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ATTRACT
How to Attract and Date Quality Women Without
Being Someone You’re Not
Ben Baker

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2019 by Ben Baker
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A Destructive Codependency
In today’s dating world, there is a m
assive power
imbalance i n favor of women.
As a young hot woman enters the dating scene, soon she’ll

get a cocktail of s ocial conditioning and unconsciously picks
up a series of self-judgemental beliefs.
Couple guys later, she’ll develop m

istrust, mixed-feelings
and skepticism towards men!
And from men’s side, she usually gets p

assive, w
eak,
reactive, i nsecure and desperate guys who 97% of them fail
to even approach her. Most of those who make some sort of
approach, lack conversation skills, self-awareness and
confidence.

Men! Most look for the fantasy type girl! A kind, loyal
angel-looking babe who loves him! The one who is amazing in
bed and at the same time never sucked a fat dick in her life
before!
Over a decade of research, 100s of relationships and a

handful of agonizing separations. It took me all that to gain the
skill sets to understand what works with women in the dating
department. Most of the effort went to how to manage m
y
own mind and irrational-self sabotaging beliefs that were
holding me back.
This book and the program you have in front of you is the
antidote to failure with women in dating, a real self
development and growth tool.
When you commit yourself and read this book, do things I’ll
show you in the videos and follow up with me, you will end up
with unshakable confidence, unique social skills, freedom and
women who are way out of your current reality...

Preface
Your life, h
appiness, sanity and future... are on the line.
Most men, either end up a

lone and isolated, d
ivorced and
miserable, befriend alcohol and dope, or get stuck with the
wrong woman they don’t really want… A
woman he doesn’t
really feel attracted to, but partnered with out of fear of
loneliness, c onfusion, i nsecurity and desperation.
When it comes to women, men have been told get what

they can with their default skill sets. Don’t question it. Head
down, just go with what you get.
As a result they end up with a woman with a bad

attitude who looks like Yoda a few years after the
marriage.
The truth is that men DON’T pick an average quality (both

looks and personality) woman by choice. T
hey choose that way
because they don’t have the s kills, confidence or the mindset
to go after w
hat they really want. Driven by fear, doubt and
insecurities, they drop their standards instead!
This... is not a “feel good” book, but it lights a fire under

your ass and teaches you how to be a man women feel
attracted to regardless of your past failures and current flaws.
It’s effective, “streetwise” knowledge that’s gonna give you

the p
ower and control. It is i nappropriate and o
ffensive to
some people.
I’m gonna teach you how to b

uild attraction and get the
quality g
irlfriend you always wanted but never thought
possible because no one ever told you how awesome you are
and what your potential is.
You will learn how to manage fear and a

nxiety, and take
charge of your social life.
It will spare you breakups, divorces, rejections and

sadness starting r ight now!
Table of Contents

A Destructive Codependency 2
Preface 4
Who is this Book for? 15
Who Is This Book Not for? 15
Meet The Family 16
Common loser mentality 18
How To Win 21
Why Most Guys Fail and How You Can Avoid it from
Happening 22
6 Things 24
Thing 1 24
Thing 2 24
Thing 3 25
Thing 4 27
Thing 5 27
Thing 6 28
She Didn't Tell Me She's Married! 28
I Know it Already 29
The Mindset 30
To Get That Beautiful Girlfriend, You Need to Know 30
Part 1: Welcome to the Jungle 33
I’m Not Going Home with You… Short Guy 33
Welcome to the Jungle 34
The Commandments 35
What Most Introverted (& Smart Guys) Secretly Think 46
Success Goes Down to the Fundamentals… 50
Why Most Guys Fail and How Not to Be One of Them 53
The 8 Stages of Your Dating Development 55
Use Filters 57
You Are Not Different 59

Part 2: Irreversible Mistakes 64
Nightclubs 64
Irreversible Mistakes 67
Are There Really Any Quality Women Out There? 68
Can You Attract Women If You’re Broke? 69
Part 3: the Golden Keys to Success 73
The Winning Formula 73
Self Awareness 73
Surroundings Awareness 74
Paradigm 74
Vibing & Energy 76
Psychology 76
Focus 76
Emotional Stability 77
Techniques & Strategies 78
Understanding Your “self Worth” (This Is Big) 78

When You Change, Everything Changes 80
This Is a Lifestyle, Not a Weekend Night Out 81
It’s Now or Never 82
Structure of A Successful Interaction 83
The Loser Mentality 84
Alcohol 86
The 8 Types of Women 86
Rejections & How to Take It 88
You're in 3 Battles 90
Motivation 90
What Do You Want to See When You Look Back 92
Part 4: Approaching Women 95
The Challenges 95
The Problem With Not Approaching Women 97
Passiveness 98
The 11 Triggers of Approach Anxiety 101

After Approach Anxiety 102
Emotional Stability and Approach Anxiety 103
The Irrational Fear 104
Ignoring The Pain Signal 105
The Cold 107
The Elements of a Successful Approach 108
How to Overcome Approach Anxiety and Successfully

Approach 110
1. Break it down to simple steps 110
2. The possible flood of negative feelings coming your

way 110
3. Most people lose the game to fear and give up 111
4. Your ability to manage anxiety and worry determines

your results 111
5. Remember... Your default is set to failure... 111
The Main Reason Most Guys Never Fix This Is 112
If You Can’t Approach Read These 114
More Reminders on Approaching Women 116

What to Do If You Can’t Approach Her 118
The Ultimate Failure 118
Fear 120
Attraction 122
The Rule #1 of Dating 122
Cgq 124
The 8 Pillars of Success 128
How to Rate Yourself as a Guy 132
Testing 134
Are You Serious? 136
Conviction & Self-doubt 137
Risk Taking 138
Final Reminders 139
Most Guys Are Blindly Obsessed With Validation 139
Engage Fast and Don’t Waste Time With “Tire Kickers” 140
Texting Is Important 140

Match Her Energy 141
Don’t Get Affected by Rejections and Setbacks 141
Best Places to Meet Women 142
Cafes 142
Yoga and Pilates Classes 142
What’s Next 144

Attract – How to Attract and Date Quality Women Without Being Someone You’re Not 13

As sweet, beautiful and stunning women can be... if you
are not trained to communicate with them calibrated, o
n their
frequency and with c
onviction...you’ll trigger resistance and
start the dreaded feedback loop of r ejection and n
egative
thoughts.
Long term results are f rustration, anger and bitterness

towards yourself and women. The vicious loop of confusion &
dissatisfaction!
This book and the video program you got in your hands, are
the blueprint to a more confident, attractive and charismatic
you!
I systematically take guys who are shy, insecure or s ocially

weak with absolutely no conversation skills to dating beautiful,
classy and quality women they really deserve.
Who is this Book for?

This book is for you if…
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● There is a voice in your head calling you not enough,
telling you “I probably can n
ever meet the type of woman I
want because I am this way”.
● If you’re shy and find it hard to approach and meet

women.
● You’ve never had the type of woman you wanted.

(Either looks - personality or both).
● You had someone special, but you lost her to another

guy. (Maybe to another guy).
Who Is This Book Not for?

● Cocky, close-minded son of a bitch guys
● Jaded-angry woman haters
● Lazy mother fuckers who just complain, take no action

and wonder why their life sucks
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Meet The Family

This book has children which y
ou should read and watch if
you want it to work for you:
GET THE GIRL - This is the “how to” part of this collection. A
complete A-Z system to meet women. Comes with a series of
videos you should have access to already. This book alone will
make you 10 folds more powerful and aware in society, plus
more attractive to women. It reveals more than you could
learn in a $1000 course.. It has already helped thousands of
guys.
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CONVERSE - This crash course teaches you conversation
skills. How to never run out of things to say. Know where in
the interaction you are so you can say the right thing at t he
right time. Dealing with t he awkward silence and all the
challenges of conversing.
AROUSE - This guide is a collection of the most effective

techniques and strategies to turn her on fast and make the
interaction more enjoyable for both you and her. A lot of guys
end up in the friendzone because they fail to arouse her.
APPROACH - Most men prefer to die with a bullet in their

head in the war in Afghanistan rather than approaching a hot
woman.
This program is the proven methods of approaching women

in different scenarios. The video crash course teaches you
different ways to approach women successfully even if you
have uncontrollable anxiety of interacting with attractive
women or you’ve never approach women you find attractive.
CHECKPOINTS - T
he point of this guide is to explain the
steps y
ou take to go from strangers to lovers. It is not written
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as an in-depth tutorial off each step, but as an overview of the
whole journey.
Common loser mentality

Guys who fail have thoughts like:
1. This is not gonna work for me
2. “I don’t wanna go out with any woman who picks a guy like
me as a partner! I am ugly/loser/weak/insecure etc.
3. “All women are bitches”.
4. “I am JUST n
ot that kinda guy who can get a hot girlfriend
and I am dealing with it”.
5. “There are just too many guys out there going for the
same woman I want to go… I have no chance”...
And the list of excuses goes on...
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Most guys don’t attract the women they R
EALLY want
because of the wrong mindset, shyness, fear or not
understanding women and themselves.
After a couple failed attempts,

most men choose to put their
head in the sand and ignore this
until they’re too old to do
anything about it.
As a result, they end up l onely

and depressed.
Or worse... they become Desperate and start a l ousy

relationship with a woman they don’t really like and end up in
a deadend.
Sexless, l oveless and b

oring relationship.
Some get pressured to the biggest decision of their lives.

