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Jay Earley - IFS Self-Therapy Questions
Jay Earley - IFS Self-Therapy Questions
Appendix A
Help Sheet for the IFS Process
from Jay Earley, Self-Therapy
This is a summary of all the steps of the IFS procedure. It is meant to guide your
steps while you are working on yourself or partnering with someone.
5. Reparenting an Exile
Bring yourself (as Self) into the childhood situation and ask the exile what it needs
from you to heal it or change what happened; then give that to the exile through
your internal imagination.
Check to see how the exile is responding to the reparenting.
If it can’t sense you or isn’t taking in your caring, ask why and work with that.
6: Retrieving an Exile
One of the things the exile may need is to be taken out of the childhood situation
and brought into a place with it can feel safe and comfortable. You can bring it into
some place in your present life, your body, or an imaginary place.
7. Unburdening an Exile
Name the burdens (painful feelings or negative beliefs) that the exile is carrying.
Ask the exile if it wants to release the burdens and if it is ready to do so.
If it doesn’t want to, ask what it is afraid would happen if it let go of them. Then
handle those fears.
How does the exile carry the burdens in or on its body?
What would the exile like to release the burdens to? Light, water, wind, earth, fire,
or anything else.
Once the burdens are gone, notice what positive qualities or feelings arise in the
exile.