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Onesseia Assignement 1 Counselling Reflection Paper July 10 2021
Onesseia Assignement 1 Counselling Reflection Paper July 10 2021
Counselling Reflections
O’Nesseia Edmondson
Introduction
This course and the opportunity to learn about and practice my reflective listening skills
has been extremely beneficial. I have definitely established a new level of respect for school
counsellors and counsellors in any capacity. This course has opened my eyes to levels of
counselling that I had never thought about before. I am to say the least flabbergasted with the
roles counsellors play in our schools and in the lives of our youngsters. I am happy that they are
there and will most certainly be putting out an extra effort into making any counsellor I come
across know how truly respectful I am of their jobs and their selflessness in playing such a
meaningful role in the lives of our students.
I am not a counsellor, but I am an elementary classroom teacher, which means I play that
role in some form or shape. I have been in education for twenty-one years, and in that time, I do
not have many deep memories of school counsellors that have worked closely with the students
in my class. It, therefore, leaves me serving in that capacity of mediator between students who
have disagreements. I may or may not have handled those situations well in the past, but thanks
to this course, I am sure that I have gathered some new tools for my toolbox that I will pull out
the next time I have to deal with any such situations.
Reflection
session by saying, I hear that, “You feel stressed because this disease will never go away, and
you are afraid of what could happen.” Or “You feel worried because you could wake up one
morning and find that you have to lose a limb.” I could have gone on by asking probing
questions such as, “What steps do you think you could put in place to deal with the fear of
damaging a limb while you are asleep and have no awareness of what is going on?” Repeating
what I was hearing from my client and asking her several probing questions using the ‘what’ and
‘how’ technique would have helped her reflect more, internalize the situation and probably
identify other solutions that she might not have thought about already.
Secondly, in a reflective counselling session, counsellors are not expected to ask close-
ended questions that require yes/no answers from the client. Those questions do not leave room
for the client to reflect and move forward in their thinking and solution. I am aware of at least
two times I asked my client forms of these questions in our sessions. In one instance, I asked,
have you spoken about this with your personal doctor? At this point, my client answered, ‘yes.’
Luckily, my client continued to expound on what she already knew about the disease and what
was or was not happening in the medical field concerning her condition. In a different scenario,
that might not have gone well, and I would have to find another way to get my client back on
track to discuss her feelings and concerns. This was also a great opportunity to include the use of
a metaphor. My client expressed feelings of stress and frustration; she was overwhelmed, and
using a metaphor would be an ideal technique to help her internalize things even deeper. Saying,
it sounds like you feel like a hamster on a wheel right now or your health is a roller coaster right
now, but there is always hope. Those would all be good ways to help my client make
associations, reflect and then think about further solutions to the problem. The use of those
techniques, strategically embedded at the right time, would have helped move her along in the
right direction. It was not my place to question what steps she had already taken towards getting
answers to her problem. If she wanted to divulge that information in our session, then she would
have done so in her time and in her own way. My job was simply to listen attentively, allowing
her to feel heard and valued.
Conclusion
I am even more respectful of counsellors now after more reflection to write this paper. It
is difficult to listen without asking questions. There were so many times that I could have
responded differently. I do not feel that I moved my client on any further than when she came
into our session. I also did not find out where she was when she came in, so I could not tell if she
was feeling any better at the end of our session. Asking her where she was on a scale of 1-10 at
the end of our session was pointless as there was nothing to compare it with. I may not have
adequately accomplished getting to a level 5 or even a level 4 on the Empathy Rating Scale
(Ivey, Ivey, & Simek-Morgan, 1993, p. 27-28). I seem to want to give advice which is the natural
instinct I believe of human beings. We feel we need to ‘fix’ everything. If you are a mother, then
it makes it all the worst. There is so much more I would want to learn about counselling and how
to listen effectively without that desire to give advice. It would be amazing to learn how to listen
so that my clients, students, even my spouse and children can feel heard. In all honesty, I do not
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know how well I would do at this reflective counselling long term, but I am sure going to try,
starting at home. I may not have come close to ‘nailing it’ this time, but I intend to continue
learning and growing in this area of counselling. After going through this course and
participating in the reflective role-play sessions, I truly believe that it does take a special calling
to do a school counsellor's work.
To be an effective school leader and accomplish the LQS expectations, I must be engaged
in life-long learning. I am now on a path towards learning as much as possible about counselling
techniques that are effective and how I can use them to help others through their struggles and
needs. As I wrap up this reflection, I’ll do so with these wise words:
“Empathy has no script. There is no right way or wrong way to do it. It’s simply listening,
holding space, withholding judgement, emotionally connecting, and communicating that
incredibly healing message of, “You’re not alone.”” – Brene Brown.
References
Alberta Education. (2020, October). Leadership quality standard.
https://www.alberta.ca/assets/documents/ed-leadership-quality-standard-english.pdf
Ivey, A. E., Ivey, M. B., & Simek-Morgan, L. (1993). Counseling and Psychotherapy: a
Multicultural. Perspective. (3rd edition). Boston: Allyn & Bacon.
Pinterest. Brene Brown Quotes. https://www.pinterest.ca/pin/419468152797175363/
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REFLECTIVE PAPER: Reflect on this and also pick 2 areas where you would want to improve
and why?
Skills Listen For Points Obj. Comments (*) why.
Demonstrated (*) (Evaluator: record notes) (*) Met What added feedback
(1-5) (*) did the partner give
about this section?
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Was it effective/why?
Non-verbals?
Welcoming open Caring spirit; open
introduction invitational phrase 5 Yes Welcome was pleasant,
E.g., “What brings you and caring.
in today?” “I have been “Hi Vicki, how are you
looking forward to today?” It’s so good to see
meeting with you you, what brings you in to
today.” see me today?’
Reflection with content “Tell me more about that.” The client had started to
#1 (0.34) 2 yes explain what had been
(not “how does that going on but not too
make you feel?”) deeply. She paused so the
counsellor asked her to
tell her more.
No content included.
Reflection with content Ahh Yeah, Vicki, I can hear Counsellor could have
#2 that you are doing quite a bit 3 Yes acknowledged what she
to ensure that you are was hearing and how the
keeping yourself safe. (4:32) client might have been
feeling.
E.g., I hear that you are
feeling stressed right now
because all these
symptoms have come
back and it sounds like
they will never
completely go away.
Paraphrase #1 “So, what I’m hearing Vicki I could have
is that you are feeling a little 3 yes acknowledged that she
frustrated today, a little said she was feeling
concerned, a little fearful stressed and scared.
maybe that you have Instead, I said she,
contracted a disease that is sounding frustrated,
causing you some trouble concerned and fearful.
right now.” (1:04) I could have also asked a
question here to help
Vicki to think of ways to
start dealing with the
feeling of stress and fear.
For e.g. What can you do
to help to calm
those fears and
take your stress
level down?
Paraphrase #2 I’m hearing that you feel a Counsellor acknowledged
little bit restricted with the 3 yes how the client may have
things you can eat and things been feeling but went on
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“Client” comments: