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Scaffoldings 1-5
We hear many opinions about youth. Which are truths and which
are myths? Express your opinion on the the following statements.
Let the groups discuss these statement one by one, first in their
groups. After finishing all the statements, ask individuals to raise
hands to express their opinion. If they agree their hands are
raised with open fingers, if they don’t agree they raise clenched
fists. Then ask two or three persons with different positions to
express themselves.
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Say if you agree or disagree with the Truth Myth
following statements
1. Most youth appear to be rebellious.
2. Modern youth are not interested in religion.
3. Youth don’t want to understand their parents.
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Section B – Let’s Get Serious
There are many concepts and realities that defy definition. The
defining process becomes more difficult if that reality is in a continuous
flux. Youth surely is one such reality. Let us begin with the criterion of
age. Today applying the age criterion in defining youth is becoming
inadequate. Consider the relativity of the age criterion in the following
table:
So, one of the problems of being young today is that the adults do not
know how to define the young. Often these criteria are very relative and
shaded by vested interests. The meaning of being young is also
aggravated by some biological and social factors. Around the world, the
onset of puberty is occurring earlier and the age of marriage is rising.
John Abbott, a contemporary educationalist, explains,
In 1900 the average girl started to menstruate at about the age of
19. Now, with better food and health care, menstruation
frequently starts shortly after a girl's 10th birthday. In 1900, most
boys were sufficiently well established in a job by the age of 20
that they could afford to marry and start a family. The gap
between childhood and becoming a fully responsible adult was
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measured in months rather than years. But not now, not in the
year 20011.
In the year 2001 and beyond, we confront a group of people who are
not children, yet they are not ready to take up responsibility (or at least
the adults do not trust that they can take it up). From speaking about
“adolescence” in a more psychological sense, we spoke of “teenagers”2
in the later section of 20th century, and today we just speak of ‘youth’. In
other words, with industrialization and urbanization adolescence has
been prolonged. While better food and healthcare have contributed to
early physical maturity, institutionalized education has led to delayed
social maturity.
With this new situation of youth come also new problems like:
The age of taking up full-time jobs in urban set-ups has been
largely delayed. So some young people, especially those in rural
cultures, are married and considered adults, while their
counterparts largely in urban cultures are still in school and
considered dependent children. This leaves the young people
hanging in a balance between childhood and adulthood for over
15 years. This also raises serious questions in time
management; they don’t have a role in society that is in any
sense useful.
Due to early onset of puberty and delayed marriage, many young
people are becoming sexually active and some have become
parents themselves, without having settled down in terms of a job
and marriage. Consider the predicament of a girl who reaches
puberty at the age of 12 and is married at 26, as compared to a
girl (in 1900’s) who reached puberty at the age of 19 and was
married the next day! According to Tanzania Demographic &
Health Survey of 1996, the median age at first intercourse is 16.9
years. TANESA survey of 1997 on sexual exploitation of school
girls in selected schools in Mwanza region holds that 75.8% of
class 7 students had had sex; and by age 16 years, 80.1% had
had sex. 3 Consequently, besides facing the economic brunt of
the situation, the young people are also exposed to health risks
associated with sexual activity, including exposure to STD’s, and
HIV/AIDS.
The national policy-making and planning process in youth affairs, and
indeed the churches in their ministry to the young, have to take into
consideration these changing trends. However, for the sake of our
discussion about young people in this essay, I would simply satisfy
myself with a descriptive definition of youth. Youth-hood is a window
period between childhood and adulthood, often between the onset of
puberty and marriage (or another permanent form of settling down in
life), that is marked by a restless energy, fast sprout of growth, hence
also by an extreme vulnerability, while being so rich in promise.
1
John Abbott, “Battery Hens or Free range Chickens: What kind of Education for what
kind of World?” European Council of International Schools Annual Conference, The Gray
Mattern Memorial Address, Website: www.21learn.org
2
‘Teenager’ is a term that entered the Oxford English Dictionary only in 1954, and refers
to ages between 13 and 19. See, Abbott as above.
3
See, Kuleana, The State of Education in Tanzania – Crisis and Opportunity, September
1999, p.59.
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Section C – Situation of African Youth
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side, and effects of wars and unrest on the negative side, are said
to contribute to the “baby boom”. However, while in the West, due
to reproductive knowledge and the pressure of industrial-
capitalistic economy the baby boom was brought under control, in
Africa the situation may not change even in the next decade. The
loss of population due to HIV and AIDS will have to be made up!
Some economists still argue that rise in population may not really
be a liability to most African countries. However, the problem is
the lack of infra-structure to care for 70% of the population, that is
considered young and largely dependant.
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Eccelsia in Africa, less time with children than they did say fifty years ago. 7 While
93: similar statistical data is wanting in the African context, it is a
The Church in Africa truism that Africa will soon follow suit. What is the implication of
knows well that youth all this on youth ministry? For sure, more and more teachers and
are not only the pastors are going to take up parenting roles in schools and in
present but above all
churches.
the future of humanity.
It is thus necessary to
Later chapters in this work will examine the cultural impact
help young people to of westernization and globalization on the young people of Africa.
overcome the Here it suffices to point out that the young generation is in the
obstacles thwarting verge of a schizophrenic existence. Most of them live between
their development: two worlds. As one walks to the industrial area they walk into the
illiteracy, idleness, western world, where the physical is not only distinct but often
hunger, drugs. separate from the spiritual. However, when they return home
upcountry (To most people in Nairobi, home is different from
house.) there is no separation between the physical and the
spiritual. Therefore, as long as one lives in a city their existence is
schizophrenic – split between two worldviews.
