Q: My question is something I've struggled with for a while.

My ex-boyfriend and I broke up,

he was very angry at me and blame me for everything. I opened my house and let him take his
things and he took his and mine too (that he denies taking).

A: Did he take everything or just the best stuff?

Q: He took things that had they were my artwork, they have only value to me and the reason
why he did it was to hurt me.

A: Well, do you know that for sure or did they have value to him? Was it part of you that he
maybe wanted to keep with him? Why not speak for him in a more positive?
Does it feel better to you to think that these things were just meaningful to him and it was
hard for him to let you and them go?
Or does it feel better to you that he's just an asshole, carrying on the story in a negative way?
Which of those feels better to you?

Q: The first one.

A: Then that's the one to focus on.

Give not only him but yourself the benefit of choosing something that feels better.
The version that you've conjured about him separates you from who you really are and how you
really want to feel.
You're feeling the negative emotion but the negative emotion that you're feeling is about your
separation with you, not about your separation from him nor what he did.

Q: I think he's been a great teacher in many ways for me.

A: That is true, and as you make your way into your vortex, you'll look back on him with
appreciation for what he helped you carve out.
If you're feeling anger or something that doesn't feel good, that simply means you're looking at
him, but not from inside the vortex.

Q: I still want my stuff.

A: Can you accept that there's better stuff in the vortex?

It's a stretch, but try, because if you can't accept that, then you haven't heard anything that
we've said today.
We know that it feels wrong for somebody to take something from you.
We understand that.
But the fact is, you cannot control what others are doing.

And what we want to say to you is:

That stuff wouldn't be gone, and there wouldn't be denial about it if there wasn't a
substantial amount of expectation coming from you.
And you see, you were keeping that vibration alive deliberately.
This is the most important thing for you to hear from us.
You were fanning the flames of your dissatisfaction with that person in order to justify the
departure that you had planned.
So as you beat the drum of all of the reasons that you needed to go, you set up a vibrational
expectation that extracted from that person something that he never would have offered.
He would have never taken that stuff under more normal conditions.
But you evoked it from him because you were fanning the flames in order to justify your
departure.

What happens in relationships is there are two of you and let's say that you have this set of
desires, intentions, beliefs.
And let's say your partner has different set of intentions and desires and beliefs and there's
a tendency to feel in competition with each other.
What we want you to understand is that if you are focused upon what you want and why
you want it and you're in the vortex and thinking about the relationship the way you want
it to be, and your life experience the way you want it to be, and the way someone treats
you, and the way someone knows you and all of the details of life that you carve out as you
move through relationships – if you focus upon the things that you want, hold true to that
(like the source within you does), then law of attraction has to deliver to you a life like
that.

But you usually don't do that because usually you think about what you want, but you think
about what that person wants, which is different than what you want.
So instead of you being vividly true to what you want, you've got it all mixed in - what you
want, what he wants, and he's got all mixed in with what he wants and what you want.
So neither one of you are true to what you want and neither one of you are getting what
you want. And you're both blaming each other for standing in a place of not having what
you want.

So the only way that you can get back in alignment with who you are is to focus upon the
vortex, focus on how you feel. Guide yourself, thought by thought, subject by subject, back into
alignment with who you really are.
Because the greatest gift that he has given you, and it's a big one, is that you felt how out
of source feels like, when being in alignment is what you most seek.

We can feel when you said your love was so big that is true.
But we know that that is so your alignment with who you are mattered more to you.
You felt like you were sacrificing who you really are for that relationship.
Now, that wasn't true, but that is the story you’re telling it.
The only way that you can sacrifice who you are for someone else is to repeatedly find thoughts
that make you feel bad.

Even though there was so much about that relationship and about that person that you
loved, it felt like you couldn't have it all.
And what we're saying to you is you can have it all.

In the same way that you evoked from this person, who did not plan to take your stuff, the
taking of your stuff because of your expectation, you are just observing what was happening
and then offering a vibration of what was happening.
So you became an observer of that behavior.
And you could have just said - It's just a characteristic that he's got going, but it isn't who he is.
And out of it, I've created a much better relationship over here in my vortex, which could very
well include him if I would align with that.
In other words, often people move from relationship to relationship because they observe a
characteristic that is unpleasant, and as they observe it, they offer a vibration about it, and so
they keep evoking it.
And then it feels to them like the only way to free themselves of something unwanted is to walk
away.
But when you walk away, you take all of those vibrational patterns with you.

So, what we are suggesting to you - we're not encouraging you to take action and jump back
into that relationship, but we are encouraging you to make peace with this person.
And even with the fact that this person has taken your things.
Does it help you at all when you hear us say he took them against his will because your
expectation was so strong?
You are either the creator of your experience or you are not.
And the thing that is confusing in relationships is that it feels to you like he played a really
big factor in how your life was turning out, and we don't agree with that at all.
You are the factor.
Your relationship with your inner being is the factor.
And because you weren't in alignment with who you are, and you weren't determined like you
are today to stay in your vortex, you kept observing and therefore perpetuating the thing you
did not want until you felt like the only way out of it was just to walk away.

Only you're not out of it yet, and never will be until you get into your vortex and then look at
the relationship from inside the vortex.
And when you're inside your vortex, looking at that relationship, you will see this person as
much more well meaning than not, with many more positive aspects than negative.
But when you're out of the vortex, often when Esther is out of the vortex, she wants to control
everyone.
She wants to control traffic, she wants to control the people in the hotels.
She wants to control her employees.
She wants to control Jerry.

Don't you like knowing that you are the creator of your own reality?
Don't you like knowing that people behave as you expect them to and that you have much
more control over what you expect and what you observe?
In other words, when you've observed something unpleasant, you've put something opposite to
that in your vortex which you should expect.
And it is our promise to you that as you spend more time in the vortex and then just milk it,
milk it, milk it. Just practice it. Affirm. Do 100% of your affirmation inside the vortex.
And then do all of your positive thinking, all of your concentration, all of your scripting,
all of your statements of what you want.
Do them from inside the vortex and feel the power of the leverage of alignment with the
energy that creates worlds.