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Sophie Young Genogram Assignment
Sophie Young Genogram Assignment
Sophie J. Young
December 1, 2021
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A genogram is a powerful tool to help one better understand their family history, family
connections, and past and present relational patterns. Within this reflective essay, I will be
unpacking the patterns, tensions, and areas for growth within my own family. When discussing
one’s family of origin, I believe disclosing prominent cultural factors is highly important. Each
identifies as a heterosexual Caucasian American. Following and practicing the Christian faith is
likely the most important value each family member holds, with few exceptions. The Young side
of the family largely identifies with the Southern Baptist denomination of Christianity whereas
the DeHart side identifies as Episcopalian. Given the importance of faith in my family’s history,
it was no surprise that my sister, Savannah, and I were raised going to church each Sunday with
my parents. The Christian faith has had a very positive personal impact on my life, and has
seemed to serve as a protective and grounding mechanism for many of my family members.
However, this faith has not been pursued by my older sister, Savannah, the only member in three
generations to struggle with substance use, which has resulted in many dysfunctional dynamics
Before diving deeper into the relational patterns between myself, my sister, and my
parents, I believe it is critical to reflect upon the upbringing of Scott and Sara, who each had their
own unique experiences and relations. Analyzing the upbringings and attachment styles of my
parents can assist me in gaining a well-rounded understanding of the parenting choices they
Parenting Patterns
McGoldrick wonderfully states in her book The Genogram Journey (2011) how
“studying the patterns of family conflict and alliance on a genogram can help you see the
automatic responses people often have to family events, even when they think they are being
objective” (p. 34). This statement absolutely holds true when I think of the ways my parents
interact with us based on what I have heard about how their parents interacted with them. My
father, John “Scott” Young, was raised by John and Loretta Young. He has a wonderfully close
relationship to Loretta, but has always struggled with his and John’s relationship. My grandfather
often emphasizes how much he cherishes his family since he grew up without a father figure in
the home. However, his approach to parenting was a strong overcompensation from his own
father’s lack of involvement. Throughout his childhood, my father was consistently commanded
to spend every moment of his free time with my grandfather, typically in the form of grueling
yardwork. My father has described his father as rigid, stubborn, and suffocating. Because of his
father’s hovering tendencies, my father has counteracted this by being a very hands-off parent
with Savannah and I. While he is incredibly loving, supportive, and present when needed, he
typically will not reach out or engage with us unless we initiate the interaction.
In contrast, my mother, Sara DeHart-Young, had quite the opposite upbringing. Her
parents, Francis and William “Bill” DeHart, can be described as cold and detached. My mother
often speaks negatively of her childhood, stating that she did not feel wanted or bonded with
either of her parents, especially with Francis. She has described to me how whenever she was
upset or crying as a child, rather than comforting her, her parents would shut her in her room. My
mother has also mentioned that she knows her parents’ parents had abusive tendencies which
may have led to their inability to form emotional connections with her. Because of the neglect
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she experienced, my mother intentionally chose to behave in the opposite manner with my
Savannah and I by providing us with a very warm, supportive, and loving home environment.
While I would describe my mother and I’s relationship as very healthy and engaged, her
and Savannah are currently in the process of resolving their enmeshed relationship. Gladding
The physical and psychological overinvolvement began when my sister received a DUI during
her second week of college. This serious offense resulted in her losing her driver’s license for a
year, transferring away from the “party school” she attended, and living an isolated life. Over the
next seven years, my sister developed an alcohol addiction, struggled with highly unstable
symptoms of depression and anxiety. Watching my sister struggle in so many ways was
incredibly painful for my parents and I, especially my mother. Because of the distance she felt
from her parents, my mother overcompensated by becoming the other extreme and enmeshing
with Savannah. Her good intentions of desperately trying to help her daughter resulted in a
strained relationship between each and every member of the nuclear family.