This is but a brief description of some of the serious
problems that our young people are facing. My contention is that
the society that has invested so much into industrial revolution has
not invested sufficiently into dealing with the negative impact that
the revolution has caused, and continues to cause, especially on
the young generation. Simply put, the industrial society has to
invest more in developing techniques of training young people in
life skills. This is the challenge for youth ministry today.
7
See, Don Tapscott, Growing Up Digital : The Rise of the Net Generation (New York:
McGraw-Hill, 1998), p.132.
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D2. Input:
Seven factors that contribute to dangerous behaviour among
young people:
Section E – Scaffoldings
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For For instance, let us say I want to become a football player. I
need some knowledge about the positions in the field, about the rules,
subsequent
etc. But someone may know all these but has not entered the field. So I
groups this need skills too : how to trap, how to dodge, how to pass, etc. These
has to be skills are learnt by repetitive physical practice that eventually make
done fast. neurological changes in my brain. Now to go through this tedious
process I need motivation: why do I want to be a football player? The
three aspects of, knowledge, skills and motivation contribute to the
effectivity of whatever I am doing.8
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I am convinced that, it is the same with the character formation of
young people. Knowledge alone does not bring about change,
though the depth of knowledge can influence attitudes. A mere wish
that “I-should-not” does not prevent me from doing it. I do need skills
on how to combat the situations, and put into practice what I do
know. I also need to have the right motivation on why I should be
good. It is easy for the government to disseminate information, but
to build skills and motivation the religious organizations and NGO’s
have to come into the picture.
Modus Operandi:
Youth are divided into 4 major groups on the basis of their
age – Sub juniors, Juniors, Inters, Seniors. One group
should not have more than 40 members, although 25 to 30
8
See, Stephen R. Covey, The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons
in Personal Change (New York: Simon & Schuster, 1990), 48.
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is the ideal number. If in the same age group there are
more than 40 it is better to have two or more groups.
There should be some flexibility about the criteria for
groups – age and classes. But one should belong to a
group in such a way that s/he can follow the 8 year
programme.
The formation in Christian Life Skills begins at the age
between 10 and 12 and ends at the age of around 20. At
the completion of the formation programme the young adult
is now invited to be in the facilitation team. Formation of
Core groups is necessary for the continuation of the
formation programme.
There could be another group of Super seniors for those
who have completed the programme, and continue to have
more flexible formation.
Every group has to meet 48 times within two years. In
schools it could be more or less the number of working
weeks. In Parishes the meeting has to be at least twice a
month, may be every alternative week.
Each meeting is to last at least 90 minutes. Some topics
may need more than one meeting. It is important to cover
at least 28 topics in one year.
What do we do with some youth who come in the middle of
the year, especially in the parish context? Make your
judgement and include the person in appropriate group.
Since the curriculum is laid out in schemes of two years, if
there are some who want to join the programme after the
first year… you will have to start another set of group(s) in
the beginning of the second year.
Some events can be organized together for the four age
groups – Jesus films, Mass, etc. Certain amount of
flexibility is necessary, without losing the sequence nor the
depth of the matter.
Every group has the same adult (young adult) facilitator for
at least one year.
The facilitators should have good understanding of the
whole curriculum; they should know more than what is
actually in the text, in fact the whole programme of 8 years;
should be conversant with the Sectionicipatory method.
They should meet at least once a month for their own
formation. Once a year for an annual retreat lasting at least
3 days.
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order to meet these challenges, young people themselves
should be called upon to become the evangelizers of their
peers. No one can do it better than they.” On the contrary if
the peer influence is rightly channelled it could prove to be
positive.
That for any change of habit there are three things needed:
Knowledge (what?), Skills (how?) and Motivation (why, for
what?)
That occasional seminars don’t bring about change. So we
need a series of occasions to meet with a particular group.
That skills cannot be offered by lecturing. Skills are learnt
by exercises. So our methodology needs to be active and
Sectionicipatory. Skills are learnt through interesting
repetition through a period of time.
That motivation is a decision of the will to put into practice
what we know as information and skills. This can be
achieved through sharing of convictions.
Learning of life skills is the lasting solution to many of the
contemporary problems, including HIV AIDS. Christian
Faith also needs to be translated into skills. Hence we talk
about Christian life skills.
If a solid foundation is laid in faith – Christian life skills –
when the person is younger, even if the person gets lost in
between in the storm of life, he or she will come back to the
fold at one time. The person is better prepared to respond
to the grace of God.
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11. 7 Attitudes of Effectiveness
12. Study Skills
Life Long Learning
13. Groups & Leadership
14. Addiction Prevention
15. Mental Health
16. Conflict Management
17. Dealing with Finance
18. Creativity Skills
19. Career Skills
20. Youth Spirituality
One of the participants reads out the set of rules put in a contract
form. The participants listen to what is read. Allow them to make
suggestions to the ground rules. They assent to the contract by
writing their names on the paper.
1F2. Pretest:
Let the participants be given the Pretest, which they are expected
to do each one by themselves.
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Section G – Soup for the Soul
1G2. Bye:
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2 Me the Mystery
Section Zero
Energizer:
Introduce Each Other: Ask participants to form pairs. Give them three
minutes to introduce themselves to each other in pairs: What is your
name, what do you do? What are your hobbies? Etc.
Give each one 10 seconds to say something about the other to the
whole group.
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Where Am I?
How Am I?
Who Am I?
God Image
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Adapted from Margaret Silf, Landmarks.
