Think For Yourself

Think For Yourself
sacredvalleytribe.com
by Diego Palma
v.16.03 
Index
Life is Meaningless 4
The Mirror Effect 7
Rightness / Wrongness and the Unknown 9
The Five Tibetan Precepts 12
Self Realization 14
There is no need to self define ourselves 17
Physical Reality 19
The Dreamstate 22
The Awakening Process 27
Identifying Beliefs 32
Confronting Death 36
Trancending subconscious beliefs (otro tema) 38
Let Fear be your guide 39
Real & False within the Dreamstate 41
Awakening Vs. Spiritual Evolution 43
Spirituality and Religions 46
Consciousness 51
Present moment 56
Comunicación Empática 58
Para qué sirve la comunicación empática? 58
Qué rompe la Comunicación empática? 60
1 - Observar sin evaluar 67
2 - Como nos sentimos en relación a lo observado 70
3 - Identificando necesidad insatisfecha 73
4 - Solicitud de acción positiva y clara 76
Escuchando empáticamente 79
FAQ 84
Faster Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) 86
Cultivating Altruism 89
Matt Kahn Videos on youTube 91
Shifting from mind to heart centered 91
Abiding in a Heart Centered State 102
Life’s plan vs. my plan 103
For the LOVE of Everything 111
Tony Parsons - Non Duality 141
What is happening is all that is 141
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The beginning stage of self awareness 142
The dissatisfaction of something missing and the seeking
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Tony Parsons - Website Essays 149
The Story of Me 149
The dilemma is the apparent “me” 152
Personal & Impersonal Nature of Enlightenment 153
Already Being 156
Knowing and Unknowing 159
Nothing for Sale 161
Traditional not two-ness 163
The Dream Of Separation 165
Seeing and Not Seeing 169
The Divine Misconception 172
Actualized.org 174
Heart Math Institute 179
Present Moment Awareness 181
Conflict Resolution Skills 185
Closing Ceremony Satsangs 188
Closing Ceremony Satsang (2016/06/24) 188
Closing Ceremony Satsang (2016/06/09) ***** 194
The Wolves within 198
 
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Life is Meaningless
Does life have any purpose or meaning?
We are still thinking about this because of the obvious fact that it has no
meaning.
Life is meaningless
There is not one big cosmic meaning for all. Actually, nothing comes with
“built-in” meaning. All situations, circumstances, things in life are neutral
and devoid of any particular "built-in" meaning. They are neutral props,
symbols. In other words, there is no automatic built-in meaning to anything.
The great gift of life is that life is fundamentally meaningless.
“No thing in life has built-in meaning.”
The Unconditional quality of existence
All things are devoid of any meaning, so that you are capable of being the
interpreter of your own reality. Existence is unconditional. You are the one
supplying the conditions, not existence.
You bring the meaning to life
You bring the meaning to every situation, circumstance in life. Either

automatically (unconsciously) or intentionally (by choice). So there is only
the meaning we each give to our experience. And maybe, the meaning of
your life is what your life means to you now.
If you want to put it in another way you could say, the meaning of life is for
you to give it a specific meaning.
Belief is the first cause of manifestations
Reality, your physical reality is the product of what you believe. How you
experience any particular situation in life is completely reliant on how you
define your relationship to that situation, to that circumstance, to that
person, to that issue.
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Belief is the first cause of manifestation. Any reality that comes into
manifestation, any feeling, any thought, any behavior comes from how you
define it, how you believe it to be true and how you choose to perceive it in
that particular way. That's the first thing that causes manifestation. As soon
as you apply a definition to it, you will start to engender feelings.
The meaning you choose to give to any given situation, circumstance,

person, place or thing, is what completely determines the effect you get
from that situation, circumstance, person, place or thing. If you choose a
positive meaning you will only get a positive effect from it.
You are the only one supplying the limitations and you are the
only one able to change them
The fact is that, the only reason you experience the limitations that you do,
is because you have decided to, for one reason or another. If we become
aware that we put the limitations then we become aware that we can give
ourselves permission to remove them.
The purpose of this life is to be this ‘You’ as fully as you possibly can.
- Bashar -
In the recognition that you have never been this ‘You’ before, and you will
never be this ‘You’ again, this life only has one life to live, the purpose of
this life is to be this ‘You’ as fully as you possibly can. To do what excites
you the most. Ask yourself, “What excites me the most?” And at any given
moment do the most exciting thing that you are capable of doing something
about.
Keeping life meaningless, colorless
What's the meaning of life is like asking what's the meaning of

consciousness? The only possible answer would be, Consciousness Is.
That’s all.
Since there is no true meaning, being meaningless is at least being honest.

Nobody could tell you the meaning of life. Let life be colorless. Let it be
meaningless.
There is no need to be afraid of it. It is a beautiful blank canvas. It’s up to

you to put a meaning or keep it colourless. Rather than being afraid of this
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colorlessness, and force some color into it, maybe there is no need for that,
maybe you can just be without a reason. It’s beautiful.
Meaninglessness is the door to the divine.
What is the fear behind the meaninglessness of life?
What is the meaning of life? There is no meaning. Everything we do, every

identity we create in life, is in fear of the fact that our lifetime has no
meaning. Fear that nothing really matters and living is futile.
But as you come to terms with this necessary truth, you truly can take an
existential view and live every moment as you please, in gratitude and
choose whatever costume you like.
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The Mirror Effect

Manifestation is automatic
You don't have to learn how to manifest. There is always a reflection. You
don't have to learn how to do it faster. You are already doing it automatically
as fast as you can possible can. It always come down to simply "What do I
believe is true?" That's the only question, because you always believe
something to be true and that's what creates the manifestation you
experience.
State of being
Every time we have a thought, the brain produces chemicals that make us
feel exactly the way we are just thinking. If we are thinking a negative
thought, in a matter of seconds we begin to feel unhappy or negative.
At the moment we begin to "feel" the way we think, we begin to "think" the
way we feel. This cycle is called the "state of being”.
The Mirror effect
The experience that you call physical reality is literally nothing but a mirror.
It is just a more complex mirror, a multi-dimensional holographic mirror, so
that you don't always recognize all the reflections as you.
What you put out is what you get back
Every object, person, place and thing, every situation and every
circumstance is you being reflected back to yourself.
Don't wait for an expectation
"I will be happy when this happens...". If you stop doing because of waiting
for an expectation... the universe, the mirror will do the same.
Outflow determines inflow.
You cannot receive what you don't give. Like a mirror, if you see the
reflection frowning, you don’t walk over to the mirror and try to force the
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reflection to smile. When you want to see the reflection smile you know
what you have to do, you have to smile first. But if you wait for the reflection
to smile first, you will be frowning for the rest of your life.
Choose to be happy regardless of the reflection
When you choose to be a specific vibration, then the reflection in your

physical reality has no choice but to reflect a reality that corresponds to the
vibration within you. It cannot contradict you... it is just a reflection.
"I will be happy because that's what I want to be!"
Who you are?
You are what you believe to be true. You are what you hold within you
about you. Even if it is not true, it is true... for you. So look at what you’re
holding and let it go what is not so good. Because your true essence is a
dynamic force and it has to have something to play with.
Rewrite your story by letting go what you are holding
You are what you hold about you. What you hold within you... is you. So
change the meaning in all areas you don’t like and rewrite your story.
Remember, In order to get something different from what you already have,
you must release and let go of what you already hold within you.
What is the biggest challenge for most spiritual seekers?
The biggest challenge for most spiritual seekers is to surrender their self
importance, and see the emptiness of their own personal story. It is your
personal story that you need to awaken from in order to be free.
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Rightness / Wrongness and the

Unknown
What brings the appearance of rightness and wrongness?
When our reason establishes or predicts an outcome, in the first place, then
we find right or wrong answers.
The projection of an expected outcome is what makes the appearance of

rightness and wrongness.
Only a random world or a reality without purpose could provide the

conditions to perceive any outcome as indifferent or as right and wrong at
the same time.
Could something be wrong?
The truth is that nothing is really wrong and nothing can ever be wrong.
Wrong is simply not possible. Wrongness is in the eye of the beholder and
nowhere else.
Why are we attached to perceive wrongness?
Life is unfolding without reason, without goal, without direction. But the
mind is frightened of this realization. The perception of wrongness is
absolutely critical to the perpetuation of "human drama", as well as the
illusion of separateness.
Drama requires conflict. No conflict, no drama. If something isn’t wrong,

then nothing needs to be made right, which ultimately means nothing needs
to be done. So we create the artificial wrongness to make life more
interesting and add the dramatic element, the drama of conflict.
Beyond our ideas of right-doing

and wrong-doing, there is a field.
I’ll meet you there.
- Rumi -
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Naturally operating from the heart
“When there is no self, selflessness happens. When selfless happens, it

overflows with goodness and love without doing any harm. There is no
need to discriminate between right and wrong. You are operating by the
flow of the Tao, which is a higher order of intelligence.”
- Adyashanti -
Flowing from the heart Vs. Morality
Morality is the set of rules and regulations that you use to navigate through
life when you’re still trying to "steer your ship" rather than let it follow the
flow.
When you flow from the heart, morality is no longer necessary -it’s instantly
obsolete and discarded. Flowing from the heart means breathing, waiting
for unfolding, giving it time and trusting.
The consequences of acting from belief
When we proceed based on a system of beliefs we close ourselves to the

huge amount of different possibilities and creative solutions, we close
ourselves to others opinions, our intuition and the magical synchronicity
that would emerge in the openness of any particular moment.
Relaxing into not knowing and waiting for unfolding
Instead of reflecting a system of belief, we learn to relax the first impulse to

react. We relax and listen to our intuition with a quiet mind. We wait for
unfolding and we feel the answer within the peace of our breath.
We can take action as a pure response to each moment, free from

indecision, beliefs or agenda, acting in inspired certainty. We intuitively
know what to do. Intuition is completely reliable, but only when it comes
from a quite mind.
Let the universe do the driving
“Do we need to fix things into position? No, relax into the moment and let
the universe do the driving. If there were a secret to happiness in life, I’d
say that was it.
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The way to flow is to observe patterns and move with them. No evaluation
is required. There is a sense of intuition of currents and the confidence in
the flow of it. Wait for unfolding and enjoy the ride. You don’t have to be
enlightened to operate this way; you just have to release the tiller. Once
you do, an entirely new way of flowing through life opens to you -a way that
is based on rightness and sensitivity to not-rightness.”
Jed McKenna
Trusting the wisdom of not knowing
Thought and understanding come after the event, not as the cause. You
become able to live with uncertainty, even enjoy it.
When you become comfortable with uncertainty, infinite possibilities open

up on your life. It means fear is no longer a dominant factor in what you do
and no longer prevents you from taking action to initiate change. Trust fuels
even deeper surrender in the next situation that arises, and surrender
increases trust in the wisdom of not knowing.
Creativity and not knowing
Creativity only appears when we are not following any preconceived point
of view or action. If you learn to trust and relax into not knowing, you will
feel a sensation of increased aliveness and creativity.
“Remain in a state of not knowing,

work without effort, give to
others and be in abundance.”’
- Sri Shibendu Lahiri -
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The Five Tibetan Precepts

(for the ones who do not understood or agreed with the previous chapter)
First Tibetan Buddhism Precept:
Abstain from doing harm to any sentient beings.
The determination to respect the life of all beings, not only human beings
but also all animals and plants, regardless of their size; and an increasing
awareness of the sanctity of life.
It means a commitment to neither harm nor offend anyone under any

circumstances and to promote peace and peace education.
Second Tibetan Buddhism Precept:
Abstaining from taking what has not been given to me.
The respect for other beings’ property. It not only implies not to steal, but
encourages us to cultivate the attitude of not to demand or claim what we
wish, but cultivate generosity, sharing our time, energy and resources with
those in need, and to patiently wait to receive the results of our good
actions.
Third Tibetan Buddhism Precept:
Abstaining from harmful speech.
- Speak truthfully and constructively, using only words that inspire hope and
confidence.
- Not to utter words that might cause division between two or more people
by talking negatively of some of them, spreading rumors, or sowing doubts.
We have to be careful not to increase discord between people but to make
all efforts to reconcile and resolve all conflicts, however small.
- I will not spread news that I do not know to be certain nor criticize or
condemn things of which I am not sure.
Try making your words wiser 

than the silence that has been broken.
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Our speech must embody mindfulness and we must be completely aware

and responsible while pronouncing words.
Forth Tibetan Buddhism Precept:
Abstain from the wrong use of my senses.
This commitment implies contemplating our body as a temple that we take

care of and cultivate for spiritual growth. Abstain from the disorderly use of
the body, sexuality and body sensations, avoiding falling into gluttony, lust,
incest and all kinds of disorders produced by inadequate sensory behavior.
Fifth Tibetan Buddhism Precept:
Abstain from consuming items that cloud or blur my mind.
It not only implies to abstain from alcohol and intoxicating drugs but to take
care of the quality of information that we are consuming through all our
senses, what are we reading, what we are seeing, who we are joining. We
are aware that everything we consume will feed our mind and the collective
mind of our family and society.
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Self Realization
You have no idea of who you are
Realizing that you have no idea of who you are is the beginning of finding
out who you are.
There is no self to discover
Self realization is the practice of self inquiry for a direct experience of self.
Asking yourself, “Who am I?” is a good example of this practice.
Self-realization is the discovery for yourself, and only by yourself, that there
is no self to discover. There is no self to realize. Nothing. That’s the
discovery.
There is no self. You cannot find the self. That’s a huge and direct
realization that hits you like a thunderbolt.
What is the Ego?
What you call “you” is ego. The personality. Everything you think as you.
Everything that makes you different form everything that’s not you. The ego
can be defined as the phycological center of who you think you are as
someone in the body.
In a deeper sense, ego is a momentary misidentification with the present

moment, a lack of direct experience of the nature of reality.
Is there something other than the Ego?
There is nothing there inside you other than the ego, the false self, the
fictional self.
This fictional self that is “you” is erected to compensate for the lack of direct
experience of your true nature. This fictional self, the costume represent the
self, the false self, redundant because there is no true self.
Is the false self bad?
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The Ego, the false self is not bad, it’s “false". You cannot know who you
are.
Why can't we see our true self?
We can’t see our true self because it is "not there". There is no true self to
perceive -there is only false self and no-self. One looks for true self and
finds nothing, as if one’s true self was no truth at all.
“That which rises in this body as ‘I’ 

is the mind”
- Ramana Maharshi -
Why we create a false self?
If you don’t have a direct experience of your true nature then you are forced
to create, project and constantly maintain a false image. How could it be
otherwise?
You spend your life force projecting a fictional character, an external

representation of yourself that is always a work in progress, always shifting
and evolving.
The "ego attachment spectrum"
Any time you look at a group of people, you can place the individuals on a
spectrum of ego attachment, a kind of “false-self identification spectrum
range”.
At one end of the spectrum are those who identify completely with their
false self, and on the other are those who wear their ego impersonally, like
a garment.
How do we perceive the false self?
The false self cannot be perceived directly, but only by the reflection it casts
in the eyes of others. Humans connect ego-to-ego. So if I want to think of
myself as attractive, I need other people to see me as attractive.
We spend our lives and our life-force cultivating and grooming our
appearance in the eyes of the others. That’s how we know who we are.
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That’s where we find reassurance that we are real and not just hollow
dream characters. That’s how the illusion is constantly maintained.
How can we change the false self?
The false self is created by how we define ourselves. Belief and emotions
are what hold you onto the dreamstate, and you are what you choose to
hold within you.
There is no need to define yourself, but however you define yourself is how
you create your false self.
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There is no need to self define

ourselves
We grow up in a society that is driven by a language of constant limiting
labels adopted since childhood and completely ingrained in the daily
communication. “You are selfish, you are a lier, you are not good enough,
etc.”
Putting the label on the behavior rather than on the person
When we put the label on the person, we permeate our sense of being with
the fixed concept we have of the limiting label. When we use a label it’s
better to put it in the behavior, the action instead of the person. Instead of
saying “You are...” we use “Your behavior or action was...”
There is nothing wrong in evaluating a behavior
We can evaluate a behavior in terms of how life can be best served. We

can evaluate if a behavior is meeting or not fundamental needs, like for
example honesty or peace.
What becomes a limiting belief is when we get into the habit of putting the
label on the person instead of their behavior. There is a huge difference
between saying “I am a bad person” rather than “I did a bad action.” “Billy
you are a lier.” rather than “Billy what you said was not true.”
We adopt the label to create our identity
The same happens for us, we receive the label and mix it with our sense of
who we are, our sense of identity instead of inviting an honest and open
revision of our action. We are clearly not the action, and the behavior can
be changed in order to better meet our needs in the next present moment.
We grow up into a society that influences us with the idea that we need to
become someone. We learned to self-define ourselves using labels,
positive and negative labels. We do not perceived the self limitation aspect
of adopting labels into our sense of identity. “I am an architect” rather than
“I studied architectural design and love to build houses.”
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“Any time you think of what you are, you lose, because label limits you.
Defining yourselves through thought is limiting yourself.”
- Eckhart Tolle -
Give up defining yourself
Life is a process, it’s continually changing, so any statement we make

about ourselves in static language puts us in a casket. So give up defining
yourself -to yourself or to others.
Can you cease looking to conceptual definitions to give you a sense of

self? Can you cease looking to thought for an identity?
Gnana Yoga
“Gnana Yoga” is the path of unlearning.

Anything you think you are, you’re not.
Take out anything besides the I am...
Stay in the I am, let go everything else.
Give-up the tendency to define yourself.
- Sri Nisargadatta Maharaj -
However you define yourself is how you create your false self. Your career,
family roles and relationships, community, nationality, racial identity, gender,
status as financial entity, religion, physical condition, appearance,
education, hobbies, beliefs, opinions, thought, feelings, everything.
So, who are we really? “Who we really are is what remains when we relax
any attempt to define ourselves. ” When you relax your tendency to define
yourself, the lifeforce you are not using to project a false self is now
available for much more fun and interesting purposes.
“By remaining internally undefined, we become nothing, but at the same

time potentially everything. It is like being the sky instead of a cloud, being
the ocean instead of a wave.“
- Arjuna Ardagh -
The ultimate truth of who you are is not I am that, but I Am.
If you want to find inner space, become conscious of being conscious. Say
or think “I Am’ and add nothing to it. Be aware of the stillness that follows
the I Am. Sense your presence. 
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Physical Reality
What is a paradigm shift?
A paradigm is what people share in common as legitimized consensus.

A Paradigm shift is a major and radical change in the basic assumptions
within a ruling theory of science.
A Paradigm shift takes some time to be integrated in the collective mind

and there is some period of time where both paradigms will coexist.
What is the major paradigm shift we are confronting nowadays?
The shift from "Objective reality" to "Holographic reality”.
This Paradigm shift will turn upside down all our belief systems for the
upcoming generations.
Electrons as waves and the collapsing of the wave function
Electrons, which are the building blocks of what we call "reality", exist as a
wave of possible locations when they are not observed. When they are
observed they change their nature and collapses from being a wave into a
particle in a specific location in time and space.
In other words, the act of observation creates the entire universe and there
is no objective independent reality "out there".
The Delayed Quantum Erasure Experiment
Thomas Campbell shows a presentation explaining the “Delayed quantum

erasure experiment” in this video. He explained that after performing the
“Double Slit experiment,” if we don’t look at the measurement data - if we
erase that data without observing it - then we get an “interference pattern”.
In other words, apparently it’s not the act of measurement at the double slit
that matters. The only thing that really matters is whether we look at the
data we collected.
What is "The Field of possibilities"?
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Everything you can think of already exist in a wave form in the Field of
infinite possibilities. It is the source of all possible manifestations.
Is there an independent reality out there?
We wrongly used to think that the world is already "out there" independent
of my experience. It is not. Quantum physics has been very clear about it.
Is matter solid?
Matter is not solid, atoms are mostly empty space. If the nucleus of an atom
would be the size of a basket ball, the electrons circling would be around
twenty miles away, and everything in between is empty space.
How we project a solid reality?
Our brain first receives wave frequencies from "the field" and projects them
into particles by collapsing the wave function and projecting a reality "out
there" so that it appears as an independent reality first, and then we
perceive it with our senses and experience it as "reality".
Does everyone have their own "holographic reality"?
Everyone has their own particular interpretation of reality that is unique for
each individual.
What is on the other side of the Field?
We are incapable of "knowing" what is in the other side of the Field simply
because we are on this side of the Field, the dualistic and conceptual
reality, so anything we might say about it is simply speculation.
Do we create our reality?
As Bashar said... "You can all stop thinking that you’re the one guiding the
ship. You’re not. You are just looking at the road. You’re just experiencing
the path.”
Consciousness creates your unique holographic experiences, which you

perceive, to which you are totally free to react or respond to in any way you
choose.
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Is there an objective reality?
With the new paradigm in place, science and quantum physics has
declared that there is no such thing as objective reality at all. We are not
passive observers.
We are living consciousness
“We only exist as living awareness moving in a constant "now". Solid matter
is only an illusion to living consciousness. It is simply a collection of varied
vibrations moving so fast or slow that it appears to be solid.”
- Bashar -
“The world you perceive is 

made of consciousness; what 
you call matter is consciousness itself.”
- Nisargadatta Maharaj -
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The Dreamstate
What is our natural state?
The lack of a physical body is our timeless natural state, and existing with a
physical body is as temporary as a dream.
We are incredible and powerful spiritual beings having a human

experience, and not just humans having a limited spiritual experience.
How will death feel?
“Death will feel literally as waking up from a dream, and realizing, "Oh, this
is my real reality", and then the dream just sort of fades off. Death is like
that with regard to physical reality. You wake up and suddenly remember
who you are and that you where having this physical dream.”
- Bashar -
What is Maya?
Maya is the complex illusionary power of Consciousness which causes

Consciousness to be seen as the material world of separate forms in its
place.
What is the Dreamstate?
The dreamstate is an illusionary reality. In a way, the whole of life is a great

big dream. This is a dream, a dream world -there is no reality to it all.
Within the dreamstate everybody is holding false beliefs and false

perceptions, and the false personality that’s based
on them.
"This so called "waking" reality is only a dream, a

"day dream", somewhat longer, more stable,
consistent, and "logical" in structural patterns, and
more consensually verifiable -it is more a "mutual
dream" than the night dream, which is less
commonly shared as a “mutual dream” by other
dreamers—but it is a dream, nevertheless."
- Nisargadatta Maharaj (1897-1981) -
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“The apparent world is caused by our imagination, in its ignorance. It is not

real. It is like a passing dream.
Creation is but agitation in consciousness; the world exists in the mind! It

seems to exist because of imperfect vision, imperfect understanding. It is
really not more than a long dream…”
- Sankara (c.700) -
Usually considered the most brilliant sage in all Vedanta tradition.
“There is no difference between dream and the

waking state, except that the dream is short and the
waking state long.
Both are the result of the mind. Because the waking

state is long, we imagine that it is our real state.”
- Ramana Maharshi (1879-1950) -

"This reality is only relatively real. At night, while you

dream, everything is very real, but when you wake
up it turns out to be unreal, and the waking stage
seems to be real. But both are dreams—one a night
dream and the other a day dream.
During both dreams you are present and you

experience both. So you, the "I am awareness"
remains; the rest is a mixture of true and false….”
- Babaji -

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To awaken is to become progressively less asleep.
To realize that you are dreaming is all that is needed. To awaken is really
nothing more than the process of waking up from the dream. To inquire and
seeing what’s really true and become progressively less asleep.
“Treating everything as a dream liberates.”
As long as you give reality to dreams, you are their

slave. See all as a dream and stay out of it.... all
you need is to realize that you are dreaming.
When you have seen the dream as a dream, you
have done all that needs to be done.
-Nisargadatta -

Do we need to change the dream to wake up?
“Don’t try to change the dream. Be aware of the

dream. Become more interested in the
awareness of the dream than in the dream itself. “
- Adyashanti -

How seriously do you take other people in the dreamstate?
Just imagine, if you woke up inside a dream, how would you see other
people in the dream? How seriously would you take things? Of what real
importance is any given situation in a dream? Is there any need to rescue
each other from sleeping and dreaming?
So most people you see are sort of not really present, sleepwalking through
their roles. They are fully in character and don’t know any other way. I don’t
see it as my role to save or rescue anybody any more that regular people
feel the need to rescue each other from sleeping and dreaming.
The "detached observer" quality.
The more you realize the dreamstate nature of reality, the more you start to
develop a sense of detached observer quality. That means constantly
perceiving life as a movie, as a day-dream, as a stage drama, as a
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dreamstate. Cultivating a sense of amused detachment from your own
character and the dream, perceiving life from a free and expansive
perspective, without being lost in likes and dislikes, attachments and
aversions.
Don't take your role too seriously...

"You’re in the dream but not of the dream.”
It means you know that you’re playing a character in a staged production,

but you don’t confuse your role with the detached observer or the stage
with reality. You are playing a character role but all importance is illusory.
"The wise man who sees the world as an illusion,

does not act as if it is real.
Therefore he does not suffer."
- The Buddha -

Everyone is in their own dreamstate
“Every single thing in my life, in your life, is a holographic play. And it seems
that we are all in the same play but we are all in our own timelines, all in our
own worlds and universes. All playing different roles in each others play.
And we all think we are all in the same movie.”
- Matt Khan -
The Lucid dreamer of life...

“When one realizes life to be a dream appearance, one becomes
equanimous about the content of one's life, and one's focus of attention
opens up to include not only the play of forms—this body-mind and all
“other” body- minds—but also to intuitively include the formless matrix,
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context, or ground for this play: namely, the pure,
absolute Being-Awareness, the witness in its
formless no-thingness, which mysteriously, playfully
gives rise to the play of forms. Thus, in the
awakened state, “One witnesses the dream while
the dreamless (awareness) goes on”.
- Adi Da -
You are sleep and you can wake up
This is your show. It’s your universe. There’s no one else here, just you,
and nothing is being withheld from you. You are completely on your own.
Everything is available for direct knowing. No one else has anything you
need. No one else can lead you, pull you, push you or carry you. No one
else is necessary to your success. It cannot be simpler -you are asleep and
you can wake up. If you understand that, you’ll understand that it’s the best
news you could possible receive.
- Jed McKenna -
Row, row, row your boat,

Gently down the stream.
Merrily, merrily, merrily, merrily,
Life is but a dream.
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The Awakening Process

Untruth unrealization
Untruth unrealization is the process of unknowing what is untrue, leaving

only the truth in its place. It is the least misleading term for Awakening
because one does not realize truth, rather, one undergoes the long self-
peeling process of unknowing what is untrue – everything except I Am.
- Jed McKenna -
Can we "know" Consciousness directly?
Anyone who wants to take an honest look at their circumstances must deal
with the fact that you can’t know Consciousness directly until you unknow
everything in the way of it.
I am is the fundamental constant of knowledge, everything else is a belief.

Knowing that no one can know anything is indeed the gateway to knowing
everything.
The only truth is I Am - I Exist.

That is the only truth.
Everything else is a concept.
- Ramesh Balsekar -
What is Enlightenment?
Enlightenment is freedom from falsehood.

Awakening is the process of deprogramming.
Enlightenment is the unprogrammed state.
What are we pilling out in the process of Untruth unrealization?
One dismantles one’s fictional persona by peeling away the built-up layers
of false identity until all that’s left is that which can’t be severed, destroyed
or further reduced; truth, I-Am point of awareness.
What is preventing us from awakening?
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The unchallenged assumptions we hold in our belief system of reality, and,
the blind acceptance of the mass mentality, the consensus reality are the
main cause of our lack of doubt.
We never look because we never doubt, and we never doubt because we

are full of unchallenged assumptions, we accept appearances and ride on
the tide of consensus.
What is "Willing suspension of disbelief"
It’s the deal you make with yourself every time you go to a movie. You
agree to relax your discrimination and let the movie in. You know the movie
isn’t reality, but you will sit quietly for two hours and allow yourself to
experience it as if it were. You suspend your disbelief in order to form an
empathic bond with the characters and the movie.
Is it good to be skeptical about the beliefs we hold?
We are programmed from birth to suspend disbelief and let ourselves

pretend reality is real, but if we want to stop pretending and find out what’s
really real, we have to reengage our critical disbelief systems and become
rabidly, fanatically, pathologically skeptical.
No amount of skepticism could ever be too extreme. Truth doesn’t need

your devotion. It need you to open up your eyes.
By being skeptical you are not defending a position, you are sharing your
honest observations, honest to the core, transcending sacredness and holy
unchallenged beliefs.
“The belief in things which are untrue is what imprisons us in the dream
state. We must question all of our beliefs, ideas, opinions and assumptions
down to the very source of our being until that which is true, real, and
everlasting reveals itself. I am is the absolute truth. Everything else is a
belief. Awareness is all.”
- Adyashanti -
As Nisargadatta Maharaj said so brilliantly and beautifully,
“The ultimate understanding is that there is no ultimate understanding.”
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How to practice Spiritual Autolysis?
“All you have to do is sit down and write the truth, and keep writing until
you’ve come up with something that is true.
It doesn’t matter where you start. You could start by using Ramana
Maharshi’s query, “Who am I?” or “What is me?” and then just work at it.
Write and rewrite. Make it cleaner and cut out the excess of ego and follow
it wherever it leads until you’re done.”
- Jed McKenna -
What is the main topic in the Spiritual Autolysis practice?
This is not a diary about self exploration or feelings and insights. It’s not
about personal or spiritual evolution. This is about what you know for sure,
about what you are that is true.
With this process you tear away layer after layer of untruth masquerading
as truth. Writing it out allows you to act as your own teacher, your own
critic, your own opponent.
What is the question at our very center?
“Who am I?”
Use this inquire relentlessly as a tool for drilling down through all the layers
of ego and delusion. “Who am I?” That is the question. That’s the question
at our very center. There is only one koan and it’s the same for all of us:
What is true?
Is Truth realization a deconstruction process?
Truth realization is a deconstruction process. Self-realization isn’t about

more, it’s about less. The only construction required for awakening is that
which facilitates demolition.
Is Awakening a self-development process?
“No. Awakening is not a self development journey at all. Neither it is a

seeking process. It’s a deconstruction process of all what is un-true. All
what is not. Nothing remains standing.”
- Jed McKenna - 
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NETI NETI
(not this, not that)
"In the seeing of who you 
are not, the reality of who 
you are emerges by itself.”
- Sri Nisargadatta Maharaj -

What is the first step in the process?
The first step is to go for the truth. Self inquire... What is true about who I
am? Tear away layer after layer.
Ask yourself what’s true until you know. Think for yourself. Don’t follow.
Stay with the question. Everything is available for direct knowing.
How to seek for the truth?
The search for truth is absurd, because it’s a thing which you cannot
capture, or give expression to. You have to become less false by
illuminating what is not true and let the truth reveal itself, what remains is
the unspeakable truth.
So, instead of seeking for the truth, you illuminate what is not, what belief
you are holding to be true.
Your task is not to seek for love,

but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself
that you have built against it.
- Rumi -
Until you have taken the First Step it’s all academic
You can play a spiritual role and meditate and renounce and be selfless
and earn merit and burn karma year after year, lifetime after lifetime, and
still not take that First Step.
The First Step is the true starting point of the whole process. Once the First
Step is taken, the rest of the journey is sure to follow. Truth realization
doesn’t require anything but purity of intent.
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The Golden Rule!
Think for yourself
Think for yourself and figure out what’s true. That’s the golden rule. That’s
all you need to know to awaken. Sit down, and ask yourself what’s true until
you know.
Self reliance
All you have to do is look for yourself, but the greatest strength of ego is
that "looking for yourself" is the last thing anyone really wants to do.
Think for yourself. Look for yourself, directly, without the obstruction and
distorting filters of interpreters or middlemen.
Can we trust in self reliance?
“At the moment, as humankind, we are living our worst case scenario. So
don’t rely on the beliefs that we see around as the norm.
Cultivate a skeptic mind and approach. Open your eyes. Look. Nourish
your discontent. Start fresh. Think for yourself. Trust in self reliance. You’re
completely on your own.”
- Jed McKenna -
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Identifying Beliefs
The answer is in the question
Stay with the question. Stay with the question, don’t look for the answer.
Dissolve the question by making it irrelevant, absurd. Verify your
assumptions underneath your questions. What exactly is the question?
Because the answer is there.
Try to rephrase and restructure the question in such a way that the question
appears senseless to you.
First come with the right question
The question itself can be the obstacle to progress, not the lack of an
answer. The question is the key. Once we truly understand the question,
we’ll have the desired answer.
The desired answer is always the removal of the obstruction an incorrect

question represents.
Verify your assumptions underneath your questions
Most questions sits atop various assumptions that haven’t first been
verified. It presupposes other things to be accepted as true that can’t be
accepted as true.
Stay with the question. Don’t worry about the answer, just get the question
right. Examine your assumptions. Soon enough the question itself has been
destroyed and, along with it, many layers of delusion.
The indispensable quality of being honest
The most indispensable quality of the process of awakening is a

courageous sincerity. Sincerity refers to the importance of being rooted in
the qualities of honesty, authenticity, and genuineness.
If you want to be more true, then the way to do that is by becoming less
false. Go inside yourself with the spotlight of discrimination, and illuminate
what you are holding to be true.
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The answer is a direct experience
When inquiry is authentic, it brings you into the experience of here and
now. The question, “What am I?” takes you right back into the mystery.
If your mind is honest, it knows it doesn’t have the answer. You ask, “What
am I?” and instantly, there is silence. Your mind doesn’t know. And when it
doesn’t know, there is an experience right here, right now, that is alive. You
bump into nothingness inside—that no-thing, that absolute nothingness
which your mind can’t know.
The answer does not come in the form of a description or phrase; it is a

direct experience.
What is meant by "Kill the Buddha"
It means further. Get up! You’re not there yet, keep moving. You think
you’re there but you’re not. Whoever it is, whatever it is -is just another
projection of your own bullshit. Kill the thing and keep going. That’s what it
means.
What is meant by the Zen term “Makyo"
During Zazen meditation, the student can experience all sorts of amazing
experiences only to have the master splash him with cold water by calling it
“makyo”.
When a Zen master uses the term makyo, he’s telling his student that the
precious gem they’re stopping to pick up or the pretty flowers they are
pausing to collect only have value or beauty in the world they’ve chosen to
leave behind.
The Tao says “beware the flowery trappings because, in order to posses
them or benefit from them, you must cease your journey and stay in the
dream.”
Breaking free of delusion takes everything you have. The price of truth is
everything. Everything. That’s the rule and it’s inviolable.
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Identifying beliefs
If you react in a negative way or you give something a negative thought,

take a step back and say,
What would I have to believe is true in order to react to this in this way?
What would I prefer to believe is true? And then respond that way.
Dismantling beliefs
Once a belief is identified, find out where it came from, find out where you
first bought into that definition. Then ask yourselves…
“Is this what I prefer to believe?”

