lesson # 4 : Leadership requires putting the interests of others
ahead of self-interest.
Leaders who serve as trust holders for their followers understand the importance of self-sacrifice and they
carry in their hearts a commitment to steward the well being of others. Acts of sacrifice and commitment are
often required of leaders' intent on putting the greater good of their organization or community ahead of
personal self-interests.
 In a year in which we've
witnessed astounding acts of
financial greed and selfish
ego that contributed to the
toppling of global financial
markets and once sterling
reputations, we have found
solace and inspiration in
witnessing countless acts
of selfless leadership where
individuals of modest means
give daily their time, talent
and treasure in support
of the greater good.
Lesson # 5 : There is frequently a hostile dependent relationship between a
competent, highly revered leader and followers who lack a sense of self. 
Because the followers have little confidence in themselves they look to the leader for self-
validation. They conspire in the deification (or the demonization) of the leader as long as
they don't have to take responsibility for themselves or their actions.
 Along with this “hiding behind the leader” is a
fragile sense of being able to survive that
generates anger about their dependence on the
leader for their self-worth. Followers who
chronically complain about the leader and the
leader's authority are examples of this. Their
hostile, dependent relationship absolves them from
being accountable.
Lesson # 6 : Leaders believe in the impossible.
In responding to a child's ardent question, "Is There a Really a Santa Clause?"  Francis P. Church
notes, “Nobody can conceive or imagine all the wonders there are unseen and unseeable in the
world.” This simple tale of hope offers us invaluable insight to the importance of abiding faith and
the resolute belief that love, generosity and devotion do exist.
Leadership requires acts of courage,
faith and unshakeable vision in the
face of skepticism and fear. A key
lesson for leaders is that often the
most real things in the world are
those we cannot see with our eyes
but must know to be true deep
within our hearts.
Lesson # 7 : Leaders know that they are not in a popularity contest. They prefer being
respected if given a choice between respect and being liked.
There will always be more need than resources to address them and higher expectations than results, but
knowing what you really must do with (and in) your life is what helps a leader endure and produce.  There is a
special joy to labor that originates from the heart. It is a joy that nurtures and buoys the leader.  
 Long hours and stress do not
create disillusionment when
what drives everything is the
match between what you find
precious and what creates joy
in the lives of others.  Claiming
your passion is empowering.
Lesson # 8 : Real transformation results from clarity of a desired outcome,
a willingness to postpone immediate gratification, and a willingness to
risk being vulnerable.
In times of a chronic complex change, the effective leader recognizes the pressure to provide clear and final
answers for those who cannot tolerate ambiguity.  They do not succumb to this pressure and do not provide
premature answers to problems that demand thoughtful inquiry and analysis. The adaptive leader resides in
the gap - in that in between time of no longer and not yet.
Lesson # 9 : Leaders know that they are not in a popularity contest. They prefer being
respected if given a choice between respect and being liked.
Those who must be liked cannot lead. Inevitably, there will need to be decisions made that won't
be liked by everyone. The leader makes the decision that is best for the common good and for
the long term good. They can withstand withering criticism and personal attack because they
know themselves and are always discerning what is the best and most prudent decision.
Lesson # 10 : Effective leaders are able to step back and see the big
picture and recognize their place and role in it.
Our work has put us in contact with wonderful people doing wonderful things. The difference between those
who are leaders and those who are followers is perspective. Leaders can move in and out of the day-to-day tasks
and see patterns and trends that those who are constantly immersed in daily tasks just cannot.
 Not only can they see a wider
context, they have a sense of their
place within it, and are conscious of
how this influences their behavior.
The ability to see the whole and to
see beyond the current reality helps
to give them the ability to persevere
in the tumult of the gap.
Lesson # 11 : Loving of what you do is “the magic” in a leader's life.
There will always be more need than resources to address them and higher expectations than results, but
knowing what you really must do with (and in) your life is what helps a leader endure and produce.  There is
a special joy to labor that originates from the heart. It is a joy that nurtures and buoys the leader.  
 Long hours and stress do not create
disillusionment when what drives
everything is the match between what
you find precious and what creates
joy in the lives of others.  Claiming
your passion is empowering.
Lesson # 12 : Leaders need silence and solitude to counter today's frenetic
pace of change.
The practice of silence and solitude helps leaders to guard the fire within such that they have the
energy and inner resources needed to lead others.  He notes that the practice of silence draws
our attention inward and deepens our awareness of what we most value and treasure. From such
awareness, leaders cultivate the capacity to speak with authenticity and authority.
In this season where we are too often pulled
by the external world into a hurried and
stressful pace, we invite you to consider the
power of silence and stillness. The well-
known lyrics of the Christmas hymn, 
“Silent night, oh holy night, all is calm, all
is bright” encourages us toward a deeper
peace and connection to the source of
everything through silence,
stillness and solitude.
A good leader will give direction and encourage forward progress. Only the very best leaders 
can lead effectively in such situations. It is during those tough times that they make the toughest decisions
and really distinguish themselves as leaders. A Tough Call Will Distinguish You as a Leader!!!
 “When the right person is
the leader, he does even
better during tough times.”
- Former New York City mayor Rudy
Giuliani

Thank You Very Much

Sompong Yusoontorn