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One day a visitor at the farm inquired of the owner why it
was that the eagle, the king of the birds, should be confined to live
in a poultry farm with chicken.
“Since I have given it chicken feed and trained it to live as
a chicken, it has never learned to fly.” replied the owner. “It
behaves as chickens behave, so it is no longer an eagle”.
“Still”, insisted the visitor, “it has the heart of an eagle and
can surely be taught to fly”.
After talking it over, the two men agreed to find out whether
this was possible. Gently the visitor took the eagle in his hands
and said, “You belong to the sky, not to the earth. Stretch forth
your wings and fly”.The eagle however, was confused, she did not
know who she was, and seeing the chickens eating their food, she
jumped down to be with them again.
Undismayed, the visitor took the eagle on the next day up
on the roof of the house and urged it again saying: ”You are an
eagle, stretch forth your wings and fly!” But the eagle was afraid of
her unknown self and the world, and jumped down once more for
the chicken feed.
On the third day, the visitor rose early and took the eagle
out of the farm up to a high mountain. There he held the king of
the birds high above him and encouraged her again saying: “You
are an eagle. You belong to the sky. Stretch forth your wings now
and fly!!!” The eagle looked around, back towards the farm and up
to the sky. Then the visitor lifted him straight towards the sun, and
it happened that the eagle began to tremble. Slowly he stretched
out his wings. At last, with a triumphant cry, he soared away high
into the heavens.
CCC 2340 It may be that the eagle still remembers the chickens with
Whoever wants to nostalgia; it may even be that she occasionally visits the farm. But
remain faithful to his as far as any one knows, she never returned to lead the life of a
baptismal promises chicken.
and resist temptations
will want to adopt the
means for doing so: 2A4. Group Work: Discuss the Story of the Eagle
self-knowledge,
practice of an ascesis Every individual be given time to think of the the following
adapted to the
questions, and then to share in groups:
situations that confront
him, obedience to 1. What is it that struck you most in the story?
God's commandments, 2. Can you see any likeness to yourself with the eagle? Why?
exercise of the moral 3. In what areas of your life have you experienced freedom to be
virtues, and fidelity to fully yourself? What are the factors - such as persons,
prayer. "Indeed it is circumstances, events, etc., those are responsible for it?
through chastity that
we are gathered
together and led back
2A5. Conclusion:
to the unity from
which we were After listening to the feedback from the group conclude the section
fragmented into with the following comments:
multiplicity." Just as the eagle found it difficult to discover its true self we
too find it difficult to discover ourselves - that we have great
potential.
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We may also need the help of someone, a mentor or others
to discover ourselves.
As we get deeper into the layers of the self we will discover
that we are in the image of God.
Section B – Where Am I?
When the participants are back in the hall, they are given the
opportunity to share their insights on the stone and self. The
sharing can be done in groups of three.
How is my self similar to this stone? During the sharing they
listen to each other with a lot of respect as individuals attempt
to disclose themselves.
Give the following explanations for the signs and ask every
Participant to choose one that best represents where s/he is at the
present moment in their life journey:
If your life journey is like a road, what road sign would you
choose to represent the present moment in your life. Find
below some examples of such signs and their explanation.
Feel free to choose any other road sign that may not be here.
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1 2 3 4 5
Once the individuals have done their choice invite them to share
with their neighbours the traffic signal that they have chosen,
giving reason for their choice.
1 2
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3 4
If we want to be happy:
Which section of the window, do you think, has to be broadened if
you want to be happy? It is the Open Arena, of course. Because,
this area makes you free and relaxed in the presence of others,
and even with your own self.
Feedback
Open (Arena)
Exposure
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iv. In fact once the twin processes of feedback and
exposure are set in motion this third process will occur
naturally. Since Feedback and Exposure builds self
acceptance.
v. In this journey, it is important to journey with some
mature person or a mentor. This person can give you
mature feedback.
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Section C – How Am I?
2C2. Introduction
Introduce the topic for the session as follows:
Each one chose a colour, a flower and an animal for themselves
because these objects appealed to them. These reminded them
of something in themselves.
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I feel Happy!
I am not Pleased!
No Comments!
Complete the faces below similar to those above, to express your feelings
about the following aspects:
1. About my education …
5. Regarding my faith …
7. Regarding my parents …
8. About my defects …
9. About my future …
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opposite. (If the total of participants is an odd number you will
have an extra person who is also seated at the end of the row.
When this exercise is done in the hall the rows could be across
the diagonal of the hall.) When the sign (whistle) is given the
participants start sharing to each other. After a minute when
the sign is given everyone stands up and takes a step to the
left on the same row. Each one would meet a new partner,
both sit down and continue the sharing. Those who are at the
edges of the row will have change over to the other side.
Behaviour
Feelings
Thoughts
Trigg
Beliefs
er
Worldview/Paradigm
Explanation:
The self is like an iceberg. I am an iceberg. Only one seventh of
an iceberg is actually seen on top of the water. The other six parts
are within the water. Similarly, what we see in a person is
basically their behaviour. But hidden below this visible behaviour
are a whole lot of elements (at least five aspects) that influence
the behaviour. Let us understand these elements in a deeper
level.
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around you. It is on this basis
that you fit in every new
experience.
Paradigms can be changed on
the basis of accumulated
anomalies (facts that seem
contrary to your present
paradigm). When there are two
many contradictions in our
present paradigm we make an
attempt to find a new one. This
is called paradigm shift.
Eg. I can be
Beliefs Belief is a unit of paradigm that I happy only
accept without giving reason to it when everyone
every time. I know it is just true. around likes
me.