“Is there another belief I would prefer to have?
Find out if it serves you any longer, if it doesn’t there is no reason to keep
carrying it because very often these beliefs are just baggage you are
carrying that belongs to someone else... drop it.
Many times, the second you identify a belief, it’s gone. It’s gone, no other
process is required. Many times, just turning on the light is what makes the
shadow disappear.
Inheriting beliefs from our parents
We mostly inherit a limiting belief system from our parents while growing
up. What they believed to be true was spoon-fed to us during our
childhood. We unconsciously accepted their beliefs in order to survive.
Lets recognize that they all did the best they could with the belief system
and definitions they were spoon-fed. The idea is now to understand that
you have a choice, you can break the chain.
Redefining beliefs and recreating yourself
Everything stems from the present, you can thus re-create yourself quite
literally into a new persona, a new being, and allow the reflection of reality
to be presented to that new persona.
But you have to go about redefining all the things that you were taught to
define, re-examining, looking at everything and saying, "Does this definition
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work for me or what would I prefer as a new definition of this situation,
negative... positive... what do I prefer?"
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Confronting Death
Death is the underlying fear of the ego
The underlying emotion that governs all the activity of the ego is fear. The
fear of being nobody, the fear of nonexistence, the fear of death.
Why fear? Because the ego arises by identification with form, but deep
down it knows that no form are permanent, that they are all fleeting. So
there is always a sense of insecurity around the ego.
The ego does not want an end to its “problems” because they are part of its
identity. It gives definition to my self image, makes me into someone, and
that is all that matters to the ego.
We assume that death means annihilation. And so you mourn the idea, you
are afraid in general of the idea because you think it’s the end of your
identity, when in fact its actually the expansion into more of yourself. You
become more of who you are in death.
After life
There is no death.
Only a change of worlds.
- Chief Seattle -
Death and appreciation of life
If you know you were going to die tomorrow, how much would this really
matter? If you understand the fact of your own death, that it’s always here
with you and that it’s a certainty, then you are free. That’s liberation;
knowing that nothing is yours or can be yours, knowing that you have
nothing to lose.
We have to pull death close, embrace it, carry it in our hearts and minds,
just like something you carry in your pocket and always have one hand on
it. Let death be your companion. That’s the one thing you really have, the
one thing that’s really yours, that no one can take away.
Whenever we lose our perspective, reflecting on death and impermanence

shakes us back into the truth.
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Death and the truth of impermanence
“One of the chief reasons we have so much anguish and difficulty facing
death is that we ignore the truth of impermanence. We so desperately want
everything to continue as it is that we have to believe that things will always
stay the same. But this is only make-believe, a pretense.
In our minds, changes always equal loss and suffering. We assume,

stubbornly and unquestionably, that permanence provides security and
impermanence does not.
Reflect on this: The realization of impermanence is paradoxically the only

thing we can hold onto, perhaps our only lasting possession. It is like the
sky, or the earth. No matter how much everything around us may change or
collapse, they endure.”
- Sogyal Rinpoche -
As he approached death, the Buddha said:
Of all footprints 
That of the elephant is supreme; 
Of all mindfulness meditations 
That on death is supreme.
Is there life after death?
There was a Zen monk who asked his Zen master, “Roshi, is there life after
death?”
The Roshi answered, “I don’t know.”

The monk was incredulous at his answer, and blurted out, “But Roshi,
you’re a Zen master!”
To which the Roshi replied, “Well yes, but I’m not a dead Zen master!”
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Trancending subconscious beliefs

(otro tema)
healing the eight biggies of human trauma, which are the birth trauma, the
parental disapproval syndrome, specific negatives, the unconscious death
urge, karma from past lives, the religion trauma, the school trauma, and
senility, etc.
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Let Fear be your guide

Let Fear be your guide
“Find out what are you scared of. That’s how you know where to go. Follow
the fear. Go into it and light it up. Inside your fear is your next door, the next
thing holding you in. Let fear be your guide. “
- Jed McKenna -
The mechanism of Fear
All fears are a reaction to something you believe to be true about a

circumstance or situation.
If you were to treat fear like an old friend, you would get more out of it. Fear
is your natural true vibration filtered through a belief system that is out of
tune with your natural state, your core vibration.
What is the role of Fear?
If your definitions of life and reality are in harmony with your natural
vibrational state you will experience the circumstances in your life in a joyful
creative loving way. If you buy into beliefs that are out of alignment with
your natural state, then when you flow your energy through those beliefs
you will experience the same energy as the sensation you call fear and
anxiety. Fear and excitement are the same energy... you experience them
differently because of what you filter them through.
Fear is there to tell us that we are holding a belief that is out of alignment
with our natural state.
The Piano Analogy
We can use the analogy of a piano. If you are playing a song on the piano
and all at the sudden, you hit a sour key, a flat note, you do not usually run
away from the piano screaming in terror and swearing you will never play it
again.
Usually you say “Ah, this is out of tune, I must tune that particular key.” And
this is what fear is, it is like a sour key, a flat key, an out of tune key, it must
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be tuned. The definition must be tuned and bring it back into harmony with
the rest of your keys.
Fear is just a self correcting mechanism... a messenger knocking at your

door. It arrises to let you know that you have definitions in your
consciousness that are out of alignment. "Pay attention to this... this is
something that needs your focus, your attention.”
So don't push away fear. It will return and blow your house down until it
completes the job of bringing your attention to the belief system that is out
of alignment. Be friends with fear and use it for the job it was designed to
do.
Let fear be your guide.
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Real & False within the Dreamstate

"Awareness or Consciousness is the only reality.
Consciousness is the screen on which all the pictures
come and go. The screen is real, the pictures are mere
shadows on it."
- Ramana Maharshi -
Everything that exists within consciousness is a

mirage. Consciousness is true, the contents of
consciousness are not.

“Consciousness is true, but what consciousness is conscious of is not, just

as a screen might be solid and the projected images not.
Your physical reality is just an illusion but the

experience of it is real. That’s all that’s real, it’s
your experience of it.
The only thing really in your physical world that is

real, is the experience of the reality, not the reality
itself.”
- Bashar -

Everything is false, real and possible in the dreamstate
If you perceive dualistic reality as a dream, then no discrimination is really

called for. Where do you draw the line in a dream?
You can believe indiscriminately, They’re all equal because they’re all
untrue. No belief is true. They are all dreamstate apparitions that have no
reality or solidity outside the dream.
What can’t be dreamt?
Consciousness is the mechanism by which all things are possible.
You are an infinite universe, so what’s not possible for you? What’s not
possible in a dream? The dreamstate. What can’t be dreamt?
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Perception is the only reality, so if you perceive that something is real, then
it’s definitively real. Everything in a dream is equally real, so what is there to
discriminate about?
Drawing the line between "true" and "real"
So now that we know that everything is real but nothing is true, the trick is
drawing a distinct line between real and true.
We can’t accept anything as true except I-Am, but whatever we believe is

real, is real.
Drawing a line between what we know and everything else
We all draw a line between what we believe and what we don’t. This line is
exactly the same for everyone, and it can never move for anyone. On the
"known" side is I-Am (Present Awareness), and on the other side is
everything else. This line, between knowledge and belief, is the one and
only bottom line of being.
“Reality is not what you think it is

Reality became what you think it is.”
- Mooji -
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Awakening Vs. Spiritual Evolution

The fundamental conflict in the spiritual quest:
Ego can never achieve awakening.
Ego may desire truth realization, but ego can’t cross that line. Truth
realization is not a personal thing. Self cannot achieve no-self. The result is
not a realized-self, it’s no-self. No one can say “I am enlightened” because
there is no “I” to it.
There is no such thing as an enlightened person. There is only awakeness,

non dual abiding, which is undifferentiated. It’s not my reality, it’s reality.
Ego is the only thing in the way of Awakening
What is blocking the way? To someone who wants to get to the truth, who
you are is what’s in the way. Ego is in the way.
Truth is uniquely challenging pursuit because the very thing that wants it is
the only thing in the way of it.
How the fundamental conflict, "ego cannot achieve awakening" is

resolved?
The fundamental conflict can only be resolved by altering the equation.

Spiritual realization gets redefined as something attainable by ego, and
now the equation works to everyone’s satisfaction. Ego gets to continue the
noble quest and a thriving spiritual industry continues to thrive. Of course,
no one gets the grail, but if you understand the fundamental conflict, you’ll
see that no one really wanted it anyway.
To walk a "spiritual path" and to "awaken" are two related but completely
different things.
To "awaken" is to see clearly what is true and what is not, truth realization,
abiding non-dual awareness, while "spiritual evolution" is to become a
better or happier person (human adulthood) within the dreamstate.
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What it means to walk a Spiritual path?
The majority of people understand this concept as human development,

spiritual enhancement, becoming a better and happier person, wandering
and exploring the playground of life, cultivating positive emotions such as
awe and gratitude and expanding your potential without limits.
This is obviously what everyone really wants, not truth realization, not to
awaken.
Is the awakened state a special and mystical state?
The awakened state is not, as commonly supposed, the special state.

Awake is just awake. It’s nothing more, it’s everything less.
The awake state is simple, natural and easy. Carrying no baggage. Not
spending your lifeforce animating a fictional persona.
The awakened don’t have something that the un-awakened are missing, it’s
the other way round. The unawakened posses massive structure of false
belief.
Why mess with a wonderful dream?
Happiness only means you are having a good dream and suffering that you
are having a bad dream.
The point of a dream is to dream, not to wake up. If you dream a

comfortably, happily life, why mess with that? If you are having a wonderful
dream, what’s the point of waking up?
However, if your interest is to cut the crap and figure out what’s true, then
you’re in the wrong place and there’s no point in pretending otherwise.
Waking up is a pointless action unless you absolutely must
Waking up is a pointless action. Looking at the falseness of your most

treasured self and all you have created. Who would do such a thing? Only
someone who absolutely couldn’t not do it.
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Once you become the person who can’t not do it, it’s a whole different
thing, but trying to do it before you absolutely must is as ridiculous as
slicing off parts of your body.
Awakening is inevitable
Success in realizing one’s true nature is absolutely assured. Struggle to

achieve truth is, in its own way, as ridiculous as struggling to achieve death.
What’s the point. Both will find you when it’s time. Should we worry that if
we fail to find death, death will fail to find us? Of course not. Everyone will
end up fully “enlightened,” regardless of the path they take.
Awakening to your true nature is like dying; it’s a certainty, inevitable. You
are going to get there no matter what you do, so why rush? Enjoy your life,
it’s free.
Can you wake up by perfecting your dream character?
You don’t wake up by perfecting your dream character, you wake up by

breaking free of it. There’s no truth to the ego, so no degree of mastery
over it results in anything true.
Putting attention on the ego merely reinforces it.
Adyashanti said that “Spirituality has nothing to do with enhancing you or

your status in the dream state.” Spiritual progress inflict no damage on ego,
usually spirituality will reinforce rather than dismantle self-image.
The biggest challenge for most spiritual seekers is to surrender their self
importance, and see the emptiness of their own personal story. It is your
personal story that you need to awaken from in order to be free.
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Spirituality and Religions

Buddhism is the most likable of the major religions, and Buddhist are the
perennial good guys of modern spirituality. But, Why doesn’t Buddhism
produce Buddhas?
Lets be radically honest and cultivate a healthy skepticism, and question.

What is the enlightenment success ratio among Buddhism mathematically
speaking?

As billions of sincere but unsuccessful seekers over the last twenty-five
centuries might reluctantly attest, can we might consider the possibility that
there is a serious flaw in a path that doesn’t produce any graduates?
Buddhism is not about awakening. Much of Buddhist knowledge and

practice seems focused on spiritual self-improvement.
The Buddha’s real teaching
“Figure it out for yourself”
If Prince Siddhartha made it on his own, you can too. The Buddha was just
some guy who got serious and figured it out for himself, so maybe that’s his
real teachings - that you can figure it out for yourself.
Maybe the point is that he wasn’t a sort of deity but that he was just a guy
like you or me.
What is the sin of ignorance?
In the core of Buddhism it’s said that there is only one sin:
The sin of ignorance
Ignorance is sin, sin is ignorance. There’s nothing else. It is not the kind of
ignorance where you don’t know something. It’s the kind where you do
know something that’s not true.
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Monotheistic Religions and the Self-Supporting foundation
fallacy
To overcome common sense, religion use the Self-Supporting foundation

fallacy where the foundation hangs from the structure it supports.
We know that God exists because the Bible says so, and the Bible must be
right because it’s the word of God.
Crazy is a numbers game.

Like if enough people do it,
then it’s not crazy anymore.
If you live in such a fantasy alone, you’re mentally ill, if you live there with a
small group, you’re a brainwashed cultmember, and if you live there with a
large group, you’re respectably religious.
Hold nothing sacred
Nothing is sacred, or holy or divine; only true or not true. All that you
consider sacred and profound is against the process of awakening.
Take your inquiry seriously and hold nothing sacred. Holding nothing
sacred means that nothing is assumed to be true and all of your
assumptions are fair game.
The more spiritual they are, the more they are fair game. Ultimately it is
your most sacred and unquestioned assumptions about yourself, others,
and life that are most important to question.
What is faith?
Faith is just another face of fear. It is a defensive mechanism of the

frightened heart trying to rule over the doubting mind. Fear overshadows
reason and gives rise to faith.
Let’s be honest; this is not a faith and trust business, this is a self-
verification business.
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What is tradition?
Tradition is just a word for stuff you accept as true without verifying it for
yourself. Tradition is the deeply rutted path that gets formed after many
years of being followed by the herd.
The uncritical acceptance typical of the herd mentality is the soil in which all
false beliefs take root. Instead of self-reliance and self-determination, most
people just buy a package deal; no thinking required.
Traditions and the Herd
Standard religions, traditions and belief systems are the shepherds of

Maya. Keeping the sheep in the fold, away from the cliffs, keeping the herd
together and heading slowly nowhere in an orderly manner.
Running apart from the herd is certainly better than running with it, but of no
substantive difference if you’re still running in the same direction.
Do not believe on the strength of traditions even if they have been held in
honor for many generations and in many places; do not believe anything
because many people speak of it.
It’s self-verified or it fails, simple as that. You are on your own.
The Vampire analogy
If vampires really walked the earth there would be teachers and classes
where you could signed up if you wanted to become a vampire yourself, as,
I suppose, some people would. If the teacher were a vampire himself, he
might just bite everyone and swap fluids or whatever and they’re all
vampires.
But if the teacher were just a regular human and not really a vampire, then
you might find him handling down specific rules for his students to follow:
Don’t go out in the sunlight; Don’t eat garlic; Don’t drink holy water; Don’t
drive wooden sticks through your heart, and so forth.
And vampires wanabees would stand in line and pay their money to hear it.
They would return to their lives and struggle to follow their teacher’s
instructions in the hope that, by doing so, they would eventually achieve
vampirehood.
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But, as we all know, that’s not how to become a vampire, that’s how to play
a fantasy. If you just want to be happy and acting like a vampire makes you
happy, then super, that’s definitely the thing to do. But, if you want to
become a vampire, then wearing black and getting your canines sharped
isn’t going to do the trick.
You are on your own
Truth has no teaching, requires no guru, and is not a spiritual pursuit. The
search for truth is not a spiritual endeavor and never was.
The last thing you need is more knowledge. Waking up is not a theoretical

subject one masters through study and comprehension.
Much of the teachings you will read in your life is a finger pointing at the
finger pointing at the moon rather than at the moon.
There’s no outside authority. You have to verify everything yourself. If you

adopt something someone said, it’s only after you have verified it for
yourself.
You must sort this out for yourself because your self is the thing to be
sorted. You are on your own. The first rule in this business is that you are
on your own.
Those who know how to think need no teachers.

- Mahadma Gandhi -
What about all the teachers and gurus that say that they
became enlightened in an instant?
They’re probably talking about the transformation brought on by a

transcendental experience -a experience of mystic union or some variation
of it. It’s powerful and can be massively transformative, but it’s not
enlightenment.
Enlightenment isn’t flashy and it doesn’t just occur like an epiphany. There’s
no such thing as instant enlightenment any more than there’s such a thing
as instant baby.
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Something to consider the next time you hear the pop guru recount the
moments of his glorious epiphany. “I was walking in the park, children were
laughing, birds were singing, when all of a sudden…”
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Consciousness
Atmanic and Brahmanic Consciousness
Atmanic Consciousness is the ‘I Am’ point of awareness, our living reality. It

is grounded in Brahmanic Consciousness, which is undifferentiated and
absolute.
Brahmanic Consciousness is our absolute nature, without features or

attributes. It has no conscience. It is not innately good or evil. It’s not moral
or spiritual. It has no heart, no preference or skin in the game, it doesn’t
take any sides. It doesn’t prefer that you be good or evolve, and doesn’t
feed on praise or adoration, it doesn’t judge or care.
Love isn’t better than hate, goodness isn’t better than evil, pleasure isn’t
better than pain. Brahmanic Consciousness is not just true, it’s Truth. There
is only the otherless, attributeless, infinite is.
The idea "Brahman Is All", means that is without attributes, and therefore
precisely synonymous with any term we define without attributes, such as
Truth or Consciousness.
Saying Brahman Is All, just means we’re using the word Brahman instead
of Consciousness. Here we’re calling it Consciousness.
What is Consciousness?
Consciousness is the One, the whole and the only reality. Other than
Consciousness, everything else, including the universe, material objects
and individuals, are false.
Consciousness is at best described as that infinite, omnipresent,

incorporeal, impersonal, transcendent reality that is the divine ground of all
Being.
Consciousness is often described as “not this, not this”, because

Consciousness cannot be correctly described as this or that. In fact,
Consciousness can never be known as an object of experience because it
is the very subject that experiences everything.
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Consciousness is the origin of this and that, the origin of forces,
substances, all of existence, the undefined, the basis of all, unborn, the
essential truth, unchanging, eternal, the absolute.
How can Consciousness be properly described as something in

the material world when Consciousness itself is the basis of
reality?
Consciousness is not the effect of the world, but its very cause.
Consciousness is said to be the purest knowledge itself, and is illuminant
like a source of infinite light. Due to ignorance, Consciousness is visible as
the material world and its objects. Consciousness is attributeless and
formless. It is the Self-existent, the Absolute and the Imperishable.
Consciousness Without an Object
Beside the Great Space 

there is none other.
Truth exists, 
untruth does not. 
There is only truth.
- Merrell-Wolff’s -
The paradigm gap
Truth cannot be expressed or captured.  

We can only talk about what’s not, not what is.
We can only speak in terms of duality, opposites. We cannot know or

conceive anything outside of duality. We fail in trying to capture something
that cannot be captured in terms of our experiencing structure, the dualistic
reality.
You will never be able to express the truth, because it’s a movement and
you cannot capture, contain or express it.
There’s consciousness, but no one can express it and no one can grasp it
or point at it. You cannot find it because it isn’t lost. It’s everywhere at all
times -never absent, never distant, but you cannot put it into words.
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That is the paradigm gap. We can really only talk about what’s not, not what
is.
The Ying-Yan symbol
So the Yin-Yang symbol represents the universal harmony and balance of

duality -the dual opposite nature of reality, always in harmony- in a finite
universe.
The circle represents containment which means the whole and the
finiteness. Without the element of containment, the opposite elements
could not exist, much less maintain their balance. The container is what
defines the whole.
The illusion of opposites -good and bad, love and hate, should and
shouldn’t -these aren’t available out in infinite reality, only in bubbles.
Consciousness is beyond opposites. Duality is a dream.
Consciousness is. We can’t say more than that. Because Consciousness is

infinite and without attribute, we can only say what it’s not, not what it is.
Consciousness is essence, not attribute
“Consciousness is what I am; essence, not attribute. To ask, “Why I am

conscious?” is to assume a distinction between self and consciousness, to
assume the possibility of one without the other.
Being conscious is not a facet of some larger, independent me, it’s my very
me-ness and there is no larger anything. It’s not that I am conscious, it’s
that I am Consciousness.”
- Jed McKenna -
“You are Conscious Awareness. Consciousness is not something

happening to you, or something you posses or something you are doing.
Awareness is. Presence is.
That's the shift. And that happens just by giving your attention to
consciousness. Not trying to figure out what it is, that’s not necessary, just
giving your attention. That’s all you have to do.”
- Adyashanti -
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The empty nature of Awareness
We say Awareness is empty because there is no content. Awareness is not

something you can grab a hold of. Awareness is. And since there is no form
to it, it’s empty. One could never observe Awareness just as the eyeball
cannot see itself. It’s nature is emptiness.
Awareness just is, is non-local. You can’t find it. Not localized somewhere.
This is why we say awareness is empty. It is not in one location as opposed
to another location. It is not inside your heart, or behind your head, or under
your feet, just awareness is, is universal.
The self aware nature of Awareness
It’s nature, your nature, is self aware. A quality of lucidity. Awareness is self
aware, it knows that it is. It is intelligent in other words. This quality is so
familiar that people don’t notice it. The mere fact that awareness is self
aware is amazing. Nothing else can do that.
Only awareness is aware of itself. 

Only awareness is aware. 
Nothing else is aware but awareness. 
And without awareness nothing else is.
- Adyashanti -
The compassionate nature of Awareness
Awareness has a tremendous sense of love, compassion, a sense of

goodness, well being. That’s why when you come into your true state as
awareness, or spirit, there is a sense of well being, a great sense of all is
well. Not only for oneself but a well being that overflows, that’s what love is,
that’a what compassion is. It is in your nature.
Discovering real goodness comes from appreciating very simple

experiences. We are speaking here of the basic goodness of being alive.
The inherit goodness natural flow of existence. The compassionate flow of
basic goodness.
The name of God is Truth
Truth Realization, Consciousness, Awareness, Non-dual abiding, No-self,

All that is, God, The One, The Source of all, The One center of all, Truth.
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These terms do not capture it, but at least they seem the least misleading
terms. No one can tell you what it is. It’s not a thing, it’s not a concept, it’s
not a place. Truth realization is that which cannot be simplified further.
The term Non-Dual Awareness is an attempt to capture the living reality of

otherlessness in words. The best term might be Truth-Realization.
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Present moment
Let go of what is past.
Let go of what is not yet.
Observe deeply what is happening in the present moment,
but do not be attached to it.
This is the most wonderful way to dwell.
- Thich Nhat Hanh -
“It’s hard to understand that time doesn’t exist because we have such a
clear experience of past, present and future, but we don’t really experience
past and future, only present. Past and future are just ideas in the present.
This means that there is only now, but what is now? We can’t say what now
is because there is no not-now. It’s always now. There is only now. Now is.”
- Jed McKenna -
Being in the present moment is the way to dwell in mindfulness. If someone

lives mindfully in a state of presence, not regretting the past and not
anxious about the future, he or she knows how to observe and understand
what is happening in the present. If we continue to go back to the past,
worry or distracted about the future the present moment will elude us.
When you are thinking about a mental position you are not present. You are
not alone, you are with your opinion. If you bond to an object of
consciousness, a thought or mental position you are living with that object.
This is the story of two Zen monks, Tanzan and Ekido, who were walking
along a country road that had become extremely muddy after heavy rains.
Near the village, they came upon a young woman who was trying to cross
the road, bud the mud was so deep it would have ruined the silk kimono
she was wearing. Tanzan at once picked her up and carried her to the other
side.
The monks walked on in silence. Five hours later, as they were

approaching the lodging temple, Ekido couldn’t restrain himself any longer.
“Why did you carry that girl across the road?” he asked. “We monks are not
supposed to do things like that.”
“I put the girl down hours ago,” said Tanzan. “Are you still carrying her?”
Many people live their lives like Ekido all the time, unable or unwilling to let
go internally of situations, accumulating more and more “stuff” inside. Being
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absorbed in the past is a way of being dead to the present moment. It is not
easy to drop the past and return to living in the present. When we try to do
it, we have to resist the force of our internal formations, thoughts and
opinions.
Being present is living at ease, not bound by the internal formations,

interpretations, opinions, believes, concepts or mental positions. In this way
you can dwell in the present moment in touch with simple reality free from
internal attachments to views.
We learn to return our attention continuously to the pristine, timeless

present moment rather than be caught up in mental movie-making. Our
very Presence then becomes our identity, rather than our thoughts and
emotions.
Can I give expression to the now? !!! (Jed)

Look here, there is no present to the structure of the “you”; all that is there
is the past, which is trying to project itself into the future. You can think
about the past, present, and future, but there is only a projection of the
past. If there is a present, that present can never be experienced by you,
because you experience only your knowledge about the present, and that
knowledge is the past. So what is the point in trying to experience that
moment which you call “now”? The now can never be experienced by you;
whatever you experience is not the now. So the now is a thing which can
never become part of your conscious existence, and which you cannot give
expression to. The now does not exist, as far as you are concerned, except
as a concept. I don’t talk about the now.
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Comunicación Empática
Este texto es un resumen del trabajo de Marshall Rosenberg de sus libros “Nonviolent
Communication: A language of life”, “Nonviolent Communication: Companion
workbook”, “Speak Peace in a world of conflict” y “2-day NVC Advanced Intensive
with Marshall Rosenberg”. For more info visit www.cnvc.org
Para qué sirve la comunicación empática?

Que es la Comunicación Empática?
La Comunicación empática es una forma de comunicarnos que nos ayuda

a entender y expresar nuestros sentimientos y necesidades
auténticamente en el momento, a la vez que desarrollamos una capacidad
de escucha empática a los sentimientos y necesidades de los demás.
Cual es el propósito principal de la Comunicación Empática?
La Comunicación empática busca mantener la empatía durante todo el

proceso de comunicación.
En otras palabras, es un tipo de comunicación que busca mantener una

calidad de comunicación que permita que ambas partes cubran sus
necesidades, sus carencias y logren salir beneficiadas.
Como se siente la "empatía"?
Uno siente empatía cuando nos sentimos cómodos, cuando sentimos que
nos estamos comunicando honestamente desde el corazón y que estamos
siendo entendidos.
Una manera fácil de saber si estamos creando empatía es que la conexión

empática nos hace sentir un deseo natural de contribuir, de colaborar. Este
deseo de colaborar fluye naturalmente y no como respuesta a un
sentimiento de obligación, ni del miedo al castigo, ni del deseo de ser
recompensado, ni de un sentimiento de culpa o verguenza, sino que surge
de un deseo espontáneo y natural de querer contribuir y disfrutar del
proceso.
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Remplazando la "reacción automática" por una “respuesta
consciente”
Cuando aprendemos a comunicarnos empáticamente, en vez de

reaccionar automáticamente a lo que escuchamos o sentimos, nuestra
comunicación se vuelve una respuesta consciente de lo que percibimos,
sentimos y queremos, expresada con completa honestidad y claridad, a la
vez que simultáneamente prestamos una respetuosa atención empática a
las necesidades de los otros.
Cómo atraemos la empatía a la comunicación?
Si aprendemos a entender y reconocer las necesidades emocionales

presentes en nosotros y en los demás, lograremos que la empatía esté
presente en el ambiente.
Así con la práctica, durante cualquier comunicación empática que

establecemos, somos capaces de entender y expresar nuestras
necesidades emocionales y reconocer las necesidades emocionales
presentes en los demás.
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Qué rompe la Comunicación empática?

Quién tiene la razón?
Quién está en lo correcto?

