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The power of partnership
The work of destiny rescue has impacted me deeply due to my own
personal story. Every girl deserves a right to choose their destiny.
I was given this choice as well and working with them allows me
to pay this gift forward. – Shar Moore – The Girlfriend Hour TV.

Real lives. Real impact.

Shar Moore is partnering with Destiny Rescue to provide freedom for children
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Right now a young child is being exploited, sold, and abused with no hope of a future. If we don’t get to her, someone
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Why I chose to support Destiny Rescue

“After hearing how many girls still need rescuing, how could I not? As a woman in the media business that has a way to
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Becoming a rescue partner has one simple benefit. Making a difference to one girl at a time. They each have a name.
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Tarryn Reeves Introducing
Shows us how to balance both
masculine and feminine power to thrive The Girlfriend Hour™.
in business and entrepreneurship The all live TV event you
won’t want to miss!

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Michelle Flowers
Offers support and strategies
to heal and thrive after
divorce.

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Nikki A Creber
On navigating Parkinson's

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Disease and teaching
women about the magic of
Heartscoping.

Diana von Welanetz Wentworth

New York Times Best-Selling Author of 10 Award-Winning Books
tells us it is never too late to live up to your very highest potential!

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Kim Yabsley
A funding guru that every Entrepreneur and
business person needs in their lives. This is the
kickstart you've been waiting for.

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Tracey Collins
Shares how she scaled a
business during Covid 19 by
taking risks, backing herself,
and finding joy along the way.

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Your special
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Genevieve Searle
Our Feminessence Ambassador offers strategies
on how to lean into your personal health type
to find happiness and success

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Cathy Sheppard
A lesson in understanding

It ’s time
who you are at your core, and
how to find your true power
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Jean Sheehan
Shares her incredible gift
of healing and medical
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Donna Aston
Nutritionalist, author and human
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Naz De Bono is redefining health after 50.
How to thrive throughout your middle years.

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Bridget Foliaki-Davis
Celebrity Chef teaches us
how to nourish our bodies
and better understand the
role of hormones in
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Julie Cross

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A masterclass in resilience,
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‘Many people will review this time
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How will you be seen, heard and remembered?
This is not the time in our lives to be a
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SEEN, HEARD and REMEMBERED.
When our fellow humans review this time in history
in years to come, what will they find on you?
Many are flying under the radar for fear of being
too happy, too content, or too successful, and then
some are saying ‘I’m worthy of being in a magazine,
becoming an Author and being a guest on a TV Talk
Show’!
And these women are Feminessence® women.
This magazine is for those brave few. Those who
wake up every day wondering if there are others
out there who are just like them. Who take chances.
Who find the money for the things they want to do.
Who don’t take things lying down. Who get up just
one more time. Who juggle the kids, the business,
the partners, the pets and all the other stuff!
Our books are for those women and men yearning
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Our amazingly talented team have poured their
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Amongst the pages, you will find the incredible signed by Binge Networks.tv in the United States
Genevieve Searle. The optimisation queen, forging and streamed out to Apple TV, Amazon, Roku and
a path forward with zest, passion and soul and 60 plus other streaming platforms, we know that
taking a tribe of women with her as she does. As
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wherever you are in the world, you can find our
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woman to lead this issue into the world.
With so many exciting projects coming, we are just
An experience that not many can boast about, buzzing with excitement as more and more women
but our exceptional guest Diana von Welanetz come out of the woodwork to share their stories,
Wentworth shares the story of her two great loves stand on their stages and share their voices.
of her life, her kiss with Elvis Presley and her Are you next?
involvement as the first Co-Author in the super
successful book series ‘Chicken Soup for the Soul’ Girlfriend, I hope as you turn the page and start
that sold a whopping 500 million copies! What a embarking on this exciting journey that you
woman! stop and ponder how else you can make your
life magical and wonderful. How you can further
As you indulge in the articles of our 12 sensational uncover your Feminessence® and ensure that all
Feminessence® women, stop and remind yourself those that need to find and hear your voice can.
that they are just like you. Take the time to work
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with you in mind. I invite you to take your time find some time just for you to enjoy our magazine.
going through these, as our magazine is not one to Created from our heart to yours.
flick through and pop on the coffee table. It’s very
much been designed as a workbook! Maybe we
should call it a Maga-book! Or Work-azine? Much love always,
In other exciting news, our new TV Talk Show
The Girlfriend Hour™ TV launched and what a
launch it was. 111 women stunning women gave
up some time on July 11th at 11:11am to help us
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Over 7,000 views on YouTube in 24 hours. That’s
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sincere, authentic, honest and real guests that we
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And something truthful. And with our show being
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 Are you ready to join the
Feminessence® Movement?
Feminessence speaks to the unique and innate power of
being a woman. Shar Moore
Our divine heart centre yields a power exclusive to our experience CEO/Founder, TEDx
as women. Often that power goes un-recognised, under-utilised, Speaker, TV Talk
and way too frequently overlooked. Show Host
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Isn’t it time that you stood out in the crowd and backed yourself?

Unapologetically, Confidently, Gracefully.

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Are you feeling it? The power, the passion, the

exuberance of emerging feminine energy? We women
won’t keep a lid on our wild visions any longer!

We ask ourselves what will bring us and those around

us the most joy and fulfilment. We explore all we can
grow into. We welcome new directions into our brightest
possible futures.

I learned early in life that feminine exuberance was

not acceptable in our patriarchal society. I learned to
put a lid on myself, thereby trapping myself and losing
the chance to blossom into all I was meant to be. It
took years to move beyond these constraints and give
myself permission to forge my own path. There are
opportunities through an open door, but first we must
open it!

Very often, what inhibits creativity is stress, ie. the

expectations put on us by other people. It’s like driving
with one foot on the gas and one on the brakes. When
we reduce stress, we find that we’re more resourceful,
creative and resilient than we know. Joy and stress
are opposites that block each other. Let joy be your
compass!

Break the stress response

• When standing in line, instead of getting impatient,

look at the people around you and quietly send good
wishes to them and their families.
• In the car, listen to sounds, feel your hands on the
wheel.
• Banish the expectations others have put on you and
let your wild child thrive. Martha Beck and Rowan
Mangan, on their “Bewildered” podcast, advise us
how to reduce stress and thrive as we move from
bewildered to wild and free.

energy
• We think, “people will judge me!” Yes, but we must
learn to embrace that wild child who blurts our truth

Encore
and embarrasses us. She is a messenger. She holds a
letter telling us that we are here to celebrate, that we
are magnificent, that we hold the key to doors of joy
and opportunity and grace.

When it ’s over,
I want to say: all my life
I was a bride married
to amazement.

at any age
I was the bridegroom,
taking the world
into my arms.
- Mary Oliver’s poem
By Susannah Pask When Death Comes

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Calming your thoughts
• Sit comfortably in a quiet place. Take 3 deep
breaths, exhaling longer than inhaling.
• Feel your heart pulsating, nourishing you with a
sense of warmth and ease.
• Breathing slowly, bask in the love you feel.
Radiate your love to every living being. Invite
the feeling of expansiveness to stay with you
throughout the day.
• When you are ready to re-enter your everyday
world, radiate your gratitude for this feeling of
connection. Centred, blissful, calm, you re-enter
your day. Your world is lit from within!
My Path toward Empowerment
Let me take you on my journey of discovery –
the power of finding and stepping into the next
challenge. After a great performance, the audience
demands an encore. Encore at any age! It’s never
too late to respond to your calling and begin a new
adventure!
May I tell you the story of how powerfully my own
life has evolved and how it continues to expand?
Even after eighty? Even though I’m recently
widowed for the second time?
As a child I found myself living in a serious world.
Dinner table discussions were ominous. Children
should be seen and not heard. Be a lady!
But a small, precious part of me was always
irrepressible. No one could quiet me for long.
While I marvelled at coincidences, serendipitous
happenings, and signs of invisible support, I was
cautioned to be careful and realistic.
At eight, I was sent away to a girls’ boarding school.
I was lonely there; very few boarders, none my age.
Wounds Give Birth to Wisdom
That deep loneliness, though a wound, would serve
me well.
More than anything in the world, even as a young
girl, I yearned for a future romantic partner who
would be my forever love. I sensed how fulfilling
deep intimacy would feel. I just knew I would find a
way to share my whole heart.
Meanwhile, I noticed how I loved to spark joy.
Whenever I lit up someone’s day, my own
brightened. I used many techniques — jokes,
riddles, practical jokes and magic tricks — to lighten
up my serious family. I discovered the power to
delight others.
One source of delight was home cooking. My
mother and my maternal grandmother, who ran a
boarding house, spent lots of time in the kitchen.
What warmth, fun and generosity they shared
preparing delicious food! I loved being in the
kitchen with them, perusing recipes, planning
menus, preparing treats. The most fun was
anticipating the pleasure it would bring. Chopping
and prepping, sautéing, and simmering, I was
stirring blessings into every bite.
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And, occasionally, suddenly and sometimes
shockingly, I sensed an event that had yet to
happen. I would call it Inner Knowing.
Enter, Elvis!
Yes, that Elvis! Though our friendship began many
years ago, this wild happening left an indelible
mark. In the spring of 1959, when my sorority sisters
and I were sprawled in our bunks, I asked someone
to turn the music down.
“Oh, Diana doesn’t like Elvis Presley!”
“Actually, I do like him, and I’m going to date him
someday!”
Where did that come from? I wondered.
Of course, they laughed at me. How could I possibly
have known my quick retort would turn out to be
true?
A few months later, my mother took me on a
“Cook’s Tour” of Europe that began in Paris. Bobbie,
a young boy on our tour, ran up to me as I entered
the lobby.
“Elvis is in the dining room! I’m scared to ask him
for an autograph!”
“Come with me!”
Drop dead gorgeous in his Army uniform, Elvis’
blue eyes lit up as I approached! Charming and
courteous, he took Bobbie’s pen and signed. He
told us he was on his first leave from the Army,
visiting Paris for the first time.
Again, quite magically, we were in the same
place again that very evening attending an
early show at the Moulin Rouge. Afterwards,
back at the hotel, Elvis was waiting in the lobby
as our tour bus returned. He stood up and
invited my mother to join him, inquiring how
she was enjoying Paris. He then asked if he
might escort me to the Lido Nightclub for the
late show.
It was thrilling to be with him! Thrills continued
later, in his room, when he played the guitar and
sang the theme from the film Moulin Rouge for this
audience of one.
I know what you’re wondering. Yes, we kissed.
Learning to Trust
Another meeting that felt magically destined
happened three years later in Hong Kong. At the
age of twenty-one, I felt another knowing. Without
warning, I broke up with the approved “eligible
bachelor” I’d been dating and tagged along with
my parents on their tour of Asia. For the next
three weeks, as we toured Japan, the Philippines,
Vietnam, and Cambodia, I felt sure I’d made the
right decision. While an appreciation for world
travel awakened in me, I also felt a quiet sense of
anticipation.
On the evening we arrived in Hong Kong, our
final stop, I wasn’t aware that a man in the dining
room felt drawn to me and had followed me to the
elevator, only to have it close in his face.
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I woke early the next morning, way too early to meet
my parents for breakfast. I chose to wear a certain
dress, as if for a special occasion, and stood in the
middle of the lobby.
What am I doing here so early? I wondered. Paul
von Welanetz stepped out of the elevator, and I
soon found out.
“Where are you from?”
With those words, my longed-for heart’s companion
had arrived. Three days later we were engaged.
Feeling our Way into Our Future
Our romantic marriage would last twenty-five years,
and what a fabulous and fun career we shared
and built together! I’d always loved cooking and
gathering people around the table to enjoy each
other. Thanks to Julia Child, interest in French
cooking and entertaining was emerging in America.
I loved learning, and during the first five years of our
marriage, I attended classes with the head chef of
the Escoffier Room in Beverly Hills.
Paul, an artist at heart, loved using his imaginative
talent to present food and table decor. He quoted
Mies VanDer Rohe, “First you eat with your eyes!”
Our shared passion led to cooking classes in
our home and then to a groundbreaking career
in cooking and entertaining. Our first book, The
Pleasure of your Company, won the “Cookbook of
the Year” Award in the category of entertaining.
Five more books followed, along with our cooking
school on the Sunset Strip, where Wolfgang
Puck and other rising chefs taught. Los Angeles
Magazine featured us as one of L.A.’s most romantic
couples. We also hosted an early television cooking
show on the Lifetime Network, The New Way
Gourmet.
And then, as happens with trends, it all fell apart.
By 1985, women entered the workforce in droves
and lost interest in spending days at the stove for
parties that would only last a few hours.
Challenged to Reinvent our Career
Paul and I were feeling desperate. We could think
of no other way than cooking to make a living.
Paul was quietly consulting the wanted ads. I
was worriedly pacing the floor, stamping my foot,
impatiently wanting to know NOW what could open
new doors.
And I noticed something; “Spiritual Alchemy.” Out of
desperation, I’d insistently asked aloud for our next
step. (A few years earlier, when we’d been waiting
too long to be offered our own TV show, I’d done
the same thing. “Give us a show now!” I demanded
aloud. Within hours, we were offered our own show
on two different networks.)
Please take note: Erupting wildness needs to
be honoured and amplified to its full force.
Add fierceness to your prayers! No more polite
pleadings.
A Whole New Tribe!
Paul and I shared more than a talent for cooking.
We’d always found ourselves drawn toward human
potential. We’d been introduced to Transcendental
Meditation in 1970. We avidly read books to each
other and attended lectures and personal-growth
workshops with the leading teachers of the day.
When we heard about “Impact,” a motivational
seminar for people in the entertainment industry,
we committed to the cost and threw ourselves into
it wholeheartedly. Our nine-month stint there was
life-changing. Several hundred of us were coaxed
into setting nearly impossible goals and then held
accountable to achieve them. “Your considerations
don’t count. All that counts is the action you take!”
When we focused on action, magic multiplied.
Other participants — Jack Canfield, Dr. Barbara
DeAngelis and others — who were just launching
their careers also experienced amazing results.
Through our association with “Impact,” Paul
and I were invited to travel to the Soviet Union
at the height of the Cold War to take part in a
documentary on “Citizen Diplomacy.” We were to
create dialogues and connect with Soviet citizens
at a time when our governments were not speaking
diplomatically.
I think back on terrifying situations: our rooms were
bugged. Soviet police barged into our cabins on
trains and tore through our luggage, confiscating
anything that might be considered propaganda. Our
motives were questioned. We hardly slept. We felt
we were living on the edge of something entirely
new.
At the same time, we gained new appreciation
for gathering around the table, observing and
listening to our fellow travellers, activists and
leaders in human potential: Dennis Weaver,
Barbara Marx Hubbard, author Alan Cohen,
Mike Farrell from Mash, Swami Satchidananda,
the real Patch Adams, and 70 more. We
marvelled at how the group gained support for
their cause. We felt more and more empowered
and made what would become lifelong
connections.
Breakthrough!
What if we gather people together without
preparing food? We wondered how we might
encourage and delight others on a grander scale by
offering larger, more meaningful events than home
dinner parties.
Power breakfasts and networking were just
beginning in New York. Hopping early onto the
next trend, Paul and I used our hosting abilities
to produce phenomenal events. We launched The
Inside Edge, a weekly power breakfast in three
Southern California cities: Los Angeles, Orange
County and San Diego.
Our concept caught on and became legendary.
Attracted to our weekly breakfasts at the Beverly
Hills Hotel were folks who had not yet written
books, including Jack Canfield, Louise Hay, Dr.
Barbara DeAngelis, Mark Victor Hansen, and Dr.
Susan Jeffers. Our first speaker was the futurist
Barbara Marx Hubbard.
Paul and I also hosted imaginative parties for our
members.
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“Come as you will be in five years!”
The rule at the first party was that you had to stay
in character throughout and tell us all what you
had achieved. Dr. Susan Jeffers stepped out of a
limousine holding three mock books, announcing
that she had just returned from her third New
York Times bestseller tour. Her first book, Feel the
Fear and Do It Anyway, soon became a massive
bestseller and was followed by two more. She
achieved what she’d announced. And so did others.
The Law of Attraction, of creating vivid feelings in
advance of achieving what you wish to experience,
was practised early at The Inside Edge.
Many of the world’s most successful authors
and motivational speakers found support at our
meetings.
“Come to the Edge!”
Early attendees still speak of how uplifting and
magical it felt to step into that meeting room at 6:30
am. Recently, at the Inside Edge 35th Anniversary
Gala, Jack Canfield acknowledged that without the
Inside Edge, Chicken Soup for the Soul, the largest
selling book series of all time (half a billion sold!),
may never have come into being. I’m grateful to
have been the first author in the series with Jack
and Mark Victor Hansen on my bestsellers Chicken
Soup for the Body and Soul and Chicken Soup for
the Soul Cookbook.
Another Transition
But just after our 25th anniversary in 1989, Paul,
near the end of his terminal cancer, surprised me.
“I don’t want you to be alone.”
“Send me someone!” I blurted.
“I will!” he said.
He did. Almost right away. Ted Wentworth just
happened to walk right into my life and my heart at
the Inside Edge, bringing with him thirty-one more
years of marital bliss that ended recently.
My Teddy deserves more pages than I can offer
here about his life and careers. (Please see www.
TedWentworth.com, a tribute page to his life and
a free download of his book The Enlightenment
Code).
Though I deeply miss Ted’s affection, his
encouragement, his very playful companionship, I
now savour solitude — and an entirely new sense of
sovereignty to explore.
So here I am at eighty-one, widowed for the second
time, not only expecting an Encore chapter, but
being flooded with more opportunities than ever!
I realise that I am no longer the centre of my
husband’s world. I miss him. And yet, I’m getting
better at tapping into a wild exuberance that has
been my new gift. That exuberance explodes with
enthusiasm and possibility. My job is to tame it and
run a comb through it, but first I must see it as the
holy shining mess it is!
When I feel this exuberance, I know it’s my purest
expression. I’m creating a joyful year by attracting
a circle of women who also want to expand their
horizons as we ask, “What’s next?” We’re full of
anticipation.
I invite wisdom, grace and beauty to enter the world
through me. Those who want to travel this path with
me will call in their angels and guides to help us
discover our next adventure.
In the words of poet Mary Oliver,
“Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild
and precious life?”
Now that I’m alone, I don’t need to behave myself. I
can loudly insist on magic! Order in a miracle! How
it works, I don’t know. What I do know is my inner
knowing loves to be called upon. And trusted!
Recently in a large online group, I blurted
something and possibly embarrassed myself.
Despite my embarrassment, I felt a certain
giddiness, which I identified as “trapped
exuberance” finding its voice. I got the idea to
purchase the domain www.womenwritingwild.com,
and then a few weeks later, I was invited to write
the foreword for the first edition of the Women
Gone Wild book series. A global sisterhood arose
from that bestseller. We connected deeply, and
Rhonda Swan asked me to teach a writing course
for my talented co-authors.
Most empowering of all is NuCalm, my
discovery of the most magical tool ever! As a
meditator for fifty years, this is a truly life-
enhancing tool! Listening to it several times
daily lets me choose my ideal mental state. No
drugs, just scientifically proven control of brain
waves. While listening to sublime music, I find
myself floating in a blissful space of wonder. I
ask these questions and invite guidance. Where
can I spark the most joy today? What step is
about to be revealed? How wildly wonderful can
my life become? Answers show up. Insights
arrive. Most importantly, I give thanks!
I’m launching my show “Encore!” which will
encourage my peak-age audience to create the
change they’ve been waiting for. The women I
admire most are the ones who have reinvented
themselves, who, when finding themselves
blindsided by difficult circumstances, discovered
ways to rise to the occasion and construct their new
lives. Wild energy goes on and on!
Unlocking your Next Encore Chapter
Listen to your inner wisdom and be bold. What is
the next big project calling to you?
How will you go big for it? Feel the excitement of a
vibrant journey. Leap!
Make a personal affirmation to repeat about your
resilience and bountiful resources.
Don’t be perfect, be persistent.
“Follow your heart and charge
into your next act — it ’s never too
late to live as your highest self! ”.
Contact Diana through her website at
www.DianaWentworth.com
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Who are you?
What are your core values?
Women have abundant natural intuition.
This feminine knowing grows as we practice.

A fun and deeply revealing way to hone this
inborn skill is to ask ourselves core questions,
what I call “quintessential questions.” I do
this first thing in the morning when survival
instincts influence my first thoughts before
they can spiral into worry.
I ask, “Where is the most joy to be found today?”
“What miracles reveal themselves?”
Who do I admire?
On the lines below, make a list of women—those in the world
today or even throughout history—who most inspire and spark
you, who shine brightly in your imagination? Who do you tend
to emulate? List the role models you love to gather around you
as an inner wisdom circle.
List them here:

The second step is listening.

We use all the methods to cultivate silence—meditation,

yoga, Tai chi, etc., and prayer—to open and enhance our
ability to hear and sense. We allow our inner knowing to
answer.

Some answers arrive instantly, and others may drift through

our minds later. As we learn to trust to stay alert to our
listening, insights flow in.

So, let’s do this fun practice together...

When you have a good list to work with, set your pen down.
(You can always add more names later as they come to mind.)

Now, tune into each of these beautiful beings one at a time.

Sense the very essence of each one.

Remember,
 Which of your embodied
qualities have you identified?
List them here:

Which qualities
do they embody?
Pick up your pen, and next to each woman’s name, list various
qualities each exemplifies. Some qualities may be duplicates, and
others will be unique to a particular individual. (Others making their
own lists might identify entirely different attributes.)

List them here:

How do you feel as you ponder what this list has revealed?

Are you amazed? Delighted? Grateful?

You, my divine feminine

sister, demonstrate these qualities
when you are centred in your clear
awareness. Like a fountain, you pour these
delicious qualities into all aspects of all you
do as you flow through your day.

Now, study your list.

Own them!
Do you sense that you already own and radiate these qualities
yourself? Are these the features that others perceive in you? Embrace them!
And, do you see that the listed qualities reveal your core values? Grow more fully into them!
Our values reveal and broadcast our personal light into the world! Develop them in ever more
expansive ways!

you came here to light the world! - Jan Phillips, author, artist-activist

© Diana von Welanetz Wentworth

 Intention is
everything,
action is just
the result.
With my thoughts
I create the world!
– Serene Serene

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Be the lighthouse!
Unapologetically Me
By Susannah Pask

Tarryn Reeves
CEO & Founder Tarryn Reeves, Four Eagles Publishing

Growing up, I was unapologetically myself.

I was unconcerned about what others were doing, thinking

or thought about me. We are all born this way, free from the
cage in which society traps us, trying to feel like we belong,
that we matter and that we are doing life ‘right’. It was only in
my early teen years that I realised that I was different. Some
would even say ‘weird’. I preferred my own company to that
of others. I preferred to run around barefoot in nature rather
than wear makeup and read teen magazines. I preferred
reading books to partying and boys. I was happy being all of
me – until I wasn’t.