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1. I need to constantly review my paradigms and beliefs. If I am
constantly being unhappy, if I am not being effective enough in my
daily life in the way I deal with myself, in the way I deal with the
people and the world around me, probably I am living with too
many anomalies (contradicting paradigms) in myself. They are
calling for a review.
2. I need to take control of my thoughts. Not allowing myself to become
a slave of the triggers (events that happen around me.) I need to
constantly monitor the self-talk that I am doing to myself; I need to
monitor the pictures that are running in my head. If I have positive
self-talk my feelings and behaviours can also be positive. May be
I need to start a 24 hour count – in the next 24 hours I will
constantly monitor my thoughts and see if I can encourage positive
self talk.
3. Since the body-mind is a unity, to bring about change in your mind,
and subsequently in your behaviour, sometimes the change can
begin with your body. For example, on a day that you don’t feel
very fresh, you will tend to sit very relaxed and inattentively. This
may cause a feeling of depression. To regulate this, try washing
your face with cold water and then sitting straight. Your mind may
also wake up.
4. Journal writing and sharing with the soul friend the aspects of your
paradigms and beliefs can help a great deal to understand yourself
and move towards growth.
Section D – Who Am I?
Objectives:
2D1. Ice Breaker: Miss/Mr. Universe Interview
1. To get into the third
layer of the self. Participants go into pairs. One pretends to interview the other with
2. To get in touch with the questions given in the box below, and the other answers them
the deepest desire offhand. The answering should be done very fast. Then they
that pushes one ot exchange roles.
invest one's
energies. Imagine that you are among the 10 top contestants for the Miss/Mr
3. To have a vision of Universe contest. As part of your assessment the panel asks you
the self that flows the following questions. How would you answer them?
from understanding
that I am in the 1. What are your childhood memories?
image of God. 2. What do you regret about in your life?
3. What is your repeated dream?
4. What is your greatest defect in your personality?
5. What makes you cry?
6. What hurts you most?
7. How far can you trust your friend?
8. What importance does money have in your life?
9. What is an ideal day for you?
10. Are you afraid to die?
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Is there anyone who would like to share their impressions?
We have started our journey of getting in touch with our inner
selves.
1. LOTTERY
If you won a lottery of USD 1000 (Convert it into your own
currency) what would you do with the money? Write a small
budget.
3. MAGIC CARPET
If there was an “ungo” (like a magic carpet) that would take
you anywhere in the world, where would you like to go?
4. MAGIC WAND
There is a magic wand that can touch any aspect of your self
and that part can instantly become what you desire it to be.
What part of your body, or self would you like the magic
wand to touch? And what would you want it to become?
5. ERISED MIRROR
Erised10 (Desire spelt in reverse) is a large dressing mirror; if
you stand in front of it, it is capable of showing your inner
most desires. If you stood in front of this mirror what would it
show?
6.House on Fire
Let’s say as you return home, you find your house on fire.
You have just sufficient time to enter your room and pick up
one object. What would that be?
10
Borrowed J.K. Rowlings, Harry Potter, Book 1.
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7.CONCLUSION
After you finish the above six exercises answer the following
questions:
1. Are there any common elements in your answers?
2. What do these common elements say about what you
deeply desire for your self?
Where Am I?
How Am I?
Who Am I?
Need to draw a
plant with God Image
flowers
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do I want to belong somewhere? Because I want to be
happy!
Rooted in Layer 1:
For some people the root could be at the level of “Where Am I?”
They may draw their self-identity from their family background or
their ethnicity, etc. In such a situation, when their ethnicity is
threatened they feel that their self is threatened. A plant rooted in
the outer layer dries very fast.
Rooted in Layer 2:
For others, their root may be in their talents and skills, in their
qualities and characters – in the layer of “How Am I?” Though this
layer is deeper than the level of Where Am I, it is not deep
enough. Hence, inability to use their talents or the limitations of
CCC 357
Being in the image of their personalities may sometimes paralyse these individuals.
God the human
individual possesses Rooted in Layer 3:
the dignity of a person, A healthy base for the self is a deep appreciation of the mystery
who is not just and the uniqueness of the self. It is an awareness that, after all, I
something, but am more than all the paraphernalia (decorations) that I put around
someone. He is my self. I am distinct from the roles that play. When the plant of
capable of self- my self-image is rooted in this deeper layer, I am at peace with
knowledge, of self- myself all the time. It not only becomes easy to accept other
possession and of people’s reaction towards me, but I also keep growing towards
freely giving himself
becoming my best self.
and entering into
communion with other The creation story in the book of Genesis tells us that we
persons and he is are all created in the image of God. It is in this third layer that we
called by grace to a are in the image of God (Imago Dei). The implication of this is that
covenant with his when we become more and more aware of this inner self, we
Creator, to offer him a become more and more aware of who God is. Secondly, basing
response of faith and our self-worth at this deeper layer gives us a strong self-esteem
love that no other that flows from the fact that God is unchangeable.
creature can give in his This rootedness leads us to a deeper appreciation of other
stead. people too. We appreciate that they too are created in the image
of God.
River Me
River Me Video - produced by BEAMS, Nairobi could be used. If not,
explain with the help of the picture.
(Stick picture)
1. The origin
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Every river has its origin. Often the origin of a river may be hidden and
insignificant. Often you go to a swampy area and people say here is
where a big river is born. You see no river but only reeds. Yet the river
is there. The origin of the river of your life was also insignificant and
hidden. It happened in the dark corner of the womb of your mother. Yet
it was the greatest miracle that has ever happened in your life. What do
you know about your own origins? Are you proud of your origin?