Nuestra sociedad y cultura nos enseña otro tipo de comunicación "no
empática" basada en el enfrentamiento moral, donde existe un ganador y
un perdedor.
En vez de entender lo que los demás están necesitando y no obteniendo,

nuestra atención se enfoca en analizar, clasificar y determinar “quién está
bien y quién está mal”, quien está en lo correcto y quien está en lo
incorrecto.
Es un juego basado en juicios morales donde a un nivel emocional todos

pierden y lamentablemente es el juego predominante en nuestra sociedad
y en nuestras vidas.
La corrección por penitencia.
"Ciertas acciones merecen recompensa,

mientras que otras merecen ser castigadas."
Hace mucho tiempo atrás se introdujo el concepto de corrección del

comportamiento a través de la penitencia.
Si alguien se comporta de manera “incorrecta” lo corregimos haciendo que

se sientan mal de si mismos por lo que han hecho. Si logramos que se
sientan rechazados y culpables, se arrepentirán y cambiarán su manera de
actuar.
La manipulación psicológica.
Cuando el castigo se vuelve la norma de corrección en nuestra

cultura, esto nos permite crear un lenguaje de comunicación capaz de
inducir y manipular a otros seres por miedo al castigo, por culpa, por
deprecio, por vergüenza y por obligación.
El sistema de corrección por penitencia ha sido tan eficientemente

introducido en nuestra sociedad que manipular a través de hacer sentir mal
al otro es la norma social que permea inconscientemente nuestro entorno.
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“Va a ser una vergüenza si no vienes.” - Manipulación psicológica.
Como cambiar el comportamiento con empatía?
El proceso correctivo por penitencia está basado en hacer que la gente se

sienta culpable y se arrepienta de lo que han hecho. La idea es, que si
logramos que se sientan mal, se arrepentirán y cambiarán su manera de
actuar.
Con la comunicación empática, en vez de atribuir la causa del conflicto a lo

incorrecto del comportamiento del otro, hacemos un esfuerzo en entender
las necesidades y carencias emocionales comunes a ambos que no están
siendo cubiertas, y buscamos otras opciones que pueden cubrir sus
necesidades y las nuestras a un menor costo social y emocional.
Ejemplo de corrección por penitencia
Si alguien maneja de una manera que no me parece “correcta” y quiero

contribuir al cambio, bajo la ventana y le digo “Idiota!” Teóricamente el
conductor supuestamente debería arrepentirse y corregir su actitud.
Funciona?
Corrección por penitencia

"Las personas que agreden a los demás merecen ser castigadas."
Enfoque empático
"Las personas que agreden a los demás podrían tener la oportunidad de
conocer otras forma de cubrir sus necesidades a un menor costo social."
El gozo por la violencia
Socialmente hemos llegado tan lejos que en nuestra sociedad se nos
educa e incentiva, desde pequeños a gozar de la violencia.
En horario pico vemos en la TV como el “bueno” justificadamente mata o

castiga brutalmente al “malo”. Nosotros vamos al cine y pagamos por ver
diversos despliegues de violencia y castigo y luego le compramos juguetes
bélicos a nuestros hijos.
La negación de la responsabilidad (acciones)
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Hemos crecido en una sociedad acostumbrada a negar la responsabilidad
de las acciones que cometemos. En vez de asumir que somos cada uno
responsables de nuestros pensamientos, sentimientos y acciones,
responsabilizamos a los demás, o la las circunstancias por nuestros
acciones y elecciones.
“Tuve que hacerlo... no tuve elección”,

“Ordenes superiores...no tenía alternativa”,
“Tomo porque soy alcohólico”,
“Mentí porque mi jefe me lo dijo”,
“Empecé a fumar porque todos mis amigos fuman”.
Todos son ejemplos de la negación de responsabilidad de nuestras

acciones y elecciones.
La verdad es que en todo momento elegimos hacer lo que hacemos y no

hacemos nada que no es nuestra elección. Puede que no nos guste
nuestra elección pero es nuestra elección.
Siempre elegimos aunque no nos guste
Es importante que conscientemente digamos, “Estoy eligiendo hacer esto

porque quiero.” Esto no implica que lo disfrutaremos, sólo que es nuestra
elección consciente. Puedo no disfrutar de mi elección pero es mi elección.
Puedo elegir subirme al tren que me va llevar a un campo de

concentración como una alternativa a ser asesinado en el instante. No es
una elección que me guste, pero es una elección.
Negación de responsabilidad (sentimientos)
La negación de responsabilidad de nuestros sentimientos es un

comportamiento socialmente aprendido que busca la manipulación
psicológica a través de la culpa, atribuyendo la responsabilidad
de nuestros sentimientos negativos al comportamiento de los demás.
“Tu me haces sentir de esta manera.” o “Siento esto porque tu...” son
ejemplos de este comportamiento.
Asumiendo la responsabilidad
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Somos totalmente responsables de nuestros pensamientos, sentimientos y
acciones. Lo que el otro diga o haga puede ser el estímulo pero nunca la
causa de nuestros sentimientos.
Nuestros sentimientos son el resultado de cómo decidimos tomar lo que

los demás hacen o dicen en relación a nuestras creencias y necesidades
en cada momento específico.
Al confundir el estímulo, el comportamiento del otro, con la causa, como

tomamos la situación, llegamos a creer que es el otro el responsable de
nuestro disgusto. El mecanismo básico de motivación por culpa está
basado en atribuir la responsabilidad de nuestros sentimientos a los
demás.
La causa de nuestros sentimientos
Los sentimientos negativos son el resultado de nuestras propias

necesidades no resueltas.
Por ejemplo: Si alguien llega tarde a una cita y necesitamos afirmación que
le importamos a esa persona, podemos sentirnos heridos, si en vez de eso
nuestra necesidad es de pasar un tiempo constructivamente, podemos
sentirnos frustrados y si nuestra necesidad es de tener un tiempo de
tranquilidad en soledad, podemos sentirnos aliviados por la tardanza.
Entonces, no es el comportamiento del otro sino nuestra propia necesidad

la que causa nuestros sentimientos.
El “enfado” o el “disgusto” son indicativos de que hemos movido nuestra

atención a nuestra mente para analizar y juzgar la situación, en vez de
enfocar nuestra atención en sentir las necesidades que no están siendo
cubiertas por ambas partes.
Re-enfocando nuestra atención
El enfado puede ser utilizado de manera positiva en nuestro aprendizaje de

comunicación empática como un llamado de atención, una alarma que nos
indica que hemos movido nuestra atención a nuestra mente para analizar y
juzgar la situación, en vez de enfocar nuestra atención en sentir las
necesidades que no están siendo cubiertas por ambas partes.
Podemos inmediatamente reemplazar conscientemente la frase:
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“Estoy molesto porque tu…” por
“Estoy molesto porque estoy necesitando…”
Reemplazando verbos evasivos
Podemos empezar a reemplazar conscientemente frases que utilizamos

que implican una evasión de responsabilidad por frases que reconozcan
nuestra responsabilidad explícitamente. De esta manera, conscientemente
integramos la responsabilidad y el poder de elección en nuestro lenguaje.
Reemplazar el verbo “debo” por “quiero”.

"Debo hacer a mi cama." por
"Quiero hacer a mi cama.”
Reemplazar el verbo “debería” por “podría”.

"Debería visitar a mi papá.” por
"Podría visitar a mi papá.”
Actuar únicamente desde el corazón
Cualquier acción que emprendamos que provenga de sentimientos de

culpa, obligación, verguenza o miedo al rechazo... alguien pagará por
ello. Con baja autoestima, resentimiento, alejamiento, agresión... tus hijos,
tu esposa, tu familia, alguien pagará por esa violencia interna.
Podemos tomar el compromiso de actuar únicamente de nuestro deseo

natural de contribuir a satisfacer una necesidad de valor, el deseo de
colaborar conscientemente desde el corazón, fluyendo sin presión alguna.
Estamos diseñados para hacer las cosas con placer y conectados a
nuestros corazones.
Es mejor decir "NO" a algo si no proviene del corazón.
La agresión de etiquetar a las personas
Otro comportamiento lamentablemente aprendido dentro de nuestra

sociedad es la costumbre de etiquetar de manera despectiva a las
personas.
“Eres un desordenado",
"Eres un bueno para nada",
"Eres un egoísta",
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"Eres un flojo".
Cuando etiquetamos a las personas de manera negativa, o los culpamos

por sentimos mal, o los criticamos, o los comparamos no logramos nada
positivo ya que como resultado inmediato recibiremos resistencia y una
actitud defensiva de parte de los demás. Como resultado, la empatía
desaparece inmediatamente.
La programación subconsciente en la infancia.
Desde que nacemos hasta los seis años, los niños se encuentran en el
estado mental “delta”, su mente subconsciente está absorbiendo toda la
información que procesa sin una restricción o evaluación consciente, como
en un trance hipnótico.
Es decir, lo que el niño escucha de sus padres no es evaluado

conscientemente sino descargado directamente al subconsciente.
Cuando una frase como “Tú no te lo mereces.”, “No puedes hacer nada
bien.” o “Eres un egoísta.” es dirigida al niño antes de los seis años, ésta
es descargada directamente a la mente subconsciente y el 95% del tiempo
creará una realidad que coincida con la programación limitante que
inconscientemente habremos sembrado en el, y lo llevará durante su vida
adulta.
Etiquetando comportamientos en vez de personas
Cuando utilizamos etiquetas es mejor colocarlas en los comportamientos,

la acción en vez de en la persona. De esa manera no rompemos la
empatía ya que la persona no siente agredido su sentido de identidad.
En vez de "Eres un mentiroso."

"Lo que dijiste no es cierto.”
En vez de "Eres un egoísta."

"Esa acción no fue muy generosa de tu parte."
En vez de "Eres un desordenado."

"Tu cuarto está desordenado.”
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Recordemos que nosotros no somos nuestros actos, por lo tanto es
mejor enfocar la acción y la necesidad no cubierta en vez de agredir a la
persona y romper la empatía presente.
“Esta acción específica no contribuye (atenta contra)

esta necesidad”.
"En NVC no hay verbo ser, nadie ES, hay únicamente

comportamientos, y dichos comportamientos están
al servicio o no de ciertas necesidades y carencias."
- Marshall Rosemberg -
Evitar las comparaciones
Las comparaciones son una agresión al sentido de identidad única de las

personas y una manera rápida de hacer desaparecer la empatía en la
comunicación.
"Por qué no puedes ser como tu hermano?"

"Ves? el sí lo hace bien!” ...Auch!
Comunicar nuestros deseos como órdenes.
Toda demanda u orden amenaza al que escucha con un sentimiento de

castigo si es que no cumplen con la orden. Si la persona obedece no es
por un sentimiento de empatía sino por miedo a las consecuencias.
"Ven inmediatamente!"
Lamentablemente nuestro sistema educativo está orientado a educar a los

alumnos a ser dóciles y obedientes a la autoridad.
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1 - Observar sin evaluar

Observar sin evaluar
El primer paso en el proceso de la comunicación empática es la

"Observación clara (contexto y momento específico) de los hechos
(comportamiento del otro) sin mezclarlos con nuestra opinión,
evaluación o diagnóstico personal de la situación."
Cuando le decimos a alguien lo que ha hecho, describimos el

comportamiento de la persona, los hechos específicos sin mezclarlos con
nuestra opinion, diagnóstico o evaluación de la situación.
La observación implica el comportamiento concreto, no una evaluación o

análisis de su “mal comportamiento”. Es bastante difícil separar el “hecho”
de nuestra “opinión”.
Krishnamurti dijo que “Observar sin evaluar es la forma más alta de

inteligencia humana”.
No confundir hecho con opinion
“No confundir lo que vemos

con lo que es nuestra opinion.”
Cuando mezclamos la observación con nuestra evaluación reducimos la

posibilidades de que el otro escuche nuestro mensaje de forma empática.
Por el contrario es muy probable que se sientan criticados y desarrollen
resistencia a escuchar el mensaje que intentamos transmitir.
En vez de "Llegas tarde",

"Llegas 40 min. después de la hora que hemos acordado.”
En vez de "Trabajas demasiado",

"Esta semana trabajaste horas extras todos los días.”
En vez de "Julian es malo en matemáticas",

"Julian aun no sabe restar llevando.”
En vez de "Has dejado un desorden en la sala",

"Has dejado tus zapatos y juguetes en el piso de la sala’.
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La comunicación empática nos pide que nos abstengamos de evaluar? No,

la comunicación empática nos pide que mantengamos una clara
separación entre los hechos (nuestra observación) y nuestras evaluaciones
(lo que pensamos).
Observación vs. Evaluación
En vez de “Juan estaba molesto ayer sin ninguna razón.”

"Juan golpeó la mesa con su puño.”
En vez de “Javier es agresivo.”

“Javier le pegó a su hermana cuando ella cambió el canal del televisor.”
“El es un futbolista muy malo.”

“El no a metido un gol en los últimos 20 partidos.”
“Me mentiste sobre tus notas.”

“Te escuche decir que pasaste todos tus cursos, pero esta libreta de notas
muestra dos jalados.”
“El doctor se rehusó a explicarme nada a mí.”

“El doctor no me dijo nada acerca de qué podría estar causando el dolor."
Observación clara (Contexto y momento específico)
También es importante que la observación de los hechos esté claramente

centrada en un contexto y momento específico. Hay que tener mucho
cuidado con las palabras que expresan términos absolutos: siempre,
nunca, en todo momento, frecuentemente, a cada rato, todo, nada.
Esas palabras y pueden ser interpretadas como una exageración en vez

de una observación precisa de lo que pasó.
“Siempre estas ocupado”

“Nunca está cuando se la necesita.”
“Cuando veo todo tirado en la sala…”
"No ayudas en nada."
En vez de “A cada rato te olvidas de jalar el water.”

“Dos veces esta semana dejaste el water sin jalar.”
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Cual es el resultado de interpretar la realidad?
• Nos será difícil ver la realidad de forma objetiva, sólo veremos nuestras
interpretaciones.
• Al mezclar los hechos objetivos con nuestra evaluación negativa, el
trágico resultado es que se incrementa la resistencia de ser escuchados
y lograr el objetivo buscado.
La crítica destruye la empatía.
Cuando juzgamos a otros nos alejamos de la conexión empática y solo

tienen dos opciones, defenderse o someterse.
Evaluando con el corazón
En la comunicación empática evaluamos si el comportamiento contribuye o

no a cubrir nuestras necesidades y carencias. Nos enfocamos en qué
están necesitando y no están obteniendo.
Recordemos que el interés común es que la gente cambie su

comportamiento no para evitar el castigo sino porque ven el beneficio de
seguir otras opciones que cubran sus carencias (necesidades) a un menor
costo.
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2 - Como nos sentimos en relación a lo observado

Como nos sentimos en relación a lo observado
El segundo paso en el proceso de comunicación empática es sentir y

expresar qué sentimientos han surgido dentro de nosotros en relación a lo
que observamos sin evaluar.
Es importante desarrollar un vocabulario de sentimientos que expresen

claramente lo que estamos sintiendo. También es importante distinguir los
sentimientos de palabras que describan lo que pensamos, opinamos e
interpretamos.
Vocabulario de Sentimientos (negativos)
Asustado, temeroso, nervioso.

Desconfiado, incrédulo.
Ansioso, deseoso, impaciente.
Preocupado, inquieto, intranquilo, alarmado.
Molesto, irritado, enojado, furioso.
Insatisfecho, disgustado, descontento, incómodo.
Aversión, repulsión, hostil, antipatía.
Confundido, desorientado, perdido, desconcertado.
Dudoso, inseguro.
Apático, indiferente, desinteresado, distante.
Avergonzado. 
Cansado, fatigado, agotado, exhausto.
Adolorido, devastado, miserable.
Triste, apenado.
Deprimido, decaído, desmoralizado, desanimado.
Frustrado, desilusionado, decepcionado.
Tenso, irritable, estresado, agitado.
Indefenso, frágil, vulnerable, inseguro.
Envidioso, celoso.
Vocabulario de Sentimientos (positivos)
Optimista, emocionado, energético, deseoso.

Esperanzado, confiado, positivo.
Animado, inspirado, estimulado.
Interesado, intrigado, curioso.
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Asombrado, sorprendido, encantado.
Calmado, cómodo, fresco, relajado.
Tranquilo, despreocupado.
Satisfecho, contento, aliviado.
Feliz, alegre, radiante.
Tocado, movido.
Agradecido, satisfecho, contento.
Tierno, sensible, cálido.
Opiniones confundidas como sentimientos
“Siento que está mal lo que hiciste…”

"que está mal" no es un sentimiento sino una opinion.
“Siento que es innecesario.” --> opinion, podría reemplazarse por "pienso

que es innecesario.”
“Me siento manipulado.”

"Manipulado" es una opinion sobre el comportamiento de otro, lo mismo
que criticado, intimidado, usado, rechazado, ignorado, etc.
Cuando expresamos sentimientos es importante que no los confundamos

con palabras que expresen opiniones.
Ejemplos de sentimientos bien expresados...

"Me siento molesto."
"Me siento frustrado."
"Siento miedo."
"Estoy triste."
"Me siento preocupado."
Tomando responsabilidad por la causa
Es importante que cuando expresemos cómo nos sentimos, dejemos claro

que la causa de nuestros sentimientos proviene de alguna necesidad
personal no cubierta.
“Me siento... porque yo…”
"Tu me haces sentir molesto." es una completa negación de

responsabilidad de nuestros sentimientos.
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"Me siento molesto porque yo estoy necesitando..." es una aproximación
saludable que apunta la causa a una necesidad personal no cubierta.
"Me duele que digas eso..." es un acto violento porque es un acto violento
atribuirle a alguien nuestros sentimientos. Entonces, la regla básica para
expresar nuestros sentimientos (irritación) es:
"Me siento irritado porque yo necesito..."
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3 - Identificando necesidad insatisfecha

Cual necesidad insatisfecha es la causa de nuestros
sentimientos
Entendemos y expresamos nuestra carencia o necesidad no cubierta como

la causa central de cómo nos sentimos ante la realidad.
Cuando los demás entienden nuestras necesidades no cubiertas, ellos no

escuchan crítica ni demanda, en vez de eso generan empatía pues
reconocen las mismas necesidades en ellos mismos.
“Cuando te veo haciendo esto, me siento así porque necesito esto…”
La otra persona ve claramente que no estamos criticándola ni

responsabilizándola de cómo nos sentimos. En vez de eso estamos siendo
sinceros y vulnerables al expresar nuestras necesidades no cubiertas. Eso
genera empatía en el otro y el deseo de colaborar con nosotros.
Cuando expresamos nuestras necesidades en vez de criticar al otro,

incrementamos la posibilidad de encontrar maneras de encontrar
soluciones que satisfagan ambas partes.
Necesidades comunes a todos
Necesidad de Autonomía
Elegir nuestros propios planes para cubrir nuestros sueños, valores y
objetivos. Libertad, independencia, espacio, espontaneidad, libertad de
elección.
Necesidad de Integridad
Autenticidad, honestidad, presencia.
Necesidad de Significado
Contribución, sentido, propósito, creatividad, sentirse efectivo, valorado,
que nos expresamos y desarrollamos, participación.
Necesidad de Conexión
Aceptación, afecto, apreciación, pertenencia, cooperación, comunicación,
cercanía, comunidad, compañía, consideración, consistencia, empatía,
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inclusión, intimidad, amor, respeto, seguridad, apoyo, reconocimiento,
entendido, confianza.
Necesidad de Bienestar físico

Aire, comida, movimiento, ejercicio, descanso, sueño, expresión sexual,
seguridad, abrigo, techo, agua, contacto.
Necesidad de Paz / Recreación

Alegría, humor, belleza, tranquilidad, equidad, harmonía, inspiración,
orden, comunión.
Cual es la causa de nuestro descontento?
Lo que los demás hacen nunca es la causa de cómo nos sentimos.

La causa de nuestro descontento está localizada en nuestro pensamiento.
El descontento y el enojo es el resultado de pensamientos que nos alejan y

desconectan de nuestras necesidades. Indica que nos hemos movido a la
cabeza a analizar y juzgar en vez de enfocarnos en reconocer qué
necesidades no estamos cubriendo.
La esencia de nuestras elecciones
Elige actuar únicamente motivado por el deseo de contribuir a la vida en

vez de hacerlo por miedo al rechazo, culpa, vergüenza u obligación.
Cualquier cosa que des o hagas que no sea por razones que te llenen, la
otra persona pagará por ello.
Nunca hagas cosas por otros, únicamente has cosas que cubran tus
propias necesidades.
Vamos a apreciar lo que hacemos si estamos motivado puramente por el

deseo humano de contribuir a enriquecer la vida. Con cada elección que
hagas, se consciente de las necesidades que estás sirviendo.
Escucha empática
La escucha empática es la capacidad que desarrollamos de percibir las

carencias y necesidades no satisfechas en los demás, al margen de cual
sea la manera en que lo están expresando.
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En la segunda parte de este curso nos enfocaremos en las técnicas de la
comunicación empática referidas a la "escucha empática". Por ahora es
importante entender que ambas técnicas de comunicación (como nos
expresamos y cómo entendemos a los demás) se aplican simultáneamente
durante la comunicación empática.
Qué es un compromiso?
Un compromiso es únicamente nuestra intención en el momento de

comprometernos. Todo cambia. El punto es que la otra persona pagará
cada vez que hagamos algo con un sentido de obligación.
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4 - Solicitud de acción positiva y clara

Solicitud de acción positiva (no negativa)
Es importante que nuestra solicitud sea positiva ya que si expresamos lo

que no queremos no dejamos claro lo que sí queremos. Si le pedimos al
alumno, “No golpees el lápiz sobre tu cuaderno”, comenzará a golpearlo
sobre la carpeta.
Además una solicitud de acción positiva será siempre más empática que
una solicitud negativa.
En ves de “No grites dentro del cuarto”,

"Por favor habla en voz baja dentro del cuarto.”
En vez de "No dejes los zapatos en la sala",

"Por favor lleva los zapatos a tu cuarto."
Solicitud de acción clara (específica)
Es importante que nuestra solicitud de acción sea clara, específica; no una

solicitud vaga, abstracta o ambigua que no deje claro lo que queremos y
provoque una actitud defensiva.
“Quiero que me comprendas” no es muy claro.

Mejor, "Me podrías repetir lo que me has escuchado decir.”
En vez de "“Podrías mostrar más respeto por mi privacidad?”, decir

“Me gustaría que estés de acuerdo en tocar la puerta antes de entrar a mi
cuarto.”
En vez de “Estarías dispuesto a ser más respetuoso con tu hermana?”,

decir “Estarías dispuesto a no empujar a tu hermano cuando no estés de
acuerdo con lo que dice?”
Verificar que no sea una demanda
Es importante que dejemos claro que no es una demanda. Recordar que

cada vez que alguien escucha una demanda tienden a dos opciones:
rebelarse o someterse.
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Es bueno preguntarse "Qué razones queremos que ellos tengan para
hacer lo que le estamos solicitando?" y "Qué sucede si no están
dispuestos a hacer lo que solicitamos?"
En vez de “Quiero que pongas la mesa”,

“Podrías poner la mesa?”
Pedir una reflexión del mensaje y reconocer el acto
Un último paso, pero no menos importante, es pedir que nos reflejen

(repitan) lo que nos han escuchado decir, y agradecer el acto.
“Me podrías decir lo que me has escuchado decir?”

"Me ayudaría si me puedes reflejar (repetir) lo que me has escuchado
decir. Es una gran confirmación escuchar que me entiendes.”
“Cómo te sientes ahora que te he pedido esto?”
O simplemente… "Estamos bien? Estamos de acuerdo?
Agradecer el acto de reflexión
Es importante reconocer el acto de reflexión incluso si no conectaron con

el mensaje.
“Gracias por decirme lo que escuchaste”
No importa si pensamos que eso no es lo que dijimos, ellos hicieron lo que

pedimos, repitieron lo que piensan que dijimos y eso es lo que
reconocemos.
No les decimos “Veo que no me has entendido.”

En vez de eso les decimos. “Estoy agradecido que me hayas dicho lo que
escuchaste. Puedo ver que no fui tan claro como me hubiese gustado,
déjame tratar de nuevo.”
Ejemplos de Comunicación empática
Ejemplos de comunicación empática utilizando los cuatro pasos:
En ves de “Tu perro hizo un desastre en mi jardín.”

“Cuando veo a cacas de tu perro en mi jardín, me siento irritado. Tenemos
niños que juegan acá y deseo que el jardín sea un lugar limpio y seguro
para ellos. Estarías dispuesto a remover los desechos del perro?”
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En vez de “Decir obscenidades no te va a dar lo que tu quieres.”

“Cuando te escucho llamarme tonta, me siento irritada porque necesito
cooperación y una resolución pacífica de nuestras diferencias. Estarías
dispuesta a decirme como te sientes y que necesidades tienes en vez de
decirme cómo piensas que soy?”
En vez de decir “Oye chicos, las linternas no son juguetes. No gasten las
baterías. Cuestan plata.”
“Cuando los veo chicos jugando con las linternas debajo de las sábanas,
me siento intranquilo. Quiero que esas linternas estén disponibles en caso
que tengamos de emergencia. Estarían dispuestos a apagarlas?”
En vez de decir: “Aitana, eres una desordenada, ya me tienes harto, qué

hacen tus medias sucias en la sala!”
“Aitana, cuando veo tus medias debajo de la mesa de la sala me siento
irritado porque estoy necesitando más orden en el area que compartimos
en común. Podrías por favor poner tus medias en tu cuarto o en la canasta
de ropa sucia?”
En ves de decir “Llegas tarde!”

“Tomás, cuando llegas 40 min. después de la hora en que hemos acordado
reunirnos me siento irritado porque me gustaría ser eficiente con mi
tiempo. Podrías por favor tomar eso en consideración para muestra
próxima reunión?"
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Escuchando empáticamente
Escuchando empáticamente
“Pedrito qué puedo hacer por ti?

Profe, no quiero que haga nada;
sólo quiero que me escuche.”
Es increíble como todo tiene solución cuando alguien escucha, cuando nos
sentimos comprendidos. La empatía nos permite transcenderlo todo.
El ingrediente clave de la escucha empática
La conexión empática implica conectarnos con lo que está sucediendo en

el otro en este momento. Es un respetuoso entendimiento de lo que está
vivo dentro del otro. Implica nuestra presencia. El ingrediente clave de la
empatía es presencia.
Es escuchar completamente presentes y darles el tiempo y el espacio que

necesitan para expresarse totalmente y sentirse comprendidos.
Reflejando sentimientos y necesidades
Para darle a alguien empatía solo necesitamos estar completamente

presentes manteniendo un silencio empático y reflejar lo que entendemos
revelando sus sentimientos y necesidades en forma de pregunta.
“Suena como si estuvieras insatisfecho porque necesitas sentirte apreciado

por el esfuerzo que hiciste.”
“Te sientes ... porque estás necesitando ....?”
“Te sientes molesto y te gustaría...?"
“Suena como si te estuvieses sintiendo desesperada y preferirías... Te
estoy escuchando bien?"
Que hacer si no atinamos con la reflexión
Si no atinamos con la reflexión o perdemos la conexión, inhalamos

profundamente y volvemos la atención a lo que la otra persona está
sintiendo y la carencia oculta tras sus sentimientos.
O podemos preguntar,
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“Ayúdame a entender cómo llegaste a sentir eso?”
“Estoy confundido. Me podrías ayudar a identificar que estás sintiendo y

necesitando? Me gustaría entender para sentirme conectado contigo y con
lo que necesitas.”
No asumir sentimientos
Siempre dejamos claro que indagamos sobre sus sentimientos y

necesidades. El tono de voz es una eficiente manera de hacer sentir
nuestra intensión indagadora, pero debemos ser cuidadosos de no asumir
sus sentimientos.
No decir, “Puedo ver que estás sintiendo así cuando...”

Siempre preguntar “Te sientes así porque...?"
No escuchar críticas personales
“Nunca escuches lo que la otra persona piensa sobre ti.”
No escuchamos las críticas, especialmente acerca de lo que la otra

persona está pensando de nosotros. Detrás de esas palabras hay un
individuo sintiéndose conflictuado con una carencia, tratando de contribuir
a su bienestar, dentro de sus posibilidades actuales. No lo tomamos de
forma personal.
Cuando alguien nos critica, lo que están diciendo es, “Estoy disgustado
porque tengo una necesidad que no logro cubrir , ni identificar.”
Podemos mirar a través sus palabras como una ventana para llegar a
identificar las carencias y necesidades no cubiertas. Cualquier expresión
en forma de crítica refleja alguien que está desesperadamente necesitando
empatía.
Cuidar el tono y la forma de reflejar
El tono de voz es muy importante. Cuando las personas se escuchan

reflejadas, se vuelven sensibles al más mínimo indicio de criticismo o
sarcasmo.
Tampoco imitar la manera en que se expresan ya que podría ser

confundido con un comportamiento de burla o sarcasmo.
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Constantemente verificar nuestro nivel de armonía
Recordar que el objetivo de la escucha empática es conectar

empáticamente en vez de pretender corregir al otro, así que antes de
hablar chequear nuestro nivel de armonía primero y verificar que nuestra
intensión sea que el otro cubra sus necesidades tanto como nosotros las
nuestras.
Que hacer si perdemos la armonía?
Primero calmarnos y sincerarnos...

“Me ayudaría mucho si podrías aguantarte de darme consejos antes de
que termine de decirte lo que deseo expresarte.”
“Me siento disgustado y sería de gran ayuda si pudieses escuchar lo que

tengo que decirte y luego reflejarme lo que me has escuchado decir.”
Tiempo Libre
Si estamos perdiendo la habilidad de conexión empática, pedir un tiempo

libre puede ser de gran ayuda.
“Tiempo! No te va a gustar nada que pueda decir en este momento.

Necesito un poco de empatía conmigo mismo antes de que podamos
continuar.”
Centrarse en el presente
En la comunicación empática hablamos muy poco de lo que sucedió en el

pasado. La sanación ocurre al evocar lo que está sucediendo y vivo en el
presente. No negamos que el pasado está afectando el presente, pero no
nos quedamos en el pasado.
“Como sientes ahora como resultado de lo que pasó?”
Si la persona sigue hablando sobre el pasado, nosotros no vamos allá con

ellos, los traemos a lo que está vivo en el presente, los sentimientos y
necesidades presentes, ocultas detrás de lo que están expresando.
Queremos saber lo que la persona está sintiendo y necesitando en este
momento.
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No mezclarnos con sus necesidades
Cuando escuchamos al otro, reflejamos sus sentimientos y

necesidades sin mezclarnos en ellas. Cuando nos mezclamos con sus
necesidades es como meterse en las fauces del chacal.
“De que sirve hablar contigo? Tu nunca escuchas”, es un acto suicida.

“Te sientes infeliz conmigo?”, es meterse directamente en las fauces del
chacal.
En vez de “Te sientes infeliz porque sientes que no te entiendo?”

decir “Te sientes infeliz porque necesitas sentirte escuchado?”
Brindarles todo el tiempo que necesiten
Es recomendable mantener la conexión empática hasta que la persona

haya recibido TODA la empatía que necesita. Identificamos los
sentimientos y necesidades, y los reflejamos de regreso. Repetimos esto
hasta que se sienta un silencio empático, como refrescante.
Muchas veces el tocar una necesidad no reconocida los lleva a otra en un

nivel más profundo.
Lo importante es mantener la conexión empática, la conexión a nivel del

corazón. Si escuchamos y reflejamos lo que están necesitando, sin
expresar críticas ni demandas, y ellos hacen lo mismo, la solución nos
encontrará fácilmente.
Ser lentos en buscar soluciones
En vez de empatía, tenemos la tendencia de dar consejo y explicar nuestra

posición o sentimientos. El entendimiento intelectual de un problema
bloquea el tipo de presencia que se requiere en la empatía. Nuestro
objetivo no es arreglar el problema. Nuestro objetivo es crear una conexión
empática, no tratar de resolverlo.
Clásicos comportamientos no empáticos
Consejo - “Pienso que tu deberías ir y....”

Una más - “Eso no es nada, a mi me pasó peor...”
Educando - “Eso puede convertirse en una experiencia positiva para ti, si
tan solo...”
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Consolando - “No fue tu culpa, tu hiciste todo lo que estaba a tu alcance...”
Contador de historias - “Eso me recuerda la vez en que yo estaba...”
Corregir - “Así no es como sucedieron las cosas...”
Empatía es estar presente, no tratar de arreglar nada
“Soy tan fea como un cerdo” - hija frente al espejo necesitando empatía.
“Eres la criatura más hermosa que Dios puso en la faz de la tierra” - padre
tratando de ayudar no empáticamente.
“Te sientes decepcionada con tu apariencia hoy día? - reflejo empático.
Con empatía estamos presentes, 

no tratamos de arreglar la situación.
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FAQ
Cómo decimos NO con empatía?
Expresamos las necesidades que tenemos por las que nos abstenemos de
decir sí.
En vez de decir, "No quiero ir",

decimos "Prefiero quedarme a descansar un rato.”
Cómo decimos LO SIENTO con empatía?
Nos enfocamos en la necesidad no cubierta que no fuimos capaces de

identificar en su momento.
“Me siento apenado porque no estuve cubriendo mi necesidad de

mantener un lenguaje respetuoso.”
Debemos recordad que no hay nada incorrecto o malo. Nuestros actos

simplemente son una respuesta armónica o no armónica con nuestras
necesidades en el momento.
Cómo decimos GRACIAS con empatía?
Tenemos una tendencia a agradecer mediante elogios positivos, como

“Eres brillante”, “Eres el mejor”, etc. Estas palabras positivas de
reconocimiento pueden ser armas de doble filo ya que por un lado,
reafirman la belleza lo que hicieron, pero invitan a confundir el sentido de
identidad con los elogios. Especialmente si se usa el término “eres”.
La mejor manera de agradecer es llevar la atención a lo que han hecho en

vez de a lo que son. ("estuviste", no “eres”)
“Haz leído muy bien.”

“Tu interpretación estuvo hermosa.”
Expresamos lo que sentimos ahora sobre lo que hemos obtenido.

