You want to tell your partner how you feel about them but you end up

staring at a blank screen for so long you give up. Or you try a few lines
only to delete them all and start over. Again. Why is it so hard to tell
the loved one in our life exactly what they mean to us? Do you struggle
to find the words to properly convey how you feel? Or is it that you just
can’t explain it? Don’t let words get in the way of telling your loved
one how much they mean to you.

Everyone wants to be loved. When you are busy living life, there never
seems time to slow down and really savour that central relationship that
makes it all worthwhile. Oftentimes we think that those closest to us
know exactly how we feel about them and how important they are to us. But
the sad reality is that often they don’t.

So how can you write a love letter that you will feel proud to give and
one that your loved one will cherish for all time? Where do you start?
Follow these easy tips below and you’ll be on your way in no time.

1. First write down 5 things that you love about your partner and be as
specific as possible. Rather than writing that they are kind, instead
be detailed about how they are kind. Perhaps they always smile at
waiters in restaurants or they are great at making people feel
included, especially at parties.

2. Write down 5 things that they have done that confirms how much you
love them and again, give examples. Perhaps they enveloped you in a
hug last night when you were feeling frustrated about your family. Or
maybe they knew how disappointed you were when you missed out on that
promotion and they cooked a special meal to cheer you up.

3. Pick the best three examples from each of the above categories and
weave them into your letter. You could start by saying ‘I love how
you…’ and then include the three examples from the first point. Then
you could say something like ‘I loved the way you…’ and then mention
the other examples. Make sure you emphasise how their actions made
you feel, how loved you felt and how grateful you are to have them in
your life.

4. It is best to write up a draft first and then go over it to see if

you can improve it. Sometimes it helps to write up what you want to
say, edit it until it flows well and then leave it for a day or two
before going back for a final edit and polish.

5. Buy some special paper and write out your letter. Don’t worry if
your handwriting isn’t perfect – it’s distinctly yours and your loved
one will appreciate the time and effort you put into the letter. If
you feel your writing is so bad it will be difficult to read or if
your illegible handwriting is something you’ve argued about before
then pay to get it hand written by a professional. At a stretch you
could use a more romantic font on your computer, say Garamond in
italic, but you should really only do that as a last resort. The
more personal you can make your letter the more your loved one will
treasure it.
6. Think about how you plan on delivering this letter to them. Will
you slip it in their briefcase? Mail it? Leave it under the pillow?
Do you want to be there when they open it? If you want to see their
reaction, then it is best to hand it to them. You could team the
letter up with a small gift like flowers or chocolate but make sure
the gift doesn’t diminish the letter as you want that to be the main
focus.

If a birthday or anniversary or other special occasion is involved you’ll

want to include mention of that too.
A profile is an online representation of yourself so why not represent the
best parts of you? There are four areas of a profile that you should keep
in mind: honesty, creativity, research, writing. By mastering these areas,
you will be able to write an excellent and self-elevating profile that can
capture anyone's attention.

Part One: Honesty

Always be honest with the readers of your profile; remember that you and
the others on the site are searching for that special someone--how can a
relationship grow when there is deceit from the beginning?

Speak candidly about who you are and what you are looking for. Then, at
least you will know that, when someone messages you, they are genuinely
interested. Putting up a pretense will only summon people who are
interested in your lies; this will not build a solid relationship.

Being honest doesn't mean to be sell yourself short; you don't have to
dwell on your faults and misgivings. Showcase your good qualities (just
don't exaggerate).

Part Two: Creativity

Nothing can turn a potential relationship sour more than a dull profile.
There are thousands upon thousands of people looking for the exact same
thing you are: a genuine connection. You must be able to catch their
attention.

Try to avoid using phrases like Looking for Mr. Perfect? or In Search Of
That Special Lady? or descriptions like hard-working?, romantic? and
attractive?. These are all cliche and overdone. Spice your profile up with
original ideas!

Show off your strengths. Give your readers anecdotes or narratives that
display you in a good light.

Get yourself a thesaurus. As silly as this may sound, a thesaurus can help
you avoid using words that have been used too many times before.

Do not use letters to describe yourself; for example, SWF (single white
female) can mean a variety of things to a variety of people. Don't limit
yourself to this.

