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Gendered Styles of Friendships
Gendered Styles of Friendships
OF FRIENDSHIP
FRIENDSHIP?? ?
2 + 1 PHASES OF FRIENDSHIP
1. THE FORMATION PHASE 2. THE Maintenance PHASE
● Repeated
● The transition from strangers
Interactions/Engagements to
to acquaintances to friends.
sustain the relationships.
● Getting to know each other
● Frequent Interactions are
(Shared Interest).
required for maintaining a
friendship
3. THE DISSOLUTION PHASE
● Whereas some friendship will be maintained
indefinitely or forever, other will dissolve or break
up.
● Most friendships typically form for
the same reasons, e.g. shared
interests, support, companionship,
and etc. However, the type of
relationship appears to differ
between male and female
relationships.
Women tend to engage each other face-to-face,
whereas men usually interact side by side.
Friendships across gender pose unique challenges and offer special opportunities.
Because our culture is heteronormative and heavily emphasizes gender, it can be
difficult for women and men not to see each other in sexual terms (Bleske-Rechek et
al., 2012; Halatsis & Christakis, 2009; Lemay & Wolf, 2016). In addition
misunderstandings may arise as the result of socialization into distinct gendered
speech communities.
Despite these difficulties, friendships across gender are
common. For many women, a primary benefit of
friendships with men is companionship that is less
emotionally intense.
Connection
-is the desire and ability to be reliant on others, to be relied on,
to be connected with others, and to be defined in relation to ot
hers.
Masculine individuals tend to
want greater autonomy and le
ss connection than feminine p
eople, whose relative priorities
are generally the reverse (Um
berson, Thomeer, & Lodge, 20
15).
Demand-withdraw occurs in one of two patterns betwe
en marital partners, in which one partner is the demand
er, seeking change, discussion, or resolution of an issue
, while the other partner is the withdrawer, seeking to en
d or avoid discussion of the issue.
Problem:
The person with less investment and/or more resources uses
power tactics to get his or her needs met while not expending
much effort to meet the needs of their partner. The emotionally
dependent partner tries a variety of strategies to correct the im
balance in the relationship.
In this pattern, one partner encoura
ges the other to communicate, and
the other partner resists interaction
that stifles his or her need for auton
omy. The more one demands talk, t
he more the other withdraws; the m
ore one withdraws from interaction,
the more the other demands talk. B
oth men and women are likely to wi
thdraw when partners demand or re
quest change; however, the intensit
y of withdrawal is greater when a w
oman request change in a man tha
n when a man requests change in a
woman (Sagrestano, Heavey, & Ch
ristensen 1998).
Jeff
"I get really frustratedtalking about relationships with girls I've da
ted. It seems like they feel a need to discuss the relationship every
time we're together. I don't get the point. I mean, why talk about
a relationship if everything's going along fine? Why not just be in
the relationship and enjoy it?"
Janelle
"I don't know why straight women put up with partners who don'
t work on their relationship. Angie and I both invest a lot of time
and emotion in taking care of our relationship becuase it matters
to both of us. I talk to straight friends and hear them complainin
g about how their partners never even notice the relationship. I w
ould never settle for that."
Thank You!
GENDER POWER
DYNAMICS
GENDER DYNAMICS
Refers to the relationships and interactions
between and among boys, girls, women and
men. Gender dynamics are informed by
socio-cultural ideas about gender and the
power relationships that define them.
Depending upon how they are manifested,
gender dynamics can reinforce or challenge
existing norms.
GENDER POWER
DYNAMICS
Men and Woman
1. Historically, the person who makes the most
money has the most power in heterosexual
relationships.
2. Traditionally that person will always have been
a male.
3. Men and woman believe that men should
primarily provide.
4. Although the majority of two parent house
holds today have two wages earners, the house
works and care of the children, and parents
continue to be done by woman in heterosexual
families.
5. Men who don’t have jobs in the paid labor and
whose female partner who works outside the
home engage in less child care and household
chores than men who had jobs.
6. Unemployed women spend twice as much as
time on child care and household chores as
employed woman do.
Lesbian and Gay