PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT, QUARTER 2

Name of Learner: Grade Level:

Section: Date:

LEARNING ACTIVITY SHEET NO. 4

I. Introduction

Family is in the core of everything that you do. In one way or another, no life
decision has not been influenced by your family member. In good times or bad,
the family is always there to give you support. At some point, your relationship
with your parents may not always be ideally smooth but just like you, many
adolescents experience conflicts and misunderstandings with their families.
However they still recognize its significant influence in their personal
development.

In this learning activity sheet, you will be introduced to different family

structures and family legacy as well as family genograms that can help you
learn and understand how it affects your personal development.

II. Learning Competency

 Appraise one’s family structure and the type of care he/she gives and receives,
which may help in understanding himself/herself better.

 Make a genogram and trace certain physical personality, or behavioral attributes

through generation.

III. Objectives

At the end of this learning activity sheet, you are expected to:

1. identify different family structures and legacy;

2. assess emotional, social and spiritual legacy received from your parents;
3. trace certain physical personalities or behavioral attributes among self-
constructed generation family genograms.

IV. Discussion

Family is traditionally known as the basic unit of society and as primary

agent of socialization. It is the setting where you first learn how to communicate
and relate with other people.
Your support mainly comes from your family. When your family is intact or
emotionally supportive, you have a good chance of realizing your fullest potentials.

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Family Structure
When one mentions the word “family”, the picture of a father, a mother and
child/children living together may be the first thing that comes to your mind. This
is the nuclear family which is the basic family structure. However, this scenario is
less prevalent. Due to the different societal changes, diverse structures have
emerged and some of it are the following:

Kinds of Family Structure

1. Traditional Structure
a) Nuclear family – is composed of a father, a mother and the
child/children.
b) Extended Family – includes the grandparents and/or relatives of
the nuclear family

2. Emerging Structure
a) Single parent – this family structure occurs through death,
separation/divorce or adoption without marriage.
b) Blended families – also referred to as step-families where both
parents bring children from a previous marriage
c) Homosexual/Lesbian families – occur when two homosexuals living
together raise child/children from previous relationships or through
adoption.
d) Cohabitation – involves an unmarried male and female living together
raising child/children of their own or through adoption.

Whatever family structure you have, your family reflects the dynamics that
influence your development and personality. In each structure, you experience the
splendors and complexities that contribute to who you are right now.

Family Legacies

No matter who you are and where you live, we all have one thing in common:
a heritage. That is a social, emotional and spiritual legacy passed on from parent to
child. Parents always pass to their children a legacy… good, bad or some of both.

1. Emotional Legacy

In order to prosper, you need an enduring sense of security and

stability nurtured in an environment of safety and love.

A strong emotional legacy:

a) Provides a safe environment in which deep emotional roots can grow.

b) Foster confidence through stability.
c) Conveys a tone of trusting support.
d) Nurture a strong sense of positive identify.
e) Creates a “resting place” for the soul.
f) Demonstrates unconditional love.

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 2. Social Legacy

To really succeed in life, you need to learn more than management

techniques, accounting, reading, writing and geometry. You need to learn
the fine art of relating to people.

Key building blocks of your social legacy include:

a) respect, beginning with yourself and working out to other people;

b) responsibility, fostered by respect for yourself;
c) unconditional love and acceptance by your parents;
d) the setting of social boundaries concerning how to relate to God,
authority, peers, the environment and siblings; and
e) rules that are given within a loving relationship.

3. Spiritual Legacy

As spiritual beings, we adopt the attitudes about spiritual matters from one
source or another. Parents who successfully pass along a spiritual legacy to their
children model and reinforce the unseen realities of the godly life. If your parents
are loving, affirming, forgiving and strong in what they believe, you will think of
God the same way. He is someone who cares, who is principled and who loves you
above all else.

A spiritual, emotional and social legacy is like a three-stranded cord.

Individually, each strand cannot hold much weight, but wrapped together, they are
strong. That’s why passing on a positive, affirming legacy is so important and why
a negative legacy can be so destructive. The good news is that you can decide to
keep or throw out legacy that you received and you can also decide to pass a
positive legacy to your children whether you received one or not.

To understand more how your family structure affects your development and
how and why you turned out the way you are today, you have to take a closer look
at your family and the history of your past generations. A genogram will help you
on that.

Genogram

It refers to a detailed and elaborated visual representation of a family tree

that maps out important information on a family’s hierarchy, history and quality of
relationships through symbols. This visual representation of a family can help you
identify patterns or themes within families that may influence or drive your current
behavior.