Both financially and morally. Knock her up to avoid the
break up, or to make h
er and her family happy. This traps
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them in an even bigger mess. More sad with a couple kids as
the casualties of his weakness.
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How To Win
The way you think
determines the way you
feel and as a result, the
way do things... and
finally the results you get.
Most guys go straight to the “How To” part without

understanding the rules first. This book explains the “What
Part” and the rules. Only after you shift your thought patterns,
techniques and strategies become effective. I teach you most
of the techniques and strategies in the video section of the
program.
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Why Most Guys Fail and How You Can

Avoid it from Happening
Attracting and keeping the quality women you want is
multi dimensional and pretty complex if you’ve never done it.
Most guys, won’t end up with the relationship(s) they really
want. The reasons are:
1 - They simply quit! Most g

ive in or give up without
realizing they’re leaving the scene.
2 - Winning this game requires advanced levels of low

and high level skills. Guys t hink focusing on high level gets
them the wins. It doesn’t.
These are the skills from l ow to h

igh level:
1. Self and surrounding awareness
2. Flawless focus
3. Confidence, doubt and anxiety management skills
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4. High level skills -> How to approach, how to talk, text,
arouse etc
If you have t ough skin, a blueprint and enough persistent,

if you remain focused, you will eventually learn the surface
level skills.
The main concern for most guys is the b

lindspots and the
lower level skills. We’re gonna do a lot of work on that in this
program.
Money and an $80000 car. A collection of clones, shoes,

jeans, suits, alcohol, cigarettes, weed and pets… all of that is
depreciating investments!
You can instead invest a fraction of that in yourself, learn

to get out of the jail of your mind and not only fix your
challenges with women, you’ll also win in other areas of your
life. After all struggling with women is a symptom of the real
problem. T
he real problem is lack of low level skills!
Your personality and social skills, your mind

management skills are the assets that n
ever depreciate!
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6 Things
Thing 1
This is NOT a “how to” book!
This book triggers a paradigm shift. The way you see and
approach women and dating. When you learn to manage your
thoughts and discard the irrational ones, you’ll gain control
over your emotions. Only then can you achieve consistent
success.
Thing 2
This isn’t literature or a classy novel! My goal is not to
impress you with superb grammar or fancy words; it is to get
to my world of abundance so you start living a different quality
of life! I’ll show you how to rapidly find quality and passionate
interactions, boost your confidence so you can attract
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extraordinary women and experience short and long term
romance with them!
Thing 3
It feels amazing to attract and sleep with beautiful women!
Falling in love with beautiful women and getting them to love
you back with you so you can share something unique
together is even more sweet! I’ll show you how to do that too.
However!.... as blissful, fun and heavenly it is to make love

to a beautiful, blue eyed blonde and fall in love with her,
engaging women can have several serious unpleasant
consequences too.
Things can change at any time. The woman who once was
the best thing that ever happened to you, can suddenly
become a painful burden and a heavy load you wish you’d
never had to carry. You may say "damn you serious Ben?" I’d
say "yeh man… that happens like all t he time bro!"
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It’s easy to lose perspective and obsess over a woman! No
one gets married so they can get divorced next; but many end
up down that path.
If you choose to enter this game, you should promise me

that you understand this.
Love, sex and oxytocin expand b

lindspots. No one will warn
you the possible nuclear rockets coming your way. If you’re
not aware and just jump, you could get hurt emotionally,
financially and/or mentally.
Once you do things I’ll show you, you will attract women. In
this book I won’t give advice on using condoms. It’s a catch 22
and a very personal choice you gotta make for yourself.
When you sleep with random women, there is a chance of

getting her pregnant or getting sick. With some women more
than others.
At the same time when you wrap it, the pleasure drops
dramatically and while you’re in and out you might think “Why
am I even doing this I am not feeling anything this is weird?”.
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Sometimes it’s more fun to wear a helmet and masturbate
in your bedroom rather than having sex and feeling nothing.
Whatever path you take, partner with women who are on
your value level or higher. That’s all say on that.
Thing 4
Please don’t skip or skim through this book. Read every
single word. I want you to win.
Thing 5
This book comes with a series of video tutorials and pdf
guides. This book is the skeleton. The other parts are the
meat.
You’ll learn the most when you see it in action. So make sure
you watch the videos as you read this book. You’ll find the
video link at the footer of every page.
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Thing 6
Things we discuss here are learnable skills. I have taught
this to thousands of other fellows all around the world online
and offline.
If you stick around and do things I show you, you will get a
lot out of it. These are proven philosophies and strategies.
She Didn't Tell Me She's Married!

Last Tuesday I went on an unusual Tinder date. When we
met, she seemed uncomfortable yet aroused (a strange
combination).
We made it clear that neither of us were looking for a

relationship. So, after a few glasses of wine, we walked back to
my place and enjoyed a few hours of no strings attached
pillow fights and hot wax candles.
Then it happened. She was still wearing my shirt and milking

the last sips of champagne from the bottle... her phone rang.
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I heard a man's voice on the phone. I don’t speak her
language so I couldn’t understand the conversation.
As soon as she hung up, she said…
“It was my sister.”
I smiled and handed her the glass of. The night soon ended,
and we kissed goodbye as she left.
Two days later I was outside a cafe checking my emails on

my laptop. I looked up and saw her. One hand pushing a baby
carriage with twins inside, and the other hand wrapped
around the arm of a sad-looking guy!
I Know it Already
A mistake many guys make is unconsciously avoiding the
fundamentals. They follow a random course which teaches
them “tricks” and end up wasting their time and money.
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What’s stopping you from attracting the woman you want
may take you 5 years to fix and you may one day get the girl
you always wanted.
But, if you think about the situation differently, you can get
similar results in 5 days! In this book I will target your
blind-spots and sticking points. I will give you new ways of
thinking in bite size chunks. Read it slowly. Let each section
sink.
The Mindset
To Get That Beautiful Girlfriend, You Need
to Know
● Where to meet her
● Exactly h
ow to meet her so you don’t come off as creepy
or weird
● What to tell her and what to do to build the attraction
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● What NOT to do to continue building the a
ttraction
● How not to be n
eedy through the whole interaction
● How to ask for her contact details without raising any

objections or sounding stereotypical
● How to text her so she comes out on a date with you
● What to do during the date to build the t rust and more

attraction
● How to turn things sexual without raising any objections
● How to blow her mind in the bedroom
● How to bring up the idea of a relationship without

freaking her out and scaring her away.
All of these are explained in detail in the video section of the

program.
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When you learn and do these right
● You start meeting more women
● You start attracting more women
● You start to get more dates
● And finally having options
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Part 1: Welcome to the Jungle

I’m Not Going Home with You… Short
Guy
I was out one evening with a friend.
We were having drinks at a lounge
in Moscow. My friend is a computer
programmer. Smart guy but very
introverted and reserved. He’s also
kind of short, bad and not attractive.
He looks like a semi-rotten potato
that’s been out of the fridge for
weeks.
As we’re talking, he quietly asked me…
“Man... can you get those two girls at the end of the
bar to come join us? It’s been a while since I met
someone I liked!”
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A few minutes later I approach them. They were nice and
friendly. We spoke a bit and after a few minutes I told her:
“You seem friendly… I am actually here with my friend...

Maybe you join us later… who knows, it might be fun)”
She looked at my friend, paused and said:
“Ben your friend he’s kinda.... short. I don’t want to waste

my or his time. There’s no way we’ll ever get along.”
Welcome to the Jungle

The dating world today is similar to the wild! It’s no
playground for emotionally or m
entally weak people!
Survival of the fittest! If you're an average guy, shy, short,

bald, introverted or a combination of the above... if you have
anxiety of approaching women and if you’re emotionally
unaware (will tell you a lot on that), you will have a h
arder time
meeting and keeping quality women you want!
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I know several guys who use Laxapro & a bunch of other
antidepressants to avoid dealing with the pain of rejection…
Some drink it everyday, some even turned gay and a few

sadly attempted suicude just not to feel with the sadness,
lonliness and the self-hate casued by the rejections!
Basically, if you don’t understand certain social dynamics

with women, your looks are not gonna save the day! Not
today, not tomorrow.
Some girls tagert your cash. Money attracts g

old diggers
too. That’s the last thing you want to have in your life!
The Commandments
I was with a client in Tallinn (Estonia) last summer.
Waiting for the traffic light to go green and we cross. It was

busy, very busy. Many people waiting for the light on both
sides.
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On the other side my eyes got locked to this pretty 20
something year old girl with long blonde hair looking my way. I
smiled at her, and she replied with a nice, open and friendly
smile!
As the light goes green and we walk towards each other, we
both slow down, smile and go for a hug and a quick l ip to lip
kiss… In the middle of the street.
I walked to the other side with her, exchanged numbers and

met her later that day.
When we left, the guy with me said:
What the fuck just happened!
I haven’t had a hug since my divorce for 10 months and you get
to kiss a random stranger in the middle of the street? What am I
doing wrong?
The answer is in the commandments below. If you want to

win and become attractive to women, you have to fully learn
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and understand these by heart regardless of what you
want…
A model looking girlfriend who loves you or if you want

quality 1 night stand with a girl you meet in a classy Jazz bar…

1. Never put yourself in the position of rejection. Physically

or verbally. If she can reject you in the process of
attraction building, she u
ncontrollably will!

For example, instead of saying:

Do you want to meet up?

Say:

Do you prefer meeting at Starbucks or CafeMania?

OR

Would you like to meet up Tuesday Or Wednesday?
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A lot goes to this. I explain more in the video section of
the book.
2. To win quality, you will have to go against your

emotions sometimes. Most men can’t. But you can! You
might REALLY want to send that text message and... you
shouldn’t.

Dealing with Approach Anxiety is a good example! Extreme
desire to meet her but at the same time every cell in your
body says no to approach.
3. Most women are passive! This used to annoy me in the

past. Passive means “she’s not gonna approach you at
any stage of the interaction”.

When you see someone you like, you should approach
her otherwise you will beat yourself up later and develop
self hate in the long run. I will teach you all the ins and
outs of approach in the video section of the program.
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4. No one cares about y
our feelings. Specially attractive
women. This is brutal, but very true at the same time!
5. Techniques w
ithout the r ight mindset = Car without an
engine. Spend 95% of your time working your mind, 5%
conversation skills.
6. Rejection is not personal.
7. Resistance = Suffering. Any negative emotion means you

should change the way you think instantly.
8. Drop your logic. What makes sense to her probably won’t

make sense to you.
9. Attraction is something you build as you go! As a guy you

should learn to build it a
uthentically. There is no other
way.
10. If you feel f rustrated or deseperate, she will feel it in

your voice and the l ook in your eyes. The moment she
sees the desperation... game over. She'll brutally play you
and drag you till the end of time.
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11. Interactions find balance eventually. You'll either be
chasing or leading. In the guide Get The Girl I show you
how to l ead.
12. Kick her off the pedestal & never give your power away
to anyone. Don't be a dick either. Be nice to women. If
you do things right, she'll stick around.
13. Women constantly and u

ncontrollably t est you. If you
allow her tests to make the interaction tense in a negative
way, she will lose the attraction.

Attraction is a fragile little thing you should s ystematically
build and protect until your Fire Hose meets her Red Wagon
and the pillow fight is out of the way. After that, the
dynamic changes. It’s key to remain kind and caring after
you go downtown with her. I’ll explain this in detail in the
members area.

If you use her tests and turn the interaction to a fun
playful game, she will feel more and more attracted to
you. If you play on your default setting and sound like
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Bob Smith or Frank Green, she will not show you her pink
panties.
14. The longer you w

ait, the harder it gets. I am not talking
about your fire hose, I’m talking about going for the kiss
and escalating.
15. You and most women you meet are not a fit and it is
not personal. Many guys develop bitterness towards
women when they lose a hand and end up hurting
themselves.
16. Your emotional state is highly recognizable at all

times. She will feel both the c onfidence or the frustration
in your voice, your eyes and the way you look at her, the
way you move and carry yourself.
17. Your results are the best feedback of your skills.
18. Complainers lose 100% of the time. Any negative

statement is a sign you need to change the way you think
about it.
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19. Use filters. Not instagram filters. Interactions filters.
The concept of filters is explained in detail in the program
and further down in this book.
20. Relationships are not for everyone. You gotta go out

of your way quite a lot if you wanna make it work. If you
are in one and you’re planning on staying, read John
Grey's mars-venus book.
21. The dating world is a sharp d

ouble edged sword.
Some rejections and failure can be brutal. Your feelings
can get hurt. Grow “rhinoceros” thick skin because the
pleasure on the other side, the taste, the softness, the
intensity and the madness is out of this world when she’s
sitting on your face squirting love juice.
22. You're an awesome guy and no one ever tells you how
awesome you are. Never forget it. If you’ve ended up
reading this far in the book, it means you know the
possibilities and you have the map in your hands.
When you doubt yourself, message me. How? Link at the
footer.
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23. You're gonna win some and lose some. When you lose,
laugh at it, be happy you got to play and walk away proud
that you are still in the game. If you're sad, own it like a
man, feel it until it’s out of you.