“Estoy contenta de verte crecer y aprender.”
“Estoy feliz de ver que tu esfuerzo dio resultados hermosos.”
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Como se manifiesta el amor incondicional?
El amor incondicional se manifiesta únicamente si está libre de cualquier

condicionamiento. Es decir cuando muestro el mismo respeto a un “no”
que a un “si”. La persona recibe la misma calidad empática de nosotros,
estemos o no de acuerdo con lo que expresan.
"Te amo sin importar lo que hagas o pienses. Te amo porque estoy
agradecido por la oportunidad de vivir la experiencia de estar en tu
presencia."
"Si nosotros cambiamos,

cambia el mundo y
la realidad que percibimos.
Y nuestro cambio se inicia
cambiando nuestro lenguaje
y la manera de comunicarnos."
- Arun Gandhi -

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Faster Emotional Freedom

Technique (EFT)
- quoting Robert Smith -
Faster EFT is a simple technique based on the idea (and direct experience)
that, by tapping on the meridians we creates a disruption in the association
between the thoughts and the body sensations related to to those thoughts,
so we can release and let go all negative emotions and reprogram the
association between them.
By tapping you create a disruption, a blockage between the “mind - body

communication” and allow it to be reprogrammed by creating a new
emotional neural association (peace) to the memory, a change of
perception.
Everything inside of you is really you!
EVERYTHING, every memory, every person, every character inside you is

YOU. When you blame a situation or someone for what you are feeling, it is
you, it’s always you. If you run from your problems, if you run from things
you are resisting... you keep them alive. Heal your relationship with your life
today. But you have to first realize that everything is just you. You are the
victim, you are the victimizer and you are the movie director.
If you keep the negative memory and feeling alive in you, it will repeat
again and again, it will come out to the surface, it will find the way until you
deal with it. So make peace with everything inside of you. Make peace with
what torments you. Memories buried alive never die.
In order for you to get something different, you’ve got to change what you
hold within you. Change how you see things, change how you produce
things and change how you vibrate inside. So Make peace with what’s
inside.
The Faster EFT style
Aiming
Aiming is the most important part. Aiming at the feeling. When you are
looking inside of you, you are looking for pain, you are looking for
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discomfort. Noticing what it is inside you that is bothering you, recognize it.
It could be a feeling in your body, a sensation associated with the memory
of what happened. Notice what it is, and then you tap. Just notice it, and
then you tap.
Sometimes, when you address your issues, you feel sensations inside you
that usually don’t have words. The difficulty comes trying to name what we
are feeling. Emotions are labels we give to sensations and feelings in our
body. Just notice the sensation inside, the location, the intensity. A
heaviness in your chest, a tightness in your stomach, it doesn’t mean you
have to know the original cause. Then aim at the feeling.
You don’t have to know where it came from, what it is or who gave it to you,
just put it out of your system. You feel it and you tap it away, you release it.
Taping
Notice the sensation, then tap as you say... “I let it go, I release and let it
go, it’s safe to let it go, it’s ok to let it go.” Take a deep breath, blow it out
and say “peace”. While you are tapping notice your fingertips. You don’t
have to hold it while you’re tapping, just feel your fingertips. While you say
peace, create an emotional association related to a peaceful memory or
feeling.
Checking
Go back and check if it is gone. If it isn’t gone, then go and do it again.
Usually the mind will lead you to other issues, follow the thread and keep
aiming and tapping. If it leads you to memories... just feel the sensations
related to those memories and tap them away. Keep taping until the
sensation has completely changed or dissolved. Tap until it’s gone or until
you pass out. Whatever comes first. Keep tapping until you know it is gone.
Re-imprinting
A technique for re-imprinting or flipping the memory is called borrowing, and
it is simply borrowing the emotion from a different memory, and re-
imprinting the old memory with the other emotion in order to change it to
something more positive.
You can change the negative sensation and make it positive. When you flip
the memory, you can never go back and feel the same sensation again.
They can never play the old way again. You are always responsible of how
you interpret your past. So, re-imprinting is basically re-wrighting your
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history. You change your life by changing the way you internalize things.
Remember,
“History is determined by the storyteller.”
Be nice with yourself

Taking control of your mind is important, because otherwise you are going
to be a servant to whatever you recorded within you. By being in control
you can change your mind and in that way, change your vibration and your
life. Keep taping until you get full emotional control.
The most important thing about you is learning to like yourself and be nice
with yourself. You will be happier, you will be more in control and you will
have peace with your past. And abiding with peace is what it is all about.
Make peace with yourself. Release the pain and change your life. Make
peace with what you hold, and create something better.
EFT is an amazing skill. You need to enter tapping emotions and clearing
out, like a room cleaner. It is very easy and it works. Change your history.
Keep it simple.
Resources:
Robert Smith website http://www.fastereft.com
YouTube recommended playlist for learning FasterEFT
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLB0F36C2C7F4BB94D
Robert Smith YouTube Channel
https://www.youtube.com/user/HealingMagic
My personal playlist on FasterEFT
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLjt-
DaBnhsYN333UIi2zZg9AVdhsTseXb
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Cultivating Altruism
This text was extracted from a conversation bringing together French Tibetan monk
Matthieu Ricard, author of the new book “Altruism: The Power of Compassion to
Change Yourself and the World” and Richard Davidson, the pioneering University of
Wisconsin neuroscientist whose research has established a Western scientific
foundation for the value of Eastern meditative practices.
Altruism is the action of putting other people's well-being on a more equal

footing with our own. It is considered by the Dalai Lama as a kind of fast-
track to personal happiness and the key to how we as a species are going
to survive the next century.
Altruism is the most pragmatic concept to work together for a better world.
We can cultivate this quality. When the number of individuals who have this
sort of new idea achieves critical mass, then we can have a tipping point to
a change in society, in culture, and in institutions.
Human beings come into the world with a propensity for altruistic behavior,
unfortunately, over the course of a normal preschool year, the average child
becomes more and more selfish. But when properly nourished, we actually
can see changes in the brain after as little as two weeks of practice, as little
as 30 minutes a day.
Altruism and kindness are just as any other skill. If we want to excel in a
sport or at a musical instrument, we have to train, so how come we believe
that our kindness, our compassion will be at the optimum level right from
the start without doing anything about it? Compassion, the cultivation of
compassion, is a skill that we learn through an embodied kind of practice.
And then it becomes much more enduring.
Perform a mental exercise for just 30 minutes a day. Envision bringing a

person into your mind and your heart. It could be a person who is close to
you. Envision a time where this person may be suffering. And then cultivate
the strong aspiration that they'd be relieved from that suffering. Feel the
emotion rather than just thinking about it and notice whatever sensations
may be present in your the body.
When you are doing the exercise you can use different targets each time.
So you start with a loved one, and you eventually move on to what we have
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called a difficult person — someone who may push your buttons.
Eventually you will find that one hour of practice with a difficult person is
equivalent to 100 hours of practice with all the other categories.
We asked people to practice for just 30 minutes a day for two weeks, a total
of 7 hours, and we put them in the MRI scanner before and after, and we
can actually see differences in their brain. We have the potential to enrich
our altruism, and we can take more responsibility for our own brains and
shape our brains in ways that support these healthy habits of mind.
Empathy is the quality of becoming aware of the other’s situation. Imagine

the mental benefit in your family, at work, of twenty minutes a day of caring
mindfulness, of loving kindness meditation. You will develop better
judgment and more emotional balance. That seems to be a pretty good
investment in your life.
Our brains are constantly being shaped, willingly or unwillingly. And the
invitation we're offering is that we can all take more responsibility for our
own brains and shape our brains in ways that support these healthy habits
of mind. It's available to every one of us and it really is very simple.
Your task is not to seek for love,

but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself
that you have built against it.
Rumi -
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Matt Kahn Videos on youTube

Combinar la enseñanzas de Matt Kahn, las de Michael Brown y las de
cultivar altruismo en un nuevo paradigma que nos lleva a sentir amor.
Como fuimos condicionados a estar en la mente y como crear una práctica
para volvernos sensibles y heart centered y amar todo lo que surja en
nuestra realidad y transformarlo todo y aceptar con amor la realidad como
es.
Shifting from mind to heart centered

How we get conditioned to be mind centered
We grow as children, accepting and learning the way our parents and
school and society teach us without question. We have been conditioned to
proceed in this way to avoid punishment and rejection.
If you look at the school system, children learn that if you don’t learn the
way the world has been conditioned to learn then you won’t get a good
grade of achievement and you might get punished with rejection.
Love is the goal you wish to feel within you
Everyone that treats you in a bad way is laking of love, its a crying out for
love. Everyone is crying for love.
Love is the goal you wish to feel and realize within you. Our attention is
centered in the head, in the mind because of hundred of years of
conditioning. You can gain many realizations of truth but unless you
become heart centered you will not be able to maintain the vibration of love,
which is what you have been seeking all your life.
Shifting your attention to the heart
So awakening is when this gravitational force of attention in the mind, drops

into the heart and reverses itself. And maybe for the first time you
experience what it’s like when attention is oriented into the heart. Which
means attention is oriented in the body, and free of the need to use the
mind to interpret our emotional experiences, and external experiences.
Attention in the heart is how attention rests when we are babies. We are
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here just to feel whatever our experience is in perception and that’s what
happens when people have an awakening experience.
Awakening is reversing the process so attention abides in the heart and just
go into the mind for a simple process.
Allowing yourself to feel what you are feeling
If you recognize that love is what you are seeking in the core of your life
experience, then declare your only interest to shift your point of awareness
from abiding in the mind to abiding in the heart, and then align yourself with
teachings who’s only interest is to return your attention to the purity of love
that you already are.
The journey of awakening is a journey of the heart. Any time you find
yourself feeling in a way that feels uncomfortable to you, instead of thinking
about what you think it represents, just simply bring your attention to the
heart and be interested in feeling what you are feeling and not thinking
about it. The more times you simply bring attention into the heart, just to
feel your experience and not think about it, the more your body will actually
open up.
Love yourself practice
Love yourself, love your heart in response to anything that pops up in your
field. If anything gets your attention, love it. Give to yourself the love and
attention that you have not learned how to give yourself up to this point.
Love your own heart.
Make it your spiritual practice. Love your heart on a regular basis,

relentlessly. Constantly, make time to love your heart. Loving your heart is
the response to anything that comes into presence. You will increase your
vibrational frequency and your perception will change. (Te quiero a todo lo
que se manifieste en mi realidad.)
This is a “love what arises paradigm” and starts within you. It does not need
to include anyone else. All the time, love your heart and everything arriving
in your reality. Whatever… love it.
How the mind will try to justify not to go there
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Your mind will give you reasons why it is important to resolve problems and
have control over everything going in your life, and will justify why you do
not have time to give love to your heart. Change your pattern, change your
behavior, start loving yourself and witness the change happening like a
direct experience.
Inauthentic sensation
If you don’t feel it is because you are still not familiar with the sensation of
the words but if you keep repeating it, your subconscious mind will give
permission to your body to feel the love you are projecting with your words.
You are the one re-writing the programs of your subconscious mind.
Start creating new patterns within your subconscious mind by making “I

love you” the most popular thing you are saying to yourself.
Everything is a reflection of how you treat yourself
Life is a cosmic word game. Words have energy. The words you say to
yourself more often dictates how you feel about yourself, and becomes the
view you hold about how the world sees you. Everything is a reflection of
how you treat yourself.
This is a transformative different way you can approach your reality. This is
not about creating outcomes. We do not create outcomes. We treat
ourselves with love and we naturally witness how the world treats ourselves
in the same way we choose to treat ourselves. That is quantum mechanics.
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Freedom From Adversity
Subido 24/May/2014
Everything that happens to us is there to help you evolve
When life doesn’t go your way you don’t like it. We hate unexpected
uncomfortable change, but when it happens to others we love it. For
example, when you go to watch a movie, you love adversity. The character
will enter an uncomfortable situation and we ask ourselves, “Now, how is he
going to get out of it?” And we are glued to the screen excited to see how
he resolves the situation or not.
When you watch a movie, you understand the fact that everything that
happens to the character is only there to evolve the character into a higher
aspects of itself. But in our life we tend to forget that everything that
happens to us is there to help us evolve and expand into higher aspects of
consciousness and inspire our deepest growth.
The unconscious habit of punishing yourself
When adversity comes into your life, you feel stressed and tend to change
the storyline thinking that by doing that you will make the stress of adversity
disappear. But it will come again in a different shape.
[When adversity comes, you like yourself less. You punish yourself with a
kind of inability to love the character that is going through inevitable
unexpected change. The truth is, when you love the character in adversity
you help them through that adversity faster. So it is opposite.
Life unfolds without a plan
[Life is happening like a free flow and we are here to witness it, and when
the wind is blowing south, the leave that fall from the tree will flow south,
dancing with her fate. ]
La vida fluye como una danza infinita, libre, y nosotros estamos aquí para
encarnarla y observarla. Cuando el viento en el bosque sopla hacia el sur,
la hoja que se soltó del árbol vuela hacia el sur, danzando en el viento en
armonía con su destino. No se cuestiona, “No se suponía que volaría hacia
el norte? Quién es responsable de esto?”
[There is no answer to why?

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The Universe will remain silent no matter how many times we ask the same
question.]
La razón por la cual una hoja que cuelga de un árbol se mueve en una
dirección es porque la brisa sopla en esa dirección. No hay otra razón. Fluir
significa danzar con el viento en la misma dirección. No preguntamos
porqué está fluyendo en esa dirección porque ahora sabemos que no
sabemos. Entonces nos convertimos en el flujo de la vida, nos volvemos
uno con lo que es.
Blaming when life doesn’t go our way
Pero increíblemente, hemos sido programados inconscientemente desde

pequeños a asumir que somos responsables de nuestros destinos y de
cierta manera pareciera que así fuera. Somos responsables de cómo nos
sentimos más no del resultado. La vida fluye y con ella el amor de vivirla
completamente.
Al hacernos responsables del resultado generamos el miedo de ser

responsables del resultado. En cuando sucede la adversidad, en cuanto
las cosas fluyen en una dirección no esperada, nuestra primera reacción
subconsciente es la de rechazar la idea y la sensación de ser responsables
de la adversidad. En ese preciso momento dejamos de sentir amor hacia
nosotros mismos, hacia nuestro corazón.
We cannot control the terms and conditions of every outcome. But we have
been programmed to think and hold the idea that if something goes wrong,
it is because of someone’s fault.
We think we are in control of outcomes and when something adverse

comes as an unexpected outcome we blame ourselves because we think
or suspect we are doing it. We’re not.
You cannot determine the outcome only the quality of your

experience
You can do your best but you are not responsible of the outcome. Only for
how you feel about it.
It’s ok that you cannot control the terms and conditions of every outcome,
because those have been predetermined before our incarnation began.
Fate is out of your hand. You can’t change the outcome but you can make
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choices that determined how you experience and how you feel the quality
of the experience of what is already meant to be. So, your choices do not
create outcomes, your choices determine the quality of the movie you are
living out.
You can witness someone laughing and feel ofended, you are not laughing.
Your perception will determine your experience. Your choices will not
determine the outcome but the quality of your experience as you
experience the outcomes that guaranty your growth.
When things go my way… I think I manifested that. When things don’t go

my way… Why did I manifest that?
You are not free from change, you can be free of adversity when you are
free from allowing change to throw you out of alignment with your highest
wisdom, out of your heart, out of your innocent self loving attention.
So my problem is not adversity, my problem is how little I love myself when

change arrises. It does’t matter what you think, it matters what you say to
yourself when life falls apart. The moment you don’t get your way.
Treat yourself like a child in pain

How do you speak to yourself in adversity? Treat yourself or others in the
same way you will speak to a five year old in pain. (You will not say, Hey
Honey, why did you manifest that?)
Thinking something will not manifest it.

Children think there is a monster in the closet but we do not have a problem
of monsters in the closets in any city on the planet. Reality is not stupid.
The gap between your way and life’s way

The moment you don’t get your way is the moment life says, here is the
difference between life’s plan for you and your plan for you.
Going beyond understanding the importance of self love

Understanding the importance of self love is not the same as experiencing
Self love.
Loving yourself and transforming your perception of reality

[EVERY TIME YOU love yourself you will transform your experience and
your perception of reality]
Love your own heart.
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I need to be the one that loves myself more.
When things go your way… “I love you”, when things don’t go your way… “I
love you”
When people disappoint you… “I love you”
Feel your pain and send love to your heart.
We are constantly looking for external approval

We spend most of our life trying to be valued by other people, to earn the
approval of people instead of being the one that loves you the way other
people couldn’t.
What is your inner child truly looking for?

The inner child only wants HONESTY AND SELF LOVE
What is required in this journey is honesty. Be honest with yourself.
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Love Is The Only Answer

Subido 21/Nov/2014
Loving yourself more is the way of healing

The way of healing is loving yourself more, not less. Love is the only
answer. Loving yourself throughout ever unexpected moment. If you love
and adore your heart all things will be transformed in your life.
No matter what, you deserve more love

When you are sad, you deserve more love, not less. When you are angry,
you deserve more love, not less. When you feel broken, you deserve more
love, not less. When you are frustrated, you deserve more love, not less.
When you are ashamed of yourself, you deserve more love, not less.
(eres digno, mereces, tienes derecho a recibir) No matter what… you
deserve more love, not less.
[hemos sido programados al castigar como corrección]
Come as you are

Come as you are and love you as you are.
What if you don’t know how to love yourself?

If you don’t know how to love yourself, start by loving the one who does’t
know how to love yourself. Love the one who is looking for love but does’t
know how to let it in.
Don’t punish yourself when you feel upset

The myth is that the spiritual journey will lead you to a state where you will
feel peaceful all the time.
I am inviting you to love yourself however you feel.
(tendency to blame and punish myself when I don’t measure up or feel the
way I want to feel)
All emotions are waiting for love

All the emotions fall into the umbrella of love. So no matter what you’re
feeling, is a part of love.
We let ourselves feel however we feel and recognizing that that feeling is
what is waiting for the love that we’ve never been taught how to give it.
That’s why we say, whatever arises within you, love that.
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We reject the yucky emotions

We have the tendency to think that if I love the one who feel yucky, the
yucky part is going to show up more often. And it doesn’t work that way.
The yucky part would hang out more often when you refuse to give it the
love it deserves.
You have the right to not be loving

You don’t have to be loving. You have the right to not be loving. it is a
choice of your free will because you like how it feels. If you don’t have to be
loving then you can choose it.
——
Mirror effect??
You walk around thinking, however one acts is a mirror of what’s
unresolved in me. The truth is that other people act out to show you how
much they have on their plate while they don’t have enough time and
attention to give you the love they can’t give to themselves.
Other people behaviors are not about me. Nothing is about me. They are
telling me where they are in their journeys.
The reality is, we cannot love other people through their journey until we
love ourselves through ours.
Raising Your Vibration

Subido el 2/Feb/2015
Raising your vibration to take empowered choices

You know exactly what you should be doing, but you are not doing it.
Until you raise your vibration, you won’t be able to access the kind of
choices that you already know are in your best interest.
We know what to do, we know what is in our best interest but for some
reason we have not addressed the subconscious mind and there is an
energetic reason why we are not doing what we know is in our best
interest.
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You are not able to make empowered choices in your life until your vibration
is raised.
When you raise your vibration, what was the result of effort, suddenly
becomes a natural and intuitive choice.
Everyone is presenting us an opportunity to open ourself to love

[If someone is not acting in a nice way towards us, be nice with them
instead of thinking that you have the right to not be nice back. Everyone is
presenting us an opportunity to open ourself to love, to cultivate positive
vibrations.]
Start by being nice to yourself and being nice with others.
Soul Contracts, Twin Flames & Soul Mates Redefined

Subido 8/Jul 2015
Everything is divinely orchestrated, there is no wrongness in anything.
—-
You cannot judge others and love yourself at the same time.
Everything Is Here to Help You- Matt Kahn

Subido 21/Jul/2015
New paradigm of heart centered consciousness.

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Everything always works out
Como hemos sido condicionados a estar centrados en la mente.

Como una revelación o experiencia pico es temporal y pasajera mientras
no estemos centrados en el corazón.
Como estar centrados en el corazón es lo que todos estamos buscando en
realidad.
Como estar centrados en el corazón es el resultado de una practica de
vida.
Como nos sacamos de onda cuando la vida da giros inesperados a
nuestras expectativas.
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El condicionamiento clásico de negación y proyección basado en años de

condicionamiento, culpa, castigo y responsabilidad por la falta de control.
El proceso nuevo:
- Aceptación radical (está bien, la vida va por otro lado)
- entrar en el sentimiento
- abrazar al que siente como a un niño de 5 años hasta que se calme
el mandarnos amor nos ayuda a aceptar que la vida fluye por su cuenta
conspirando siempre para darnos la más alta lección de vida.
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The Most Essential Spiritual Question - Matt Kahn

Subido 21/Sep/2015 buensimo!!! (tengo el video)
Abiding in a Heart Centered State

“Who am I?” is a very direct and profound question. There is no answer to
that question in a conceptual way, the answer might come as a direct
experience beyond words that will open a direct realization of your nature.
“Who am I?” will bring you a deep self realization of the absence of the
fictional character we project, but is a goal oriented question.
All what you have accumulated and realizes doesn’t actually matter
now. Not what you learned in your spiritual journey, not what you realized,
not what you think you are, not what is truth, none of that actually matters.
Your everyday life will confirm the fact that if those questions mattered, it
would make a difference in your life and it doesn’t.
Abiding in a heart centered state is what you are seeking

At the end, all these realizations will not matter if you are unable to abide in
a loving state, which is what you have been seeking all your life.
Who am I will not guarantee you are going to be a nice person. Talking
about self realization only works when you are around people that are
equally interested in that topic.
What do you prefer? Self realization or love? Because abiding in a heart

centered state is not a realization, it is a journey, a life long practice.
Heart centered abiding

We all know that love is the highest vibration in existence. We all know the
power of love in a conceptual way. We live in a world of people that know
the power of love but don’t know how to awaken it in themselves.
What happens when love is not just something that we embrace

conceptually, but that we learn to invite in every cell of our being, and fulfill
us, and support us, and embrace us? What happens when love as the
higher vibration in existence is invited as your guide to resolve any
circumstances in your life?
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Lets learn how to put the power of love in action.
Life’s plan vs. my plan

What takes us out of balance?
There is a very honest mantra that reveal one truth about life:
“Sometimes life sucks”
It will reveal the difference between Life’s plan vs. my plan. That difference
creates suffering and conflict in the world.
How do we close the gap?

We love ourselves to make peace with life not going our way.
Abiding in the heart is a life long practice

Again, remember that abiding in a heart centered state is not an
spontaneous realization, it is a life long practice. Understanding love to be
important is not the same as loving yourself regularly. Loving yourself and
loving what arises has to be a life long constant practice that will naturally
bring you to a space of high vibration, high frequency.
Who do I become when I don’t get my way?

In the process of “loving what arrises” the most essential question is one
that can assist you all the way. The most essential question will need to
reminds you where you are in your heart centered journey, a question that
is reminding you and constantly checking on yourself.
Who do I become when I don’t get my way?

Who do I become when life doesn’t go my way?
Who do you become when you don’t get your way?
Do you become a manipulator, saying, “I have done so much for you so I

expect you to do this for me.” A corrector, “Let me give you the reasons why
you should do it my way…until you do” Who do you become when you
don’t get your way?
A real master will say “When I don’t get my way… it’s ok”. They don’t
pretend they don’t have a way, it just doesn’t matter.
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But the question will point you to the sensation, the feeling arising in the
moment.
Who do you become when you are not recognized the way you want to?
Who do you become when you feel invisible to the world?
Who do you become when you do far more for others and they don’t even
have the awareness to reciprocate that behavior for you?
Who do you become when you think life is unfair?
Who do you become when you imagine a vision of a perfect scenario and it
doesn’t seem as if life is taking that direction?
Anything that gets in your way is your spiritual practice

An ego can get mad at someone else for getting in the way of their spiritual
process, not realizing that anything that gets in your way is your spiritual
process.
Life’s way is your highest destiny in action

Every way in which life unfolds is your highest destiny in action. You may
not like what is arising as catalyst to your higher evolution but its always
guaranteed to make you more evolved and more masterful somewhere
down the line. Everything is your spiritual process.
Reacting when life doesn’t go my way

When life doesn’t go your way, you tend to suppress your emotions,
going against the natural healing process already taking place there, and
you tend to blame and judge people who get in the way of an imaginary
healing process. We learned to do this in our best effort to avoid feeling this
way.
Honesty
Who do I become when I don’t get my way? The question will point to your
feelings. If you feel angry, you ask yourself, “Oh, I am feeling angry, so,
What is not going my way right now?
You are being at least honest with yourself, because you can not love what
arises without honesty. You have the right to feel and be the way you
naturally are. If anger is manifesting, it is ok. Life is not going your way,
that’s all. That’s honesty.
It is ok to allow your feelings to come to the surface. It’s ok to be angry,

agitated, irritated, because those are the feelings in your body that will help
you make peace with the fact that life won’t always go your way.
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So it’s ok when you don’t like the way you are feeling, when you feel
frustrated, it is at least honesty. To say that you shouldn’t feel the way you
are is a kind of self denial.
Love the one who is agitated

The truth is, when you are agitated, love the one who is agitated. When you
are frustrated, love the one that is frustrated. Loving yourself more, not
less.
Not trying to not feel a certain way and not punishing or persecuting
yourself. Let the emotions arrive without being blind and projecting them on
other people. (Do not shoot the messenger). Do you hold something to
defend? Love the one who holds onto that.
It’s not “be loving” instead of “anger”

When you are angry, love that one. I am not saying be loving instead of
anger. Anger is a chance to love a part of you that needs love and is not
getting its way. Is not, I should be loving instead of fearful. Love the one
who’s afraid.
The old paradigm says “I should be this instead of that.”

Now is… “Be however you are and love that one.” (not, be love instead of
anger).
Love everything as it is (love you as you are)

Life says, “Come as you are.” Life doesn’t want you on your best behavior.
Life wants you as you are now.
Whatever you are pushing away could be a catalysis to your highest

potential
How can I see this as a gift to welcome instead of an enemy to avoid?
You can’t use spirituality to avoid something, you are going to use
spirituality to see in such an expanded perspective why this that you are
judging and pushing away, instead of being a barrier to your greatness,
could be a catalysis of your highest potential.
Why we hold onto getting our way?

The one who insists on things going his way is crying for love.
So, why are we all holding onto things going our way? Because we think
that is going to give us the fulfillment that only our love can provide.
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Resolve everything with love, and that includes the ability to feel all the
emotions.
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Nobility is when “No one is going to notice any of your good nature, but
you. And if that’s enough that’s true nobility.
———
I don’t need to get my way in order to be happy
The universe is always conspiring in our highest favor, in the emergence of

our highest potential.
You are not going to get your way for the most part, but even if you always
got your way, you end up receiving far less than what life has stored for
you.
In the beginning you have nothing but questions, in the end you have
nothing but gratitude and loving what arrises is what causes that shift to
happen faster than anything else.
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Breath of Life - Matt Kahn
Subido el 12/Oct/2015
I can’t be a thought because they are always changing.

I can’t be my feelings because they change.
My body change, my thoughts change, my feelings change, but there is
something about me that doesn’t change. We want to be rooted in what
doesn’t change to be in harmony with a life of endless changes.
I am doesn’t change, whatever you add will change.

You can experience awareness or I am, and then what? What is the point of
that realization if you still don’t feel very nice, bursting with love.
Let’s explore what doesn’t change.

There is something within you that is unchanging, that cannot be
interrupted, and that is the living highest example of transcending reality,
something within you that already welcomes everything in existence
whenever it arrises and that says farewell to everything when it is time to
go. It is the first thing that occurs at birth and the last thing that occurs in
the experience of death.
Birth and death merge together to form “breath”. Your breath is the living
example. In every inhale the breath welcomes everything that arises,
whatever the fate of life will be, and in every exhale it says farewell to
whatever is meant to go.
Love is the higher vibration and the breath is the highest teacher, and your
tour guide.
An “Activating question” is a different kind of question.

It doesn’t expect an answer but a feeling in your body, an opening
experience or a shift of perspective.
What if I told you that you are the breath and nothing else?
What if you are the breath experiencing itself in form?
The truth of reality is contained in the span one breath.
After death you move from a physical body into a light body and the breath
continues into a different dimension, in a different level of infinite
exploration.
So what if you only knew yourself as the breath?

Just be the breath. You are breathing in, now you are breathing out.
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The mind is not in the way of it.
If you are able to breath in and out, you are having a good day.
Being your breath and bringing your breath with you is key in your journey.
Synchronize your breath with the beauty of your journey.
How you are breathing in every moment will impact in the quality of your
experience.
As your breath slows down your mind relaxes and your energy field opens
up.
Come within means come back to your breath.
Be the breath. I am the breath.
Who am I? … a breath occurs.
So, discover the joy of just breathing consciously… slowly, deep,
Your breath is the only thing that has always been given to you.
[In the breath we perceive the frequency of our vibration, the tension, the
calm. The quality of our breath is what guides our internal vibration.]
The one thing that will never leave you, the one thing that will never
change, is the breath.
The breath is the carrier of love.
In the beginning there was the breath.
We love our hearts and we reunite with our breath to open ourselves to
love.
The truth is love, and the tour guide leading you there is your breath.
The breath is what I am and what you are.
The breath has no opposites.
The rate of your breath from shallow to deep and the way you are breathing
will change your vibration and your perception of reality. So it is your
conscious choice how often you decide to reunite with your breath on a
regular basis.
Change the pattern of your breathing.
“Just be” means “Just be the breath”.

inhale, exhale
Return to your breath
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[The breath will determine the quality of your vibration. Breathe effortlessly,
slowly, deeply.]
That’s the invitation. Be the breath.

Let your heart reunite with the breath, and abide as the breath, and be the
breath.
[Heal yourself and open up to love]
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Whatever arises, love that

Subido 21/Ene 2016
To begin your own love revolution, is really a transition from waiting for
others in your life to treat you in the way you want to be treated, or say the
kind words you want to hear, to becoming the source of your own
fulfillment.
You ask yourself, “What are the words I have been waiting for others to
say? and, Can I be the one to say that to myself?
Can I be the one that does to myself what other may not be designed to
do?
Can I be the one that loves myself instead of blaming and judging the
journey of others?
Can I deepen into my own journey by giving to myself all that I desperately
cry out for and was waiting for others to provide me?
Can I become the love that I desire?
Can I be the support that I have been waiting for, instead of waiting for
others to do it for me?
Can I be the love I”ve always been waiting for?
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Insecurity, inferiority or arrogance
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For the LOVE of Everything

Lisa Cairns
Reward System Conditioning

When babies there is no sense of separation from life or its mother. No
energetic contraction. There is pure Aliveness happening, everywhere.
As we grow, we start creating an energetic sense of separation, “I am a

body” or “I finish at the end of my body and my mother is out there.”
Then we enter another state, where the child is taught by the parents what
is good and what is bad. If you follow the instructions of what your parents
consider the proper actions, you will receive positive attention.
You learn how to be a good child and play nice with your friends. Children
learn that they have to be nice in order to be rewarded or avoid
punishment. In school they learn to think in a logical way in order to get
rewarded.
Gradually the child begins to compete and seek to improve because the
conditioning teaches that getting the most attention is personal happiness
and fulfillment. Puberty comes, and fulfillment is found in getting the
opposite sex’s attention or in planing the future.
As we grow and due to this conditioning, importance is found in the seeking

in time. The first-best is future, the second-best is past and the third-best is
“This”.
“The excitement comes from longing for the future, or what you are going to
get in the future, when you become rich, or get a house, or do certain
things. The focus is that you are somebody in time, and you must strive for
your own happiness. And this is hardly even talked about or noticed.
There is nothing wrong with this game. This game is something that
appears. It is not in your control; it is just what seems to appear in the
human dynamic, this huge focus on time.
The motivation mechanism of “What will be”
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The motivation of life has been based on striving for the future. It was never
about what was happening right now, it was more about this huge strategy
of what will be.
If I do this, I will be happy. If I stop this, I will be happy. If I make my parents

respect me, I will be happy. If I do well, people will appreciate me, If I get
enough money, I can stop worrying. I will be happy when I solve this
problem. It goes on an on.
The futility of future

Getting fulfilled in the future is dreaming, a dreamland, an absolute false
reality. This dream feels so real, but really, what is this ultimate pleasure
that we are going to get? We can’t even answer the question of who we
are.
How we get obsessed with a result in a dreamt future

People spend all its time in wanting something else, thinking about
something else, or trying to get to something else, or trying to DO
something else.
There is nothing wrong in moving toward something, but it is not it the

getting. It is in whatever is happening It’s always about what is happening.
The source misleading assumption

All this problems arise with the idea that you are someone separate inside
of a body. If that was not there, all of these problems would not arise. This
idea that you are acting independently from everything else is not true.
The Being~ness and Alive~ness, which is always here and never changes,
and isn’t separate from anything is All that is. There really has never been a
going home, because there has always been that Being~ness, dreaming
and playing all these different things.
Where is Aliveness?
It is boundless, and it cannot be limited to the body. It is not inside or
outside. It cannot be found yet it IS everything.
What is the self?

The “I” is a tight contracted energy giving us the sense of separation. The
self.
Why or how it collapses?
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I don’t know how or why it collapses. It just kind of falls away, and that
dream that you were separate dies. Ultimately that collapse is going to
happen in physical death, but it can seem to happen when the body is alive
as well.
What happen to the self when it collapse?

After the collapse, the character still carries on, along with the
characteristics of the body arising IN this. It is no longer “you” but a part of
this.
Where is freedom?
Freedom is in the act of what is happening. Freedom is right here and right
now. It is not found in sorting it out in time.
Life is messy and brutal and bloody, and beautiful and divine and pretty.
Love is the end of that one that is trying to control it. It’s the end of that
seeking energy. Embracing it all and not trying to get away in dreamland.
The Aliveness, the Beingness is always here and free. It is not going to give
you a story of peace or a more peaceful future. We don’t know the future.
We know there is freedom here and it is no~thing and every~thing.
Can it be controlled in any way?