The bullying started. The hormones started. The realisation

hit me that I wasn’t acting like my peers. It is natural for us to
want to fit in. It is a biological human need. We are wired to
want to be a part of our human network. Nobody likes to be
bullied and nobody likes to feel like they don’t belong. I had
no idea how to be anything but myself in the environment
in which I had grown up. I felt it wouldn’t make sense to
magically try to become someone else. So, when I found out
that my family and I would be moving to start a new life in
Australia, I thought, Here’s my chance! A fresh start! Nobody
knows me there. I can be anyone I want to be. I am going to
be somebody that everyone likes.

Remembering My Feminessence®

The moment that I remembered my Feminessence – for she

is always within you no matter how long you have locked her
away and ignored her – I felt her throw open the doors to
the cage in which I had imprisoned her. She exploded and
released within me when I was in a hotel bathroom in the
Cotswolds in England in 2015.

I was looking at a positive pregnancy test.

I had just come off the back of a spectacular burnout from

my career in corporate, and had been diagnosed with
post-traumatic stress disorder, major anxiety and chronic
depression. I was medicated and had been wading through
this dark hole for about a year and a half. This was the result
of straying so far from who I was. I no longer remembered
who I was and felt completely adrift in the raging oceans of
life.

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As it started to dawn on me that I was housing
another soul in my womb, and that I would be
having a baby, becoming a mother, responsible for
guiding another being through this life, I felt the
world as I had created it drop away. I sensed my
Feminessence® calling me back. In that silence, I felt
a fierce lioness energy rise through my body and
consume me, and I started to remember who the
hell I was. I remembered that I had a choice. I could
choose a different way to operate in the world. I
knew that I did not want to model my behaviour to
date for my child, that I didn’t want my child to feel
like she had to squash herself into a specific way
of being, just to please others. I made a conscious
decision then to unlock my own Feminessence®, to
shine my light, not only for my child, but for all the
other women who are feeling trapped in a state of
misery and disconnection from their true selves.
The week before finding out I was pregnant I was
made redundant. I tried to get another job, but
nobody would hire me because I was pregnant.
After a while I got fed up and realised that I didn’t
really want to go back to a traditional job anyway!
I decided to have my baby and then reassess the
situation.
© Katie Lee, Obleek Photography
me still felt unfulfilled. The opportunity to start my
own publishing company came along and I jumped
in with both feet, with no plan and a whole lot of
trust. I knew that this was the missing piece.
A business and an entrepreneur thrive best when
dancing gracefully between both the masculine and
feminine parts of running a business. We need the
masculine so we can develop systems and find the
drive to keep going even when things get tough.
We need the feminine to be our guiding light, the
force that shows us what to do next for the greater
good of ourselves, our company, our family, our
community and the world. The feminine is the
creatrix who stands at the forefront of the business
to ignite change and impact.
My purpose as a woman, and as a human, is to
not only show others what is possible but also
to leave the world a better place than how I
found it. This is at the forefront of everything I
do. When I am afraid, I remember why. When I
suffer from imposter syndrome I remember why.

Starting My Business

Six weeks after my daughter was born, I was already

getting itchy feet. It turns out I was not born to be
a stay-at-home mum. There is nothing wrong with
this, of course. It just wasn’t for me. Even though
I had made the decision to light the way for my
daughter, her arrival threw me into another spiral
of identity crisis. Who was I without a career? What
if I was a bad mother? The pressure! My anxiety
was having the time of its life – running rampant
through my system every minute of every day
and night. To help me cope, I sought intellectual
stimulation.

I decided to start my own business so that I could

earn money, use my brain and be there for my
child. I started out as a virtual assistant and quickly
booked that out. So, I scaled it to agency level. I had
found my groove. I was born to be an entrepreneur.

A few years in, I added business coaching to

my list of services as I found that I was a natural
at it. I booked my calendar out again. This may
all sound hunky-dory, but due to my people-
pleasing conditioning and self-worth issues, I
was undercharging, overdelivering and working
insane hours to make my business dream a reality.
However, I loved it – and still do – but some part of

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 The Feminine Self
I think the feminine self is the wise woman within.
She is the woman who already has all the answers.
She is the woman who is capable beyond our most
wild expectations.
She is you.
We all have her within us. Sometimes we just need
help letting her out of the cage to which we have
banished her!
I have the innate ability to see someone for who
they truly are and for the unique wisdom that they
are here to share. I encourage them to remember
who they are, to find their voice and to share their
wisdom through the power of storytelling.
I used to think that a woman needed to act like a
man in business to succeed. And then I burned out
in the most spectacular fashion!
Women are not designed to ‘do’ all the time. We
need ample space to hear our own inner wisdom
and to create magic from that. We are amazing
at nurturing but cannot do so to the best of our
abilities if we don’t first nurture ourselves. Once
we understand this and take a deep dive into what
success looks like to us – not what we have been
told it is – that is when the magic happens!
Once we understand our unique feminine way of
being in the world, we can bring that to the table
in our businesses. Women in business aren’t
necessarily driven by a single thing – money or
achievement. Yes, of course we love those things
too, and they are a vital component of business, but
we take a more holistic approach:
• How do we make a great workplace for the
people who work in the company and enable
them to shine?
I think the
feminine self is the
wise woman within.
it ’s the movement you’ve been longing for...
• How do we make choices so that our business is
contributing to the world and not taking from it
for the gain of a single individual?
• How do we create amazing offers that serve?
• How do we show up and speak our truth so that
we may ignite other people in turn?
• These are just a few of the questions I ask myself
every day.
I want to be a teacher and not a preacher.
This means that I must lead by example. This
is vitally important to me. I am unable to do
anything well if it feels like it is out of alignment
with who I am. This is especially true when
it comes to selling! I cannot and will not sell
something in which I do not wholeheartedly
believe.
I work with women to write, publish and promote
non-fiction books that function as marketing tools
and authority builders that grow their business and
create ripple effects of impact across the globe.
Although I say that we are writing a book, what
really happens is the most beautiful, transformative,
expansive experience that leaves my client stepping
fully into the most shining version of herself.
I feel like I am a lighthouse helping others to
shine.
‘I literally have tears in my eyes as I’m opening
our edits. So grateful to be putting my story
on paper – and for it to be in a form that is not
anger-filled and vindictive, but a clear snippet
that portrays the struggle, and the relief. This
has been a healing process for me. Truly, thank
you.’ – S.B., Emotional Intelligence and Leadership
Coach
‘Thank you so much for helping me believe in
myself enough to write my story.’ – B. S., Founder
and CEO at Tandem Resource Solutions
‘I feel so blessed and very, very fortunate that
Tarryn came into my life.’ – R. G., The Gutsy
Executive Coach
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 Defining your IRA
Ideal Reader Avatar
Welcome to your Ideal Reader 1 Do they identify as male, female or other?
Avatar workbook.
Take the time to answer the questions below to 2 What is the age range of your ideal reader?
ensure that you have a clear understanding of who
exactly you are writing for.

3 Are they married, in a relationship, single, divorced or other?

4 What sort of income do they earn?

5 Do they have children or is this irrelevant?

6 Where do they live?

7 What kinds of books or magazines do they read?

8 Where are they looking for solutions (online, offline, brochures, etc.)?

9 Where are they hanging out?

10 What are their interests?

11 How do they communicate (e.g., phone, email, text, etc.)?

12 What do they do in their spare time?

13 What do they do for work?

14 What keeps them awake at night?

15 Right now, how do they feel?

16 What do they find frustrating?

© Tarryn Reeves
 Choosing
your book
topic
This worksheet has been designed to support
you in deciding on a topic for your book.

Take the time to fill in the spaces as you go and

by the end, you will have a clear idea on the topic
17 What do they find frustrating that they would never voice out loud? of your book.

1. Brainstorm ideas for topics based on your

18 What do they actually need (versus what they think they need)? knowledge, skills, experience and passions.

2. Complete the following sentence: By the

time you finish reading this book you will be
19 If they do not get their problem sorted out will they continue to be frustrated? able to:

20 Do they know that?

21 What is important to them? What do they value?

22 What do they think the problem is?

23 What are some of the key phrases that they use to describe the problem?
3. Is anyone actually looking for the topic you
want to write about?
24 They will find your book valuable if…?
4. Are there books that are already available
on your topic?

25 How do they speak in everyday life?

5. Are people actually buying those books?

6. If so, how much are they paying?

26 Do they have a sense of humour?
7. Describe who you are writing for.
27 Do they swear/cuss?
8. Note down the different pieces of content
you have already created which can be
repurposed in your book.
28 Do they like lots of visual cues or are they more of a words person?

29 Do they like exercises or prefer gathering knowledge?

 TELL

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TIME TO
is now!
THRIVE

HOW MUCH LONGER WILL

YOU ALLOW YOUR DIVORCE
TO DEFINE YOUR DESTINY?
IT’S TIME TO GET OVER IT
AND LIVE!

It is complete craziness to hope to thrive

in your new normal after divorce when you
continue to face your emotional struggles
with the same level of thinking and believing
that got you here in the first place.

IF YOU KNEW HOW TO

THRIVE AFTER DIVORCE,
YOU’D ALREADY BE
DOING IT, RIGHT?
Stop the nonsense, take off your
mask and ask for help. It’s time to
Love Your Life On Purpose!

If you’re ready to expedite your transformation

and break free from the emotional
captivity of divorce then book in at
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www.linkedin.com/in/michelle-IM4U
Get Over~it And Live! By Susannah Pask

Michelle Flowers – IM4U

Helping Professionals Escape the Emotional
Captivity of Divorce

I’d been served divorce papers.

How could I move forward in my life, having been

with the same person for more than 25 years? How
was change possible? But I would learn that the
catalyst for my change was rooted in the pain and
despair I found in facing the fact that my life would
never be the same again.

It all starts with forgiving yourself – as I had to.

You see, getting out of my own way and taking full
responsibility for my choices, and the way that I
responded to what was happening to me, were
the key components in my healing. The power of
forgiveness is only limited by those who have not
fully experienced its freedom.

They say in your darkest hour is when your real

strength emerges. With a conviction to keep moving
forward, I was determined to find my light – and
that’s when I decided to hire a coach for myself. My
coach taught me that life happens for me not to
me. I had no idea at the time that this decision was
going to propel me onto a life-changing trajectory.
My coach would often say to me, ‘Have you ever
considered being a divorce coach yourself and
helping women who don’t know which way to turn?’

I didn’t hear him. My ears were plugged

because I was just worried about SURVIVING
myself and couldn’t care less about helping
others. I wanted MY life back. Little did I know
then, but he was planting the seeds for me
to thrive…. not just survive. I learned how to
squash the victim mentality and realised I had
a story to tell that could be of value to others.
Even though a story can inspire, I was way out
of my comfort zone, stepping into unknown
territory when I decided to become a coach
myself.

But, if I was going to be a divorce coach, I wanted to

learn from the six- and seven-figure earners in the
industry. I hired multiple coaches, attended various
events, trainings and conferences, all during the
heart of the pandemic. My living room became my
office and meeting hub. A word of advice here –
don’t ever allow your circumstances to dictate your
actions. © Harry Acosta Photography

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I began connecting with people from all over the
planet. At a Tony Robbins conference, he said, ‘You
are who you surround yourself with. Proximity is
POWER.’ So, I joined an exclusive mastermind of
coaches because to be the best version of myself,
I needed to be amongst the elite. I went all in on
myself, getting a masters certification in neuro-
linguistic programming and becoming a licensed
hypnotherapist and to this day, I meet weekly with
phenomenal coaches from all over the world whom
I now call family (aka ‘FAM’)!
With an indescribable belief in myself, I am now
on a mission to serve as many women as I can
reach. I believe my feminine side has given me the
empathy and deep-rooted understanding to relate
to the professional woman who has gone through
a divorce and subsequently encased herself in an
emotional prison. I hid behind a mask to cover the
shame, confusion, anger and fear of being divorced.
Knowing the pain of trying to go it alone and getting
nowhere was self-inflicted torture.
As a woman, facing the barrage of emotions that
were holding me captive has turned out to be the
backbone of what I do. Although everyone has their
own experience, divorce is divorce. Having gone
through divorce and come out on the other side has
made me relatable and authentic. For some women,
getting out of the bed is a major step. Others
completely bury their emotions and wear a smile,
but deep inside they are being held captive by the
pain of divorce.
No matter where you are on your path, when you
lock arms with me, we go on a journey of healing
and transformation together. I will be your tour
guide for change. As clients awaken to their inner
warrioress, the once dimmed light begins to
illuminate. I stand firm on honesty, and I tell my
clients what they need to hear NOT what they want
to hear. The major G.O.A.L. that I urge women to
make a priority is to ‘Get Over~it And Live!’
I am naturally honest to the core. So when I coach
women, I think my authenticity shines like a kind
of lighthouse guiding lost ships to shore. I am
unapologetically me. To be honest, I refuse to get
caught up in what others think about me. Because
of this, the real me always shines through and my
sincerity is felt.
Today I am serving women by showing them the
POWER in asking for help, because it is TIME to love
life again. Life is waiting for them, and it is TIME
to set some GOALS, like Get Over~it And Live.
My goal is to show divorcees that there really is a
magnificent life on the other side of divorce.
My private community on Facebook, ‘Loving Your
Life After Divorce’, is growing in leaps and bounds,
and I constantly share my unique stance on moving
forward after divorce, which is to make it your
G.O.A.L. to Get Over~it And Live. If you want a
touchy-feely place to hang, this is not it. Unlike
other groups, we are about forward thinking. I
host events, provide written and video content and
I hold five-day virtual retreats exclusive to group
members.
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I remember a woman reached out to me online
and said I saved her life. She lived on the other
side of the world, had two small children and was
contemplating suicide. She read a post I had written
on Facebook and said it stirred something within to
help her see that her existence was not a mistake!
That’s the power of the written word!
Time is a precious commodity. For those of us
divorcees starting our new chapter, it is critical to
know that we don’t have to take this road alone. We
can expedite our breakthroughs by locking arms
with someone who has the recipe for a magnificent
life after divorce. But YOU must ask for help and not
be ashamed. Be a victor not a victim.
I offer complementary clarity calls for women
interested in learning what the next steps look
like to Loving Your Life Again. Those who are tired
of marinating in their own ‘stuckness’, exhausted
from the incessant back and forth whirlwind of
self-doubt, fearful that healing is something beyond
their reach, sign up for my six-week exploration to
discover The First Steps to Emotional Freedom.
Because we all rock our own authentic vibe, my
programs are tailored to each individual and are
‘Unique to You.’ I have even given little nicknames
to some of the areas my clients and I explore. ‘Find
Your Why’, ‘Forbidden Talk’, ‘Enough is Enough’,
‘May the Force Be with You’ and ‘Believe it or Not’
are just a taste of my no nonsense, down-to-earth,
relatable flair. For those who are ready to ignite
their fire within, ‘Be the CEO of Your Life’ is a six-
month experience for women desiring to not just
live life, but to love their life on purpose. Aren’t you
a teeny bit curious of what meaning the queen of
acronyms has assigned to the letters CEO?
Maybe you’re in a situation and you’ve made
the decision to go on with your life but you’re
on the verge of second guessing the ‘grass
is greener’ thing? Or maybe you’re still with
someone and you’re going through the battle of
do I leave, or do I stay?
When are you going to realise that you deserve
happiness? You can choose to go it alone, refuse
help, or you can even choose to stay suffering by
yourself. No matter if you’re in a disintegrating
marriage, or you’re divorced, there’s this block,
there’s this force, there’s this wall. It keeps people
stuck and in denial. And it keeps them soaking their
soul in misery and hopelessness.
But what if you just raise your hand and ask for
help? What if you stop allowing divorce or a failed
relationship to define your destiny? What could
you do today, what decision could you make right
now, to give yourself permission to love your life on
purpose?
Oftentimes after divorce, we not only lose our
Be a
confidence, but we lose our way. I am determined
to light the way for women all over the world!
You are not alone. I got you! Yes, honey, I am
here to be your reflection and show you your
Feminessence®.
feminessence.com.au
 © Harry Acosta Photography
A word of advice
here – don’t
ever allow your
circumstances
to dictate your
actions.
- Michelle Flowers

victor not a victim.

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 It’s your time
to shine
Imagine being granted the ability to design your own life.
Wait, what? Complete the following questions as you describe
your new normal life after divorce! (Money is no object, honey!)

find this
Hint: If you write
What do I absolutely love that ,
challenging it you
as
I get paid every day to do? the answers Netflix
a
are creating ou are
y
(And it doesn't even Original a n d
the S R!
T A
feel like work.)

Where will I live?

What is the look... the
feel... the smell...?
Get as detailed as you
possibly can.

© Michelle Flowers
 Who do I help with
no strings attached?

When I decide to start my

day, what do I experience?
(Anything goes.)
What do I do for
enjoyment?
(It’s okay, Boo. Only
you will see this....)

What activities
are part of my New
Normal that bring
me fulfillment?

Who do I love spending time

with? Why? (Get spicy....
It’s all good to go there.)
 Living my own
authenticity By Susannah Pask

Nikki A Creber – CEO & Founder

Navigating Parkinson's Disease & Navigating the Crone Zone

I am a local, national and international, mission-fueled

and purpose-driven coach and advocate for men and
women living with Parkinson’s disease.

I am also a Women’s Change Guide working with mature

aged, experience-rich women, raising their consciousness to
step into the best and highest version of themselves.

As a coach, I am a confidante, counselor, guide and listener.

As your advocate, I can be a loud or soft representative
voice, a presence to support you and an ally to give you
the opportunity to have your rights in place. Walking the
walk and talking the talk are powerful states that speak to
integrity, authenticity and sovereignty. It is imperative that
leaders in their field and experts claim this. Walking my own
journey with reflection and self-realisation assuredly has left
footprints for others.

Neurologically we can
change. We can grow
new neural pathways
and heal our brains.
- Nikki A Creber

I am alive beyond the normal

years – and that is because
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 Life Altering Moment #1
My own experiences have each contributed significantly
to my sense of purpose and advocacy in developing
community awareness. I know my Feminessence visibility
has grown, flowered and is recognisable because of these
experiences.
At the age of 48, I was diagnosed with Parkinson’s
disease. I went into shock and felt like a beached
whale. I felt hopeless!
My Parkinson’s disease diagnosis contributed to changing
the course of my trajectory. I was a full-time deputy principal
in a very busy school, and firmly on the promotion pathway.
It felt like my life suddenly was stolen from me. I had to
learn to live with a chronic, debilitating, degenerative and
progressively developing disease that interrupts the body
system on three distinct levels: motoric, non-motoric and
neurological.
Who Was I?
A few years after diagnosis, I got out of bed and crossed
the room to go to the bathroom – and had a severe fright.
There was someone in my room, and I saw her in the mirror.
It took me some minutes to realise it was me – I just did not
recognise myself! What had happened to me? I was stooped
and hobbling. I was thin. I had lost control of my body, my
hair was untidy and I looked like an invalid.
A while later, a friend offered me a lifeline – a chance to
oversee renovations on her home and restore her one-acre
garden across an 18-month period. I said yes because I
realised I was no longer in touch with any of my former
passions. I had lost hope and given up on life.
That sabbatical time taught me so much as I took myself
off all drugs and laboured physically for two years. I pushed
through all sorts of pain and brain fog barriers and came out
the other side, once more the one in charge of my mind, my
spirit and most importantly, my body.
I still have Multiple Systems Atrophy - Parkinson's Disease,
part of the Parkinson's Plus Syndromes, which means I am
very well acquainted with the progression of this terrible
disease and how difficult it is to live with its inevitable,
chronic debilitating degenerative progression. I am alive
beyond the normal stated life span by eight years – and that
is because I am the one in control now.
stated life span by eight
I am the one in control now.
it ’s the movement you’ve been longing for...
Life Altering Moment #2
At age ten, my younger daughter Sammie was an amazing
soccer player. She was selected for the regional team in our
area. At one weekly competition game, she was struck on
the back of the head and knocked out cold. Thus began the
hardest five years of my life.
I spent the next five years fighting to bring my brain-
damaged daughter back. This is when I learned about the
supreme power of neuroplasticity, as I helped my daughter
recover from a brain injury when the doctors had left us with
little hope. I used kinesiology with her daily for five years
and it empowered neuroplasticity processes in her brain
to heal and recover. At the age of fifteen, she came out for
breakfast one morning and I could see it in her eyes – my
daughter was restored.
Neurologically we can change. We can grow new neural
pathways and heal our brains.
Discovering Audaciousness
I became aware of my audacious centre through a sudden
accidental emergency. I was called upon to hold a young
man’s abdominal wall together and his intestines in, while
simultaneously trying to maintain a conversation and his
consciousness. There came a moment when I ran out of
energy to stay on task, and I felt faint with fatigue and fear.
As I struggled, I felt something deep in my heart wrench,
perhaps shift a gear… and my whole persona was overrun
with an unfamiliar embracing and enervating warmth and
strength. The ambulance finally arrived and the young man
survived his emergency surgery and thrives to this day.
It wasn’t until a few years later I had the chance to
really reflect on that experience, finding that my heart,
my strength, and my sense of self had been changed.
It is delightful to work with clients and observe the
long-term shifts and transformation occurring in their
ability to curate their own directions, purposes and
lives because they understand how to ‘tune into’
their audacious heart space. Being able to rely upon
using my own well of audaciousness has added a new
dimension of confidence, making my Feminessence
more available to me every day.
© Keith Swekla
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Locating the STAR Within
My 18-month sabbatical taught me how to maintain
my strength, so I can support, encourage and guide
clients on their various pathways today. I work
with women seeking connection with their divine
sovereign selves through a transformative path that
locates the STAR within (Savvy, Transforming,
Audaciously and Realising your Agency). I have
developed my own Changework process within
Lifestyle Protocols – Locate Audacious You®. This
process weaves together the wisdom a woman
gathers as she traverses various life roles: sister,
friend, mother, aunt, lover, wife, homemaker,
teacher, party girl, grandmother, maven, advisor,
elder, wise woman and ‘crone’.
These myriad expressions of a woman in her
life journey are my constant impetus, helping
her to:
• nurture her unique expression
• nourish its continued growth
• nurse those expressions into new and further
variations
My feminine edge has informed the design of
the Changework process I use with clients to:
• interrogate each lived experience for its
lessons
• adopt one’s value set to become one’s
compass
• reflect on and reframe, identify and transform
negative self-talk
• holistically approach body, mind, soul and
heart
My counselling, coaching and mentoring are about
helping others, particularly women, unpack their
individual story. I am passionate about living by
authenticity and sovereignty. I believe making
more visible one's own increasingly strong sense of
Feminessence® enables one to move more deeply
into all aspects of this work with the aim of releasing
the subconscious blocks that keep one stuck and
prevent one from being their one’s best self.
Through various tools inside my programs, I
guide luminescent women - and those yet fearful
of shining - to drill down to their deepest heart
recesses and look into their iridescent souls. This
inner heart space is where you tune into your deep
well of audaciousness.
Here is where I read your aura and listen with great
attention to you. And here is also the portal to
revealing your Femininessence® - your inner glow.
The created radiance, from your inner glow once
found, carries back and enables the definition and
distinction of your beautiful feminine essence. I
invite you to join me in this sacred work.
My programs include Navigating the Crone Zone,
Presence Plus Strategist, Navigating Parkinson’s
Disease® and Parkinson’s Lifestyle Protocols®
I’ve walked my own journey. I’ve been there. I know.

