SJC-Atri-Class-4 &5: Jyotish Guru Sanjay Rath

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What Gurudev Said…

On Marriage From SJC-Atri Class-4 & 5 New Delhi Translation by Ajay Zharotia

In the lotus feet of Sri Guru Sanjay Rath ji Sri Guru Sarbani ji My Special
Dedications to Sri Guru Visti Larsen ji
Please note This is the Translation of the lecture given by Guru Sanjay Rath during
SJC-Atri Class-4 &5. Gurudev did not edit this translation. All mistakes are mine.
Please forgive me for my limitations. In case of any query direct it to me.
ajayzharotia@yahoo.com

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||Hare Rama Krsna||

Marriage
Ok, lets understand about marriage. Marriage is related to which house? 7th house.
What Happens when person marries twice or thrice? Will you look for 7th house
again? Students: Various opinions. It means your concept of marriage is not clear.
Now understand this. The first marriage is seen from the 7th house in navamsa. The
Second marriage takes place after the break of first one or during the concurrence
of the first one. There is a difference. How will you see the difference? First
marriage is seen from the 7th house, second marriage is seen from the 9th house,
and similarly, third marriage is seen from the 11th house and then lagna, got the
point, after every third house. See this in the Navamsa not in Rashi Chart. It will
not tell you how is your Spouse? This you will get to know from 7th house in
Navamsa. 7th house in Navamsa is your first wife. 9th house in Navamsa is your
second spouse while first marriage is going on. 11th house in Navamsa is your third
spouse with first and second spouse going on. Getting my point. This way you will
see spouse when the previous marriage is still going on. But in modern times you
will see less of these cases. In most of the cases you will see where first
marriage is broken and second marriage takes place. Apply Vimsottari dasa if there
is any connection with 7th lord blindly predict about marriage. Lagnesh can also
give marriage provided if he has good aspect or argala on 7th house. Study Navamsa
only, do not waste your time much in the rashi chart. 7th house in rashi Chart will
tell only you about your point of view about “Vivaha” and its “Phala”. Suppose
somebody have Jupiter in 7th house and in Rashi chart and Rahu in 7th house in
navamsa chart, which is correct? Rahu is correct. If you take Jupiter and start
telling about spouse then your prediction will be wrong. Rashi is your attitude and
navamsa is your spouse’s attitude. If somebody has Rahu in 7th house in Rashi Chart
and Jupiter in 7th house in Navamsa chart, then person will have a terrible
attitude towards marriage but he is so lucky that he got such a good spouse. Ok.
How does first marriage brakes? From the 8th house (2nd from 7th) and the next
marriage will take place from the 7th from the 8th house i.e. is 2nd house in
navamsa. Similarly, 2nd marriage will break from the 3rd house and 3rd marriage
will be seen from the 7th thereon i.e. 9 th house. This is very simple rule. In the
same manner you can see the further marriages.
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So, what is the definition of marriage here? Marriage is defined as “one man and
one woman staying together in mind, not in body, and during that time they will not
think of somebody else. That is the perfect “Vivaha” as defined by Sri Krishna in
Mahabharta. Sri Krishna asked Dhrupadi to live with one husband for one year to
maintain purity and not to even think about others during that period. Sri
Krishna’s definition will be valid in Kaliyuga not of Sri Rama. Ok. Normally in
India you will not find this problem because here everything is clear. You will
have this problem in cases from other countries where it is very difficult to
define what is marriage and what not. Student: But other countries also have
rituals for marriages. Do not confuse yourself by rituals. It is important to have
clarity on this. All the rituals are made by the men not by the god. You and I and
everybody will be judged by this definition, which Sri Krishna has given, there is
no other definition of marriage. As Kaliyuga will advance Sri Krishna’s rule will
apply. So how will you catch a chart? The 7th house from Shukra will tell us from
where the first spouse will come. How will you meet your spouse? Who will bring the
spouse? Let us take a random case. Example Chart: Male

In the above chart, Shukra is in Kumbha Rashi and 7th from thereon is Simha Rashi
with Guru in it. The lord of Simha is in Meena Rashi so there is a Parivartan. What
does it mean? It means that Surya was suppose to bring the wife but now Guru will
bring it because of Parivartan. Now Guru is in Sthira Rashi, right. Now tell me
where is Guru in Navamsa? In Mesh, Char Rashi ok.
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Out of these two we consider that in Guru in Rashi is stronger then Navamsa. So
taking Guru in Sthira Rashi, means less energy, we assume that spouse will be found
nearby . In the same manner Dwi-Svabhava rashi means Short Distance and Chara means
long distance. In this case person met the spouse in the same locality where he was
living. They use to study together in the same school shows representation of
guru’s significance in bringing the spouse. So the people who are not getting the
spouse do not run after 7th lord. See 7th from your Shukra and judge. This is the
principle for both male and female chart. This is very important point in horoscope
matching, which nobody sees these days. Ok tell me your spouse’s kundali, where is
Shukra in her chart? Example Chart: Female