As Savannah’s substance use continued to worsen over the years, my mother was finally
able to see how her overinvolvement did nothing but drain her and strain the family. Presently,
she has concluded that the best way to support Savannah is to allow for more distance in their
relationship to give her more autonomy and responsibility in her own life. The added distance
has already decreased tension between her and Savannah, her and my dad, and decreased the
jealousy I felt from my older sister getting much more attention than me. However, Savannah
(2015) interviewed individuals who have a sibling with problematic substance use. Upon reading
the qualitative research results gathered, what struck me most was what participant’s shared as
the noted strengths of their sibling relationship. Having acceptance, compassion, and love for
their sibling, not judging their sibling’s behavior, and feeling empathetic towards their sibling
were the most commonly discussed strengths within the study (Incerti, Henderson-Wilson &
Dunn, 2015). Quite honestly, I have failed to uphold any of these qualities in the past, which
would explain why Savannah and I’s relationship has been to strained. My fear and disbelief of
my sister’s addiction has led me to be judgmental, disappointed, and withdrawn from her for
many years. It wasn’t until I began this course and read about the impact addiction can have on a
family that my eyes were opened to my own negative impact. Much of my personal growth this
semester has been working to release the judgment I feel towards my sister and to cultivate
acceptance, love, and understanding for her. She has had a traumatic past and greatly struggles
with anxiety, depression, and disappointment in herself. From this lens it makes sense why she
has turned to alcohol since this relieves her of the pain and fear she experiences, even if only
temporarily. McGoldrick (2011) notes that sibling relationships are often the longest relationship
held in our lives. I believe that by harnessing positive feelings towards Savannah and by turning
towards her in her times of need rather than away from her, we can work to establish a strong
Prevalence of Anxiety
An additional pattern that I have noticed within my family is the persistent of anxiety.
Every member in the genogram, excluding my uncles on my mother’s side, have struggled with
persistent anxiety in their lives. All four of my grandparents have exhibited their own anxious
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tendencies that have seemed to trickle down through the generations. Interestingly, a meta-
analysis by Ask et al. (2021) summarizes how twin studies have shown heritability rates of
anxiety to be consistently low to moderate, ranging from 20-60%. While these numbers are not
as high as I had anticipated, the article also highlights the nature versus nurture debate and the
impact that environment can have on anxiety expression. Through this lens, it makes sense that
my grandparents have these tendencies, given their history of abusive, neglectful family
dynamics. Additionally, it makes sense that the avoidant-insecure attachment style my mother
profession as counselors has impacted my sister and I’s experiences with anxiety disorders. I
remember my parents explaining what anxiety was to me on my first day of kindergarten when I
was five years old. The word “anxious” seemed to be constantly used by my parents, and was
always framed as a maladaptive trait that needed to be fixed. While my parents absolutely had
good intentions in wanting to educate and assist us, I wonder if the early pathologizing could
have exacerbated the symptoms and identification with the disorder that Savannah and I
experience.
After reflecting on the existing patterns within my family, I believe that the best ways to
increase our family functioning would be by each member recognizing their roles, the strengths
and weaknesses they bring to the family, and the shifts they can make to help our system work in
a more healthy and productive manner. This would look like an increase in acceptance and
compassion from me towards my sister, an increase in distance between my mother and sister,
and increase in involvement from my father who tends to withdraw during the drama, and my
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sister’s continued engagement in supportive services for her substance use like individual
Although my family has been working towards healthier functioning over the last few
months, taking this time to personally reflect on our past, present, and future with the aid of a
genogram has been a fascinating and rewarding process. Additionally, I believe that the Incerti,
Henderson-Wilson, and Dunn (2015) article provided me with the support, evidence, and
guidance I needed to truly begin to work on my relationship with my sister as she lives with an
alcohol addiction. As someone who is interested in working with couples and families in the
future, I appreciate having the opportunity to objectively view my own family unit, the multi-
generational impact of dynamics, and the personal responsibility I hold to make positive changes
towards healthier functioning. The continued emphasis from the McGoldrick (2011) text of the
importance of family, the unique emotional closeness it holds, and its impact on the course of our
lives has helped me cultivate a stronger value of spending time with my kin, which is something
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References
Ask, H. et al. (2021). Genetic contributions to anxiety disorders: Where we are and where we are
https://doi.org/10.1017/S0033291720005486
Gladding, S.T. (2016). Family Therapy: History, Theory, and Practice (6th ed.). Upper Saddle
Incerti, L., Henderson-Wilson, C., & Dunn, M. (2015). Challenges in the family: Problematic