Part Three: Research

You know what kind of relationship you want; whether it be a friend, a

casual date, or something as deep as a marital partner, you have a clear
picture in your mind of how far you are willing to go. Seek out people
with that same goal.

Write a profile that will appeal to the kind of person you're after; the
only way they can find you is if you help them. Check out other profiles
for ideas.
If you receive interest with your profile but still can't seem to find
that right person, then go do some online window-shopping. Scan through
profiles, find some that catch your attention, and start messaging. They
don't all have to come to you.

Part Four: Writing

So, you've gathered your information and you have a clear idea of what you
want out of this site; however, your writing seems a little...lifeless. Be
careful of this! By paying attention to the three steps before you, you
should be able to write a profile that is distinctly you.

This is an example of what not to do: I'm a SBM looking for a SF. Good
looking, funny. Message me. Eyes are going to glaze over; you cannot limit
yourself like this. It will only hurt you.

Spice it up: I am a 22-year-old female, blessed with long, blonde hair and
big, brown eyes. I'm short, only 5'4, but what I lack in size, I make up
for in spirit. I am looking for someone that can keep up with me; come and
get me, boys. She gives a description and a challenge, all within a few
sentences ”you don't have to be long-winded to get the point across.

A good profile can bring you all of the attention you want and lead you to
a successful relationship; follow these steps to what you want.
Well, after 4 years of reading far in excess of 10,000 profiles of men and
women searching for a partner through online dating services, I’ve laughed
at my fair share of poorly written introductions...

Of those 10,000 online dating service profiles, no more than a dozen

captured our attention enough to make the first move. I’m sure that you
wish to get lots of reactions to your online dating service advertisement,
otherwise why would you bother joining a site, and paying a fee to meet
new people?

If that is the case, then make sure you avoid the following 3 mistakes at
all costs:

7. "I May Be the one you’re Seeking For"

This may be the case. However, by employing this combination of words
anywhere for your online dating service profile, you aren’t telling me, or
your potential suitor, anything new...

What this line does say to someone checking you out is that the online
dating service profiler didn’t do a lot of thinking about how they wanted
to present themselves. Tell people what gets your eyes twinkling or even
what REALLY gets you up in the morning - and don’t say it’s your alarm
clock, either. Now is the time to let your passions really shine
through...

8. "I’m the one Your Mother Warned You About"

This is, from my research in any case, virtually the most overused phrase
in an opening line for online dating service profiles. True, it’s the
generic option of some of the larger sites (such as Lavalife or even True)
– if your profile is awaiting approval, this tag line will show up while
waiting for the a-okay...

To avoid this, come up with something a bit more unique and original. But
what if you aren’t sure how to do this? Well, it’s not hard to take a look
at your competition in the online dating service field, so why not do a
quick search and see what everyone else is doing?

Reading other people’s description of themselves could just get your

creative juices flowing. At the very least, it’ll explain what everyone
else is saying about themselves – and what key phrases and words you
should avoid in turn...

9. Glaring Spelling or even Grammatical Mistakes

This tip might seem childish, or even trite – but its critically
important. While chatting with someone online, you may make a few spelling
mistakes that a potential suitor will find annoying. However until you get
to that stage with someone, noone should know that you’ve got dyslexia, or
just can’t spell worth beans...

It shows a lot to a potential suitor while they peruse the online dating
services that someone has taken the time to spell check their document.
Hell, get a friend to proof read it for you if want just in case you’ve
missed something important...
However if you can't take the time to write something legible, virtually
all people perusing the online dating service websites will assume you
won’t have time to bother doing other, even more important tasks. And when
you only have two or three of seconds to make that first impression before
someone clicks on another person – each and every detail counts...
Spring could be your season to find true love online! Spring is a great
time to start online dating because people are feeling energetic are
looking for the chance to start a new, fresh relationship.

So, how can you find your digital date?

If you’ve never tried online dating before, you may be a bit nervous about
trying it out – but there’s nothing to worry about. So many people are
dating online that you’re immediately part of a big community, and good
dating websites have lots of advice on how to create a good profile and
how to take the first step and contact someone you’re interested in. If
you’re used to emailing your friends, you can date online.