Let me be there for you.

Nikki brings to her clients the wisdom, leadership,

beautiful feminine energy and decades of experience…
from her work in the field of Parkinson’s to her
transformative work with women in business. Nikki
possesses grace and humility rarely seen and is a
standout businesswoman and human.
– Genine Howard, Feminine Business Coach

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 Navigating Navigating
Parkinson’s Disease the Crone Zone
Bespoke Personalised Coaching, Mature Women’s Wisdom
discover your Parkinson’s Illuminated by Heart Alchemy
Lifestyle Protocols
Who are my Key Clients?
# newly diagnosed, in shock, confused
# feeling beached like a whale; high and bereft
# experiencing emotional overwhelm
# trying to cope with the symptoms of grief,
# ongoing shock, depression, anxiety and apathy
# experiencing a loss of control in life and a sense of being different
# caring for a person living with Parkinson’s Disease
# embarking on an NDIS application

Inside the Crone Zone probe your

“Do you know anyone with
Parkinson’s Disease?
deep heart spaces and illuminate
” your divine feminine edge
Meet the Star within.
In the last 5 years, I have asked this question everywhere.
Perhaps at work, or through your friendship network or perhaps in Make change the way, step into your
your family? 87% of people I ask answer Yes, after they have a little magic and impact the world
think. What about you? The numbers are growing.

Not a discovery call at all!

Mention Feminessence® to get
Your first coaching call x 1 hour is free! To take this offer up you
do not need to be a client yet but can come expecting some good 10% Discount
suggestions and maybe even some answers to take away. on all courses for the
No obligations! How can I be of service to you? remainder of 2022

Connect through our website at

www.nikkiacreber.vip
Mob: 61 434 149 688
navigatingparkinsonsdisease@nikkiacreber.vip
thecronezone@nikkiacreber.vip
 When heart leads, head follows
& purpose emerges
Illuminating your Heart Code
- ‘Navigating the Crone Zone’

When you Google your name, what comes up? Is it what you expected? Is
it what you wanted to see? If not, or if not quite, then this is when revisiting
your value set and writing your manifesto anew is worth your time and effort.

Audaciously navigate your Heart Code - Why?

3
Writing your manifesto is an exercise in reframing and refining your
values and beliefs. This is very important as it can form a rock-solid
foundation and filter against which you can test every difficult Your story should run alongside
decision – business or personal. your value lineup comfortably.
Establishing that partner relationship can
be achieved by giving thought to these
2 considerations:

1 List 5 features about the person you want to be.

Interrogating your List 3 emotions you would want to feel on a
The art of leading yourself value system regular basis.

This can provide clarity about your List 5 activities you would love to do each week.
So vitally important in 2022 and beyond. While you
might have a host of mentors across different areas vocation / profession / business. Part
of this process is about the stories If finding the answers to these questions feels
in your life, secondary ‘balcony people’ (heroes and
you tell yourself. What is of great help like stepping out into a void then consider any
imaginary advisors that you continually turn to in your
here is identifying the disruptors in material items that you like to have around – any
mind) can be pivotal to self-motivating,
your life and using a personal audit daily pursuits that give you satisfaction – and
self- initiating and flowing into an effective
tool to refine your story. what your spiritual connection with the universe
process of self-governing.
is? Try mediating on these things and then return
to the exercise.
Beyond this, there is still more required for complete
sovereignty. Serving in our highest and best way
Your Heart Code can be the bedrock of your
does require our self-leadership to be based firmly in
character and forms the foundation for your
strong sovereignty
manifesto.
Try these questions:

1. What is your personality style?

(www.discprofile.com)
2. What do you stand for?
3. What’s your big ‘why’?
4. What’s your genius area?
5. How do you intend to change the world?
6. What do you love about the work you do and the
people you serve?
7. What do you dislike about the struggle your ideal
customer goes through before they find you?
8. What can you offer to lessen that struggle and help
your customer find you more easily?
This exercise is about unveiling yourself – the pretty,
good, tired, weak, indifferent, thorough, moving and
inspirational parts of you. Make it a complete process.

© Nikki A Creber
 4
The following questions can help you
clarify your Heart Code.
Many experts in self-development agree that there is
the need to review your bedrock beliefs at least
every year.

1. What do you love to do?

2. What are you passionate about?
3. If money was not an issue, what would you do with
your energy and time?
4. What could you do to create a legacy with your
current talents and abilities?
5. What do you personally wish to change in your life
right now?
6. Describe your healthy personal boundaries.
7. What are the daily practices in your self-love
repertoire?
8. Check out your daily meditation practices. Have you
considered ‘Heart Appreciation Meditation’?
Use the heart picture —- fill in the 1/8ths quadrants

5
WHY revisit your values?
Use values list over here
Valut, Aedvsentulires, Atuthority, Autonomy
# You’ll become more confident. With confidence Achievemen
Authenticity, s, Belonging
you’ll stop struggling so much with decision making. uty, Boldnes ion,
Balance, Bea ncy, Contribut
ip , Co m m un ity, Compete ication
tizensh mmun
Challenge, Ci n, Change, Co
# You’ll become more self-referential and self- Compassion, ity, Curiosity, Collaboratio sity
Creativ ocracy, Diver
validating. When you define your values, it’s like io n, D ec is iveness, Dem tiveness
having an internal validation system. Determin at
ci te m en t, Ex pertise, Effec
nal), Ex
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Family
Equality, Exce Friendship, Fr
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Fairness, Fa
# They put you as the master of your own ship. Growth
armony,
When you define your values, you are no longer a
ne ss , H on es ty, Humour, H
passive bystander in your life. Happi ctualism
en ce , In no vation, Intelle
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Integrity, Inde
Justice
# They act like a useful yardstick against which to owledge
measure your progress. When your values are clear, Kindness, Kn
, Leisure
a lot of your insecurity will fall away. ip , Le ar ni ng , Love, Loyalty
Leadersh
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# The clarity seems to create opportunities. Nature
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I notice that opportunities to bring myself into Openness, O y, Productivity
alignment with my values arise more often when I am
, Po w er , Pr estige, Privac
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Quality ps
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sp ec t, Responsibilit ,
Recognition,
Religio n, Re ccess, Status
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Sp iri tu al ity, Stability, Su
ice,
define your values, you know when or what to say yes Respect, Serv , Self-Expres
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Reinvention
- A work in progress
Kim Yabsley
Founder – Everyday Strategy
Funding Acquisition Specialist

For me, life has been an evolving journey

of reinvention.
By Susannah Pask
I recall early in life; a simple interaction left me
feeling that I was not quite good enough. It was
an insignificant event. I was sitting on the grass
contemplating nothing, in particular, perhaps my
first experience of being entirely in the moment,
in the curious way that children in nature do. I
recall being told that no one likes a sullen child. It
was at this moment that I began to think I needed
to be more, do more, and perform more to be
appreciated. That one limiting belief has travelled
with me and is often present before I am even
aware of it.

Like many people, I’ve had to constantly battle

against that thought so that it doesn't drive
my decisions and create my results in life. That
remains a work in progress. There are various
circumstances throughout my journey that have
triggered reflection, of course; the birth of my
daughter and the complex dynamics of extended
family that followed; complications experienced
during my second pregnancy and my relationship
breakdown shortly afterwards; losing my 'forever
home' and the death of my father. These individual
events and circumstances seem less relevant than
being able to accept the ultimate flow of life: joy,
constraint, the stickiness of challenges, solutions
development, growth and the insight that follows.

It's not always easy to accept that flow when

you are deeply embedded in the experience.
Still, as I become wiser (and older), I recognise
that despite the unfamiliarity and discomfort
life sometimes presents, it is the most fertile
ground for growth. While we are in the vast
terrain of uncertainty, clarity is not expected.
I've always liked to be informed to make good
choices. Some might consider me a control
freak; I think of it as being organised and
informed. Life has shown me that, on occasion,
we have to get lost to find ourselves.

My father was a pragmatic man, but he was also

insightful. Only after his death did I come to
see the value of his experience, teachings and
wisdom. In hindsight, he and my mother taught
us well early on. We were raised to commit and
follow through but also to trust our instincts. We
were free to make choices but required to accept
responsibility for those choices. We were taught
to use our experiences to develop insight, not to
make the same mistake repeatedly, to leave others
bigger than we found, and to pick our battles and
prepare for the fights that mattered. We were taught
emotional intelligence long before it was a thing. It
was not ‘woo woo’ or even intentional; it was just
the way of life for my parents. They were smart,
centred, loving people.

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Becoming An Entrepreneur
I have always been an analyser and a creator,
even when I didn't know it. Some of my favourite
memories of early adulthood include sitting around
with my brother, identifying what didn't work
about life, relationships, people and systems and
trying to brainstorm solutions. Cam went on to
become an analyst, and I became an entrepreneur.
It figures. I always felt a little unusual, and my life
choices reinforced my view of myself. I always
believed that if I could conceive it, I could create it.
I have always been driven, ambitious and wanted
to have an impact. After a string of jobs in sales
and account management for large corporates,
in which I did reasonably well but struggled
with the structure, I found myself working as a
consultant and a facilitator in organisational and
leadership development. I loved that work but
saw a fundamental flaw in how organisations
developed. They sent people to be trained to
develop skills, sometimes personal, other times
professional; they wrote corporate strategy without
any real engagement, threw in some team building,
if there was time and budget, and hoped that it
would result in a healthy culture. There was no real
foundation for measuring, monitoring or changing
culture. None of the existing frameworks defined
what culture was.
Feminine Intuition
I think that intuition has always led me in life and
business. I can feel into opportunities easily and
make decisions quickly, which has meant that
I've been both fortunate and opportunistic. I love
what I do, but what I do has changed many times
during my career, always with the fundamental
goal of helping businesses grow. Being flexible and
allowing myself to adapt and transition - which I
consider essential feminine skills - have been the
keys to my own personal and professional growth.
Connecting with others is the essence of true
collaboration. I have always sought connection; it
is one of my highest values. If we are authentically
connected and communicate, we can solve almost
any problem, figure out the pathway to create more
possibilities and ultimately, create better outcomes
for ourselves and others.
It's tricky; it's still a man's world in many
ways, even though we are starting to see that
called out more often. I don't think we need to
emulate men. Women have the unique ability
to understand men and to use their feminine
powers for good. I do believe there can be
a pitfall, however. We are still expected to
juggle more and complain less, to be beautiful,
intelligent, resourceful and gracious in a way
the world does not expect of men. The more
women help and support each other, the sooner
we can shape those structures that once held
us back and show the world how it can be done
together and with love, rather than from a
place of separateness and competition. Women
have this unique capacity for softening and an
authenticity that can transform circumstances.
I'm not saying men can't do that, but I have seen
it come more naturally for women far more often.
Everyday Strategy & Inspired Engagement
My work helps corporations and government
organisations to expand. We do that by building a
better culture. By building emotional intelligence
at leadership levels, we can truly shape the
whole ecosystem of an organisation which has
ripple effects on individuals, their families and
communities. We spend, on average, 90,000 hours
of work during our lifetime – workplace culture
significantly contributes to how we experience it.
The more we can create healthy cultures where
people thrive, can find themselves, experience
enhanced wellbeing, feel connected to others, and
contribute meaningfully, the more we can create
win-win outcomes for all involved.
Through this business, I wrote my first book,
Inspired Engagement, and had the opportunity
to share stages with some of the very best in the
industry (Brene Brown, Simon Sinek). This inspired
me to contribute to thought leadership about the
role and potential of building a better culture.
Most recently, in this business, we have created a
tech platform that measures and monitors culture,
offering a simple, gamified experience for the end
user while providing a real-time culture snapshot
for organisations.
This unusual foray into becoming a tech startup
led to a new business opportunity for me. For
small businesses, we facilitate expansion through
grants. It has been my personal experience when I
launched my tech product for the corporate market
that grants can be an effective growth strategy
for small businesses. There are over 3000 grants
available at any given time; on average, they are
only 17% successful. The strategist in me can’t help
but want to help other small businesses to take a
step back, do the research and use grants as a key
growth strategy.
So, of course, in true entrepreneurial style, I created
a business to do just that! At Everyday Strategy,
we help clients to find, submit and win grants. I
have become quite passionate about grants as a
growth strategy; often, a grant can be the difference
between getting a dream off the ground and not. I
know how overwhelming that can be for business
owners who are not used to reading guidelines,
strategising their business into projects and writing
to win funding.
I am an ideas agent, first and foremost, fuelled by
intuition and creativity. I love to spot an opportunity
and leverage it; I guess that’s why I have always
loved and been good at selling, even when I
feared failure in my younger years. These days I am
motivated by creating freedom (time and money)
as access to being present with the things which
matter most to me. If I can help others do the same,
that’s a win-win. I’m unsure if I will always be in this
business or even in business. I am sure I will always
keep my eye on the horizon, seek growth, and try to
accept myself more.
After all, the real work is “self-work.” Don’t you
agree?

The more women help and support

each other, the sooner we can shape
those structures that once held us
back and show the world how it can
be done together and with love.

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 Position The following are our three
top tips to help you position

for success
for success in finding,
submitting and winning
government grants in 2022:

Be consistent.

Be prepared.
You’ve got to be in it to win it, but
consistency is key. While there
are over 3000 grants open at any
given time, on average, only 17% of
submissions are successful. There is
indeed an art to writing good grant
applications but winning them is
Have your documents ready;

Be strategic.
Grants can scale your business
growth by giving you access to the
funds to get out there and help
you scale quicker than you would
otherwise. But it’s essential to
ensure you identify and apply for
grants that are a good match for your
business. The ‘grant grab’ refers
to a reactive approach to funding,
applying for sporadic grants and
cobbling together submissions
at the last minute without really
assessing how you can deliver on
the intended outcomes.
strategy, business or project plan,
financial documents, team profiles,
supplier proposals, quotations, etc.
Someone who has never met you
and doesn’t know your business
is comparing it with thousands of
others. For competitive grants (and
even for a quick turnaround on
eligibility grants), position yourself
for success by documenting your
idea/ initiative or project (on paper!)
so that it’s an easy “yes!” at the
other end and get the supporting
documentation ready well ahead of
time.
a combination of well-structured
submissions (talk to us about that!)
and consistently showing up to
knock on the door. You might not
win the first (or even second or third)
grant you apply for, but chances are,
if you are applying for the right ones,
your time will come as long as you
stay in the game, especially if you
are working with an expert (wink,
wink, nudge, nudge!).

Funding
strategy
A funding strategy will help you to take a step back and:
• assess the broad range of funding opportunities that align with your areas of focus
• shape your business/project/ activities to position you to win - and grow!
• develop a clear roadmap for using grants to grow

Want a customised funding strategy for your business?

Book a free strategy call, and let’s brainstorm.

© Kim Yabsley
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 Today is the
first day of the
rest of your
life, make it
the best
of your life.
– Moana Robinson
 comfort
Out of my

zone By Susannah Pask

Tracey Collins
Founder – The PamperClub App.

When I was 21, I moved to Sydney from a regional town

interstate.

I had to move out of my comfort zone and thought I had

what it took to survive in a ‘Big City.’ It was intoxicating and
exciting to experience the bright lights and the fast pace
of living in Sydney. I relished learning about the different
cultures I would have never experienced in my regional
hometown. When I was in Sydney, I began working
in the beauty and makeup industry. After about two
years, I craved to return to my hometown to open
my own salon, using the newfound beauty skills
my hometown would appreciate. I didn’t want the
burden of a business loan, so I began to work
two extra jobs along with my full-time job in the
beauty industry. I worked Friday nights in a
Surry Hills bar and 2 x 4-hour weekend shifts
in an Auburn pharmacy. I saved the money
needed to buy an existing 20-square-metre
salon and had enough money to purchase
the products and equipment necessary
to start my new business. After about a
year, I headed back to my hometown.

I had no business plan, just an

eagerness to work hard and make
a success of my new venture.
© Beata Mazur

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 “Don’t give up without a fight,
whether it requires you to be fierce
or to stand strong in your footprint.”
I got married when I was 27 in my hometown, but
unfortunately, the marriage broke down. After the
breakdown, I was determined not to be a woman
who needed to be financially and emotionally
dependent on a man. I discovered that it was okay
to be on my own; it was okay to be nervous and in
doubt. I always want to be known for my honesty
and integrity. Because what you see is what you get.
I walked away from my first marriage with few
possessions or money. I didn’t want to fight for the
house. I wasn’t emotionally up for it. I threw myself
into my work, which greatly distracted me. I saved
enough to buy my very own home, which was very
run down and in need of much love, but that was
okay; I had time, and I knew I could save money.
I was an incredibly hard worker. But something
happened. I met someone and fought my feelings
until I could no more. He was just everything.
Damn it! I didn’t want this to happen so soon after
my marriage breakdown, but I stopped overthinking
it and let the universe do what it does. He is now my
husband of 23 years.
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Growing My Business
After 12 years, I decided my little 20-square-metre
salon was too small for my ever-growing business.
I knew I had to work harder if I wanted bigger
premises, so I put my head down and saved the
dollars needed. After a few months, I signed a
lease contract for a new 100 square metre premises
to start over again. This time I did secure a small
loan as it was five times the size of the original
salon. I had to fill eight treatment rooms, reception
and staff room. I was terrified but determined
to make my way in life – and to be financially,
emotionally and fiercely independent Here’s the
best part. My now-partner was a carpenter by trade
with a fantastic skill set and a strong desire to make
my new salon both successful and the best-looking,
most reputable salon in my hometown. And it was.
I now had the most prominent beauty salon in my
hometown. Life was good, but after 12 years, the
building sold, and I had to move out. We couldn’t
find any available suitable commercial premises.
There were none.
Not ready to retire, I kept searching and
then one day, I drove past a suburban florist
shop. I noticed a SOLD sign on it, and I was
disappointed because I had often thought this
would be a perfect place for a salon. But sales
can fall through, right? I decided to ring the
real estate agent, who told me the gentleman
who had it under contract might not be able to
get financing. Again, I channelled the universe,
and a few days later, she rang me with the
news that it had fallen through. I put it under
contract, terrified and again over-thinking the
what if’s and what have I done?
My husband and I committed to taking on our
biggest project ever. We gutted it, did all the
outfitting ourselves, we worked our butts off after
work into the night and on weekends, with our two
young children asleep in the spare rooms. It took us
3-4 months to be ready.
Eight years later, Covid hit. Like so many other
businesses, we were forced to shut down. I was
beside myself with worry. I had a building load to
pay off, so I pivoted. I did Facebook posts, carried
out online skin consults, and delivered skincare
and retail all over my hometown. The support was
overwhelming,
After about two months, we were allowed to open
for business again, with stringent Covid rules and
PPE, which were all expensive to implement. Like
many other service-based business owners, I
had to juggle constant client cancellations and
reschedules due to Covid and its restrictions. Some
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two years later, they are still a business nuisance
that renders our solid cancellation policy invalid. I
started to read many posts on the Facebook private,
professional group pages of the ever-growing
number of salon business owners with the same
problem. If the Covid shutdown didn’t take our
businesses, then this would. It was a potential
disaster in the making.
Meeting A Need
Then an idea came to me. What about an app.
where salon and service based industry owners can
upload deals to fill in their cancellations or slower
times in their appointment schedules?
The PamperClub App. was born.
Here was a way to help fill service based businesses
cancellations, and replace some of the owner’s
revenue losses while giving clients a great last-
minute deal. It made so much sense. I had come
up with something I could use myself and share
nationwide to help other client service-based
businesses like mine.
As the saying goes, ‘Necessity is the mother of
invention.’
Being A Woman in Business
Being a beauty salon owner for 34 years, I am
constantly in a predominantly female environment.
This provides me with a unique and privileged
position to listen to and understand what women
want and what they need. As a businesswoman,
wife and mother, along with many other women, we
are exhausted with being exhausted, but we need
to push through, as many others are depending on
us. As a woman, I think I have an innate ability to
‘trust my gut.’ I believe women know when to be
empathetic, and we know when to be protective
and firm but gentle and caring all at the same time.
We don’t give up without a fight, whether it requires
us to be fierce or to stand strong in our footprints.
Determination and grit have always served me well.
I have a very personable and trustworthy
personality. I have the natural ability to make
people feel comfortable and to enjoy being in my
company. I became aware of these traits in my early
20’s when I started my career as a beauty therapist.
I’ve always wanted to help individuals be and feel
their best. I do this by delivering services to an
exceptional standard that encourages others to
relax and enjoy being in the moment. I have carried
all these skills to my new business, the PamperClub
app.
 I also LOVE getting to know people’s stories about
how they got to where they are; their journeys are
ever-growing and never-ending. I want my traits
of trustworthiness and reliability to be the reason
PamperClub App is downloaded and implemented
daily by client service-based businesses in
Australia, so they know the PamperClub app has
their back!

Do I think women have to act like men in

business? Hell no! In fact, the opposite is true.
Being a woman gives me significant advantages
because I can relate by sharing my personal
experiences, wins, and failures. It shows that
I understand my clients and have the best
intentions. The business landscape is evolving
rapidly. Attitudes towards the ‘traditional’ ways
of doing business are changing. Women play
a more significant role in shaping the future
of business – and we can provide a fresh new
approach because of our life experiences. Being
a successful woman in business these days is
important and beneficial to all involved. We
have so much to give our clients – and so much
to offer the business world.

The PamperClub App

I believe in helping others by being able to tap into

their strengths and weaknesses and finding out
about their frustrations and struggles. It is about
listening and engaging in conversation, sharing
stories and real-life events. As I’m in business
myself in a service-based industry, I understand
what it is like to lose clients because of last-minute
cancellations. I have been there. I know what it
is like – and I invented the PamperClub App to
help solve a real-life business frustration in these
uncertain times.

• I want the PamperClub App to be an extra

business tool discovered and downloaded by

There is something
client service-based businesses all over Australia.
These businesses can trust that it came from
someone who understands their problems

powerful and unique

firsthand.

• I want the PamperClub App to be downloaded

when we women support

and utilised by women who need to spend ‘time
out’ to give themselves some important self-love
and pamper themselves on an impulse, treating

each other. We can

themselves to some well deserved pampering,
health, wellness and fitness therapy sessions.

achieve the impossible

When a woman sets her mind to something, there’s
nothing she can’t accomplish! We can either give
in to obstacles or approach them with a ‘come at

- and trust that the

me’ attitude. With our other women’s support and
cheerleading, we can band together and celebrate
each other’s wins.

Universe will provide.