24. Interactions and women can bring out your darkest

side (hurt, anger, jealousy, revenge, envy etc)... These
feelings mean you've got work to do on your inner game,
beliefs, confidence and w
eaknesses. When you get good
and understand yourself and why people are a certain
way, the negative feelings fly away.
25. The level of your approach anxiety is a great measure

of your authenticity, confidence, conviction and courage.
You're going to have good and bad days but in general
most your days should be anxiety free. Watch the
complementary videos that come with this book to learn
cold approaching women.
26. Many guys knock a girl up u

nintentionally and sadly
exit the game. Make sure you know what you're doing
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there. Avoid freestyling it. Master intimacy and how it's
done w
ithout making a mess.
27. It all ends fast... so enjoy the ride and don't take any of
it seriously. Relationships have 1 goal: A more joyful life
for you and her. When you find yourself angry, yelling,
fighting, bitter and sad or paraluzed by anxiety... Take a
step back, re-evaluate and reverse engineer how you got
into the mess.
28. Remain in non-reactive mode at all times.
29. Never follow… Always LEAD. If you’re walking with her

in the museum and she stops to look at a painting, very
slowly keep walking and look at other pieces until she
catches on.
30. Avoid being agreeable a

ll the time. Practice
non-compliance mode and learn to do it under the radar.
31. Interact from the position of power. Be willing to walk

away if things are not going your way.
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32. When you are with her, f ocus! Be f ully t here in the
interaction. Focus and presence make you attractive!
33. Authenticity is rare and priceless.
34. Master attraction triggers, pull them left and right.
35. Master conversation skills.
36. Assume the b

est possible scenario e
very time.
37. Be playful & n

ot too serious.
38. Be ambiguous.
39. Never drop your standards over a dry spell. Go for

the best!
40. Keep neediness, sadness, jealousy & anger out of it.
41. Make your interaction patterns u

ntraceable and
unpredictable.
42. It’s ok to be on your own.
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What Most Introverted (& Smart

Guys) Secretly Think
"I am this awesome great guy and girls don't realize it and keep
saying NO… I built a multi-million dollar business from nothing
and still have to prove myself to this girl? You kidding me right?
It's just painful and fuck all these bitches who don’t realize who
I am.” Why go out and get rejected left and right?”
That is a universal feeling and self talk smart single guys

who want women but can’t get have with themselves
sometimes!
Most guys are getting constant feedback from the opposite

sex that… “Sorry but you’re not good enough!”
Approaching women, it opens guys to getting hurt and

trashes their ego. I mean who wants to get their ego hurt, just
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for women to say “That’s cute but no thank you... Let’s just be
friends”.
What’s even worse is when you see that girl that you want
so badly, going for a low class- cheap guy who has nothing to
offer compared to you.
Then you start to think maybe she’s crazy. Why she goes to
this dude who is not half the man that I am… And the loop of
negativity and failure takes you away again.
“What’s wrong with me as a man that every quality woman

rejects me?”
I’ve been there too… Wondering if people know what’s going

on in your head... Most guys hide it pretty well & pretend they
are OK and secretly hate on women and set up.
A lot of guys cannot admit they have a problem, yet alone

paying someone to coach them through this… Those who ask
for help, get burned by the fake “dating and pickup” industry
and commercial sales-marketing machines that bully them in
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the endless loops of expensive products and useless
bootcamps.
What they get in return in the next spam approach

strategies by another PUA bootcamp or flood of internet
marketing hype trying to sell them the next bullshet magic pill.
Most guys try and fail.. Depressed, die inside a little everyday
until they eventually give up!
Most guys (I’d say +95%) take 1 of these routes. Both end in
sadness and what I call “depression in instalments”.

1 - Lowering Their Standards
Get into a relationship with a woman they don't really like.

They take this route because they don't know how to
approach or attract the women they really want!
They end up unhappy in a sexless relationship. Pretend that

everything is ok and she is the one “We’re just going through a
phase”…
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Settle for a s econd level partner and stick to her because he
KNOWS if he loses her, he pretty much has no other options
but a guaranteed hardcore breakup.
Secretly watching porn, thinking about other women and

cheating if they can. Probably end up getting a divorce at the
end.
2 - Giving up
Option 2… yes… give up altogether and s tick to good old

P0rnhub. This is what’s happening to millions of guys out
there.
Then both the quality, and the intensity of your

performance gets affected by that mindset! This is like a
deadly virus that hits guys in 3 different ways:
1. The guy starts to lose motivation to find quality woman

and the w
hole thing becomes a burden.
2. Or he starts putting interactions off, and won’t spend

enough hours on it.
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3. He will not do it with passion anymore! D
oing anything
half-hearted & without passion will... fail.
The further you see yourself from her (nice, beautiful and
sexy dream girl)… The more days pass without you having that
woman in your life… The stronger this negative belief
becomes, the lower your results drop… The closer you’ll sink to
the bottom! This is a recipe for failure in anything… Dating too
man, dating too!
Success Goes Down to the

Fundamentals…
Remember:
1. Most social settings (and people) are not forgiving that’s

how it’s set up. You have a very short time to adapt to the
environment and quickly do the right thing. Most guys
take too long to recognise the settings and make the
move.
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2. If you're not c reative... You have to have a diverse mind
and your conversation skills should be all the way up
there, otherwise you'll be THAT guy.

The weird dude nobody wanted to talk to. Brutally
rejected and no one will care about you or your lonely
nights.
3. If you're not good looking, you'll have it tougher! Getting

friend-zoned will be the least of your problems. There will
be even more expectations of you and your only way out
is to communicate on a higher level. 99% of men are
incapable of even getting close to that. My 1on1 trainings
are designed to help hard-cases and guys who pretty
much have no chance on their own.
4. The only way to get good at this is to fundamentally

change the way you think.
5. Face your approach anxiety on a daily basis... Stare in

the eyes until it's powerless against you. With anxiety
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controlling you, you'll be powerless. Use my technique I
showed you.
6. Learn to get desensitize to rejection & hit your daily

numbers. There is only so much “no's before “yes”s come.
7. Get a
truck load of frame of reference in different
situations. Experience is power. Makes you walk, talk and
move differently.
8. Avoid repeating the same mistakes! If you do it 100

times wrong, you'll fail 100% of the time. Use my simple
method I show you in the videos. Think about it
differently so you take different approach.
9. Confidence gets your foot at the door. If you're not

confident, you'll get rejected. Another reason to be called
"THAT guy". Without it, nothing else will work.
10. Make that decision right now. Either give it up all

together and wait for her to fall into your lap (she
probably won’t), or do the system I show you.
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Why Most Guys Fail and How Not to

Be One of Them
Read them, be very aware of them at all times and separate
yourself from guys who think like this.
● Most guys have no idea what they’re doing or where

they’re going in their life with dating. They’re waiting for a
miracle.
● They run into fake gurus and keep getting the wrong
advice. Flood of faceless bloggers, marketers and books
written by ghostwriters.
● They become jaded, women haters and lost somewhere

in the journey.
● Massive ego and not admitting they need help.
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● “It's not gonna work for me anyways” mentality. Never
had a quality woman in the past, what makes it different
this time? Basically, no reference for success
● The unforgiving dating scene! There’s really no room for

mistakes! Embarrassment is just 1 approach away... If
the approach is uncalibrated or the wrong way it will tank.
Most guys would rather stay in and porn it away with a
joint rather than going after her. The other side of the
coin is extreme pleasure and satisfaction.
● Not knowing what to say or do. Man I approach a lot of

women and I get it… most of the times it’s extremely
awkward at first.
● Emotional attachment to beauty. Desire to get a piece

of her makes guys weak and powerless... and that
affects the performance and puts him in reactive
mode.. That is the opposite position of power. Who
wants to go there? No one! Who ends up going there?
Everyone!
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The 8 Stages of Your Dating

Development
Most guys get stuck at stage 2, some make it to 3. Very few

go any further. If you hang around long enough, I’ll take you all
the way to the top. Yes there is a place called the top. It looks
good and feels great.
1. The Dark Era. I know nothing. Sad, bitter, virgin and

lonely. Fuck this world. It sucks and we’re all gonna die.
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2. Wrong Girlfriend. Someone finally fucked me and out of
desperation, I stayed on board for the ride, who knows
when’s the next bus coming. Probably never.
3. PUA Era. She dumped me and I discovered the pickup

world.
4. Relationship + Breakups Loop - Started to attract and

lose girls.
5. Jaded PUA - Believed women are all bitches and they all
break your heart.
6. Fuckboy - Women are good just for 1 thing. I know how

to get them. Party Time proud to be a manwhore. O shit I
can take Viagra too when I am still young?
7. Healthy Relationship - Along the way on the Fuckboy

phase, I met some amazing, wild women who helped me
grow and see women through another lens.
8. Real Abundance - Total Freedom, Sex, Love &

Relationship On Demand.
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It doesn’t matter where you are in your development!
Wherever you are, when you follow things I have here for you,
you will have the tools to climb all the way to the top!
Use Filters
In all of my programs, I teach the concept of "filters".
Because it’s very freaking important. Basically how "feeling any
negative emotions means you need to stop doing whatever it
is that you’re doing and change the way you think about the
situation”!