Shukra is in the 9th house and 7th from there is Karka rashi. There are no grahas
in karka. Now see where is Chandra, in Kumbha Rashi. So again Sthira rashi, if we
see your wife’s Kundali than we can tell her that you will meet your husband in
your neighborhood only. Naturally, if you will meet her in your locality, she will
also meet you in the same locality. You see, the Graha, which is bringing wife in
your kundali and the Graha, which is bringing husband in your wife’s kundali
showing the same thing. So, before doing any calculations for matching the kundali
see which Grahas are bringing the spouse. In the male kundali it is Guru who is
bringing the spouse and in female it is Moon bringing the spouse. What kind of
Sambandha is there between them? His guru is in Simha and her Chandra is in Kumbha,
you see, what yoga it makes? Guru in Simha and Chandra in
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Kumbha, Gajkesari yoga occurred. Beautiful match, “Uttam Vivaha”. Marriage will be
successful. This is the important aspect of kundali matching, remember this, it
will work. Now, study the chart further. This is the first step, which I told you;
now see the happening of marriage. How will you see it? Second is to see upapada,
match the upapada, and third is to see 7th house in navamsa. See his 7th house in
Navamsa. Can you see the entire family of his wife by making 7th house of navamsa
as lagna of his wife? See, the same thing from the wife’s chart also. If you can
see the relation then there marriage is possible. We are proceeding logically; you
wanted to know how would they marry? This is how they marry. Tell me, what is your
rashi of 7 th house in your navamsa? Mesha rashi, with Shukra, Budha and Guru in
it. Very good. Jaimini say two grahas are enough to make person rise in 7th house
in Navamsa. He has three, all benefics, fantastic. Now see where are these three
grahas in her wife’s rashi chart. Please note, I am seeing his navamsa and her
rashi chart. Shukra is the lagna lord, and placed in 9th house, very strong, very
good. Jupiter is placed in 5 th house. Both the grahas are placed in Trikona. The
grahas placed in lagna and in its trikona influence the nature of the person. So
the Graha placed in 7th house of his navamsa should also make some influence on his
wife nature that is why they should be ideally in trikona to her lagna. Do the
matching this way. Have you seen how they got married? After that we do upapada
matching. We will do that in next class. See, I am teaching you the basics first.
These basics no body will ever teach you. Your foundation will be very strong by
these teachings. Now you do exercise by taking as many cases you can. See how they
worked? Sometimes the result will come from rashi, some time it will come from
navamsa. Study more.

Upapada (from class –5)