Rules and Symbols in Making a Genogram

1. Gender
- To symbolize a male person, a square is used.
- To symbolize a female person, a circle is used.
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 - For lesbian, put inverted triangle inside circle.
- For gay, put inverted triangle inside square.

2. Family Connection
Connect the two gender symbols with any of the following rules in mind:

- For married couples, draw a solid line

- If divorced or annulled, draw the solid line

with 2 slanted lines in the middle.

- If separated, draw the solid line

underneath them but with 1 slanted line
only.
- If widowed, draw the solid line with an X
in the middle.
- If couple is cohabitating draw a dashed
line instead to connect the two, with a

small house in the middle.

*Note: The male should always be on the left. Female is always on the right.

3. Birth Order

Under the family connection line of parents, attach children’s gender

symbols with the correct line.

- Draw a solid line if child by natural

means.

- Draw a dashed line if child is adopted.

- If twins, connect the two gender symbols

together with a solid line.

- If child is still unborn, used a triangle

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*Note: In drawing oldest to youngest children, start from left to right.

4. Life Status

Draw an X inside gender symbol if person is already dead.

5. Quality of Emotional Relationship

To illustrate the quality of the relationship between two people, draw any of
the following lines between the gender symbols:

- Two solid lines: very close

- Dashed line: distant relationship
meaning not close)
- Zigzag line: hostile or in conflict (not in
good terms at all)

6. Specific Traits

If you would like to cite specific traits of individuals in your family, you are
free to do so. Again, just include symbolism made in the legend.

For Example: - Drug abuse or alcohol abuse

- Anger Management Issues
- Artist or Athlete

*Note: You may customize your symbols according to your preference as

long as it is not in conflict with other existing symbols.

Example of Genogram:
Here is an example to show how symbols can be put together to form a
genogram:

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 “Ron’s Genogram”

From Ron’s genogram, some notable observations are the following: his
parents are separated; his brother Ben is gay; his mom is in a hostile
relationship with his Aunt Bel; his dad is very close to his Aunt Lisa; Uncle Joe
is suffering from drug abuse; and his Grandpa Ben is deceased.

Examples of some things we can assume from this genogram:

a) His dad and Aunt Lisa’s very close relationship may be due to Uncle Joe’s
drug problem; or vice versa.
b) Grandpa Ben’s death may have triggered Uncle Joe’s addiction.
c) The separation may be due to his mom’s conflict or unresolved issues with
Aunt Bel.

V. Activities

A. Answer me briefly

Directions: Answer each question in a brief and concise manner.Write your

answer on a separate sheet of paper.
1. How does your family affect your personal development?

2. What is the extent of the family members’ influence on your personal

development?

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 3. Give one positive characteristic of your family that you will always be proud
of. Why?

B. My Family Legacy

Directions: Answer each question by writing the number that best reflects the
legacy you have received from your parents. Add up your scores then briefly
answer the questions that follow. Write your answer in a separate sheet of
paper.

Emotional Legacy Evaluation

1. When you walked into your house, what was your feeling?
1 - Dread 3 - Chaos 5 - Calm
2 - Tension 4 - Stability 6 - Warmth
2. Which word best describe the tone of your home?
1 - Hateful 3 - Sad 5 - Relaxed
2 - Angry 4 - Serious 6 - Fun
3. What was the message of your family life?
1 - You are worthless. 3 -You are okay. 5 - You are important.
2 - You are a burden. 4 -You are respected. 6 - You are the greatest
4. Which word best describe the “fragrance” of your home life?
1 - Repulsive 3 - Unpleasant 5 - Fresh
2 - Rotten 4 - Sterile 6 - Sweet
5. Which was most frequent in your home?
1 - An intense fight 4 - A strong disagreement
2 - The silent treatment 5 - A kind word
3 - Detached apathy 6 - An affectionate hug

Results:
Above 24 = Strong emotional legacy
19-24 = Healthy legacy
14-18 = Mixed legacy - good and bad elements
10- 13 = Weak emotional legacy
Below 10 = Damaged emotional legacy

Social Legacy Evaluation

1. Which words most closely resemble the social tone of your family?
1 - Cruel and abusive 4 - Non-communicative but stable
2 - Cutting sarcasm 5 - Secure with open communication
3 - Chaotic and distant 6 - Loving and fun