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Emotions of J ealousy, f ear, anxiety, anger, sadness,
bitterness and n
eediness... Have nothing to do with women.
It’s all the side effects of wrong believes and the reactive
mode.
Whatever route you take, make sure you don't get stuck in a
dark stage because the first person who will get hurt it you
and then the people around you. The butterfly effect may hit
me too, who knows how this thing really works...
The loop of negativity and failure can be draining and you

could become jaded towards women. This could become a
lasting state if you’re not aware of it.
When you "get it", then no one will reject you anymore. You
will only understand the setup, you will have absolutely no
neediness!
Rejection will lose its meaning! Destination: Abundance era -

Total Freedom. Relationships are just another vehicle that get
you there. When you get there, you won't even need it
anymore. You’ll just enjoy the ride.
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You'll realize all this was just there for you to know
yourself and become a more humble, strong and a better
guy. Women sense that in you and automatically come to you
when they realize you don't need them.
The recipe is simple... be humble, cool, friendly, playful,

master social skills through the pdsf and videos I provide
for you. When you have negative feelings, dig in and find
out what is going on and seek solutions rather than
letting it go down on you and eat you up.
You Are Not Different

Just because she squirt love juice on your face a few times
and call you daddy doesn’t mean she’s your property or you’re
Casanova. You got to play a hand, get over it!
I see quite often men from all walks of life (mostly

successful ones) break down and cry, lose themselves and the
life that took them years to build.
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They get hurt because they think just because they have
status in society and they’re respected (or rich), things never
go wrong in their relationships!
This mentality makes them extremely vulnerable!
They don’t understand the rules of the game and they think
“I am different”... or worse… “She is different” or even worse…
“We are not that kinda couple”...
No one is above the process, no one is above the

psychology either! Anyone at any time can leave n
o matter
how close they are to you or what they’ve promised you in the
past!
If you want to play this game and meet the women you
really want, you gotta be ok with that fact that w
omen, like
everything else in life, also come and go and i t usually happens
without any notice.
This doesn’t mean all women cheat and leave, but there is
always a chance and i t’s usually when you expect it the
least!
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If you want to develop a superpower and take this to the next
level, remind yourself that you are mortal! A concept I learned
in Thailand spending time with monks. This idea is alien to the
Western culture. When you let go, you’ll live fearlessly! I will
talk to you more about this in the video section.
Bad parenting and lack of education creates ego driven,

cocky, self-centered and insecure men and women who feel
entitled to trash, burn and act irrationally when they lose.
She may choose to be with another guy for a week without

even telling you.
Right now as I am writing this, I am in Ukraine. Some women

have the option to just fire up Tinder, meet a guy in south of
France, with private jet and spend a few days with him
drinking Krug Brut 88 and do highly inappropriate things in his
yacht.
This doesn’t mean live in fear, but accept the rules. Get
better so you’re not so vulnerable and instead you got
options and bet or chips only on you. Relationships are
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transactions and emotions are currency. If you win the
emotions, you win her too!
Also just because she said certain things or because she had
a baby with you, doesn’t mean she is gonna stick around
forever.
Anytime you are with a woman (either a 1 time encounter or

a long term relationship), beware that this is only for now and
things may change the next day. T hat includes your feelings for
her and her feelings for you.
Accept the setup! Us humans are very dynamic creatures

and make irrational decisions all the time!
When life gets tough, pressure goes up and things can fall
apart! Relationships are first in the line!
If you choose to play, be prepared for everything.
I have always said it, the better quality relationship, the

more pleasure and potential for pain at the end.
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Most people don’t wanna think or talk about it because it’s
uncomfortable.
If you choose to play, go in, enjoy every second of it, be a

great partner and if it ends, don’t lose yourself. Accept, grieve
and move on to the next.
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Part 2: Irreversible Mistakes

Nightclubs
Here’s how some poor guy ended up with my friends semen
on his face!
This is back in 2017…
I was out with 2 clients who wanted to learn how to “pick

up” girls from the club ( That's not what I teach anymore...
clubs are my least favorite places).
We were in Miami, South Beach, SLS hotel.
DJ, music, girls, drinks, party… You know the mix.
My client started talking to this girl. She was really hot...

really hot! Late 20s I’d say. She had just broken up with her
boyfriend.
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She kept drinking and constantly saying I wanna get him out
of my system.
So one of the guys pulled the trigger and they left together.
This is around 9 pm. Me and the other guy stayed.
A couple hours later the guy (who left with the girl) called
me and said
“Ben we just had sex and she wants me to bring her back to
SLS. But she's tipsy and refuses to clean up... I came all over
her face it’s disgusting and stinks!
I am Ubering back with her but smells like cum. See you in a
few!”
And then it happened…
There were a group of guys from a dating company teaching

guys to make instant kiss with random girls. They were
standing at the front of the entrance and pretty much
approaching any girl who walked in.
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In the middle of this chaos, loud music, drunk guys and girls,
my friend and this girl walk in and she walks straight to the
arms of this other dating companies instructor and starts
making out with him.
All his students starts to applaud since their guru just got a
make out… Not knowing what just happened and the poor guy
just made out with this girl who still had cum on her lips.
Moral of the story
With alcohol, loud music, drugs and smoke comes a lot of
things. Things you don’t wanna have on your face! Other guys
sperms for example.
At nightclubs and environments where a

lcohol and
stimulants are involved, even the best case scenario is a loss.
Back in Australia I had a 3 piece band and saw what

happens in the dj booth and backstage in the staff toilet. It’s
kinda fun if you’re down to some risky pleasure.
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I recommend you n
ot to look for your future girlfriend
there. And if you go home with her, use a condom.
If you wanna play in those scenes, do it because you want to

and you know what you’re stepping into... not because you got
pumped by "club game infield hidden cameras footage" or
promoters!
Also remember... if someone is easy enough to go home

with you from the club, she goes home with pretty much
anyone who can charm her.
Irreversible Mistakes
When times are tough, when hope is gone and when you’re
under pressure of life, the chances of making mistakes
increases!
You become more vulnerable, confidence goes down and

you could make mistakes easier!
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Guys drop the standards easily and make irrational
decisions that could ruin the rest of their lives... And some
decisions are one way street. There is no going back!
When the Lizard-brain kicks in, there is not much a

desperate man wouldn’t do to release. Wrap your fire hose
safely, pull out and be smart about it.
Even in your darkest desperate hours, when you haven't got

much to lose, or not much hope in life, keep your standards
high in case your swimmers make it to the death star because
once you hit, you wouldn’t be able to run.
Are There Really Any Quality Women

Out There?
As you're reading this, ~75000 people are having sex,
thousands of women are meeting someone randomly, and
thousands of people are on a
first date. There are +1 million
dates per week only through good old T
inder!
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The dough is there... you just need to go get it through the
right channels. We don’t want this mentality that “all women
are bitches and fuck them all”... or “All the good ones are
taken”...
That’s a loser mentality.
Good women exist, they do meet quality guys, if you

become quality and approach them the right way, you’ll join
the 75k club as well.
Can You Attract Women If You’re

Broke?
If you’re starving or don’t have a roof above your head, you
won’t get women! Not because of women… But because of
your own mind!
A guy who is broke thinking about the next bill can hardly
focus on anything else... Women included!
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Or you are in pain for example. Stomach ache, or fever.
Finding love will be the last thing on your mind.
Below is Maslow's hierarchy of human needs. You need

your basics before you think about getting quality women!
There are some exceptions as well. I used to be a bartender!

I didn’t have any money! I owed +20k on my credit card at one
point!
Regardless of that, there were many nights I went home

with beautiful women. The same nights rich kids were going
home alone & frustrated.
Not because I was anything special! But because I had just

developed a system. A
sequence of things to do and say… I
observed night after night watching what women like to hear
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and what attracts them. I reverse engineered attraction built at
the bar!
Back in the day my system wasn't as advanced as it is

today... It still worked. I saw the importance of non
reactiveness and the power of routine-based interactions and
the mother of all...
C.O.N.V.I.C.T.I.O.N
I learned to position myself right . You can build status and

position yourself right... with that comes attraction. What to
say, how to say it and what to do in each specific situation!
Now that I think about it, if I had no money problems back

then, I could have done better. Much better. M
ore f ocused and
better results. I still managed to get it done because of my
surroundings, the system I’d developed and unfairly good
logistics.
If you go on a date and you be scattered, lose focus, or if

you cry how broke you are and how tough your life is, she'll
leave you! No one wants a complainer, yet alone fucking one.
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Money gives you safety and peace of mind. When you have
peace of mind only then you can fully focus on her!
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Part 3: the Golden Keys to

Success
The Winning Formula
So I am with you on this... In the real world attracting
beautiful women can be hard and frustrating if you are an
average guy and haven’t had 1on1 training and proper
education… or if don’t look like Brad Pitt or if you don’t have
millions in the bank and you have to go to work everyday just
to pay your bills.
If you’re short, shy, introverted and not a very social guy,

you got it even harder. In order to win, you need to work these
9. The better you learn & master these, the higher quality
woman you’ll get.
Self Awareness
How much you understand your thought process and why
you feel a certain way at times. How often you put things into
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perspective, zoom out and look at your life from 30000 ft.
Watch & analyze your thoughts.
Techniques will not even get you results if you’re not aware
of what mind.
In the membership site I have added an exercise for focus

and awareness. Make sure you watch that.
Surroundings Awareness
How aware are you of what’s happening around you. How
are people around you thinking? What is their life like? What
are they going through? When you can read them, you can
basically c
alibrate and adjust the level of intensity and the
content of what you say.
Paradigm
By paradigm I mean the way you see and think about the
world! To get different results you gotta see the world in a
different way.
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Some guys think women are bitches, some think they are
great, some don’t even think about them. Instead they think
about men.
When it comes to attracting women, most guys look at the

world in a way that is not in their favour.
A paradigm shift is necessary! Basically if you change the

way you look at something, the thing you’re looking at changes
too.
2 guys looked out of the window... 1 saw the mud in the

street, the other saw the hot blonde, in short skirts walking
down the street singing if you wanna be my lover.
To attract her you need to influence her. In order to

influence her, the first thing you need to do is to influence
yourself.
Remember: Quality women fall in love with your thoughts

and and how you think, not your car or cash (Those are called
gold diggers).
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The way you think changes the way you feel and the way
you do things.
Vibing & Energy

How well you understand the concept of vibing and the
effect of your energy on others. Basically how your presence
makes her feel. Most guys have no idea how this works and
interact with women unconsciously and randomly. I have
recorded several videos on vibing for you in the video section.
Make sure you watch those.
Psychology
How well y
ou understand the way women think and
what they respond to. The driving force behind attraction and
all it’s triggers!
Focus
How well you can remain focused when interacting and
stopping yourself from getting in your own head thinking
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about thoughts that don’t serve you. What should I say next,
does she like me or not? What’s gonna happen next...
Emotional Stability
How well you manage to remain “nonreactive” when you
interact with women. This is all the way from the first
interaction to 40 years down in the marriage.
Imagine using an Ipad as a hammer... that's how people

are told to deal with their emotions and use their mind.
Very few learn to work their emotions and mind... They

don't need women anymore, but they still get women... the
best women... and enjoy the journey tremendously while
others keep struggling!
You don't hear much from these guys...You are standing on
the shoulders of a giant... and all you need to do is to whisper
in his ear to “own your emotions” ... Remember... No one ever
tells you how powerful you are…
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Techniques & Strategies

How smooth, charming and fluent you are during your
interactions. How good are your conversation skills and how
much experience you have. Most guys don’t know any of this
either and they sound lame, needy and stereotyped putting
her on a pedestal from the first moment!
Understanding Your “self Worth” (This Is

Big)
You have to realize your value as man and how much
women want to be around someone like you. It may not seem
like it but it’s more than you think.
When you start interacting with beautiful women, you’ll get

a warm, in depth introduction to rejection and notice the
opposite sex has no mercy to trash you as a man if you act
weak, needy or unclever.
There is the truth, and what we want to be the truth.
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If you keep trying to build attraction without a system,
failure becomes a daily routine. R
ejection, if not handled the
right way targets your self worth and how you evaluate what
you deserve.
When that happens, frustration and loneliness would be the

least of the problems... the real damage is done elsewhere.
In business and relationship with women rejection handling

is one of those core skills you as a man must master if you
wanna grow to your fullest potential or achieve anything worth
having.
Most men have been shut down emotionally by society,

women and their families. They have believed they are
worthless for love and Sex. In some countries men have the
whole culture against them as the icing on the top!
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When You Change, Everything

Changes
To change your situation first thing you gotta answer these
questions to yourself:
● How aware are you about the missing skills

(Conversation, vibing)
● How aware are you of the negativity controlling you?
● How aware are you of your belief about what you deserve
and what you’re worth with women?
● Is lack of taking action because you are turned off by

rejections?
● Have you given up? Or do you believe it could ever work

for you?
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● Do you unconsciously think “It won’t work for me, I have
watched 100s of hours of marketing hype shet video and I
am convinced this is not for me".
Everything starts with your beliefs. Identify where the

damage is and get at it. It’s usually a combination of the 6
above.
This Is a Lifestyle, Not a Weekend

Night Out
Winning is the result of a lifestyle. Look at the dating as a
lifestyle rather than a night out or something you do casually!
If you want real results, this is something y

ou should do
everyday. And when you get into a relationship, after a few
short months you’ll become rusty and lose the skills. If you
break up down the line, you’ll have to start over from square
numero uno.
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It’s Now or Never

You never know who you’re gonna run into when you get
into that elevator next!
Guys miss opportunities because they think they gotta wait

till the weekend before speaking to women!
The truth is that you are going to run into her when you
expect it the least!
● At the elevator
● Traffic light
● Line for coffee
● Carpark
● Supermarket
If you don’t live that lifestyle everyday, getting yourself to go

out and socialize becomes almost impossible and a burden!
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Another method is to commit to spending at least 30
minutes a day to actively meeting new women... That will do
the job eventually if done consistently!
Think about it. 30 minutes a day is 900 minutes a month.