Now, one of the most important factors of marriage is upapada. The most important,
the Arudha pada of 12th house is called upapada. Upa means subordinate, below or
behind, ok. Who is behind the lagna, the 12th house so the pada of 12th house is
called upapada. Ok. Many people do many calculations but do not confuse your self.
Upapada means Arudha of 12th house. Clear, ok. No ambiguity. Now, the calculation
of upapada is done like this. Arudha is defined as reflection of a house about its
lord. Do you understand reflection? It is like mirror. See, if we place a mirror
here, I can see reflection of Ajay in that mirror. Why? Because, the light, which
is coming from Ajay, is falling on that mirror and coming to my side, means the
degree of angle it falls on the mirror will be the same degree of angle it
reflected back to me. Ok, so how will we decide this angle in horoscope, we will
count the number of houses from the house in question to
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its lord. And then we will count the same number of house from the lord. For
example Lagnesh is in 2nd house, so from lagna we will count to the lord. It is two
houses away then we will count two houses from Lagnesh that will bring us to the
3rd house. So the Arudha of lagna will be in 3rd house in this case. It is very
simple calculation. It has two conditions. The Arudha cannot be in 1st and 7th
house. If Arudha falls in these houses then count 10 houses from there. Arudha will
not be stable over there. Some people do not agree to this but the Parashara,
which, we read, and other authors also agree to this. For example if Lagnesh is in
4th house than the Arudha falls in 7th house but it will not be allowed to stay
over there and run from there to the next 10 houses means 4th house so, the Arudha
will be in the 4th house. In the same way we can calculate all the houses. Very
simple. Ok. Now, Arudha shows where something tangible is manifesting. Where it
will show? How it will show? If you cannot see the spouse how will you marry? If
you can’t see the physical body of the spouse whom you will marry? That tangible
object which you call your wife or husband what is that? Truly speaking it is piece
of mud in which Brahma has put the Gayatri mantra. Do not get angry with me that I
am calling your spouse a mud but that is the reality. How you recognize your
spouse? By seeing his/her body. Is there any other way of knowing him? No. So that
body comes from where? That body comes from upapada. The body of the spouse is
manifested through the upapada. It is Maya, not permanent. It will go away one day
whether you like it not. What will remain is the lagna the fame that why lagna is
related to fame. Good or bad only fame will remain. All the Arudha will go away and
lagna will remain. So my spouse is the Arudha of 12th house or manifested through
upapada. Now, from where this body is coming? How is this body? From a well to do
family or from a poor family. How will you see? If lord of upapada is exalted than
it is coming from good well to do family. In the same way if it is debilitated then
from the poor family. The name, of a person is not associated with lagna it is
associated with Arudha only, because that name the person will carry so long the
body lives. After the body dies he will have to leave that name and look for
another name. But even if the person dies his name remains so we can say that name
link the Arudha and the lagna. It is an advance concept but worth thinking. Think
about it. Ok, let us go to back to Arudhas. Through the upapada we can know the
lagna of the spouse provided you are choosing the spouse. If you are not choosing
the spouse somebody else is choosing then your upapada and their upapada will
match. This will happen in case of arranged marriages. How many type of marriages
are there? Have anybody read about them? You should read about Indian culture at
least. 8 types of marriages are there, Asta Mangala”. You should read how
beautifully Indian culture has defined the types of “Vivaha” and types of
“Santana”. So, if some person is not been able to marry then it because that person
is not able to see the spouse. You see, some people do not see each other for 20
odd years and
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suddenly after 20 years see each other and marry and remain together for entire
life. Isn’t it beautiful? Don’t you feel surprised? Think for a second. So what
exactly is happening Upapada, 12th house? 12th house we talked of moksha also, it
is important. I am saying 12th house as Moksha and 12th house as bandhana also.
Marriage is a kind of bandhana only, there is no greater bondage than “Vivaha”, do
you agree? So, I mean to say that there is no greater path than “Vivaha” for
Moksha. All the rishis, I think most of them were married. People have many
concepts but I say there is no better path then Vivaha for Moksha because upapada
also comes from the 12th house and Moksha also comes from 12th house. Are you able
to understand there is a relation between the two? Our great Parashara was also
married and Vyasa, and Vashistha also. What about Atri Muni, do you know his wife
great Anusuhya. She was the greatest Pativrata; people say that if a lady takes
Anusuhya’s name only for 108 times then all her troubles will be over. Sita used to
worship Anusuhya only. Do you know that? Anusuhya knew what will happen in the life
of Sita and gave her Abhushana (jewels) and told till the time these Abhushana are
there on your body your purity will be protected. So who protects these marriages
these rishi’s wives only and of these Anusuhya is the highest. She is the most
adorable. That is why I say read our texts. You need to know your culture. Student:
There are eight rishis who were not married, I do not know all of them but greatest
among them was Lomash, then Narada, then Sukdeva, there is controversy on his name,