– Tracey Collins

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 Is your business in the hair,
beauty, spa, health, wellness
& fitness service industry?
Have you found your cancellation policy is constantly challenged
because of Covid, and your business is losing income?
Or you just aren’t as full of appointments as you were pre-Covid days?
After answering these questions, what if you discovered you can still make money
from your client or fitness class member cancellations? By filling up the gaps in
your appointment or class days.

There are usually FOUR areas that service businesses must get done right,
but did you know there’s a FIFTH? This one most businesses haven’t even
considered until now!

1. A booking system that takes a fee.

Does your booking system take a fee when an appointment or class spot is scheduled? However, do
you find that even if the client reschedules, that booking fee carries over, leaving a gap you can’t fill in
your day?

2. A cancellation policy
Do you have a well-published cancellation policy that communicates the terms & fees? Has Covid
and other medical reasons become a ‘get out of jail card’, and you’re still left with an open gap in
your appointments or classes?

3. A wait list
This is a file or diary that you manually list client names that want an appointment for a particular
day and time. Is your waitlist manual or automated?

4. A shout-out platform
Do you have social platforms and automated processes that allow you to advertise a last
minute "shout out"? You probably do, however doing a post across many different platforms
will take you time, extra effort and expertise.

5. An App
It’s a mobile App! It’s quick, effective and reaches many consumers just waiting to claim a
deal from a business in the Hair, Beauty, Pamper, Health, Wellness & Fitness sectors. You
register your business, location, and services, and you can upload deals in under 5mins to
reach many consumers.

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at Australia’s best
Health, Beauty, Hair & Wellness Clinics.
In 2020 when many large cities around Australia
came out of lockdown, the country as a whole
experienced a 40% increase in client cancellation
and reschedules. It was for this reason that The
PamperClub App was born.
The PamperClub App has been designed to
close the gap of cancelled or rescheduled
appointments and lost revenue with a mission to
have service providers fully booked week in
and week out.
The PamperClub App platform is what connects
service providers with savvy on-the-go consumers
looking for last-minute appointments. It is a
one-of-a-kind that is designed to help businesses
bring in new customers at a moment’s notice.
The PamperClub App.
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Got a Day Off? Then open
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find a deal near you. The
PamperClub App simplifies
selfcare, health and wellness.
Consumers just go straight to the Deals section,
they can favourite their best business of choice to
recieve instant email notifications of when a deal is
posted. These deals save on spa treatments, salon
services, and so much more.
The PamperClub App shows a live map of providers
near you offering sensational deals on last minute
pampering appointments, wellness, health and
fitness sessions. There is an evergrowing directory
of listed businesses on the app.
www.pamperclub.com.au
The PamperClub’s App
mission is to empower
service client based
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I want to help them increase revenue,
grow their network and create sustainable
relationships with their client base.
A business profile set up is just 6 easy steps
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What do I
want you
Genevieve Searle
Founder, The Optimisation Queen

Beautiful woman reading these words, I have been sitting with this
article, with you in my heart pondering “what do I want this woman to
know?” What do I want her to receive from these pages?
What can I offer her?1

Beautiful Sister Queen, I want you to know that the most incredible
things are possible.

I want you to know that your wildest dreams are available to you.
And that your deepest desires and biggest visions are a gift to the world.
I want you to know that your dreams are not too big, that your soul calling is
perfect and needed.

I want you to know that being “too much” is just about perfect when you are
connected to your heart and committed to your evolution.
to know? By Susannah Pask
I want you to know that your expansion is a gift to the world and is exactly
what you need to actualise your soul purpose.

I want you to know that the intuition in your bones, your courageous, radiant
heart, your sassy, magnetic yoni1 and your wise, compassionate, wild, and
untamed feminine essence is EXACTLY what’s needed to bring this in.

I want you to know that I see you, and I honour you.

1
Yoni: a celebratory Sanskrit word meaning “abode,” “source,” “womb,” or “vagina”

I want you to know that

I see you, and I honour you.

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I have shared my early story in the previous
Feminessence® edition, so I won’t rehash it here.
Instead, I’d love to share the journey that I’ve been
on since writing that article, close to a year ago
today.
This past year has been one of the most challenging
and profoundly transformative periods of my life
so far. Truth be told, I still wasn’t fully embracing
my Feminessence® at the time of that writing, and
it has been a wild, challenging and often painful
process of surrendering to Her.
In that time, I have:
• Navigated physical injuries and reimagined my
relationship with my body
• Released, grieved, and rebirthed my 20-year
partnership
• I confronted what was failing and reconstructed
my business in a way that is aligned with how I
want to work and whom I want to work with
• I have begun the era of letting my children fly free
as adults
• Celebrated WILD and ongoing successes as an
international author and speaker
All of this required me to make a choice: fully
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surrender to the truth of my deeply feminine
nature and follow my soul purpose or step back
into mediocrity, get a regular job, have a normal
relationship, or separate permanently and do all
the usual things because pursuing my vision while
trying to follow the culturally acceptable, masculine
“rules” simply WOULD. NOT. WORK!
Every time I tried to do what I “should” do, it failed,
no matter what area of my life I worked with. I
only made progress when I wholly followed my
intuition and feminine flow. This was terrifying,
uncomfortable, confronting and often nauseating.
It went against EVERYTHING logical, rational, or
followed any conventionally accepted format.
Most of the time, I was so far out of my comfort
zone that my nervous system was permanently
on high alert. I have spent a year and even
more so the last six months feeling way out of
my depth, uncertain and often terrified! Let me
repeat that… Every step I took, I was scared.
The bright, shiny, audacious woman you see in
these images has risen out of the ashes of her old
self and life.
Body Breakdown
It began with an injured leg and a broken wrist that
happened within two weeks of each other. As a
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woman who exercised every day and was strong,
active and in the best shape of my life, this was
devastating. It stripped me of some of my biggest
joys, CrossFit, running and aerial hoop, taking with
it not only my physical strength and resilience but
also significant mental and emotional support.
However, this paradoxically also saved my health
and led me deeper into one of my other loves,
ecstatic dance. I genuinely believe that my health
would not have coped with the stress of exercise
and the intense pressure I was experiencing in
every other part of my life. I needed to conserve my
energy, and these injuries made sure of that!
Two things were an absolute lifeline in looking
after my injured, stressed body: Ecstatic dance and
the profiling technology that I work with, ph360
Healthtype Profiling.
Dancing through the Darkness
Even though my leg was injured, my wrist was
broken, and I developed calf, knee, and fatigue
issues, I could still find ways to dance by engaging
the floor, walls, and other surfaces. I could find ways
to move freely and fluidly while limiting the strain to
my body.
Far more than just a way to move, though, it has
also been one of the most potent pathways for
transformation, and that was its biggest gift.
Dance is an access point for entering altered
states of consciousness & in that space, I have
encountered some of the deepest wisdom, most
profound insights, most powerful healing
and most pure & connected love.
Free, ecstatic, or conscious dance is where we
ALLOW ourselves to be moved BY the music
from the inside in any way we feel. Through this
process, we can:
1. Make sense of experiences,
2. Move emotions through our body
3. Access our wisdom
4. Rewire our nervous system & ingrained patterns
5. Take us out of the Monkey Mind & help us find
perspective
6. Activate the endo-cannabinoid system and feel-
good chemicals
7. Change emotional states and
8. Reprogram cellular memory
Through ecstatic dance, we become our own
healers, therapists & guides. It is our birthright to
move in a fluid, free, unchoreographed and deeply
embodied way. It is our birthright to feel and in the
feeling of “what is” that we transform. For me, in the
sense of “what is”, I have transformed.
I invite you too to dance like no one is watching, in
your own space, in your way, on your terms.
Free your body, claim your power and transform
yourself because what happens on the dance floor
ripples into every part of life.
The bright,
shiny, audacious
woman you see
here has risen
out of the ashes
of her old self
and life.

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Body Care with ph360
The second lifeline was Ph360 Healthtype profiling.
This is a science-based, whole human profiling
technology based on epigenetics and hormonal
wiring. It is NOT a personality test. It uses physical
body measurements and lifestyle questions to
determine what hormones were most dominant
during development. From that information, it can
give precise insight into how an individual is “wired”
physically, mentally, and emotionally.
I leant heavily on the insights and guidance in my
profile as I was recovering from my injuries and
working out how to care for myself through this
time. Changing the way I start my day and the hours
I keep based on my “chronobiology”, which is my
unique internal body clock. I reduced certain foods
and increased others based on guidance from my
profile to support healing and wellness. I also gave
myself lots of time and spaciousness.
Unfortunately, it was raining most of this time
which disrupted the amount of time I could spend
in nature and the sun or I would have been doing a
LOT of that.
Relationship death
Not long after these injuries occurred, I was
simultaneously facing issues with my business and
releasing my 20-year relationship with the father of
my three sons, best friend, and long-time lover.
We were a couple, with the relationship revered as
the epitome of great partnerships by everyone who
knew us. To grieve the death of that relationship
was utterly devastating yet absolutely necessary
because the dynamic that we had been in for the
last 20 years was not supportive of either of us
going to the next level. We were unconsciously
holding both ourselves and each other back.
Courageous hearts
One of two things happens when the veil is lifted on
co-dependency and unconscious patterns. Either
the veil is nervously put back down, and the couple
continues, each as a compromised version of
themselves - or they separate, often with bitterness,
resentment and unresolved issues that reveal
themselves in future relationships.
Yet my partner Matthew and I are both visionaries
and we have a deep connection that is worth
fighting for, so true to style we chose to do it
differently. It was nothing short of open-heart
surgery, as Matthew calls it, and it required radical
levels of honesty, vulnerability, and courage.
We both had to face some very uncomfortable
truths and deep shadows; however, once again,
ph360 Healthtype profiling became a lifeline.
It gave us clear and profound insight into who we
are as individuals and how we are wired, which is
almost opposite.
Understanding the way we are wired meant:
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• We were able to understand ourselves, our
stress responses and meet our own needs. I also want to “feel” a client and “dive in” with them,
especially in my three-month mentorships. When
• We could be considerate towards each other and
I onboard a new client, they are in my “field” of
the other’s needs.
awareness nearly all of the time, and I’m constantly
• We were validated as individuals who are alert to what might be coming up for them or what
hormonally wired very differently from each they might need, so “landing” lots of clients is
other. overwhelming for me and reduces my capacity to
deliver high quality, valuable and truly personalised
• It allowed us to take things less personally,
service.
keeping our hearts open toward each other even
though we had been swimming in the “void” of
Hence, I was blocking them with my unconscious
uncertainty for months.
mind. I feel that our unconscious mind is feminine.
She is vast, non-linear, visionary, and driven by our
Knowing our individual stress responses and
soul essence and core “Why.” Our conscious mind
core values is incredibly important for all of us
is more masculine: logical, rational, linear and goal-
when dealing with matters of the heart because
oriented.
we are ALL traumatised at one level or another.
According to Dr Bruce Lipton our subconscious or
No matter how good our childhood was, we live in
unconscious mind is 500,000 times more powerful
a traumatised culture in a traumatised world. This
than our conscious mind.
inevitably comes out in relationships, and when a
relationship needs to be unravelled and rewoven,
So, no matter what you think you “should” think,
it feels as if our hearts and our very survival are on
want or believe, if it’s not aligned with your
the line.
unconscious and your soul “Why”, it simply won’t
happen or if it does happen, then result will feel
Understanding our own “wiring” and recognising
empty and unsatisfying.
that while we are all different, we are all geniuses
in our way can be a healing balm and a pathway for
This is one of the main reasons why traditional
evolution. The fact that ph360 Profiling is based on
manifesting doesn’t work. It’s not that we’re not
science legitimises our uniqueness and allows us
powerful or that manifestation isn’t tangible; it’s
to relax and not feel like we need to be something
that we are asking for things we don’t want at an
we’re not.
unconscious level.
This is indescribably valuable because growth and
Realising this can be uncomfortable because what
expansion can’t happen from a place of stress and
we want at an unconscious level might be opposite
trauma. We can only expand when we feel safe and
to what we “should” want. However, it’s through
calm our nervous systems.
coming to peace with the truth that we can resolve
what’s holding us back so we can move forward.
So, here we stand side by side, both much changed,
Finding your core “Why,” that is, what drives your
building a new relationship as allies, lovers, and
unconscious, and aligning every part of your life
business partners. Matthew has reconfigured his
to support that is a vital critical stepping into your
work to meet his needs better, and he supports
ultimate You & actualising your soul purpose.
my visionary nature by helping create order and
practical structure for my business.
I’ve included an activity over the page so you can
explore this more for yourself. For me, I had to get
Our relationship is more real, powerful, and
honest about what I DID want, which was a lot fewer
beautiful than ever before and is only destined to
clients, more time to dive in with them and charging
get better.
significantly more. I also refined who my ideal
clients are, especially for my 3-month mentorship,
Business Evolution
Align & Actualise. It took quite a bit of processing
to be comfortable with this, but it has meant that I
At the same time, as all of this was going on, it
have the spaciousness to enjoy diving in with the
became abundantly clear that the way I was trying
clients I take on.
to operate my business was NOT the way I truly
wanted to, and as a result, I was struggling to get
My mentoring work now looks like this:
clients. My unconscious mind was blocking this
because it was simply not aligned with my soul and
I have two select offers:
genius.
• Personal Body-Genius Profiling, centred
As a Diplomat, close to the Sensor and with definite
around ph360 Healthtype profiling. This short
Crusader and Connector qualities in the ph360
but extremely potent and highly valuable
Healthtype Profile, trying to run my business
“Kickstarter” focused on determining a client's
through a conventional, high client number
epigenetic & hormonal “wiring,” emphasising
model is just so wrong! My genius is in bringing
their innate genius, how to support this and the
lots of different threads together and seeing the
top 3 aligned steps to take.
interconnectedness of all parts of a person. To do
this, I need time and spaciousness to allow all the
I take a maximum of 2 clients per week for this.
bits of information to weave together, to feel the
depth and breadth of how this might play out for
a client and to go down research “rabbit holes” to
find unique solutions and strategies.
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• Align & Actualise is a 3-month journey focused
on Aligning with your genetic genius to Actualise
your soul mission. We discover the Truth of who
you are, embrace all of her and get clear on what
you are here for and what you are not, discover
what you need to amplify to expand into your
next version so you can actualise your soul
purpose and work with that.
I take a maximum of 2 clients per month for
Align & Actualise. That’s it.
We specifically focus on the ph360 epigenetic &
hormonal profile, ancestry, early life experiences
and embodied movement as pathways for
this because to have a clear understanding
of yourself and how you are uniquely (&
perfectly) wired is arguably the most important
foundational piece for being able to step into the
expanded version of you that longs to exist.
• Ph360 Epigenetic Profiling cuts through
the confusion and gives clear insight plus
practical guidance on aligning every part of
your life to be in flow with your unique body
& mind genius. As mentioned before, ph360
Healthtype Profiling is a cutting-edge science-
backed profiling technology that uses physical
body measurements in conjunction with other
fact-based lifestyle questions to determine
what hormones were dominant during early
development.
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Everything is interconnected, and everything
impacts who we are, how we are wired, how
we see the world, and how our bodies and
minds work. How we navigate and experience
emotions and how our bodies respond to life
and the world around us, including our physical
environment, relationships, food choices,
movement, thoughts, and beliefs.
We constantly dance with life and our bodies are
forever receiving and transmitting information and
energy. This impacts our epigenetics – or gene
expression via our hormones and is the most
important consideration for health, wealth, and
happiness on all levels.
Hormones shape the way a person grows and
develops physically, mentally and emotionally.
The profiling technology offers precise information
about a person and comes with the Shae App
that gives personalised guidance on how to eat,
move, rest, connect with others, work and live. It is
unbelievably valuable.
b) Ancestral Alchemy is about knowing where we
came from and our family lineage's impact on our
body, mind & life.
We don’t exist in isolation; we only exist in
context. We are woven from our ancestors' lives,
experiences, and stories. Their lives crossed in the
most profound and mundane ways; their blood
mingled to create our blood, their DNA entwining to
craft ours.
We know through the science of inter-generational
and trans-generational epigenetics that their lives
very much influence who we are and who we can
become, even if we have never met them. We are
living elixirs of potential, crafted from more than a
thousand generations of ancestors.
First, we track our family lineage with curiosity and
compassion looking at not only who they were and
where and when they lived but also taking into
consideration what was going on around them in
their local communities and the wider world. This
creates a lot of awareness, understanding and
appreciation for who they were and who we are.
We then work with this vast network of talents,
traits and attributes that lie in our family tree as
resources to bring forth and amplify to go to the
next level. Indeed “we stand on the shoulders
of giants”, and I write more deeply about this
“Ancestral Wealth” in the Women Gone Wild, Wealth
Edition book.
• Embodied movement re-wires our
subconscious mind & cellular memory so we
can shift out of old states of being and open up
to new possibilities - in our way, on our terms.
Free or non-linear movement like ecstatic
dance is an incredibly powerful way to “disrupt”
and re-pattern our bodies and minds, and I
write more deeply about this in Embrace Your
Feminessence®.
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Working this way gives me the spaciousness I
need to be in my genius zone, which resides in an
ability to see many threads of a woman and how
they are woven together. I follow my intuition and
inspiration regarding what she needs, and I am
deeply present for each woman not only on every
call but also between calls.
Enter At Your Own Risk
For this reason, I am selective with who I will work
with for Align & Actualise and intake is based on an
application process. This is because working with
me comes with a warning label “Enter at your own
risk; you will not be the same woman on the other
side.” It will get gritty and uncomfortable because
most of us have unclaimed parts, our “shadow”
selves that we want to ignore and hide, yet we
will go there because this is where the gold is. To
expand into our magnificence means facing and
claiming our unclaimed parts and to be willing to
be seen.
I now work with visionary, change-making women
because even if they are not clear on exactly what
their soul purpose is, they can feel it and will step
naturally towards it. These women are called by
something bigger than themselves and their human
failings.
They will keep moving towards their calling, even
when it makes no sense, even when it is hard,
even when everything around them crumbles,
even when every day for months, they might spend
every waking hour scared. With their hearts in their
throat, they will keep following the impulses of their
soul. These are the women I LOVE to work with.
I know them because I am them. I know what it
takes to expand into whom we need to be to land
the Vision. I know that it requires an up-level in EV-
ER-Y area of life, AND I know how to support that in
other women. We need our bodies, hearts, minds,
and spirits ALL online.
The most powerful people on the planet are the
ones, especially women, who are connected to
their hearts, their sexuality, their soul purpose
and their bodies, and they KNOW who they are.
They are women with access to money because
money brings choice and the possibility for a more
significant impact. The potential ripple effect of this
work is enormous, and this is absolutely what I’m
here for.
WILD Success
In amongst all the chaos, confusion and rebirthing,
I was being catapulted into a new level of impact as
an author and speaker.
In the last 12 months, I have realised multiple
childhood dreams. These have come through
saying “yes” to things that equally excited and
terrified me, and as a result, more doorways,
opportunities and successes ensued.
Firstly, I was featured in the September 2021
Feminessence® magazine, which was such a thrill.
This opened a doorway to realising a clear vision
that I have held since I saw my first TED talk in 2013;
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I became a published TEDx speaker with a talk titled
“How To Thrive In An Era Of Uncertainty.”
While I would love for it to be included on the
leading TED site, this is unlikely because true to
style, what I speak about challenges conventional
norms. It took weeks to be published and comes
with a warning… a bit like me, really. (You’re
welcome, btw)
Not long after this, I dove into my first co-authored
book, Embrace Your Feminessence®. The digital
version went bestseller in 3 categories, ranking
above Brene Brown’s new book, which is an
incredible achievement. The print version is just
coming out now, and I’m excited to be presented
at the official summit for that over the next few
months.
This opened another door, and I joined the Women
Gone Wild Movement, featuring as a co-author in
the wildly successful Women Gone Wild, Wealth
Edition book.
This digital book went best seller in five categories
and a hot new release in nine. It launched in Las
Vegas and went on tour to Los Angeles and New
York with billboards in Times Square, NY, and Las
Vegas.
It has since been picked up by Browns Publishing
for physical publication and is set to be translated
into seven languages and distributed to forty-nine
countries.
Out of this has come an interview on The Rhonda
Swan Show, multiple podcast interviews and
speaking opportunities, which I adore, plus features
in Hollywood Digest, Influincive, Total Girl Boss, So
Influential, and Disrupt Magazines.
Illuminate Your Feminessence® came next, and
while it’s yet to be released, I have no doubt it will
also explode.
I was invited to be a guest on The Girlfriend Hour™
with Shar Moore. This delicious show streams
on BingeTV and YouTube and has recently been
approached to take a spot on one of the more
major stations!
And now here I am, writing to you as the
Ambassador for this latest edition of Feminessence®
Magazine. A magazine that has a big vision, one
that knows that when one rises, we all rise. A
magazine that represents a movement fuelled by
heart, soul, and purpose.
I’m also currently working on two extra projects:
Firstly, I’m collaborating with other incredible
women facilitators to create a fun, profound and
luscious five-day immersion called Many Faces of
She, where we play with embodied movement and
our “inner characters” to reawaken our most vital,
authentic & unapologetic self so we can step into
something BIGGER.
I’m also looking at creating a new fitness modality
that combines traditional masculine structure with a
fluid, feminine movement practice so more people
feminessence.com.au
can tap into their bodies' innate brilliance and the
vast knowledge and wisdom they carry.
The Ultimate Vision
The difference between spreading our wings and
truly flying and just having a mediocre life lies in the
courage we're willing to lean into and the level of
honesty we are eager to have with ourselves.
To do that, we need to:
1. KNOW who we are now
2. Embrace the Truth of this,
3. Expand into our next, fuller version.
We need to tap into the magnetic radiance of our
feminine essence. To uncover our TRUE genius, not
the one we've been conditioned to believe is right
or valuable, but what our REAL superpowers are. We
need to know where we've come from because the
ancestors in our family lineage are gunning for our
success, and they hold some incredible keys to our
evolution.
We need to be able to re-write the stories in our
bodies and tap into her wild intelligence, and we
need to find the courage to be seen, to be big, bold,
and brilliant.
We are all wired for brilliance. Our genius is
encoded into our very bones, and no one offers
the exact blend of your unique magic. THAT is your
superpower. That is your gift. That is what we are
all crying out for without even knowing it. And
that’s why I do what I do. The pathway home to
that is less confusing than we have been taught.
The toolkit I work with is vast, but every element
of it is a pathway home to the Self, uncovering the
genius within, embracing the Truth of that and then
expanding into a more excellent, more aligned
version of who you already ARE; a glorious, juicy,
alive, vibrant, sexy, sassy, authentic, wise, honest,
open-hearted, connected, conscious woman who is
here for MORE.
Ultimately, I’m here for the evolution of humanity.
Imagine a world full of women audacious enough
to follow the call of their soul and actualise their
brightest vision. Imagine our beautiful planet full of
people who are aligned with the truth of whom they
are and living their fullest potential.
Imagine a world in service to their hearts. What
would that mean for our children, the earth, and the
future?
I am so here for this!
Will you join me?
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journey
This is an incredibly valuable
gift, so much so that I debated So from my heart to yours,
sharing it as a free offer. I hope it brings you lightness
However, I am here for the
evolution of humanity, and since and possibility.
most of the planet will never
work directly with me, I wanted
to offer something really needed
in the world.
We need to delve into the vast web of
resources that live within us and learn to
bring them to the fore, which is what this
gift offers. Begin by reading the words below,
then scan the code below to take you to the
Ancestral Alchemy Journey.

