BICOL UNIVERSITY

POLANGUI CAMPUS
Nursing Department

CIVIC
WELFARE
TRAINING
SERVICE LESSON 3 - GOOD
CITIZENSHIP VALUES

HENIE LOUISE D. PROFESSOR:

HINANAY
MS. MA.

BSN 1 - BLOCK C CRISTINA ABAÑO

TABLE OF
CONTENTS
Table of contents i

Activity 1: Faith and Prayer 1

Activity 2: Social Issue

Reflection 2

Activity 3: The Family Angle 4

Activity 4: Pay it
Forward...with Love 8

Activity 5: Bird in the Hand 9

Activity 6: The TRUTH about Lies 10

Activity 7: Justice Starts with Me 11

Activity 8: Skulls 13

Activity 9: Simple
People. Real Heroes 14

- Everyday
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 ACTIVITY 1
WHAT
LIFE? ARE THE EFFECTS OF FAITH AND PRAYER IN YOUR
Faith and prayer both give me hope, as well as assurance during difficult

times. They help keep my mind at peace and my heart at ease. Prayer works like

a miracle for me and faith strengthens that belief. Both of these provide a

sense of tranquility and psychological comfort whenever I feel like drowning

in my anxious thoughts. With strong faith and constant prayer, I am able to

resist temptations and better assess my life decisions. I believe that through

prayer, I am also able to ask God for signs and truthfully, these signs show up

when I need them the most. Once I am already able to grasp such signs, i gain

more self-esteem to handle life stressors without panicking. Generally, faith

and prayer greatly help me view things different perspective. They help me deal

with life in a healthier way and also help me meditate to find peace.

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Personally, yes I do continue to pray and strengthen my faith even at times when

there is no conflict or imminent danger. However, looking through most people today, I

think there are only a few who pay attention to God during ordinary and happy times.

Most people only remember and devote themselves to prayer whenever they face

difficulties in life. For instance, this pandemic has evidently brought a lot of people

back to God. Many of them have only appreciated the gift of life by now, when things

are most unpredictable for the whole nation. Probably without this pandemic, many

will still not realize how a simple 'Thank you, God' and 'I love you' can make a big

difference. With that being said, we should always be reminded not to see faith and

prayer as our last resort to be freed from life's challenges. High or low, happy or sad,

be sure to talk to God in prayer. Express your faith in actions and be grateful even for

the little blessings everyday.

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 ACTIVITY 2
SEX AND CONTRACEPTION
To be pro-life or pro-choice has been a debate since the late nineteenth century. Despite such

history, why does contraception still seem closeted for some people nowadays? This is because many

of the reasons for incorrect or nonuse of contraceptives are subconscious which leads to less

recognition and acknowledgment of the said act. However substantially speaking, contraception has

long been a hot topic for people who use it and more so, for people who don’t. Putting it bluntly,

contraception came from the mashed word contra and concepcion – meaning “against conception”. In

fact, it has been around for thousands of years. But why are people still ashamed to use it, or even

talk about it?

Contraceptive innovations have had a remarkable impact on modern societies in the past five

decades. These innovations paved the way to a cultural revolution leading to more awareness and

social acceptance. Reflecting from these innovations clearly show that contraception have improved

women's childbearing and career opportunities, allowing them to take contraceptives and plan

fertility independently of their partner or spouse. Significantly, it increased female human capital

accumulation, labor market options, and incomes. Furthermore, contraception has also drastically

reduced the average number of offspring per woman in countries where they are used. Modern

families have greater living standards and can offer better for each child because birth control made

its way for having fewer mouths to feed. On a global scale, contraceptives play a key role in

stabilizing the human population and curb the spread of sexually transmitted diseases. Although

several positive impacts have been brought by contraceptives, it does have a fair share of negative

impacts. Contraception such as the use of birth control pills, condoms, and other forms have sparked

a sexual revolution in today’s modern world. It allowed men and women to have sex for leisure

rather than procreation. This has also affected the ability of both men and women to make

decisions about building families, the number of children they’ll have, and when they would

have them.

