Wedding homily

4 C’s

Sa pagsisimula ninyo ng inyong buhay mag-asawa, mayroon akong

4 na C ang pabaon ko sa inyo sa bagong yugto ng buhay ninyo.

1. COMMITMENT
Matagal na kayong magkasintahan. Marami na kayong
napagdaanan. Ngunit marami pa kayong haharaping suliranin.

Sa tagal niyo nang magkasintahan, marami na kayong natuklasan

sa bawat isa. Ngunit, mas marami pa kayong matutuklasan sa
bawat araw ng inyong buhay mag-aasawa. May ikagugulat pa
kayo, may ipagtataka pa kayo.

The pervading atmosphere this morning is joy. Masaya at

nakangiti ang lahat. Kayat madali ang pagbibitiw ng pangako,
madaling um-oo sa oras na ito. Ngunit darating ang panahong
hihirap ito. Mas madali ang humindi at sumuko. Sa paghirap ng
buhay – panahon upang papanibaguhin ang OO sa bawa’t isa.

Isang babae ang lumapit sa akin minsan. Nag-asawa siya ng bata

pa, Mahigit 10 taon ang agwat nilang mag-asawa. Dumating ang
panahon na nagkasakit ang kanyang asawa at halos maubos na
kanilang kabuhayan sa pagpapagamot. Ang tanong niya: “Until
when is the forever I promised in marriage?” “Hanggang kalian
yung walang hanggan na ipinangako ko sa kasal?”

N and N, sinasabi ko sa inyo – kapag sinabi ninyong FOREVER,

MAGPAKAILANMAN – AS IN! – FORVER, MAGPAKAILANMAN,
HANGGANG KAMATAYAN, UNTIL YOUR LAST BREATH.

Sabi nga ni Ka Bernabe sa Minsan lang kita IIbigan kay Ka Rosa:

Ang magmahal ang pinakamasarap at pinakamatamis pero ito rin
ang pinakamasakit. Be firm in your commitment. You will promise
paradoxes this morning. You will promise two extremes. You will
promise two opposites. For better for worse, for richer for poorer,
in sickness and in health. Pero ang pinakamahalaga dun. Ay ang
panghuli. Till death do us part. That is COMMITMENT.

2. COMMUNICATION
Lahat napag-uusapan. Huwag hahayaang lumubog ang araw,
matapos ang araw na hindi pinag-uusapan ang mga problema, ang
hindi pagkakaunawaan.

Find new ways to express your love for each other. May mga
kataga pa bang mas hihigit sa mga salitang “Mahal kita?”
Mayroon “Ikaw ang lahat sa akin.”
Continue to talk about your dreams: baby, happy family life.

3. COMPASSION
Marriage is not for perfect people. Marriage is for people who
are humble enough to accept that they cannot do things alone,
who are brave enough to risk uncertain futures and who are open
enough to grow up and change with those they love. And
because they are not perfect they do their best to remain faithful
forever.

What marks a beautiful marriage is not the absence of conflict but

the presence of forgiveness.

What destroys a beautiful marriage is not the presence of conflict

but the absence of forgiveness.

There will be misunderstandings, there will be differences. There

will be arguments but above all these, there must be compassion.
There must be love to patch up these differences.

4. CHRIST
-Pagpapalitan ninyo ng pangako – hindi kayo nakaharap sa bawa’t
isa. Nakaharap kayo kay Kristo. Si Kristo ang huwaran natin sa
tapat na pagmamahal. Pagmamahal sa simbahan. Handang
magsakripisyo, handang magbigay ng sarili, handang pumanaw sa
sarili para sa minamahal.

All those couples attending the wedding as N and N. join their

hands when they exchange their vows, whisper with them your
own vows of marriage made five, ten, twenty, thirty years ago.
Because every enduring marriage among you is a strength and
support for N and N. Fidelity to our promises and the renewal of
your own marriage vows is our best and deepest gift to the
couple. That same fidelity that same faithfulness Jesus has for us.

"The greatest gift that we have to give is the promise of

fidelity, the promise that we will keep trying, that we
won't walk away simply because we got hurt or because
we felt unwanted or not properly valued.

We are all weak, wounded, sinful, and easily hurt. Inside of

our marriages, families, churches, friendships, and places
of work, we cannot promise that we won't disappoint each
other and, worse still, that we won't hurt each other. But
we can promise that we won't walk away because of
disappointment and hurt. That's all we can promise - and
that's enough!"