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Lesson 5 - Ed Endings - Stories
Lesson 5 - Ed Endings - Stories
I’d gone
year. I did little side jobs, and volunteer work, and lots of
started with being tired all the time. Then I began to lose
the surgery went well, but for the first time I was forced to
want to die. I’m too young to die. So I right now I’m taking a
break from life. I just want to get healthy. I’ve moved back in
Like I’m standing still. And the world is going on without me.
up, so we needed our own place. But all the rental brokers
years now, and I’ve paid him every cent. We’ve fallen on
raise my children.”
“All of the young people are leaving. You have to say
brother left five years ago. And now I’m gone too. Before I
Now half of them are empty. There are some people who
He says that there’s a chance things will work out. But that’s
very rare for someone our age. The grown-ups stay because
that’s also silly. Because nobody has money for art or design.
that’s why I left. Either you stay in Venezuela and make the
decisions you have to. Or you leave and make the decisions
coasting. But I’m not even close. I feel like I still don’t even
shameful. I feel not grown up. Like I should have learned all
of this so long ago. And I’m afraid people will think it’s
people. I’ve been sober for 39 years. I have the greatest wife
of 32 years. I don't have any crippling debt. I'm doing OK. I
they’re not judging me, and that they’re still loving me-- the
much longer than the little sister list. The organization gave
there was a lot of silence. And whenever he did talk, I’d just
say: ‘I get that, I get that.’ After a few days of that, he told
filled half his plate with red jello, and the other half with
8th Grade. That was such a big moment for both of us.
We've come a long way since then. Now we're looking for
she was all alone. Later in life she came clean. She told me
dime. And I always had to leave. But on the way out, she’d
had ten good years together after I got clean. She’d come to
I turned my life around. The last time I saw her, when she
kissed her forehead and told her I loved her. And she said: ‘I
love you Freddy.’ Those were her last words. Two days later
that in NA. Drugs can change your soul. I’ve seen it happen
and stuff like that. It’s the thing that guides you. I can still
Even when I stole from her. Even when the whole world was
ghetto for two years, surviving off potato peels, running like
an animal from the Nazis. She was the only one who survived.
I was made to feel responsible for World War II. She’d say: ‘I
never let me feel like we were in America. I felt like I was the
one wearing stripes. I’ve dreamed about Hitler since I was a
How they were given gifts. And how they were loved. It felt
like I was crawling out of the sewer, after the war, and
learning that this entire time-- some people had been living
normal lives."
My mother died on July 6th, 2005. One day toward the end
moment I felt her pain. I realized I could still love her. She
couldn’t love me, but I could love her. Despite all the abuse
she’d given me, I could feel her pain. I resurrected this old
photo after her death. She’s with her first husband. It was
she wrote: ‘It was a life of horror. Having lost everything and
everyone, I’d given up my struggle to live. And at that time, it
suffering too, and I don’t want to make her seem like a bad
I thought she was the only one who really knew me, I figured
would be better off without me. One night I locked the door
she’d never have been able to live with herself. My dad told
made to feel like they’re laying their foot off the gas. A lot of
efficient. For the first time I was able to set limits, and have
having a child gave me a firm reason to say ‘no.’ It’s not ‘no’
‘just one more,’ ‘just one more.’ It’s excess. And it’s almost
mom. We’re living apart right now while I look for a place we
can afford. But it’s been over two years now. It’s hard on our
apartments, and you realize it’s all the same. They want
credit this. Background that. But that’s not even the issue
for me. It’s the rent. They expect your salary to be ten times
the price of rent. It’s like c’mon, man. Only a certain class of
people can afford that. You’re telling me who you want. And
even thought about going the shelter route. Just go all the
pervert in the city called me. One guy offered 30,000 pounds
few days the phone went quiet. Then one afternoon I got a
call from a man with a very strong Irish accent. I could barely
family. But he and his wife were never able to have their own
amazing.”