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2. What was the message of your home life with regard to relationship?
1 - “Step on others to get your way” 4 - “Mind your own business”
2 -“Hurt them if they hurt you” 5 -“Treat others with respect”
3 - “Demand your rights 6 - “Put others before yourself”
3. How were rules set and enforced in your home?
1 - Independent of relationship 4 - Inconsistently
2 -In reaction to parental stress 5 - Out of concern for my well being
3 -Dictatorially 6 - In the context a loving relationship
4. Which word best characterizes the tone of communication in your home?
1 - Shouting 3 - Confusing 5 - Constructive
2 - Manipulation 4 - Clear 6 - Courteous
5. How did your family deal with wrong behavior ?
1 - Subtle reinforcement 4 - Severe punishment
2 -Accepted in the name of love 5 - Discussion
3 - Guilt trip 6 - Loving, firm discipline

Results:
Above 24 = Strong social legacy
19-24 = Healthy legacy
14-18 = Mixed legacy - good and bad elements
10- 13 = Weak social legacy
Below 10 = Damaged social legacy

Spiritual Legacy Evaluation

1. To what degree do spiritual principles incorporated into daily family life?

1 - Never 3 - Sometimes 5 -Almost always
2 - Rarely 4 - Frequently 6 - Consistently
2. Which word captures the tone of how you learned to view/relate to God?
1 - Absent 3 - Fearful 5 -Solemn
2 - Adversarial 4 - Casual 6 - Intimate
3. How would you summarize your family’s level of participation in spiritual
activities?
1 - Nonexistent 3 - Occasional 5 -Active
2 - Rare 4 - Regimental 6 -Enthusiastic
4. How were spiritual discussions applied in your home?
1 - They weren’t 3 - To manipulate 5 - To impluence
2 - To control 4 - To teach 6 - To reinforce
5. What was the perspective in your home regarding moral absolutes ?
1 - If it feels good, do it! 4 - Dogmatic legalism
2 -There are no absolutes. 5 - Moderate conservatism
3 - Let your heart guide you. 6 - Clear boundaries

Results:
Above 24 = Strong spiritual legacy
19-24 = Healthy legacy
14-18 = Mixed legacy - good and bad elements
10- 13 = Weak spiritual legacy
Below 10 = Damaged spiritual legacy

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 Processing Questions:

1. What were your scores in the emotional, social and spiritual legacy
evaluation?
2. How do these scores reflect your home atmosphere?
3. What is the legacy that you have received from your parents and siblings?

C. You Decide

Directions: Read the following sentences carefully then write A if only the
first sentence is correct, B if only the second sentence is correct, C if both
sentences are correct and D if both sentences are incorrect.Write only the
letter of your answer on your answer sheet.

1. a. A genogram is a graphical representation of your family tree.

b. A genogram shows the relationships among family members but
not the hereditary patterns in this family.

2. a. Your family is your training ground of interpersonal relationships.

b. We learn and sustain our relationship with our family members by
overcoming our conflicts with them.

3. a. It is in your family that you were exposed to the basics of life.

b. It is the family that teaches the child coping skills to face the
adversities.

4. a. The family can never be your first avenue to learn skills.

b. A person who receives emotional and psychological support from
his or her family has a better chance to realize his or her full
potentials.

5. a. In order to prosper, children need to gain the insights and social

skills necessary to cultivate healthy and stable relationships.
b. You can decide whether to keep or throw out a legacy you have
received from your parents.

VI. Assessment

Directions: Create your genogram for your family. Make sure to follow the rules
and symbols discussed in the lesson. Remember to include the following:

- at least 3 generations of your family

- indicate the closeness of your family members to each other
- beside the symbol for each family member, write the physical or behavioral
attributes that are similar to yours then write an assumptions or conclusions
about it on a separate piece of paper and explain how you came up with them.

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 MY FAMILY GENOGRAM

My Assumptions/Conclusion:

Rubric
Criteria Rating
1. Accuracy of symbols used 5 4 3 2 1
2. Presence of 3 generations worth of information 5 4 3 2 1
3. Presence of a legend 5 4 3 2 1
4. Depth of conlusion 5 4 3 2 1
Total: 20 points

VII. Reflection

Directions: State briefly the learning that you have gained by completing the
following statement. Write your answer on a separate sheet of paper.

I have learned that Family Structure..........

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 I have learned that Family Legacy.........

VIII. References

Cleofe Myreen P. (2016). Personal Development, Diwa Learning Systems Inc.

Dr. Fernandez B., Quiba C., Legaspi E., Rafanan M.,Garcia Z. (2016). Personal
Development, Teacher’s Guide, First Edition, Department of Education.
https://www.genepro.com/rules/

Prepared by:

Charisma F. Soriano
Teacher II, SNNHS

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IX. Key to Correction

(For teacher’s copy only. Don’t include this part in the distribution to be placed at the
last separate page)

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