7 MISTAKES 


CARLOS CAVALLO THAT PUSH MEN AWAY

HOW TO SOLVE THE NUMBER ONE

PROBLEM IN RELATIONSHIPS…
Hi, this is Carlos Cavallo. I want to
welcome you to your free chapter of
The Passion Phrases: Obsess His
Mind - Capture His Heart…
In this short ebook, we’re going to
cover the 7 Fatal Connection
Mistakes that send men running -
sometimes into another woman’s
arms. These are mistakes you can
easily avoid if you know what they are.
But first, before we cover the Passion
Phrases, I want to jump in right right
now by showing you these fatal
mistakes that make men pull away…
Fatal Attraction
Mistake #1:
Moving Too
Fast, Too Soon
So you’ve just met this wonderful new
guy, and after a few dates, you’re totally
sure he’s THE ONE. Now you have this
irresistible urge to bare your soul, and
maybe even more than that, because
you want him for-keeps, right?
You’re overcome with this burning
desire to prove to him that you’re the
best thing that has ever happened to
him.

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 Maybe you’re willing to drop everything
else in your life for this guy because
he’s just so… so wonderful, right?

If you feel like doing any of those

things, you need to slam on the brakes
and PAUSE. It’s time to stop and have
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a reality check.

Now, don’t get me wrong here, it’s

perfectly fine to be excited about
discovering this wonderful new guy who
came into your life.

The problem appears when you go too

far, especially at the beginning of the
relationship.

Now, I’ve seen my fair share of women

who have sabotaged their relationship
because of this one mistake. I’ve even
experienced it myself.
Let me explain what I mean:
Talking about your past relationships in
gory detail is simply unattractive to
men.

This is simply the bad habit of giving a Worse, it can actually make the guy
guy Too Much Information early on, like jealous and feel insecure. Right now,
on the first date. your past doesn’t involve him in any
way, so leave the him out of it.
“Have you ever felt like
At least until things really do get
you needed to tell him serious!
everything about you -
because it seems like Also, don’t talk about your childhood
traumas, your deepest fears, or
you just GET each anything that’s too heavy. Having to
other?” deal with too much baggage up front
is what will typically scare a guy off.

Well, here’s a little news-flash: No He realizes every woman has some

matter how much chemistry you have
between you, there’s stuff that you’re
just not ready to talk about on the first
few dates.
And you could wind up scaring off an
otherwise perfect guy for you.
baggage. Heck, he’s got baggage. But
he knows that it’s not something you
should bring out too early.
Besides, sharing inappropriate content
isn’t going to make you closer. That will
happen on its own - naturally.

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 The solution: Keep the freak-out factor
to a minimum!
Save the heavy stuff for later when he’s
ready to get serious. For now, keep it
light and fun.
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This is vitally important. Keep those two
words in mind, light and fun.
Remember, you can stay true to yourself
without full disclosure. He’s going to have It’s an immediate mandatory requirement,
time to get to you know you later on.
There’s no rush!
Keep in mind, men aren’t emotional
robots. But most guys just aren’t cool
about getting too emotional too soon,
especially with somebody he barely
knows.
Rushing him to talk about his feelings -
like where you stand with him, where the
relationship is going, and so on - adds to
the pressure.
And it also makes you look needy.
Fatal Attraction
Mistake #2: 

Trying to Change
Him
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This is otherwise known as playing Ms.
Makeover or “Fixer Upper.” I think you
may already know about this little
mistake.
“Don’t treat a guy like a pet
project - or a pet for that
matter.”
He doesn’t need a lesson in grooming,
fashion, behavior, or anything else that
pressures him to fit into your mold of the
perfect man.
Stop wishing he was more well-dressed,
more outgoing, more artistic, more
sensitive, more of the bad boy type, more
of the nice guy… whatever.
Make him feel accepted up front.
you can’t escape it.
FYI: Later on, you can “adjust him.” For
now, make him feel accepted just the way
he is.
The one thing that will tell a guy he’s not
acceptable is when you step in and try to
fix him.
Especially if he doesn’t see anything
wrong with himself.
Fatal Attraction
Mistake #3: 

