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Week 1: Personal Relationship, Commitment and This means that every relationship has specific objectives
Responsibilities of a Person or purpose that every person wishes to pursue, either
because of need, want, or desire.
What do you know about Personal Relationship?
From the given definitions, Personal Relationship, then,
• Indeed, even before language was invented, is a type of relationship which is closely associated with
prehistoric humans were already interacting through the person and which can only have meaning to this
many other forms of behavior. person. It involves a degree of commitment to another
• They may have figured out how to grin or welcome person or person.
one another; show love, fondness, and even
faithfulness to the group; and chase together for food. In discussing personal relationship, the elements that go
• This interaction was necessary for the survival of the with it that will also be discussed are attachment,
group where an individual belonged. attraction, love and intimacy, and commitment.
• Survival was the primary reason behind why people
have the fundamental need to belong. Attachment Theory
In today's world, this need to belong actually exists, • Attachment theory is a concept in developmental
maybe in light of the fact that it has been engraved in our psychology that concerns the importance of
hereditary memory that was passed on us by our "attachment" in regards to personal development.
precursors. • It is a broad idea with many expressions, and the
best understanding of it can be is by looking at
• However, the need to belong today goes beyond several of those expressions in turn.
mere survival in physical sense.
• Belonging to a group generation produces numerous How are attachments developed?
advantages like having an emotionally supportive
• The very first meaningful relationship every human
network when you need some source of genuine
being encounter is with one’s mother.
sympathy or draw strength from.
• Even before birth, the mother-child relationship is
Note: The relationships that are nurtured in a group help already established.
each and every one of us to survive. • The intimacy that is nurtured during the nine months
of pregnancy will be enhanced and developed further
The concept of personal relationship and its definition is after the birth of the child.
very broad and complex as well. Let us discuss some of • When bonding occurs between the mother and the
the given definition of it. child or the father and the child, attachment develops.
Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines relationship as: John Bowlby established the model that childhood
development depends heavily upon a child's ability to
“The way in which two or more people, groups, countries,
form a strong relationship with "at least one primary
etc., talk to, behave toward, and deal with each other.”
caregiver". Generally speaking, this is one of the parents.
The definition is extended to include “the way in which
Three Attachment Styles by Ainsworth, Waters, and
two or more people or things are connected."
Walls (1978)
University Of Minnesota defines relationship as:
1. Secure Attachment
Close connections between people, formed by emotional
• It is when the primary caregiver is most of the
bonds and interactions. These bonds often grow from
time present and available
and are strengthened by mutual experiences.
• It is when all the emotional needs of an infant are
Types of Relationship depending on the nature of met with a sense of security
interaction that exist between two or more Entities: • When exposed to this attachment, the child will
grow up to have more secure and stable
• Business Transactional Relationship relationships.
• Professional Relationship
• Family Relationship 2. Avoidant Attachment
• Friendly Relationship
• It is when the primary caregiver is cold and
• Romantic Relationship
detached, and even unresponsive to the child’s
needs.
• The child senses rejection and this often leads to • This is the stage when a person loses sleep and
premature detachment and self- reliance. appetite over someone, and swoons while
• When exposed to this attachment, the child will daydreaming of this special room. This
often times experience unstable relationships in “infatuation” stage is driven mainly by dopamine
the future. and norepinephrine (noradrenaline), coupled with
a decrease in serotonin levels. This cocktail of
3. Anxious-Ambivalent Attachment chemicals causes increase alertness and arousal
of the body when somebody is attracted to
• It is when the primary caregiver is consistent in
another, inducing a feel-good reward pathway
terms of presence and in meeting child’s
associated with the person increasing the desire
emotional needs.
to spend more time with them.
• When exposed to this attachment, the child may
develop separation anxiety or may have mixed 3. Attachment
feelings between hesitancy and commitment
when entering into meaningful relationship. • A deep and enduring emotional bond that
connects one person to another across time and
However, all is not lost for those who have experienced space (Ainsworth 1973; Bowbly 1969).
dysfunctional attachment styles mentioned above. • When a couple in love and decides to continue
with the relationship, they enter the attachment
Research has shown that there is always hope for adult
stage where long lasting commitments are
who received these negative styles to change for the
exchanged, and may lead to raising a family.
better, particularly when experiencing genuine and
• Long term attachment between two people
transformative love relationships, which can reverse and
involves the hormones oxytocin (known as the
overcome the unpleasant experiences they had in
“love hormone” or “cuddle chemical”) and
childhood.
vasopressin. Concentrations of these in the
Attraction body increase following orgasm in both men and
women. The release of these hormones is
What does it mean to be attracted to someone? How believed to be important factor in long term
attraction manifests itself? attraction and love.
Being attracted to another person may also mean liking • Genes are usually determinants of good health
their genes that are perceived through their physical that will also produce healthy children.
looks. • Both male and female are often attracted to
symmetry.