“It was just the three of us. And dad was a truck driver so he
there lived an older couple named Arlene and Bill, and they
their door, sat down in their living room, and said: ‘Will you
But he’d stop anything to sit down with me and have a glass
apply for college, even though I didn’t have the money to go.
They told me they’d been putting away money since the day
meeting her was like God saying: ‘You can do this. This is
what you want, and it’s going to happen.’ It wasn’t easy. All
me. That’s when the depression set in. I'd lost $2200 on the
how hard I prayed for this. How hard I worked for this. So
he’d been living a pretty idyllic life-- nice house, nice family.
looking for a new director at the time, and I was part of the
the door—I thought: ‘This is our guy.’ He didn’t even wait for
shelter before the snow started falling. Joe was the hardest
worker I’d ever seen. He’d get on the ground with these kids,
and fight for them with tears in his eyes. During his first two
personal life. His marriage was falling apart. His son was
When Joe first arrived, our shelter only had fifteen beds.
I’d like him to get some credit for that. Joe Ader is one of the
My sister was older than me, and she was living a reckless
life. By the time we found out she was pregnant, she was
soon she had a stroke and lost all movement on her right
I had to make sure he was fine. Since then it’s been the two
her life, I sat with her in the nursing home. I told her: ‘You’ve
complaints. But this might be the last time I can ask you, so
languages, and swept her off her feet, and then revealed he
had a wife. To be honest—I didn’t believe it. It just didn’t
awkward. And they all asked the same thing: ‘When’s the
system, and burst out laughing. It didn’t seem real. I’d been
chasing this car for so long now, and I finally caught it. Now
the table.”
“My sister was the only girl in our family. There were four of
confronted her, she tried to deny it. She only told the truth
dream. I’d just lost my sister, and suddenly I was taking care
you don’t know are within you. Aseda is almost four months
way. She has been amazing and I’m so thankful. Our plan is
want the child to stay with me. I’ve been with her from the
very first hour. This is what I need to do for the baby. For my
the house. And I was right. My mother was so angry that she
kicked me out, and I moved in with my boyfriend’s parents.
Their names were Esther and Salvi. They had a lovely house
with a fireplace. They ate dinner every night at the table, and
banging on the front door. Esther let her in, and my mother
then, and she already spoke very good English. So she was
she went alone. Since then she’s been all over the world
helping refugees. It’s her life now. There have been articles
about her. She was even in a textbook You know, back when
I was pregnant with Gabi, I had this silly idea that I needed to
to be proud of. And I’m here to clear the way for her. Like
never asked him. I’d never do that to someone. But the next
someone who truly lives his life for other people. Not only
was a bartender. I was only five years old, so I just knew him
They had three more children. But he treated me like his son.
didn’t have. Thirty years ago Eric stepped into a mess. Poor,
have any family around us. And I was getting nervous about
people. Marie was getting ready to retire, and one day she
‘I’m not looking for a job,’ she told me. ‘But when I was
morning I was alone with the twins, Marie called and asked if
took a shower. Then she came over the next day. And the
wash the dishes. Every time she walked in the door, she’d
book. Some nights the doorbell would ring and she’d have
the phone. I always sent her a Mother’s Day card. She was
that time she was too ill to travel. Marie passed away a few
years ago. But up until the end of her life, every time she’d
babies today?’”
“I’m a first-generation American, so education was
tell you the truth, I enjoyed the work for a long time. I loved
was an accident. Then the next plane hit, and people started
with all these younger people, and I’m struggling. It was hard.
first girl I ever dated. I’d swung and missed so many times, it
finally felt like I was being vindicated. I was in the top quarter
the day. And I ended up failing the bar exam even though I
exam, but it’s been a struggle ever since. Over the past
I’m still normal. To convince myself I’m still smart. But Claire
the bar exam after my brain surgery. But today is our eighth
anniversary. And I just wanted to tell her thanks for always
being there.”
