12 Tips for Overcoming Anger and Gaining

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By Remez Sasson
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Anger appears when one is confronted with frustration, unhappiness or hurt feelings, or when
plans don't turn out as desired. It also shows up when coming against opposition or criticism.

Anger never helps anyone. It wastes your energy, and can hurt your health, spoil your
relationships, and cause you to miss opportunities. Getting angry is acting against your best
interests.

Things don't always proceed according to plans and expectations. People not always act the way
you wish them to act. You may not be always able to be in control of external influences and
conditions, but you can certainly learn to control your attitude and reactions. There is no sense of
allowing circumstances and people to pull your strings and affect your mind and feelings. You
can choose not to let what people say and do affect your moods. You can maintain an inner
attitude of emotional and mental detachment, and refuse to allow every minor event play with
your feelings and evoke anger.

I often see people getting angry over unimportant and insignificant matters. Some insignificant
remark or action, not getting a satisfactory reply to a question or just moodiness are enough to set
fire and cause anger, snappy remarks, arguments and even physical fights. This is absolutely
unnecessary. Life can be happier without this behavior.

Anger is a negative reaction, and if you wish to progress on the path of self-improvement or
spiritual growth you should avoid it as much as possible.

Learning to calm down the restlessness of the mind and gaining peace of mind, is one of the best
and most effective methods to overcome anger, and in fact, all negative emotions.

If you are willing to invest the time and energy, you will reap great rewards. Peace of mind will
not only help you overcome anger, but also help you overcome anxiety and negative thinking,
and enable you to stay calm, tranquil and self possessed in difficult and trying situations.
Peace of mind requires the development of an attitude of emotional and mental detachment,
which is of vital importance for overcoming and avoiding anger. It protects you against being too
affected by what people think, say or do, and is therefore highly recommended. Detachment is
not an attitude of indifference and lack of sensitivity. It is an attitude of common sense and inner
strength and leads to peace of mind.

I would like now to suggest a few simple tips to help you manifest some inner detachment and
peace of mind, so as to be in a better position to overcome anger.

1. At least once a day, devote several minutes to thinking on how much your life would be better
without anger.

2. When you feel anger arising in you, start breathing deeply and slowly several times.

3. You may, instead of breathing deeply, or better still, in addition to it, count slowly from one to
ten. This will delay your angry reaction and weaken it.

4. Drinking some water has a calming effect on the body.

5. Try to be more patient, no matter how difficult it might be.

6. Be more tolerant toward people, even toward people you don't like.

7. Everyone is entitled to his/her opinion. You can disagree with people, but still maintain tact
and diplomacy.

8. Choose to react calmly and peacefully in every situation. Try again and again, regardless of
how many times you lose control and get angry.

9. Positive thinking makes it easier to disregard remarks and behavior that otherwise could cause
anger.

10. Try to manifest at least some self-control, self-discipline and more common sense.

11. Don't take everything too seriously. It is not worth it.

12. Find reasons to laugh more often.

Author's Bio: 

Remez Sasson teaches and writes on positive thinking, creative visualization, motivation, self-
improvement, peace of mind, spiritual growth and meditation. He is the author of several books,
among which are "Peace of mind in Daily Life", "Will Power and Self Discipline", "Visualize
and Achieve" and "Affirmations - Words of Power".
Visit his website www.SuccessConsciousness.com, and find articles, advice, guidance and
ebooks!

For information on gaining inner peace visit:

www.successconsciousness.com/books/peace-of-mind-in-daily-life.htm

Guest mayet
Thank you so much sir for this input. There are times that its too difficult to control anger
especially if u are being provoked a lot of times. These reminders and tips you have given will
surely help t get hold of anger. Thank you .

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Guest mayet
Thank you so much sir for this input. There are times that its too difficult to control anger
especially if u are being provoked a lot of times. These reminders and tips you have given will
surely help t get hold of anger. Thank you .

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means the rising of the consciousness beyond the ordinary existence, and awakening to some
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spirit. If you can really accept this idea, it will change your attitude towards many things in your
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