NAME: ______________________________________

HOSTS & GUESTS

Leaders take the initiative in relationships. They are
intentional about them. They see themselves as hosts,
not guests, and they go out of their way to connect
with people and provide for them.

VIDEO NOTES
careers
In your _______________, people
you will meet many _______________. significant
All are _______________.

hosts
Leaders serve as _______________, guests
not _______________, in their relationships.

Good hosts done

_____________ don’t depend on their position to get the job _____________,

relationships
they do it through ________________ .

provide
Great hosts in relationships tend to do four things: ________________, initiate
_________________,

connect
_________________, direct
and _______________.

What motivates people to take the initiative and be a host?

Discuss In our relationships, why is it that typically the majority of us
expect others to make the first move?

SHAREABLE QUOTE

“Leaders take the initiative in relationships.”

#Hosts&Guests #Intentional

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 SELF-ASSESSMENT
Think about your daily interactions with others ––– at practice, at work, while doing errands, etc.
Are you a host or a guest? Go through the following chart and indicate where you fall on the scale.

Host Usually Sometimes Usually Guest

Make the phone call Wait for the phone call

Introduce themselves Are introduced by others

Focus on similarities Focus on differences

Put others at ease Put others on edge

Look to serve Look to be served

Offer clear advice Need clear advice

Proactive; take initiative Reactive; passive

CHALLENGE
Host a meal at your table, but instead of inviting your friends invite people whom you’ve
just met or don’t know very well. This challenges you to get out of your comfort zone
and initiate connecting with others. Afterward, evaluate your hosting skills: were you a
good host? What did you learn about your self?

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