What are you here for?

What is your soul’s desire?

and now...
What attributes do you need to meet your soul’s mission?

What traits are you “missing” preventing you from stepping into this?

Well, guess what?

They are already in you. They just need to be brought out!

You are a living elixir of unique potential crafted from more than
a thousand generations.

Millions of people compile your family lineage; some already embody (or
have embodied) the traits you need to bring your gifts to the world.

Let’s find them...

© Genevieve Searle
 What's your soul ‘why’
According to Dr Bruce
Lipton, our Subconscious or
unconscious mind is 500,000
times more powerful than our
conscious mind.
So no matter what you think you
“should” feel, want or believe if it’s not
aligned with your unconscious and your
soul “why”, it won’t happen, or if it does
happen, then the result will feel empty
and unsatisfying.
This is one of the main reasons why traditional
manifesting doesn’t work. It’s not that we’re not
powerful or that manifestation isn’t real. It’s that
we are asking for things that we don’t want at an
unconscious level.
Finding your core “why”, that is, what drives your
unconscious and aligning every part of your life to
support that, is vital to stepping into your ultimate
you & actualising your soul purpose.
Your core or soul “why” is linked to your core values
and is also significantly driven by our dominant
hormones. For this reason, Personal Body-Genius
Profiling can bring much clarity to uncovering your
core why.
Once you get clear on your “why”, we can link our
goals and the focus of our manifestation practices
to it; this becomes a super powerful combination.
Take time to read the poem below and allow the
words to become feelings in your body.
Reading it multiple times, slowly, out loud is
better, or you could even record it for yourself and
play it back so you can close your eyes and listen.
Notice what thoughts, feelings, ideas, and images
drop as you do this. Be with this for a while, and
then go on to the “Why” activity below.

What is the voice that whispers to you in the darkness?

When you are lost and exhausted?
When your failures have left you bloody and spent?
When you find yourself in the inky swamp of despair,
struggling to breathe above the muck,
your mind a tangled web of confusion,
your heart bleeding and burnt…
What calls to you?
What voice sings your soul out of the shadowlands?
What is the voice of fierceness that firmly states…
GET. UP. NOW!
And what is the voice
that reaches into your deepest of deep,
with a soothing compassion,
and says...
"I know you are tired,
It’s ok to be.
Rest now,
take your spirit to the healing waters,
love your fatigue with the gentlest of strokes,
for tomorrow we rise again….
You are not done yet,
Sister,
You are not done yet."
And...

What is the voice that ignites your spirit,

That sets your toes dancing and your hands creating?
The voice that giggles you into action,
Possibility frothing over the edges of your mind
And has you peeking into hidden pathways of potential?
What calls you alive?
Waking you from your dead delirium of old patterns and has you weaving new colours into the
tapestry of your life?
What voice speaks of hope, wonder and a desire forged deep in the womb of your very being?
This is your WHY!
She is your ally,
Your guidepost in life.
She is your juice,
Your fire,
Your life force.
She is the very essence of you and she is
calling you forth to SHINE.
© Beata Mazur

© Genevieve Searle
 A legacy letter or letter to your
great-grand children
Imagine you are at the end of your life and want to share
your story with your future great-grandchildren or the
younger generation of a community you care about.
Take a pen and paper and write them a letter.
Feel free to make it as short or as long as you’d like or to
write multiple copies until it feels perfect.
What would you LOVE to have this younger generation read
and know about you?
What do you want your legacy to be when you leave this
earth?
Include things that make your heart sing. Things that make
you feel proud, inspired, successful and purposeful.
They can be anything; this is YOUR story; how do you want
it written and remembered?
Be prepared to include things that might feel edgy or even
taboo – they might not be taboo by the time this future
generation is around, so you may as well go for it!
When you are finished, choose what to do with it. Keep
it private, share it with people you love and trust, burn it
and offer it as a prayer to the universe, or bury it like you
are planting a seed; the choice is yours, but whatever you
choose, be intentional about it.
 All the There are 6 Health types; Activators, I have also included a QR Code for you to scan that
will take you to the main website; if you’d like, you
Connectors, Guardians, Diplomats,
different
can choose to sign up directly with them, or if you
Sensors & Crusaders. would like to dive deeper with it, my Personal Body-

Queens
Genius Profiling offer is an excellent place to start.

However, we all have all of the hormones in our I dive right into the backend of your profile, look at
bodies at different levels, which means we are the top three dominant hormones, how they likely
all a combination. Where we "sit" on the circle play out in your life and offer key strategies for you
sit on the “circle" makes a difference, plus what to implement immediately.
other links we have.
In the meantime, have fun seeing where
you and “your people” likely fit.
I am a Diplomat sitting at 315 degrees, meaning I
am pretty close to the Sensor end, and I resonate
with attributes from both. I also have clear Crusader
and Connector traits.

Activators: Connectors: Guardians:

Wired for action.
Driven by nor-adrenalin and testosterone,
Activators are natural athletes with a robust
and clear body/gut-based internal guidance
system. They have shorter bodies, naturally
good muscle tone and love to get things
happening… now. Activators are self-directed
and don’t need approval from anyone for
anything.
When stressed, they are more likely to “fight”
and are naturally competitive, expressive
and sometimes explosive. They need to eat
often to avoid being “hangry”, can “pivot” at a
moment’s notice, love taking risks and thrive
when life is exciting and varied.
Wired for connection.
Fuelled by oxytocin, Connectors are all
about, you guessed it, connection. Excellent
at facilitating group harmony and ensuring
everyone feels good. Like Activators, they love
variety and need to express themselves. When
in alignment, they are fun, sparkly and heart
centred. When out of alignment, they will feel
flat. Their bodies are shorter than the Activator,
with big (open-hearted) chests, strong arms
and solid legs.
Connectors can read body language like
no one else and feel in their bodies when
something is not “right”. They love new ideas,
experiences and people; touch and fun
hangs are their love language.
Wired for nurture.
Guided by Prolactin, Guardians are here to serve,
tend to & take care of their family, community
or pets. They are the strongest of all the health
types, generally taller than connectors &
activators with bigger bone structure and body
mass. Their cups are filled by being valued for
their nurturing service. Salt of the earth people,
they will be the last one standing and their
bodies reflect this. When they feel stressed,
their bodies go into conservation mode, and
Guardians can put on weight even when they eat
nothing if they feel that they or their “people”
are threatened. Self-care is a top priority for
Guardians, so they can give from a full cup. They
are incredibly generous and will be the first to
put their needs aside to look after
those they care about.

Diplomats: Sensors: Crusaders:

Wired for comfort and
consideration
Built on Serotonin, Diplomats are the original
nomads, have the longest digestive systems,
so do well having their main meal at lunch
& lots of time between meals. Their bodies
are solid and enduring. Once committed to
something, they stay committed, so they often
take a long time to decide if something is
worth committing to because they know how
much energy it will take.
They are highly considered, excellent at seeing
the inter-connectedness of things and different
sides to each story. They are empathic, and,
you guessed it, very diplomatic. They need
lots of time, space, nature & beauty and can go
into overwhelm and even depression without
enough of any of these things.
Wired for awareness.
Sculpted by Vasopressin, Sensors are long of
limb, with light bones and are generally slimmer
than all other health types. Their brain and
nervous systems are super active, making them
excellent at assessing everything that is going
on around them, and processing enormous
amounts of information and data. Sensors feel
safer when the rules are clear and known. They
generally need to eat often to keep their bodies
warm and their minds alert and happy as they
don’t carry much excess weight.
Even if they appear extroverted in certain
situations, they reserve their private selves for
a very small inner circle, and it can take time
to be invited inside this. When stressed, they
can become anxious, hypervigilant and tend
towards “flight” and aloofness. Natural artists,
writers, and librarians are highly creative
and intuitive when they feel safe,
warm and settled.
Wired to achieve.
Driven by Dopamine, Crusaders are ambitious,
logical, reliable, curious and competitive. They’ll
willingly sacrifice a lot in order to bring their
ideas into reality or actualise their mission.
They love accuracy and data and once they
have found a mission worth pursuing, they
can be relentless. Their bodies are long and
lean but with more muscle mass than a sensor
making them excellent at both sports and life or
business goals that require consistent focus and
endurance.
They have a thirst for knowledge and seek
out detail when they’re learning and creating.
Because they need higher levels of dopamine to
be in flow, they can tend toward addiction if they
are not connected to their mission. On the flip
side, a Crusader who is connected to
their mission is likely to stop at
nothing to make it happen.

© Genevieve Searle
 I will have
a good day,
because it is
my choice!
– Larcie Tulao
Your special invitation to a
Girlfriends night in.
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Use our simple 8 month girlfriend calendar to

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One group of girlfriends will be chosen per season as guests on the show! Either
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It’s simple:
1 Watch the show with your girlfriends in person (or online)
2 Record a 3-5 minute video sharing what you all loved, learnt and will take away
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We will review the videos every season and look for the most colourful, fun, heartfelt group of girlfriends to
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Oh, and we hope you like prizes as our winning girlfriends will leave with their arms full of prizes from our
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We can’t wait to see your videos. Remember to tag our page so we can find your video and have fun.
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Good luck from Shar and all your girlfriends at…

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2022

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Nothing is impossible only
miracles take a bit longer.
I've always believed in my
3 P's persistence, patience
and perseverance. You'll
get there. Relax and go
with the flow.
– Helen Williams
What is the most
important thing
in the world?
It is people, it is people, it is people.
By Susannah Pask
Cathy Sheppard
CEO/Founder BSI People Skills
Executive Level & Senior Level Facilitator/Coach
He aha te mea nui o te ao? He tangata, he tangata, he
tangata.
Different
I have always been different from the people around me.
I was born in Tokyo, Japan. Coming back to New Zealand,
aged three, was a different world. I remember being in
kindergarten and feeling so alone, not knowing how to fit in.
My life from the beginning was learning about other countries
and languages – it was like growing up in the United Nations.
My father spoke eight languages, and my mum five, and
both had lived in France as well, so we lived using a mix of
languages, English, French, and Japanese, with the odd splash
of German thrown in, very unusual in New Zealand. We also
had people from all around the world come to stay. It was
fantastic learning about culture, language and differences. We
ate food from all over the world - France, China, Japan, Italy, ...
Very different from the meat, potato and three veg typical of
many New Zealand families.
Grief
When I had just turned six, my father died. My littlest sister
was born two weeks later, making me the oldest of four. I
was then one of the very few children at school with only one
parent, so different from nowadays where there are so many
kinds of families! My mother was amazing - fighting for us all
to attend the funeral at a time when children were kept away
and keeping his memory alive for us despite her grief. She
was always willing to talk about him, keep the family stories
alive, and walk with us in our mutual pain. This developed my
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compassion for the hurt and grief of others and my willingness
to walk alongside them. We can't fix grief; we need to feel it,
appreciate and treasure the memories of these special people
now gone from our lives, and find a way to move forward. Part
of what makes us human is experiencing joy, love, pain, loss,
happiness, sadness, and so many other emotions.
More learning
I spent a year in Japan as an AFS exchange student. I lived out
in the countryside where there were no foreigners; no one
spoke English, not even my English teachers. I was treated the
same as the other students, sitting the same exams with no
dictionary allowed, trying to take notes from the blackboard,
sitting and nearly always failing the weekly English vocab tests.
I had to learn Japanese fast, immersing myself in Japanese
culture - tea ceremony classes, joining the Kendo club at
school without knowing what Kendo even was, and then
finding out there is no quitting in Japan; you must keep going.
It was incredible learning about perseverance and how far I
could dig in. These experiences have shaped me and given me
strength, a unique identity, and a willingness to learn and be
open to others, accepting and valuing them for who and how
they are.
Then came university back in New Zealand, working in a bank
for three years, following the chalk in my veins to become a
high school teacher of Maths, Japanese and French. Children
followed, and I joined Playcentre – an early childhood service
run entirely by the parents. They run the centres, educate the
children (and each other), all with others who only have in
common that they have young children, and all volunteers.
I learned so much over 20 years –as a parent, leader, and
teacher, and it changed my life. I worked with adults and
children from centres across New Zealand. Every centre,
every person, was different. It meant finding what each centre
needed and tailoring the work to get excellent outcomes for
that group. I loved seeing the results of empowering people
to work better with each other. Good centres can become
even better, toxic environments can be changed if people are
willing, and it’s fantastic when they do!
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Leading to business
I started my business, BSI People Skills, in 2013.
As humans, we are wired for connection with
others. People can be the most significant source of
joy in life and the biggest source of pain. We can all
develop strategies to make this easier.
I started hearing the same stories from people
in work situations, not wanting to go to work
because they hated the environment so much,
were bullied, or had their confidence crushed
over time as they made mistakes. I knew I could
make a difference!
A key factor was attending a DiSC workshop in
2005, which was an absolute revelation. DiSC
is a personality profiling tool that helps people
understand why they do what they do, why others
do what they do, and how to get different results
together. The behavioural psychologist William
Moulton Marston identified four different ways
people respond to emotions. Everyone is a blend
of these four DiSC styles: Dominance, Influence,
Steadiness, and Conscientiousness.
Training as a Certified Everything DiSC Trainer in
Denmark in 2013, I use Everything DiSC as a base
for developing leaders and teams so they too
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can get better results, adding The Five Behaviors,
Wealth Dynamics, and Incredible Years Teacher
programmes to the suite of world-class tools
we use. We are Authorised Partners of Wiley for
Everything DiSC and The Five Behaviors, and
of Entrepreneurs Institute – the number one
global movement for entrepreneurs – for Wealth
Dynamics. I now develop others, as coaches and
facilitators, with a team around me. I have worked
with people from zero to eighty in five different
countries in person, and now work globally online.
Striving For Excellence
I strive for excellence - making sure what I'm doing
is good. I want quality, but knowing perfection is
not attainable. I am very reflective, learn quickly,
and never give up. I'm always looking for solutions,
for different strategies to use together to solve
problems. I care deeply about people; aggression
doesn’t solve problems. I empower people to bring
their best to any situation and to look for the best
in others.
I am lucky that I was empowered as a girl to be my
best, doing what I wanted to do and was good at,
not having to fit into societal gender norms. I can be
the strong, caring, capable woman I am, not fitting
into the soft feminine stereotype.
“I can be the strong,
caring, capable woman
I am, not fitting into the
soft feminine stereotype.”
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power and purpose. Our programmes involve
people finding out more about themselves: who
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 Develop your Why did you start your business?

Feminessence
What’s important to you?
What difference do you want to make for people?

®
Finding your WHY is so important – it’s a motivator, a guidepost,
something to keep you focused on when the going gets tough.
It’s also what you can unite your team around. An inspiring WHY
inspires other people to go on the journey with you.

in your business
When thinking of your business and how to What do you love doing?
grow it, the more you know about yourself and What are you good at?

the people you’re working with, the better!

You need to know who you are, what’s important to you and why, and what you’re
trying to achieve, and be able to communicate this effectively to others so that you
can inspire them too. What are the things you love
The more you learn about yourself and accept who you are – the good and the more about what you’re doing now?
challenging aspects, the more you can be open to receiving others, and the easier it
Work/business, Life
will be to work with others, bringing out the best in them too. You’ve got this!

Take some time to think about the following questions. These are great things to
journal! I love grabbing pieces of A3 paper and felt pens, collecting a whole heap of
my thoughts for each of these topics. The hardest thing can be to get them out of
our heads. Once out of our heads, we can find the patterns and make sense of it all.

The answers all form part of the framework pictured below: Leadership, Teams,
Mission/Vision/Values, Culture. These four areas can each be measured on a 1-10
What are the challenges you’re
scale. The bigger the numbers, the better your business car will drive, as these form facing at the moment?
the wheels. You want big, even wheels to make your business really hum. Your
people working together, all on the same page, will make that happen. Work/business, Life

Business Culture Excellence = Leaders that Work, Teams that Work,

Workplaces that Work

• Your leadership, along with the leadership of others in your business

• The way your people work together using their strengths
• The structures that support that to create a culture that works

And with that, here are the questions to begin: Your Vision for your life – Blue Sky
Thinking! Stephen R. Covey said,
“Start with the end in mind.” Roger
James Hamilton talks about getting into
a helicopter and looking at your life at
particular points in time.

I revisit my future vision at least

every 12 months, at the
beginning of every year.

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 What do you want your life to What are your core values?
look like in 5 years’ time? Knowing your core values is vital for guiding decision-making
and behaviour. Are you living according to your values?
Your business? Your role in it, then? What are your top 5 values? What do these look like?

The more detail you can add, the better. If you know where you
want to go, it’s easier to find the way there. You don’t have to see Then this leads to What are the core
the path from the beginning, it will open up, and then you can
enjoy the journey too, being amazed by what is coming. If you values of your business?
don’t know where you’re going, it’s impossible to get there!
Developing these with your team, so everyone is on board
is essential. How are they being lived as a guide for everyone’s
It’s like a beautiful tree on the other side of a vast field of long
behaviour and decision-making? How are they embedded in your
grass. The quickest way to get there is to keep your eyes on the
recruiting and employment processes?
tree. If you look down at your feet and the obstacles, it’s much
harder and the path meanders. Yes, you will need to look down
occasionally, but keep lifting your eyes to the prize. The closer it
gets, the more detail you can add as well!

NB: Write it as if you are at that point of time. List the things
you’re grateful for having had happen, things you’ve done,
places you’ve gone, and with who, … What’s the culture you
It’s August 2027. want in your business?
Looking back over the last five years…!
Start with “I am so grateful for the last five For your staff? For your clients?
years because ….” What do you want your people to feel?
What do you not want them to feel?
What strategies can you implement to increase the desired
What do you want your life and business positive feelings and mitigate the negative ones?
What coping strategies do your people have for when
to look like one year from now? the negative emotions come?

It’s … August 2023.

Looking back over the last 12 months…
Start with “I am so grateful for the last
12 months because …”.

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The 'walking
talking' MRI
By Susannah Pask
Jean Sheehan
Medical Intuitive, Speaker, Author & Founder,
Millennium Education
I grew up in Kuwait.
My Dad was Greek Arabic and grew up there. My
Mum had met him in her travels and fell in love with
him. It was a romantic story, but it quickly turned
sour as she was trapped there. She had to learn to
speak Arabic quickly, as she was forced to stay with
my dad’s family. She had to adhere to their ‘ways
and dress full face and body covered. She had to
cook ‘their way’ and do as she was told. If you have
read the book ‘Not Without My Daughter’, it was
similar to that story. I recall being told continually as
a child, ‘The Arabs are coming to get you!’ I was in
terror the whole time growing up there. Eventually,
my Mum convinced my Dad that life would be better
if they moved to Australia, where she was from.
I soon learned that, as a girl, it was frowned
upon to shine my brilliance. Having the ability
to see within a body like an x-ray was seen as
evil and outrageous. Children speak how they
feel and say what they mean. That was me. I
could see when people would die through their
aura when they had diseases and growths and
what the outcome would be. I did not hesitate
to say it. This was seen as evil and the devil’s
work in my culture. I would be called names by
the village people and had an evil eye pinned to
my clothes to ward off evil spirits.
After I was born, my Mum had cervical cancer and
could not have any more children. This added to the
illusion that I was the devil, as I was seen to have
tainted the womb and would curse the family and
the village. I was told every day until I was 16 years
old that I was bad luck, so I believed it for a long
time. I hated being feminine and hid it by being a
tomboy and making sure I was NOT attractive in any
way. Deep down, I had so much pain in my heart as
I wanted to share my instinctive Medical Intuition.
But my ‘training’ and ‘education’ was to stay quiet
and small. It was safer being masculine.
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Medical Intuition
When I was 5, we moved to Australia, and I became
aware that women here were able to have a career
and be themselves, truly expressing their talents.
I knew in my heart that one day I would be able to
share my gift of Medical Intuition with the world
and teach women to shine their brilliance too. I
knew my gift was seeing inside peoples’ bodies and
being able to make them feel better. I was able to
practice on friends at school, as I knew I was safe to
be myself with my close girlfriends. Kim and I would
share everything, and one day she said, ‘I feel sick.’
I could see she was fearful, so I asked what she
was frightened of. She said it was the spelling test.
When I talked to her and allowed her to share her
fears, she said she did not feel sick anymore. As I
share this now, it seems so simple, and it was - for a
6-year-old child.
In High School, my best friend Sarah and I would
do everything together. I noticed one day she
came to school with crutches and asked what had
happened. She said she woke up and could not
walk on her left leg. When I looked in her body,
I saw cancer in her knee. As I looked deeper, I
could see an emotional attachment to why cancer
started. She felt like she did not have choices.
Her Mum was an English teacher and had high
expectations of what Sarah should do and be as
a student and a lady. Sarah HAD to learn and play
the piano; she didn’t want to. Sarah HAD to learn
German and French; she didn’t want to. Sarah HAD
to do ballet; she didn’t want to. Sarah HAD to do
drama lessons to help her English spoken word;
she didn’t want to. I could see this lack of choices
was building emotionally in Sarah’s knee, creating
cancer. I couldn’t tell her she had cancer, but I did
tell her that I loved her and that she had choices.
She needed to discuss these with her mum. I also
suggested she see a Doctor as her leg needed it.
Sarah gave me that look of ‘I don’t what you mean,
Jean, but I trust you.’ Sure enough, the diagnosis
was cancer of the knee. Looking back, I saw many
diseases in the teachers but never said anything.
With Kim and Sarah, I felt safe to access my
feminine side.
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Abuse
When I was sixteen, my mother died, and I became
homeless. I had to finish my last year at school
in secrecy - as it was safer to do so. It was a relief
to be away from the home as there were all types
of abuse from my Dad. Yes, it included physical,
mental, emotional, spiritual and sexual. I recall
waking up on the floor to a loud bang noise and
something warm dripping on my foot. I did not
have a bed and slept on the floor. The bang was
Dad grabbing my Mum by the hair with a knife at
her neck. The warm drip was her blood. He was
yelling “I am going to kill her!” This was one of many
occasions of abuse. I recall Mum having money for
food, and while we were eating at the table, Dad
came home drunk again, picked up the plate, and
smashed it on the floor. I was then expected to eat
the food from the floor, including the shards of the
plate that had smashed and was told I was a dog,
so I was to eat like a dog from the floor.
At one stage, my mum and I had run away from
my Dad, and she found a place for us to stay.
Dad found us, broke the door down, and hit me
from behind on the neck. I woke up on the floor
from being unconscious. That is, I began to learn
how to express my Feminessence®. I needed to
learn to be myself, know my destiny, listen to
my heart and intuition and follow my dreams. I
learned possibilities and potentiality very quickly.
My journey guided me to become a nurse, so I
could understand what I was seeing inside the
human body. My innate wisdom led me to work in
pathology and autopsies to quantify what I could
see metaphysically and physically. I saw the need
to understand the truth about people’s health and
how they need to feel empowered to be physically
well.
A niggling voice in my head said, 'They will reject
you. Don't say anything. That is when I became
suicidal. I had the pills in my hand and was ready
to end my life. Then I had a vision of my toddler
son who was at childcare and thought, 'I can't do
it'. I had a heart-felt mission to empower women
and help them shine their brilliance using Medical
Intuition. My nursing girlfriends started calling me
'The Walking Talking MRI'. My work today involves
events and keynote speaking, and I’ve written 6
Amazon best-selling books. My gift is to empower
women so they can shine their brilliance.
 © Jaya McIntyre from Empire Art Photography