Pretending to be
something that
you’re NOT
 I’ll give you an example of pretending: Another way women aren’t true to
Letting him see how much you want a themselves is when she tries to hide her
committed relationship. 
 interests and passions from her man

 because she fears that he won’t like the
If a guy realizes that your goal is to get things she likes. Or that he’ll reject her.
into a relationship so you can STOP
being single, he’s going to back off from She turns her life upside down just so
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the relationship. And eventually he’s that she can spend 99% of her free time
going to run for the hills. with him - sometimes 100 to 110% of her
time. She drops her family and friends
Going overboard with sweetness is also like hot potatoes and cancels social get-
a big turnoff for guys - like when you slip togethers if it will eat into the time that
him little notes, or you’re calling him she could spend with him.
twenty times a day, leaving a hundred
different text messages, etc.

He knows on an intuitive level that acting

this way isn’t sincere. A man isn’t
interested in women that CHASE him!

This is HUGE…
If he thinks you’re only acting this way to
pull him into a commitment, he’s not
going to go along. In fact, he’ll resist.

Not to mention, he won't appreciate Sacrificing your life like this is going to
what he didn’t work for. In other words, compromise your identity and scare him
he has to romance you and work to win away from the relationship.
you for him to actually fall in love with
you.

It’s like when a child gets a shiny new toy Fatal Attraction
as a gift instead of working and saving
up money to buy it. The kid who gets the
Mistake #4:
free gift NEVER appreciates it.
Not HEARING HIM
Always be THE PRIZE he wants to
win!
or giving him a
(I’ll show you how to do this in the safe space to be
“Passion Secrets” section of the
Passion Phrases program.)
heard
Sleeping with him on the first date is also 

not the way to win him over. Men BIG TIP: Men need to feel like they’re
typically don’t emotionally bond with you heard by their woman.
if they get the “prize” for free.

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 What’s confusing to many women is that
she thinks she’s listening to him. She
thinks she’s hearing him. But she
doesn’t understand he’s looking for
specific clues that tell him she’s listening.
attention. And you know you aren't
reaching him.
This is a biological fact. You see, men
are not designed to multitask.

This mistake is easy to fix when you A woman can talk with another woman
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understand how to use words to open his
heart up. This is not a skill most women
learn, and that’s why I teach this in detail
in the Passion Phrases program.
while doing several things at the same
time. Most women can easily talk on the
phone, put some lipstick on, all while
driving her car in rush hour traffic with
the radio blaring.

Men can’t do this. We operate in a “one-

after-the-other” linear way of thinking.

There’s a remedy for this. If you see

your man on his phone - or he’s doing
anything else - and you need to talk to
him, you MUST ask him to stop what
he’s doing. He has to put the phone
away or pause his game or movie.

He has to give you his undivided

attention before you can tell him what it
For example, some guys need emotional
is you want or need. That’s the only
words when you’re trying to feel
way you can be sure he’s actually
connected, and some guys don’t. It’s
hearing you.
important to know what phrases make
him respond to you - and what to say so
that he sees you as “The One.” Fatal Attraction
Mistake #6:
Fatal Attraction
Mistake #5: Expecting Him To
Misreading His Read Your Mind
Signals It’s a little bit of cliché, but you’d be
amazed how many guys feel like they’re
supposed to read your mind and just
I’ll give you an example here: You start KNOW what’s going on with your
talking to him before you really have his feelings.
attention. This means he needs to stop
doing whatever he’s already doing, and Here’s a classic example: When you’re
agree to listen to you. obviously angry, and he asks you:
“What’s wrong?”
If you’ve ever tried talking to a man who
is watching sports, you won’t have his Then you say, “Nothing.”

