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Helping An Addict
Helping An Addict
Helping An Addict
How then, can the addict “get the message” that help is needed?
In a firm, factual and nonjudgmental way, point out the nature of one’s actions.
Present specific examples (e.g., “Last night at 11 P.M. you knocked over and broke
the lamp”) rather than vague generalities (e.g., “You’re drinking too much!”). One
writer has suggested that the message may be best conveyed nonverbally. If the
addict collapses on the living room floor, for example, leave him or her there rather
than helping the person into bed—and thus hiding the fact that the collapse
occurred
Remember that most addicts have high anxiety and low self-esteem. One must be
careful, therefore, not to criticize or condemn in a way that arouses anxiety and
threatens. Convey acceptance of the person but not of the behavior. Listen to the
addict but do not give reassurance. Recognize that addicts are dependent, often
childish, manipulative and specialists in evoking sympathy. The counselor must resist
the tendency to give advice, preach, or act like a parent. Instead, show a non-
condescending, firm, sensitive attitude which implies that responsibility for recovery
must remain with the addict. In all of this, remember that the best counselors are
gentle, but not soft-hearted, in their approach.
Without doubt the most effective support comes from Alcoholics Anonymous (AA)
and related groups (Al-Anon for spouses of alcoholics and Alateen for their
children). These organizations meet in cities and towns all over the world, are free of
charge, listed in the phone book, and established as perhaps the most effective
approach for helping alcoholics and their families. They are based on principles
which are consistent with spirituality: acceptance of reality; faith in God; commitment
of one’s life to divine care; honesty with God, self and others; desire and readiness to
change one’s way of life; prayer; making amends; and sharing with others.
Then there is the issue of life style. Now that he or she is not taking the drug, how
will life be different? One’s style of life depends on making decisions concerning
what will or will not be done. These decisions involve the counselee, but they also
concern the family.
6. Family Counseling
Drug abuse is a family problem and the whole family must receive support,
understanding and help. At times they must be encouraged to not withdraw, but to
live life as best as they can despite the circumstances. The family members must be
helped to see how they might
be contributing to the addiction problem or how their protection of the addict might
prolong the condition. They can be given facts to help them understand the
addiction, and before the addict comes for help, family members can be encouraged
to confront the addict with specific evidences of his or her drug-induced behavior.
Sometimes family members, especially spouses, want to rescue the addict and take
responsibility for running the family. When sobriety occurs, the family must readjust
to the change and learn to accept the addict as a responsible member of the home.
This may be difficult either because of a fear, based on past experience, that the
present “dry spell” is temporary, or because the family has grown accustomed to
functioning smoothly around the addict. Family change is risky for the family,
important for the counselee, and accomplished best when there is encouragement
from the counselor or outside support group.
Preventing Addiction
The prevention of drug abuse begins in the home. When children are respected, loved,
disciplined and raised by sensitive, concerned, stable parents, there is greater opportunity
for healthy maturing and less likelihood of chemical dependence. When children’s
emotional needs are met in the home, when they are helped to cope with stress, and
when they are taught a clear set of values, there is a greater sense of security and self-
esteem, accompanied by a greater ability to handle the problems of life without drugs.
For many people however, home does not fit this description. Even when it does there can
be outside influences which may lead one into drug abuse. To prevent this several
additional considerations are important.
1. Instill a Healthy spiritual life.
A survey of 5,648 university students revealed that those who have a strong religious
faith “are far less likely to be taking drugs than classmates who are shifting church
affiliations in their search for the divine. And... drug use was highest among those for
whom there was no spiritual search at all.” From this it does not follow that faith in
God always prevents drug abuse, but spiritual life promotes less need to depend on
chemical substances.
a. Begin early, since most drug abusers start their long decline in the teenage
years
b. Present accurate facts concerning the nature and effects of drugs, including
alcohol
c. Avoid emotional appeals which involve “scare tactics” but little factual content
d. Clearly discuss the biblical teachings about wine and drunkenness
e. Make young people aware of why people drink or take drugs, pointing out
that “the alcoholic on the road to recovery at 45 years of age has to face,
without alcohol, the same feelings and problems he sought to escape through
drinking in his teen years”
f. Discuss how one can say “no” in an environment where one’s peers may all be
drinking or taking drugs
g. Encourage people to make a decision—to drink or not to drink; to take other
drugs or to abstain—instead of drifting into the habit
h. Encourage abstinence as the best and most effective means of prevention
i. Describe the warning signs which indicate developing addiction
j. Alert people to the availability, place and nature of help for those with
developing drug-related problems.
One writer has summarized the nature of a truly effective prevention program:
There is... the task of helping the abstinent youngster to understand his behavior in
an environment in which most others are drinking. There is the task of making the
youngster who drinks aware that alcohol is not just another social beverage, but an
intoxicant which in specific amounts for a given individual has specific effects.
There’s also the task of helping
youngsters to understand the alcoholic as a person with a behavior disorder who
can be and ought to be helped… What is needed is not less alcohol education, but
alcohol education which is realistically supplemented by a broad concern for
identifying and helping the youngster with problems of social and personal
development, whether or not his problems are alcohol.