“I am scared and I can’t bear this being out of control. I hope to control this
and make a better tomorrow.”
This is not controllable. It’s absolutely wild. In a way this is absolute death.
Action without the self

When action happen there is no sense anymore in looking for something
more than what is happening, because there is not anybody there anymore
to complete.
Thoughts still appear, the movement towards pleasure happen but

everything is appearing in boundlessness. It is not appearing for anyone
anymore.
This is the death of “you.” This is the death of that one that was in love with
trying to find love.
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What is left when the person dies? What is. It has no purpose and it is
going absolutely nowhere. Forms are appearing and disappearing for no
reason at all.
Liberation doesn’t make you special. It is the absence of what I would call
suffering.
This is loss, not a getting or becoming. This is losing.
Personal and Impersonal love

There are two types of love. There is personal, relationship love and
impersonal love.
Personal love is when love is personalized in two body~mind mechanisms,

like falling in love and committing themselves. This type of love is
conditional. This type of love can have a lot of suffering and a lot of highs.
There is a lot of suffering because its foundation is that there is a separate

entity in this other body, and they have free will and choice, and they have
the ability to give me this high pleasure of love. When they don’t give me
this love, they upset me, and I hate them. Questions like “Why are they not
giving me my pleasures? often arise in this type of love. They live in a
dreamland.
Impersonal love is when there is a relationship that is without relationship.

Two body~minds mechanisms are together, but they are, simply put, just
together. There can be kissing and loving each other happening, but they
are not kissing in time. There are just together in this. They are always now
and present.
We are looking for pleasure and avoid suffering and we receive what
is
More than likely what is wanted is a guide to constant pleasure. What is
looked for is a more pleasurable life, pleasurable sensations, less irritation
and conflict with others. That is what is wanted, which isn’t wrong.
Some bodies might have more pleasure, money and success, while other
bodies might have a poor, sick and painful life that is about fighting for
survival. Some body-minds might have a nice life, but a very difficult
conditioning, while others might have terrible lives and a very easy
conditioning.
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There is not a somebody inside the body that it is control of that. I am
pointing to the absence of that self. It isn’t about continuos pleasure or a
continued state. It’s about the absence of that lie. When that lie goes, it is
just life as it is, and it is no longer a struggle anymore for a somebody.
There may be difficult events that arise or pleasurable events, but there is
no longer anybody inside the body anymore. There is just life happening,
and the character appearing when the character needs to appear. But it is
no longer living “through” that character anymore.
Would you want a more pleasurable life or the end of you?

The “me” is always escaping and dreaming, and making up better stories,
and retelling the story to make it sound better. This is the absence of that
person, the absence of the middleman.
It’s full-on experiencing without a barrier anymore. The difference is that

there isn’t anybody that cares about it anymore in order to be happy. There
isn’t anyone who needs a certain experience.
You lose everything. You are not going to suddenly be better than everyone
else because you’re enlightened, because you’re gone. You’re not better or
worse.
You are no going to care about saving the world anymore. You are not living
in an imagination of what “should” be anymore.That doesn’t mean that in
seeing people hurting, the body doesn’t respond and help. But it’s no longer
living in imagination. It doesn’t mean that you won’t give to charity, but
you’re not saving the world anymore. This is full-on.
Comparison
All language works on the idea of comparison. This is big, this is small, this
is good, this is bad. It is all in comparison. We know color by comparison.
We know who we think we are in the exact same way.
The “you” is always changing, depending on the other objects that are
within its perception, which are also continuously changing. There is no
fixed you at all, only descriptions happening with the body. And those
descriptions aren’t really accurate because they are mere descriptions in a
limited language.
We try to maintain a fixed and solid “someone” out of this movement and
appearances in order to perceive ourselves as a separate entity. It’s like it is
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always trying to grab air, because that “who” that you think you are is
always in movement and never and actual reality. There is a continuous
struggle to make yourself and others a something.
Who you are cannot be a description of your body, thoughts and feelings. A
description of your body arises in this, in what you are, which is every~thing
and no~thing.
There is something that has always been here, that never moves, that is
still, with seeming movement happening in it, that is no~thing yet
every~thing.
We can call it Alive~ness, or Beingness, or Consciousness. This is

something that cannot die, that is always here. It’s absolutely free and
boundless. Within it, the dream of a seeming separate entity appears.
One side of Aliveness is not happening; it’s empty and still. The other side
is all of these forms appearing, moving and transforming from one form to
another form. A moving dream that is made of the same thing.
Worth
The thinker is drawn into the drama of opposites called good/bad, right/
wrong, should and shouldn’t. When anything in the flow of life triggers a
sense of not feeling good enough, or unworthiness, or the feeling of being
rejected, for example, the thinker go into story-land to try to avoid that
feeling. “They should not have done that to me.”
The way separation happens is through a sense of lack. Normally the “me”
goes into a particular story saying, “I am really bad for doing this.” (Guilt) “It
is their fault and they should not have done that.” (Blame)
Big dramas in life: —> Relationship or the money.
It may feel like the center of you is in the head, or in the neck, or the chest,
like you are somebody in there, a “me”. It may feel like you are the thinker,
creator and mover of that body, but actually there is nobody in there. There
is nobody creating thoughts or actions or making the heart beat. There is
nobody in making the eyes look, or the ears hear, or producing decisions. It
is all coming from no~where, or emptiness, or no~thing.
Body
What you think you are is not true.
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If you think you are a good or bad person, a right or wrong person, all of
that is not true.
Language is in comparison so it cannot be true.

Even if you where a peaceful person, in comparison to the Dalai Lama you
might find out that you are not. No language can be true, yet we spend
most of out time living in this mental reality, this idea of ourselves.
This mistake of believing that you are a somebody inside the body has
become an energetic experience. It really feels like you are inside a body
and controlling the body, like someone separately walking through life in
time. You think that you are the past actions and future action, things that
you have done and things you are going to do.
It feels like thinking and actions are coming from inside the body, but really
the body is empty -absolutely empty.
This emptiness is continually being covered up by a dream of being a

someone in time.
You are not the body and you are not the story, but rather the body is
arising in this.
One~ness
Anything that is ever spoken about non-duality isn’t it. Any speaker that you
admire who is speaking about non-duality, isn’t speaking about non-duality.
They are speaking or using language that is duality.
Words are always in opposites and always in two-ness, where there is

always comparison. To know light there has to be dark; to know me there
has to be you. Words will always give an appearance of two-ness or duality.
This is not a dualistic world. This is One energy expressing itself in

creativity.
When the conceptual reality begins to crumble, along with the one that is
claiming the conceptual reality, then what is is left. This, which is not two.
No~thing. You can never see One~ness, yet it is it.
If you could see One~ness there would've to be an outside of it. There is no

outside or inside, it is all it.
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The appearance of choice

The individual personal energy is convinced that it is acting, or making
decisions and choices, and having at least a bit of influence in the flow of
things. It believe that it is deciding to move the hand, or put the kettle on, or
scratch the ass.
Maybe it does’t believe that it has all the control, but it does think that it is
influencing things in some way.
That is not the case at all, not true. Life is writing that momentum.
That personal energy of “me,” is simply a by-product of what is happening.

It is not creating anything, or in control of anything. Everything is just part of
the flow.
The designed program is to give the appearance that somebody is

separate and in control of his or her life, and living separately from
everything else. That is not the case at all, not true.
How “what is” is overlooked by the mental dialogue

The “me”, the person, is looking at thoughts and ideas to describe what is
happening in time.
Because the focuses on that, it misses what is actually happening, which is

freedom right here, the stillness that is right here. The person is always
looking at what the thoughts are saying.
That thoughts seems to the person that it is an actuality. An it seems

impossible to understand that they are just thoughts that come and go in
something. The freedom is what they are appearing and disappearing in,
not what they are actually saying or thinking. It’s about This, which is
indescribable. These thoughts are not speaking truth at all.
The person is always trying to put meaning on everything, and nothing has
meaning. It’s all meaningless. All of this appears without meaning. Meaning
appears in it and disappears in it.
Growth and destruction happening in love

Everything is happening in love. Love is the essence of everything.
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Because life is in opposites, there is always going to be decay and
destruction. As soon as one form becomes its most beautiful, it then begins
to decay and be destroyed and change into another form.
There is never going to be a steady peaceful world in what happens

because the way in which life is set up is for one form to change into
another form, continuously.
There is never going to be continuous peace in the flow of life. That peace
is an illusion that people long for. It’s all about mental concepts of how we
would like it to look. It is what it is, and love is the end of the resistance to
what is.
I see love as being completely impersonal. When love is personalized, then

it is “How can I give them my love or how can I get love from another?”
When love is not personal, then love is everything, and everything is
constantly changing into different forms.
There is always destruction happening as well as growth, but it’s not

personal. When it is personalized, then the suffering begins.
Fading Game (editar)

The way that life set up separation is by dreaming in a separate entity in the
bodies. It dreams it by a combination of thoughts, feelings and an energetic
contraction that makes it feel like there is somebody, like a centre inside the
body.
This sense of self lives in imagination-land and it is consumed with

thoughts of having to fulfill its happiness and wholeness in the future, in the
things or imagined upcoming situations.
This apparent “I” has an agenda, and that is to find an object of attention to
make it feel complete. The contraction starts, and it is off to find what it is
looking for in the future.
Life creates amazing games.
This separate entity has the feeling that it is separate from everything else,
and it is on a special mission to find it own completion. It creates a load of
tension in a grand drama with highs and lows.
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There is nothing wrong with this game of seeking, but it can get to a point
where a lot of things may have been achieved, and there arises a sense of
discontentment with it all, or a sense that you will never find it, and this
looking becomes exhausting and the interest in the game fades.
Actually all of these findings in themselves were designed to do just that, to

never completely satisfy. The “game” was to constantly look, because you
were never designed to find what you were looking for.
What may happen in this non-duality is the collapse of the game, and there
is just what is left. Without that game, there is a huge part of experiencing
that will be gone, and the “me” doesn’t want itself to go. It wants to find the
thing that complete it. It will never will, because no-thing can complete it.
The collapse of that identity is the end of the game.
What will be left is just this, just what is happening. There will no longer be
a person that is trying to get somewhere, or analyzing how it feels.
Ecstatic
The more a person questions what he think to know about life, the less he
seems to know about life and what is happening.
“There seemed to be a point where it stopped happening for Lisa anymore,

and that person that suffered disappeared. All that was left was love for
what is, which had been there before, but the focus was always on the
person, and what the person knew about themselves, and the world.
Then there was this body that carried on acting in this world, carried on with
its beautiful and strange conditioning, but it was no longer for anybody
anymore. It was no longer “me in relationship with what I knew.” There
wasn’t this constant me, my life, what this means, where is it going, what
should I do, where should I go?
It was just this. And this is ecstatic to be. Ecstatic, because it is.
If freedom is truly wanted, which is not an individual thing, then the heart of
the individual person has to be ripped out. Because everything you think
you know about life has to be questioned. Everything that you’ve been
taught about importance, and right and wrong, begins to crumble.
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I found that I lost knowing who I was anymore. That sounds really weird. I
just lost myself. There was something that had always been there still
there, but it no longer belonged to somebody, it was happening. There was
this energetic change where I was looking at the world inside the body, and
it was almost like I was watching myself in the brain, experiencing life. It
was like I was more up here, (in my head), than in what was happening, the
dream was more important; of what I was imagining others to think of me,
what I wanted to portray myself to be, it was just up here (in my head), and
then that energy just stopped and it just went back into what was
happening.
Disappearing into what is

There’s a really beautiful quote from a film called Her. Now, I’m just going to
make this quote up to suit myself, but it’s similar to the real one. There is
this couple, she’s a computer, and he’s a human, and this computer has
been given the ability to evolve. Because she is an operating system of the
computer, and she can evolve, she goes through this whole drama of falling
in love and all these different things in the film. She begins to experience
wanting, wanting lots of things. She has a lover that is human and she
begins to explore that, and then she begins to suffer, really suffer. She then
begins to fall in love with lots of other humans, and she begins to have lots
and lots of lovers. This is her conversation with her original lover after she’s
been through this massive journey.
He says to her, the computer, ‘Why are you leaving me?’ because she says
she has to leave now. And she says, ‘The reason I’m leaving you is
because it’s like, I’ve been reading the story of our love, and I love the story
of our love so much, that I’ve begun to read it really, really slowly. And the
slower and slower I read it, the bigger and bigger the gaps become
between each word, until they’ve become infinite space, and this is where I
reside now.’ She disappeared into her story.
Then, more and more, the story of who I was got questioned, and
something happened where it cleared. Who you truly are dissolves back
into everything. You fall out of yourself.
You ARE the world, you are everything.
This is happening for nobody, it’s happening in absolute stillness, because

without that story, who is this happening to?
The only love is what is
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It’s just perfectly still, it’s absolutely empty. That stillness is so incredibly
beautiful. It’s who you’ve always been. It’s everything. Everything is what
you’ve always been. You’ve always been everything.
The only love is what is, and that’s absolute love because everything’s
always been embraced and appearing in what is.
Selfless dogs
Take a look at your dog. He has no idea that he’s alive or that he's going
die, and the response in the body-mind mechanism is spontaneous joy,
because he has no idea who he is. Whatever happens, he’s totally involved
in it.
There is no sense that he’s got to have a happy life and make the most of
it, or that he’s got to be rich, successful, slim, and have a big family. He just
is. In every moment he is just living without any reason to live.
There’s no energetic contraction inside the body that feels like life is
happening to him, and that he needs his life to be a certain way. He just is.
It’s really not about being anything in the manifest world. It is always this,
just what’s actually happening. This is what you’re looking for, but it’s got
nothing to do with you and the body. The body appears in it. It’s not coming
from the body.
The idea of being a good person and helping or being nice to others is still
an idea that belongs to somebody.
In the changing of ideas, there always comes great freedom because you
lose old ideas, but taking on new ideas is to go back into that suffering
game. In the moment of giving up old ideas there is great freedom because
it was always ideas that were the problem. Always. But then to go into
goodness ideas, or rightness ideas, or what you know to be right is just to
zip yourself up into another straight jacket.
So the idea of this is to become like a dog. That’s it.
What does seem to be being switched off more and more now, is the
illusion that the intelligence and that life belongs to someone, that there’s
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somebody experiencing life, and somebody separate from life, and most
importantly (which is in the human dynamic), is that there’s somebody
victim to life. Most body-mind mechanisms have that dynamic that says “I’m
victim to this.”
There is no world out there happening to someone. There is just life. There
is just life. And you are life, but not you as a “who you think you are.”
Love Affair
Where is the thin line between our own effort and life itself?
There is no line; it’s all one movement. Life itself and the body’s actions are
the same thing. This means that there is no one acting, no one choosing,
no one separate from everything else. It's all one big movement.
As the “me” dissolves, you will see that everything has always been love;
everything is an act of love. Everything is love manifesting nothing.
The character likes and dislikes, that is its job.
Lisa: It's because that is what Nothing~ness created. That is what Love
created. It's full-on, this subject. It happens the same way that the saint
happens, the same way as the thoughts appear, the same way as the light,
the trees, the sounds, the smells. It's all coming from no~thing, appearing
and disappearing back into no~thing.
Positive Thinking
Is there ever any point to try and think positively and optimistically?
The assumption in the first part of the question is that you are somebody
separate that has control over thinking. That “you” is a thought that has
seemingly become an energetic contraction or an expression in the body.
So there is a thought, 'I am going to think positively,' and then a positive
thought comes up and is followed by lots of feelings and energies that give
an appearance of a “you” choosing.
The question isn’t 'Should I think positively?', the question that I ask is ‘Who
is this “you”?’
Could it be that the “you” is just simply a description of what is happening,

rather than the source of the action? Is the one that is saying 'I am doing, I
am choosing' really the chooser, or an illusion that gives the appearance of
a someone?
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There is no “I”, just life happening

This is the end of all stories in space and time. This is the end of the one
that can say, “I am enlightened” because there is no “I,” there is nobody.
Just this, just life happening.
Quite
I kind of realized, without it being intellectual, that I’d never been alone. I
actually needed none of the things that I thought I needed, and I’d never
truly been alone. I was still in it. It was still this.
Then, this energy changed. I couldn’t know it, I wasn’t inside my body
anymore. I couldn’t register it any more because that thought functioning
wasn’t happening. For two hours, I walked around and I was just
overwhelmed by the beauty, but I couldn’t know the beauty. I had no sense
of registering it. I could only know it like the aliveness, in the instant
moment of it. I could only know it in that instant, so I couldn’t know that
anything had changed.
Love is involvement and intimacy with things. The discomfort always came
through the reflection of self and what I thought I knew. When I saw the dog
before, I saw Lisa as somebody who’d been chucked out and abandoned
by life, so when I saw the dog, dying by itself, all I saw was Lisa’s
abandonment. I never saw something. When that stopped, all that was left
was love, because that’s the nature of everything.
Simple living
Life is just what's happening. It’s just eating dinner, such simple living.
There is such freedom in simple living. Living without the abstract idea that
“you” are living or that you're a good person, right person, happy person.
It's just life that is happening. ~
Self Inquiry
Q: Do you think the method of Self-Inquiry is useful?
Lisa: Nothing is useful. It is always This. If self-inquiry happens, that’s what

happens. What it leads to is absolutely irrelevant. This is where the juice is;
this is what's happening. It’s not in where you're going to get to tomorrow.
That's carrying on in the dream of “me.”
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The “me” is always in time. If self-inquiry happens, it’s not right or wrong.
The idea that you are going to get somewhere is a total daydream. Where
are you going to get to? It's always here. When is it not here, this?
What is happening is that you are imagining the body, or yourself, which
isn't even you, in the future, being better.
Self-inquiry is no different. It’s exactly the same mechanism of the “me”

dynamic.
This is what's happening and it's always what is going to be happening.

The love affair is this, not tomorrow’s daydream. We will never know
tomorrow and we will never know yesterday. This is what IS. ~
Thought
They come into appearance just like everything else but there is another
thought that assumes that “you” think.
'I think, therefore, I am.' I Am, and in I Am, thinking arises. This assumption
of control is what creates the suffering. It's an energy actually of 'I am the
controller, I am the doer.' The thoughts say “I” control and “I” am choosing
to pick thoughts or look at thoughts. You think your discomfort is because of
your thoughts? It's not. Thoughts appear and disappear. The thoughts are
normally talking about past and future.
How Did This Happen?

If we take a look at the animals, we can see what it is like to have no sense
of self. Animals do not perceive that they are a body or emotions or
thoughts. They don't have self-awareness. What animals experience is just
Alive~ness and what is happening. To them there is no inside and outside
world. Because they don't have a sense of self, they do not suffer.
Humans began to describe the actions of the body in time. Animals have
more of an instinctive perception of time.
Before the complicated language, there was no “you.” There was just life,
not you in a story of life. What you are is that original Alive~ness, that
Being~ness that is prior to the story of you. It was there at birth before the
whole story of you began. That’s the freedom that I am pointing to that has
always been here. That Alive~ness that is prior to 'I am the body' has
always been there. The “me” person thinks they are the story, and all
suffering happens in story time. All of the anxiety, the worry, the blame, the
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guilt, the shame and the pride, that’s what happens in time. In this moment,
in this Alive~ness, there is no suffering. The suffering is only in a mental
and conceptual reality.
The animals experience pain, but there is nobody in there holding on to that
pain. The pain just comes and goes and the pleasure comes and goes, and
they are not seeking for a better state because they don't have a sense of
self.
The you is a conceptual sense of self. You are not the body. You are not
your past or future actions. There is this Alive~ness that's there always. Its
free, still, and moving at the same time. There's an element to it that is
silence. It's emptiness.
“You” is the lie, because who are you? Which one thing can you say you
are? The only thing that is is Alive~ness, and we can't find Alive~ness. It's
every~where and no~where.
Lisa: Time is something that arises, which is a functioning. When time is

needed in order for functioning to happen, it arises and then it’s gone. Time
is subjective to the one that perceives it. Time is different for a child, an old
person, a mentally disabled person. It’s subjective. It’s moving and it comes
and goes. The question is what does time appear and disappear in?
This. No-thingness, which is timeless.
Daily Living
How do you function daily if there is nothing to attain?

The body just does it. It is set up to get food and shelter, the material
things. It just happens to take care of itself.
Do you find the more you let go, the more the body flows to the next event?
That's what seems to happen here. There is not a “you” going out and
getting things. It's just happening.
What about planning. You don't really plan?

Lisa: Yes, things get planned but there has never been a “me” doing it. It's
all JUST happening.
So then you’re saying you are not making any choices?
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Lisa: Choices are always happening, but there is not a somebody who is
doing that.
Q: So then, everyone is innocent?

Lisa: Yes, but that is saying that there is something to compare innocence
to, it is just what Is.
Falling in Love
Lisa: Yeah, most people are trying to avoid themselves until they realize
that this is about falling in absolute love with yourself, to the point of falling
so much in love with yourself that you disappear into that which is loved.
The one that is falling in love disappears in that love. Most of the time
people say things like, 'This is bad. I have to get rid of the ego.' This is
about an absolute falling in love with that person, as it is.
Rape
There is suffering because the “you” energy claims it.
You can't fix life. Life is a series of pleasures and pains, and it does its little
dance and it's completely unfair. Some things life does are so cruel, and
some things are beautiful. That will never be got out of, this cruelness, or
the beauty. But that's not the problem, believe it or not. The problem is the
one that claims it, the one that believes your father sexually abused you
and that he chose to do that.
The suffering comes with that energy that is taking it personally and wants
to get out of the pain and wants to get away from that sense of ‘He abused
me.’
The body naturally moves away from painful situations. The body will
naturally move away from somebody that beats it unless there is “me”
energy there that says, 'I should take this beating. I am guilty, I deserve it.' It
would just naturally move away.
The perfect life is not about having two parents that love you. Happiness is
not having the flow of life being a certain way. The flow of life is as it is. The
freedom is the end of the one that takes it personally. The freedom is here,
this Alive~ness, this silence and this stillness.
Freedom is not about you doing something; it's not about “you”.
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Can there be freedom in abuse while it is happening?
Lisa: Yes! Yes, otherwise it wouldn't be freedom. It would not be freedom if
it were only found in peaceful situations. What I am talking about is
absolute freedom, not freedom that is only found in non-abusive perfect
situations.
What is being talked about here is freedom in any situation, whatever is

happening. It's not about you fixing the future. The freedom is right here in
this Being~ness that is boundless.
Source
What is the source of this energetic expression of “personal?” And why is it
so powerful if it is illusory? And why does it have a specific location of here
versus there?
Lisa: The Source of everything is never going to be known; all there is is
Source. All there is is God experiencing itself through the apparent
separation of objects.
What is the Source of everything? Every~thing and No~thing. Not one

thing, and everything. You can't ever stand outside of everything and look to
see what it is. There is just Source, and it is not one particular thing.
The energetic contraction is part of this expression. It is not separate from

this expression. Separation does not really exist, it only appears that way.
Separation feels very real because that is what it is designed to do. It’s
designed to give the appearance of a “somebody” that is separate from life.
In that, the first abstraction, which in a way isn’t even an abstraction, is “I”
am experiencing this, rather than just pure experiencing, without an “I.” The
abstraction arises in experiencing.
All there is, is experiencing, and it is so intimate that there is no separation

between the experiencing and the objects; they are one and the same
thing.
Right here, right now there is just one big not-knowing. There is a knowing
of experience, but nothing to be known in thought. There is just
experiencing. Everything in thought is hypothetical; this would mean that
there is knowing, but also not-knowing.
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We never know the answer to who we are, or why this is happening, or how
we get rid of the energetic contraction. All of that is La-La Land, it's
hypothetical. The only thing that is ever known is experiencing, which is
pure, simple and immediate.
Description of what is happening is just a description of what arises in

Alive~ness by an apparent character. The apparent character is only one
form of expression. There are billions of forms of expression in this, and all
of it is what is. None of it is ever personal. ~
Purpose
Q: I get the impression that to the mind it's more fun to seek and think I'm
getting somewhere?
Lisa: Yes, completely. But in that world of dreaming and getting somewhere
there is always going to be the not-getting there as well. It's going to come
with both of the stories, the highs and the lows, the ‘got it’ and ‘lost it’
because the world is always in movement. You get the lover, then they're
gone. You get the best car and it eventually rots. This is a huge loss, a
complete loss of that part of experiencing and dreaming that you are going
to finally get there.
So am I right that the “me” loses its purpose when it stops seeking?
Lisa: Yes, and it really hates that.
Well, then there is really nothing to do anymore.

Lisa: There is nowhere to go because there is not even a “you” there that is
going anywhere. There are just forms appearing and disappearing.
All You
It's a total love affair when that person that is always making sense of
things begins to drop.
It is never you doing it. It happens by itself. It's got nothing to do with “you.”
You don't have to assert boundaries. “You” don't even have to look after
yourself. The urges and the impulses are already happening in the body
before you make up the story to it.
Science is now proving that the brain has the activity of saying something
six seconds before you even claim that it is you doing it, before it comes
out.
Q: So the body just at that moment knows what to do?
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Lisa: Yes, always. It knows what to do.
The question is, ‘Who is the one writing the impulses into the body?’ That's
the most amazing part. The storyteller always comes after. They can scan
the body now and see that activity is already happening to make a choice
before you consciously think about making that choice.
It's amazing that the thought is appearing after the action.
When you're sitting there thinking, ‘Should I tell him no or should I tell him
yes?’ it’s already been decided. It's already happening in the body. The
answer is already coming.
The personal activity is absolutely useless.
Loss Program
Q:We hold the assumption we make that there is such a thing as past or
future outside of thought. It's all what is appearing now, only this. Life is so
much simpler than thought makes it seem.
Lisa: For sure, and for the dogs and the animals and the young children or
babies, that is all there is. There is just what's happening, and they are not
constantly being this other reality reconstructed with a past or future, what
I'm going to do, what I haven't done, I'm a bad person or a good person, or
I don't have a big enough house, whatever it is. It's just what's happening,
and in life there is no suffering.
It's only in time that suffering happens. And even the "in time" happens
here, it’s not actually happening in time. There is only an appearance
happening of time, of past and future, ‘I've done something wrong, I'm
guilty.’ And it comes with this energy, ‘I'm a bad person, I don't like them,
they shouldn't do this.’ It’s all in time.
For the dog, if there is anger or another dog annoying it, it just growls and
its got no sense that it should or shouldn't do that, or that the dog is going
to have hurt feelings or whatever it is. There is just what's happening in the
moment. The human does have the ability to comprehend past and future,
and that's not a problem.
What has happened in the human is who they are has become past and
future, or become a person in the past and a person that is going towards
the future. So there is nothing wrong with the fact that humans can
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comprehend this dance of past and future, but it's not who you are. The
past and future always arise here.
It's that intelligent thinking that has created a false world, a false you and a
false I.
Tree 1:What did you do to lose your leaves?

Tree 2: Nothing, it just happened.
Tree 1: But what can I do to lose my leaves?
Tree 2: Nothing, it will happen when it happens.
Student: What did you do to lose your ‘I’?

Teacher: Nothing, it just happened.
Student: But what can I do to lose my ‘I’?
Teacher: Nothing, it will happen when it happens.
What I am questioning is the validity of that “one” that says ‘Let’s go and
get something better than this for the future.' It may sound like I am saying
there is nothing you can do, but I don’t ever directly say that. What I tend to
do is question the “you” that thinks it is the doer of life and its actions and
where it thinks it is off to.
The future is just an assumption. What is is this.
Ultimately, this is all a mystery. The only thing that is, is this. What is.
Doer~ship
Q: It feels like I am doing something wrong?
Lisa: You can never get life wrong. Life doesn't belong to a somebody in
time. It's happening, and there is this energy, this extra part that life plays,
an energy of claiming life, 'I am choosing, I am doing.’
Q: Action happens because it's written.?

Lisa: It’s not that there is destiny or that it is written, because there is no
one writing it. The story is spontaneously appearing now; it’s not that it’s
already been written.
Everything in the “you” story is arising now. It's not that it has ever
happened. All the ideas of “you” are happening now. It’s never the future.
All the ideas of the past are arising now. It’s all appearing spontaneously
here.
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It was more a questioning this idea that you are the creator of the story, that
“you” are the doer of your actions.
Non-doership, the one that thinks that it is controlling and writing its life, and
writing its future and creating for the future. Not very many teachers
confront this. Most teachers are still talking as if somebody has control.
Here, this seems the most important point in non-duality, because if

somebody is controlling life, then that means that there is separation, or
two~ness. A lot of teachers do not confront this subject.
It’s very popular now in non-duality to say that you do have control, and you
don't have control. I would not agree with that at all. The way that it is seen
here is that there is an appearance of choice, but there is nobody choosing.
There might be a thought that says, 'I'm going to choose apple juice over
orange juice,' but there is nobody choosing at all.
La~La Land
This is an absolute loss program. It’s really not about intellectual
understanding. That's just what the mind thinks.
It’s the loss of all of those ideas of who and what you think you are, until
there is only an absolute mystery. It's not even about the idea that you're
aware, or consciousness, or knowingness, even those are ideas. It's just
mystery.
There is just what is. It's the collapse of every idea.
'Okay, so I'll do these exercises and we will get somewhere, and this is
going to help me and I'm going to get somewhere.'
It's all concepts. It's all living in La-La Land, in a reality of somebody
separate from the world making its way back to non-separation.
The mind always wants to jump on the bandwagon of 'What can I do?’
This is a loss program; anything positive that the mind takes on isn't it.
It thinks, 'Oh, okay, everything is an illusion, and that's the way this is.' The
mind thinks that that's a truth.
That's a concept, a positive concept. It’s not it.
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This is a loss; there is no middle way. This is an absolute loss of everything
the “me” is always trying to get.
The natural way of life is no suffering and pure Being~ness. Pure

Being~ness does not suffer.
Reality
The answer to everything is no~thing, and no~thing's partner is
every~thing.
Every~thing and no~thing. Maybe you could say what is, is this.
But we’ve learned to define ourselves as separate from it.
Conditioning
Conditioning is happening, yes?
Yes, the body is always conditioned.
Emotions?
Yes, but they don't belong to anyone anymore. It was always the idea that
they belonged to someone which was the suffering. It's not 'I am sad.' there
is just sadness or happiness, and it is free to be what it is. It does not
belong to a someone. There is not a “should” or a “shouldn't” happening
anymore.
The body is always going to be conditioned. What I am talking about is the

absence of personalizing the conditioned body. In spirituality, often the
focus is on improving the conditioning, which isn't wrong. If the conditioning
is improved, it may be a better experience. But that is all that happens,
there is just conditioning being replaced with new conditioning.
The body is always going to be reacting in some way, or conditioned in

some way.
This change of conditioning that you are talking about, is there a concept of
progress in the conditioning?
Lisa: No. It doesn't matter. The one that cares about the way that the body
is acting is gone. So the body can act like an idiot or a saint, but there is no
longer someone in there saying, 'You shouldn't be like this.' It's certainly not
about becoming a perfect body~mind mechanism.
Yes, and there will always be both. There will always be peace and war.
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Q: Couldn't the world progress towards more peace?

Lisa: The only reason that you want peace is because you are afraid of war.
The body is going to be destroyed; everything is going to be destroyed. And
in that destruction there is birth and it starts again.
There is no individual soul and there are no choices?

Lisa: No.
Irrelevant
The body is just another object arising in no~thingness

The body is just another object arising in no~thingness, in oneness. It's not
anymore a “you,” it's another object appearing and disappearing. It's very
simple.
Seeking motivation
The base sense of all seeking is 'I am not good enough to be loved.’
It's not the end of thoughts. The appearance of choice will still appear, but it
is the end of suffering.
What is the “me”

The “me” is this energy that feels like it exists as somebody in time, and
that people do things to you and you do things to other people, and that you
have choice and free will and things to obtain, and a life to live for the
future.
It can be known, but it can still be appearing, until that energy falls away
which is impersonal.
How to speak about non-dual experience?

I may really screw it up when I speak about it, but speaking about it
happens. It has to be spoken about in some way.
If I call it 'The Awareness,' it would still be something for the mind to get. It
would then try to sit in awareness. There is no way to speak about this
without the “me” hearing it and seeing it as another carrot to get to.
The seeking for love motivation
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What you are looking for is that strong sense that says 'I want to be loved.'
to go away. You just want that sense of not feeling good enough to stop
arising. That's all that's wanted.
How do you know exactly if this “one” will not reappear?