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 ACTIVITY 2

Apart from this, many cultural, social, and educational forces are still not able to adapt to the modern

revolution on contraception. All these forces include poverty, ignorance, fear and anxiety, shame and

embarrassment, and the feeling that family planning programs are a form of black genocide.

Specifically, here in the Philippines, where I think that religion shields most youth from being informed

of such social issue. The strong influence of the aforementioned forces continues to pose threats to

increased maternal mortality, low female schooling rates, and high fertility rates which are all common

in countries where there is little or no access to birth control. I am able to perceive that these are still

very rampant along with the stigma, religious beliefs, and myths about contraception. Many people

who want to avoid pregnancy are still not taking contraception, despite the enormous growth of

family-planning alternatives globally in recent decades. I believe this includes most women at my age

range who are mostly affected and misinformed about sex and contraception. Given the complex

barriers to access, including religious views, politics, misconceptions, stigma, and other social factors,

the impact of contraceptives will surely vary from one place to another.

Overall, it is evidently reflective that sex and contraception brought more freedom of choice and less

constrained family planning. When women can plan when to have children and how many to have,

they shoulder a vast number of advantages for the whole society’s welfare. I also come to realize

that it grants an assurance for women to practice their right on investing in their reproductive

healthcare. With access to reliable contraception, women are given more control over their bodies and

are saved from the untimely obligations of marrying early. In return, this also lowers the risk of

being immersed in low-life human capital and education, as well as professional degrees. Even though

the entire concept of sex and birth control has raised questions about personal freedom, liberal and

conservative values, government intervention, religion and politics, and ideas regarding

sexual morality and social welfare, it has still undeniably offered a vast array of benefits

for the entire human population. Sex and contraception has not only completely

revolutionized women’s lives but also lifted the balance of power between men and women.

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ACTIVITY 3

1
1.. Y
Yoou
u a
arre
e a
a f
faam
miilly
y b
brre
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err a
annd
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u d
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ciid
dee t
too w
woor
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s
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yoou
u c
caan
n e
eaar
rnn m
moor
ree f
foor
r y
yoou
urr f
faam
miilly
y..

As a breadwinner, I believe that working abroad would be one of

the toughest yet smartest decisions I can ever make for my family. It
takes a strong heart for me to endure being away from them especially,
during holidays and all other special days. I would also probably learn
more on how to set aside my personal wants just so I can provide for
their needs and wants. I can only imagine the adjustments I have to make and the
worries I have to carry by living life alone and homesick. I can see myself struggling to
find friends whom I can run to whenever I need help and even celebrate small wins that
make me genuinely happy. However, I envision a better and more comfortable life for my
family. I can only imagine their cheeky smiles once they settle in a newly-owned home
and stop worrying about monthly rentals. I can only think of their happy dance
whenever they get to indulge their delicious food cravings. It is indeed hard, but
rewarding.

2
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arre
e a
a c
chhiilld
d w
whho
osse
e p
paar
reen
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arre
e w
woor
rkkiin
ngg a
abbr
rooa
add..

As a child whose parents are working abroad, it saddens me to think of the days
when all I ever want is a bear hug from them. I envy children who are picked up by their
parents from school and a complete family to enjoy with during supposedly memorable
life events. I believe this setup can greatly affect me emotionally and make me feel as if
I am neglected and unloved. Though I am grateful for parents who are willing to
sacrifice away from me just to provide for my needs, I mostly desire of a complete
family living together under the same roof. It feels nice to have your mother take
care of you when you're sick and a father who would comfort you with a big hug
when you cry. Material things are nice but the presence of my parents
are priceless. We can never take back all the happy moments and time
we could have enjoyed together.

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ACTIVITY 3

3
3.. Y
Yoou
u a
annd
d y
yoou
urr s
sppo
ouus
see d
deec
ciid
dee t
too s
seep
paar
raat
tee..

