Setting Boundary

Do you notice that we use the word “Yes” more than the word “No”? The word “NO” has always been
regarded as a negative word, unfriendly, unfavorable, antagonistic, disagreeable. Since our younger
years, we were always taught to say “Yes “to everything. Yes, to demand of society. Yes, to our parents.
Yes, to our teachers and professors. Yes, to the people. The word “Yes “is positive, enthusiastic,
agreeable, favorable, protagonist. Yes, is useful word. However, when I growing up the word “No “to be
more useful and necessary. Some we just say yes because we feel sorry to other, even the thing over the
limit that we can do. The reason we need to set a boundary. We need to know which boundary we need
to set.

Have you ever had to do something that you did not want to do and want to go but you had to go?
Besides, your mouth says “yes, I am OK, I can”, but you are not happy about it. Because you think if you
say them “No” you afraid hated you by them and you felt sorry and guilty yourself. So, it is very
important to be able to speak openly about what you like or not and what behaviors you will accept
from others and what will not. Only if you say they knew and can contemplation one else can sure if you

not Speak up. This is not high and mighty. It is your right and your peace of mind. So, that you need to
have to set a boundary between you and other people.

And what is a boundary? A boundary is called where the other person ends and you start. Boundary is
we know for sure what we like and dislike and we help them just the thing we can do. If they demand
things that we can’t, we reject” No” polite. Next, you may be having a question: where will the boundary
be placed? Every relationship needs a boundary. What boundaries do you need? There are many
boundaries that you have for do. They are physical boundaries, sexual boundaries, emotional or mental
boundaries, spiritual or religious boundaries, financial and material boundaries, time boundaries and
non-negotiable boundaries.

The general of people are more ask for help the person who no have boundary. It is about money,
their relationship, and everything’s else. If they are fire something they remember me and they talk
about these the whole day. So, when I see them auto has negative feeling who will ask me for help?I
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