Three Stages of Love (Helen Fisher) • Pheromones, an odorless chemical found in
urine and sweat can be detected by nose, are
1. Lust involved in the assessment of a future mate, an
indication of person’s immune system.
• Driven by the sex hormones, testosterone, and
• Women prefer men whose immune systems are
estrogen. These hormones affect both sexes.
different from theirs.
• Estrogen and testosterone are sex hormones,
present in both male and females, which Do you know that women are also attracted to men who
motivate individuals to find a mate – being the smell similar to their father as stated by Fisher? The
main hormones responsible for “sex drive”. preference of individuals to marry somebody depends if
Indeed, experiments have shown that altering they resembles one or both of their parents.
levels of these hormones has implications upon
sexual desire.
Theories of Attraction (The Rozenberg Quarterly)
2. Attraction
Aside from physiology, people are attracted to one
• Described as the loves-truck phase, which another because of other reasons. The Rozenberg
involves neurotransmitters in the brain such as Quarterly mentions several theories and research results
dopamine, norepinephrine, and serotonin. related to attraction and liking.
1. Transference Effect smiling, engaging in small talk, giving gifts, doing errands,
sending messages, or simply admitting to the other
• There are times we meet people who we immediately person that you are attracted to him or her.
like or dislike. Usually, these people remind us of
someone in the past who has affected our sense of Love and Intimacy
self and our behavior (Andersen, Reznik, and
Manzella 1996). There has been a raging debate over the definition of
• Our past relationships can affect our current love:
interactions with people.
Is love a feeling?
2. Propinquity Effect Is love a thought?
Is love physical?
Proximity is a possible factor why we like a person.
(Festinger, Schachter, and Back 1950). We often The American Heritage Dictionary defines love as:
develop a sense of familiarity with people who live
• A strong feeling of affection and concern toward
close to us, work with us, or go to school with us,
another person, as that arising from kinship or
which leads to liking them more.
close friendship.
3. Similarity • A strong feeling of affection and concern for
another person accompanied by sexual attraction.
We often like people who we have similarities with, • A feeling of devotion or adoration toward God or
such as social class background, religious beliefs, a god.
age, and education. It is a strong factor in friendship • A feeling kindness or concern by God or a good
and in the selection of a mate because it promotes toward humans.
intimacy, trust, empathy, and long lasting • Sexual desire or activity: the pleasure of love.
relationships. (Aron, Kalick, and Hamilton 1988)
Based on these definitions, we see several angles or
4. Reciprocity what love is. It is an emotion, a feeling, a virtue, an action,
and experience. Love is also defined differently in
We like people who like us back. Reciprocity is a different cultures.
stronger basis for liking another person than similarity.
The more we are liked by someone we equally like, Components of Love (Robert Stenberg)
the more we behave in ways that promote mutual
In this topic, we will present another theory but this time it
feeling of liking.
is about the different components of love as theorized by
5. Physical Attractiveness Robert Stenberg’s Triangular Theory of Love.
6. Personality Characteristics and Traits • Being intimate with another person is about being
open and vulnerable to that person. Communication
People get attracted to two characteristics that lead to is the key component in developing intimacy where
liking the other person, being emphatic persons, who self – disclosure is practiced.
exudes warmth, sympathy, and optimistic; socially
2. Commitment
competent persons, who are good communicators
and enjoy good conversations.
It is an act of deciding to consistently fulfill and live by
There are many ways to express one’s attraction to agreements made with another person, entity, or
another person. This may be conveyed through words of cause, and where the values of integrity and respect
appreciation and liking, or in acts such as winking, serve as a guide to one’s behavior and thinking.
3. Passion Spoilers to Commitment
• As defined in generic term, it is the intense state of As there are variables involved in strengthening and
being that drives and consumes a person to pursue maintaining a commitment, there are also spoilers to it.
an interest, a vision, or a person.
• In terms of romantic love, passion connotes sexual 1. Criticism
attraction, as well as intimacy.
• There is the absence of unconditional positive
Sternberg proposed eight forms of love based on the regard for each other
combinations created by these three components: • Constantly finding fault in the other partner will
intimacy commitment, and passion. result to negative feelings and resentment
3. Contempt
Commitment: Saying Yes and Meaning It 1. Be responsible for what you think and say to the other
person.
Psychologists have conducted research on commitment
and have identified three variables related to it • Emotions should be considered when dealing
(Rozenberg Quarterly): with other people.
Week 2: Social Relationship in Middle and Late Goleman’s Social Intelligence Theory
Adolescence
Emotional Intelligence author, Daniel Goleman, explained
In the previous chapter, we discussed personal in his book, Social Intelligence: The New Science of
relationship among adolescents and identified this type Human Relationships (2006), how our brains are wired to
of relationship as unique to the individual where privacy, connect with other people, and how part of the human
intimacy, loyalty, disclosure, and trust are important. brain located just above the eyes called the orbitofrontal
Personal relationship is usually present among family cortex (OFC) is connected directly to the three (3) major
members, close friends, and lovers whom one shares regions of the brain: the cortex, the amygdala, and the
intimate information with. brain stem.