2. Tributaries
As the river progresses on its journey there are other rivulets that flow
into it. The tributaries add volume to the main river. As you grew up
there were different tributaries that flowed into your own life. The
people, whose lives crisscrossed your own. Your parents, family,
teachers, elders, friends. And the different events of your life are your
tributaries. Have you acknowledged your tributaries?
3. Peaceful Flow
The course of the river is often marked by peaceful moments. It flows
quietly and effortlessly. It seems to know where it is off to. No
obstacles. No strain. Everything is smooth. What were the moments in
your life when you experienced peaceful flow? Are you grateful to God
for such a moment?
5. Detours
Rivers make detours. They go away from their course of flow. Often
caused by the landscape, or by overflow during flooding. When rivers
make detours their journey is prolonged. Their energy wasted. I too
make detours in my life. When I forget my deepest desires. When I go
chasing butterflies on the sidewalks of my life. When I make
unnecessary detours in my life, due to an attachment to a place, an
improper relationship, mistaking pleasure for happiness, my own life
journey is prolonged. And my energy wasted.
6. Diversions
Sometimes the river is diverted for other people’s purposes. The energy
of the river is overly exploited. In our lives, we could say that detours are
straying away because of our choices. But diversions are when we are
victimized by other people’s choices. When did you feel that you were
forced to make a diversion because of the selfishness of another
person? When did you feel exploited in a relationship?
7. Obstacles
In the course of the journey of the river, sometimes it meets with
obstacles, boulders, blocks. And the river often pushes its way through
with tremendous energy. In the flow of our own life there may be
obstacles – sometimes thrown by nature and other times caused by
people around us; handicaps and sicknesses; jealousies and quarrels.
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Do you agree to be defeated by these apparent blocks in your life? Are
you ready to unblock the challenges of your life?
8. Dry Spell
Due to overuse of its resources, running to difficult terrain, and lacking
continuous supply of water from its source, the river may experience a
dry spell. Too many detours and diversions, having succumbed to
obstacles, the river dries up. When was it last that you experienced a
dry spell in your life? Are you experiencing one in your life at this very
moment? How are you handling it? Feeling burnt out? Feeling
exploited? A victim of your own wrong choices? What lessons can you
learn from these moments?
9. Stagnation
Sometimes rivers run into bog land. They become stagnant. There is
no flow. When rivers become stagnant they begin to gather dirt. Their
tremendous energy remains wasted. When I mistake small
achievements with the fulfilment of the deepest desires, I may become
stagnant.
10. Rapids
Rivers fall over cliffs in rapids. There is tremendous energy – often
uncontrollable. You cannot believe it was the same river that was
stagnant a while ago. Where was all this energy? Often if this energy is
not channelled it not only goes to waste, it begins to destroy the
environment around. When did you feel that your life was falling fast in
rapids?
12. Destination
Every river – small and big – that’s flowing on the face of the earth has
its destiny. Whether it is aware of it or not, whether it will make it or not,
every river is striving towards its ultimate destiny. Are you aware that the
river of your life is flowing towards a great destiny? You are striving
towards a goal.
14. Contributions
A mature river is able to make valuable contribution to enhance its
environment. It does not dry up while sharing its water with others. It
does not feel exploited nor used up, because it has enough for
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everyone. Plant life, animal life and humans enjoy a good river. What
are the contributions that you are making to the people around you?
15. Ocean
Whether it will make it or not, whether it is aware of it or not every river
on the face of the earth is striving towards the great ocean. Its ultimate
destiny. In becoming one with the ocean the river finds its fulfilment.
Whether you are aware of it or not, whether you will make it or not, you
are moving towards the great ocean – God! “Our hearts are made for
you Lord, and they are restless until they rest in you”, St. Augustine put it
so powerfully after learning the lessons from his own life. Are you aware
that you are striving towards God?
Three things that I will carry home and work on until the next
session:
1.
2.
3.
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3 You and I
Section Zero
Energizer:
Begin with the song : As we walk to the right...
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Evaluate the exercise: were we genuinely greeting each other?
Each one was greeting with their own intention.
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Boy: Sorry. You may just have to be patient with him. He may
just be busy.
Girl: Ah... no! He is not sincere. I trusted him so much. He had
other friends. Do you also do this to your friends....?
Boy: (looks embarrassed... hides) You know it all depends on how
close one is to the other...
Girl: oh... we were very close friends, you know!
Boy: (moves closer...) Just don't worry. You always get another
friend on the way. And life goes on.
Girl: (smiles naughtily) But you know... we cannot change friends
as we do with clothes.
Driver: Temeke stop. (To the girl) I think this is your stop.
Girl: (in a hurry, rising) Oh, bye. Nice meeting you. Greet your
mum.
Boy: Oh... Neema. (Taking out his phone and writing) Could I have
your phone number?
Girl: Sure... (gives the phone number)
Boy: Thanks. We shall communicate.
Girl: Bye!
(The bell rings. The end of conversation at the Personal Zone.)
Intimate
Zone
Marriage
Public Zone
Social Zone
Personal Zone
Intimate
Zone
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After listening to their spontaneous reactions go ahead with your
input. Do not enter into the details of the skit at this point. What is
important is to identify that there were different layers in the
conversations, marked by the ringing of the bell.
Public Zone
This is a general relationship, especially when people meet for the
first time. This may just end with a polite greeting. People who
meet in the bus, in the streets, in the same school, in public
meetings may fall under this layer.