That’s 15 hours! Most people waste more 100s of hours a
month on unnecessary things!
The good thing about it is, when you get yourself to go out
and meet women, you only need to be right once!
Structure of A Successful Interaction

Every interaction has a structure. At any given time you are
at one of these 8 phases:
1. Getting Noticed
2. Pushing Through The Approach
3. Approach
4. Transition
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5. Hooks
6. Rapport
7. Connect
8. Close
Guys who fail to get the women they want, have no idea
where in the interaction they are when they talk to women. If
you wanna win, you gotta know exactly where you are because
only then you know what your next move is. That’s where the
checkpoints come in.
The Loser Mentality

There is this type of guys who contact me and ask for help
with women... then as soon as they realize they need to take
action, make changes, invest time and money, they walk away
and hide. These guys have 4 things in common...
1. Indecisiveness
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2. Doubt
3. Fear
4. Low Confidence
Action takers with the right formula will eventually win,

however.... Those who remain indecisive, never win, never get
to experience success and pleasure that comes with it...
They live their lives scared & paralyzed with fear, not willing
to take action because they see themselves as failures and
have no vision for a better life!
They witness others win and envy them. They keep watching
Youtube and Netflix and jerk off on a weekly schedule wearing
Lord Of The Rings helmet.
This is why women don't feel the attraction for them either.
Indecisiveness, doubts and not taking action hold you back
more than any other block if you let it! Life is brief, these are
your best years. Don't waste them in fear watching others
succeed on the net!
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Alcohol
Drinking kills the intellect and destroys self-confidence in
the long run… The only tool you’ve got that gets you results!
Your most powerful socializing weapon.
Every time you get a drink to numb your emotions or quiet

your mind, you push yourself further from where you wanna
be and end up pushing good girls away from you. Hang overs,
wasting money, blackouts, saying stupid things and most
importantly... your health!
The Booz has to go!
The 8 Types of Women

There are 8 different types of women.
1. Girlfriend Material (Sweet & Friendly)
2. Free Spirit (Fun)
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3. Cock Tease (Player)
4. Party Girl (1 Night Stander)
5. Jaded (Man Hater)
6. Complainer (Negative)
7. Judgemental
8. Conservative
Two big mistakes guys make is that they don’t understand

the d
iversity.
They meet a woman, since t hey don’t have a frame of

reference, they don’t know what “type” she is, they settle and
start a relationship with her.
Eventually they break up. Because they expect her to be a

certain way and she’s obviously not! Then they get mad at her
why she is the way she is.
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You can never have too much experience... As long as you
don’t knock her up or get stds. When you gather reference
experience, you will then be able to make better choices the
right way & not out of desperation.
The Point: Don’t expect a

party girl who wants to ride
every bicycle in town to be girlfriend m
aterial.
Rejections & How to Take It

Some guy asked me if I ever “fail” with women. I fail with this
pretty much every day... the difference is... my emotional state
remains the same when I hear “no”. When you truly
understand it’s not personal, then it won’t shake you.
Look there is no one who wins them all. Get that idea out of
your head and be ok with rejections.
If you're a true, genuine guy who takes shots... you are

going to you win eventually! To get results you have to be
mentally tough and see nothing but the good in every
situation.
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If you run away from failure or if you allow it to make you
upset, winning becomes impossible! Winners have a tough
mind and unreasonable persistence!
Especially if you're avoiding "average" quality and you’re

only going for the top shelf candy... then you're in for a treat...
you're gonna get punches left and right before you win. Like
Rocky. He ended up with Adrian. She wasn’t that hot.
So… Be very aware of the fact that you're in a game that

comes with a ton of rejections! If you're not hearing "no" it
means you're not making enough approaches. When you win
though... you'll forget you ever got rejected and the prize will
be worth it! Remember it’s all about getting baptised by the
love juice of the angels.
The number of failures before you succeed depends on

your mental toughness, quality of execution, focus,
persistence, your skill levels, your surroundings, and her.
Now just a quick reminder: There is only one way to get

results:
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1. Follow a proven system
2. Execute daily and take it seriously (Not a casual night out)
3. Stay unreasonably positive until you get results
You're in 3 Battles
Everyone’s fighting 3 battles
1. Battle with time... that never stops
2. Battle with the negative surroundings, and messed up

people
3. Battle with your own mind... that you need to put a leash
on it before it totally numbs you
Motivation
Marijuana. I used to live on the Gold Coast in Australia.
Beach town, Brezilian girlfriend, surf, Wrangler Jeep, road trips,
smoke etc.
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It was so much fun but it came with a problem always. It
gradually kills the motivation!
Without motivation nothing else matters. I have been

traveling for years and meet all sorts of guys. Different
nationalities, different professions. 1 thing that differentiates
these guys from each other is the level of their motivation!
Winning needs a ton of motivation! Unfortunately the

majority of guys don’t have enough motivation to change their
lives because of the way the system is set up.
If you find yourself unmotivated, not working on your

dream hard enough or doing it without love and passion…
Re-evaluate your thoughts, performance and results. Find out
where you're not doing well first, and start working on it.
Remember your dream… For most people it dies slowly…

Their dreams and aspirations! Catch the negative "what ifs"
and replace them with positive ones! What if it actually works
this time?
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Stop wasting the best years of your life in hiding from
beautiful model looking women because you have approach
anxiety… Most men would rather drop their standards, go out
with average or low quality women and tell themselves stories
why they are dating low quality!
What Do You Want to See When You

Look Back
I wanted to ask you... Do you want to look back on your
life...and see how wonderful it could have been....had you not
been afraid to live it to the fullest?
I know it gets scary... But what is that thing that you r eally
want do with your life?
What are you waiting for?
Did you know if you let it... this thing will take your dreams
away from you day by day until you forget who you even
wanted to be.
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It’s amazing how many people fit under that category. It
happens everyday... To great men just like you. You're an
amazing guy, you deserve to get all the beautiful women you
want and you currently don’t have.
Today do something exciting, great and different so you'll

remember forever... so you'll have stories to tell… All these
women you choose to ignore and walk pass, all the women
you don’t approach because you were shy... they all go home
with a guy... make him happy... why not you?
Shut that voice down in your head... The one talking you out
of doing things you should be doing for yourself...
Remember... No one tells you how great you are… Live like it.
● You got 1 life my main man! Grab it, Live it, Snatch it up,
Make it yours. Don't waste it watching others succeed.
● Fear of what might happen is the source of anxieties and

failures.
● Don't fall into that trap and wait till it's too late. I see dead
guys walking everyday. They don't know they've given up.
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● Live for today. Follow the good old 3 second rule!
● Launch yourself on every wave, every opportunity you

find.
● Many good men have been shut down by their thoughts

and anxiety, 9-5 has crucified their spirit and grilled their
testicles. They can't get what they want with women.
Separate yourself.
● Emotional death is a slow process... It happens in

installments...Protect yourself every day and remind
yourself... Every time you skip approaching a woman you
find attractive, another guy hits it hard. Ask yourself…
Why not you?
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Part 4: Approaching Women

The Challenges
Imagine a black and white world, where you can’t see the
colors. On top of that, you can’t taste the food either. How
would it feel to live that life?
Or think about being hungry, starving, no food for days…

then you walk to a nice, fancy restaurant with all sorts of food
on the menu… But instead of getting the food, you have to
walk pass and not take any.
Men who don’t know Cold Approach live such lives!
Cold Approach is approaching a total stranger and making

something out of nothing... During the day, without alcohol,
stimulants or drugs. Cold approaching beautiful women
successfully is a super power. Not many guys can do it! That’s
why I have included a massive video training for anyone who
purchased this book!
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During the day, in a cafe, park or anywhere in public!
When you learn how to do this, y

ou’ll literally get the key
to Utopia. You’ll have options… You start to see possibilities
and potential other people can’t see! Options to pick from and
that is something far out of reality of the other guys.
Most guys who find out about it, cannot figure it out
because it’s hard to start with.
I have taught programming at university in front of a large

audience and at times it can get pretty tricky. Cold Approach is
another animal!
When you see a beautiful woman in the cafe, park,

supermarket (public in general), before anything else, it feels
like there is this beast between you and her… Approach
Anxiety! It paralyzes guys from making the approach.
Most guys feel like chained to the wall and can’t approach!
So they talk themselves out of it and suppress the desire.
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The Problem With Not Approaching

Women
Imagine you see a woman and you don’t approach her.
What are you telling her?
● I’m not into you
● I’m a passive or shy guy, beta male who can’t even start
talking to you (Yet alone taking care of you)
● I’m gay
● Or I’m taken
And it sucks if none of the above is true...
Approach Anxiety is tough at first but there are ways around

it.
Overcoming it makes you a happier, emotionally stronger

and an inspiration for other men. That is the ultimate
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freedom. Like everything else, the moment you decide to get it
done and commit, then the rest will be easy.
Passiveness
I was in Prague. I thought I experience “passive mode” like
most guys and see what happens.
Dressed well and left home. The good thing about Prague is
that during summer, there are so many nice outdoor venues.
I was around Charles Bridge. I hit the streets and started at
the center where my Airbnb was.
Walked to this nice park where they had casual outdoor

classical concerts. 4 piece bands playing Mozart, Bach etc…
Crowd circles around and watch them play. So many

beautiful girls both tourists and locals.
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I joined the circle, made eye contact with a few and kept
waiting.
Some of them looked interested, kept looking back and

smile during the songs.
The show ends, I just waited. Waited more and didn’t talk to
anyone. Testing “passive mode”.
10 minutes later everyone’s gone. N

o one, not even 1 of
these women who was making eye contact approached
me.
The same pattern continued through the rest of the day.
I experienced what most guys experience everyday.
Passiveness is painful! I used to be the same and now I had

forgotten how much it hurts to leave it to the others.
Death of soul... in installments! Fading away as a man bit by

bit. THE MOST unattractive trait a guy can have... It kills the
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attraction instantly... Women feel that fear in a man and
instantly get repealed by it.
Passiveness is when you talk yourself out of doing things

you want to do... and push the responsibility to others.... like
not approaching women you like and hope a miracle happens!
Passiveness telegraphs surrender... lack of self-confidence

and inner conflicts... if you lose respect for yourself... that's
where the feedback loop of failure begins.
Getting over f ear of approach is a big step in your

self-development journey. There is no other way but to take
that step!
Most men accept the defeat and drop their standards...