“After my grandmother passed away, Dad stepped out of
the hospital for some fresh air. Then he said a prayer and
his eyes, there was a dime at his feet. And after that day--
been sick for several years. It was a rare type of cancer. And
but it would always come back. But even the people who
knew him had no idea. He never let it stop him. He worked
hang out with my friends. And Dad wasn’t really the artistic
trying. And things did get better between us. He was really
hard when you have a terminally ill parent. You think about it
all the time, but it’s the last thing you want to think about.
And there’s this knowledge that the closer you become, the
dimes when he was alive, but I couldn’t find any after he died.
had a really bad day. So I decided to visit his grave for the
It was the first time that either of us had been in love. Even
around. We went to the beach all the time. But we were too
our hearts out over the next ten days. We didn’t spend all
asked my mom if he could come, and she told me: ‘He’s too
it. Then one night, when I was fourteen years old, the phone
rang. There was a strange voice on the line. I’d never heard
When she finally hung up, she told me: ‘Your dad wants to
before we left that first lunch, my mother did make one last
AM. Almost exactly the time I’d be leaving for school. I don’t
think I fully grasped how traumatic it was for me. I was there
while she said goodbye. And the next week I had to start
the teachers knew what happened. And they had told all the
that my mom couldn’t see any of it. Every time a big event
she died. And I’m having this whole life where I become the
person I’m supposed to be, and she doesn’t get to see any
who looked just like Alex. When I showed Alex the photo, he
alive. The first thing I did was call my dad. I asked him if he
the games he’d always sit down in the net and play with the
evenings, when I came home from school, I’d sit out near the
stayed. I’d watch them play Frisbee. I’d watch them buy
your name?’, and things like that. But then she asked my
play her Game Boy. She’d ask about my family. She’d ask
She was the first person to take me to the beach. I’d never
But one evening she told me that she was going back to
she kept. The first letter arrived a few weeks after she left.
And there were many letters after that. She told her parents
them last year. But this time I didn’t need them to pay my
home early because she was feeling tired, and then she just
emotional man. I’d never seen him cry. There was a bunch of
people at our house after the funeral, and Dad kept excusing
himself. I’d follow him back to his bedroom. We’d lie in his
bed together and talk. It was the most open and honest that
relationship. The talker and the feeler. She’d host the parties
together. He’d put on his chef coat, and network with all the
vendors, and pick his own ingredients, and make his own
dishes. It was such a proud time in his life. But the restaurant
that’s not how I see him. Not at all. A few weeks after Mom’s
death, he sent me a text saying that he didn't know who he
it didn’t seem like it was going to work out. But I had a soft
spot for him. Ted was the smallest of his litter. He ‘d been
time I’d ever had a health scare that turned into something
two options when you get an assistance dog. You can get a
dog that’s already been trained. Or you can train the dog
I had this wonderful life and then it was taken away. I was
watched all the training videos I could find. I read all the
before I got Ted. And she loves me so much. But she has two
other children, and I know she was getting so tired. But Ted
He’d tell me to hold onto his wrist, and he’d lift me into the
day he built a little art studio at the back of our house. And
copied from an album cover. But he got busy with work and
when I retire.’ But that time never came. Dad was a cop for
twenty years. He was one of the good ones. The kind of cop
kids. But in 1998 he was diagnosed with MS. First there was
quite a bit. But there was a ‘no pet’ policy in our dorm, so it
our first dog together. His name was Snoopy, and Chris got
at first, but I told him: ‘Let’s just get approved, and we’ll
ill dogs. And nervous dogs. And rowdy, jumpy, bitey dogs.
fed. And six rats. Chris did try to stop the rats. He said:
‘We’re not doing rats.’ But then we got the rats. And now
weeks at a time. But then I’ll always find an animal that really
needs a place to go. And Chris will look at the picture, and
ask the same thing: ‘Is there nowhere else they can go? Is it
life or death?’ And I’ll exaggerate a little bit, and say: ‘We’re
their only hope.’ And then he’ll grudgingly allow it— just one
more time.”