I don't, but I don't give a fuck. There is no interest in those thoughts. There
is no interest in fearing the future.
The “me” like an entity inside the body-mind organism

There is a body talking, it seems there is, but ultimately that’s really not
happening. What most body-minds think is happening is that there is a
separate entity inside that body-mind organism choosing to speak like this.
Pain
Pain in the body is just pain. It's not a problem unless somebody claims it to
be mine If there is not somebody there, then it’s just pain.—(Interrupted by
questioner.)
When agony and pain and discomfort are happening, that's what
happening. There is no way out and it will be there until it stops.
The drama covers the all pervading love

That sense of 'This isn't good enough.' or 'This shouldn't be happening to
me.' blocks the love, although it’s not really blocking the love because that
is happening in love as well. It sort of covers it. This is the tragedy for the
human.
The deconstruction of the “me” happens on its own

If the “me” is to be deconstructed, then it is happening like everything else,
on its own. The person wants to constantly look at itself and say 'How do I
get there, and where shall I go?’ That's all a lie.
Trying to reach liberation is tempting but futile

You are never going to get yourself enlightened. The “you” dies, but you
cannot kill yourself. It will keep on wanting to tell the stories of how it is
getting closer, but it only wants to tell them to feel better because of that
sense of not feeling loved. When it tells its story about being nearer to
liberation, it feels a bit more relaxed and less abandoned or less not good
enough.
Most of the teachings now teach that you can approach this thing by self-
inquiry, meditation or direct looking, and it's very misleading for the seekers.
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They really think they can do something and dreaming about doing
something.
That story, that they are liberating themselves, that they are going to get
there in the future, relaxes them. It makes that sense of not feeling loved
and abandoned feel better, it feels less strong. That's all it’s doing. But if
that body is destined for the “me” to drop away, then it will happen despite
them doing it or not doing it. It happens on its own. It's not somebody's
doing, but they might have to dream the whole time that they are doing it.
That might be something that has to happen, but it's not them doing
anything. There is no one in there doing anything, there is just doing
happening.
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There are no actual things there
There are no things. There are just energies expressing themselves, there
are no actual things. Only things in description, in language. If everything is
changing, then there is no thing. There is nothing happening, which means
there is Oneness.
You can’t make it happen, it’s just happening

You can't make it happen, and it becomes so obvious that it is not your
doing. It just happens and it just disappears. It's not you having any control.
It's just happening.
Okay, so then you know that every note that comes is divinity because of all
the notes before. In listening to music, where is the most divine note?
Where is the most important note? To hear the most beautiful bit in a song,
it’s taken all the notes before to make it most beautiful.
You cannot see another person, there is nobody there

If you don't see yourself, and there is not a “me” dynamic appearing, then
you cannot see another. Who is another person? Who is your wife or
husband or friend? When that functioning of “you” stops, everybody else
stops. There's nobody there. If you don't think, you don't see another.
Unless a body-mind expresses a problem, I don't see a problem. I don't

even see you, there is only movement happening. It's absolutely liberating
because you are no longer seeing yourself everywhere, or a self in
relationship with people.
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All suffering comes from you being in relationship with people. This you that
is in relationship with another is so heavy and full of mental activity of what
the other has done to you, or what you are doing to them.
There is no other, there is movement seemingly happening. There is also

no movement happening and it is absolute stillness.
I am talking about the impersonality of life. There is no person in anything.

There is no individual free will in anyone.
The suffering of being separate from reality

All suffering arises from the dynamic that says ‘I am a somebody acting
separately from you.’ It is rather funny that that assumption is being made,
because how is that possible? How can we ever find the start and stop to
anything?
The fear of not being in control

The “me” is always telling the story that if I am not in control, then chaos is
going to happen. This here is chaos, everything is going to die. This is a
world of growth and death. This is absolute freedom, but really what has to
be confronted is ‘who is the other?’
This is the absolute end of control or thinking you have control. As the
energy stops focusing on free will, then it will be seen that there is no
separation, that this is life happening and it is absolutely free.
The flow of life is brutal and beautiful at the same time. There is constant
growth and destruction, birth and death. Freedom cannot therefore be
found in the flow of life, but it can be found in the stillness, which is always
here. ~
How do I know when I am done?

You won't. The “you” will not be there anymore. The “you”, the one that is
taking life personally will collapse and stop looking at itself, and it will just
be what is happening.
The story is also changing

The story of your life is constantly changing depending on what veils are
up. If you're in a good mood, the experience will look different than when
you're in a bad mood.
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Our real state is an absolute not knowing and life appearing
The “me” dynamic that has taken personal responsibility for life, is not the
one that is controlling life. It really feels like that “me” dynamic is controlling
every happening event. But that “me” dynamic is a creation, not the creator.
Our real state is an absolute not knowing and life appearing without that
one that that thinks it knows life or is in control of life. This is absolute free-
fall into nothing, an absolute loss of that controller.
You never were in control of your life. A job will happen or not, depending
on whether the momentum to get a job or not get a job will happen. That's
the way it's always been.
The you is a creation, a dance or a game. All that worry or anxiety over it is
just a game that life is playing, a drama that life is acting out. Everything
dies, all things are constantly changing. There is no freedom in trying to
preserve anything. That's just fighting what is.
So does that mean that there is no responsibility?

Yes, that is what it means. There is no responsibility. Responsibility is a
dream, a waking dream. ~
Claiming
Q: When there is no “me” left, can there be love for your partner?
Lisa: You won't see a partner anymore, and that is so strange to say. The
body could be with another body most of the time, but you won't see them
as your partner. The body could be saying 'I love you, you’re fantastic.' but
there is not someone in there that is saying that or claiming that. ~
Loss
Lisa: The personal entity, that dreamed entity or energetic contraction, is
always trying to hold on to things. It believes that it is a body and takes
itself to be a thing. There is no solid thing, nothing. Everything is moving,
and there is no one solid thing. You can't ever have one solid body. Drinking
water happens, and then disappears and becomes body. The skin is always
falling off. It's all energy. When you get down into it, it is all made of the
same thing and it is constantly moving.
There is no solid thing. It's always being lost and moving. Love is loss. That
is the natural way of things, they appear and disappear. There are never
going to be separate things that stay still. They are always moving.
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All the things are one thing, and this one thing is changing its appearance.
'To know God is to live in a perpetual state of Loss.’ We think loss is
negative, but it’s love—true love. ~
Grief
Q: Why does it still hurt so much and for so long after my sister died?
Lisa: Because it does.
We're always trying to get away from this rawness of experiencing; the
sadness, the agony, the aching, but that's what is. That is part of what life
is. All forms die. Everything that comes into form changes into another
form. That's part of it. It's brutal and it's sad, and it’s happy and it’s
disastrous, and completely ordered.
This is what is, and whatever is, is. The “me” dynamic is always trying to go
somewhere or get away from something. What is looked for is this, the
rawness of experiencing.
There is no state of permanent bliss or ecstasy. There is no such thing as

not feeling sadness or pain. That isn't even what is wanted. What is wanted
is experiencing, and experiencing is in opposites, beauty and ugliness,
sadness and happiness, pain and pleasure.
These opposites are not separate; it's all one and the same thing. It's all
God. Every last bit of it is God apparently experiencing itself through
opposites. ~
Death
Q: Once the body~mind mechanism dies, would you consider that as
freedom or liberation as well?
Lisa: Yeah.
Q: Well, we don't really know what it is, I guess. It’s a mystery,
Bliss
Nothing is left; it’s a world of constant disappearance.
Banana Fritters
The only person that we can ever talk about is somebody in time. Time
always arises here in Alive~ness, time is not the actual reality. The mind is
absolutely fixated with who it is in time.
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What seemingly happened was that there was a moment in Bali, where
suddenly the energy of Alive~ness or Being~ness was no longer bound to a
story in time, or bound to a body. It collapsed.
You Don’t have a Life

Q: Is there a “you” in there creating that thought, or does it suddenly appear
and then action happens or no action happens?
When it is seen that there is absolutely no person in there doing that, that it
is coming from absolute empty space, then it is seen that nobody ever did
anything. Who you thought you were was just thoughts and sensations and
energies appearing, giving the impression that there is somebody there
doing.
It's terrible for the one that thinks it is doing. In another way it is absolute
relief and the end of blame, because then you can never blame again
someone for not doing something. When it is seen that there is absolutely
no one creating these energies and thoughts, then there is no longer
blame. Blame and guilt are the majority of the suffering. That is the majority
of the time what the contraction is, 'They could have done something
different, I should have done something different.’
When it is seen that all of it is coming from absolute empty space, from
no~one, then you see that no~one ever did anything wrong.
Q: Yes, I am a therapeutic masseuse and this was always my question.

Sometimes they come once and there is healing, and sometimes they
come twenty or thirty sessions and they don't change, nothing happens.
Lisa: This may sound dry but it’s not. Life decides healing or not. It's not
that your massage or healing practice is useless, it’s just not the source.
It's not to say that this is the end of massage, it is the end of the belief that
you are doing it. We are just instruments of life, playing out the role.
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Tony Parsons - Non Duality

This work is a failing attempt to try to define the non-dual and impersonal
nature of reality.
What is happening is all that is

This is all that is. All there is is what is. There is nothing more.
What is happening is all that is.
This Aliveness is timeless, still, and is nothing and also everything.

There is this Aliveness, or Consciousness that has been there the whole
time. It is always here. It has always been here.
Imagine who you are without the “you”. The Am-ness prior to the “I”.
Aliveness, Being-ness, What is. Consciousness, Awareness.
What is happening is reading these words, sitting on a seat, trees growing,

seeing, sounds are happening, breathing, feelings in the body, thoughts are
happening, a thinking dialogue is passing by of what this all is about. “Will I
get it?” or, “She doesn’t love me anymore.” All there is, is what’s happening.
What comes and goes in this is “I am the body,” “I am the thought,” “I am

an idea,” “I am angry,” or “I am peaceful.”
We were programmed to think that Aliveness is inside the body because

the body is alive. But Aliveness is prior to “I am the body”. The body is what
comes and goes inside of this Aliveness.
There is always something happening

Always there is something happening, always. Even in deep sleep, deep
sleep is happening. You can’t escape what’s happening. If you don’t agree
then that is what’s happening. What’s happening is in total free fall, it’s just
there.
No effort needed
There is no effort needed for things to happen, things just happen, no-one
is doing it. It’s just happening.
Doesn’t need to be owned
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What’s happening doesn’t need to be grasp, or owned. It comes and it goes
away. It don’t belong to anybody, it can’t be owned. It’s just what it is. It
doesn’t need “you”.
The essence of what is is indescribable, ungraspable and unknown

The most wonderful part of this Alive~ness is that you will never be able to
find it or see it, or know it in thoughts or in any intellectual way. Yet
everything is Alive~ness.
There is no possibility of the essence of what is being described, grasped
or known.
Without meaning, intention, influence or purpose

Nothing is directing or influencing it, it has no intention, it has no meaning, it
has no purpose, it just is, and it is completely free, it can be anything,
energy happening in all forms and formless infinite possibilities.
Oneness appearing as duality

It is suggested that what is is oneness appearing as twoness, the absolute
being relative.
In what is is also what isn’t. This is the wonder of wholeness because it

appears as both simultaneously. Everything that is something is also
already nothing . . . there are not two!
Even the rejection of what is is what is

And in being everything, even the avoidance or rejection of “what is” is what
is.
The beginning stage of self awareness

When babies there is no sense of separation from life or its mother. No
energetic contraction. There is pure Aliveness happening, everywhere.
Self awareness (I am in the body)

This energy can be completely boundless and limited. This limited energy
in early age manifest like a sense in the body of being something. And very
quickly contracted in the body and give the feeling as there is someone
here, a sense of self awareness, like a center in the body. Self
consciousness arises.
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As we grow, we start creating an energetic sense of separation, “I am a
body” or “I finish at the end of my body and my mother is out there.”
As the child grows, the idea of being individually here, “me”, the self, the “I”
grows and becomes more and more certain. “I am a person”, an individual
with a center, being “someone” here, sitting on a chair, and there is another
person.
The Story of “me” in time

And what also becomes seemingly real to “me” is my story. “I am real, I was
born and I will die.” It is a story in time. Lot off things are happening to me. I
am aware of things happening to me.
Reward System Conditioning & longing for the future

Then we enter another state, where the child is taught by the parents what
is good and what is bad. If you follow the instructions of what your parents
consider the proper actions, you will receive positive attention.
You learn how to be a good child and play nice with your friends. Children
learn that they have to be nice in order to be rewarded or avoid
punishment. In school they learn to think in a logical way in order to get
rewarded.
Gradually the child begins to compete and seek to improve because the
conditioning teaches that getting the most attention is personal happiness
and fulfillment. Puberty comes, and fulfillment is found in getting the
opposite sex’s attention or in planing the future.
As we grow and due to this conditioning, importance is found in the seeking

in time. The first-best is future, the second-best is past and the third-best is
“This”.
The motivation mechanism of “What will be”

The motivation of life has been based on striving for the future. It was never
about what was happening right now, it was more about this huge strategy
of what will be.
If I do this, I will be happy. If I stop this, I will be happy. If I make my parents

respect me, I will be happy. If I do well, people will appreciate me, If I get
enough money, I can stop worrying. I will be happy when I solve this
problem. It goes on an on.
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“The excitement comes from longing for the future, or what you are going to
get in the future, when you become rich, or get a house, or do certain
things. The focus is that you are somebody in time, and you must strive for
your own happiness. And this is hardly even talked about or noticed.
There is nothing wrong with this game. This game is something that
appears. It is not in your control; it is just what seems to appear in the
human dynamic, this huge focus on time.
The futility of future

Getting fulfilled in the future is dreaming, a dreamland, an absolute false
reality. This dream feels so real, but really, what is this ultimate pleasure
that we are going to get? We can’t even answer the question of who we
are.
People spend all its time in wanting something else, thinking about
something else, or trying to get to something else, or trying to DO
something else.
There is nothing wrong in moving toward something, but it is not it the

getting. It is in whatever is happening It’s always about what is happening.
I have free will and choice

And also what arise is the idea that we have free will and choice, and then
you can influence the story that is happening, so I can make my story better
or worst.
Thats how this apparently contracted energy takes form and seems to grow
and react to life happening outside of “me”.
The reinforcement of the idea of choice

We are told that we have to make the right choices. We are told that it’s our
responsibility to lead a good life. We are reminded that we need to plan,
and know what it is that we are going to be or do.
There is a constant reinforcement of this idea of choice, and that we are a

separate entity that can choose. We think “I am separate from everything
else and I choose my actions in every moment.” That’s the assumption in
nearly all humans.
The suffering of time bound and choice
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Suffering happens when the mind become obsessed in making the “right”
decision to ensure its happiness in the future. “How will I choose?”
The obsession with choice has been a huge dream.
All worries are based on the idea that you are a separate entity and you
have independent action.
I am separate
The other thing that arises is the sense of being separate. Everything that
happens is happening to “me”. Everything is separate from me and
interacting with me.
So what arises is this dualistic reality, starting with me being dual, me being
separate.
Self awareness & the appearance of choice will keep me separate

Self awareness is what keeps the me locked in into the separate reality. I
am real and I am sitting on a separate chair that is also real.
The whole idea of individual choice, the ability to change, reinforces the
sense of being a separate individual.
Being a separate individual is not right or wrong

The sense of being a separate individual. It is what it is. It’s not right or
wrong… it is just what it is.
Lost in language
We have taken language to be a truth, not just a description of what’s
happening, and we have taken our self as something found in that
language. We have been taught that our nature is something describable.
All that we can describe is actions, and the body, and what the body does.
Our nature is indescribable. Your nature is prior to the description of it. You
cannot describe yourself. Your essence is not dependent on the body.
The dissatisfaction of something missing and the

seeking dynamic
The dissatisfaction of something missing
But in the sense of being separate there is a feeling, often, of not quite it,
and that can become something dissatisfying, like the feeling of something
missing. A sense that there is something bigger, there is something not yet
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revealed, something more to life than the way you feel about being an
individual.
The essence of what is can’t be seen by “me” and so “me” never feels
fulfilled because its experiences seem to have something missing.
“I am the body” and “they are separate from me.” I am separate, I am not
good enough.
The seeking dynamic

For some people, they live with it and don’t question it at all, but for others it
gave the sensation that something is missing, so the seeking dynamic
arises.
Some people feel the call to seek for a way to learn why they feel not
whole. So people turn to religion, or therapy, or a search for enlightenment
or something that might change the experience of not being complete,
searching for a way to feel whole.
The seeker is very attracted to change, to the idea of not being good
enough and trying to find a way to become better. “I have to make some
work with me, I have to do better in order to be fulfilled.
The dream of separation

And what we are sharing today is another possibility that totally collapses
all ideas of becoming something, and brings us back possibly to the
realization that all there is is what is happening, possibly to the realization
that there is no such thing as separation, and there is no such thing as
individuality. There is no separate “me”, there only is what is happening.
The whole construction of the “me” like a separate individual and the whole
experience that it has is illusionary, a dream. A dream of being separate.
The individual is an illusion. There is no I, only what is.
You are the time bound you, the fictional character arising in that.
There has never been an independent entity choosing anything
There has never been a “you” in the body that is separate from all other
things. It is all one energy expressing itself. It is all one energy, all one
expression of nothing-ness.
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This “You” was based on an assumption that has become an energetic
expression of “me” inside the body, separate from all the things out “there”.
We dream that we are separate.
The contracted “me” can collapse into the unbounded beingness

Life is not about learning to be better. There is no need to be something or
learn something. The contracted energy of the “me” can collapse into the
unbounded aliveness or Beingness.
This is about something that has never being lost, has never left, has never
gone away. It’s here, it’s this. It’s this. It can’t be attained, it can’t be grasp,
it can’t be learned. But that which tries to seek it can evaporate. That which
tries to find being~ness, this, can evaporate, can collapse. And what is left,
is the absolute celebration of Alive~ness. That’s what liberation is.
non-dual experience is beyond comprehension

The seeker falls away and all that remains is un-knowable, it cannot be
describe.
The seeking is completely futile. The thoughts and language is dual and it
is impossible to grasp a non-dual experience of this, it cannot be
comprehended.
Liberation is totally beyond understanding. it’s an energetic shift from being

a contracted “me” in a world of separation into boundlessness. So it is
beyond comprehension. It’s about the end of individuality. There is nothing
left for the individual. It is the end of “you”, the person.
So don’t try to understand since it cannot be understood. It doesn’t need to

be worked out. There is anything we can do.
When the seeker collapses there is no one to claim the experience.

Awakening is the realization that there is no-one.
You don’t do things, things happens (We add ourselves onto it)
There is Alive-ness here. You don’t have to be alive, just Aliveness is
happening. There is no need for cooperation from the “me”. Energy,
Aliveness is happening and moving, it is just there. So there is nothing to
do. All there is, is this.
We may believe that we do things, but everything just happens. It doesn’t

need you. The difficulty for the individual is, that the individual believe that I
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have to be there to control it or to make it happen. People ask me “So what
is going to happen to life if I am not here?” We add ourself onto it as an
illusionary center. We add ourselves onto what happens, and that’s when
the shit hits the fan, because we think we are the one doing something.
There isn’t anyone, all there is is aliveness.
Everything is just appearing and disappearing from nowhere

Everything is all continuously appearing and disappearing and being lost. It
appears from nowhere and disappears back to nowhere. It’a all an absolute
mystery.
Life is in a perpetual state of loss where everything is going. It is always

different, fresh and brand new. As soon as it appears, it is changing and it is
moving.
Everything you love so dearly will go. That’s the nature of life; it is in a
constant state of movement. As soon as one thing goes another thing
appears, this is total love.
What appears in Aliveness is one movement & you are that

All is Aliveness. It is all One thing. All “things” are moving; therefore, the are
no things. Everything appears in Aliveness as one movement.
The beauty of it all is that you are that Aliveness. What can happen is that
energy can change from this very narrow place of “me and my limitation” to
everything, which is boundlessness.
The choice~less Truth of who you are is revealed

to be permanently here permeating everything.
Not a thing and not separate from anything.
~ Gangaji ~
There is no choice in nature

The tree does nor choose to grow or not grow. The wind doesn’t choose to
blow, it just blows.
We don’t choose the color of our skin, our gender.
There is no-one inside the body
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Tony Parsons - Website Essays

The Story of Me
All there is is wholeness . . . boundless energy appearing as everything . . .
the sky, trees, feelings, thoughts, whatever. It is the mystery of no thing
simultaneously being everything.
There is nothing apart from the boundless everything and yet, because it is
free, it can appear to be separate from itself . . . it can appear to be the
story of me. There is nothing right or wrong in that appearance which is
wholeness apparently happening.
Contracted energy seems to arise in the human being and create a sense
of separation out of which arises a unique sense of identity . . . a self
consciousness. The me is born and the story of me seems to begin. Me is
the story and the story is me and one cannot exist without the other. They
both only appear and function in a dualistic subject object reality.
Everything seems to be personally experienced as a series of events in real
time happening to a real me. Within that story time, journey, purpose and
free will and choice seem to be real.
This sense of separation is not just an idea, a thought or a belief. It is a

contracted energy embodied in the whole organism which influences every
experience. As a consequence the me experiences a tree, the sky, another
person, a thought or a feeling through a veil of separation. It is as though
me is a something and everything else is lots of other separate somethings
happening to me. What arises from this once removed sense is a subtle
feeling of dissatisfaction. A feeling that something is lost or hidden.
For most people this sense of dissatisfaction is not that apparent, and
because they believe they are individuals with free will and choice they
seem motivated to try and create a successful story . . . good relationships,
good health, wealth, personal power or whatever else.
However, for some there is a greater sensitivity about something else that
seems to be missing. This feeling generates a longing for a deeper sense
of fulfillment. There can be an investigation into religion, therapy or the
meaning of enlightenment. Because the me has become convinced that it
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has the means to influence its story, it also assumes that it can find deeper
fulfillment through its own choice, determination and action.
Often because the me feels it has lost something, there can be a sense of
inadequacy and so what is pursued is a teaching that satisfies the need to
do something which will bring about a personal transformation and make
the me worthy of fulfillment. All of this activity is apparently happening
within the story of me which is functioning in an artificially dualistic reality.
So me is searching in the finite for that which is infinite. It is a something
looking for another something, and what it really longs for remains
unobtainable by already being everything. It is rather like trying to catch air
with a butterfly net. It isn’t difficult, it is wonderfully impossible. The
essential futility of that searching inevitably fuels the sense of a me who
feels even more unworthy and separate.
However, in the seeking activity there can be experiences along the way
that encourage the me to search further and try harder. Personal therapy
can bring a transient sense of personal balance in the story. Practices like
meditation can bring a state of peace or silence. Self enquiry can bring an
apparently progressive experience of understanding and strengthened
awareness. But for awareness to function it needs something apart for it to
be aware of. Awareness simply feeds separation, and a state of
detachment can arise and be mistaken for enlightenment. All of these
states come and go within the story of me.
The basis of all teaching of becoming enlightened is the idea that a change
of belief or experience can lead to a personal knowing of oneness, self
realisation or of discovering your own true nature. The whole investment in
a progressive path goes on feeding the story of me attaining something.
Even the suggestion of personal surrender or acceptance can be initially
attractive and bring a satisfying state . . . for a while. There are many so-
called non-dual 'teachings' which feed the story of me becoming liberated.
However, the oneness that is longed for is boundless and free. It cannot be
grasped or even approached. Nor is there anything that would need to be
done or changed or made better than that which is already everything.
A deep and uncompromising exposure of the artificial construct of

separation and the story of me can loosen the constraints that keep it
locked in place and reveal the way in which seeking can only reinforce the
dilemma. The apparent sense of separation, however, is at its essence an
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energetically contracted energy which no amount of conceptual clarity will
ever undo.
When there is an openness to the possibility of that which is beyond self-

seeking, then it seems that the contracted energy can evaporate into the
boundless freedom which it already is. And still this is only another story
which attempts to point to and describe a total paradox . . . the apparent
end of something that was never real . . . the story of me.
All there is, is boundless freedom.
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The dilemma is the apparent “me”

This communication is pointing to the wonder of being and also attempt to
illuminate the futility of seeking for it, exposing the singular and
fundamental misconception that drives the belief that there is something
called a “seeker” that is able to find something else called “enlightenment.”
Life is not a task. There is absolutely nothing to attain except the realisation
that there is absolutely nothing to attain.
What is sought remains hidden from the seeker by already being

everything.
So, should the seeker climb the spiritual mountain or simply let go and
surrender to life? Maybe what is sought is already all there is. Perhaps that
which is longed for is already constantly happening . . . it never went away.
Looking for being is believing that it is lost. Has anything been lost, or is it
simply that the looking keeps it away? The very intention to seek for a
treasure within life inevitably obscures the reality that life is already the
treasure.
The “me” searches for peace and fulfillment; the “me” searches for self-
improvement, purity, presence or detachment. The “me” seeks clarity or any
formula which will give the “me” what it thinks it wants or need. But the “me”
not getting what it wants is not the dilemma. The dilemma is the apparent
“me”.
(apuntar a there is no self with free will and choice, there is no “me”, the me
is an illusion)
Progressive teachings of enlightenment which recommend methods such

as meditation, self-enquiry, or the idea of recognition or surrender, are
based on the belief of there being a self who can choose to do these things.
This assumption is invalidated by the recent discovery of neuroscientists
that the existence of an individual with free will and choice is illusory.
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Personal & Impersonal Nature of Enlightenment

The perception here is that there are two distinctly different kinds of
communication about the nature of enlightenment. One is personal and the
other is impersonal.
The first offers the seeking “person” help and direction to find something
called enlightenment. The second offers the “person” nothing.
The first comes in many forms and has a wide following because it seems
to respond to the “person’s” needs. The second is unfamiliar and
energetically confronting.
The personal message is based on the belief that there is something called
a separate seeker that can attain something else called enlightenment.
The impersonal sees the embodied sense of seeming to be separate and

unfulfilled as an illusory state which drives the apparent seeker to search
for another illusion called personal enlightenment.
Any communication that supports and encourages the seeker’s belief or

idea that it can find something it feels it has lost is only reinforcing and
perpetuating a dualistic illusion. It’s not right or wrong . . . it’s what
apparently happens.
The impersonal perception is that all concepts, ideas, beliefs or thoughts

about separation or enlightenment can only ever be a reflection of their
opposite, and so they are only ever pointers towards, or away from, that
which cannot be expressed or known.
Apparent separation is seen essentially as an embodied contracted energy

which can simply and suddenly release into that boundless aliveness which
is unknowable and impersonal. The circumstances are totally irrelevant. No
amount of clear or confused concepts can ever touch or influence that
energetically held sense of being apart.
A deeply felt “spiritual experience” can, to some people, seem to be an

event of personal enlightenment. There can arise a wish to help or teach
other people to have a similar experience. That communication can
sometimes seem to be “non-dual” when the teacher describes the nature of
oneness, but it contradicts itself by recommending a process which can
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help the seeker attain that oneness through self-enquiry, meditation or
purification, etc. There can be the encouragement to “live in the moment” or
“be here now” or “embrace the fear” in order that the person can find “their
own true nature”. These kind of personal prescriptions are often
accompanied by a repetition of inspiring but only ever positive ideals which
can lift the seeker’s feelings and give them renewed hope and purpose. It
seems that this kind of exchange between two people is, by its very nature,
happening within the story in time, and so its influence is transitory. It fulfills
a need . . . for a while.
An impersonal communication recognizes and illuminates the apparent

dilemma for the seeker of seeming to be imprisoned in the embodied
experience of separation. It will inadequately describe the nature of
unbounded aliveness and the feeling of dissatisfaction and longing that can
arise out of seeming to be apart from that. It will also expose, without any
kind of compromise, the absolute inevitability and hopelessness of seeking
and the gift of freedom that is hidden within that hopelessness.
No-one can claim ownership of this impersonal message and so there

would be no motivation to sing it's praises. Neither would there be any
personal agenda to please, help or change the “person”. There is nothing
here for the “person” except the awful possibility that everything that they
dream is themselves could be lost.
Whenever the personal identity, its seeking, its hopes and dreams seem
threatened, there can be a rejection of this message and a return to that
which seems to serve and support the uniquely human illusion of self-
autonomy leading to self-fulfillment. The impersonal message can then be
seen as judgmental or nihilistic and may even be felt to be “unloving”
because it leaves the “person” with nothing.
Certainly there can be something personally confronting about the singular

constancy that arises only out of that unconditional compassion which
reveals the illusion of personal imprisonment. Out of that revelation, can
arise a resonance which is no-ones.
How can the “person” hear the impersonal?

How can there be a knowing of the unknowable?
How is it possible for a “person” to “confront their own absence”?
How can the seeker grasp that which is already everything?
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It isn’t difficult . . . it’s impossible . . . and wonderfully irrelevant because
there is nothing separate to grasp. Wholeness is already all there is! It is
the unbounded, impersonal, unconditional freedom which is complete . . .
nothing is needed by that which is everything!
However, and this is the paradox, wholeness, being everything, can also
appear as anything:
Wholeness can appear as the story of self on a meaningful journey.

