Codependency recovery

21.4. Велики четвртак

Осећам се одговорно, исцрпљено, криво, криво, кривооооооо(у Бгд. )

Догађаји-Југослав иде у Студеницу на Велики петак,трудим се да то разумем мада ми теже

иде...предлагала сам када смо планирали да идемо заједно ,али он није хтео да иде на три
дана ....испоставило се да се разболео и да на крају ипак иде на три дана...само без мене....тешко
ми пада...тешка сам му ....не знам ...јесам.....

Вера данас мало боље....борим се да нађем решење....има 41кг, 160 цм висока.

Крста незадовољан и дезоријентисан

Ивана и Ленка ок.

Пријатељи-Алтренк- долази сутра и идем са Веком у биоскоп.

Лаша је скотна.

Many people show signs of classic codependency, no matter what generation they’re in: people-
pleasing, caretaking, controlling, lack of boundaries, and believing they’re deprived and undeserving.

: “What have you done so far today to take care of yourself?

What Steps have you worked? Have you written in your journal, exercised, prayed, or meditated?”

You’re not crazy. Codependency can make you feel crazy, though.
When you look at yourself with eyes of love instead of criticism, you’ll
see that everything happens for a reason, including what you do. Your
codependent behaviors make perfect sense. Your goal was to survive.

TWELVE STEPS OF CODEPENDENTS ANONYMOUS

1. We admitted we were powerless over others—that our lives had become unmanageable.

2. Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.

3. Made a decision to turn our will and lives over to the care of God as we understood God.

4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.

5. Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being, the exact nature of our wrongs.
6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.

7. Humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings.

8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all.

9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or
others.

10. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it.

11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood
God, praying only for knowledge of God’s will for us and the power to carry that out.

12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to other
codependents, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.

Being happy means surrendering to and feeling all our feelings, not just
feeling happy.
The bottom line is, we get out of anything what we put into it. If we want a life that works, one that is
interesting and real, one that we’re passionate about, then we need to get out of our numb, passive
state and put energy into self-care. We need to do the work, and that includes working the Steps.
They’re the stairs that lead to life.

My first and instinctive reaction to almost everything that happened that I didn’t like? I tried to control
it.

“I later learned that worrying is also a form of control. The problem is that control doesn’t work

Surrendering to the truth hurts; otherwise we wouldn’t need to deny reality as long as so many of us do.
But recovery means surrendering to divine timing. We’ll stop lying to ourselves when we’re strong
enough to face the truth.

Ја немам моћ да контролишем моју снагу и

здравље, моје здравље
Write about unmanageability and what it means to you. If you’re trying to have power where you have
none, what are the consequences? Do you feel crazy inside? Write about what that feels like. Have you
lost your inner peace? Are you wearing yourself out and annoying other people by doing the same thing
over and over, even though what you’re doing doesn’t work? Keep an ongoing list that describes how
unmanageability manifests in your life. Include what it looks like, what it feels like, the behaviors you do,
and any people or responsibilities you neglect.
Letting go means we acknowledge that we’re not responsible for the other person. We’re responsible
for ourselves.