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Compromises: Transactional Analysis Journal
Compromises: Transactional Analysis Journal
Compromises
Mary Goulding
To cite this article: Mary Goulding (1995) Compromises, Transactional Analysis Journal, 25:1,
35-36, DOI: 10.1177/036215379502500109
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to be a lawyer, work for liberal causes, and my plus a waiver of tuition. They also let me do
impossible dream was to be in Congress, the two years in four years so that I was only
although I knew that would never conceivably away from the children two or three days a
happen, again because I was female. I did week.
think it was possible, perhaps, if I were the When it came time to decide on a major
best student in school, to end up working for within social work, I decided that I did not
the ACLU and that would have been okay. The want to go into corrections, which I liked best,
admissions department at Boalt Hall said that because I wasn't free to take jobs wherever
they would admit no "women with children" they were offered. (I imposed on myself the
under any circumstances. restriction that I'd have to live wherever my
I decided I did not want to compete against husband had a job.) Also, all the good jobs
men, because it was hopeless, so I applied to went to men. I decided that I was never again
the department of psychology and learned it going to fight the men's world. So I took a
would take forever to get the right undergradu- psychiatric major. In those days there were
ate courses in sequence. Also, it seemed that plenty of jobs in local clinics for female psy-
only men worked in that department. No chiatric social workers, and that was what I
women discussed my career with me, and the planned to do. I did get interested in our field,
men were stubbornly nonhelpful. of course. I think it took until I met Bob,
At that point, I went back to my school-age however, for me to drop my core bitterness
desire and decided I wanted a career in correc- that social work was a compromise imposed
tions. Unfortunately, by then it seemed a on me by the world of men.
defeat .rather than a choice. I went to the
school of social welfare, talked with women,
and was congratulated on my high undergradu- Mary Goulding. M.S.W. isa Teaching and
ate grade point average and urged to apply for Supervising Transactional Analyst who lives in
a scholarship. I received $200 a month tax-free San Francisco.
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