It always
works out
It Always Works Out
I had no intention of starting a business. It all
unfolded perfectly accidentally. When my nursing
friends shared what I could do for others, requests
poured in. I was continually asked for my business
card, but I was not actually in business. I suddenly
had speaking events, requests for magazine articles
and proposals to learn what I do. The WHY was
most important to me as it meant others could be
empowered from within, not without. The HOW
just unfolded easily. Today I still pinch myself as I
know how blessed I am to have the ability to help
so many people globally. I remember the joy I felt
seeing my first client, a nursing friend, go from
doom to thrive and jive. And at the end of my eight-
day immersion Medical Intuition events, to witness
people have miracles occur is my reason for doing
what I do.
The feminine side is a superpower of men and
women, but especially women, of course. I use
all things feminine to get me where I am today,
including Crystals, Intuition, Sacred Geometry, and
Medical Intuition healing. The feminine superpower
is an innate understanding in your heart that guides
you to live your purpose. When I embraced this
feminine superpower, my life changed radically
from poverty, self-sabotage, such as not accepting
opportunities when they were offered, and pain - to
an easy personal and professional life, abundant,
rich in life and pure love. My favourite saying is
based on the theme of 'It always works out'. And
it does! Once I embraced the true gift of being a
woman, my career took off. I now speak on cruise
ships, at universities, I’ve been featured in a movie,
and I do interviews on podcasts and on TV, etc. A
woman’s gifts, her intuition and her ability to tune
in to the universe are amazing.
It does always work out.
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Connecting From The Heart
I remember as a child talking to an older woman
about what I could see inside her body. She
embraced my openness and vulnerability. But that
was rare. When I was nursing, I could connect with
patients from the heart. It is the easiest thing to
do. When you genuinely listen with your heart, you
can connect with anyone and their femininity. It is
that feeling you have when you instinctively know
them and deeply connect with them without logic
or reason. It is like when babies look into your eyes,
and you know they are connecting with you. As
adults, we forget and are told not to connect that
way. When you do, though, you feel that person's
absolute love and core blueprint. Everyone can
feel that if they allow themselves to. For some, it
is linked to feelings and emotions; for others, it is
like butterflies in their abdomen. It has always been
there for me, but I was fearful of showing it until I
learned through nursing that this innate ability is
my strength to help others.
When I first started in business, I was told to
go to networking events. It was not my 'thing'
as it was quite masculine back in the day. But
I played the game of being like a man to be
accepted. What an absolute failure for me! It
did not work - and I probably looked ridiculous
thinking about it now. The more I tried to
be something I was not, the more I failed in
business. As soon as I became the woman I am,
it opened the door to many amazing people,
opportunities and connections. Women have a
gift of connection from the heart and know how
to support each other. That is what business is
about; connections, support, community and
empowering each other. If everyone tapped
into this, each business would thrive. They say,
'It takes a village to raise a child', and I say, 'it
takes a community to empower each other.
Finding Your Feminessence®
The most important aspect when being in your
Feminessence® is to be open, honest, vulnerable
and come from the heart. I try to 'be the example of
what is possible,' as this allows other women to find
their true power and purpose. Women have a gift of
intuition, and they live life with purpose when they
access this superpower. The fundamental essence
of my work is to help women access their intuition
and innate gifts so they can shine their brilliance.
In my 25+ years of this work, I can recall so many
women going from limited, blocked, stuck and in
pain to creating their heart's desires. Through my
online and offline Millennium Modality ® events,
I see my gorgeous clients become the example of
what is possible.
Here are a couple of examples I’d like to share:
Bre was a nurse who wanted to know what direction
to go in, but she could not make it happen. This is
what she says ... "I was guided to Jean Sheehan at
a time when I was questioning my career direction.
Little did I know, through synchronistic meetings,
that connecting with Jean in her 8-day course of
Millennium Modality® Medical Intuition would
awaken me to see my full potential, my sparkles of
brilliance and reconnect with ME! It was like being
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struck by a lightning bolt of pure love. The insights,
the inward unfolding, kept leading to one epiphany
after another about my innate self while being
supported in the unravelling. I finished the course
with such clarity and unexpected awareness. Jean
Sheehan is Absolute Love, and that emanates from
her being. You can feel it in her touch, the way she
speaks and looks at you. Her knowledge is amazing,
and she explains things in a way you can easily
understand. Don't expect her to answer all your
questions, as the tough ones she directs you to find
are those answers deep within yourself… Attend a
course, and you'll soon know what I mean! I loved
every minute of my time in the course, and it won't
be my last. Jean Sheehan, you are amazing!"
Jaimie is a successful business owner debating
whether to sell her business or make changes.
She had lost her way and her Feminessence®. She
shares, "Having just completed a 2-day Modern
Medicine Woman course with Jean, I can honestly
say that it was, hands down, the most empowering
and liberating personal development course I have
ever attended. From the communication in the
lead-up to the event to the heart-felt structure of
the weekend, the venue, the food and the tribe of
women that Jean held so much time and space for
over the weekend, I would recommend so highly
that you allow yourself the opportunity to attend
one of the course offerings. Jean certainly leaves
no stone unturned in ensuring you get the very
best out of the teachings she delivers - this is what
I know to be true. Thank you, beautiful QUEEN, for
allowing me to reclaim my story and move into
a place of ALL the LOVE. Much gratitude, dearest
lady!"
Maraea was searching for her tribe and connection
to home. She was a gorgeous Maori woman who
lost her connection to her culture and innate
Feminessence®. She was running her life and
business from the masculine, and she was lost. She
attended my eight-day immersion, and WOW! Tears
flowed from everyone that participated, especially
from me. She returned home to her heart. This is
what she says "I started doing courses with Jean,
and each one has been a stepping stone for my
growth and learning. I didn’t have direction before
then and just went with the motions. Now I have a
purpose, confidence, and direction, and I know who
I am. Jean brings out the brilliance in every one of
us. Jean can see what we cannot see in ourselves.
You make longtime friendships and connections
with like-minded people too. Thank you, Jean, for
opening those doors for me!” Maraea
My heart is whole, and tears are rolling down my
cheeks as I share this. I know what it was like to feel
squashed as a woman – and to see these women
shine their brilliance is... WOW!
When I am interviewed, I am asked if I have words
of wisdom and about my legacy. My words are
‘It always works out." We forget when we are not
our REAL selves. And my legacy? Like every other
woman in their true Feminessence®, it is to be the
example of what is possible.
My legacy is to help you stop
hiding from yourself and allow
you to shine your brilliance!
 Your body talks
What's it saying?
“The human body is
a blueprint for your most
dominant thoughts.
It is a 3D printout of
the internal vibration.
It shows the
unconscious secrets.
You are the author.
Your story becomes
your biology.”
Jean Sheehan©

I love the theory of PLATO

(Mathematician & Metaphysician)
“There is a difference between HEAL & CURE.
To ‘heal’ is to make the entire mind/body/
spirit whole. To ‘cure’ is to eliminate or relieve
immediate distress. Unless one changes the
ways/thoughts that cause pain, it will repeat in
the same or another area.”

This describes medical Intuition. At the heart

of Medical Intuition lies the ability to connect
with your potentiality. It is ancient, sacred and
perfect. It is love. Potentiality is absolute love and
empowerment. It is the power of intuition. This is
the Feminessence.

Describing what your body is saying is about

understanding how you will access your Medical
Intuitive gifts. Medicine is the art of healing known
as the heart of healing. To HEAL is to make it whole
and complete like we were originally created.
Intuition is spontaneous insight. Women are
amazing at this! And you are going to access this for
(7) days.

This journey is about tuning in to your body and

listening to what it wants and how to manifest
your heart's desires. Women naturally do this by
choosing what to wear, what they feel like eating
and how they visualise their hair for an event.

You are going to access your innate modern wisdom

with this ritual which will allow you to tap into your
superpower intuition and body consciousness.

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© JeanSheehan
 What is body
consciousness,
you ask? Great
question. Each day I want you to follow this ritual.
When I was Nursing, I could see the disease
in each person with my XRAY eyes and an
emotional link to each body part. The body
1
consciousness is the story and emotion held
within each body part. Before you get up in the morning, ask your body
“What do you want me to know?”
For example

1. BREASTS are about nurture and

nourishment. If the woman is not feeling
nurtured or nourished she feels tenderness in
2
her breast.
Take a deep breath in and out
2. LIVER is about the emotion of anger and
being organised. When things are not going as
planned, women will supress their anger and it
may show up as ‘fatty liver’ in a blood test.
3
3. SORE FEET indicate a woman is people Feel a sensation in your body or maybe a whisper in your
pleasing. It may show up as feet blisters, foot mind or a thought that pops into your head
aches and pains, and shin splits.

The body is always talking and is asking you to live 4

your purpose.
Thank your body
When you have the aches, pains, nausea or niggling
in your stomach area, that is your superpower of

5
intuition guiding you that you are not aligned with
your purpose and Femininessence®.

Action what it needs

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O K y
a jo ur na l of what For example
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It is best t g as each day you mething 1
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Before you get up in the morning, ask your body
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Vitamin by 2
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Take a deep breath in and out
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And most will want to do th power of
3 Feel a sensation in your body or maybe a whisper in

Day 3, youtap into your super peaking.

your mind or a thought that pops into your head

as you and your Body S A: You may have had a vision of a green
intuition smoothie
4 Thank your body
5 Action what it needs

A: Make a delicious green smoothie or have a

green salad for lunch

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© JeanSheehan
 YOUR
INTUITION
IS YOUR
SUPER
POWER
WHAT IF YOU COULD
TAP IN TO YOUR SUPER
POWER OF INTUITION
BY USING YOUR BODY
AS A BAROMETER OF
YOUR SOUL?

BE ON PURPOSE WITH YOUR INTUITION.

YOUR BODY WONT LIE.
It is time to be the example of what is possible. As
a woman you are here to shine your brilliance. Stop
playing small. Stop hiding from yourself. This creates
disease and disharmony is your life.

Allow your self to discovery the ancient

wisdom of the Modern Medicine Woman
using Medical Intuition so that you can
shine your brilliance and manifest your
hearts desires. If not now - when?!?!?
© Jaya McIntyre from Empire Art Photography

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MillenniumEducation
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I was an overweight teenager. I managed

to transform my weight and health, so
transitioning into personal training was an
organic one, with people in the gym witnessing
my transformation and asking for my help.

In 1996, I was running my small personal training

business when I received a phone call from Karen, a
woman from Sydney living in Geneva, Switzerland.
She had seen my cover story in a magazine with
Brigitte Duclos’ transformation and wanted me to
fly to Geneva for ten weeks to train her for the Nice
Triathlon. The next thing I knew, I was in Geneva,
living with Karen and her husband, cooking their
meals and training them both daily.

I met her husband’s business partner, Adrian,

the day I arrived. He would tell you he had ten
weeks to convince me I was never going home. He
succeeded. We married six months later and lived in
various countries worldwide for eight years when I
started writing and publishing my books.

In January 2004, I had come back to Melbourne a

week earlier than Adrian. I went to the airport to
pick him up. He walked in the door, put his bags
down and said, “I’m not happy. I’m leaving.” He
picked up his bags and left. I never saw him again.
I soon discovered he had left me in enormous
financial debt, and I had not worked in Australia for
eight years. Friends and a lawyer were encouraging
me to pursue him legally. However, I knew I only
had a finite amount of energy in my body, and I
didn’t want to expend it on negativity and pain.

Successful
weight loss
by optimizing
metabolic
health By Susannah Pask
© Ken Pryor

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 “I have the
incredible
privilege of
showing people
what they’re
capable of.”

© Ken Pryor

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Moving On & Trusting My Ability Again
I needed to do something positive and re-establish
my life, so I opened a tiny studio and started
my little personal training business again. It was
frightening, as I had considered my husband to be
the ‘brains’ in our business endeavours. I would
always seek his advice for such decisions, and I was
now on my own, with very little confidence in my
ability.
Once clients heard I was back, they began returning
to my business, and in a relatively short time, I
was back on my feet and running a successful
business again. Admittedly, I was working 24/7, but
I was slowly proving that I could trust my ability to
make sound business decisions. I also wrote and
published my fifth book that year. The title, ‘Losing
It,’ was a little joke to myself, as it referred to a lot
more than weight loss!
At the time Adrian left, it was devastating. In
hindsight, it was one of the best things that could
have happened, as it forced me out of my comfort
zone and allowed me to push myself beyond my
beliefs about myself. I’m now a more balanced,
empathetic and confident woman because of this
experience.
I think people can feel my authenticity. I have
an innate ability to show others what they are
capable of, and I provide them with an education
and understanding that allows them to believe in
themselves again. Many clients tell me they don’t
feel like themselves anymore. They’ve lost their
identity and their confidence. I encourage them to
‘make friends with their bodies again. To appreciate
how amazing it is and what it’s capable of. Maternal
instinct often sees women putting others first
before themselves. When you get on a plane, I
always say they tell you to put on your oxygen mask
before you can help others.
This is an excellent analogy for life.
I believe we all need to be confident, have a
strong identity and be passionate about our
business, service or product, and personal lives
to be happy and prosperous. Women have great
empathy and emotional intelligence, which can
translate into outstanding leadership at home
with the family and in the workplace.
There is so much conflicting information about
health, nutrition, and weight loss. Even the experts
can’t agree, so it’s almost impossible for anyone
to sort fact from fiction. My programs are like the
instruction manual you never received for your
body. They start by identifying the cause of your
weight gain or health issues with a blood test.
Your program is customised to address these
biomarkers directly and optimise metabolic health.
Fat loss is a welcome ‘side-effect’ of this. The
education throughout the 28-day program serves
as invaluable skills, which will empower you better
to manage your health and weight for a lifetime.
I recently did a live webinar with a group of female
members, and one said, “Why doesn’t everyone
know this?” I hear this often. I spoke with another
client on the phone last week. She has lost 15 kilos
– inspired by her sister, who had lost 30 kilos doing
my program. I had not met either of these women,
yet the program has profoundly impacted their
lives. It is sound, scientifically-backed information
that will change your life, but the entire diet and
health industry remain clouded with so much fluff
and hype that we can’t see the forest for the trees!
I help you see the forest.

From Personal Training to Nutrition & AstonRX

Why did I start my business?

In 2010, after more than a decade of working with

private clients in personal training and lifestyle “When you get on
coaching, I completed my degree in Human
Nutrition. It was becoming increasingly evident a plane, I always
say they tell you
that exercise was only a tiny part of the quest for
improved health, and nutrition and lifestyle were
crucial to success, so this is where my passion
lies. I realised some time ago that when I believe
in people’s abilities - even when they don’t - it can to put on your
be very empowering for them. In my current role,
I have the incredible privilege of showing people
what they’re capable of and helping to restore their
oxygen mask
confidence in themselves and their bodies.
before you can
This is what drives me. Business success is a
by-product of this commitment. AstonRX.com is
an online platform that I started building in 2017.
help others.”
I had spent years developing and delivering a
very successful program to private clients, which
profoundly impacted their lives, so I needed
to reach more people. I did consider another
book; however, I knew this needed to be far
more interactive and provide significant support
and guidance. Being overweight is a ‘symptom’
of underlying metabolic dysfunction. AstonRX
identifies the cause and targets it directly, rather
than trying to put a BandAid on the symptom, which
will always result in regaining the weight.

Helping Women Regain Confidence

I feel that my life experience serves as inspiration

for other women who may be struggling with weight
and nutritional problems. The fact that I have lived
© Ken Pryor

through their current situation and conquered it

gives them hope and confidence that there is light
at the end of the tunnel.

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 is your metabolism?
How healthy

quiz…
Take the metabolic
profiling Q1: My quality and Q2: Have you been
duration of sleep is
generally poor? diagnosed with high
blood pressure?
Science tells us that gaining a. Yes
a. Yes
excess weight or struggling to
b. No
b. No

lose weight is a symptom of

metabolic dysfunction. Many Q3: Have you been Q4: Have you been
‘solutions’ are focussed on
diagnosed with high
cholesterol levels? diagnosed with
pre-diabetes or
putting a Band-Aid on the a. Yes Type 2 Diabetes?

symptom, commonly ignoring b. No

a. Yes
b. No
the root cause. The result will be
short-term weight loss, at best. Q5: Do you carry Q6: Do you struggle
excess abdominal fat?
with chronically high
anxiety or stress
It’s imperative to understand a. Yes
b. No levels?

your metabolic function a. Yes

thoroughly and establish the

b. No

cause of your weight gain Q7: Do you find you Q8: Are you
before you can achieve have uncontrolled
hunger & cravings? overweight and

long-term success.
struggling to lose it?
a. Yes
b. No a. Yes
b. No
The following questions will
help you form a guide on
how efficient your metabolic Q9: Do you suffer Q10: Do you find
from PCOS or fertility
function is now and which problems? yourself snacking/
grazing regularly?
strategy may be your best a. Yes
a. Yes
option moving forward… b. No
b. No
Insulin resistance is at the heart of weight
gain, abdominal fat storage, difficulty losing weight,
inflammation, fatty liver, high blood pressure, polycystic
ovary syndrome, excessive hunger, high cholesterol and type 2
diabetes, yet it’s rarely paid any attention until one or more of
these issues is well advanced.
If you’d like to investigate further, I recommend creating your free Fat AstonRX.com offers three main programs based on science and the body’s
Loss Projection Report at www.AstonRx.com/freeprojection biology.

This report will provide you with a simple, accurate projection of your It uses real, whole foods to help reset good gut health – as well as herbal
current body composition and perspective on how quickly you can formulas to rid parasites, probiotic formulas to replenish good bacteria,
reach your goal weight and where you currently sit within the goal body nutrients and supplements that can help reduce cholesterol, regulate
fat percentage range. blood glucose and boost what the body is lacking.

Should you register for our Metabolic Fat Loss Program, we then confirm Then the focus is on the right foods to eat and when – with online cooking
all this with a simple blood test – using science, not guesswork, to lessons from the AstonRX in-house chef and webinars to help people
optimise your health and metabolic function. understand how better sleep, stress management and exercise play a role.

We then teach you how to reduce and control your insulin levels for
a lifetime, along with other factors such as gut health, sleep, stress
management, exercise, circadian rhythm, or body clock. The ‘side-
effect’? Rapid, permanent fat loss.
Managing our weight and staying within the ‘healthy range’ is not just
about aesthetics – it reduces our risk of developing heart disease, type
2 diabetes and 13 different cancers.
We explain the effects of what you eat, what it means to sleep and energy
and that when you eat is essential as well as quality sleep and mental
health.
It is also about mindset coaching and behavioural change. It is not just
one component. For long-term success, we must consider all contributing
factors.

With every 5kg of body fat we gain, there’s an extra 20kg of pressure in
each joint, resulting in pain, inflammation and reduced quality of life. AstonRX Metabolic Fat Loss Program,
Weight loss is a catalyst for people starting the AstonRX programs, but
Gut Rehab Program and Quick Start
people soon find extra things are happening – such as a reduction in Program are available online at AstonRX.
joint pain, reflux and even snoring!”
com. Programs run for 28 days, with
new cohorts of participants beginning
every two weeks. Extensions for further
weight loss are available, along with
customised Maintenance Programs to help
If you answer ‘YES’ to two of participants incorporate the principles into
these questions, you are likely their lifestyle for long-term success.
battling mild to moderate
insulin resistance, making fat
loss slow and difficult.
If you answer ‘YES’ to three or more
of these questions, you are likely
experiencing moderate to severe range
insulin resistance, making fat loss almost
impossible until it’s addressed.

© Donna Aston

Bridget Foliaki-Davis
Chef, Nutritionist, Author, Health & Wellness Mentor,
TV Personality, Brand Ambassador
Bridget Foliaki- Davis was just 14 when she
dropped out of school to work as a waitress
which eventually led to a culinary qualification.
She graduated at the top of her class.
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She’s had 30 + years of experience working in
professional kitchens in Australia and New Zealand.
She was Head Chef for Bill Granger and Executive
Chef at one of New Zealand’s largest event
companies. She is a writer, a speaker,accredited
nutritionist, and television chef for SBS food and
The Café. She’s a TEDx speaker and has written
six award-winning cookbooks. She has cooked
for Oprah and for New Zealand’s Prime Minister,
Jacinda Ardern.
feminessence.com.au
Bridget Foliaki-Davis has cooking credentials galore.
She was a fully qualified chef by the time she was
20 and became the first President of New Zealand’s
Training Chef’s Association. She worked her way
up the food chain, so to speak, in many small
restaurants throughout New Zealand including
cafes, a coffee roasting boutique, and on chartered
yachts around the Auckland harbour.
The first business she owned was a kitchen in a
sports club in Sydney, Australia. She was just 22.
By age 23 she had two separate businesses and
kitchens operating on opposite ends of Sydney.
By 32, years of hard work and taken their toll. She
needed a vacation and a change of scenery. She
and her husband took their first holiday together,
an 8-week hiatus from work travelling around the
world, where they learned how to appreciate life
away from the kitchen.
In March 2008, she was offered a job working as
Head Chef for Bill Granger at Bills’ Restaurant in
Darlinghurst. It was back to Sydney, where the
couple and their three children have lived ever
since. She’s gone on to make a name for herself
as a VIP chef for Google, a brand ambassador,
cruise ship lecturer, keynote speaker and cookbook
author.
It involved completely changing her diet, and giving
up processed foods, sugar, dairy and gluten.
Within five months she had dropped to a size 8
and shed a miraculous 35 kilos.
She looks back at old photographs and feels sorry
for her old self. “I don’t recognise the old me. She
was so sad. I can see it in the pictures. She was shy,
trying to hide behind baggy clothes and layers. She
had no confidence.
“I am the exact opposite of her now. It’s almost like
we were two different people. I have a new lease on
life and so much confidence. I have fallen back in
love with life.”
She has now added exercise to her healthy living
routine – something she never did before. She
walks, does yoga, paddle boarding and lifts
weights. She also practices intermittent fasting, in
which she eats within a 7-8-hour window during the
day and fasts the rest of the time.
© Bridget Foliaki-Davis

She no longer works in commercial kitchens, but

what ignites her passion these days is helping
mentor the 300,000+ followers she has on social
media with her bespoke gut-healthy recipes and
ideas for healthier living – along with maintaining a
healthy lifestyle herself.

