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Build a tray about...
For school-age children: | For teenagers:
BB Your family BI Atimetine of your life
I Your friends at schoo! I Your happiest memory
I Your typical day I The hurdles you face now
Ill One side being the best part of your world/other IB Three things you like about you
side being the worst part of your world
IH One side as when you feel happy/other side when I ot ideal kur
you feel sad I Your funeral
Il Your favorite things ee
Ii The most important things in your life
IE Marriage/commitment
Ill The scariest thing in your world
IB How you calm down when you are feeling upset
Hil Wat each of member of your family does
most often I One thing you would change in your life if you could
IE What you want to do when you grow up I Your dally routine
I Your siblings | TEE Your friends as animais
I Your favorite day at schoo! | BB Hurts Anger
Ill How you fee! when you walk into school Il What you see when you look in the miror
Ill What you want to be when you are an adult IE Your worst nightmare (ether imagined or
an actual dream)
What it means t
I Wat being an act means to you Hi What you think success looks tke
I Your biggest heartbreak
happy looks lil
Il What happy looks ke Il The person you look up to the most
happy feels |
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BB A perfect family (one side of the tray for each)
Hil Acre of those who most influence you
I Three things you want to focus on in therapy
Ill Your Grandparents
I You 5 Favorite things
IB Your parents/stepparents For couples:
BB Love IB Your marriage in the last 2 weeks/first 2 weeks
I Your best friend BB rat you need from your partner to heal
Tl Anger I Your favorite/least thing about your partner
I Your best memory with your family IB wnat your partner would say about you when asked
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For couples:
IB 8 ways you show love to your partner
IB Your view of money vs your partners view of money
Il Your partner at the beginning of the marriage vs
currently using only animals,
I Exch partner's shame reaction, such as lashing
out orerying
lL Tre best way you both make up after fight
Ill Each person in the couple builds what his or her
marriage feels like for them
[Bl Their frst date
THI What the other person would say they need to
change (3 things), such as make a tray about what
your partner would say you need to change
IB tun day inthe past
IE Your empty nest
Il Reticement
If you could build a time capsule for your
a relationship, what would go in it?
Ii Your biggest hurt from the relationship
IB Hurdles you need to overcome for the relationship.
to be happier
Ill What you ike best about your partner
I Each partner makes a tray about what they each
like to do and then the couple brings those things
together and makes a tray together about what
they would be willing to do with the other person or
shared interests
Ill Your famiy- ether nuclear or extended
Il How each partner likes be shown care or love
For adults:
[Bi Your hope for the outcome of therapy
I Your one biggest struggle
I The phrase “Before | die, | want to...”
Il Your biggest trigger for anger
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I Concerns about therapy
I Your earliest recollection
BE what it looks like when you're angry.
BE Your worst day
TI Wat it would look like if you won the lottery
I How the world sees you
[I What money gets you in your life
IB Unanswered questions
BB Your dream world
BB Your life journey
BB Your family tree
I Your three biggest wishes
I Three things you want to focus on in therapy
I Your goals of therapy
I Your happiest childhood memory
IB Your saddest childhood memory (could combine
this with the happiest childhood memory)
I wnat shame means for you
BB Your fears
El The purpose of life
BB Alyour hopes
IB How you want the world to see you
I wnat change feels lke to you
I About your home
I Your first day in therapy
I Your Feith journey
I wrat keeps you up at night
I what energizes you
I Your Favorite dream
I Who/what you love most
BB Your earliest memory165 SANDTRAY
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For adults:
IB What your do for Setf-care
I Your needs
IB Fit time you used drugs
HI who's in your support group
Il Ifyou had chosen a different path what would it
hhad looked like
Ill What it feet ike to feel shame
II How others can show you love
IE Your family 2s animals inthe tray
II what you feels impossible in your life
IE What would take to stand up for yourself
[Bl The best day possible
IE You family kids, husband, parents, etc)
Hil Wat you would want to do if today was
your last day alive
IB Your thoughts as your feet hit the floor
inthe morning
IE Your motto for your ite
Ill Thee things you can do tomorrow to fee better
IE what your mom/dad would say about you if they
were to make a tray about you
IB Your best worst attribute or characteristic
I 5 things you tel yourself every day
i | How your life would be different if ____ was
‘not in your lifeyheart (i.e. depression, divorce,
hatred, eto)
I Your feelings as you lay in bed at night
IB Your favorite part of life
IB Your feelings in a typical day at work
Bl Your biggest wish
I Your Grief journey
I Your proudest/least proud moment
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BB Your romantic relationships (past or current)
I Your parents and grandparents. Choose a
iniature to represent each and then a miniature
{0 represent their relationship with each other
(Similar to a genogram)
I Your funeral (encourage client to give voice to
the miniatures)
IB The time line of your life
What goes through your mind when you are
: ‘wanting X (cigarette, pills, food etc)
Il What causes you to wake up sweating at night
with panic
Hl Tiree coping skis you often use
Three positive self-statements/three negative
i eg
self-statements (on each side)
II What sacness fee's tke in your body
IH Your ines conmuniy, Tose voices you hear
throug oe: your day from your past, either good
orbad.
Ill Your biggest challenge at work
What superhero you would likely be- what
a superpowers do they have?
I The feeling of longing
HI Your worst fear
I Your biggest pet peeve
IB Your best’worst quality (each side for one)
I Wren you fee! the most loved
Bi Aloneness:
Ty Wat tt feels tke when your parents fight
I How it feels when your friends leave you out
I One thing you can do differently in your life to
make it better
BB cuit
i Shame
BB What makes you smile
Il When you fee! most connected to others