Social Zone
This is relationship between people who are some how used to
each other. Like members of the same class who have studied
together. This relationship does not end with just greeting, but the
individuals begin to share some information about each other –
this information may not be too personal, but at least they know
each other’s whereabouts, eg. name, place of origin, etc.
Personal zone
This is the third layer of relationship, whereby the inviduals begin
to disclose personal information about each other. They trust
each other and are free to share each other histories and
emotions. Though they are not yet intimate, people in this zone of
relationship know each other well.
CCC 1829
The fruits of charity Intimate zone
are joy, peace, and This stage goes beyond mere information about each other. They
mercy; charity are emotionally involved. They trust each other to a significant
demands beneficence level, and are affectionate to each other. However, sexual contact
and fraternal is not proper to this stage, as it is only proper in marriage.
correction; it is
benevolence; it fosters Marriage:
reciprocity and Marriage is an exclusive relationship between two people of the
remains disinterested opposite sex.
and generous; it is
friendship and
communion: Love is 3A4. Conclusion: My people
itself the fulfillment of
all our works. There is After your explanation, invite participants to draw four
the goal; that is why concentric circles in their notebooks and mark the zones of
we run: we run toward relationship.
it, and once we reach
it, in it we shall find
Then let them fill in names of people that they relate to (friends
rest. and relatives) in the respective zones.
Note that people who are our family members - near and far -
will lie in the social, personal or intimate zone.
After personal writing ask them to share with anyone in the
group.
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Conclude this section by listening to their feelings and thoughts
on this section.
Section B - Friendship
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13. As a friend I must bear up with the mistakes of my friend.
14. To bea friend there should be some common elements
between us.
15. Friends may quarrel sometimes.
After a few times, ask them to stand in pairs. Explain to them that
they can now count together the points that touch the floor. Call
out numbers from 2 to 18. (Minimum possible is 2 if both stand on
one foot each.)
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After a few rounds, ask pairs to combine and form groups of four.
Now they count together. Call out numbers from 4 to 36.
Let the facilitator show the participants the picture that is here
below and start a discussion. (If possible, it can be enlarged in
paper of A3 size. The discussion is started by asking the following
questions.
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(They are marking the sensitive parts.)
3. Now, if these people are in the public zone can they touch each
other with the purpose of getting pleasure? (Is it morally right?)
4. If they are in the Social Zone?
5. If they are in the Personal Zone?
6. If they are in the Intimate Zone?
CCC 364a 7. If they are engaged?
The human body
8. If they are married?
shares in the dignity of
"the image of God": it 9. So, what is a bad touch and good touch?
is a human body
precisely because it is
animated by a spiritual 3C3. Input: Good Touch-Bad Touch
soul, and it is the
whole human person After listening to the opinions of the participants the facilitator
that is intended to
needs to make sure of the following points:
become, in the body of
Christ, a temple of the Bad touch is someone outside the relationship of marriage
Spirit… touching the other person in the sensitive parts or similar
areas purposely for the sake of exerting pleasure.
This type of touching is only proper within marriage
because it involves the dignity of the person, and it should
be done in an environment of love and responsibility, which
is ensured within marriage.
Sometimes, some young people may be victims of such
touch by a senior person, who may even intimidate them
through use of threat, authority and rationalization. Young
people should be able to assert themselves by speaking up
or reporting to someone who can help, or by moving away
from that person or situation. (See section on Assertive
Communication)
…………………………………………………………………………
If he says, "If you loved me, You'd let me."
…………………………………………………………………………
He says, "But I want to."
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If he says, "Everybody's doing it."
…………………………………………………………………………
If he asks her "Have you ever done it?"
…………………………………………………………………………
If he asks, "Don't you love me?"
…………………………………………………………………………
If he says, "I won't get you pregnant."
…………………………………………………………………………
If he says, "If you won't let me, I'll find someone who will."
…………………………………………………………………………
And my personal favorite, if he says, "But you owe me!"
The following story can be just read, or for more effectivity it can
be narrated by a girl. The story is followed by group discussion,
using the questions here below.
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WARNING: This story is purely from imagination. If it has any
resemblance to real life, it is a mere coincidence!
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3D3. Conclusion: True Love Waits
True love waits, it does not rush into physical relationship. Since
physical relationship involves emotions of people, in most
societies it is protected within the covenant of marriage.
Now still in your thoughts welcome a person whom you would like
to pray for. See this person kneeling in front of you, or standing.
You put your hand on this person. You see the Grace of Jesus -
the rays - going out to this person. As they get filled, you see
them shining too, and feeling peace in their hearts. When you
have finished with one person, welcome another.
From time to time, you get back to Jesus. See rays of light
coming towards you filling you up. See yourself being illumined by
this light and grace. Become aware of the feeling of tranquility.
Then continue to bless other people with this rays.
Before you conclude don't forget to bless a person or two that you
find difficult to love.
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Section F - Scaffolding for Life
Three things that I will carry home and work on until the next
session:
1.
2.
3.
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4 Upon the Rock
My Moral Stand
Section Zero
Energizer:
Begin with a song found in the Appendix.
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There will be always two things on sale. The name of the
things or persons are actually written on a piece of paper
and shown to the participants. A team may buy one or both
of the objects/values on sale. If more than one team wants
the same thing, then the thing is put to auction and the
highest bidder will get to buy it. The bidding is done in
whole numbers according to the denominations of currency
available. The auctioneer fixes the starting price of objects
according to circumstances. When the sale is done money
is taken from the team by the auctioneer in exchange for
the object.