then Markandya, then there is Ashtakbal, so there are eight rishis who were not
married. So, anyway this misconception that you need to take brahmacharya to get
moksha is wrong. Brahmacharya is purely your personal choice, of a certain path,
that is all. It has nothing to do with whether you will be granted moksha or not.
It is for god to decide, no human being will decide. You have been given body to
produce children for the continuity of the world. As far as your physical union is
for the purpose of begetting children and there are whole lot of conditions
mentioned in Shastra. Ok. Anyway, Upapada will decide the body of your spouse. If a
man want to marry what is he praying for, a goddess to come in his life. No body
wants to marry Suparnakha, sister of Ravana. Every body want goddess is it not? So
when you want a goddess you might as well pray to a goddess. See the upapada and
see what is there which is causing the problem. Why the person is not appearing in
front of you? 7th house is nothing to do with it; the problem is with the upapada.
7th house is your spouse who is somewhere else doing job or study or business
whatever, something, you do not know about him. Because the person is not in front
of you. So there is no point in worshipping 7th house, worship upapada so that he
appears in front of you in physical body. How to do it? All these grahas have Adi
deveta and Pratyaadi devetas, you must be aware of them. Worship the
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Adi deveta of the planet, who is the lord of the upapada, provided no grahas in the
upapada. If there are grahas is in upapada then the Avatar of that Graha need to be
worshipped. Adi deveta will indicate a particular deity and Graha will indicate
avatar of that deveta. Immediately marriage will take place. The right time of
marriage is when Brhaspati has rashi Drishti or Graha Drishti on 2nd house from
upapada. Even if there is no Drishti, but it has some connection with the 2nd lord
from upapada in any form or manner then it is good for marriage. So that blessings
of guru come for the long marriage. If blessing is not there you may marry but it
may not be long lasting. See Brhaspati is the Akash tattva, which binds all other
tattva together. So it is important that Brhaspati must have some connection with
UL and 2nd from Upapada so that marriage will happen and will be long lasting also.
So, it’s clear. Ok. There was one girl I know having upapada in Mithuna rashi
(Gemini), no grahas are there in that rashi. So what do you think I would have
advised to worship to that girl. Yes, Vishnu, why Vishnu because adi deveta of
mercury is Vishnu. I did not tell her Krishna or Rama etc. no modifications in
deveta. Till the time there is no grahas there then no avatar. Simple rule. Now,
how to worship Vishnu, I had two options. Vishnu can be worshipped on Dwadashi, the
tithi ruled by Mercury or he can be worshipped on Thursdays because he is the lord
of Akash tattva. See when you are worshipping Vishnu what are you asking for? When
you worship Vishnu on Thursday then you are increasing Akash tattva because he
rules it. The effect of this worship will be different from the Dwadashi worship of
Vishnu. And it is also very different from Wednesday fasting or vratam of Vishnu.
What do we want? We want that her spouse should come to her in physical self. So,
remember, we have to take the day lord, not the tithi lord, not the tattva lord.
Because “Vaar” rules physical bodies. Have you read Panchaang? No, pick up that
book of Visti and read about it. Buy that book and read it. So Vaar (day) is body,
and fasting on Wednesday from sunrise to sunset and worshipping Vishnu will bring
the spouse to her. It was impossible thing as far as her mother was concerned but I
told her you wait and see. It happened. Now you understood why it is important. All
the Arudhas are nothing but physically manifested people. You can do many things if
you understand the Arudhas. Ok, lets take this example, Mithuna lagna, Shukra is in
5th house in Tula rashi so where is upapada? In the 10 th house Meena Rashi. Draw
the chart and do it. Now 10th house has got Chandra and Ketu in it. First thing is
it delayed or denied what is the problem in the marriage? See that first. Brhaspati
is in Lagna and Shani is in 3rd house. What will you recommend to this girl? Now,
see when there are two grahas in the upapada then there is battle between them for
bringing the spouse. It will create confusion in choosing the spouse that is why
delay. Relationship between Chandra and Ketu is not cordial. Ketu says pickup the
more spiritual kind of person; Chandra will say pickup the social kind of person so
there is confusion. So can you tell me what to advice the girl?
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Student: Fasting on Thursday. Yes, first thing is to recommend the fasting on for
the day lord. If you are not going to fast forget it. You must tell it. No body
else can do any thing if you cannot fast. Not tantrik pujas and all, nothing. It is
between you and god no third party. As a jyotish you must tell the person it is
your dharma to tell that person. They do it or not it is upto them. If Upapada is
creating the problem then fasting is must. You must tell that. In this case fasting
is on Thursday. What else? Students: Worship of Krishna avatar. Why is the Chandra
better than Ketu? Ketu in Upapada can give you spiritual husband. So tell me any
avatar of Vishnu, which represent Chandra and Ketu. Before that please check if it
is male or female horoscope. If it is male horoscope the upapada is female and if
it is female horoscope the upapada is male. Be clear on this. Do not suggest Male
deity to male and female deity to female. Follow this Strictly. Suggest Male deity
to female and goddess to male. Do not make any mistake in this. Let us have clarity
on this first. For a male horoscope, the deity will be female, Lakshmi swarupa. For
