8 Ways to

Honor Yourself
in Codependent
Relationships

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8 Ways To Honor Yourself In
Codependent Relationships

STRIVE FOR CREATING A BALANCE OF GIVING AND

RECEIVING IN RELATIONSHIPS.

While it's lovely to be generous and helpful, persistent over-giving

creates an unhealthy pattern of resentment. Reciprocity is important
in transforming codependent relationships.

By letting yourself receive, relationships can stay balanced. Loving

yourself means showing others that your needs are important too.
Ask for what you need so the giving stays mutual.

PRIORITIZE SELF-CARE 
When self-care if neglected, your ability to handle stress decreases.
Prioritizing your well-being will help you cope better with life's
challenges because you're not running on empty.

Self-care helps you honor yourself in a way that fosters healthy self-
esteem. You'll also be less resentful in relationships because you
won't be neglecting yourself for the sake of others. 

SET HEALTHY BOUNDARIES

Boundaries are limits that you set for yourself, not for others. You get to
choose what to participate in and when to leave. When you can set
boundaries you get control over your time and energy.

Saying no is a powerful way to establish a boundary instead of being

overly concerned with pleasing others. Start small and practice with
trusted friends to gain confidence.

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PRACTICE DETACHING WITH LOVE

Detaching with love means letting others solve their own problems
or making their own mistakes, complete with consequences. When
we try to save people or fix their problems, we are preventing them
from taking responsibility. Instead, show respect by letting them
figure things out on their own.

For instance, avoid the habit of giving unsolicited advice. It's

challenging but sometimes it is kinder to keep your opinions to
yourself. It can save your sanity. Ask yourself, "Is this really my
responsibility?"

KEEP UP WITH YOUR OWN INTERESTS

Relationships are more balanced when we allow ourselves to pursue

our own interests and hobbies. Give yourself permission to do what
feeds your soul. Fulfill a dream or learn something new.

By doing more of what you love, you are taking responsibility for your
own happiness. As a result you can create a life worth living and avoid
looking to others to fill that empty void.

GET THE RIGHT SUPPORT

Family and friends aren't always neutral when you need support. You
might be embarrassed or afraid to admit what's really happening
when there is addiction, codependency or abuse. Having people who
don't judge you is important.

Seek out a counselor or check out Al-Anon, a free 12 step support

group that provides valuable relationship tools while loving you until
you can learn to love yourself.

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Codependent Relationships

FIND HEALTHY WAYS TO EXPRESS FEELINGS

When you can't honor your feelings, they will eventually leak out in
destructive ways like sarcasm, rage, guilt trips and resentment.
Acknowledging how you feel is critical for taking care of yourself in
relationships.

Journal writing is a great way to vent painful feelings when you

don't feel safe. By sharing how you feel using "I" statements, you are
focusing on your subjective experience rather than being right.

BE YOUR AUTHENTIC SELF

It's hard to be authentic when you're people-pleasing but when you

aren't revealing your true self, you will never by known. The fear of
being judged or labeled selfish are common struggles that may get in
your way.

Work to let go old beliefs that you are not enough. Practice sharing
yourself in the moment without rehearsing it first. This takes courage
because it's authentic. You deserve to be accepted for exactly who
you are and that starts with you!

Not sure where to start? Pick the one that is making the biggest
impact in your life right now. One behavior at a time, we can heal.

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HELPFUL SAYINGS

Easy does it
This too shall pass
One day at a time
Trust the process
Keep it simple
Don't take it personally
It's okay to let go
Saying no isn't selfish

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