In this chapter, we will expand the relationships of • Goleman pointed out that the OFC provides an
adolescents to a wider group of people, such as immediate connection between thought, emotions,
schoolmates, school authorities, community and behavior.
acquaintances, fellow members of social organizations, • It immediately calculates our feelings and thought
strangers they often meet casually in social gatherings, about a person and how that other person feels and
and even small groupings of friends in schools usually thinks about us, and what actions we take after this
referred to as cliques. quick assessment.
Social relationships are vital to adolescent’s Our social relationships, although dictated to a certain
development. The kind of circle where we belong will extent by our neural reflexes, are also affected by other
create an impact in our beliefs, outlook, and convictions factors such as social influence. What is social influence
in life. But what are social relationships as a concept? and how does this work in our lives?
• Tend to be less intimate, with lesser self-disclosure An article on Social Influence written by Lisa Rashotte,
involved, but may still be exclusive, and may discussed a study conducted by renowned social
demand certain levels of loyalty as in fraternities or psychologists French and Raven (1959) on the concept
social of power and how this is used in social influence and
• Refers to the connections that exist between leadership.
people action of others who have recurring
interactions that are perceived by the participants It is the process by which an individual's attitudes,
to have personal meaning. beliefs or behavior are modified by the presence
or action of others.
• It is how we interact and behave with other people, According to Rashotte, the authors defined social
and how they interact and behave with us. influence as things such as behavior, actions
attitude, concepts, ideas, communications,
In social relationships, we learn to cooperate with others
wealth, and other resources that bring about
in achieving a common objective.
changes in the beliefs, attitudes, and/or behavior
• This is the reason why middle and late adolescents of persons as a result of the action/s of another
usually find themselves in company with their peers, person.
usually from the school or the neighbourhood. Rashotte further explored how social influence is
• From high school to college, adolescents mature usually conducted through the use of power
faster socially, and new lessons are learned whether this was done authoritatively, coercively,
especially on how their social interactions affirm their suggestively, or by giving rewards.
self-identity, increase their self-esteem, and develop
Varieties or Types of Social Influence
their capacity to nurture relationships.
Herbert Kelman, a Harvard Psychologist, suggested that
there are three varieties of social influence, namely:
1. Compliance – is when a person seems to agree, the minority’s way of looking at and doing things are
and follows what is requested or required by accepted.
him/her to do or believe in, but does not
necessarily have the really believe or agree to it. This may happen when the minority owns and wields
2. Identification – is when a person is influenced power economically, political, and socially; or if the
by someone he or she likes or looks up to, like a majority are uninvolved and detached from issues.
movie star, a social celebrity, or a superhero.
3. Internalization – is when a person is able to own 4. Reactance (Non-Conformity)
a certain belief or act, and willing to make it
When there is a willing rejection of a social influence
known publicly and privately.
being exerted on an individual or group, reactance exists.
Other Types of Social Influence
• This is also known as anti- or non-conformity.
1. Conformity • It is a reverse reaction to some social influence that is
being imposed by a person or a group on another.
A type of social influence that involves a change in • An adolescent who is being prevailed upon by the
behavior, belief, or thinking to be like others. It is the most parents to stay at home during weekends and help in
common and pervasive form of social influence. the house chores may react and develop
nonconforming behavior of not following his parents.
• Researchers tend to distinguish to varieties under • Whether the influence is right or not, non-conformity
conformity: informational conformity (internalization in is the rejection of such influence.
Kelman’s terms) and normative conformity
(compliance in Kelman’s terms) 5. Obedience
• Conformity is very strong particularly among middle
and late adolescents. It is when a person follows what someone tells him or her
to do.
• An adolescent in this age group is most susceptible
to a compelling need to seek approval from others
• It may not necessarily reflect the person’s set of
and be accepted by them in order to become a friend
beliefs or values.
and to belong to a social group.
• Usually stems from either respect or fear of the
Conformity is brought about by peer pressure, often authority figure.
imposed on members of a group to demonstrate some
6. Persuasion
semblance of loyalty which is often deemed as necessary
to maintain one’s relationship with the group
It is used by one person or group to influence another
• It is the reason why group members look and to change their beliefs, actions, or attitudes by
behave very similarly with one another such as appealing to reason or emotion.
wearing of similar clothes or enjoying the same movie,
Indeed, social relationship is really a broad concept of
music genre, etc.
how we interact and behave with other people. In social
2. Conversion relationships, we learn to cooperate with others in
achieving a common objective through the proper and
It occurs when an individual whole-heartedly changes his acceptable ways and methods and through social
or her original thinking and beliefs, actions, and attitudes influences that will really bring the goodness and best in
to align with those of the other members of a group. us.