Wholeness can appear as a separate person with free will and choice.
Wholeness can appear as a person who seems to be enlightened and
helps other people to become enlightened.
Wholeness can appear as a communication which divides and calls itself
non-dual.
So, in the play of appearance, wholeness can pretend to be something

apart which is rushing around all over the place looking for that which
already is. It is an amazing and unfulfilling dream-like story which is
uniquely human and is also sublimely without purpose. For the apparent
seeker, however, the pain and longing of separation seems very real.
So, should the seeker climb the spiritual mountain or simply let go and
surrender to life? . . . is that the question? Or is it possible that there is no
question and no answer.
Maybe what is sought is all there is. Perhaps the beloved that is longed for
is already constantly happening . . . it never went away . . . the seeker did,
to look for it.
Perhaps, when the seeking dream dissolves into that unbounded energy,
which sees no separation and has no agenda or expectation, then suddenly
that longing is embraced in that unconditional love that is no-ones.
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Already Being
What is sought remains hidden from the seeker by already being
everything.
It is so obvious and simple that the grasping of it obscures it. Never found,
never knowable, being is the consummate absence that is beyond
measure.
Looking for being is believing it is lost. Has anything been lost, or is it

simply that the looking keeps it away? Does the beloved always dance
constantly just beyond our serious focus?
The very intention to seek for a mythical treasure within life inevitably
obscures the reality that life is already the treasure.
By seeking the myth it dreams it can attain, the seeker effectively avoids
that which it most fears … its absence.
Liberation is like a fuse that suddenly blows, and all the little lights go out
and there is only light.
This is not a message about you or me or anyone getting anything. This is

about the realisation that there’s nothing to get … that what has been
sought has never been lost.
This isn’t about seeking or not seeking; it’s beyond the concepts of Advaita
and non-dualism and beyond the idea of reaching states of awareness or
mindfulness. There’s no goal. There’s nothing on offer. This is totally
beyond knowing.
This is really a description – a sharing together of a description of

something that is beyond attainment, something that can’t be lost and also
can’t be grasped or gained.
All the time there’s separation there’s a sense of loss, there’s a sense of a
feeling that there’s something that isn’t whole. And so the seeker attempts
to fill that void, fill it with something – whatever. And some look to
something called “enlightenment” because it is felt that enlightenment might
be the thing that will fill this sense of loss; it could be the answer to some
secret that we don’t quite get.
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And it sounds, when we read about enlightenment, as though somebody
else has found the secret. But nobody’s found the secret.
There’s no such thing as an enlightened person. It’s a complete

misconception. But the difficulty is that being seekers, the energy of
seeking pushes us into being attracted to the idea that somebody else has
found something that we can find, because we grow up believing that effort
brings results. So, if effort brings results, and we’ve heard of something
called enlightenment or liberation, we can make the effort and then we can
become liberated or enlightened … like this guy up the road we’ve heard
about, or that woman that’s giving satsangs. They have got something that I
want. If I go there I will learn how to get it.
In the dream there’s still an idea that enlightenment or liberation is

something that’s attainable. And so there are teachings that reinforce the
idea that you are an individual that has choice, so now you, as an
individual, can choose to self-enquire or to meditate, or whatever else, and
eventually you could become enlightened.
You can go all over the world and find teachings offering something to get.
It is rare, however, to find an uncompromising communication that offers
nothing at all to the seeker.
This aliveness is nothing being everything. It’s just life happening. It’s not
happening to anyone. There’s a whole set of experiences happening here
and they’re happening in emptiness … they’re happening in free fall.
They’re just what’s happening. All there is is life. All there is is beingness.
There isn’t anyone that ever has or does not have it. There’s nobody that
has life and somebody else doesn’t have life. There just is life being life.
This message is so simple it totally confounds the mind. This message is
too simple. Already your mind’s saying, “Yes, but come on … what about
the levels of enlightenment and what about my emotional blocks, and what
about my chakras, they’re not all fully open? What about my stillness – I’m
not really still yet, and what about my ego? Somebody told me I still have
an ego … it’s a bit reduced but it’s still there.”
But all of that, all of those ideas are adopted lessons about how it should
be. The ego is what’s happening. The ego is just being ego. Thinking is just
being thinking. There is only being. There is just being. There’s nothing
else. There’s nobody that’s running that. There’s no destiny, there’s no God,
there’s no plan, there’s no script, there’s nowhere to go because there is
only timeless being. Being is totally whole just being. And it is alive and
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fleshy and sexy and juicy and immediately this; it’s not some concept about
‘there’s no-one here’. It’s not some concept about ‘there’s nowhere to go’. It
is the aliveness that’s in that body right now. There is pure beingness, pure
aliveness. That’s it. End of story.
Really it is simply that. So there is no-one, there is no choice. There is no

choice at any level. Oneness didn’t choose to become two. There is just
oneness. All there is, is oneness being alive with nobody doing it. Is
anybody doing breathing? Is anybody doing blood circulation? Is anybody
really doing anything? No. There is just apparent doing. Apparent life in
freefall.
There is no answer to life because life is its own answer. It’s happening
already. It’s this. You never lost it. That’s the amazing thing about liberation.
When liberation apparently happens people say, “It’s amazing because the
thing I was looking for has never left me. It’s the one thing that never comes
and never goes – the one constant that can’t be known or held onto.” And
the one constant is being.
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Knowing and Unknowing

The story of Adam and Eve is an allegory describing the loss of “paradise”
through the arising of self-knowing. So, it seems, there is wholeness
(paradise) and within that boundless, free-floating, causeless energy,
something appears which experiences itself as being separate from that
wholeness (paradise).
Here is a metaphor pointing to what seems like “the story” of self-

consciousness, out of which is apparently born the knowing and experience
of free will, choice, time and space, purpose and direction.
As “the story” unfolds, so the self learns to know “the world out there” and
attempts to negotiate the best deal possible for itself . . . it apparently takes
action to find pleasure and avoid pain. The greater the knowledge the more
effective the action, the results and the apparent sense of personal control .
. . or so it seems.
All of these efforts bring varying results, and so the individual comes to
know fluctuating states of gratification and disappointment. However, it can
be noticed that there seems to be an underlying sense of dissatisfaction
which drives the self to find a deeper meaning.
Because the apparent self can only exist through its own knowing, its
search for a deeper meaning will be limited to that which it can know and
experience for itself. Within these limitations there are a multitude of
doctrines, therapies, ideologies, spiritual teachings and belief systems that
the seeker can come to know. There can also be the knowing and
experiencing of states of silence, stillness, bliss, awareness and
detachment, all of which seem to come and go like night and day.
All of these teachings, recommendations and prescriptions are attempting

to provide the seeker with answers to that which is unknowable, and ways
to find that which has never been lost.
So the self is the separate seeker that pursues everything that it thinks it
can know and do, excepting the absence of itself. That absence is the
emptiness which is unknowable, but paradoxically is also the very fullness,
the wholeness (paradise) that is longed for.
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Should the apparent seeker meet with a perception which reveals in great
depth the real nature of separation and also exposes, without compromise,
the sublime futility of seeking, there can be a collapse of the construct of
the separate self. That totally impersonal message carries with it a
boundless energy into which the seemingly contracted energy of self
unfolds. A resonance can arise which is beyond self awareness . . .
something ineffable can be sensed . . . a fragrance and an opening to the
wonder of unknowing can emerge.
Suddenly, there seems to be a shift and an impersonal realisation that this

is already wholeness. The boundless, naked, innocent, free-floating and
wonderful simplicity of beingness is already all there is . . . it is
extraordinary in its ordinariness and yet it cannot be described.
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Nothing for Sale

The Open Secret communication can only point to the simple wonder of
being, and attempt to illuminate the futility of seeking for it. It does not
accept or reject the teachings of spiritual path or process but it will expose,
without compromise, the singular and fundamental misconception that
drives the belief that there is something called a seeker that needs to find
something else called enlightenment.
The Open Secret does not compromise with the needs and expectations of
the seeker. Neither does it attempt to attract or please with promises of an
easy and pleasant experience of liberation. Who could promise that and
who would experience it?
Because the idea of individual free will and choice is seen as an illusory
dream, there is no agenda or intention to help or change individuality. As far
as the apparent individual is concerned, there is nothing for sale here.
The sense of being a separate individual feels very real and affects every
part of that apparent experience. It is a state of contracted energy which
becomes embodied and which brings with it a feeling of disquiet and
longing. There can be a held sense of feeling unworthy and of having lost
something indescribable. It is as though the “me” resides within the
boundaries of the body and sees everything outside as something else with
which it has to negotiate. Out of these experiences is generated a
compulsion to continuously seek comfort or release. This is the dream of
individuality which seems real until it doesn’t.
The “me” searches for peace and fulfillment, the “me” searches for self
improvement or purity, presence or detachment. The “me” seeks clarity or
any formula which will give the “me” what it thinks it wants or needs. But the
“me” not getting what it wants is not the dilemma. The dilemma is “me”.
No amount of effort, process, clarity or belief can ever bring anything other
than more “me” searching for that which the “me” cannot have or know.
The suggestion that separation is only a thought or an understanding that

comes or goes in presence is an initially attractive idea for the seeker who
dreams of an easy answer which isn’t personally challenging and will bring
permanent happiness. Thoughts of separation are only individual stories
about an already held state of feeling restricted and apart. If separation was
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only a thought or a belief, it could be seen through or changed to its
opposite, and then “BINGO” there would be liberation . . . you would think!
Such idealistic communications often go hand in hand with a relentless

reiteration of the idea that separation is “fine” because there is only ever
oneness. This is like telling a blind person that blindness is “fine” because
all there is is seeing. Of course there is only oneness. But what apparently
arises in oneness is a deep sense of separation which doesn’t feel “fine”.
These conceptual notions speak only of symptoms and do not recognize

the source of the apparent dilemma that can fill every part of feeling
separate.
In essence what is sought is love. But it is the love that is absolute, all-
embracing and eternal. It is this overwhelming love that many have
glimpsed, and which I attempted to describe in The Open Secret when I
seemed to be walking across a park and then was no more anyone. It
wasn’t experienced because there was suddenly no experiencer. It was a
glimpse that no-one glimpsed. I then returned as “a someone” and tried
again and again to re-discover that unconditional love which I could not
know.
It is that love which is alluded to in literature, music and art. The most
fascinating love stories are about unrequited love, because they point to
that absolute love which the individual cannot possess. The powerful
fascination of falling in love comes out of a primal sense that in that love
you could be lost. It is that overwhelming love which is in all of our longing
and is the fullness in the emptiness, the everything in the nothing. It is
unconditional love which also appears as its opposite. Wonderfully, it is also
that very love which constantly sings to us through our senses and in every
part of the aliveness that is happening.
Liberation is a word used to describe an apparent release from the illusion

of feeling imprisoned and apart from love, or wholeness. That shift is
essentially an energetic release out of contraction into boundlessness.
Whenever and wherever there is a deep and uncompromising sharing

together of the very real paradox of being, a palpable resonance can
emerge. Out of that openness there can be a release of that contraction
into boundlessness and what arises is the wonder of simply being.
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Traditional not two-ness

Many Advaita and “Neo Advaita” teachings presented out there are, in
simple terms, rooted in the belief that there is something called a seeker
(one) that can attain something else called enlightenment (two). This
communication recognizes the relative as the absolute appearing as form
and formlessness . . . there is not two! And so, everything is already the
unconditional expression of wholeness, including the belief that it isn’t.
Traditional Advaita is a teaching of becoming, This communication exposes

the one primary misconception that is the mother of many others. It also
attempts to describe the nature of “what is” rather than teach what should
be.
It seems that many teachers don’t recognize the difference and

continuously confirms their belief that there is an individual who can attain
enlightenment.
This communication recognizes that the belief and experience of a central

“I” or a “me” or a “self” is an assumed inconstant state. Out of this one
adopted belief in individuality arises many other beliefs, including self-
autonomy, the story, time, purpose, destiny, deity and karma. Individuality is
the transient appearance of wholeness seeming to be part of itself that
feels separate from wholeness and can only apparently seek to be whole.
But a part can never know the whole. It is a metaphor.
Many teachers believe and recommend that, in order to resolve the real
and constant sense of separation and become enlightened, the individual
should choose to follow a progressive spiritual path. This path involves
practice, meditation, self-enquiry and the eradication of ego and ignorance
through a clear understanding of the scriptures and the guidance of a
teacher.
This communication recognizes that the above beliefs and

recommendations are generated out of an assumed and inconstant sense
of being a separate individual who needs to attain something called
enlightenment. It is also recognized that an investment in the above
recommendations can reinforce and maintain the assumed sense of being
an individual who can resolve its sense of being separate.
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Many so called “non dual” teachers confirm that enlightenment is
something that can be described in words, and attained and known by the
individual mind when it acquires the knowledge that there is only a non-dual
reality.
This communication recognizes that there is no such thing as

enlightenment or liberation, or an individual that can become enlightened or
liberated. These are all ideas that come and go within the individual story.
When the assumed sense of being separate seems to collapse, already
there is only the constant and unknowable wonder of being.
There is no such thing as a “mind”. Thinking seems to happen and

sometimes thoughts formulate into belief systems which are still
experienced sporadically by the apparent individual in what seems to be a
story in time. Absolute clarity also arises within the story and is transient.
Here there is no agenda or intention to help or change apparent

individuality. Its resonance is shared energetically, not through the
exchange of ideas. It is prior to all teachings and yet eternally new. Belief is
seen as married to doubt, and experience as a fluctuating personal state.
This communication does not recognize anything as being “the truth” nor
does it see how something called Traditional Advaita could be anything
other than a complex collection of ideas.
Traditional Advaita is a teaching about that which can be known. This

communication illuminates the myth of separation and points to that which
can’t be known.
Dogmas, doctrines and progressive paths which promise eventual

enlightenment, or Nirvana, or the Kingdom of Heaven, through sacrifice,
discipline, refinement and purification of the self, appeal tremendously to
that within the seeker which feels unworthy. Hence, the power of classic
religion and teachings of becoming. Traditional Advaita is just another one
of these.
Of course there is a lot of dualistic nonsense broadcast under the non-dual

Advaita banner. A relentless regurgitation of the idea that there is “no-one”,
or that everything is fine because it is only arising as “all there is”, is nothing
more than a replacement of one set of beliefs for another.
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The Dream Of Separation

All there is, is No-thing Being Everything and what appears as part of that
everything is the belief and experience of being a separate self — an
apparent individual with its own free will, choice and ability to act. This
happening is uniquely human and is called self-consciousness. To most
people it is the reality.
That apparent feeling of being separate is at the root of the suffering,

inadequacy and sense of loss that drives people to search for escape or
resolution. It is Being dreaming that it is apart from itself, looking all over
the place for that which is already Everything. It is the hypnotic dream of
separation which, for the dreamer, is very real.
The dilemma for the dream seeker is that the feeling of separation drives
the seeking for resolution, which further fuels the sense of separation.
The development of an intelligent understanding 'mind' apparently brings

with it the ability to make choices and take actions in an attempt to
negotiate with 'the world' lived in. These negotiations are not always
successful and the individual seems to experience its own pain and
pleasure. It also develops a great respect for the guidance and control
apparently emanating from the understanding 'mind'. However, as long as
there is a sense of separation, there is a sense of disquiet or loss and there
is a seeking to dispel that sense. It seems logical that the much respected
understanding 'mind' must be capable of investigating the cause of this
disquiet and discovering ways of dispelling it.
The separate entity can only try to imagine or project an idea of what it
must be like not to be separate. What is sought is the possibility of a future
goal or state that can be realized and therefore, logically, must be
approachable. Consequently, the function of seeking and the teaching of
becoming locks the seeker into a state of continuously approaching
something that it cannot comprehend. All of this is the expression of Being,
arising as the good, old, dependable and reliable understanding ‘mind’
functioning as it can only function . . . in continual movement and
anticipation. It is this activity of becoming which very effectively keeps the
seeker in the hypnotic dream of reaching out for something it cannot grasp.
Of course, Liberation can apparently happen despite all of this effort.
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The only other hope for the dream seeker is to believe that another
benevolent energy (say God, Consciousness or a so-called enlightened
teacher) would be motivated to guide and influence the seeker along a path
which would eventually lead them to fulfillment. All of these ideas of
becoming, purpose and destiny arise in the dream.
But the paradox is that although Being appears as the dream seeker, Being
is not a state that can be imagined, conceived of, attained or even realized
by the seeking of it. Being requires absolutely nothing … it is the Nothing
and Everything that is already immaculate fulfillment and wholeness.
Nothing needs to be changed or attained, lost or found, for Being to simply
Be. The appearance of separation is simply the expression of Being. The
very idea of something needing to approach that which it already is, is
wonderfully futile.
The dream seeker feels a sense of loss and unworthiness, and so is very
attracted to dream teachings which involve purification, hard committed
effort, surrender, devotion and the development of renunciation and
detachment. There is a kind of logical inevitability and worthiness about
these ideas which resonates with the sense of lack. The almost endless
path of striving happily ensures the continuation of the individual
experience. These ideas seem to arise out of a very substantial and reliable
history of traditional wisdom which surely must be respected, even though it
is only available as words on bits of paper.
Two traditional ways which seek resolution, or escape, from the sense of
separation are meditation and self-enquiry.
In meditation it seems possible, through apparent choice and guidance, to

reach certain states of stillness or bliss which seem better than feeling
separate. The belief is that continuous effort with meditation will solidify the
state and eventually make it permanent. But these states are only refined
personal experiences happening within the dream-story. So like all other
time-based activities they come and go away.
Self-enquiry is a similar process in that the goal is for the individual to

choose to take action or make the effort to reach a place called awareness
which, its teachers promise, will bring personal peace of mind, happiness
and the end of all suffering (?).
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There is a great emphasis on the need for properly carried out investigation
of thought processes etc, and the necessity for vigilance from “being
distracted by self-centered thoughts”.
All of this activity is based on the principle of the enquirer “getting oneness”
and maintaining personal possession of it.
The effect of the state of awareness is apparent movement into a place of

detachment which at first feels very freeing, powerful and safe . . . rather
like being in a glass box from which life can be watched without the watcher
being affected. It is still a subtly dual personal experience within the dream-
story of separation and so it is transitory.
Awareness of life happening is not 'Being life’.
Predictably the state of awareness (Buddhist mindfulness) is easily

forgotten or mislaid, or it can be overwhelmed by dream thinking or any
powerful emotional situation, for instance. The glass box shatters and the
place you seemed to be in seems lost again. The dream seeker either
starts self enquiring again, for another boost, or it is realized that
awareness is just another refuge from within the dream of separation. All of
this is simply the expression of Being.
Another way for the dream seeker to avoid simply Being is to try to
understand or develop clarity about its own nature. It is very easy to get
stuck in ‘Advaita’ or ‘non-dual’ concepts. The singular and unrelenting
reiteration of such ideas as “all there is is Being", “everything is the
expression of Being” or “there is no one” are an arid and simplistic form of
communication. It doesn't address or illuminate the dream seeker’s
apparent dilemma and it obviously ignores the primary energetic essence
of the implicit aliveness of simply Being. To continuously say that being
awake or being asleep is not relevant because “Being is all there is” is like
telling a blind person that it’s OK to be blind because “seeing is all there is”.
This is pure idealism. Of course, there is no such thing as being asleep or
being awake, but this is not seen until there is no one looking.
The Open Secret communication is not dependent on clear concepts,

however much they may expose confused concepts. Speaking happens
and words can only point to another possibility which is beyond verbal
expression. It is the eternally new message which is hidden within the
scriptures and either overlooked or rejected in the ‘mind’.
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The idea of prescriptive teaching, guidance or the offer of any kind of help
simply does not arise. This is a message without hope or comfort of any
kind for the individual, but invariably the dream seeker will still believe that
something is on offer … this is the function of seeking. It is also possible
that all that will be left is nothing, and then another possibility could arise.
However, there is no agenda or motive because nothing is for sale.
It is possible that clarity could arise, but absolute understanding is not

liberation. Nevertheless, all of this conceptual communication is secondary
to the primary element that is most illuminating. That primary element is
energetic, impersonal aliveness … the implicit, vibrant wonder of simply
Being. It is an energetic shift, apparently out of contraction into
boundlessness. This boundlessness cannot be owned and so cannot be
given. Its simplicity utterly confounds the ‘mind’, but what arises is an
impersonal recognition that there is no-one and nothing to be liberated. All
ideas of separation, individual suffering, free will, choice, meaning and
purpose, destiny, hierarchy and tradition, are simply seen by no-one as the
dream-play of Being.
It seems that the seeking ‘mind’ is fascinated by struggle and complexity.

The whole fabric of seeking is full of stories of great edifices, seemingly
arising out of simple beginnings. Buddhism, Christianity and so many other
dogmas, arise and grow and fight each other over having better gods.
Catechisms of sin and worthiness, degrees of awareness and levels of
enlightenment are investigated, dissected and struggled over.
The mind loves the idea of enlightenment being some kind of distant,
virtually unobtainable, perfect place of permanent bliss, free from suffering
and full of omniscience, omnipresence and lots of other important ‘omni’s’
stomping around, shouting the odds and saving the world. And of course,
because all this glory and specialness has to be attained, it seems there
has to be a long haul through the dark night of the soul, endless past
karmas, original sin, right-thinking, right action and preparation for the
bardos. “It is a tale told by a fool, full of sound and fury, signifying nothing.”
Yet Natural Being is such an ordinary and gentle constant. When it is seen
it is. When it is avoided it is. It requires no effort and demands no
standards. Being timeless there is no path to tread, no debt to pay. When
this is heard and confusion collapses, when the contraction of struggling to
get something falls away and the vibrant energy of being aliveness
becomes apparent, something else is seen, very naturally of course,
because it is already all that is. 
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Seeing and Not Seeing

A simple, direct, but fundamental shift in perception reveals that all there is
- is liberation. But oneness does not become apparent through something
gained, rather through something lost. Many will come across this rare and
radical message and quickly shuffle back to that which they think they can
know and do. But there are those with whom this communication will
resonate . . . and there will be a sudden seeing and falling away of all
seeking, even for that which they have called enlightenment.
All there is - is this. Oneness is being this . . . whatever is apparently

happening . . . reading these words, breathing, blood coursing through
the body, sounds being heard, thoughts coming and going and feelings in
the body - the sense of sitting on a seat maybe. Here is oneness being
aliveness as this.
No effort is needed for that aliveness to be. Nobody is doing aliveness. Is

anybody doing sitting on a chair? Thinking is oneness thinking "I don't
get where this is going", or "this is too simple". All is simply aliveness,
oneness, being. It cannot be taght or achieved. Who is apart from being to
achieve being? Who can lose or gain this when this is all there
is? Resisting oneness is oneness resisting. Seeking oneness is oneness
seeking itself.
Aliveness is oneness apparently happening. Aliveness is being alive.

There is only being and the nature of that being is emptiness and fullness,
nothing and everything, movement and repose.
In that wholeness arises the idea "I am a separate individual". This seems
to be the beginning of a dream called "me being someone in a world
with which I have to negotiate”.
Here in this separation is the root of all fear and feeling of disquiet coming
out of a sense of loss. Again it is the appearance of oneness, and in that
appearance we embark on a journey in which we meet parents, teachers,
maybe priests, bosses and lovers, and learn how to get what we think
we want seemingly through personal choice and effort. The pursuit
of pleasure and the avoidance of pain generate transient experiences
of gratification and disappointment. The whole manifestation that we call life
is simply the drama of oneness looking for itself, for all desire is the longing
for oneness.
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For some the idea of enlightenment seems to offer the promise

of fulfillment. However, the separate individual can only dream individuality.
That is its function.
Inevitably in the search for enlightenment, the dream seeker is attracted to

a dream teaching that promotes and reinforces the idea of individual choice
and effort, which, through discipline and sacrifice, can lead to the promised
ultimate experience of enlightenment. But this teaching reinforces the
illusion that there is such a thing as an individual who has free will and the
choice to become.
What is inseparable from the dream of individuality is the idea of ownership.

"What is happening is happening to me. I have a life called me and I can, or
even should, do something with my life in the time allotted; I have to
succeed; I am an individual and personal endeavor can bring me what I
need." This misconception promotes the continuation of the dream of
personal enlightenment.
The idea that presumes the possibility that dualistic practices can lead
the apparent seeker to the non-dualistic perception is similar to the idea
that with sufficient effort and determination you can teach a blind man to
see. To quote "Doctrines, processes and progressive paths which
seek enlightenment only exacerbate the problem they address by
reinforcing the idea that the apparent self can find something it presumes it
has lost. It is that very effort, that investment in self-identity that
continuously recreates the illusion of separation from oneness. This is the
veil which we believe exists. It is the dream of individuality." (The Open
Secret)
Out of all the many awakenings that have been described to me, it is
continuously confirmed that one of the first realizations that arises is
the seeing that no-one awakens. And yet we see that the majority of
teachings, both traditional and contemporary, are constantly speaking to an
apparent separate seeker (subject) and recommending that in order to
attain enlightenment (object) they should choose to meditate, self enquire,
purify, cultivate understanding, still the mind and the ego, surrender,
be honest, seek earnestly , give up seeking, do therapy, do nothing, be
here now, and so on . . . the ideas are as endless and as complicated as
the mind from where they are generated.
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These recommendations arise from the belief that the "enlightenment"
of the "teacher" has been attained or earned through the application
of choice, effort, acceptance or surrender, an d that other seekers can
be taught to do the same.
Of course there can be nothing right or wrong with earnest seeking,

meditation, self enquiry, understanding and so on. They are simply
what they appear to be. But who is it that is going to choose to make the
effort? Where is the effort going to take the apparent chooser to? where is
there to go if there is only oneness? If there is no separate individual al
there is no volition, and so how can an illusion dispel itself?
There is no person that becomes enlightened. No-one awakens.

Awakening is the absence of the illusion of individuality. Already there is
only awakeness, oneness, timeless being, radical aliveness. When the
dream seeker is no more it is seen (by no-one) that there is nothing to seek
and no-one to become liberated.
Here is oneness, the realisation of wholeness that cannot be attained or

owned. This is the awakening in which the awareness of what is arises
together with the dreaming of that which cannot be known. There can be
a dance between dreaming and being, and in that dance there can be
a return to the fascination of personal ownership.
However, the realisation that the dream seeker is also oneness is liberation,
the uncaused, impersonal, silent stillness which is the celebration of
unconditional love. This is all there is.
There is no me or you , no seeker, no enlightenment, no disciple and

no guru . There is no better or worse, no path or purpose, and nothing
that has to be achieved.
All appearance is source. All that apparently manifests in the hypnotic

dream of separation the world, the life story, the search for home, is
one appearing as two the nothing appearing as everything, the
absolute appearing as the particular.
There is no separate intelligence weaving a destiny and no

choice functioning at any level. Nothing is happening but this, as it is,
invites the apparent seeker to rediscover that which is . . . the abiding,
uncaused, unchanging, impersonal silence from which unconditional love
overflows and celebrates. It is the wonderful mystery. 
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The Divine Misconception

On the subject of Traditional Advaita (Oneness) versus Neo Advaita
It has recently been argued that Traditional Oneness is somehow better

than ‘Neo Oneness’, or even ‘PseudoOneness’. The strangeness of this
idea exposes the foolishness of trying to give title to that which is limitless.
The cunning and manipulative guru mind inevitably objectifies verbal
expression, and out of that objectifying arises a plethora of dogmatic
movements all claiming supreme understanding of that which cannot be
understood.
As a consequence, so called Traditional Advaita, for instance, is just

another established religion with a proliferation of teachings and literature,
all of which very successfully and consistently miss the mark. It stands
alongside Christianity and Buddhism as one of the many systems of
personal indoctrination promising the eventual spiritual fulfillment. To quote
from The Open Secret:
“To translate the inexpressible into the doctrinal is to attempt to transform a

song of freedom into a dogma of limitation. When the bird has flown, the
essence of its song is often mislaid and all we are left with is an empty
cage.”
The teaching of “Traditional Advaita” has no relevance to liberation because

it is born out of a fundamental misconception. Its logical and sensibly
progressive recommendations include meditation, self-enquiry,self
restraint,and to quote “the renunciation of the ego and all desire”. Of course
there is nothing right or wrong with the idea of desiring to renounce desire.
However, these idealistic recommendations and teachings are based on
the fundamental misconception that there is such a thing as a separate
individual with free will and the choice to become.
The belief that there is a separate seeker (subject) who can choose to
attain or become worthy of something called enlightenment (object) is a
direct denial of abiding oneness (Advaita).
Within the hypnotic dream of separation, the prevailing perception is that of

the seeker and the sought. The ignorance of this perception continues in
the search for enlightenment, and inevitably the dreamseeker is attracted to
a dream teaching which upholds and encourages the same premise of
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personal discipline and sacrifice (seeking) leading to the eventual goal of
enlightenment (the sought).
The recommendation to cultivate understanding and refine something

called “the mind” (?) is hugely attractive to the dreamseeker because it
prolongs the very worthy search and thrives on logic, detachment,
complication, endeavor, hierarchy and exclusivity.
Trying to understand oneness is as futile as trying to fall in love with an

inch.
There is no possibility of teaching oneness. However, the sharing can bring

a rediscovery of that which is already known.
If we are to believe recent descriptions of something called “Neo Advaita”

as being “the forcing of the truth (?) on unprepared minds” or “advising
people to stop seeking” or suggesting to people that they are “nothing but
the mind itself”, these teachings, if they exist, are equally as dualistic as the
“traditional Advaita” they were born out of.
This confusion is of course as much an expression of oneness as the clarity

which exposes it.
All of this silly circus is simply the eternal play of oneness apparently
seeking itself. It is the wonderful cosmic joke oneness plays on itself by
pretending to be an individual seeking something called “not being an
individual”.
When it is suddenly and directly rediscovered by no-one that liberation

brings with it the realisation that there is nothing to seek and no-one to
become liberated, then there is much laughter.
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Actualized.org
Notes from youTube video “Free Will vs Determinism - Does Free Will
Exist?
Determinism: Everything is happening from the preceding causes. What

happen a second ago was because of what happen two seconds ago.
Free Will: We as individuals make choices in life. I can choose an apple

instead of a banana.
Is undeniable that we feel as we have free will.
From an experiential perspective “Free Will does not exist.”

This is the most radical thing you can claim.
It mean you have no control whatsoever over your lives, even though you
feel as like you do.
I am not saying you have 1% control. I am saying you have zero control,
none whatsoever.
That means you don’t control your thoughts, you don’t control your actions,
you don’t control your habits, your desires, your emotions, or your
motivation level, or your success or your failure in life. Basically you don't
have control on anything at all.
And the reason that this is, is because there is no “self” who can have
control.
The assumption that exist in the Free Will vs Determinism debate is that
there is a self in the first place who can have free will, and this is not the
case.
(Enlightenment is the direct realization that there is no self inside)
There is no entity in your mind who is controlling things.
Practice self observation to prove the absence of free will.

Sit down and observe your thoughts. Ask yourself where do thoughts come
from?
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If you observe your thoughts in real time as they arise, what you notice is
that you can’t stop your thoughts, not for even thirty seconds. That is
enough to at least make you suspicious about this idea of Free Will. Why
can’t you if you have control. Your mind is always running from one thought
to another.
If you go deeper you will notice that you don’t even know what your next
thought is going to be. You don’t know what is coming next in your mind.
You think you know but you don't really know.
So you don’t really control your thoughts, since you can’t control them. Nor
you can’t control your actions.
Who would be in control? Who is exactly having free will? You think is you,
the ego, the self. Actually, the self is just an illusion. It doesn’t really exist.
What the self really is not a physical entity. It is a collection of mental
images, mental auditory labels, and body sensations. When this three
things intermingle then it is created a very solid illusion of a you, and it is to
that you that we attribute free will and thing that this ego is making choices
and decisions in life, like the CEO that is abiding inside your head.
Thoughts appear out of literally nowhere. You don’t create them, they
happen to you. Most of the thoughts are created by external stimulus. What
you watch, read, people you talk to. Thoughts arise in autopilot, in a
random and scatter way.
Your actions and behaviors are not control by you because there is no you
inside. There are a lot of subsystems within your mind that simultaneous
are triggering the action and the arising of the thought. You are not the one
who is causing the action, you are something that is also a thought that is
arising. So you yourself are a thought. You are not a physical thing, you are
a thought.
But who is deciding between apple or banana?

Not you, you are not making that decision. The brain-body mechanism is
extraordinary complex and amazing. The brain-body mechanism is not a
dum vessel that we, the “me” abide. The brain-body mechanism is a
distributive system, not a centralized system. There is no one thing inside
that we can point and call “you”, instead is all the parts of the brain-body
mechanism, around thirty trillions cells in the body on average. Every single
cell in the mechanism take part in the decision, plus every single part in the
universe since we are interconnected and influenced with all around us.
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Your life history, past experiences with apples and bananas, your cultural
background, your DNA inherited from your parents, taste preferences,
healthy perspectives and beliefs in the mind, teachers advices, past
memories, your parents and siblings… All of this is coming into play.
Based on all that, the mind then constructs its preferences and it then make
decisions. The mind is able to process amazing quantities of information
and you are not conscious of 99.9% of any of it. You not only do not control
it but you don’t even have awareness of it. Many things are happening
within your body without a single input from you.
The body-mind mechanism can do intelligent things without the need of

“you” to decide between the apple or the banana. Could that be possible?
When you take a decision, it appears that you are choosing but what
actually is happening is that a thought is arising at the same time, and the
thought claims control over the decision. That’s how the illusion is created.
What you are, the thing we call “you”, this ego, what that is is not not an
input into the system, it’s actually an output of the system.
Why this is difficult to accept?

1. You have a very strong illusion of free will in play. The ego is always
claiming responsibility of its choices.
2. The ego really hates this idea. Fundamentally the ego is about control
and this will create a strong emotional reaction.
3. You’ve being wrong your whole life assuming that you had control and
that is difficult to swallow.
4. This is socially and culturally unacceptable. Goes completely against
the pervading social paradigm. People will think you are crazy or
dangerous.
5. Non free will does not means what you think it means.
Clarifications
• An enlightened yogi that has reached enlightenment has realized that
there is not such a thing as a self and of course they realized that there is
not such a thing as control, and completely surrender themselves to the
idea of no free will. There is no more self inside of them. And what his
allows them to do is to flow with life. Now for everything he does there is
no resistance in it. There is no internal suffering or struggle anymore. He
is flowing with life and that looks effortless.
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• There are teachings that will tell you to take full responsibility of your life
and they are no wrong. They are exactly what some people need to hear
the point they are in their particular journeys. This no free will teaching is
a very advance teaching for a different audience.
This will not work with a wounded low self esteem ego. You need to
develop a strong and healthy ego before you can release and transcend
ego. A weak ego is not easy to release. You are so busy trying to protect
your ego and defend yourself that you’re not able to let go of it. You need to
take responsibility and transcend the victim and become a creator before
realizing the next level of surrendering control.
• Motivation does not comes from you. You get inspired by something or
disgusted by something outside from you. You are not separate from
nature, you’re a part of nature.
• All esoteric core religions tell you need to surrender yourself. They tell
you that your arrogance is separating you from God. What does that
mean? Poetically speaking, who you are, the ego is the devil. Lucifer. The
devil is not some other entity living somewhere in the shadows. The devil
is you. You separate yourself from god. How do you do that? By acting
arrogant, by claiming power over things which you have no power. God in
this case refers to reality, All that is, to the source which is nothingness.
Not to an anthropomorphic figure floating somewhere in the sky.
You are fundamentally frustrated in life because you believe you have
control when actually you do not. That’s the root of almost all your problems
in life. If you tale a leap of faith and actually surrender yourself to nature, to
reality, then what happens is there are not more problems, life flows
smoothly for you. There is no more internal struggle, no more self
interference. You were never in control at the first place.
Ramifications of No Free Will

There was no one in control during your whole life. Now you finally give up
the illusion of control. Yo never had control on the first place. You are going
to feel you are still making decisions, but deep down you can know that you
are actually you’re not. What you will do stop is self interference, and with
that your suffering will stop because it will become unnecessary. The
struggle for control will stop, your neurosis will stop because you will realize
that you don’t control things anyway.
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Big decisions will become effortless for you because you will realize that
you are flowing with life, and that you are not the one making this decisions
in the first place. All decision where made for you but you agonize about
decision because you believe you where the one controlling them.
Imagine that you where sitting in a car and somebody else was driving the
car but you where deluded enough to believe that you where in control. So
that when they take a turn to the left you struggle asking yourself what’s
wrong, it was supposed to turn to the right. Surrender yourself to the fact
that you are not the driver. Enjoy the sounds and sight and enjoy the trip.
We will gain a lot of power by becoming one with nature.
If your aim in life is happiness and peace of mind, your current strategy for
acquiring it is get more control in life. You think it is gonna work but it is not
gonna work, Think about how else could peace of mind could be possible,
other than if you surrender yourself to nature.
At least start by admitting the possibility that you have been wrong your
whole life about having free will. Open your mind and admit that maybe it is
possible that you do not have control.
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Heart Math Institute

Heart-focused breathing
When you are practicing heart-focused breathing and being the breath, you
abide in a harmonious state infused with confident, positive, focused, calm,
yet energized sensations.
Heart Focus
Shift your attention to the area of the heart, or the center of your chest.
Heart Breathing
Breathe slowly and deeply. Imagine the air entering and leaving through the
heart area, or the center of your chest.
Heart Feeling
Remember a time when you felt good inside, and try to re-experience that
feeling. Focus on this good feeling as you continue to breathe through the
area of your heart.
Heart-Shift
1. Notice what you are feeling.
2. Shift to your heart. (your heart that is feeling)
3. Breathe a feeling of calm. (to the heart that is feeling. Not instead).
Breathe slowly and easily. Imagine the air flowing in and out of your
heart area. Take your time breathing in and out. Do this three to five
times.
Breathing Appreciation
Heart Breathing
Focus your attention on your heart area, and breathe a little deeper than
normal, in for 5 or 6 seconds and out 5 or 6 seconds.
Heart Focus
Imagine breathing through your heart. Picture yourself slowly breathing in
and out through your heart area.
Heart Feeling
Activate a positive feeling while you maintain your heart focus and
breathing. Recall a time when you felt good inside, and try to re-experience
the feeling. Remember a special place or the love you feel for a close
friend, relative or pet. The Key is to focus on something you really
appreciate.
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You can write a list of things you appreciate such as your heart connection
to some people, the opportunity to experience this life, places, activities and
beings that you appreciate. So you can take two or three appreciation
breaks each day, ideally in early morning, while meditating, walking or
contemplating. Bring your appreciation breathing practice up everytime you
realize you feel a positive sensation… appreciate it.
Heart Coherence Technique
1. Breathe and calm yourself in whatever ways you choose.