Ending up with a girl they don't really like....she also knows
why he chose her... not because she's special, but because he
can't do any better!
Avoid following the failure... F

ight this irrational fear back!
You're a strong man! Everything you want is on the other
side of this fear…
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The 11 Triggers of Approach Anxiety

1. Not Sure What To Say Or Do
2. Not Sure What To Expect
3. Don’t Want To Intrude
4. Care what others think
5. Don’t wanna be rejected
6. Don’t believe it will work
7. It’s unnatural
8. Low self esteem
9. Take it personal
10. Uncontrollable fear
11. I need her to like me
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After Approach Anxiety

Let’s talk about Mike. He finally gets over his Approach
Anxiety and psychs himself to go and approach women!
Right after the first approach, he comes across rejections

and disapprovals. That adds to the anxiety of the next
approach.
Constant frustration, desperation, silent anger and

bitterness towards women and the vicious loop of rejection
and dissatisfaction eventually ends in loneliness!
He goes into passive mode and slowly slowly fade from the
scene. Becomes vulnerable to alcohol and or drugs, or falls
right into the victim/passive mode. And this bitter feeling
becomes a daily routine and his new reality.
Wondering when life was gonna get better... until it ends...

he'll eventually give up... that awesome vision of him in a
relationship with that beautiful woman fades away... he hides
and everyday go deeper into the rabbit hole!
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Or worse... drops his standards like most men and start
going out with someone who is NOT who he really wants but
he picked out of desperation!
That’s the trap most guys fall into. Remember the rules! You
have to be right only once. You cannot allow it to affect you
when there are setbacks and failures. The only way to win is to
use the system and stay consistent.
I teach you one of my systems in the membership site of the

program.
Emotional Stability and Approach

Anxiety
One of the main elements of conquering Approach
Anxiety is your emotional stability, which is a product of your
mental strength.
If you’re mentally strong, you will be emotionally stable! You

have got to practice to remain emotionally stable and
balanced before, during and after the approach!
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When the moment of approach comes, if you're not tough,
confident... you’ll lose focus, feel nervous, go blank and could
even go to fight or flight mode (believe me it happens
sometimes)!
I have seen some extreme reactions from guys I’ve been

working with in the past few years.
● Freezing
● Full blank mode... with nothing to say!
● Extreme sweating!
● Shaky voice!
The list goes on…
The Irrational Fear

Fear is the invisible force ruining lives. It’s everywhere
locking people down choking them to death. It kills people and
their dreams everyday!
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Understand it, fight it and live the life you’re meant to live. A
good place to start is learning to overcome Approach Anxiety.
When you learn to overcome this… your life will never be the
same again.
When it comes to AA and fear of approach, for me it's still

there but I am aware and don't let it rise... I shut it down
before it shuts me down and do what I’m supposed to do!
In most scenarios you can ignore the fear signals and still be
fine… PLUS get outstanding results just because you ignored
the signal. Women usually respond to you better than you
expect!
This is what “going through irrational fear” means. You know

there is fear, you just go through it because it won’t kill you!
Here I show you 2 things you can do daily that help you
become mentally and emotionally tougher.
Ignoring The Pain Signal

Go to the gym, pick some “light to average weight”
dumbbells... Start doing the reps slowly. Do this very very
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slowly. Do 6 reps and make each rep take 10 seconds. The
whole thing should take you about a minute. After 1 minute
you should feel some moderate muscle pain. If you don’t,
increase the weight a bit.
You’ll get to a point where your mind tells you, “It’s over
dude… stop” and that’s when you usually stop. But instead
of stopping, keep going. Do another 6 reps this time even
slower.
Very important you “feel” the burn and keep going slowly!
Most guys stop. They listen to that voice in their head. Almost
always it’s “the fake pain signal”.
This won’t serve you.
You’ll be amazed what happens. You will be able to double

the number of reps you thought you could. After a few days
your body will develop tolerance to this pain and you start to
push the limit line further.
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The Cold
Another exercise is the good old cold. Going under the ice
for 20 minutes straight!
If you don’t have access to ice bath, do it in the shower. Get

a timer, set it to 6 minutes… Do the 4 minutes warm and the
last 2 minutes… spend the first minute to fade to cold and go
cold all the way for the last minute.
STAY THERE for the whole minute... when every cell in your
body tells you to move.
When I turn it cold, I start to breath really fast. It’s normal.
After a few days your body will develop resistance to cold as
well. The point is ignoring the signal and getting stronger. This
simple strategy not only dramatically improves your body's
immune system...it also helps you understand and practice
mental-emotional strength.
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Remember … the signals coming from the brain are just
there to keep you in Survival Mode. It’s not where you want to
be. You want to be in ecstatic state instead!
Remember… Your body is stronger than you think! So is

your mind. It WILL do what you want it to do IF you train it and
set your mindset to the right frequency…
The Elements of a Successful

Approach
All these are explained in detail in the video section of the
program. The link is at the footer.
1. Conviction
2. Knowing what to say, fair conversation skills
3. Fast gauging & calibration skills
4. Outcome Detached Personality
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5. Over Optimistic Vision
6. Non Caring Personality
7. Understanding Rejections And What They Really Mean
8. Experience
9. Truck Load Of Confidence
Conviction is the main element of a successful interaction...

Women sense the fear and doubt in a man... So, move & talk
with conviction.
You program her how to respond to you and she is not

going to be forgiving at first. Last thing she cares about is your
feelings. If you speak soft and doubtful, she’ll walk away.
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How to Overcome Approach Anxiety

and Successfully Approach
1. Break it down to simple steps
Michel Lotito ate an airplane. Google him. MONSIEUR
MANGETOUT. He broke it to tiny parts and did it.
Overcoming serious challenges like Approach Anxiety is the

same.
I explain all steps in the videos. Learn each step in details

(How to / What to). Here is the list:
2. The possible flood of negative feelings

coming your way
Self-doubt for example. You'll question everything you do
and wonder if you ever get this or not...
Along with that there is... worry, fear and anxiety.
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3. Most people lose the game to fear and

give up
Rather do nothing and be blank than feel anything and risk
failure
4. Your ability to manage anxiety and

worry determines your results
That's your answer! Your ability to transform the negative
focused to positive focused, quality execution.
And finally "your speed of Implementation"
5. Remember... Your default is set to

failure...
Laziness, procrastination and talking yourself out of it will
forever keep pulling you down! Netflix, pc games, tv, bad
friends & alcohol are the dream killers.
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If you have decided to win, go for the win!
If you're half hearted and "kinda" want it... don't even

bother.
The Main Reason Most Guys Never Fix

This Is
1. Not starting
2. Quitting
3. No proper system to follow which ends in “Will it even

work for me?”
I was sitting in this cafe in Koh Samui in Thailand

(Fisherman’s Village) this morning and saw this younger guy
approaching everyone... He made +20 wrong approaches.
Rejected, drained and exhausted! He will always be getting the
same results unless he changes his method!
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Making the approach is one thing, doing it right is
another!
Spam approaching women, jumping in front of them in the

middle of the street and instantly approving her is a
desperate, egoistic, needy move a low value guy does. It has
nothing to do with attraction!
By showing interest that fast only based on her looks you

already set the stage for her to treat you like a loser - low value
and desperate guy.
Position yourself correctly from the start before you say

anything! Learn indirect situational openers. N
o
complements unless conditional ones she earns!
Master "transition & hooks" and after that observe well to
find a genuine reason you like her beside her looks.
Stop giving approval for the wrong reasons and seeking her
approval just because she's pretty! You'll be shooting yourself
in the foot and making it hard for her to like you. This is the
reason guys get flaky numbers (or no numbers at all).
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If you want to build something real with a woman and get
consistent results without draining yourself, the first step is to
position yourself the right way!
No one can get away with Approach Anxiety if they don't

understand these dynamics... Guys who don’t, will always be
the guys who have lower value and that is not a good position
to be in.
If You Can’t Approach Read These

● If you have uncontrollable fear paralyzing you, read Nick
Vujicic's story!
● If you don't want to be rejected, remind yourself... Guys

who are afraid of rejection never get the women they
want! Guys who get really hot women, get rejected pretty
much regularly and win occasionally too.
● If you can't motivate yourself to make the approach, it's

because you subconsciously believe it will not work! Too
many failure reference and not enough success. You have
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to push through the first few until you win. Highly
recommend you to consider 1on1 coaching.
● All guys who end up with model looking women have a

vision. They KNOW it can happen and that's the biggest
motivator! Remind yourself... We build our vision as we
go.
● If you need her to like you,... just know that I personally

meet a lot of women who don't like me like that... but I
also end up with gorgeous who do like me women.
● If you want to overcome AA, you must be enthusiastic

about this whole thing. It’s not something you kinda
wanna do. It’s something you are passionate about and
you love doing. Vividly think about the end prize. Picture
you and her together
● Ask yourself… If today was your last day on earth, would

you still worry about what could happen?
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More Reminders on Approaching

Women
1. Whatever you feel she’s going to f eel. She can tell how
you feel by looking at your facial expressions, tone of
your voice and body language
2. In the moment of approach you'll feel conflicted desires.

You wanna stay and talk to her, but also u planning the
escape… You might ask “Is that normal Ben?” I’d tell you
“Yeh man we’re all like that” and you’ll be like “Damn bro,
weird stuff!”