• It happens in a group when the original beliefs, Week 3: Leadership and Followership
attitudes, and behavior of the different members may
have influenced each other to evolve into a new set Leadership and Followership
of beliefs, attitudes, and behavior.
Much has been written and discussed about leadership
• Religious conversions are typical of this type of social
and how it impacts organizations and small groups alike.
influence where internalization happens to make the
But what do we mean really about the concept of
new set of beliefs, attitudes, and actions become
leadership?
one’s own.
What is Leadership?
3. Minority Influence
• The action of leading a group of people or an
This happens when a bigger number of people are
organization.
influenced by much smaller number or people and when
• The ability of a person in position of authority to Authentic Leadership
influence others to behave in such a manner that
goals are achieved (Barnard 1983). It is an approach to leadership that emphasizes building
• It is about people and for people. (John Maxwell) the leader's legitimacy through honest relationships with
• Involves making sound -- and sometimes difficult -- followers which value their input and are built on an
decisions, creating and articulating a clear vision, ethical. Authentic leaders are positive people with truthful
establishing achievable goals and providing followers selfconcepts who promote openness.
with the knowledge and tools necessary to achieve
Other leadership theories currently being explored and
those goals.
researched on are combinations of the different theories
Note: Power is also annexed to leadership as espoused mentioned earlier.
by French and Raven (1960) who said that a leader may
Three Basic Axioms of Leadership
obtain power through various means and sources, such
as position, giving rewards, expertise, respect, or In the book Why Should Anyone Be Led by You?:
coercion. What It takes to be an Authentic Leader? by Rob
Goffee and Gareth Jones (2006), the authors lined up
Theories of Leadership
three basic axioms of leadership and these are:
There are several existing theories of leadership. Let us
1. Leadership is Situational
discuss and learn some of them.
• Presupposes that leadership is a learned behavior. • Exercise of leadership is not based on one’s position
• Leaders are defined according to certain types of in an organizational chart alone.
behaviour they exhibit. • Dependent on other factors such as
characteristics, skills, and even connections.
3. Participative Theory
3. Leadership is relationship
• Opposite of autocratic leader
• Involves peoples to make common decisions. • Leaders and followers establish a relationship where
their interests are mutually met.
• The role of a leader in the relationship can vary from
4. Situational Theory
being visionary to a cheerleader.
• Assumes that there is no one style of leadership.
Critical Elements of Authentic Leader (Goffee and
• Leadership behavior is based on the factors in a
Jones in 2006)
situation, and usually takes into consideration how
followers behave. An authentic leader, according to Goffee and Jones, has
the following critical elements present:
5. Transactional Theory
1. They walk their talk.
• Leadership involves a transaction or negotiation of
resources or position. They are consistent on what they say and what
• Usually employs reward and punishment.
they do. They are practicing what they are
6. Transformation Theory preaching.
• Involves a vision which a leader uses to rally support 2. They are adaptive and flexible.
from followers.
• They adjust to situations and display consistency with
• The role of the leader is in motivating others to
their values and real selves.
support the vision and make it happen.
• They take different roles during different situations.
• A leader’s effectiveness is measured by the quality of • A leader is not stuck in his comfort zone because the
his relationship with his followers. world is constantly changing.
• Different types of relationships can evolve between • Flexibility and openness to new ideas are the
leader and follower in a certain work situation. hallmark of this kind of leadership.
• Detachment from resources of pride and pleasure is
• There should be an exchange of resources between also emphasized.
the leader and follower that is meaningful and viewed
by both parties as fair. 3. Love
Causes of Conflict Based on these two dimensions, there are five modes in
dealing with conflict.
Conflicts may arise due to the following (Myers, 2013):
1. Competing - is assertive and uncooperative. An
• Competing for scarce or limited resources such as individual's interests are above all else, power and
time, jobs, food, natural resources, and even love authority are often used to win against others.
and affection within family or personal relationships 2. Accommodating - is unassertive and cooperative.
• Disagreement over the interpretation of facts or An individual is willing to neglect his or her interests
information Perceiving threats to one's own needs or needs for the sake of the other person, yielding
and interests one's position and allowing the other to pursue his or
• Perceiving unjust treatment caused by another her position at the other's expense
person or entity 3. Compromising- is moderately assertive and
• Miscommunication between parties moderately cooperative. An individual is neither here
• Misjudging another person's or group's belief nor there, prefers to split whatever is at stake in half
systems born out of prejudice or bias to partly satisfy both parties just to get over the
problem
4. Avoiding - is unassertive and uncooperative. The group of individuals living under one roof and usually
individual prefers to stay out of the situation either by under one head, which may also be the definition of what
postponing a decision, taking a wait and see position, a household is. From a sociological point of view, Filipino
or withdrawing completely until conditions are better. sociologist, Belen T. G. Medina, PhD (2001), defined
5. Collaborating - is assertive and cooperative. The family as "two or more persons who share resources,
individual seeks a mutually satisfying solution by share responsibility for decisions, share values and goals,
understanding the needs and interests of the other and have a commitment to each other over time."