Relationships are very unpredictable, some may last and others

may not. In a situation where me and my spouse decides to separate, I
recognize the fact that there will be a lot of repercussions to face. This
decision will not only affect me and my partner but most especially,
our children. It can put them in a depressed mood, lower their self-
esteem, and cause them emotional distress. Separating with my spouse, I
believe, is not the best option we should make as parents if our relationship is not hardly
abusive in any manner. However, if we happen to mutually agree to such decision, we both
should be mentally and emotionally prepared for a new co-parenting setup. We should
talk about how we can prevent our children from experiencing academic difficulties,
including lower grades and prematurely dropping out of school, as well as greater
disruptive behaviours. Co-parenting may not come easy but doing what is best for the
welfare of our children should be our top priority.

4
4.. Y
Yoou
urr p
paar
reen
ntts
s a
arre
e s
seep
paar
raat
teed
d..

As a child whose parents are separated, I can only imagine the emptiness I would
feel everytime I see a complete family. It is not and will never be easy to live in an
incomplete family. However, if I happen to witness how much my parents have tried but
failed numerous times to save their relationship, I believe I have to work with acceptance.
I have to acknowledge that things will only worsen when they are forced and dishonest.
So, accepting the reality that my parents are no longer and will no longer be together is
a huge step towards healing. However, knowing that they are already separated will
also make me expect and demand healthy co-parenting situations despite their
separation. I would not want to live and I cannot imagine myself coping with an
unhealthy broken family. I know that it will be difficult to adjust and
live with many what-if's but I still want to put my trust in the love that
both my parents have for me. I will still continue to have hope that no
matter how incomplete our family may be, we are not broken inside.

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ACTIVITY 3

5
5.. Y
Yoou
u d
deec
ciid
dee t
too p
puut
t y
yoou
urr p
paar
reen
ntts
s iin
n a
a n
nuur
rssiin
ngg h
hoom
mee/
/hho
omme
e f
foor
r

t
thhe
e a
agge
edd..

For my entire life, my parents have made it very clear to me that

they never wanted to “end up” in a nursing home/home for the aged.
But once things progressively get worse and their physical needs could
best be addressed by transferring them to a nursing home, I am left
with no choice. I know it is the right thing to do but I am also aware of
how it can hurt all of us. But at this crucial point, I have to accept that bearing this
guilt is somehow part of the care I wanted to give them. I also have to acknowledge that
each visit can become a nightmare of pain and suffering for all of us. I can only
imagine how they would probably plead to be taken home. However, we all have to try
and face the reality with at least a little positivity day by day. I have to make them
understand why we had to do this. So, no matter how challenging things may seem, we
can all learn to accept that this sacrifice for now is bound to give us happiness and
comfort in the right time.
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m
meed
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a..

As a parent, I deeply believe in the principle of liberalism and the full advantage of
allowing my children to have full access to the internet and media. However, 'full
advantage' does not mean that I will leave them misguided and totally on their own.
I am very much aware of how vast information, as well as contents travel through the
internet and the media which is why it can be very dangerous to handle. Thus, I need
to make sure that my children will observe appropriate boundaries when using these
platforms. I will make sure to establish a connection with them in a
sense that they should trust me more than any other people from the
internet. I will allow them to use social media to have fun, make and
maintain friendships, share interests, explore identities and develop relationships.

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ACTIVITY 3

7
7.. Y
Yoou
u a
arre
e e
enng
gaag
geed
d iin
n a
ann e
exxt
trra
a--m
maar
riit
taall a
afff
faaiir
r..

Having an affair with either a one night stand or a cordial

continuous encounter poses a traumatic experience not only for my
spouse but most especially, for my children. It can cause psychological
and relational consequences that are mentally, as well as emotionally
burdening for the family. First of all, I can never run away from the
guilt of breaking my marital vows and lying to my children. This can also put me in a
heightened level of stress as I may feel easily anxious by the simplest things. It is also
inevitable that I may experience the loss of love and attention from my children when
the secret blows open which can also result to their anxiety and depression. Eventually,
my whole family breaks and I will be left with the feeling of hate within myself.
Engaging in an extra-marital affair not only poisons marriage but also ruins a family.
Before I venture into such a gruesome and selfish act, I should remember to prioritize my
children and my family for our relationship issues cannot be fixed by distractions but
rather, good communication.