Some things that will be on sale in this auction may not be
bought in real life, but in this game everything is only
symbolic. The money itself stands for one’s time and
energy.
And remember, every choice has its implications.
At the end of the game having money in hand is waste,
they may also be punished.
1 Car House
Next on sale are two people you would choose as life Partners for
marriage. (If it is a girls’ group the names have to be changed.)
Caro is from the city, and from a well-to-do family. Amina is from
the village and very simple girl.
3 Caro Amina
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At this point stop the auction again and do the following:
Those who bought the “Caro” discover that she is HIV+. So
they have to pay Ksh. 1000 for treatment.
Those who bought “Relax Five Years” have to pay Ksh. 500
for entertainment.
After listening to the groups the facilitator makes sure that the
participants get clearly the following points:
In life we make choices all the time. Some bring good
results and the others bad.
In all circumstances we should choose life rather than
death. We should not go by appearances (like Caro) in our
choices.
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The things that we value most are the things that we spend
most of our time and energy on.
If you really believe in Jesus and his teaching, does the
way you spend your time and energy reflect that choice of
yours?
Objectives:
4B1. Activity: Cowrie Shells
1. To reflect on
African Value In many traditional African societies, cowrie shells were used as
System. currency, in exchange for goods.
2. To be able to
appreciate the good Allocate Cowrie shells to the following African Traditional values
values of Africa according to its importance in the traditional society. One shell
and to be critical of means ‘least’ important while 5 means ‘most’.
those that may not
be Christian. For example:
Hospitality
Fill in yourself...
1 Tribal identity
2 Increase of progeny
3 Gender equality
4 Sexual Pleasure
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8 Sharing within the Family
9 Relationship between
Agemates
10 Security
After doing the above activity, participants are divided into groups
of three or five people and ask first to share how they distributed
the cowries and then to discuss together the following questions:
1. Which values have lost meaning in the 21st century, and
are not needed?
2. Which values still have meaning, but are being forgotten by
the younger generation?
4B3. Conclusion:
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Boniface loved each other, and it was long since they had met
each other. Angela was becoming anxious about his silence
especially after he had made a proposal for marriage. Those days
there were no mobile phones!
So after many restless nights one morning Angela decided
to go across. She sought the help of Charles to take her across.
Charles was indeed an experienced boatman. But it was a few
days since he had gone across, because crossing the river was
becoming extremely dangerous. So when Angela went to Charles
to ask for help to take her across, since she has not heard from
her beloved for long, Charles wanted to take advantage of the
situation. He had always admired Angela’s unique beauty,
secretly though! So he made the proposal, “No problem, my dear
Angela, any thing for me, provided you sleep with me tonight.”
Charles was very pragmatic.
Angela was disgusted at this proposal. So she went to
another boatman in the village, and that was David. David just
flatly refused, “No, the river is raging these days. But still I could
have done it. But you remember you refused my love, and fell for
that boy across the river. Now you suffer.”
Angela was really desperate, and having no other way.
She finally came back to Charles and agreed to sleep at his
place that night. Next morning, Charles being a very
conscientious person and all, he took her across the river. He
smiled at her as she disembarked from the boat.
Finally Angela was able to meet Boniface. They talked and
talked about many things. And in the course of their conversation
Angela innocently divulged to Boniface all the adventure that she
had with Charles and David, “And you know, finally I had to sleep
at Charles’ place....and...”
Boniface did not want to hear anything more. He became
wild. He just told her off. He was very annoyed that Angela was
so stupid, and did not want to see her again, and even just pushed
her out of the house.
Angela left not knowing what would be her next move. How
is she even going to cross the river? Oh yes, she remembered
that there was another boy in the same village. His name was
Erasto. Now Erasto was a childhood friend of Angela when the
river was much smaller. So Angela went and told Erasto all that
had happened. And how she was stranded not only on this side of
the river, but also in her own love-life.
Erasto was a strong young man. He was happy to see her
childhood friend Angela, but was very upset to hear her sad story.
A friend in need is a friend in deed. And besides, this is the proper
time to pay back Boniface for their old quarrel, when Boni had led
the cows into the field of Erasto.
So Erasto went to Boniface’s place, and started to teach
him a lesson. Angela was secretly watching the drama. When
Erasto started boxing his old enemy Boniface, by bad luck, Boni
fell to the ground.... and breathed his last! And Angela was
breathless.
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Just One Question for Group Discussion:
1. Among the five characters in the story who is the most guilty of
all? Why? Number them according to the degree of their guilt.
Give them about 20 minutes for discussion, and then ask them to
present their report. Tabulate all the results on the board.
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“Let us imagine that the tallest building in our city is on fire. It may
collapse at anytime, many are already dead. Others have
escaped. But there are 7 people on the terrace of the building
who want to be rescued. You are piloting alone a helicopter that
unfortunately can take only one person at a time. There is a
computer in your helicopter that has the following information
about the 7 people. After going through the information you decide
who you will rescue?
Stick the letters A to G on the wall. Now read out the
information in Box 1 to the participants. (For the success of the
game don’t even give any clue about Box 2.) Ask individuals to
choose the person and go to stand against the letter on the wall.
Once they are there ask individuals to share their opinions and
come up with their common explanation.
Give opportunity for every group to express themselves.
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ADDITIONAL INFORMATION ABOUT PEOPLE TO BE
RESCUED (The same people A to G). – Box 2
(This information should be kept as a secret until the first section
above is completed)
After giving the information ask them to move as they want. Then
let them discuss briefly in the groups about their second choice
and bring reasons to the floor.