It wasn’t an easy path.

She had struggled with her weight all her life. Being
a chef did not make it easy to eat healthy food,
delicious daily temptations constantly surrounded
her. Back then, she didn’t care about the nutritional
value of the food she was cooking, as long as it
tasted good. When her weight ballooned to 94 kilos
and her dress size went up to a 22, she decided she
had to do something about it.

She had suffered a devastating miscarriage and

her weight had spiralled out of control as she
turned to food and alcohol to deaden the pain.
It was a vicious cycle of binge-eating all the
wrong foods, vomiting and over-eating again,
washing unhealthy foods down with a half-
bottle of vodka. She had hit rock bottom, losing
all self-esteem and confidence in herself.

It had to change.

The turning point was an email inviting her to

appear on a TV show. She was horrified! How could
she possibly be seen on TV looking the way she
did? She had five weeks to get in shape and was
determined to lose the weight and regain control of
her life. In researching healthy diets she discovered
the concept of gut healthy eating.

Falling back
in love with life. By Susannah Pask

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There is no longer any junk or processed food in her
house, - where treats and temptations are now the
healthy creations that she makes herself.

What are her words of advice for those looking to

shed unwanted weight and live a healthier lifestyle,
as she did?

“My advice is to take one small step at a time. I

started by making my next meal a healthy one.
That’s all I focused on. I didn’t focus at all on the
weight I wanted to lose. I just focused on making
my next meal a healthy one. After the first meal, I
focused on the next meal and then the next one.

“Rather than overwhelming myself with what

seemed like an enormous task at the time, I just
focused on taking one small step forward to who
I wanted to become – a happier, healthier, more
slender me.

“The only thing I would do differently is starting

earlier. I cannot describe in words how different and
more fulfilling my life and my relationships have
become.”

Her recipes are delicious. Her advice and

mentorship have been nothing short of life-
changing for hundreds of thousands of her
followers.

One step at a time.

Focus on
taking one
small step
forward to
who you want
to become
– a happier,
healthier you. © Bridget Foliaki-Davis

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he alth y
kitchen
Treat yourself
healthy
5-min Strawberry Shortcake
Gluten-free | Sugar-free | No added fat | Dairy-free

Makes 1
Method
Why it’s delicious
1 tablespoon of inulin in
Add the strawberries and
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a microwavable mug or gla
are feeling like a little treat, this recipe can’t be beaten for speed and delight! 45 seconds until just soft.
Microwave on high for 30-
the cooked berries and set
Remove a tablespoon of
them aside to serve.

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Ingredients
5 medium strawberries, green tops removed and sliced
1 tbsp + ½ tbsp inulin powder
2 tbsp almond flour
½ tsp desiccated coconut
1 egg
½ tsp baking powder
½ tsp pure vanilla essence
½ tbsp unsweetened coconut yogurt to serve, optional

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© Bridget Foliaki-Davis
 4 Ingredient Chocolate Fudge
Gluten-free | Sugar-free | Dairy-free | Vegan Friendly

Makes 12 serves
Why it’s delicious
Fudge was my favourite treat as a child, with chocolate fudge coming in a
close second only to Russian fudge. This new and improved fudge treat is so
good that it’s dangerous and should be approached with caution as it’s hard
to stop at one piece. With it tasting so good, how could it possibly be this
healthy? It is excellent fudge trickery!

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ring water. Stir
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with a spatula until the ing
liquid-smooth.
Ingredients used
dish with baking paper (I
Line a small container or ay con tain er) and pour
tak eaw
100 g (3 .5 oz) almond butter or a nut or seed butter of your choosing a small rectangle plastic the container.
50 g (1.7 oz) coconut oil or MCT oil the warm ingredients into
70 g (2.4 oz) sugar-free, dairy-free vegan dark chocolate chips
zer for 30 minutes or in the
2 tbsp pure as inulin powder or pure erythritol Cool the fudge in the free ing
until hard. Portion by slic
fridge for 60-90 minutes the fridge for up
re covered in
into 12-14 pieces and sto .
to 2 we eks

Quinoa ganache cookies

Gluten-free | Sugar-free | Dairy-free | Grain-free | Vegan friendly

Makes 1 dozen cookies

Helpful hints and tips
In order to have 300 grams
qui noa for this rec ipe , bring to the
cooked
boil ⅔ cup of raw quinoa
in 500 ml (1 pint)
of water and boil for 18-20
. Dra in the water from the
the quinoa is tender
k, allo g the steam
quinoa and stir with a for
coo ked
to escape from the
quinoa to cool in a coland
Why it’s delicious
These little healthy cookies taste as good
as they look! Soft and tender and packed
full of flavour, it is quite possibly my
favourite way to have leftover quinoa ever. Method
she et with
Ingredients C (350F) and line a baking
Preheat your oven at 180 ing pap er.
non-stick bak
300 g (10.5 oz) or about 2 cups of cooked
ients into a bowl and mix
and cooled quinoa (see above on how to Place all the cookie ingred n as a
bined. Using a tablespoo in the
cook) thoroughly until well com each por tion
into 12, rolling
80 g (2.7 oz) nut or seed butter or hazelnut guide, portion the mixture achieve a smooth ball.
chocolate spread (page **) palm of your hand to
et and
60 g (2 oz) of whole oats or quinoa flakes spaced on the baking she the
3 tbsp sweet as fibre syrup Position the balls evenly to form a cookie . Bak e in
d
3 tbsp raw cacao powder flatten gently with your han until the cookies are cooked
oven for 18-20 minutes or
3 tbsp zero as sugar pure erythritol through.
40 g (1.7 oz) dry roasted hazelnuts,
s before
crushed on the tray for 20 minute
(10.5 oz) of Allow the cookies to cool rack to cool completely.
transferring to a wir e
Cookie toppings
chips and
90 g (3 oz) sugar, dairy-free dark chocolate gently heat the chocolate
For the ganache topping, pot, stirring until the ganache is
minutes or until coconut cream in a small ooth.
chips
3 tbsp coconut cream sm
win 2 tbsp dried rose petals or crushed nuts
the top of cooled cookies
and
quinoa. Allow the or seeds Spoon the ganache onto
or crushe d nut s or see ds.
er. sprinkle with rose petals
ight container in the
Store the cookies in an airt 5 days.
fridge for up to

© Bridget Foliaki-Davis
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healthy
k itc he n

www.bridgets.shop
© Bridget Foliaki-Davis
 Look after what is
essential today on
the stage, watch life
support you, and wrap
itself around you!

sparkle
Stay true to my
By Susannah Pask

96 feminessence.com.au
Julie Cross
Keynote Motivational Speaker
I grew up in regional Queensland, so I was not one of the
‘cool city kids.’
I always felt a little uncool and clunky, but on reflection, I now
know it was a gift not to be one of the cool kids. Because, you
see, I stayed in touch with who I was, my uniqueness. I wasn't
coerced into looking like everybody else to fit in by wearing the
right clothes to look like one of the cool kids. I was oblivious,
which meant I was in touch with my authenticity.
When I started hairdressing and moved to the city, being
authentic wasn't always comfortable. I felt like I spent most of
my young adult years being uncomfortable, feeling like I was too
loud and just too much for people. I just didn't know how to be
like everybody else, and every time I tried to be, by wearing what
the cool people were wearing or acting like the cool people were
working, well, the truth is, I never got it right. It was easier to be
me and get comfortable with being uncomfortable because I
could still feel like ME.
As we grow up, we lose ourselves and spend most of our
adult lives trying to find ourselves again. I never entirely lost
touch with who I was, so ‘she’ wasn't that hard to find again!
And what a gift that ended up being, because I became
that too loud, too much, authentic, full of passion, energy,
laughter and dance kind of girl that put some sequins on,
who found a stage, found her dharma and her true calling in
life. I’m so happy now that I was never one of the cool kids,
and I still am not. Yes, it still gets uncomfortable sometimes,
but it is way more painful these days, NOT being my true self.
Inspiring Others
I started in the hairdressing industry, training hairdressers in skills
and product knowledge. I loved doing it - but I always added
some personal development concepts into my training. I had
also worked as an area manager for a hairdressing organisation
and knew the importance of not just 'teaching' people but also
'inspiring' them. It was about the head and the heart connection,
and it was the heart and emotional messages that I loved
teaching. I had terrific feedback from my sessions, so I know they
resonated with my audiences. I then fell pregnant with my first
son and resigned from my job; in between breastfeeding and
changing nappies, I read a book called 'Speak and Grow Rich, so
when my son, Jack, was six months old, I bought a whiteboard,
typed up some training formats, printed some business cards,
rang some hairdressers and started my training business. I
started it with no expectation except that if I could just make a
difference and enough money to contribute to the car payment
every month, then I was winning.
It is clear what I have been put on this earth to do because 25
years later, my business has evolved from training hairdressers
to presenting Keynote speeches to all kinds of audiences on
all sorts of stages. My goal is pretty much the same, if I can just
make a difference in somebody's life today and make enough
money to live a good life, then I’m happy. They say that if you look
back on your childhood, you see signs of how you are meant to
serve the world. In the regional towns where I grew up, we often
had those old wooden tank stands, and sometimes there would
be one without a tank. I remember pushing a ladder up against
the tank stand and climbing up and pretending to perform to an
audience. I also have a book from my childhood ... an old exercise
book, and in it, I had written out pages of poems and positive
quotes from Readers Digest. These days I both speak and write.
Perfect! But I did have to go on a journey - from hairdressing to
owning who I was - to get here.
it ’s the movement you’ve been longing for...
I Am Woman, Hear Me Roar!
I’ve been through a lot in my personal life. I am a mother of two
children; my husband had a stroke, and I became his carer. He
passed away, and suddenly, I was a widow and a single mother.
My youngest son was diagnosed with Autism, and I became his
carer, still the sole income earner. This was all challenging, but I
am a woman, hear me roar! I have moved through all that now,
and I get to look back with wisdom and see the gifts of being a
woman and how I concentrated on what was important in my life
then... my husband, then my children ... their grief, and Autism. In
managing all that, I had to 'let go of my business. I still needed to
work, obviously, but I had no energy, time or focus to decide what
that looked like. There was no goal-setting, no business planning,
no marketing and social media strategies, no ringing seven
client's a day to follow up, no database ... hell, I was just trying to
get through the moment I was in without too many windows and
walls being kicked in... because as grief got deeper, Autism got
louder. I was just trying to negotiate the simple moments in life
and not to lose my other son and my mind as we dealt with our
grief and Autism.
So, my business was on autopilot ... the only marketing strategy
I had was to do the best I could with what came to my way and
trust that when I did, something good would somehow come
of it. And it was enough. Unwittingly because as a woman, as a
single Mum, I needed to focus on my family. I found 'flow', 'trust',
and 'faith', and these are some of the best strategies to grow
your business successfully, organically, happily and peacefully!
There were times I remember looking at what other speakers
were doing. I had those moments of saying to myself, 'Look at
what they are doing... travelling to America to speak, I could be
doing that, I should be doing that... " Then the Universe would
whisper to me, "And when would you fit that in? You do what is
important now, and that is your family ... and we will look after
the rest!" Trust, faith, flow... and then when my oldest son Jack
left home and Thomas had moved through the worst of his grief
and grew through some of his challenging behaviours, My work
took off, and the Universe whispered, "See, we always had your
back, go get 'em, girl!" Feminine energy in action right there!
Make your journey, and don't compare it to anybody else's. There
is nowhere to 'get to.’ Where is everybody racing off to anyway?
Look after what is essential today on the stage, watch life support
you, and wrap itself around you!
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Relaxing Into Your Sparkle
After women hear me speak, the most common
responses are 'You are SO authentic and real' and
'I just love your energy! Can I hug you?' Now I don't
know how to 'teach' this because how don't I ‘be
myself? I mean, who else would I be? Who else
would you be? And I think 'energy' is SO vital and
not talked about enough. We must get out of our
heads and into our hearts a little more. When we do
that, we will relax into our authentic selves and our
energy, or as I like to call it, our sparkle, will radiate
from us as a unique charisma that will attract
people to you. Let go of being professional and
connect with being passionate; add more of YOU in
all you do!
The world will love you for it.
Keynote Speaking
Through my keynote speaking, my books and my
online program ... I entertain ... I invite people to
laugh. We have made everything so complicated
and serious; laughter is underestimated. When you
have a big belly laugh, you release endorphins into
your system, you feel better, and your immunity
system has been boosted. After a big laugh, your
following conversation will be one of your most
authentic and honest moments because laughter
relaxes you into who you are. So often, as people
leave my shows, they say, ‘thank you and mention
that they can't remember the last time they laughed
so much. Really, what are we doing? I also invite
people to cry ... life is a feeling journey, and if you
want to live and feel a big, exciting life, then you
have to be willing to hurt a little and sometimes a
lot. How do I know happy if I don't know sad? If you
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don't do your emotions, they will do you.
I empower ... I remind people what they already
know. I reconnect them to owning how incredible
they are. I invite them to fall in love with themselves
like they knew how to do when they were two years
old. I encourage them to remember that nobody
else in this world is exactly like them, which means
there is no competition because nobody can do
them as they can! Imagine if we all just moved
through the world knowing how amazing we are?
Not that we are better than anybody else because
we aren't, but we are as good as, and we are
enough! I also invite them to reconnect with their
resilience and power because we are more vital
than we know.
"Julie, you touched my core today. I walked away
from today's event shaken, but not in a bad way.
You spoke some truths that hit home with what I
have been through in the past few years. You have
given me a new outlook on life; thank you from the
bottom of my heart" A.M.
I energise ... our energy is so underrated,
underutilised and under-managed! I energise
through my passionate, unique and energetic
style of presenting, but I also do it through
storytelling. Through telling stories, we connect to
people emotionally. Emotion is motion, and that
is where motivation is accessed. So, if we want
to affect change, we must connect the concepts
and ideas in our heads with the emotion in our
hearts, and storytelling does this. Your energy is
at the foundation of your mental and emotional
well-being, and we need to be more aware of
how we can control, use, and elevate it. Energy
inspires people to hang out with us, buy from us,
feminessence.com.au
do business with us, work for us, cooperate with
us, and lift us to success. Your energy also affects
your physical health and wellbeing. Energy is what
makes us come alive; energy is living.
"Funny, entertaining, authentic, real, raw, honest,
moving ... I laughed, I cried, I laughed, I cried, and
I laughed again. I will never let anybody steal. my
energy again, my energy is high!" T.C.
The Courage to Sparkle
When I started my business, I was wearing the usual
'corporate' dress; I started wearing sequins when
one of the other Mummy in my 'Mothers’ Group'
told me she saw these sequin shirts that reminded
her of me my personality. So, I did... and it took
great courage to do so back then when there was
no sequin to be seen except in a dress-up box. But
this fitted perfectly with my message of the courage
it takes to stand out from the crowd. Over the years,
many have said that 'sequins’ are too feminine, that
I wouldn't be taken seriously by people wanting to
book me for a mixed audience, and that my male
audience wouldn't relate to me.
I stayed true to myself and my sparkle; I have
since spoken at several mines and power
stations with predominantly male audiences.
They love it!
"Such an inspirational and moving presentation.
You captured the audience with your sparkle and
moved us to tears while sharing your journey, We
laughed and cried, but most of all, we could see
ourselves in your journey too. Amazing!" – A. D.
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 Finding your inner
sparkle & purpose
So how do we find our inner sparkle?
Our relationship with ourselves will affect every other relationship
Re-discovering our purpose.
we have in our lives. The conversations we have with ourselves will Experts suggest that there are signs in our childhood of how we
affect every different conversation we have. were best meant to serve the world, and in discovering that, we
often find our authentic selves.
Your inner sparkle is not just your authentic and unique personality; it
is more than that. It is the energy you bring into the world, confidence, Reflect on what you loved doing as a child? Write down 3 things
courage, resilience and charisma. People in touch with their inner you were either great at or loved doing.
sparkle find a wonderful flow with life and attract the people and

Are you doing any of these things in

circumstances that support them and their dreams. So, if you have lost
touch, she is worth rediscovering!
your life today?
For example, if you love to sing but are working in a Bar to pay
the bills, could you start singing customer drink orders? It may
feel uncomfortable or silly, but by doing this, you would
be creating a new and unique experience for your
customers, and you are using your stage to ‘be seen,
and then the Universe will do her magic!

I think sometimes we resist doing what makes

our heart sing because we don’t know how to

Falling in love with yourself

make money from it, or we don’t want to risk
losing our secure income; just get started!

List two ways you can

re-igniting that inner sparkle. add what you love to do
Put a baby photo of yourself on your bathroom mirror. Look how beautiful, perfect and into what you are already
doing?
unique she is. Reflect on how much love we all give to a baby. We are so open with
our passion and in awe of the miracle of life. Everybody looked at you with that
same love. You are that same perfect amazing miracle; you just grew up, is all.

When you look into the mirror, instead of looking AT yourself, look right into your
eyes and rediscover the perfection, the miracle and your sparkle inside. Thank
your body, love every part of who you are. If your inner dialogue starts to
judge and talk negatively about your body or your face, look back at that
baby photo and ask yourself if you would speak to her like that?

This mindful action every day will have you falling back
in love with yourself; your sparkle will start beaming
from you. It may be uncomfortable and
emotional, but they are the signs that
you are re-igniting that
sparkle within.
Maintaining your
inner sparkle.
Every day we are being bombarded with messages that convince us to compare ourselves with
others and compete. Whether it be around what we have in our lives or how we look, there is
always that subliminal message that you are not good enough unless … unless you are this dress
size, have this kind of car, your children go to this school… so it takes a lot of mental and emotional
discipline to not buy into all of that. Remember, you are more than your stuff or the way you look. You
came to this world a miracle with nothing and were celebrated and loved. The ‘stuff’ is just the fun along
the way; it need not define you. Or nor does how we look. In a world full of individuals, why would we
compare? We are individuals! And it is THAT individuality that makes you, YOU.

Take action.
If you are playing that game of comparison and feel your sparkle and energy depleting STOP.

1. Return to the mirror and remind yourself how loved and amazing you are.
2. Write down five things you are grateful for
3. Stop comparing.
4. Do some exercise!

A final thought on the value of exercise.

Exercise is a loving thing to do for you and your body. We underestimate the connection between
our physical, mental and emotional well-being. Exercise continues to be the most under-
prescribed, under-utilised natural antidepressant there is.

Think about the effect of the relationship and your conversations with yourself.

Let’s say, right now; you decide you are going for a walk tomorrow morning; yep, you are getting started.
The alarm goes off; you hit snooze and don’t go.

What is the conversation with yourself when you finally drag yourself out of bed?

“Oh, here we go again; I knew you couldn’t do it, always saying you would do something, and you don’t.
These pants are tight, damn it.”

Your energy is low, and you take the negative energy everywhere with you and make everybody else pay
because you didn’t do that living thing for yourself.

However, if you do get up and go for that walk.

What is the conversation you are having with yourself now?

Oh, you are so proud of yourself! You get back and put your pants on and think, “Oh, they fit
better already!” (No, they don’t, you have only been once!), but you see, we don’t see things as
they are; we see things as we are. Doing something loving for yourself changes the lens through
which you look at the world. Now you are sparkling, and the world looks better!

just do it!
Now take action! Remember that when
you get that nervous feeling in your tummy
as you step out of your comfort zone, that’s
not when you stop. Feel the fear and leap into
it because that nervous funny feeling is your
sparkle, and it is trying to get out!

© Julie Cross
 Naz De Bono
Founder & Fitness Coach at XALI

Redefining What 50 Can Be

I welcome it.

I am passionate about supporting my physical and

emotional body and helping others reach their
potential.

I had a fitness app that helped people do precisely

that. Still, as I experienced my journey, I realised
I wanted to combine my knowledge with my own
experiences to build a safe, supportive community
for women to access.

As a trainer and woman, I know that we need to

move in diverse ways, especially as our bodies
constantly evolve and change. I would be a fool
if I didn't respect that basic human chemistry. I
felt many online fitness apps were not helping
women undergoing hormonal changes. We are
not in our 20's anymore, and we can’t do HIIT after
HIIT without it affecting our joints and energy.
I experienced this myself, having sampled so
many fitness apps that didn’t work. I realised that
something was missing - and that was 'Emotional
Training.'

I was inspired to draw together a team of

women through manifestation, intention,
and my vision board to build XALI. (OK, I also
had help from our amazing creative digital
marketing agency, New Beach!) This required
that we develop our platform from scratch to be
able to offer tailor-made programs for women
based on emotion. Our team was not entirely
female, but I was careful to choose the male
counterparts that would support our journey to
help the divine feminine emerge.

I feel it's important to have female role models who

inspire you - I am lucky to have Shelley Craft and
Mandy Nolan, who helped me realise my potential
in creating XALI. For the first year, we brainstormed
what we wanted in the marketplace as a group
of intelligent women. Our ages ranged from 21 to
55, so our ideas had a wide variety, which I loved.
Although I was going through menopause myself
and wanted to cater for women going through

Holistic health for

hormonal changes, I knew that the level of care in
my workout design would help women of all ages.

experiencing biological
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The whole concept of XALI is to ask women how
they feel today and how they want to feel. So, after
inputting their personal goals, each time they log in
to XALI, they are asked if they want to be energised,
happily motivated, nurtured or calmed and soothed.

I found it easy to design a session for a

woman who wants to be energised or happily
motivated. Still, the challenge I faced was
developing programs for when the emotion
"nurture" was chosen. I still wanted to give
them a workout their body NEEDED - and that
may be Strength or Power rather than Yoga.
The solution I came up with was to provide
a workout that let you feel you had nurtured
yourself after completing your session.

For me, it’s always about how you feel after the
workout - not all my nurturing sessions are yoga on
repeat - some of them may harness your strength
and power but still result in a satiated, nurtured
outcome.

I wanted the same concept for nutrition. One size

does not fit all, so offering a menu plan did not
sit well with me. So, I invited Samantha Gowing,
an award-winning clinical nutritionist and former
chef, to our tribe of growing women. Sammy put
the ‘food as medicine’ concept on the map with her
expertise in nutrition, and she brought happiness to
the plate! So now XALI asks - Do you want to boost
brain power? Refuel me please/immunity boost /
Anti-inflammatory, Gut healing food, or I want to
increase my energy.