Recognise it, do it enough times so approaching becomes
a habit!
3. Perfection is a myth... There is no perfect approach… it’s

almost always messy and there’s gonna be food
everywhere.
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4. If she notices the guy has attachment to the outcome of
the interaction, she will very possibly leave!
5. This is the path least travelled & most men do not take
this path… Neither accept nor understand it! Some try a
few times and retire. Some feel authentic about it... Not
approaching is unauthentic…
6. Must find joy in it… Whatever it is that you do, if you don’t
enjoy, it won’t work well!
7. Avoidance starts with 1 single thought! This repetitive

avoidance not only isolates you… it eventually causes
sadness & depression… Monitor those thoughts…
hourly.
8. You'll get to a point you'll be almost fully desensitized to

beauty... and man when u get there... your new life
begins.
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What to Do If You Can’t Approach Her

The reality is you S
HOULD be afraid of taking risks and
approaching women... But you should be more afraid of
staying where you are and being the same guy as last year.
Older, no results, negative, anxious and frustrated! The pain of
approach is temporary but the pain of not approaching is
permanent.
The Ultimate Failure

Introverted guys.... JUST to avoid the rejection, choose to
walk away and talk themselves out of meeting women. Either
from making the initial contact or in the middle of the
interaction.
This is a rational decision, a basic protection mechanism to

avoid embarrassment... At the same time it's the ultimate
failure!
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"You are not affected by her long blonde hair, or beautiful
blue eyes, or smooth curvy back & soft sweet skin... you won't
give a damn about hearing "no" either. You’re in for fun."
Techniques won't save the day. Good looks won't either...

and with money you can get meaningless sex and army of
gold-diggers. Not what anyone wants!
The only way to win like a champion and to attract real

quality women.... is to change the way you think and that's
where I come in and help you... Because when you change the
way you think... everything around you changes... women
included!
The default is set to fail... and that's why most guys never
ever get to experience women and dating on this level and
either settle or use alcohol and stimulants as a shortcut... It's
actually the shortcut to depression and the grave!
You don't need alcohol or drugs for this. That's a trap. That's
the exact opposite of what you need! If you are a single guy,
there is only 1 right thing to do!
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Approach soberly! If you talk yourself out of doing it, you'll
eventually develop self-hate or start living inside your
head...because you've just gone against your core desire...
AGAIN!
Find out what's stopping you and erase it. When you do it
right, you will be highly appreciated and rewarded with
pleasure.
Fear
Let’s think about what are you afraid of for a second.
Approximately 108 billion humans have been born... and died
on earth. In case you're not aware, you and I are also going to
die and that's pretty much guaranteed!
Your life is short!
Even if you mess up, no one's gonna hate you for it! They're
not gonna remember! But if you don't even try, you'll always
wonder how it would be like...
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Get up and do the things you really want to do. No one is
going to tell you you should go for your dreams... If anything
they push you to work on unimportant thing harder on things
that don’t matter!
You either hit it hard and win, or end up a drinker, smoker

or numb yourself everyday with bad thoughts living like a
zombie.
FACE YOUR FEARS! Approach that woman! Hold your head

up and be an inspiration for other guys around you who are
struggling!
Society tries to inject fear into your mind everyday! Embrace

cold approach and all the drama that comes with it. Let it be
your fuel to get you going everyday! Do my 7 day challenge.
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Attraction
The Rule #1 of Dating
If she is not attracted to you... you are NOT important to
her!
1 more time

her!
1 more time

her!
She will go with other guys and she won't reply to messages
or call back and you have to stare at your phone and cry a
little!
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Some random fellow messages on Whatsapp asked how I
get women to come this close to me & stay around...The
answer is simple! Trust & Attraction!
Without attraction... It’s really just loneliness... followed by

frustration and after that => sadness!
Regardless of your age and personality type, you have to

make her feel attracted to you…
Think about it another way... As a guy you have emotional,

mental and physical needs... these needs should be fulfilled by
the female energy & intimate company… The female come to
you ONLY IF you attract them!
Guys who fail to attract women, suppress their emotions...

the constant pressure changes "how they think" and
eventually "who they are".
Head goes down, confidence drops and face gets longer...
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This is how most guys become passive failures by the time
they're 25-30 and jump into the relationship with the first girl
who accepts them.
There is no one to save them so they seek help through

alcohol, drugs and stimulants or give up on the whole dating
thing altogether!
You might have noticed these guys...never meet the women

they want and are constantly looking for women or new
solutions!
Remember if it resonates with you, I am here to help. You

can always contact me for 1on1 coaching.
Whatever you do just make sure you don't get caught in this
web and find your way out before it's too late.
You've probably heard the saying "It's never too late"... Well
it doesn't apply here.. the longer you wait, the more time you
lose, the older you get and when you're older, it will be harder!
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Cgq
All attraction triggers are explained in detail get the girl
book and the video in the members area. Here I tell you about
CGQ.
Cool Guy Qualities… If you understand this and apply it

correctly, you will have all types of quality women (smart,
model looking, successful...) around you wanting to hang out
with you. If you don't, you'll have to constantly look for a new
product to learn how to pick up chicks.
Your attitude is your biggest asset. Many guys study

attraction for years but still fail most of the time because of
their bad attitude. Everything you learn sits on top of a nice,
kind, smart, non reactive bulletproof attitude.
Remove: Neediness, weakness, complaining and negative

talk, sadness, insecure body language-eye contact, jealousy,
cockiness and shyness.
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Replace with: Non needy, tough (but kind), happy, present,
focused, chilled, confident and easily letting go of it all. That is
CGQ.
When interacting with her, the moment she senses you got
one or some CGQ, you're in. It shows in everything you do...
even your interactions with other guys... for example some
guys message me.
“What is the link to ur FREE book"...
Some others send things like:
"Hi Ben! Thanks for helping other people to get out of
comfort zone.. .I want to update my knowledge and I observed
your posts as a good source for that. I read something about
your book, where I can have it? Thanks and all the best"
Be cool man... monitor your attitude and behaviour... It's all

there. Women see it right through you. Being cool is
absolutely necessary for attraction and a big step towards
getting a decent girl!
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Your character will save the day... Alcohol, cigarettes and
drugs keep you away from what you want. Take care of your
body & mind, work your attitude and social skills until you
become that guy!
A quality woman sees in the eyes of the drinker he’s not

doing well and going for the bottle instead.
You don't need more than a few short months to make this
transformation. Use my blueprint. If you’re stuck, contact me.
Certain traits attract women...
1. Fun
2. Playful
3. Humble
4. Easy going
5. Non needy
6. Charismatic…
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7. Leading
All attraction triggers are explained in detail get the girl

book and the video in the members area.
The 8 Pillars of Success

These are the 8 pillars of consistent success with quality
women.
For fellows who have dealt with approach anxiety and can
start the interaction...Next step is the interaction itself...
All these 8 should be in place during the interaction:
1. Presence
2. Fast fast fast calibration
3. Focus
4. Your energy and your ability to control the vibe during the
interaction (This is key)
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5. Mad convo skills
6. Conviction
7. Authenticity
8. No anxiety (Telegraphs a lot)
Very few % of guys have the ability to regularly get the

women they want without alcohol, spending cash or going out
at night. I want you to be one of them.
Remember... Sometimes later becomes never.
Push yourself, because no one else is going to do it for you.

It seems impossible until it's done... YOU can also do it.
1. Master frame control
2. Lead, Lead, Lead
3. Redirect disqualifiers back @ her (Watch the videos to see

how I do it)
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4. Make her laugh @ her own stories <== BIG
5. Be absolutely playful with her
6. ******Stay in the "tension-disqualify" loop for as long as

it takes. If you do it right she'll keep breaking it by
laughter (Watch the videos to see how I do it)
7. Be kind. That's where most guys mess it up and go into

"douchebag" frame and instead of a fun interaction turn
it to anger and hate... Don't go there 👍
8. Fully present. When you’re there, be there <== BIG
9. Stay focused. 9s and 10s tend to get guys nervous and

lose focus.
10. Carefactor... ZERO
Women are addicted to confident guys with a positive

mindset and guys who know how to have fun with or without
her.
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Go out and you’ll see for yourself… disastrous first dates.
Grumpy, too serious, no fun dudes on painful dates with
women who wish the date ends fast or they could meet
another guy!
If you wanna get the kiss and have a good time and build a
connection with her, be present, actively listen to her, turn
your phone off on the date, be involved and confident and
finally enjoy her company…
Do the kiss test I show you in the videos. The kiss will
automatically happens and it will be the start of the best part
of the night for both you and her.
Remember… Your v
ibe, energy, mindset and a
ttitude are all
contagious!
If you are not positive, if you think you have low self esteem,
if you run out of things to say or if you can’t even get dates,
watch the complementary videos that come with this book or
message me.
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How to Rate Yourself as a Guy

Most guys have no idea what they’re worth. They only
feedback they get is from rejection from women which is
pretty inaccurate.
If you wanna see how valuable of a guy you are, see this:
● What are your thoughts like everyday?
●  What is your attitude like? 
● How happy are you?  Smiling right now?
● How aware are you of your thoughts? 
● How good are you at conversation?
●  How much approach anxiety do you experience?
Your value and quality increases IF
● If you can control the the anxiety
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● If you're self-aware 
● If you're happy and fun to be around
●  If you're not broke 
● If you're passionate, kind & loving 
● If you can blow her mind in bed
●  And this one’s gonna sting… if you can get women to like
you
The good news is ALL THE ABOVE ARE LEARNABLE SKILLS!
If you want women, you first have to win your own mind
and work the list above. When your mind is set right, your
thoughts start to change, and as a result your attitude and
how you feel start to change too… and that makes you
magnetic!
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The quality of your thoughts determines the quality of your
emotions and everyday it determines the quality of women
who are attracted to you.
Testing
I was coaching a client a couple nights ago and the woman
he was talking to commented on his height... "I don't date men
shorter than me".
See... I am too skinny myself and quite often women give

harsh comment on that. I learned how to pass it without
getting affected.
You have to quickly identity, understand and pass her

tests. They come in any form or shape and are invisible to
men!
If she comments on your nationality, looks, character or

basically anything you might consider "imperfection"...
regardless of the intensity of her comment, simply, smile
ignore her and just start a new thread!
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If your emotional state changes because of her test, you’ll
be owned! It’s over! You’ll have a better chance of going home
with Jessica Alba!
Remain emotionally unaffected no matter what she

says!
On the first date she might say “ I am not gonna have sex
with you”. I have heard that many times and ended up in bed
with her the same night. So now when I hear it, it doesn’t
mean anything to me anymore.
This works because she sees you’re not in reactive mode!

This is really powerful! I write it 3 times:
Reactiveness is weakness, reactiveness is weakness and

reactiveness is even more weakness.
The more you react to her or get affected by her comments,

the faster the attraction dies! The opposite is true as well! The
less you react, the more attraction is built!
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And remember... before a girl kisses you, she's gonna test
you several times. Grow thick skin and welcome these tests.
I have added several videos on tests. You can access them

by visiting the link at the bottom of this page.
The kiss test and calibration are “must know” skills!
Are You Serious?

