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Pleasure Based Living Mini Work Book 2021
Pleasure Based Living Mini Work Book 2021
Pleasure Based Living Mini Work Book 2021
based
living
a mini workbook by
che che luna
contents
02 introduction
03 the power
of pleasure
11 the power
of dance
30 closing
01
intro
duct
ion
pleasure is the
nutrients of life
Affirmation: I AM MADE TO EXPERIENCE
PLEASURE
the
power
of
pleasure
a life without
pleasure is a life
without feeling
alive
Because we live in a world that depends on
you believing you must consume, buy and sell
your well-being, it is a revolutionary and
political act of resistance to put your
pleasure in the forefront of your life.
Remember that the path to more pleasure is
not necessarily the path of least resistance.
It takes courage, energy and effort to love
yourself in ways you've been taught not to.
04
Pleasure activism
is the work we do
to reclaim our
whole, happy,
and satisfiable
selves from the
impacts,
delusions, and
limitations of
oppression
and/or
supremacy.
adrienne maree brown
05
numbing is the
counter to
pleasure.
sensuality is the
gateway.
Audre Lorde in her essay, The Uses of the
Erotic: The Erotic as Power, says...
06
We’ve been gifted numerous erogenous zones
throughout our bodies that are biologically
designed to experience pleasure. Erogenous
zones are places on the body that have lots of
yummy nerve endings and therefore
heightened sensitivity to stimulation.
07
journal prompts
in what ways can you slow down and take more intentional
sensual pauses throughout your day?
How would you define pleasure in one Haiku? (five syllables in the
first line, seven syllables in the second line, and five syllables in
the third line)
08
journal prompts
09
journal prompts
What boundaries would help you create the pleasure you dream
of?
What would feel amazing to say yes to? What would feel freeing
to say no to?
10
11
the
power
of
dance
movement can
help us integrate
new ways of
being
AFFIRMATION: I AM DATING MYSELF & DANCING
FOR MY OWN GAZE.
12
when the mind +
body are in
harmonious
dialogue, we
heal.
Healing involves calling fragmented parts of
ourselves back home and reorganizing them in
ways that are consciously chosen from within
(rather than from the outside world). With
practice, we can slowly and incrementally
start to remember our own wholeness and
develop skills that allow us to feel more
integrated, complete and unified.
13
Shaking our bodies + dancing allows us to
finish our stress response cycles.
14
journal prompts
play one of your favorite songs and let your body move to the
following prompt: dance as if you are meeting your body for the
first time.
15
journal prompts
try this experiment: play a song + let each of the following body
parts initiate your movement and see how the rest of your body
follows: toes, knees, hips, genitals, spine, hands, belly button,
tongue, eyes
try this experiment: play a song + start with your body on the
floor, close your eyes and imagine that you could paint + massage
the inside of your body with your bones -- move in whatever
ways feel yummy
16
17
the
power
of
nature
the earth says...
I hold you onto me, like the
most tender embrace.
Your magnetism comes from
my core.
Your passion comes from
my fiery depths.
Your tears come from my
oceans.
Your bones come from the
rocks you stand on.
Your sex is as natural as a
blossoming flower.
Your curves a mirror of my
mountains.
Your wisdom as old as I am.
When you make love to
you,
you make love to me.
che che luna
18
There is something so immeasurably special
about being in nature. Sometimes it feels like
the patriarchal veil we’ve been seeing
ourselves through is suddenly lifted. Like we
start to remember our innate sensuality and
beautiful wholeness simply by being with the
earth.
19
journal prompts
If you were a decadent fruit, what kind would you be, and why?
How would you like to be consumed?
13
20
the
power
of auto-
eroticism
The truth is,
each of us is
responsible for
our own pleasure.
Yet most of us have no models or templates
for how the heck to live in integrity with this
truth. We are operating in a pleasure-
oppressed world where bypassing our own
responsibility and/or projecting it onto others
is normalized or even celebrated. How are we
supposed to take responsibility for our
pleasure if we are never or rarely spending
quality 1:1 time getting to know our erotic
selves? *remember, this is a systemic failure,
not a personal one
21
Self liberation is
birthed through
body literacy
and body
competence.
Learning the ins and outs of what feels good.
Developing knowledge about how and where
you like to be touched is not something that is
magically inherited. It is a skill, like any other,
that has to be learned through experience,
practice, humility, patience, curiosity and
repetition.
23
Shame, guilt, desire for change, dysphoria,
discontent, avoidance, concealment and self-
consciousness when engaging with our
genitals are all results of a sexually
repressed, white supremist, erotophobic
society. Taking back our body as our own is
our birthright. With that being said, part of
taking back our bodies is giving ourselves
space to acknowledge these hard feelings
because they are very real, very valid and
very important. Your feelings are deeply wise
and can act as teachers to guide you in
learning what you need. See if you can listen
to them without getting completely swept up
in them. *this takes practice* See if you can
let the committee of “parts” that exist inside
of you each have a moment with the mic. In
order for us to tap into our pleasure, we’ve
also got to tap into the whole spectrum of
emotions. Pleasure cannot exist in a vacuum.
24
Invitation: Gaze at your genitals in a mirror
for 5+ minutes and see if you can notice
things you've never noticed before. Do your
best to observe this part of your body with
curious + gentle eyes.
Disrupting the
sexcalator allows
sex to be self-
defined and
pleasure-
centered.
25
Sexcalator: a term that describes culturally
scripted sexual experiences that are
centered around the ultimate goal of
achieving orgasm. On the sexcalator, sex is
about moving quickly from A to B (very linear),
often passive, and rooted in
cisheteronormativity. It is solely focused on
“getting off at the top” and makes us feel like
we failed if the final destination (orgasm) isn’t
reached.
26
journal prompts
What body parts are you excited or curious to get to know more
intimately through self-touch?
If your genitalia was sacred land (it is!), what kind of ecosystem
would they be (terrestrial, forest, grassland, desert, tundra,
freshwater, marine, jungle)?
27
journal prompts
If your current self could tell your past self some solo sex-
affirming wisdom, what would it be?
What comes up for you around the idea of taking orgasm off the
table for a certain amount of time (or completely)?
28
journal prompts
List all the adjectives that come to mind when you first think of
solo sex//auto-eroticism.
29
30
clos
ing
Thank you for allowing me to guide you into
your sensual magic. I’m deeply honored to
be a part of your body liberation journey.
31
journal prompts
I feel…
32