8
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arre
e a
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reen
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d y
yoou
u a
arre
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It is every parents dream to have his or her child grow up into a responsible person.
But from a perspective of a parent who is engaged in illegal activities, I hate to recognize
the fact that I can most likely lead my children to a high risk for poor outcomes,
including conduct problems, substance abuse, mental health disorders, and poor
academic achievement. It can also cause them to have psychological disorders,
depression and low self-esteem, or worse, make them more prone to criminal behaviors.
Generally, I think that engaging in illegal activities whether for the sole purpose
of providing for my children is still considered as bad parenting. Sooner
or later, they will come to know the illegal acts I have done and they
would hate me for it. They might even rebel against me and the whole family,
feeling ashamed and betrayed.

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5 years from now, I envision myself as a nurse abroad who continues to

sacrifice for my family's welfare. I commit myself to repaying my parents' hardwork
by providing for their needs and wants. I want them to enjoy life and travel
around the world without worrying about bills. However, as early as now, I will
continue to show my love by making them feel proud and loved even in the simplest
things possible such as preparing food for them or even helping in the house chores
to lessen their burden. By also being a supportive sister, I believe I am able to show
my love to my brother by helping him in his school tasks and teaching him how to
be independent in some things.

For a special friend, I am willing to show my love by staying through thick and
thin. I commit myself to check on him/her from time to time to make sure that
he/she is not dealing with the heaviest burdens on her own. I will show start to show
my love by simply listening to his/her frustrations and helping him/her whenever
he/she allows me to. I will always respect his/her decision to take time alone in
figuring things out but I will always be ready to lend a helping hand.

Someone I do not know but can use my help can be anyone in the streets,
at school, in the mall, or any other places I will soon go to. To that someone, I
will show kindness by simply brightening up their day with a smile, or saying
thank you for letting me pass through first, or even helping them open the
door. I can also offer to help someone choose which color suits them
most when they're having a hard time to pick one and also help find
find their way to somewhere I know that they're headed
to. Showing kindness to someone I do not know can also
come off in the way I send a simple message to comfort
them once I see their rant or depressive
emotional posts and even offer advice if they
would like to hear such thing. These are only
some of the things I can do to show care and
love for other people.

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"THE ANSWER TO YOUR QUESTION IS IN YOUR HANDS."

Thoughts are powerful and fascinating at the same time. The story of the
bird in the hand depicts the essence of wisdom and freedom. It implies that
every time we think of something, we are attaching the same energy to ourselves.
It also tells us that we have the freedom to choose which direction and which
path to take.

No matter what the odds are, the answer lies

in ourselves with the wisdom we have and we are
always free to use that wisdom for our own welfare.
The story tells us that we are in control of our lives
by virtue of the choices we make and how we
respond to events, even though at times it seems we
have little or no control over what is happening to
us. As Victor Frankl have said, the last of the
human freedom is the ability to choose one's
attitude in a given set of circumstances. Thus, we
are reminded that what we make
of our lives is our choice –
a choice that only "we"
can hold in our hands.

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ACTIVITY 6

"OUR LIVES IMPROVE ONLY WHEN WE TAKE CHANCES - AND

THE FIRST AND MOST DIFFICULT RISK WE CAN TAKE IS TO

BE HONEST WITH OURSELVES."

- WALTER ANDERSON

The biggest challenge anyone can face when they take chances is that
they need to be honest with themselves. It takes a different level of courage to
accept your strengths and weaknesses, and make sure to work on them.
Whenever you want to do something, you need to be honest with how, what, and
why you want to do that something. You need to gradually figure out exactly
where things are going wrong and where exactly do you lack. It may be
difficult to accept our own shortcomings but we can only grow and improve by
going through this process. We have to establish such honesty among ourselves
just so we can reflect on the things that we are doing wrong. When we take
tough chances all by ourselves and decide to improve our life, we have to admit
our faults and be mature enough to deal with them. Once we are already brave
enough to take risks and be honest, our life can be 100 times better. The first
good thing that will happen is that we will not have the regret of not doing
that certain something and miss an opportunity even if we fail. If you fail, you
can live with the fact that it was a bad decision and get over with it. But if you
miss the chance, the uncertainty will not let you be happy. So, instead
of living in fear and anxiety, grab the chance and be open to the
reality that it can help you be the best version of yourself. Make sure
to not always play safe because taking risks is the same as taking
chances for self-growth and improvement. Plus,
always remember to be honest with yourself and the
others.