2. Choose something you appreciate and radiate the feeling of
appreciation to it for about 2 minutes.
3. Evoke a feeling of compassion and care for everyone around you (your
scope of awareness).
4. Breathe the feelings of compassion and care going out from your heart.
Imagine compassion and care to be like a river flowing out from your
heart the way a river flows out to the sea. Or you can imagine love and
care to flow as a radiate beam of light pulsing with the rhythm of your
breath.
5. (ejercicio de altruismo aquí. alguien que quieres y está sufriendo)
anxiety, tension, anger, worry and sadness
Forgetting
I am only aware of what I am saying as I am saying it. And forget it in the
next moment. !!! What is done is gone.
Be aware of what you are saying as you're saying it,

then forget it in the next moment. !!! What is done is gone.
- Diego -
[As I speak, I want you to open yourself to feel the words you are listening.
Rather than analyze them mentally, feel them with your heart, and create a
sense of relaxation and openness within you.]
[Hey, if you’re open I would like to know more about you.]
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Present Moment Awareness

“THIS MOMENT MATTERS”
Daily practice from now on:
• Attend 15 minutes breathing practice twice daily as soon after waking

and late afternoon (not before bed).
Repeating this practice twice during the course of each day is required to
support efficient integration. Read or review this text daily and apply the
perceptual tools as instructed.
Connected Breathing Instructions
• Sit with your back comfortably straight and eyes closed (not it your
bed). Ensure you are comfortably warm.
• Connected breathing means that we breathe in and out without pausing
(no long breathless gaps between our breaths). We breathe in an alert
manner, with our breathing loud enough for us to hear ourselves.
• We apply active effort to our in-breath, whereas the out-breath is
automatic, but we ensure that both our in-breath and our out-breath are
of an even duration.
• We intend to breathe in such a manner that our inhalation and
exhalation are one continuous rhythmic pattern.
• Nose breathing is preferable. When our nose is blocked, we use our
mouth. However, we don’t use both nose and mouth.
• We may initially require an alarm device to assist us in keeping time.
Synchronize conscious phrase
We synchronize our breathing with the following conscious response:
"I am here now in this."

or in Spanish…
"Estoy aquí presente ahora.”
We synchronize our breathing and mental activity in this manner: “I” on the
in-breath, “AM” on the out-breath, “HERE” on the in-breath, “NOW” on the
out-breath, “IN on the in-breath, and “THIS” on the out-breath, using the
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same words for each cycle of in-breaths and out-breaths. This conscious
response is for our breathing practice only.
During the Breathing practice
Whatever happens physically, mentally, and emotionally during our

breathing practice is valid. No matter what the nature of our experience –
whether we perceive it as comfortable or uncomfortable – we keep our
breathing connected, remain relaxed, and sit as still as possible.
Any discomfort we experience during a consciously connected breathing

session is an indicator of charged emotion surfacing for integration.
Discomfort experienced during breathing sessions is the past coming to
pass. Trust the process and complete the session.
If we experience a reoccurring loop of unconsciousness, so that we lapse

into sleep each time we sit to breathe, it’s recommended we double the
tempo of our breathing pattern until we again feel present.
After we complete our breathing session, we are encouraged to take our

attention off our breathing, sit quietly, and be unconditionally with whatever
we experience. All experiences are valid.
Don’t talk about your presence practice
Resistance to our daily breathing practice also increases when we tell

others about our intent to enter this work. In most cases, we are only talking
about it in an effort to gain outside support – seeking validation from others
by telling them what we’re doing.

In the end, our validation of ourselves is all we require for the process to
have an authentic impact. We therefore make a conscious effort to enter
this journey for ourselves.
Living for approval
As children, we enter the world of routine and “appropriate behavior”

through the guidance of our parents. Our lack of personal willpower – the
ability to source our intent from insight – is the consequence of our initial
intimate relationship with our mother. We eat, dress, bathe, and behave in a
manner determined by our mother.
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As we develop, we express ourselves according to what we perceive to be
appropriate in the eyes of our mother and father. The consequence of this
initial dependency is that on an unconscious level, our motivation for the
way we eat, dress, bathe, and behave today is almost solely sourced from
the reflected physical presence of others and hence is reactive. We
unconsciously use these “others” as ongoing reflections of our mother and
father. Through the physical presence of others, we still attempt to please
our mother and father as a means of gaining their approval and
unconditional acceptance.
During our teenage years, this behavior is transformed and transferred into
a desire to “fit in” with peer groups. By the time we enter adulthood, this
need for external validation becomes cloaked as a desire “to appear
responsible” and “to get ahead.”
Driven by our reactivity we are unconsciously living for the

acknowledgement and approval of others.
One of the fruits we gradually enjoy when we consistently connect our

breathing twice a day for a minimum of 15 minutes is that we start building
the muscle of personal willpower.
Are we responsible for the quality of our experience?

Yes, but the mental body can't comprehend this simple fact. The mental
body only understands blame. If our experience doesn’t go according to our
mentally devised plans and schedules, then someone or something else is
to blame.
We are the timeless observer
Our body, our behavior, and the circumstances we experience are

constantly changing. The nature of experience is that it is constantly
changing in form and content, while the quality of our experience depends
on the interpretation we give these things.
Although our experience comes and goes, ever changing, “we” remain –
participating, observing, and witnessing. Ten years ago our experience was
different, yet the part of us that was having this experience then is still here
now, in this moment.
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Some call Presence “the observer.” This is because it witnesses everything
and therefore knows everything that has ever happened during our entire
life experience. By entering into present moment awareness, we also
discover that Presence also appears to know everything that is to occur.
Presence is awareness
Presence knows no order of difficulty. This means Presence has the

capacity to bring into our experience the precise circumstances required to
trigger in us an awareness of suppressed charged emotions that require
conscious integration.
Through responding to and integrating whatever Presence reveals, we

accumulate present moment awareness.
It knows exactly what experience we require to restore present moment

awareness. By surrendering to it, we are surrendering to our experience as
it unfolds throughout this process.

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Conflict Resolution Skills

Turn conflicts into opportunities to grow.
Learning how to deal with conflict—rather than avoiding it—is crucial.
When conflicts are handled in a respectful, positive way, they provides an
opportunity to strengthen the bond between two people.
Conflicts occurs whenever people disagree over their values, principles,
motivations, perceptions, ideas, or desires.
Conflicts arise from different needs.

Think about the conflicting need for safety versus the need to explore and
take risks. You frequently see this conflict between toddlers and their
parents. The child’s need is to explore, so the street or the cliff meets a
need. But the parents’ need is to protect the child’s safety, so limiting
exploration becomes a bone of contention between them.
A lack of understanding about differing needs can result in conflict,

distance, arguments, and break-ups.
A conflict is more than just a disagreement. It is a situation in which one

or both parties perceive a threat (whether or not the threat is real).
Conflicts continue to evolve when ignored. Because conflicts involve

perceived threats to our well-being and survival, they stay with us until we
face and resolve them.
We react to conflicts based on our perceptions of the situation, not

necessarily to an objective review of the facts.
Conflicts trigger strong emotions. If you aren’t comfortable with your

emotions or able to manage them in times of stress, you won’t be able to
resolve conflict successfully.
Conflicts are an opportunity for growth. When you’re able to resolve

conflict in a relationship, it builds trust in your ability to handle any situation.
How do you perceive conflict?

Do you fear conflict or avoid it at all costs? If your perception of conflict
comes from frightening or painful memories from previous unhealthy
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relationships or early childhood, you may expect all present-day
disagreements to end badly. You may view conflict in relationships as
demoralizing, humiliating, dangerous, and something to fear. If your early
life experiences also left you feeling out of control and powerless, conflict
may even be traumatizing for you.
If you view conflict as dangerous, it tends to become a self-fulfilling
prophecy. When you go into a conflict situation already feeling extremely
threatened, it’s tough to deal with the problem at hand in a healthy way.
Instead, you are more likely to shut down or blow up in anger.
Healthy and unhealthy ways of managing and resolving conflict
Unhealthy responses to conflict Healthy responses to conflict

An inability to recognize and respond to The capacity to recognize and respond
the things that matter to the other to the things that matter to the other
person. person.
Explosive, angry, hurtful, and resentful Calm, non-defensive, and respectful
reactions. respond.
The withdrawal of love, resulting in A readiness to forgive and forget, and to
rejection, isolation, shaming, and fear of move past the conflict without holding
abandonment. resentments or anger.
The fear and avoidance of conflict, A belief that facing conflict head on is
holding the expectation of bad the best thing for both sides.
outcomes.
Healthy and unhealthy ways of managing and resolving conflict

Abilities to cultivate
If you are out of touch with your feelings or so stressed that you can only
pay attention to a limited number of emotions, you won’t be able to
understand your own needs. And, if you don’t understand your own needs,
you will have a hard time communicating with others and staying in touch
with what's really troubling you. For example, couples often argue about
petty differences—the way she hangs the towels, the way he slurps his
soup—rather than what is really bothering them.
The ability to successfully resolve conflict depends on your ability to:

• Manage stress quickly while remaining alert and calm. By
staying calm, you can accurately read and interpret verbal and
nonverbal communication.
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• Control your emotions and behavior. When you’re in control of
your emotions, you can communicate your needs without
threatening, frightening, or punishing others.
• Pay attention to the feelings being expressed as well as the
spoken words of others.
• Be aware of and respectful of differences. By avoiding
disrespectful words and actions, you can almost always resolve a
problem faster.
To successfully resolve a conflict, you will need to learn and practice two
core skills: the ability to quickly reduce stress in the moment and the ability
to remain comfortable enough with your emotions to react in constructive
ways even in the midst of an argument or a perceived attack.
Quick stress relief: The first core conflict resolution skill
Being able to manage and relieve stress in the moment is the key to
staying balanced, focused, and in control, no matter what challenges you
face. If you don’t know how to stay centered and in control of yourself, you
will become overwhelmed in conflict situations and unable to respond in
healthy ways.
Stress interferes with the ability to resolve conflict by limiting your

ability to:
• Accurately read another person's nonverbal communication
• Hear what someone is really saying
• Be aware of your own feelings
• Be in touch with your deep-rooted needs
• Communicate your needs clearly
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Closing Ceremony Satsangs

Closing Ceremony Satsang (2016/06/24)
Diego Palma
Buenos Días!
Gracias Pachamama.
Gracias, gracias Pachamama, our mother, nuestra madre.
Feeling our mother, the center, the heart of the earth, the center of the earth
connecting to all our hearts. Like being one heart with our mother, in full
connection… Pachamama. Children from the heart.
Honoring our mother in respect, in gratitude.
What a beautiful attitude and feeling to cultivate… gratitude towards our

mother, towards each other. To be part of a tribe, a family, awaken seekers.
Honoring the sacred circle, the sacred ceremony, sacred medicines,
medicina de la tierra for us to awaken in this beautiful way of
transformation, of healing, all together, sending our best wishes for each
other, holing the space for each other, in respect, in harmony, being
authentic inside in the beautiful process of deconstructing ourselves,
deprogramming ourselves, like a family, like a tribe, familia, tribu,
ayahuasqueros and proud of it.
Thank you for holding the space in a beautiful, impecable way. With your
noble silence, with your presence, doing you work.
Pachamama, Mata Gaia, Sri Bhagavati, Tonanzin, Mata Takilla, the heart,
the feminine aspect, bringing us together abiding in the heart.
Urpi Yai, Tunkashila, Wakan Tanka, Gran Padre, Gran Misterio. The
masculine aspect bringing us alignment, direction, intention, purpose.
Bringing all possibilities into manifestation, like stars are in the sky.
Wiracqocha, Oneness, uno, Brahma, todo. Disolvió both aspects of duality

into perfect balance, into perfect center, into pure presence. Abiding in the
present moment, in present moment awareness. With nothing to achieve,
nothing to become, with no need to self define ourselves, just abiding here,
now. Trusting our intuition.
Our heart is our guide. When you trust your heart, then you do not need to
hold into any kind of believe systems to tell you how to act. You recognize
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that every moment is completely unique. The best way to act is to go to
your heart, to your center, to your inner silence, take a step back and wait
for unfolding. Then you will feel it and you will know how to act in every
moment.
Remember that there is no need to self define ourselves. And the reason is
because you cannot know who you are. Really. You cannot know who you
are. It is not in the knowing aspect. Who you are is beyond concept, is
beyond duality. You cannot go further than “I am”. It’s a direct experience of
it… “I am”. You cannot prove it to anyone, you don’t need to.
So stay in the “I am”. Give up your tendency to self define yourselves at all.
Anything you add after the I am is just static language, it’s a casket, and will
remain in this reality, will dissolve with this reality. So stay in the I am,
anything we add after that is just part of this fictional character, this sense
of identity projected, that we have been taught to create since childhood in
a society based on competition, in achieving. When you go inside, it looks a
little inauthentic in a way, to hold a fictional character based on concepts. It
is like a leaking balloon that you need to put air all the time, cause it is
leaking, and it will consume your lifeforce.
So just stay in the “I am”. And the beauty of that is that there is nothing to
depend at all. There is nothing to defend. You stay in the realm of being. In
the realm of doing you can define your behaviors which is not who you are,
it’s what you like to do, what you are doing. It’s like, people ask me “Diego,
are you a shaman?” What that means for you? I love yo serve medicine, I
know how to do it. It doesn’t make me who I am. Who I am is beyond that.
This is the experience I am having.
So remember, there is the realm of being, in which “I am” is the only truth
you can hold, and there is the realm of doing where you can “do” many
things. But don’t mix them, don’t confuse yourselves. Just be present.
Detach yourselves from all believe systems, question them all the time.
Remember, “a believe is an unnecessary overlay on top of simple reality.”
So get in touch with simple reality, stay there, feeling the kindness in the
flow of life, the beauty of the silence, becoming the witness.
This reality is just like a hologram, just like a mirror, a multidimensional,

complex, holographic mirror. But behaving in the same way as a glass
mirror. Following one simple law, “What you put out is what you get back”.
All the time, what you put out is what you get back. This mirror is reflecting
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your state of being, your vibration. But it’s completely devoid of built in
meaning, like empty props. You put the meaning to everything. It is actually
amazing. And one of the main problems in society is that we do not
understand this simple law, and we see that people are fighting with the
reflection, not understanding in an emotional level that it is just a reflection
of your own core vibration.
So vibrate the highest that you can all the time. That’s the key. If you vibrate
high, the reflection is going to be amazing. If you are vibrating low, the
reflection is going to be nasty.
And how we do that? How we vibrate the highest we can? This is not a
thing of planning the future. This is a thing of this moment, which is the only
moment that exist, the now. And it’s the same moment. In every now
moment, follow your bliss, follow your excitement, what makes you expand
the most, the sharing, the giving, the love within. Follow your bliss, follow
your dreams all the time. If your excitement changes to something different,
change with it. You are going to be a lot more efficient if you are really
doing what you like to do, what you love to do, what you feel excited to do.
We have been told that to be a mature person is to do do something and

stick into that regardless of if you are enjoying it or not. And it is really a bad
deal. If you don’t like what you are doing, stop doing it. Because this life is
really short in a way, and we have sign up into this incarnation to really
explore it fully and enjoy it deeply. So follow your bliss all the time. You are
going to be an example, you are going to be a happier person and allow
other people to do the same.
Question everything, all the believes that you are holding, because you
know, ignorance is not about not knowing something, ignorance is about
knowing something that is not true. So become radical skeptical, question
everything, religion, tradition, sacredness. Shed light into every aspect of
your being, because if you do not do it, you are going to be living from the
tape recorder, from the subconscious programing. So it’s in our hands to
take full responsibility of our vibration, our feelings, deeply. To learn how to
handle them deeply, to integrate them, to heal all our wounds, to bring them
to the surface and heal them completely, so we can vibrate the highest we
can.
And remember, don’t do anything that is not coming out from lower
vibrations like guilt, anger, fear of rejection, shame, duty, obligation, blame.
If you do something coming from this lower vibrations, someone is going to
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pay for it. Your brother, your sister, your husband, your wife, your children,
your parents, your friends, your co-workers, yourself. Someone is going to
pay for it. It’s good to say no. To take full responsibility of your vibration is
also having the courage. It’s good to say no if it is not coming from your
heart, from your will to contribute into life, to make life better. If you feel it is
not coming from really your heart, don’t do it. All the time remembering,
what you put out is what you get back.
Follow your bliss and let the manifestation bring beautiful realities following
the path of least resistance, of abundance, of synchronicity. Also, following
your bliss, your excitement is a good tool, because it would show you
immediately why you are not following your bliss, what believe is holding
you back. And that will be the next belief you have to dismantle, really shed
light into that, to find like a worm hole to another believe that is more
grounded there in fear.
Enjoy the ride. Enjoy this beautiful incarnation. One day you will wake up
from this dream to your higher reality, because when you die nobody is
going to turn the switch off, because the is no switch off. Existence is
infinite. To explore, infinite. Awareness is. In different realms, awareness is.
Infinite, Unconditional. Existence is letting us put the conditions, our own
limitations. And it’s in our hands to really push the boundaries.
There is something that is important and I will also like to share with you.
You know, the highest vibration that we are all looking for is love. Love. We
have been looking for love since the day we left the breast of our mother.
Everything is just a cry for love. Every argument is a cry for love. Every
dysfunctional in our behavior is a cry for love. Every addiction is a cry for
love. We are all the time looking for that, because when you get it nothing
matters outside.
For example, after a ceremony I feel like my heart is bursting with love. It is
beautiful. The next day is amazing for me. The connection with everyone,
with my children, with life, with my dogs, everything. You are heart
centered, and you can go in the street and someone cross you with the car
and it doesn’t matter. When you are really well inside nothing is going to
disturb you. It is a beautiful sensation. So when we feel love inside we are
really fulfilled in a way. Beautiful state full of gratitude and higher vibrations.
We are all looking for that at every moment. And you know, there is a way
for that. And they do not teach us that in the school. It is all about
competition. It is horrible the way e have been growing up. Self love is not a
topic in schools, and we need that, because love have to come from within.
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We are all the time looking it outside and is not going to fulfill the hole we
feel inside, it has to come from within. And the way to do it starts with a
radical acceptation of who you are, completely, with all your shadow, with
all the aspects that you do not want to show to anyone, with all your
addictions, your bad behaviors, everything that you do not like about
yourself. You first have to really hug the whole of you completely.
You do not have to be on your best to cross the gates of heaven. Life is
accepting you as you are now. I love you. Sit down and say to yourself “I
love you”. Recognizing all this shadow that is your inner child looking for
your attention, longing for your attention, all these hidden aspects. Embrace
completely yourselves and radically accept you as you are, “I love you, I
love you”.
Hug yourself. Sit down and hug yourself and say to yourself, relentlessly “I
love you”. Because self love is not something you are going to realize in a
moment. It is just a practice. It is like learning to play the guitar. It needs
your time, your dedication. At the beginning, it can sound a little inauthentic,
but if you repeat it to yourself, “I love you”, “I accept you completely”, you
will allow your subconscious mind to start to feel the sensations of that in
your body. And it is really beautiful and makes a whole difference. The more
you love you, it’s going to be easier to change all that behaviors, but they
have to be really integrated and accepted instead of being rejected.
Because you know, there is a three word mantra: “Sometimes life sucks”.
Very real, sometimes life sucks. When life is going your way it is so
beautiful, so amazing, everything is in harmony and beauty. But when life is
not going your way, then life sucks. There is a big gap there. So we need to
learn how to close that gap. It’s very natural that life sucks. There is nothing
wrong.
Ask yourself “Who do I become when I don’t get my way?” “Who do I

become when life doesn’t go my way?” You can feel the frustration, the
anger, the fear. A good master will say, “If life doesn’t go my way, it’s ok”.
But usually we have to deal with these nasty sensations. And you know, the
natural behavior, reaction when life doesn't go my way, when we feel the
anger (and we have learn it since childhood by looking at everyone else).
The first thing is you really do not like yourself and you reject yourself. You
punish yourself. “Oh this horrible sensation again!” You don’t like it and you
try your best to get it out of your system and to project it to the one you
think is causing you the anger, which actually is not true, is just a choice.
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You complain and you discuss with the guy that is causing you the anger,
you think so. And life is giving you the repetition of the same kind of events,
again and again, and again, until you learn how to handle that, instead of
reacting, how to respond from within, from the calm within. And the way to
do it is the same way you would do it outside. For example, if you see a 5
year old child that you love deeply, and is weeping in tears, in pain, our
natural reaction would be to go and hug the child with all our love, to calm
him down with all our love, and eventually we know it will work.
But we do not do the same for ourselves, we do the complete opposite, we

punish ourselves, we hate ourselves, we do not like ourselves, and we
have to do the same thing inside, so the trick is, when you're feeling the
anger inside because life is not going your way, the first thing you do is
dismiss the messenger. Give thanks to the one who is giving you the
opportunity to heal that aspect of yourself. Dismiss the messenger
immediately and focus on your anger. Instead of rejecting it, of pushing it
away of your system you really embrace it, let it be there completely. Go to
the center of it, put it like a substance, a color, unconditionally without
pushing it away feeling deeply inside, in calm, not pushing it, go to it and
then you go and you hug the one feeling that with love, in the same way
you would hug the child.
You hug the one feeling the anger is not about trading the anger with love,
no, is to feel the anger deeply, unconditionally and you hug the one feeling
it, you integrate it. And you know, it is going toe amazing if you try it
because you are going to start feeling other feeling coming to the surface
immediately that were pushed down to the basement. They will start to go
up to be integrated in the loving embrace that you are giving to yourself,
and the healing is miracle, is beautiful, is an amazing way, and you will
have a tool to use that is working, and you will learn how to close the gap.
And you will say, “If life doesn’t go my way, is ok.” It do not mean that you
do not have a plan, it means that you accept that life is changing all the
time, and many times is out of your hands. What is in your hands is how to
respond instead of reacting.
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Closing Ceremony Satsang (2016/06/09) *****
Diego Palma
Urpi yai Pachamama, gracias Pachamama, gracias.

Urpi yai Pachacamaq, Tunka Shila, Wakan Tanka, Gran Padre, Gran
Misterio, gracias.
Wiracocha, Oneness, Uno, Brahma, todo, dissolving both aspects of
duality into perfect balance, into perfect presence, center.
Nothing to achieve nothing to become. Embracing the unknown in

the present moment, feeling really comfortable with not knowing. In
your center, in your heart. Cultivating pure awareness, present
moment awareness. Awareness is.
This reality is completely infinite, infinite, infinite realms, infinite lives,

infinite incarnations, infinite experiences. When we die, nobody is
going to turn the swift off because there is no swift off, you just
change your reality, it is like waking up from a dream state into a
higher reality, not bound by physical, time, boundless completely.
When we incarnate, this is like a training reality, like a university, we

have to deal with time and matter. Outside of this reality is instant
manifestation, but here is a lineal time taking place, you cannot
manifest instant babies. It is a beautiful training room, holographic
complex reality, but completely empty of built in meaning.
This reality that seems so real is just an illusion, like a hologram, but
the experience of it is very real, but just behaves in the same way as
a glass mirror, reflecting constantly our vibration, our state of being,
but behaving in the same way as a glass mirror.
What you put out is what you get back, simple as that. What you put
out is what you get back, your reflection, a reflection of your state of
being. If you are vibrating very low inside the reflection is going to be
nasty, if you are vibrating the highest you can, the reflection is going
to be amazing, but is completely in your hands, so take full
responsibility of your vibration, of how you are vibrating, what are
you doing, what are you listening to, what habits are you cultivating,
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because that is what determine the reality that is going to be
reflected.
Always outflows determines inflow. If you see a frown in the mirror,

you do not jump to the mirror and try to force a smile, it doesn't
work, you have to smile first. Reality behaves in the same way, do
not fight with the outside, with the reflection, is a silly action, focus
on your vibration and change it and the reality will magically change.
if you are vibrating the highest you can you will see a path of
sinchronicity, of abundance, magic happening to your life, embracing
it, but first you have to take full responsibility of your vibration.
How we vibrate the highest we can? Every moment, and this is not a
thing of projecting a future, it’s in the now moment, in the only
moment that exists, which is the same moment, every now moment
follow your bliss, follow your excitement, what excite you the most,
what makes you expand the most, like feeling whole inside, like
feeling joy, feel excited for what you re doing, enjoying it deeply,
follow your dreams, dream wild. The wildest you dream you will bring
this possibility into manifestation, do not waste your time, This life is
just an exploration, live it fully.
We have been taught that in order to be a mature person we have to

follow a path and to stick into that into the end, regardless if you are
enjoying it or not, really a bad deal. You are going to be a lot more
efficient if you are loving what you love to do. So all the time follow
your excitement, and if your excitement change to some other topic,
then change with it, enjoy what you are doing, then you will return. If
you do not return, it does not matter, but all the time follow your
bliss, follow your excitement, enjoy this reality.
In the last ceremony, I was talking about the importance of self love,
to really embrace out heart, to embrace ourselves and love
ourselves unconditionally, radically. There are moments, when it is
very difficult, when you are not feeling well, when you are feeling
anger, frustrated, when is very difficult to do that, but first lets accept
it.
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There is a three word mantra, “Sometimes life sucks.” Very real,
sometimes life sucks. When life is going your way, everything is
harmony and beautiful, when life is not going your way, it sucks, and
it happened very often, it’s normal, is part of the deal of being here. A
good master will say, “If life does not go my way, is ok.” But we
usually want life to go our way.
So ask yourself, who do I become when life does not go my way?

Who do i become when I don’t get my way? The negotiator? Let me
tell you all the reasons why you have to do it my way. The
frustration, the anger, the fear, the pain, all this sensations coming to
our body. And what we do? We do not like ourselves, we punish
ourselves in one way or the other. We do not like ourselves and we
try to push this emotion, this sensations out of our body and to
project it outside to the one we think is causing our pain, our anger,
which is actually a choice, is your choice. But that is the normal
tendency, we grow up seeing it, everywhere, so we take it as a
normal pattern and it doesn’t work at all.
Think about, if you see a 5 year old child that you really treasure and
love in your heart. This child is weeping in tears weeping in pain.
What do you do like naturally? You go and hug the child with all your
love, and the child will eventually calm down feeling all this love. We
do it outside, but we do it completely opposite inside, and that is the
way to proceed. When you are feeling anger, the first thing is to
dismiss the messenger, dismiss the person you think is causing the
anger completely, there are just a messenger, they are showing you
something you need to integrate. Give thanks to the person it s
giving you the opportunity to heal for good.
Dismiss the person and stay with your anger, instead of rejecting it,
feel it fully, look at it unconditionally, feel it inside, witness it
unconditionally, looking at it to the center, to understand how it feels
the color, the center, the substance. Without rejecting it, without
wanting it to disappear, just really for the first time embrace it
completely, feel it and then hug the one feeling it, in love. That is the
child and you are the one on top, saying “I love you, I love you”. It is
not changing the anger for love, is not an interchange, you embrace
the one feeling the anger.
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You will be amaze of the results. You will feel things that where deep
inside coming to the surface. All the rejected emotions will start to
come to the surface, to this healing of unconditionality and embrace
of love. That is the way of healing deeply, try it, just try it, give it a
chance. Then you will feel that you have like a tool that works.
Because there is nothing more beautiful than to be heart center and

abide in peace with nothing else to resolve. You can really go to your
foundation, to your basement, look to every corner and you have no
resentful, no wounds, and you can be alone with you and feel
comfortable, feel harmony. But is your work, you have to do the
work,, if you d not do the work, nobody is going to do it for you. No
following anyone is going to help you, just do the work.
Thank you to the Apus… Apu Intihuatana, Apu Ventanachayoq, Apu

Pachatusan, Apu Campanachayoq, Apu Lingli, Apu Cheqtacaca,
Apu Mama Ñusta. Beautiful mountains surrounding us, bringing this
beautiful every of transformation, harmony, peace, gratitude.
Thank you to all the buddhas, bodhisattvas, Buddha Shakyamuni…
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The Wolves within

An old Grandfather said to his grandson, who came to him with anger at a
friend who had done him an injustice, “Let me tell you a story.
I too, at times, have felt a great hate for those that have taken so much,
with no sorrow for what they do.
But hate wears you down, and does not hurt your enemy. It is like taking
poison and wishing your enemy to die. I have struggled with these feelings
many times.” He continued, “It is as if there are two wolves inside me. One
is good and does no harm. He lives in harmony with all around him, and
does not take offense when no offense was intended. He will only fight
when it i right to of so, and in the right way.
But the other wolf, ah! He is full of anger. The littlest thing will set him int a
fit of temper. He fights everyone, all the time, for no reason. He cannot think
because his anger and hate are so great. It is helpless anger, for his anger
will change nothing.
Sometimes, it is hard to live with these two wolves inside me, for both of
them try to dominate my spirit.”
The boy looked intently into his Grandfather’s eyes and asked, “Which one
wins, Grandfather?”
The Grandfather smiled and quietly said, “The one I feed.”
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The great gift of life is that life is fundamentally meaningless.

“No thing in life has built-in meaning.”

The Unconditional quality of existence

You bring the meaning to life

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Belief is the first cause of manifestations

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Keeping life meaningless, colorless

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Meaninglessness is the door to the divine.

What is the fear behind the meaninglessness of life?

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The Mirror Effect

The Mirror effect

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Don't wait for an expectation

Outflow determines inflow.

Choose to be happy regardless of the reflection

When you choose to be a specific vibration, then the reflection in your

"I will be happy because that's what I want to be!"

Who you are?

Rewrite your story by letting go what you are holding

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Drama requires conflict. No conflict, no drama. If something isn’t wrong,

Beyond our ideas of right-doing

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Relaxing into not knowing and waiting for unfolding

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We can take action as a pure response to each moment, free from

Let the universe do the driving

Trusting the wisdom of not knowing

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Creativity and not knowing

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Abstain from doing harm to any sentient beings.

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Second Tibetan Buddhism Precept:

Abstaining from taking what has not been given to me.

Third Tibetan Buddhism Precept:

Abstaining from harmful speech.

Try making your words wiser

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Forth Tibetan Buddhism Precept:

Abstain from the wrong use of my senses.

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Fifth Tibetan Buddhism Precept:

Abstain from consuming items that cloud or blur my mind.

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