CCC 1750
4D2. Group Discussion: The Rescue Operation
The morality of human
acts depends on: Make them sit down in the same groups of their choice during the
- the object chosen; Rescue Operation, but now invite them to go beyond the game
- the end in view or the and ask more pertinent questions as follows:
intention;
- the circumstances of
1. What is that gives worth to the individual? Is it age, usefulness
the action.
The object, the to society, pity, money, character, etc?
intention, and the 2. On what basis did you make your choice? And was your
circumstances make criterion right?
up the "sources," or
constitutive elements,
of the morality of 4D3. Input: Value of Human Life
human acts.
The best conclusion to this exercise can be when the participants
say, we should have saved everyone. Human life itself is the
great value.
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Often we find judge ourselves moral just because we are obeying
certain laws and customs established in our society, in the country
or in our religion. But more basic question to ask is, what is the
basis of this laws? What is the principle that would distinquish
morally good action from bad one?
Any action that enhances the dignity and life of the human
person is morally good action.
1 Sam 17:40-51
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Section F - Scaffolding for Life
Three things that I will carry home and work on until the next
session:
1.
2.
3.
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5 Malaika I Love You Malaika
Section Zero
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5A1. Activity: Before Marriage, After Marriage
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(This is to be given as a surprise in the second part)
Attraction Love
1. Attraction starts suddenly and Love grows gradually and lasts
disappears suddenly. long.
2. Attraction based on external Love is something very internal
factors of appearance of a based on the heart and mind.
person.
3. Attraction sometimes disturbs True love brings a calmness,
a person, and distracts one and builds self confidence, in
from their duties. such a way as to succeed in
one’s endevour.
4. Attraction can lead one to True love waits; it cares for the
rush into a physical relationship. wellbeing of both people in love.
5. In time of trial attraction Love becomes stronger in
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disappears into thin air. difficulties.
Boy Girl
Step 1 Attraction Attraction
Setp 2 Sex Love
CCC 1604 Step 3 Love Sex
God who created man
out of love also calls
him to love the
Explanation of Every Step:
fundamental and
innate vocation of Step 1 Every relationship begins with a certain
every human being. degree of attraction. Attraction could be very
For man is created in external – how one appears, how one talks,
the image and likeness smiles, and talents, etc. But it also includes
of God who is himself something deeper – an aspect of personality,
love. Since God
character, etc.
created him man and
woman, their mutual In this stage the boy may easily say, I love
love becomes an you. But what he means is, I like you. The
image of the absolute girl may not easily say, I love you.
and unfailing love with Step 2 In a boy-girl relationship, what follows
which God loves man. attraction is quite different in both. The girl is
It is good, very good, capable of passing on from attraction to love,
in the Creator's eyes. but the boy often goes into thoughts of
and this love which sexual desire.
God blesses is In this stage also the boy may easily say, I
intended to be fruitful
love you. But what he means is, I want you.
and to be realized in
the common work of
The girl may say, I love you and just mean it.
watching over But surely this takes a lot of courage and
creation: "and God sincerity on the part of the girl.
blessed them, and God This is a dangerous stage because the girl
said to them: 'Be may give into the wishes of the boy
fruitful and multiply, misunderstanding the stage.
and fill the earth and Step 3 The third stage is somehow the opposite of
subdue it.'" the second stage. The boy moves towards
love while the girl towards sexual desire.
The time from step 2 to 3 may take months
or years, especially for the boy.
Only in this stage does the boy really mean
what he says. Besides he would start talking
about life and marriage rather than sexuality.
The three stages would be followed by the fourth stage of
seriousness about building a family.
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Section B – Faithfulness in Marriage
5B2. Introduction:
Draw their attention to the following points and introduce the topic
of faithfulness.
If you feel loved by someone in your life, then you are also
capable of loving. To enter into a relationship one also needs to
appreciate oneself.
The fact is that all of us are capable of loving and being loved.
That is, all of us fit!
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5B3. Activity: Trust Walk
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5C2. Activity: Do you agree?
True False
1. The primary aim of marriage is to bear
children.
2. The dowry/bride price system is good.
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enjoying pleasure in the sexual act, and being open to
progeny, taking care of them responsibly.
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CCC 1654 partner. When marriage is at stake it is better to sacrifice
Spouses to whom God friendship outside marriage.
has not granted
children can 13. This saying threatens the dignity of woman as an
nevertheless have a individual. Man and woman are equal.
conjugal life full of
meaning, in both 14. Bearing faults and forgiveness may be necessary in
human and Christian marriage. But one does not have to make oneself a
terms. Their marriage doormat. One may have to give an assertive feedback
can radiate a
and suggest change.
fruitfulness of charity,
of hospitality, and of
sacrifice. 15. Marriage is a vocation. True.
Section D – My Wedding
If you are preparing for your wedding what are the important
elements in the preparation. Show priority of the following
elements by numbering them in the order of priority. Number 1
will indicate the most important and no. 7 the least.
No Elements Priority
1. White gown for the bride
2. Wedding Ring
3. Clearing of dowry
4. Wedding Cake
5. Wedding reception
6. New clothes for relatives
7. Best man
8. Best lady
9. Page boys and flower girls
10. Eucharistic Celebration
11. Send off party
12. Honeymoon
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13. Many guests
14. Band
15. The Priest or Deacon
After the participants have filled in the worksheet let them go into
groups share together their positions. Then the facilitator can
listen to their opinions.
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Section E – Soup for the Soul
Three things that I will carry home and work on until the next
session:
1.
2.
3.
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