“My dad enrolled in college when he was twelve years old.
the time, and she wanted nothing to do with him. But he was
keyboard. If you look at the arc of his work, it’s clear that his
world. But I’m not sure how much that examination extended
that he felt like the worst father ever, because he’d spent
too much time on his work. That’s not at all how I viewed him.
But clearly it was a belief that he’d been living with. It was
the first time he’d ever been vulnerable with me. Dad
suffered a fatal fall a few weeks ago. And it’s been really
said: ‘I’ve been trying to figure out what I’m feeling lately.
And I’ve decided that I’m happy.’ It was the first time that I’d
months, but he eventually got so sick that they took him off
the waiting list. Mom wanted to spend one final night with
place to stay. There must have been a notice sent out on the
headed lady named Sandy. I didn’t know her well. I knew she
was married to the deacon who talks a lot. But I think she
about my plans for the future. And she told me to write down
around, and we prayed, and sang songs, and let my dad go.
Sandy stayed through all of that. Then two days later she
together from the lake. Over the next few weeks, Sandy
wanted. And leave whenever you got tired. But they were
And I’m praying for you.’ One year of talking, and three
turn sixteen. That’s around the age I got to know you. And I
you’d be my daughter.”
“She was sick a lot when I was younger. Whenever people
came to visit, they’d say: ‘Your mom loves you so much.’ But
would hang on her every word. But she never brought the
way. Things took a turn for the worse when the doctors
prescribed her pain meds. Her personality disappeared. She
admit that she had a problem. Or apologize for the pain that
the phone. She listened quietly. I was sobbing the entire time.
Mom wasn’t sobbing, but at the end she said: ‘I’m really
sorry. I didn’t know that.’ After that she tried her best. I think
she knew she didn’t have long to live. She’d call and see how
initiate things. And that was new. My entire life I’d been the
telling all this to my therapist. And the whole time I’m staring
anything to you?’”
“My mother passed away suddenly while I was studying in
America. It was such a dark moment for me. She had been
was booked. The only ticket I could afford was a middle seat.
she told me that her father had also died suddenly while she
airport bar and ordered a beer. And in she walked. God had
believe it. She was seat 61. I was 60. I hadn’t even been
plane. And I was looking at her as I spoke, and she was now
if my mom was still here, I’d never have met her. Somehow
need to do. And not only was I working there, but I was living
child, and it was the only place we could afford. Late one
night I’m sitting in the lobby with the owner’s son. It was just
the eye, and says: ‘You know what? You’re probably right.
You deserve more. But why would I ever give it to you, when
I can get you for this?’ And that broke me. Because he knew.
be born. And that I had no other options. And it’s just so hard,
you work your ass off every day. And you love people. And
you tell your kids to be a good person. But I will say this, man.
I’ve never buckled. A few weeks ago I lost my job. I just lost
where we lived. And we lost it. But I’m not going to fall down
Nothing else in this world matters man. They are god and my
world. I’ve got a wife who treats me like a hero when we’re
any of this.”
“I was nineteen or twenty. I was becoming aware that I might
It wasn’t until I left for college that I finally had the space to
you heard him coming, you ran the other way. He told me
years later that when I asked for a job, he could tell I was
fix things around the dorm. And the whole time we’d talk. He
people.”
“I think she started to realize that it wasn’t going to happen
for her. She was in her forties. She hadn’t met the right
the first time she ever met me. She gave me three names.
My first name is Zoe-- which means ‘life.’ She kept my
Ever since that day it’s just been the two of us. As a young
The Color Of Us. But Mom was very open about my history.
know that I was doing OK, and that I was happy. We even
invented a name for her, so that she would seem more real.
two weeks later on March 21st. Mom always made a big deal
of them were pretty big partiers at the time. But when I came
the living room, so that the rest of us could have our own
time I struggled, he’d say: ‘Are you asking me? Or are you
cook dinner, and somehow we never got back to it. I’d finish
To this day, my dad says: ‘The best thing I ever had was
you.’ He was the only one of his siblings who never bought a
him: ‘What was the deal with the spelling? Why were so
the grave. The only thing I could afford was a small wooden
find where he was buried. It was like I’d lost him completely.
her. But when he got cancer in his old age, she told him:
‘Come back home Joe, I’ll take care of you.’ She nursed him
until he died. That’s the kind of person she was. Christmas
was always a huge deal for her. It was the main reason she
kept working. She’d save up all year for it. Each of her
because she smoked her entire life. And when I visited her in
minute of it, I’m sure. Because she hated being cared for.