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ACTIVITY 7
I have talked back to them
and made them feel
disrespected when we had a
misunderstanding about
something.
I lost my temper so, I shouted
at him and said hurtful
things out of impulse when he
did not immediately did what
I told him to do.
I have said bad things behind
their back and somehow
disrespected them when they
did the same to my family.
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I apologized sincerely. I also
took time to make them feel
loved and respected by
immediately accomplishing
their requests.
I said sorry and explained
that I did not mean any of
the foul things I have said. By
then, I have been trying to be
more patient and sensitive.
I stopped treating them with
the same disrespect they have
shown us. Instead, I decided to
just ignore them as much as I
can in order to avoid any
conflict.
ACTIVITY 7
I have unintentionally made
them feel unsafe with the
things they have told me as I
accidentally shared them to
someone else whom I thought I
can also trust.
I discriminated and body
shamed someone just by
judging her appearance. I did
not like how she was treating
me at first so, I badmouthed
her.
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I carefully explained what
happened, gave them time to
process things, and apologized
for what I insensitively did. I
also respect their decision to
cut ties and remain civil.
After getting to know her better,
I decided to be honest about how
I previously judged her. I
apologized and made myself clear
that I will not do the same with
anyone else, ever again.
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"We are the same now - rotten skulls."

The story of skulls depict the universally accepted truth which

states that "All men are created equal." Men are equal in 2
specific stages of life. First is when we were born and second is
when we face death. Technically, the story wants to show that no
man is over and above anyone because we will all eventually end
up being rotten skulls. No amount of money or greatness of title
can distinguish a person once he/she becomes buried 6-feet under.
It is not these materialistic desires that will define a person's
greatness but instead, it is his/her act of kindness that we must
appreciate deeply. Thus, no one should be superior than another
and no one has the right to treat other people as poor slaves. We
may have different worldly status by now, but each of us bears
bears the same amount of dignity as another and all share one
common destiny. The value of equality in this story makes us
realize that we should treat each person with fair respect and
dignity. It serves as a brief reminder how each of us must possess
enough humility to treat everyone kindly and compassionately.

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 ACTIVITY 9

Greeting passengers with a warm smile and pleasant mood.

Driving safely and taking responsibility for the welfare of his passengers.

Taking good and compassionate care of the patients by being gentle at all times.
Respecting the patient's decision to spend their 'alone time' and self-healing once
in a while.

Staying calm and patient when dealing with students' questions, as well as
behaviors.
Be considerate and understanding with deadlines, and school workload.

Keep the house safe and clean for everyone's good health.
Ensure not only the wellness of the house but also those who live in it.

Be reasonable and rational in making decisions for the welfare of

the barangay.
Do not abuse power and position just to manipulate other people
into doing unpleasant things for their own benefit.

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Making sure that all areas are spotless clean and safe for everyone.
Greeting passersby with a warm smile and pleasant mood.

Being honest and giving back the right amount of change to a customer even
when no one is looking.
Serving clean food and prioritizing the safety of the customer instead of money.

Respecting employees and treating them fairly without any discrimination.

Be considerate and understanding with the employees' personal well-being instead
of always making them work overtime without proper compensation.

Be careful enough to only deliver facts without any bias opinions.

Make sure to give appropriate disclaimers for viewers/listeners whose trauma or
fear might be triggered by a specific report.

Be kind and sensitive with the words to use

so that no one will be hurt and offended.
Be someone who is always willing to listen
and lend a helping hand to those who are
in need of comfort and affection.

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