person, and expanding the resources rather than
competing over them. Seeks a win-win solution. Medina's definition of a family practically encompasses all
kinds of family relational variations, such as the nuclear
As an adolescent, what do you need to understand to family, the single parent family, the extended family, and
remember, and do when dealing with conflict? Keep in the childless family.
mind the following steps when trying to negotiate or
resolve a personal conflict. The nuclear or traditional family is comprised of a
father, a mother, and their offspring. Usually, the father in
• Understand the nature of the conflict. Is the the traditional family plays the role of the breadwinner
conflict caused by somebody else's behavior? Were while the mother stays at home to manage the house and
your expectations met? Did the person promise you the children. Contemporary lifestyles are changing this
something but did not fulfill it? Did someone fail to traditional set-up, with the reversal of roles between the
uphold something very important and of value to you? mother and the father. We now have families where the
• Acknowledge your feelings and emotions. Be mother is the breadwinner, while the father, also called as
aware of the stirrings of emotions within you. Express "househusband," manages the home. Another variation
this in a constructive way like verbalizing the emotion of the traditional family is where both husband and wife
with the other person are working and earning a living for the family while
• Examine your relationship with this person. How entrusting their growing child or children to hired
important is your relationship with the person? caregivers or relatives. Adopted children are also
considered as part of the nuclear or traditional family.
• Clarify your intentions. Do you want to continue
your relationship with this person or not? If yes, then In contrast to the two-income or traditional household,
proceed to undertake a dialogue. If not, decide if you there is the single parent who rears the child or children
want to keep the relationship or not. while earning for the offspring/s. This single parent may
• If you wish to keep the relationship, have a talk with be supported by relatives or hired caregivers to take care
the person involved stating that you value your of the growing children, which is now a common
relationship and would like to express your feelings occurrence in many Asian countries such as Singapore
about what was done or not done to you, then ask for and Hong Kong. A Filipino single parent may be assisted
an explanation as to the other person's actions. financially by the parents or relatives. Sometimes, the
• Once the dialogue is accomplished to your and the single parent will decide on cohabiting with a partner who
other person's mutual satisfaction, grant a is not the biological parent of the child. The cohabiting
reconciliatory act like shaking hands or embracing partner may not necessarily reside with the single parent
each other. Grant or request for forgiveness or and the child.
apology if necessary, then promise to move on.
The extended family is a very common family
Week 5: Family Structures and Legacies arrangement found in many parts of the world and most
particularly in Asia. The extended family is the nuclear
In the previous chapter, we discussed about the nature of family plus the parents of either the husband or the wife,
conflict, its stages, its sources and the different conflict or both their parents, depending on the arrangements
management styles. We can also recall that conflicts they make. Sometimes, a single brother or sister of either
have positive effects when perceived as a tool for one of the couples may also be part of the extended
improving and deepening relationships. Moreover, it is family. If there is a need for household help, the first
essential to resolve conflicts peacefully in order to option is to seek out a poorer relative from the provinces
empower relationships and to encourage positive to serve the family's needs. In an extended family, there
dialogue. could exist some friction when it comes to making
decisions. Traditionally, the man of the house is the
What are Family Structures? breadwinner and often makes most of the decisions
related to family affairs. However, with the presence of
The definition of a family has changed and continues to
the couple's parents, the decisionmaker may vary at
change as lifestyles, social norms, and standards are
times.
also shifting. The simplest definition of what a family is
according to Merriam Webster Online Dictionary is a
The childless family is just the couple without any child those who insist on their child learning important values,
or children, and who may be living all by themselves. norms, and rules, but are also willing to sit down to listen
They may or may not have household help assisting and negotiate with them should they resist (Papalia and
around the house. Feldman 2012). A parent wielding behavioral control over
a child such as providing curfews during weekends or
Influence of the Family on the Adolescent limited time for the child to be online is believed to
develop better adjusted children.
The family is considered the first place where growing
children learn their basic social skills. The interaction and Authoritative parenting is about exercising control over a
quality of relationship between parent and child are said child's behavior but not the child's emotions, beliefs, and
to determine the child's future relationships as he or she self-concept. This psychological control imposed by a
matures toward adulthood (Papalia and Feldman 2012, parent on a child through emotional manipulations or the
quoting Overbeek, Stattin, Vermulst, Ha, and Engels withdrawal of love and caring can harm the child's
2007). psychosocial development and mental health (Papalia
and Feldman 2012, quoting Steinberg and Darling 1994).