When our time was finished, and I was walking out the door,
she told me: ‘Nick, I love you so much. And please don’t tell
anyone-- but this is the last time you’re going to see me.’ I
cried the entire way to the airport. And three days later she
flew to her house for the funeral, and there were tons of
and placed under the tree. But I was too heartbroken to go.
down. But keep going. We all have a purpose in life. And one
into mine.’”
“It was my first year teaching at a new school. Cristina was
sides of the room and do our work. She went from thirteen
And what she wanted to do with her life. We talked about her
the kids leave. But in the back of my mind, I’d always say: ‘At
At least Cristina is only in 11th.’ But this year her class finally
tough. Because they’re the first class that spent all four
very first day. They saw me come back one summer with a
new last name. They were with me when I figured it all out--
nurse. And I’m just so proud of her. It’s been such an honor
to watch her grow. And I can’t wait to see what she does
next.”
“It was my friend’s birthday, and everyone else was
wouldn’t check ID. It was called ‘The Clif Tavern,’ and it was
a total dive. The cash register was from 1948. The owner
life as well. Skip used to always say that the bar was ‘killing
could never stay away for long. There were maybe six days
was wrong. The police went to his apartment and found him
what to do. I gave the eulogy at his funeral, and then left to
everything. But one month after the funeral, I got a call from
aunt already had three kids of her own, so it was wild in that
her to death. And she tried to keep us clothed and fed, but I
can’t say that everything she did was exactly legal. She
talk about. And she was a bit of a thief. On the first day of
about us. On the first day of high school, our principal Mr.
I’d been determined to show that ‘I’ was better than ‘we.’
teacher can ever make. I judged you before I ever knew you.
a child. I was the one hugging him-- telling him it was going
was the worse of the two. But I didn’t think much about it. I
looked like a model with my bald head. I’d tell him the same
from the other side of the glass, I could see his eyes. And he
local story. And I began to learn more about it. I found out
say that it was a local man. But I was excited. I think I needed
Why would you do this for someone you didn’t know?’ And I
said: ‘Why not?’ After that it was like a light switched on. We
ever need someone killed, but if I did, I’d know who to call.
worry. I’ve got this. It’s my turn to take care of her.’ He took
end I gave a little speech. I was looking out at all the people
I loved. All the people who’d helped me. And I couldn’t even
speak. I turned into a big sobbing mess. Tom got up from his
the reality that I would need to go back home. There was one
bus ride from where I was staying. And when I visited the
campus, I learned about a scholarship for international
looking for any door that was open. And that’s how I
had currency from all over the world hanging on her wall. I
talking. I stayed for two hours. I told her my entire story, and
But that night she spoke to her husband Tom, and they
that plan today. For two years I lived with the Rudins. Every
My father was with me. And he was thanking the two human
We’d get in a huge fight, then after a few days he’d ‘love
bomb’ me. He’d say that he needed me. And that he’d never
get better without me. So I’d take him back, and the cycle
would begin all over again. One Monday morning there was a
on—all I could think about was getting him back. But it was
needs me. But I needed him too. I’d still be stuck in the cycle
wasn’t normal. The last two years haven’t been easy. The
help with rent. Everyone is under a lot of stress. But it’s a lot
Last June I got baptized, and I feel like I’m becoming a new
went on like that for two years, until one morning I woke up
into the air. When I called 911, the dispatcher told me he was
music benefit for his medical bills. After the third song,
he’d learned a lot from his experience. And that if you find a
bright spot in this world-- you should hang onto it. Then he
and each one was worse than the next. I’d get to see my
for me to join their family. Back then the word ‘family’ didn’t
Ms. Ripley’s entire world fell apart. They’d been high school
sweethearts. And now she was alone with two foster kids.