Finding your date might be a little more complicated – there are thousands
of people on every dating site – but paying attention to how you write
your profile, and being specific about the sort of person you’re looking
for will help you to narrow down the field of possible dates. Take the
time to write your profile carefully; you want to make yourself sound
interesting and appealing, perhaps with a touch of humour and something
that will attract the reader’s attention, like a catchy headline, or a
question at the end that invites the reader to send you a contact message.

It’s also a good idea to post a good photograph to accompany your profile.
Whilst you should accept that some people will contact you based only on
your photo and not on your profile, most people will take the two together
and it’s always good to be able to put a face to a profile.

Once you’re happy with what you’ve written and the photo you’ve chosen,
post them on a dating site and wait to see what happens. In the meantime,
browse through the other profiles on the site to see if there’s anyone who
meets your criteria. If so, send them a brief contact message to see if
they want to get in touch.

It may be a different approach to finding a date, but it’s one that’s

worked for thousands of people – give digital romance a try this spring!
For many people, the hardest part of starting to date online is figuring
out what to put in their profile. All dating sites offer their members a
profile page, where each member can write about his or herself, upload a
photo (or several) etc. What you write about yourself in the profile is
extremely important: second only to the picture in terms of making other
members aware of who you are and making them want to contact you.

Many people are keen to start searching for and contacting people as soon
as they join a site. As a result, they either leave their profile blank,
or write something quickly before beginning their search. This is OK if
you’re just having a look around, but if you are serious about finding
love online, you should take some time and make sure your profile is a
good reflection of who you are. After all, it’s what makes you stand out
from the rest of the people on the site.

Here are a few points to keep in mind:

Not too long, not too short

Try to write a profile that is detailed enough to tell people about you,
but short enough to leave people wanting more. Writing a full length
essay is a waste of time as most people wouldn’t bother reading it all. If
someone did read it through and contacted you, you probably wouldn’t have
anything left to talk about!

Be yourself

It’s easy to lie when writing a profile, but more difficult to follow
through once you meet someone. If your profile says you’re 6’4” when
you’re really 5’11”, your cover will be blown as soon as you turn up for
your date. Also, starting a relationship with a lie is a sure way to get
off to a bad start.

Unfortunately, even people who are honest and well-meaning sometimes lie
unintentionally in their profile, by trying to write it in a way that they
think would make them more attractive to other people. If you want to
attract a likeminded person, you have to be honest about who you are, your
hobbies and interests etc.

Don’t be too demanding

Many people use their profiles to list the qualities they would like their
ideal match to have. There is nothing wrong with that, but make sure you
balance this with information about yourself. You don’t want to come
across as writing a ransom note.

Too much information

Avoid mentioning past disappointments and bad break-ups in your profile;

this is not what the space is for. Think: do you really want this to be
the first thing people see when they look you up? Don’t let yourself be
defined by negative aspects of your personality and bad experiences of the
past.
Make it funny

Using humour is a good way to liven up a profile and give people a glimpse
into your personality. Some of the most successful profiles are the ones
that simply make people laugh. Including a joke you find funny is good,
as long as you make sure you write something about yourself in the profile
as well.

Be original

Anyone can write “I have a good sense of humour”, but not anyone could
make you laugh. When writing about yourself, don’t just use a list of
adjectives. Try to go deeper and give people examples of what you actually
mean. A good way of doing this is starting off with a list of adjectives
and then using each one as a starting point for a few lines of text.

Upload a picture

Even the least shallow people want to know who they’re talking to. Not
having a photo on your profile will make many people ignore you
completely. Some people even specify in their search that they only want
to speak to people whose picture appears on the site. Don’t worry about
your looks. Different people have different tastes and not everyone
expects to meet a movie star or a supermodel online. A clear headshot of
you smiling is all it takes to seriously increase the amount of responses
you get.

Be consistent

Make sure your profile, your screen name and your picture all match the
impression you want to give. If you are a woman looking for a serious
relationship, calling yourself “SexKitten” and uploading a semi-nude
picture of yourself, is not likely to attract the kind of man you’re
looking for. A man looking for a wife, should probably not use a username
that hints about how good he is in bed.

Remember: your profile is the first (and often last) impression you will
make to potential online matches. Make it count.