Family influences may vary based on the family structure
Studies have shown that when a parent provides for
present in the home. For the nuclear or traditional family,
psychological independence, the child tends to become
the values, social skills, and behavior are directly learned
self-confident and competent in their studies and social
from the parents and/or primary caregivers). These are
interactions. On the other hand, when parents control
expressed in their unique parenting styles, the nature of
their child psychologically, the child's emotional health
parental authority they practice, and the general
suffers more when the parent controls the child's
atmosphere at home. For a single parent family, the
behavior.
absence of one parent (either the father or the mother)
may create an impact on the growing child who would Parents of adolescents need to understand the
normally look up to authority as role models. Oftentimes, challenges involved in their development, such as their
single parents try to become both the mother and the struggle for independence and self-autonomy, the
father, or may seek out a relative (usually of the opposite formation of their identity and roles, and learning the
sex of the single parent) to stand in to compensate for the value of fidelity in the process.
absence of the other parent. Depending on how the
single parent manages the child, he or she may grow up Parents can serve as the models their adolescents can
well-adjusted or problematic. emulate while at the same time supporting their
development toward young adulthood. For example,
Extended families have both positive and negative parenting styles that allow meaningful dialogue to happen
influences on the child. On the one hand, the presence of between parent and adolescent encourages self-
different generations within a home provides the child a disclosure for the adolescent, which may result in
sense of stability in relationships as he or she witnesses learning about intimacy and trust. The parent's life
firsthand how relationships can work and endure situations, such as a career, personal relationships, and
challenges, and to see a continuum in the family line. The financial and social status, may also have an effect on
presence of grandparents also provides the child a sense how success is defined by the adolescent. All of these
of anchoring or rooting to the family's history; thus, are being observed and internalized by the adolescent,
enabling the child to appreciate family heritage and and may later on imitate them and claim them as their
traditions. On the other hand, the presence of own. We often hear of families where one or both parents
grandparents may create some confusion to a child, are doctors, lawyers, architects, and some of their
particularly when the biological parents may adopt a children follow their career and professional footsteps.
parenting style that is opposite that of the grandparents.
This happens, for example, when a parent would like to Family Heredity
teach a child the value of money or to delay gratification.
Doting grand- parents would often pamper and give in to When you look around the members of your family, you
a grandchild's whims as compensation for what they might have observed certain physical similarities that
perceive as their own shortcomings when they exist among yourself, your siblings, and your parents.
themselves were still parents. There are some characteristics that are influenced by
heredity, and even by the environment. One of them is
Parenting Authority and Styles obesity or leanness, where the predisposition toward one
or the other is often found throughout the generations
Authoritative parenting is a key factor in the from either side of the family. However, due to the
psychosocial development of an adolescent, and it is improvements made in nutrition, the younger generation
believed to foster a healthy and positive impact on the may outgrow their parents and tower over them,
adolescent's development (Papalia and Feldman 2012, Predispositions to certain diseases are often believed to
quoting Baumrind 19912005 Authoritative parents are
be passed on from generation to generation, such as become the best human being you can possibly
diabetes. A person with either one or both parents with be. Personal development is not a tool for reaching a
diabetes in their bloodlines is not necessarily doomed to bigger goal. Becoming a complete human being is
end up being a diabetic. A healthy lifestyle and diet can already the biggest and most noble goal you can
possibly offset the predisposition to the disease. aspire to.
Intelligence is another thing that is passed on due to Often, when we speak of being productive, the first thing
heredity, but is also due to other factors like brain size that comes to mind is "work" or "occupation".
and structure, and the compilation of many genes
resulting to intelligence. Of course, there are • However, as Turak proposed to create a mind-shift in
environmental factors that can affect intelligence such as our understanding of personal growth, he speaks
proper nutrition during pregnancy and childhood. more of a vocation, rather than a career.
• A vocation is about doing what you love to do and
There is a 40% to 50% chance of personality traits being employing all our knowledge, inherent skills, and
passed on through heredity (Papalia and Feldman 2012; personal traits to fulfill your life goal.
quoting Bouchard 2014) such as temperament, which is
the characteristic manner by which an individual looks at Whether one agrees with Turak's proposition about the
situations and how they react to them. However, it is objective of personal development, that it is not merely
believed that environmental factors are also influential in for success (and we mean success here in terms of
the development of such traits, especially learned material wealth. pursuit of one's career plans) but most
through social interactions initially at home, then in school, especially to fulfill one's fullest potentials as a person, is
and toward adult life, in the workplace. everyone's personal decision to make. In the end,
success is how it is defined by the person and no one
Some believe that personality traits can also be learned else.
through observation. A child may imitate a calm and
retrospective parent in the same way that a child may Career
imitate an agitated and irritable parent.
What does the word "career" mean? For many people,
Week 6: Persons and Careers career means the part of life that is concerned with
employment. From an occupational standpoint, it means
Career and Personal Development the sum total of the various jobs you may hold during
your lifetime. However, these definitions do not fully
How do we relate career to personal development? Is capture the meaning of career.
developing ourselves important in order to have a
successful career? • A career is a profession that a person may get into,
both because he has found a good match between
August Turak, author of the book, Business Secrets of his life goals, skills, personality, and interests with a
the Trappist Monks: One CEO's Quest for Meaning and dream job, or it may just be a means to earn a living.