and that’s where she raised us. She worked whatever odd
little league and Boy Scouts. She must have been super
all that stuff because you’re strong.’ She cried when I joined
could lead, and I knew I had to tell him. So I sent him a text.
good with her father. I’m not asking you to fill that role, but
if you want to cancel the date-- we can.’ There were twenty
like a robot. Then he wrote: ‘If the date sucks, we never have
met her. It’s been over two years now. So he’s been there
shell on the beach, she’ll pick it up. But it’s always for
him—not me. And he loves that little girl. But that’s not
makes me nervous. Sometimes I’ll ask him: ‘Do you just love
me because you don’t want to lose her?’ And he’ll say: ‘No.
I love her a ton, and I love you a ton.’ He always says it very
girl. Her name was Stacie. And as the story often goes, I
he got. I’d occasionally see her when she dropped the baby
off at the house. I’d feel such hatred every time the doorbell
this unapproachable air about her. Like she was better than
vilified this woman for so long. And now I’m her. And she is
for everything. And I asked for her support. That was eleven
years ago. But we still love to joke about how our horrible
And now it’s her hugs that I need when I’m feeling upset.
time I’m down, she shows up. The doorbell will ring on a
idea what he looked like. I just knew he had blonde hair and
frequent. We’d have these long chats every night. I’d rush to
was the first boyfriend I’d ever had— even if our relationship
reception.”
“I’d been living a reckless life. I was stealing a lot. I was
visit me. We’d never seen eye-to-eye. But they told me:
her. She’d come to the gym with me every day. And even
told me to try again next week, but I turned her down. I knew
Irina and I sat in a park for two hours. She told me: ‘I’m
maybe. But then his pain pill prescription would run out, and
Then she’d go to the library. And then the grocery store. But
hours in the hot tub every night. And I’m not sure
staying with my father for so long. But that she didn’t feel
She had never seemed like she was in control. But I was too
young to know what was happening. What she was
from. I had never realized that she’d been the strong one the
entire time.”
“We were eighteen months apart. Jenny sometimes said
that it felt like I was the big sister, and she was the little--
things. Especially after she got sick. During the last couple
my idea, but she chose the items. She wanted to ride a horse.
we never made it. Maybe I pushed her too much. Maybe she
delay. It never felt like the right time. But when it became
decided it couldn’t wait any longer. Jet came over for two
When she became too sick to move, he’d only get out of her
bed to pee. Then he’d jump right back in. Looking back-- I
promised her that we’d take care of Jet. We had to lock him
told my mom to keep him. I knew she needed him more than
me. But she was thinking the same thing—and insisted that
I take him. We’ve been together for over two years now. And
I’m probably too obsessed with him. I can’t stay out late
person.”
“He had five daughters. And whenever he came home from a
work trip, we’d all line up to give him a kiss. But he always
kissed my mom first, because she was his ‘first love.’ Then
weekends we’d all pile into the car and take these long road
trips. We’d drive for hours, and the whole way he’d be
every second of it. She’d get dressed up for him. She’d put
liked it—even after she got sick. The tumor was deep in her
brain. After every surgery, more and more of her would slip
they went. He’d sit next to her bed, and stroke her cheek,
and recite the Quran until his lips went dry. Some nights he’d
fall asleep sitting up in his chair, but then he’d wake up, and
won’t be alone. I’m coming with you.’ I heard him say it. And
weren’t worth living for. But all his children were grown.
there was nothing left for him. Every day he visited Mama’s
grave, even though we told him not to. He applied for the
plot next to her, and every few hours he’d ask if the
the next two days he barely said a word. Then on the third
morning, he walked in our front door and told me he wasn’t
feeling well. I bent down to help him with his shoes, but he
gone.”
