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Communication Skills Journal
Communication Skills Journal
Communication Skills Journal
Interpersonal Communication
I am choosing to focus on the relationship between myself and my best friend of
many years. We have been friends fo such a long time we have had our fair share of
conflict. We both have a lot of respect for each other and have had many discussions
on our own unique conflict
styles and what we both feel when there is conflict between us. One theory of
interpersonal communication I think is really useful to learn about is identifying conflict
patterns. The four most common triggers for conflict are criticism, annoyance, demand,
and rejection. One thing I have noticed when we needs some space in our friendship is
we can be really critical of each other. This for me is always the first sign that there
might be tension in our relationship that needs to be addressed. I think that by being
aware of conflict triggers, we can do better to avoid conflict all together. When we
become familiar with conflict patterns, we also can be more
reflective communicators and adjust our own behaviors to manage conflict.
Listening Skills
I believe I am an effective listener, but I have not always been one. I have was
diagnosed with ADHD as a child which is a cognitive processing disorder that can effect
our attention span and listening skills. As a child and young adult I didn’t really
understand my ADHD diagnoses and it lead me to be a bad listener.
I would constantly interrupt people, never held eye contact during conversations,
and couldn't keep conversations on track. I have had to learn to hard way that I wasn’t
the best listener because my relationships would suffer. My friends would accuse me of
being careless when my attention wander off during conversations, my teachers could
always tell when I was daydreaming and not tuned into lectures.
Small annoyances like noises, change in climate, or the
sounds of others talking would make me instantly lose my train of thought. I often still
am caught in situations where I have to apologize mid sentence for not remembering
what I am going to say.
Now that I am an adult, I am hyper aware of my listening skills because I know
that being a good listener is a life skill and I have experienced the stigma associated
with bad listening. I always apologize if I interrupt someone unintentionally and make
sure they have room to finish their thought. I now know that eye contact communicates
not only that you are listening, but that I respect your time as a speaker.
Final Summary
One the biggest take aways I have learned about my own communication
abilities is that effective communication takes work and lots of self awareness. In the
past I rarely took the time to self reflect on my own communication habits and was not
very self aware of myself or how others perceived me.
One Aspect of my communication that I want to work on is being more present
when I am socializing with people. I struggle with anxiety and I can see that reflected in
all of my journal promptings. I really loved learning about non verbal communication
because it has helped me be more aware of the non verbal cues and signals I send out
when trying to make friends.