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 And then you get even more upset
because he’s not pushing to get the truth needs met before you have to ask him
out of you.
This is a kind of a mind game. Because
you want him to push the point and
keep asking. But you’re making it too
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indirect for him to understand.
You want him to keep prodding you to
find out what is wrong (and there
obviously is) because that would mean
that he really does care. That’s what
most women are trying to get him to do
when they say “nothing” like this.
Maybe you just don’t want to
inconvenience him with your feelings,
but you really want him to care. That’s
love!
When you have a specific need - for
example, to be hugged or cuddled - and
if your man doesn’t magically offer to
give you what you need, How do you get
what you want? If you wait and do
nothing, you get frustrated, instead of
simply asking for what you want.
This will eventually push him even
further away from you because he’ll
sense that you were holding it in - and
he’ll also sense that you were fibbing
when you said that “nothing” was wrong.
(Which can also feel manipulative to a
man.)
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DID YOU KNOW: You can also get your
by knowing what to say to him? The
phrases that men want to hear?
That’s the beauty of what I’m going to
show you in the Passion Phrases
program. When you know what to say
he will automatically give you what you
want without you having to ask!
Fatal Attraction
Mistake #7:
Assuming that
you’re compatible
and you ‘GET’ him
What it comes down to is this: You need
to know how to flip a man’s Obsession
Switch to get him to stop pulling away
and DESIRE you again. It’s the only
solution to keep him chasing you.
Wouldn’t it be awesome to have a deep
heartfelt connection with your guy so
that you simply get each other without
even having to say a word?
Imagine how it would feel to practically
read each other’s minds.
Imagine what your relationship would
actually be like without the
misunderstandings, without the
arguments, or those power struggles you
get into…
Most women don’t realize that the key to
stopping him from pulling away is to
simply flip his Obsession Switch.
Knowing how to reach into his heart with
words will make a profound difference in
your relationship. You’ll see the change
 in his eyes as he realizes how much you
mean to him.
Once you know the words and phrases
he wants to hear, you’re finally going to
be able to connect with him on a level
that is intimate and almost spiritual.
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However, it’s this area where a lot of
women have trouble. If you don’t know
how to trigger his desire for you and
make him chase you - THAT is the
single most fatal mistake you can
make with him. (And it ruins all the
hard work you’ve done to get him this
far.)
Many couples have broken up simply
because they couldn’t create a strong
PASSION between them that could
not only save the relationship, but keep
them together forever.
In my years of experience coaching
women, I’ve noticed the same
destructive pattern in countless
relationships…
Here’s what usually happens:
First, the woman (accidentally) makes
the mistake of not understanding how to
talk to her man. It isn’t a big problem in
the beginning because everything is so
fresh and new, AND you’re infatuated
with each other.
But this creates what I call a ripple effect
that will eventually pull you apart.
And then the romantic feelings naturally
fade a little bit over time. The relationship
goes through a sort of ‘reality check’
when he pulls away from you.
You know what I’m talking about, right?
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This is when he starts putting in less
effort. Disagreements start appearing out
of nowhere. And eventually he loses
interest.
And then you wake up to the reality that
the relationship isn’t going the way you
hoped. And you start worrying about your
love.
But that’s okay because even the
happiest couples go through this
disillusionment. Every couple goes
through this!
I know a lot of women who have survived
this stage with their man and they’ve
lived happily ever after. In fact, going
through it is the key to moving forward
in your own relationship.
The real problem is when you don’t have
a PASSIONATE connection during this
critical time in your relationship.
That passion that’s missing - that’s
what breaks up most the relationships:
When she doesn’t know what to do
during the “relationship reality check.”
You might not see the danger of your
man pulling away from you. When
conflict starts to creep in, he may start
doubting the relationship - and things
start to change between you.
THAT is when he’ll end up pulling away.
 Once you know this secret, you’ll
connect with your man in a way that will
keep you together for years to come.

So join me in the next section as I show

you how men use conversation
differently than women, and I’m also
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going to show you the three ways that

men use talking to connect
emotionally to you.

I want you to pay particular attention to

number 3 in that section, because most
women overlook this important step
entirely.

So click the button below and let’s

continue on to the next chapter in the
Passion Phrases…
And that leaves him emotionally
vulnerable to other women who are
just waiting in the wings for the
opportunity to steal him away.

Yeah, this women is kind of like a

predator…

She’ll make her move and take

advantage of him when he’s at his
weakest.

And it’s all downhill from there.

And that’s what I want to save you from.

You deserve to have him and keep him
just the way you want him.

You can’t afford to not know what he’s

thinking and feeling. In your relationship,
you can’t afford to not know how to
create a powerful OBSESSION for you.

The good news is that it’s easy to trigger

this obsession - and it’s something you’ll
completely master by the end of The
Passion Phrases course.

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