Courtship traditions have evolved over time due to modernization and outside influences. Historically, courtship required patience and dedication from men as they were expected to perform chores for months or years to prove themselves as suitable husbands before rarely interacting with the women they courted, who were strictly guarded. If deemed a good match, the woman's family would negotiate dowry from the man's family as a condition of marriage. Dowries traditionally consisted of property, money, or goods given to the bride or her family by the groom's family in exchange for the bride.
Courtship traditions have evolved over time due to modernization and outside influences. Historically, courtship required patience and dedication from men as they were expected to perform chores for months or years to prove themselves as suitable husbands before rarely interacting with the women they courted, who were strictly guarded. If deemed a good match, the woman's family would negotiate dowry from the man's family as a condition of marriage. Dowries traditionally consisted of property, money, or goods given to the bride or her family by the groom's family in exchange for the bride.
Courtship traditions have evolved over time due to modernization and outside influences. Historically, courtship required patience and dedication from men as they were expected to perform chores for months or years to prove themselves as suitable husbands before rarely interacting with the women they courted, who were strictly guarded. If deemed a good match, the woman's family would negotiate dowry from the man's family as a condition of marriage. Dowries traditionally consisted of property, money, or goods given to the bride or her family by the groom's family in exchange for the bride.
CONCEPT OF COURTSHIP Courtship. The family in all societies undergoes change.
The major causes of
which are the process of modernization with their developments such as industrialization, urbanization and outside influences brought in by mass media and contact with Western culture. Fortunately, this process is evolutionary in most aspects of life. To understand the present patterns of courtship, we must trace their roots in ancient practices. Courtship during the early period took patience and a spirit of dedication on the part of a man to win the hand oh his fair lady. For the custom of the period; a custom that has persisted to this day in some remote areas, required that he serve the girl’s parent for months or even years. He chopped wood, fetched water and did chores required of him. He was not supposed to talk to his fair lady; only their eyes meet occasionally to change mute messages of love. There was no chance for them to meet clandestinely, for the girls was truly guarded by the parents or by the grandparents, who were always on the lookout for any sign of mischief on the part of the suitor would make a good son-in-law and husband, the parents finally give conditions. (Agoncillo, 1990) These conditions resolved around the DOWRY OR BRIDESPRICE. The dowry was a gift turned over by the groom to the bride’s parents, for all practical purposes in exchange for the bride. When a man decided to marry, he consulted his parents and the elders in his family. If the girl and her family were acceptable, the groom’s family started to negotiate with the bride’s parents in a ceremony called “pamamanhikan”. Elderly representatives of both parties discussed the terms of a dowry with great tact and diplomacy. The dowry ordinarily refers to the custom in many European societies of the bride’s parents giving a substantial present to the husband. Here, it has the opposite meaning of a gift from the groom’s parents to those of the bride. This is sometimes known as “bride purchase”, although it is seldom a market-type of transaction. The dowry is usually a marriage settlement consisting of land, house or other goods given by groom’s family to the new wife. SEVERAL KINDS OF DOWRY to be given to the family of the bride-to- be: 1. Bigay-kaya. Consisting of land, gold or dependents. In the absence of these, any valuable article would do. 2. Panghimuyat. This is a certain amount of money to be given to the bride-to-be’s parents as payment for the mother’s efforts ij rearing the girl to womanhood. 3. Bigay-suso. This is another bribe to be given to the girl’s wet-nurse who fed the bride during her infancy with milk from her own breasts. 4. Himaraw. Sum of money to be given to the girl’s parents as reimbursement for the amount spent in feeding the girl during her infancy. 5. Sambon. A dowry to be given to the girl’s relatives (Agoncillo, 1990)
The Etiquette of Engagement and Marriage: Describing Modern Manners and Customs of Courtship and Marriage, and giving Full Details regarding the Wedding Ceremony and Arrangements