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And finally - but maybe most importantly - when
I film my exercise videos, I really show up. I am
present. I channel my highest wisdom and let it flow
throughout me. There is a clear intent that I put out
for women to reclaim their superpower once they
connect to themselves.
We are not small men, but we need to work with
weights to help keep us strong and ready for all life
throws at us. We wanted to build a platform that
makes sure you have all the different training you
need to keep you healthy, strong, and full of vitality
but also have FUN! Trust me, I love ...A LOT! It's who
I am ...and it gives me ABS!!
Do you know what? I have chosen a biological age,
integrated with my current wisdom, awareness,
and powerful consciousness. Our chronological
age is measured in years, but our biological age is
assessed by our diet, exercise, and stress. So I am
choosing acceptance of being fifty but redefining
what fifty can be. XALI can help you do that too!
Many women feel as I did - lost, confused,
wondering if my best years were behind me. I
was desperate to find a new reality for myself –
and this is it!
XALI has been designed with emotion and intuition
and is specifically for women facing biological
changes. You are taken on an individualised journey
of daily workouts, recipes, and articles to keep you
on track with your physical and emotional health.
How do you want to feel? We’ll get you there.
When women are operating at their best potential,
men can harmonise into that balanced state of
being. To quote the Dalai Lama, "The world will be
saved by the western woman."
So, step up, ladies!!

“Having my workout
recommended by Naz based
on how I want to feel is genius.
As we age, we can’t keep doing
what we’ve always done, not
because we are not capable - it
just doesn’t work anymore. I
love the fact that after putting
in my dietary preferences I had
a meal suited to me too. Naz has
been my trainer and it really is
like having her with me.”

Shelley Craft -
(TV Personality and Founder of
The Aging Project and
inspirer of women!)

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 Ground & stand
Did you know that power is the
first thing we lose as we age?
Understanding how our bodies change as we grow
older is essential to our overall health and wellbeing.
So, when you start to notice that it’s getting a little
more challenging to move with ease, it’s essential
that you begin to incorporate core strengthening
exercises into your daily routine.
We all know that everyone has their unique level of flexibility, strength, fitness,
and differing mobility restrictions due to pain or other health issues, which
is why the team at Xali aim to provide bespoke workouts based on your daily
emotion, fitness level, experience and motivation. Some days, you’ll want to
push outside your comfort zone, other days, you’ll need to nurture your body,
and we have a routine for every step along the way.
Each workout on our platform has been meticulously designed to support
women's bodies, keeping joints and muscles safe, no matter the exercise. By
answering a few easy questions when setting up your account, Xali creates
a personalised recommendation of daily workouts, recipes and articles to
support your health. We will take into consideration how you are feeling
emotionally as well as physically to work in harmony with hormonal changes.
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Why should I improve my core
strength?
If we were to sit you in a chair and tie your hands behind your back,
could you get up? If the answer is ‘no’, that’s ok!
As you age, this type of systematic training, based on repetition,
will assist in strengthening your core and help give you confidence.
Mastering basic strengthening movements, such as the Ground and
Stand, is imperative to maintaining mobility into your older years.
The Ground and Stand is a simple move whereby you begin on the
floor and manoeuvre your body in a certain way to get back up in
a standing position without using your hands. As a fitness trainer,
I have worked with clients at different levels of ability, mobility and
strength, so I understand that although this particular move sounds
like a simple feat, it can, unfortunately, become much harder to
complete the older we get.
There is no right or wrong way to do it; as long as you’re determined,
you can build your strength back up over time. Beginning on a level
that is comfortable for you and working your way up is critical. Drills
such as this play a significant role on the Xali platform, both in
warm-ups and recovery workouts, to keep your body vital and strong
at any age.
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the edge of the seat. Position your knees over your ankles. Can you
stand up without putting weight on your hands? If this proves to be Meet Naz
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No regrets By Susannah Pask

Jacqui B Scougall
Transformation Coach, Author, International Speaker, Consultant

“I am not a stranger to the dark

Hide away, they say
‘Cause we don’t want your broken parts
I’ve learned to be ashamed of all my scars
Run away, they say
No one’ll love you as you are

But I won’t let them break me down to dust

I know that there’s a place for us
For we are glorious.”

This Is Me

There are very few songs that have struck such a chord with me quite
like this one, “This Is Me.” From the opening line, poetically sitting in a
darkened cinema, I found myself transported into the story, recalling
my own darkness and anonymity; times when I’d let people’s
perceptions project onto me, clipping my wings and holding me
ransom. As they say, no one knows you better than yourself,
and as the song rang out, its words wrapped around me like a
superhero cape, fueling my inner flame...

“...When the sharpest words wanna cut me down, I’m

gonna send a flood, gonna drown them out I am brave, I
am bruised I am who I’m meant to be, this is me.”

I’ve had a few AHA moments in my time but regressed,

consumed by some negative emotion, be it guilt, fear,
sadness, or inadequacy. I hadn’t sufficient self-belief or
certainty to step out of the darkness and into the spotlight
like the ‘ringmaster’ in The Greatest Showman or my son as
I proudly watched him act on stage. Yet that night, sitting
in the cinema, goosebumps covering my arms and tears
streaming down my cheeks, my connection to the song was
so undeniably strong that I finally gave myself permission
to believe again and trust the process. Songs can be highly
cathartic and a powerful anchor; this song delivered that to
me in spades.

“...Look out ‘cause here I come,

and I ’m marching on to the beat
I drum, I ’m not scared to be seen,
I make no apologies, this is me.”

© Melinda Hird Photography © Benj Pasek and Justin Paul - Songwriters 'This Is Me'
Like joining stars in the night sky,
I finally made the connection between
a series of events in my life.
Whilst I recognised my perfectionist traits
had previously left me frozen on the starting
line, ‘paralysis by over analysis’, what had
actually been holding me back was the fear
of succeeding, or worse still, ‘outshining.’
Outshining can show up in our lives in many
forms. A strong desire to people-please
underpinned my personal experiences:
• Downplaying achievements in family
environments. Being labelled, ‘the favourite’ or
‘special’ can challenge family dynamics. As the
baby of the family by ten years, comments like;
“they got smarter as they got younger” were
flippantly exchanged across the dinner table.
• Not wanting to ‘outshine’ with your opinions.
If you’ve ever been shut down in a meeting, at
home, or publicly belittled for comments you’ve
made, it’s most likely because they didn’t like
being upstaged by your brilliance. Remember, it’s
a reflection of their insecurities, not you.
• Playing small whilst being the head cheerleader
for others. Hiding your talents or achievements to
avoid drawing any negative response from your
inner circle is not serving you or doing them any
favours.
• Shrinking your problems because there are
‘bigger’ problems in the world. In the big scheme
of things, there are, but dismissing your pain or
pretending your problem isn’t real, is unhealthy.
• Deflecting compliments. Commonly, we meet a
compliment with a caveat, “I was just lucky,” “In
the right place at the right time,” or “You’re just
being nice.” But when you give out a compliment,
aren’t you being sincere? Food for thought.
Imposter Syndrome
With the prevalence of social media and ‘comparing,’
I’ll admit I have suffered from Imposter Syndrome.
I’ve had a few bad experiences with so-called
coaches or mentors, outlaying more money than I
care to remember, only to find out they were frauds.
After the initial emotional roller coaster of sadness,
anger, remorse, and guilt, I began on some level
to recognise that my diverse life experiences and
training more than qualified me to do what they did.
If I truly wanted to serve others, I needed to get out
of my own way and offer an authentic alternative.
With awareness comes change and recognising my
fear of outshining others was a game-changer. It
was the missing piece in the puzzle, giving me a far
more profound understanding of my relationships.
I’d dimmed my light to keep the peace at work or
home, letting the happiness of others determine
my own. It was simply a natural response to pain
or fear as I’d attached a negative emotion to each
of my significant achievements, all influenced by
someone else’s reaction to them. I thought I was
being empathetic and compassionate, but at a
subconscious level, it was inadvertent pity.
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key relationships, including the one I had with
myself. Settling, being taken for granted, or playing
small were no longer options.
When my marriage of 17 years ended, people were
quick to judge. You’d think that with one in three
marriages resulting in divorce the stigma would
have disappeared, but I was wrong. I’d recognised
for some time the cracks in my marriage, and no
single person was to blame. We had both changed
I’d given away the power of my innate
from when we first met and now had different
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perspectives on life and what we wanted out of it.
There was one significant exception to this, though;
2012
we both adored our son and wanted the very best
for him, agreeing that no matter what, we would
2012 started as a year I’d rather forget. Mum,
work together to make that happen.
my rock, had to undergo life-threatening heart
surgery; my mother-in-law and sister-in-law were
As the ‘initiator’ you often carry overwhelming
both undergoing chemotherapy, and we sadly said
feelings of fear and guilt around with you for
goodbye to our much loved four-legged family
years before (and after) the day you make the
member. At the time, my career as a commercial/
break. It’s a hard decision, and there will never
contract management specialist was at its peak.
be a perfect time or way to do it. Accepting
On the surface, my life was perfect, and I didn’t
that people will get hurt is a heart-wrenching
want for anything. Balancing work demands with
concept to grasp, and the pain I put others
being the kind of mum, wife, daughter, sister, and
through still stings at times.
friend I expected of myself became increasingly
challenging. I was in a constant state of ‘busyness’
Writing a new story since my divorce, I started
and, sadly too busy for the people and things that
prioritising myself. My wings were no longer clipped
meant the most. Worse still, I fell into the trap
but this sense of freedom didn’t happen overnight.
of thinking that material objects and gifts would
I invested in what I’d like to class as ‘Personal
compensate for my love and time.
Performance Technology.’ I wasn’t broken and didn’t
need fixing; I just chose to fill my tank with nothing
When Mum started to get sick, you’d think I’d wake
other than ‘premium’ fuel. The Universe answers
up to my new normal, but I kept suppressing it. It
when you open yourself up to limitless possibilities
would take a few more months and something far
and approach life from a growth mindset. I broke
more dramatic for that. I still remember watching
free from my bubble and sought out more aligned
my son play an inter-school cricket match, my
connections – I engaged mentors, attended events
laptop close at hand, when my brother-in-law rang
often on my own, changed business advisors,
to say Mum had just been rushed to hospital. After
signed up for what some would class as ‘out of left
many back-and-forth calls between the hospital and
field’ courses, and established two successful side
my siblings, it was decided that a surprise visit from
businesses. I’d be lying if I said it was all smooth
me would only panic Mum. Forty-eight hours later, I
sailing along the way, with me hitting rock bottom
was on a plane, fearing I wouldn’t make it in time.
on more than one occasion. Was it all worth it,
though - absolutely yes!
We always knew never to underestimate Mum. She
was the strongest woman I had ever known and
As work/life ‘balance’ had previously been a
determined to get out of that hospital bed; “I don’t
challenge, I put boundaries around the non-
have time to be sick.” When it became harder for
negotiables, my family. I also started following
Mum to talk, she switched to writing notes to us.
through on Mum’s advice; life is too short and “...not
One day, when we were sitting alone in her hospital
measured by the breaths we take but the moments
room, she started writing away and then pointed to
that take our breath away.” I took the family holiday
the words on the page; “Tell your business partner
we never made time for, literally walked over hot
you’re moving to Queensland,” and on the following
coals, and completed a half marathon on the Great
line “Life’s too short, live without regret.” My ‘AHA’
Wall of China. Serendipitously, the race was held
moment right there! She was pointedly right. I had
on what would have been Mum’s 90th birthday.
been living away from my family for too long, living
These events painted a picture of possibility that
my life on other people’s terms and fulfilling their
others started to see. From this, my desire to pay
dreams instead of my own. Somewhere along the
the lessons I had learnt the hard way forward was
line, I had also lost my sense of purpose.
ignited, giving birth to my coaching business.
After nearly three weeks in the hospital, Mum
Paying It Forward
peacefully passed away surrounded by her four
children and the sound of our laughter as we stirred
In 2019 I was honoured to share my story about
each other and reminisced of special family times.
breaking glass ceilings and overcoming adversity
We took solace in knowing that after 25 years, Mum
as a guest speaker at the Women Economic Forum
and Dad were together again and would forever be
(WEF) in India. Speaking in front of 2000 people
in our hearts.
was a daunting concept, but I’d felt the pull to help
other women, to pay it forward.
Peeling Back the Layers
In a break-out session, “Stand up for yourself,
I began living my life differently after that, gradually
truly stand up for others”, I was partnered with
peeling back the layers to reveal the real me. In
two incredible speakers; a lady who recounted her
doing so, the spotlight was shone on each of my
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husband’s attempt to kill her and a fellow Aussie
acclaimed for bringing down Rolf Harris. Before my
turn to speak, I doubted my right to be there. My
story was certainly not in the same league as theirs
- or was it?
As I was telling my story, a lady sitting at the back of
the room started to cry. When I finished, she stood
up and through the tears said she was divorced.
She explained that we had just witnessed the first
time she had said the word ‘divorce’ aloud. For
over a year, she had kept that secret to herself
in fear of dishonouring her Indian family and the
consequences that would follow. Today she is an
internationally celebrated musical artist and living
life on her terms.
My wish for that trip was to light a spark in at least
one woman, to give her hope, enough belief to
back herself, and permission to dream again. I
achieved that and came home a changed woman
with an even bigger fire in my belly. I also realised
that what was holding me back was the very label
I’d stuck on myself like some badge of honour. My
divorces weren’t what defined me. Each time I faced
adversity, I had looked within to the gifts Mum and
Dad had instilled in me. Your heart and true north
are the only compasses you will ever need.
Finding My Feminessence®
Since returning from India, I have continued
my journey, including being featured in a book
compilation called Change Makers. The experience
was personally quite cathartic, but more
importantly, I learned my story had touched others.
Through my voice, they had been able to identify
longstanding issues in their own lives and had
decided to act. It’s the old adage ‘if she can, I can’.
But the alchemist in me knew there was far
more I could do to help others transform their
lives for the better. I pursued my certification
as a Hypnotherapist, Master Practitioner of
Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) and Time
Line Therapy.
With this renewed sense of purpose, I
unconsciously began to emit my Feminessence®.
Friends started to comment on the change they saw
in me – my inner spark and unwavering positivity.
Strangers would, to my surprise, stop me in the
shops to compliment me on simple acts, a passing
smile I gave them, a kind word spoken or the
twinkle in my eyes. This, to me was simply a display
of the inherent qualities passed down to me. My
thoughts and actions, head and heart, were in total
alignment. So much so that my car sports ‘JUSTBU’
number plates. These plates embody what I stand
for, and gauging by the number of conversations
they have initiated, including with the odd traffic
controller, the permission to dream again, to ‘live
a life without regret’ is well and truly being paid
forward.
Overcoming Gender Bias & Playing the Game
When I joined the Air Force at 18, I was 160cms
tall and 50 kilos and quickly acknowledged my
limitations. I certainly wasn’t going to pretend that
I could, for example, scale a 2.5m high wall on my
own. I fondly recall my first day on the rifle range,
it ’s the movement you’ve been longing for...
holding a rifle that was nearly as long as I was
tall. As I looked through the sight, trying to focus
through dust-filled eyes, I gently squeezed back the
trigger and then splat; the recoil sent me flying head
over heels. The bombardier, as a true gentleman,
turned to me and said with a wry smile, “Ma’am, I’ve
never had the pleasure of teaching a woman before,
let alone a Smurf.”
Displaying vulnerability or asking for help is often
incorrectly perceived as a weakness, and during my
initial training, I certainly found this to be the case.
I drew criticism from particular Directing Staff and
a few of my fellow cadets being told, “There’s no
place for a girl like you in the military.” They held
strong unconscious biases and a distinct image in
their mind of what women in Defence should look
and act like. But I knew that what I lacked in natural
physicality,I made up for in other ways, including
resilience, agility, empathy, humility, teamwork
and intuition. So I trained my butt off, ‘played the
game,’ and chose to keep my mouth shut and let
my actions be my voice. I will forever hold the most
profound reverence for my military family, and my
time in uniform was both a privilege and one of
the best experiences of my life. It was also a time
I experienced exponential personal growth and
suspect was the key that unlocked the first gate
to my Feminessence Code. My superpower was
a balanced, ‘elegant’ leadership style - knowing
when to step more into my feminine (Yin) energy
and when to lean into my masculine (Yang) energy.
The misconception for many is that these energies
are intrinsically linked to gender, whereas we are a
complex and ever-changing unique blend of both.
When we begin to truly own this Feminessence,
magic happens.
My Work – Empowering My Clients
Each of my businesses is centred on relationships,
starting with the one you have with yourself, as we
know this sets the tone for every relationship we
will have.
We all enter the world the same way, and but for
external factors, our trajectories could end up on
the same path. So what then stops some people
from reaching for the stars? I truly believe that like
attracts like, and as you read this, I already sense
you know that you are destined for something
bigger but can’t quite put your finger on precisely
what it is...yet.
Each client to me is a gem; precious, unique, come
in different shapes and sizes, has most likely been
placed under extreme pressure at some time in
their life, and needs a little dusting off so others can
see how brightly they shine. My work is not about
changing who my clients are but reconnecting them
with their true north and deepest desires. Then
equipped with renewed clarity on how they want
their story to end, I guide clients along the path less
trodden. Yes, it takes courage, but that is where the
magic is found.
“Our job is not to deny the story but to defy the
ending – to rise strong, recognise our story,
and rumble with the truth until we get to a place
where we think, yes. This is what happened. And
I will choose how the story ends.” Brené Brown
As a transformation coach for both individuals
and corporates, I weave together an integrative
and bespoke solution matched to the client’s
needs. This may be a single or series of targeted
sessions. Clients are expertly guided through the
whole transformation process, and as they unlock
their hidden magic, they unconsciously design
the outcomes, perfectly matched to their deepest
desires and needs. This is no cookie-cutter, cut and
paste approach.
The relationship between client and coach is one
I treasure and not to be taken lightly as it must
be ‘the right fit’ for both. I’ve had potential clients
contact me who were rightly skeptical because
‘coaching’ hasn’t worked for them previously. I get
it - I’ve been underwhelmed by some coaching
experiences of my own. But sometimes, you need
to dig a little deeper to see if there is a ‘secondary
gain,’ a label or ‘badge of honour’ that has been
unknowingly clutched onto like a security blanket.
Using advanced tools, including where appropriate,
values inventory and hypnosis, results are rapid
and lasting. Negative behaviours and blockages are
released, opening the door to new opportunities,
enhanced relationships and growth.
I’ve been privileged to assist clients stuck on the
yo-yo dieting treadmill release stubborn weight,
and long-term smokers replace tar in their lungs
with clean, fresh air. Breakthrough sessions are
a personal favourite though. I’m honoured and
humbled to witness such powerful transformations,
inspiring souls to let go of years of negative
baggage to reclaim their self-worth, and taking
action to turn suppressed dreams into reality. Toxic
relationships are not exclusive to our personal lives,
having worked with corporate clients, similar issues
exist in the workplace. By examining the language
used in business interactions, ‘business self-talk,’
unconscious biases and their hidden messages are
uncovered. This unblocks barriers often between
supplier and buyer to enable a mutually rewarding
and abundant relationship to be formed.
As an ex-military member, I am deeply saddened
and concerned by the climbing number of suicides
in Australia and the prevalence of PTSD. I am in
discussions with various veteran groups, local
women’s shelters, and parents beyond breakup
groups to assist in the alleviation of debilitating
levels of anxiety and stress in their members.
This is me.
The meaning of life
is to find your gift.
The purpose of life
is to give it away.
– Pablo Picasso
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 “If your path is difficult
it is because your purpose is
bigger than you thought” -Unknown

Before you set off on your transformational journey, take some time to delve into the present.
Otherwise, it will be a little like trying to read a map when you don’t know where you are.

The 3 Pillars
1 Relationships/Self Wealth Health

What is great in your life right now?

Yes, I saw that smile.

What is missing? These could be

goals you’ve set for yourself or areas of
your life where you’d like to see change.

What would be the

consequences if you didn’t
change/get what you want?

What (or who) has prevented you

in the past?

2
I want I wish I need I’m trying I hope I should
Read over your answers and circle
any of the following phrases:

I want = I lack I have

3
Replace with

I wish = I’m not in control I create

I need = I haven’t got I’m grateful for

Ready for a mind hack?
When you use these phrases,
subconsciously you’re saying:
I’m trying = I’m not committed I enjoy
I hope = I don’t believe or it might not happen I can
I should = Maybe I don’t want to I choose

© Jacqui B Scougall

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terprocess
Time to delve a little deeper…
Throughout your life, what activity
has constantly produced the greatest
sense of joy?
What skills or abilities do you most
like to perform?
What do you most like about
yourself?
Now imagine you have a magic wand;
with this magic wand, you could have
or create anything you want for your
life. You would have all the time you
needed, all the money you needed, and
all the resources at your disposal. There
would be absolutely nothing holding
you back from what you truly want.
What would you be doing with your
life? What would your life look like?
“Life is meant to be experienced. Put yourself out
there. Do things you’ve never done. Live a life
where at the end, you will have No Regrets.”
or receive
“There is no greater gift you can give you were
than to honour your calling. It ’s why y alive.”
born. And how you become most trul - Oprah Winfrey
A letter of thanks
from your future self
There have been two times in my life when the words “Life’s too short” rocked me
to my very core.
The first time I was only 18 and a week away from moving interstate to join the Royal
Australian Air Force as an Officer Cadet. After a special lunch with Mum and Dad, we
detoured via a camera store, my parents hopeful that I’d be sending plenty of photos
home. As Dad was paying, he looked down and sitting on the counter were my Year 12
Graduation photos. Coincidence? As we turned to leave, Dad remarked, “An education
is the one thing that can never be taken away from your child.” I sensed Dad’s feeling of
accomplishment; the baby of the family had finished school.
Walking to the car, Dad started to get short of breath, quickly popping a pill under his
tongue. He sat down on the bench for a breather, and as I brought around the car to pick
Mum and Dad up, Mum’s face said it all. You see, Dad had already had two heart attacks,
the first one at only 42 and not long before I was born. As I waited with Dad outside
Emergency while Mum ran for help, he reassured me everything would be ok, “I still have
to walk you down the aisle.” As the orderly wheeled Dad away, we exchanged “I love
you”, not knowing these would be the last words we got to say to each other. When the
Doctor came to tell us that Dad had passed, we sat there totally numb; our world turned
upside down. Through the tears, Mum said, “Life’s too short,” and then started to share
all the plans they had made that would never be realised.
And as for the second time, as you will have read in my story, a few short days before
Mum passed away, she wrote, “Life’s too short so live without regret”.
Whilst this story of regret is very personal, there is plenty of literature available on the
top regrets, particularly of the dying. Despite being armed with all this knowledge, very
few of us take positive action. Well, I’m here to tell you IT’S TIME, unreservedly!
I want you to write a letter, not any old letter. Imagine you are now 80 years old.
If you were to move out of your way, releasing all the fears you are holding onto, what
would your future self be thanking you for today?
- What actions did you take?
- What obstacles did you overcome?
- Where were you courageous, true to yourself as opposed to the life others
expected of you?
- What filled your cup with joy?
- Who were the most important people in your life?
Now let’s create that life, bring those moments you wrote about into reality. Those
feelings you have right now can no longer be denied. Your best years are not behind you.
- Anonymous
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