Authenticity, and a contributor to Forbes Magazine, wrote • While careers can change through time, and this has
an article about what leaders must know about personal been proven ever so often, such as the medical
development. His proposition was that the purpose of doctor who, after so many years of studies and
developing ourselves is not just for a successful career in practice, decided to pursue his passion, which was to
the future, but for us to become the best person that we become a chef of his own restaurant, vocations are
ever can be. more consistent even in different situations and
conditions.
Turak wrote: What do you do for personal development?
• Someone who is passionate about education need
• The reason I find this question so difficult is that it not be a teacher or a professor in an academic
assumes that personal development is something setting. Education, in its broadest meaning, can be
we do in order to get success. And by success we formal or informal; with formal being in a school,
usually mean having successful career. whereas informal can be in any other situation, such
• It rarely occurs to anyone in our culture that someone as a social worker training people on basic hygiene
(a Trappist monk for example) might become an artist, or parenting, for example.
entrepreneur leader, or politician as a means to
What is career decision making?
personal development and not the other way around.
• Whether you call it personal development, personal You can best understand good decision making by first
growth, self-actualization, self-transcendence, or defining the term decision.
spirituality does not matter. What matters is
realizing that the reason you were born is to
• A decision can be defined as the act of choosing. A • In some instances, however, adolescents who were
decision, whether you are aware of it or not, is a given a free hand in choosing their course either
response to a question, concern, or problem. select the right one for themselves, graduate with
• Appropriate career decisions can be further defined good grades, and happily find the right job, or mess
as the ongoing lifelong process of making choices up in their selection because they based their
that complement your personal attributes and help decisions on what their peers say or think rather than
you to realize your basic life values. (Phifer, 2003) listening to their own voices.
• Peer pressure is a very strong influence in choosing
Indeed, a career decision should be made with great care, a course and school to go to.
for they will significantly influence your direction, personal
satisfaction, and fulfillment in life. Then there is the field of arts and crafts, trade and
industrial skills, or technical and vocational courses,
Career Selection among Filipinos which many Filipinos stay away from because as non-
diploma courses, they are usually perceived as inferior,
In the Philippines, education takes top priority among the
low-paying, and often associated with manual labor, and
majority of families after basic necessities are met. The
therefore not socially appealing.
belief that college diploma can improve one's life is the
major factor that drives many Filipinos to seek out the
most popular courses in college that can offer the best
chances of employment.
Career Development Theories
• This is evident in the way families literally enshrine Let us now take a look at some career development
the diplomas received by members of the family and theories or concepts to identify what researchers have
lining it up along the walls, together with honor found out as factors that affect and influence career
ribbons and medals, if they received any. selection and reflect on these to determine which are
• A college degree is the ticket from poverty to a more relevant to you.
comfortable life. It is also perceived as a way to
garner respect and pride within one's community. Richard A. Hansen of the City College of the City
University of New York, who conducted a study in 1976
During the past few generations, the padre de familia on the career development of high school students
selected the courses each of his children would take up. talented in science, is often quoted in his definition of
career development.
• Among the roster of first choices were medicine, law,
accounting, engineering, and education. • Hansen defines career development as the
• Later on, business administration was added to the continuous lifelong process of developmental
list including nursing, management engineering, and experiences that focuses on seeking, obtaining, and
hotel and restaurant management. processing information about self, occupational and
• Newer courses such as physical therapy and educational alternatives, life styles, and role options.
computer science were later added to the preferred • In other words, we go through life doing things to
list of courses. earn a living while we reflect on what we have
• Then about a decade ago, the need for medical learned and where else we can employ these skills
nurses became high globally, which prompted many and knowledge to improve our lives.
local colleges and universities to offer nursing in their
course offerings. There are four categories of career development theories.
This is particularly true in the Philippines where getting a Even the technology companies in the US are waking up
job is a priority. Often, the first job may not be one's first to the reality that majority of their employees are male
choice but to gain experience and immediate and they have to open up more to females.
employment.
8. Language Limitation
5. School Location
Language can be learned, so if you have this challenge
This is another practical problem that may arise when you before you do not be the faint of heart and just go ahead
choose your college course or career choice. and pursue your dream.
For example, students who live far from UP, especially if For example, you want to take up European studies to
they come from far places outside of Metro Manila, stay become a diplomat or an expert in European matters
in boarding houses near the campus if your family's someday, and you will be required to be able to speak at
financial capability is not a problem, then there is the least one European language, then go ahead and learn it.
option to rent a room or stay in a boarding house
somewhere nearby your school of choice. Or the school you want to get in is in a country where
English is spoken very little, find ways to overcome this
6. Peer Pressure obstacle by learning the language before you enroll.
Many adolescents are fearful of what college will be like. 9. Academic Performance
What they do is talk to their friends and classmates and Your academic performance in high school is also an
find out the school choices, hoping that they can be with important factor in your career selection.
someone they are familiar with, or better yet a close
friend to be with them in their new school your friends You should obviously graduate from high school in order
may exert some pressure on you to take up a course so to proceed with your next step which may either be taking
that you can be together even in college. a college course or a technical vocational course.
