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ULBS - Being Different, Being Succesfully You!
ULBS - Being Different, Being Succesfully You!
: 940705-08-6386 CHAPTER 2 DARE TO BE DIFFERENT Name: AISYAH BINTI MOOSAH AL-MUSTAFA YOSUF I/C No.: 941003-08-6618
answer. Though, how it s answered will make a difference between excellence and mediocrity. Check yourself and take actions! The first thing you should ask yourself is, Do you have a dream? I believe one of the main reasons people just follow the herd is they don t have a dream. Or not daring to have one. If there is nothing to pursue then why bother being different? But a dream is what sets you above the average. Not having one means going to mediocrity on autopilot. I m sure you have a dream deep inside of you. It might be something from your childhood. Maybe for a long time you have been too busy to let the little voice of your dream be heard. This is the right time to heed that little voice. If you have found your dream, the next question is whether or not you have the courage to follow it. Are you doing what you want or what you should? There are often implicit rules about what someone should do in a particular situation. For example, when there are two job opportunities, the rule says that you should take the one with higher pay. But what is it that YOU want? Does it achieve you dream? Maybe the job with less pay will help you achieve your dream while the one with the higher pay doesn t. Do you worry more about being loved than being what you love? Another reason why we don t dare to be different is because we are trying to meet other people s expectations. We often worry more about what other people will say than what matters to us. But living someone else s life is a bad way to live your life. Why should we lose opportunity because of what others say? Do you choose what is safe then what is right? Maybe you are trying to meet other people s expectations. Maybe you just don t want to take the risks and therefore choose to play safe. But this is exactly what many old people regret. When they were ask in a study about what they regretted most and what they would do differently, most of them answered: I wish I had risked more. Don t let the same regret happen to you. Be Courageous. You must have the courage to be different. Unhappiness and frustration happen when we reject our uniqueness and try to be like each other. If you re going to be successful of being completely you, then you re going to have to take a chance on not being like everyone else. Who Decides Your Worth? Becoming a people pleaser is one of the easiest things we can do but it can ultimately make us very unhappy. When we begin pleasing other, we begin to hear comments that make us feel good about ourselves. That s okay as long as we don t derive our sense of worth from it. People are too fickle for us to place our senses of worth in their opinions. We re worth something because we re worth something! Not because of what people think or say about us. People pleasers allow others to control their lives in order to gain acceptance and approval. But we shouldn t let other people s opinions of us control our actions. Walking In Love. At the same time, we can t just do anything we want, whenever we want, with total disregard for the feelings of others. We can t say, I m going to do this, and if you don t like it, that s your problem! We should love others, and love doesn t behave that way. However we must not
allow people to manipulate and control us to the point that we re never free to be who we are. If we do, we ll always try to become the person we think others expect us to be. Break Out of The Mould. People will always try to fit us into their mould, partly due to their own insecurity. It makes them feel better about what they are doing if they can get someone else to do it too. Very few people have the ability to be who they are and let everyone else be who they are. They are several things that we could think about in our road to successfully be ourselves: 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. Being different won t kill you. Being different will get you noticed. Being different won t have people outwardly lauding you [at least at first] Being different secretly makes people respect you. Being different positions you best to be able to change the world. It s our obsessive compulsions that yield greatness, not our penchant for compromise. It s Thomas Edison trying one more time after the 983rd failed attempt to build a working light bulb. It s Harland Sanders trying the 1 009th time to convince a restaurant to buy his famous chicken recipe. It s Oprah Winfrey sharing hope for the sexually abuse in spite of her own scars. It s about you deciding that being your same self or like anyone you know is no longer available. It s about being different. And us starting that TODAY.