Always remember... Most quality women have a stressful
life. She probably works a lot and has a lot of things to deal
with.
She doesn’t need more serious life drama!
A good-successful date is 9
0% f un, 10% serious talk.
If she comes out with you, she wants to have a good time
and not have to hear about your life issues or boring
conversation about work. Too much reality! Too much serious
conversation! Too many rules... God damn it get me out of
here now.
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If you don't know what to do to make the date fun and you
find yourself trapped in a serious conversations, watch my first
date tips videos in the members area.
Conviction & Self-doubt

Conviction is one of the antidotes to failure with women and
dating. Without it there is rejection, embarrassment, loneliness
and ongoing sadness!
It’s easy to develop self-hate and blame yourself for

something you don't understand!
Speaking doubtful, lowering your voice in order not to get

noticed, looking down or away & breaking the eye contact
when speaking, wrong tonality, the weak "look in your eyes"...
all that has to go. If you want quality, we should not have any
of the above.
Keep that eye contact and do my L exercise. Speak well,

clear and with style. Own what you say! Study conviction and
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learn to back up what you say and what you do. Smile and
don't let her words or actions change your emotional state!
I have been working with guys who suffer from all sorts of
anxieties and the source is almost always "Self-doubt"....
Risk Taking
In order to be effective you have to smartly risk being
offensive! As a guy, you should always have an edgy, witty and
clever things to say. Being creative helps a ton.
If you're a normal-default guy and things you say are

predictable and she's heard them before... as brutal as it is...
you just won't be able to attract or keep her. I have assigned a
significant part of my ADMC program to this concept.
You have to emotionally stimulate her. She has to feel a

series of emotions (mostly positive) when she's with you.
Otherwise she will not go with you.
Most guys just “hope” things go well for them when

interacting with women. To get it to work, you gotta have to
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follow the structure, plan and execute it the right way. That’s
why this book has a family. Converse is where you find this
structure.
If you wanna go out with quality women, you gotta monitor

your and her irrational emotions and discard them 1 by 1
when they come up!
Final Reminders
Most Guys Are Blindly Obsessed With
Validation
Trying to get her to like them or sleep with them, that they
become needy, act nervous to a point that they experience
anxiety and completely ignore the series of steps it takes in
order to actually be able to convert a total stranger into a
partner.
This is another framework you can use to get a decent

girlfriend:
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Engage Fast and Don’t Waste Time

With “Tire Kickers”
Basically don’t try to sell meat to vegetarians. Most guys
waste time with women who are not open/positive or fun.
Learn how to identify and move away from the wrong ones
asap.
Texting Is Important
Learn how to text. No matter how you meet her, the way to
her... is through her shiny iphone!
Sometimes guys send me a screenshot of their Tinder / Text

conversations and it shocks me! They just destroy the chat
without realizing!
Acting insecure and weak texting like a needy kid who wants
milk! Even if you want her to breastfeed you, there is a simple
formula to get her to come out with you and no it's not by
being nice or begging her.
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If you have not got your copy of THTB program, make sure
you check it out h
ere.
Match Her Energy

When you get her on a date, go on her frequency! Women
are different. Some are ready to just go home with you, some
need a few dates. Learn how to gauge and do-say the right
thing.
Remember attraction is a pretty dynamic process.
And finally…
Don’t Get Affected by Rejections and

Setbacks
There’s gonna be a ton of rejections coming your way
before you get the results you want! Think about it this way:
Depending on how you interact, for each 5-15 “no”s, there will
be 1-2 “yes”. So, be persistent and hit the numbers!
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Best Places to Meet Women

You need simple “under the radar” routines.
Cafes
Starbucks! I got clients who only meet women in the cafes.
It’s easy because first of all during the day at a cafe a
woman’s guards are down, she’s sober & more open to a
conversation.
I have done all the testing for you and recorded the
instructional videos. You can watch the methods and
strategies in complementary videos that come with this book.
Link at the bottom of the page.
Yoga and Pilates Classes

You might say “Ben what the fuck bro? That’s for girls, isn’t
it?”
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I’d reply “That’s exactly the point”. You want to surround
yourself with women rather than hoping they magically show
up!
Yoga and pilates classes are gold mines! So many benefits

to meet women there. When you find the right class, you'll be
outnumbered by women! You’ll be away from alcohol and do
something good for your body too!
You have to go through a few classes in your area until you

find good ones with the right crowd.
Easy! Just go to google and search “yoga studio near me”.

Just visit, ask the receptionist about the options etc.

Ask her which classes are more quiet, then go to the ones that
are NOT quite.
If you're new to yoga and you worry you won't be good at it,
its ok. Look for "Yin yoga"... It's the easiest type.
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Actually go to google right now and write a list of 10 studios
around you. From tomorrow go visit 1 per day until you go
through the whole 10.
What’s Next
Next read the other quick guides. Watch the videos that
come with it and keep referring back to the book!
Just like exercising and taking care of your body, this area of
your life also needs consistent training.
Most guys who finish reading the book, seek further help
and coaching.
If you want me to personally help you dive in deeper, gain

confidence, master conversation skills, understand vibing and
attract and keep more women, I invite you to join A
dvanced
Dating Master Class.
ADMC is the rolls royce of self-dev & dating mentorship

programs where we work together 1on1 and in a group.
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It’s an online class and in there I will teach you a variety of
skills you need to meet, attract and keep the women you feel
attracted to.

This class has several components:
● Private 1-on-1 coaching with me personally both on and

offline
● An active, private inner-circle
● 12 weeks worth on invaluable video program on

advanced dating and self-development
● ...and a lot more…
And the best part is...
You’ll get lifetime access to all of this! Unlike other

programs, I won't drop you after 12 weeks!
I will help you find out what's holding you back from
maximizing your potential with women and self-development,
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and teach you s pecific skills you need to get the results you
want!

What's inside advanced dating master class?
To consistently get r eal results, you're gonna need live,

ongoing mentorship, plus a complete a-z system that covers
every step of the way. Just like going to gym! So you’re gonna
get
● Personalized training, a custom tailored system for you.

It’s not 1 size fit all. I’ll give you
● A complete course on approaching women
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● A complete confidence and self-esteem course
● A complete course on dating
● Detailed attraction and trust building methods
● Text Her To Bed program. The bible of texting! text her to
bed is a collection of strategies and a software I coded
myself that does the texting for you (details below)
● Social and approach anxiety management class
● A complete relationship program to keep your girlfriend

around and happy
● And more
So you're gonna get everything you need to take things to

the next level:
1 - The "mind hacking" tools... to develop a bulletproof

mindset & deal with the challenges, setbacks and bumps on
the road (this is key)
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2 - A complete series of classified, delicately structured
techniques, strategies & formulas so you can gain full control
over your interactions with women from the moment of
approach, all the way to relationship.
3 - Custom tailored solution done for YOU! 3 live 1-on-1

coaching calls!
4 - Lifetime pass to a private community of my inner circle
5 - 1 full day of 1 on 1 session when we meet
The content of ADMC is dynamic & we update it as we go…
Regardless of where you are with dating & women right

now, if you are s erious, committed and ready to take action,
advanced dating master class is the best mentorship program
you can follow to get the girls you want!
I'll show you how to overcome your fear of women,

rejection, social pressure and the self constructed blocks of
doubt that have locked you in for years without you realizing!
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How to get immune to your own mind, negative thoughts
caused by painful experiences life throws at you.
Now let's get into the details. Without a daily thought

management techniques, your brain power gets diminished…
The ultimate mind hack mastery
The first 2 weeks of the program, you'll learn how to

overcome your fear of rejection, social pressure and the self
constructed blocks of doubt that have locked you in the
mind-prison for years without you realizing. you need this
training so you can overcome the anxiety and negativity
holding you back!
You'll get the most in-depth mindset training in existence so

you can get immune to your own mind fast tracking and the
negative thoughts popping every minute.
You are going to master how to flawlessly build attraction.

Instead of being frustrated and confused, you can wake up
next to your perfect woman… every single day!
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Along with working on your mind, inner-game and
emotional awareness, we'll get into the entire framework of
attraction... what builds long-lasting attraction and how to do
it step-by-step and systematically!
You will learn how to build heart to heart connection with

women you like and currently shy away from. You'll also learn
about all the little things that turn women off and how to avoid
them (There is just so many of them)!
You’ll also learn how to train women with positive reframes

and discover the influence interactions and women have on
you (and you never knew)!
You'll get access to a complete blueprint for your dating life

so you know exactly what to do at every step of the way. The
full "war map" of the dating game... so you know exactly how
and where to find quality women you truly want to be with.
This program teaches you all. Find her, attract her, keep her
and get her back (if you breakup & you decide you want her
back... yes i get you a step by step system for that as well).
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How to speak the secret language of attraction most men
don’t even know about… when you can speak to women this
way you’ll cut straight to the front of her sexual buffet.
Conquering cold approach
Once we deal with your anxieties, fear and negative

emotions... with the formulas and strategies i'll give you, when
you learn and start applying them, you will make
“model-gorgeous” women melt in your hands even if you have
never done it in the past.
● How to approach a beautiful woman in a way that gets

her attention and replaces her negative thoughts of you
with “how can I get this guy to stay and talk to me more”.
● How to deal with what breaks most men... rejection! Say

goodbye to rejection and start getting real results with
the women you’ve always wanted.
● I'll teach you the type of energy and vibe you need when
you approach women… Incongruence between your
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thoughts and emotions will diminish your chances of
attracting her.
● How to put an end to your neediness! The number 1

attraction killer of all time! With neediness out of your life
you'll gain power and control over your interactions with
attractive women and get the ones you truly desire and
deserve…
● How to attract a girlfriend material and the type of girl

who fulfills your fantasies in and out of the bedroom.
Now… one thing about ADMC course! Since this program

requires live weekly interaction with me personally, I can only
offer very limited numbers each month. Once the slots are
filled, the registration closes automatically. T
he number of
registrations per month is limited! I cannot guarantee the
same program/price in the future.
You can sign up for admc only after we speak on phone

(Whatsapp or Facebook)! I personally interview all applicants
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to make sure it is the perfect match and the group remains
consistent!
If you are ready to start working on this together, you can

find me at Mentorship page.
Thank you for investing time reading this. Great things in life
are coming your way. Looking forward to seeing you in my
mentorship program.
Ben Baker

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Who is this Book for? 15

Who Is This Book Not for? 15

Meet The Family 16

Common loser mentality 18

How To Win 21

She Didn't Tell Me She's Married! 28

I Know it Already 29

The Mindset 30

To Get That Beautiful Girlfriend, You Need to Know 30

Part 1: Welcome to the Jungle 33

I’m Not Going Home with You… Short Guy 33

Welcome to the Jungle 34

The Commandments 35

What Most Introverted (& Smart Guys) Secretly Think 46

Success Goes Down to the Fundamentals… 50

The 8 Stages of Your Dating Development 55

Use Filters 57

You Are Not Different 59

Irreversible Mistakes 67

Are There Really Any Quality Women Out There? 68

Can You Attract Women If You’re Broke? 69

Part 3: the Golden Keys to Success 73

The Winning Formula 73

Self Awareness 73

Surroundings Awareness 74

Vibing & Energy 76

Emotional Stability 77

Techniques & Strategies 78

Understanding Your “self Worth” (This Is Big) 78

This Is a Lifestyle, Not a Weekend Night Out 81

It’s Now or Never 82

Structure of A Successful Interaction 83

The Loser Mentality 84

The 8 Types of Women 86

Rejections & How to Take It 88

You're in 3 Battles 90

What Do You Want to See When You Look Back 92

Part 4: Approaching Women 95

The Challenges 95

The Problem With Not Approaching Women 97

The 11 Triggers of Approach Anxiety 101

Emotional Stability and Approach Anxiety 103

The Irrational Fear 104

Ignoring The Pain Signal 105

The Cold 107

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