Then there is also the scenario with your special Putting It All Together - Plan Your Career
someone if you have one who might want the two of you
Planning one's career takes several steps. It includes an
to be together in college. Discuss and present your
awareness of many things about us like our personal
choices and reasons for these. At the end of the day, you
core values, passions, life goals, strengths and
decide what is best for you.
challenges, personality characteristics and traits, and the
7. Gender Bias internal and external factors in our circumstances,
including our limitations.
Certain careers are still suffering from gender bias and
this might happen to you if your career choice is • This exercise practically sums up what we have
associated with one particular gender. discussed and learned on personal development as
we put together what we have realized and
If so, you will also be faced with peer pressure, as well as understood about ourselves during the past months.
parental and family pressure. • We start this exercise by going through a values
clarification exercise.
For example, if you were a female and the profession you • We will validate the values that are meaningful to us
would like to get into is reserved purely for males, like those ones that resonate at the center of our being
being a sumo wrestler, your chances of becoming the ones we can proudly announce to our friends and
one is almost nil, especially if you were living in Japan to the world, because they are the values that find
where the role of the female is very much defined by their expression in our everyday life.
culture.
In the Philippines, there are few careers that are Prepare yourself as we will journey in putting together
genderspecific, there was even a time when engineering what makes us important and valuable, what directions
was purely a male choice and nursing was a profession our lives are being pointed to, and what significant
for females. decisions we have to make as we process the selection
of your career.
Make sure you are comfortable and prepared for this These include self-identity or self-concept, personality
exercise. It would be good for you to have a notebook or traits, duties and responsibilities, or roles, stress and
pad paper and pen to write down your answers as we go stressors whole brain theory, mental health, emotional
through the questions in this exercise. intelligence and emotions; personal relationships, social
relationships, conflict management styles, family legacies,
Values clarification: what are your personal core values? and personal factors influencing career choices.
We have earlier discussed universal human values in What are your limitations?
Chapter 3 and we were able to identify a listing of values
that transcended race, religion, and culture. In this Chapter 14 also allowed you to list down the external, as
section, we will focus on identifying our personal core well as the internal factors that influence career choices.
values. List down your personal factors and limitations in
choosing your career.
• First of all, these values are personal because we
own them and they are in our innermost core that What are your life goals?
define us as persons.
• Our personal core values are what we will stand up Look over your lists and get to know yourself a little bit
and fight for. better. As what has been said, with knowledge comes
• When another person does not honor or uphold a
personal core value, we react and often get angry
with this person. understanding, then acceptance with acceptance comes
• Remember that values may change over our lifetime the celebration of the person that you are.
as circumstances change as we grow older.
• This is the reason why values clarification is an In this section, put together your personal core values
important exercise that we have to go through every and craft your life goals based on them.
now and then.
For example, if balance is one of your personal core
What are your passions? values, one of your life goals is to "always maintain
balance between the different aspects of my life such as
Answer in all honesty the following questions making sure family, work or career, health, interpersonal relationships,
that your answers are exactly what you feel and think finance, leisure and relaxation, and spirituality."
now, and not in any future situation.
Complete your life goals following the same procedure for
Your answers are not something that you wish to do or
the remaining personal core values that you clarified.
have sometime in the future, instead, they represent what
you are today Write down your answers on a piece of Summarizing the Big Ideas in this Chapter
paper (Based on the 7 Questions to Finding Your True
Passion by Frederic Premji) . In making your Career Plan, it is important to know and
understand the key factors that influence your career
1. What do you enjoy doing that always puts a options. These are your internal and external factors,
smile on your face? life goals, personal core values, strengths and
2. What things do you find easy to perform or do? challenges, personality traits and characteristics and
3. What brings out the creativity in you? passions.
4. What will you do for other people that you will
not receive any payment or compensation for? It is also important to know and understand the different
5. What things are you sure you will not fail on? occupations and the skills and interests necessary to fit
6. What gets you all so excited you can talk about it in the job.
all the time?
Looking at the priorities in the job market is also
7. What makes you give up other seemingly
important as this is an indicator of how you will be
important things and prefer to do this at the
absorbed and provided with employment. However,
expense of other things?
there are other factors that you have to consider when
8. What do you want to be recognized for?
thinking about job market priorities or preferences, and
What are your personality traits? these are your own plans for your future, such as taking
up further studies here or abroad, or becoming an
Put together everything you have learned and discovered entrepreneur.
about yourself which are based on the topics that were
Always remember that careers can change because
discussed in the previous chapters of this book.
your life circumstances also change. Personal core
values can shift according to your need that is why
there is a need to undertake values clarification every
now and then.