Friendship is about making an effort and emotionally supporting the people you

care about. Friendship is about being there for the person you care about. If your friends

don’t show up for you, they do not value you. Of course, not everyone can be at every

event, but if you worked hard at a presentation or event, or even if you just need

emotional and physical support and that person makes a petty excuse and doesn’t care

enough to show up when you asked them to and needed them to, get rid of them.

It may seem harsh to cut someone out of your life for not being somewhere you

needed them, but if they cannot be bothered to take the time to show up at the little

moments, they will not be there for the big ones. If the person you consider your friend

does not make any effort to see you or be with you and support you, you are under no

obligation to do the same for them. If they prove over and over that they will never

prioritize you, they do not need to be such a big part of your life.

Cultivate relationships that are equally yoked. Practice self-care so you can care

for those who care for you. Find someone who will not only answer your phone call, but

who will call first. Find people who will show up with banners and air horns to support

you. Find relationships that make you a better, and happier you. Find your support

system.