a male horoscope you treat the wife who is going to come as Devi Parvati. The
person who is worshiping is Shiva himself and should think of wife as Shakti then
he will have good Santana whereas the women when she is looking for the man should
look for Lord Vishnu as her husband. See, there is a difference, I have not told
you Lakshmi and Shiva. Why? If a person is seeking Lakshmi as wife before marrying
it can bring some greed in his mind. Then he will see money of the wife. Which is
not right. Whoever is going to come do not see her bank balance, it is wrong. You
are marrying the girl because you like the girl. Because, she want to be the mother
of your children after marriage. So what are you looking for? Devi Parvati. Clear.
She will be a good mother. So the Das Avatars are called Das Maha Vidya. The Graha
representing the Maha Vidya that Devi will come to your house. This the way a man
should look at his wife. He should not look at his wife as Lakshmi till they are
married. After marriage it is a different issue. Similarly if a woman has to look
for man she has to look for sustenance that is why she has to look at lord Vishnu.
If she looks for Shiva, who is Parma yogi, having two-piece of cloth sitting in the
Himalayas why he will come and marry her. Tell me, will you marry a person who does
not have anything and sitting in the Himalayas, then why worship him for marriage.
You want your husband to be wearing Mukuta, Good clothes, have some position,
status, and who can sustain you. Right. So at the time of marriage woman must
worship Vishnu and Man must worship Devi Parvati. See the Sumya forms of goddesses
for example Tara. For Mars you can take Pitambara, because Bagula Mukhi is the Pila
Shakti. Do no
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see her as troublemaker that my wife is Mangala, very furious. Look at her as
Bagula and think that your son will be like Hanuman. It is the question of how you
look at it. Ok now, this is a female kundali so Vishnu avatar of Chandra is Krishna
and further you can take Krishna avatar of Ketu. Who is that? Krishna has many
avatars like Bal Gopal, Lord Jagannath, and Lord Vitthal etc. so Chandra with Ketu
is Jagannath, Parma Brahma. So she needs to worship lord Jagannath on Thursdays.
“Kleem krishnaya jaganathaya svaha” she can use this mantra. Ok. Read more about
India, more you read the more you learn. Ok. Now tell me why not matsya Avatar? You
have made the whole story, why not matsya Avatar? Student: Because Moon is Satwa
Guna and Ketu is not. I agree with your argument that we should follow the Satwa
guna then the rajas and tamo guna. Your argument is correct. But if upapada has
Ketu in it you will get spiritual person. If Rahu is there in Upapada then person
can be foreigner if Ketu is there the person can be from rishi’s family. See with
Ketu I said rishi’s family because Ketu represents parampara. Who saved the Vedas?
Vedas, Sapt rishis (seven rishis) and matsya avatar are joined together. Anyways in
Kaliyuga all these things do not matter, what matter is 2nd from upapada. How the
marriage can break? If you can see that first and make a guard against it than it
will be helpful. 2nd from upapada will decide what will be the cause of breakage of
marriage. 2nd and 7th house from upapada will tell you why the marriage is
breaking. 2nd house from upapada will tell what will be the immediate reason of
breaking and 7th house will tell who are the people who will be against that
marriage. Who are the people opposing you in the marriage? 12th from upapada is the
secret enemies to the marriage. Now in this chart you can say Chandra in Upapada
will show good family and Ketu can show the Rishis family. Why did you miss that
Ketu is in his Mool Trikona. See I have not finished this case. I wanted to catch
you over here. You people have taken Chandra blindly and forgot that Ketu is in
Mool trikona. If any Graha is uccha in upapada then what could be better then that.
Why should we ignore Ketu and take the Chandra. If Ketu is exalted in upapada it is
beautiful. Have you noticed that Ketu’s exaltation and Mool trikona are is houses
of Jupiter. Brahman’s houses so this girl can get husband from some Rishis Parivar.
So why should I give Krishna’s mantra, why not Ketu’s mantra, Matsya Avatar Mantra.
Which Graha is Stronger? Also in jyotish when good and bad planets co join Ketu
will give result of Chandra and Chandra will give result of Ketu. Why I will not
give Ketu’s mantra, it will give result of Chandra. You know this Yuti yoga, when
two grahas joins they give result of each other. So take every thing in
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consideration before giving mantra. In this case matsya avatar mantra will be
better. See the chart in totality. Who are supporting the marriage and who is
opposing? Rahu in 7th from upapada foreigner will oppose the marriage or if you go
out of country your marriage can break. There is danger, foreigner will oppose what
does it mean, your husband will go abroad and have some relationship there then it
will break marriage. So what will you do? Then you need to worship matsya avatar
and fast on Thursdays to bring your husband back from the turbulent water. So the
mantra will be “Om Namo Bhagvate Maha Matsyaya”. Ok, getting clarity. So the
upapada is telling all about the marriage. If mercury is in 7th from UL than
relatives can cause problems. Moon in 7th will create opposition from Mother in
law. Worst situation. Worst is the situation when upapada is in Makara. 7th lord is
moon mother in law will definitely trouble. See horoscope of Menka Gandhi and study
that, what gave her such a family and troubles also. In the next class we will take
up this chart and study. Study it carefully. I think that will be enough for today.

Om Tat Sat

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