“Both of my parents had this mentality that the most
them happy?’ And that’s the same way I felt when I had my
own daughter. As fate would have it, I received full custody
mess the first time I tried. It was just a bunch of hair twisted
Nobody knew her dad was doing it. My daughter grew into
see. But I’ll tell you the greatest reward I was ever given.
us. She was sitting on the couch, and suddenly she started
crying. ‘You’re such a good father, she told me. ‘You should
Can you imagine? This woman was my idol. She was the
appeared, she’d invent a new style to hide it. For the longest
to shave it off.’ But she’d talk me out of it. She’d tell me:
her to finish this journey with me. Everyone in the hair salon
was nervous. The person in the next chair was nervous. Even
the hairdresser was nervous. She was like: ‘Do you really
want to do this?’ But then she took out the clippers, and
she wanted to play. Then I’d pass out right alongside her at
8 PM. We’d wake up the next morning, and I’d have this
horrible booze breath. But she’d always roll over and say: ‘Hi
Dad, I love you.’ I felt like dirt every single time. And I’d think:
‘That’s it. I’m done.’ But soon the hangover would wear off,
and I’d find myself grabbing another beer after work. After
and when it was over I felt so much better. Not since I was a
kid had I felt this good. I’d get down on the floor while my
daughter played with her dolls. And I’d done that even while
Spurring her on. I’d read books with her for hours. We read
all the Roald Dahl books, and the Hobbit books, and the
been over 2000 days now. I’m fitter and healthier and
happier than I’ve ever been in my life. And it’s all because of
he never will.”
“One of my earliest memories is sitting in a sand box and
moving but couldn’t hear what they were talking about. They
I never forgot it. And the few flings I had as a teenager only
two hours away. Which wasn’t far—but it was far for me.
up. But he kept smiling at me, and a few days later he slid
back and forth in a notebook. I learned all about his life. And
out their path in life. And that extended to his own children.
cover for him. She’d say that he was busy. And he was very
proud of me. But for six years I worked there, and I didn’t
small, but then one of them would bring up the past. And
me. If I was all alone I’d just hide under the covers. But even
the age of eighteen. I was the immature one. I’d say the
most horrible things to him: ‘I hate you,’ and things like that.
past. I always joke with him that I’m the crappy person. I’m
the one who lashes out. I’m the one who talks about people,
covers, crying herself to sleep. I’d tell her that it’s hard to
into another room. Our doctor delivered the news gently. But
measurements are all off,’ they told us. ‘We need to know
bones weren’t growing like they should, and she might not
even survive. I’m usually a fairly private person, but this time
was different. I didn’t care how many people knew. There
hung them all in the bathroom until the entire wall was filled.
But a few weeks before our due date, we received the worst
and there wasn’t room for her lungs. I asked the doctor to
safe. On the day of her birth, the waiting room was filled
came out breathing on her own, and the doctors were in awe.
burden.”
“The football coach at my college opened his training
‘lifting girl weight,’ Coach Brooks heard about it. And the
my stats. He hung our team shirt in his gym, and asked for
had to leave work early. Only then did I realize the impact
have to let women in his program. That wasn’t his job. But if
time with Coach Brooks. After his death, I called his old
trigger her. One time I got mad and told her: ‘You’re not my
mom.’ I was only six years old. But she put me on an airplane
and she abused him as much as she did me. He had been
given two medals during World War II, which he kept in his
dresser-- but he wasn’t the ‘alpha male type.’ My
grandmother walked all over him. But James was the only
a nice guy— that was it. But right before I graduated high
about how he’d fallen sick during the war, and a young man
and he’d been carrying that photo for 50 years. For a brief
lot of love. But Dad has always been more of the ‘Acts of
up, and make us breakfast, and pack our lunches for school.
He’d use a little brown paper bag, and draw a heart on the
baker, he’s the one who tasted everything she made. And
with everyone. And he’s still that way, even with everything
cry when he found out. But he’d tear up every time he had to
But that will go one day. And so will his voice. And so will his
lose his hands, because that’s how he’s always shown his
wrote our favorite quote from Mulan: “The greatest gift and
I’d put the package back exactly like it was. When I grew
But there were small signs. On my¬ worst days I’d put my
Our teacher’s name was Mrs. Hunt. She was the nurturing
type. And she always treated us like adults. The day after I
worried?’ she asked. I lied, of course, and said that I was fine.
read the whole thing, and I told her to send it. Later that
health. It was the first time we’d really spoken about it. A
handled them with grace. And I’m not sure if I’d still be here
was the only student with a full-time aide. I was the only one
emotions. But she was also a lawyer so she made sure that
behind. And by the time I hit 5th grade, I was able to speak.
mother. She was beside me the entire time. I took the LSAT
in January, and even though the test was five hours long, my
mom waited in the lobby. She gave me the biggest hug when
I walked out. When I asked her why she didn’t leave, she said:
anything at all.’”
“I’d never had a serious boyfriend before. I certainly wasn’t
best friend, and after his death I couldn’t get out of bed for
months. Sean met all my friends and family, and all of them
kept saying the same thing: ‘He is so much like your father.’
We’ve been together for two years now. And not only have I
And I wore the green dress, along with the necklace with my
only now the words had new meaning: ‘This Love Is a Gift.’”
“Grandma once broke up a knife fight in the neighborhood.
She was quite proud of that. She kept the knife in a drawer
Grandma was also very Italian. And very Catholic. She loved
loved the lottery. Big, big fan of the lottery. She was always
stations. Then every night she’d watch the numbers roll out
on Channel 8. But she hardly ever won. She used to split her
‘This is such bullshit.’ But then that night I had the craziest
Some days he’d come home crying and say things like: ‘‘I
miss my hair.’ That’s when the mama bear would come out.
knew it was for other reasons. And on the way home from
your hair. It’s not cancer. And it’s not contagious.’ But after
took over. And wouldn’t you know—the kids who had picked
on him were the ones raising their hands the highest. After
so sensitive and tender in that little boy way. And one day he
came home crying because one of the kids had called him
time I saw his high school report card—and the only class he
got an ‘A’ in was gym. His parents never had any money. So
family was his sweet spot. He never needed to hang out with
his buddies. He was madly in love with my mom. And his idea
think that dad was just a ‘family man.’ But as I got older, I
managers-- and the newest one started ten years ago. Our
food he’s given away. If you came into the store today, you’d
thinks he’s joking. But he’s not. On the day my dad got full
thought I was joking. But finally they pulled me out and laid
sister Aleya. She’s four years younger than me, and I can still
She was always a bit more shy, so I tried to push her along.
night she looked at me, and asked: ‘How come you’re not
what you have.’ And she’s really pushed that mindset onto
Who knows me. And gets me. And shares the same deep
even then she didn’t give up. She promised that she wasn’t
with Bible verses. She said that her entire life she had
thought she loved Jesus. But that now she really loved Jesus.
birthday, our wedding, our first child. Over the years those
just a few minutes each. She opens each one with a greeting.
since I got married two years ago, I’ve known there was one
the other videos. She spoke really slowly. She talked about
how I’d always loved babies, even as a child. And she said
pray for them.’ And that was it. She told me that she loved
fall in love again. ‘I’m going to find you the perfect woman,’
cross country skier so he loved the snow, but Mom was the
she lost her battle to cancer, and I think I’ve blacked a lot of
away around the same time as my mom. When they had their
she did everything right. She always asked about our mom.
She honored all of her birthdays and death dates. She never
dad. Those two stinkers had been engaged for nine years,
but they finally did it. And the next year Tracy officially
Tracy held it together the entire time. But at one point the
judge said: ‘In the eyes of the law, it will be as if you gave
birth to these children.’ And that’s when she started sobbing
with joy.”