Concepts of personal

Boundaries

 COURSE OVERVIEW:
This course is aimed at tutoring and educating students on self-boundaries. To enlighten them on
concepts to follow when setting self-boundaries.
  COURSE OBJECTIVE:
Upon completing this course, students are expected to fully understand :
•What are personal boundaries
•Why are boundaries important
•setting boundaries for oneself

Table of Contents
INTRODUCTION...........................................................................................................................4
MODULE ONE...............................................................................................................................4
 What are personal boundaries?....................................................................................................5
MODULE TWO..............................................................................................................................6
Why are boundaries important?...................................................................................................6
MODULE THREE..........................................................................................................................8
Setting boundaries for oneself.....................................................................................................8
CONCLUSION................................................................................................................................9
QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS / ASSESSMENTS....................................................................10

INTRODUCTION

"The absence of boundaries brings about the absence of respect."

Are you sticking to basic personal boundaries? When self-boundaries are absent, we make more
effort and tolerate everything against our will, just for others to give us attention, praise, and
love. This is not a healthy way of life.
We go through different phases of life, and we often complain that we are easily taken advantage
of by others. But the reason for this is a lack of emphasis on our need to set healthy personal
boundaries. And a person should know that he does not need to expand his boundaries to be
loved and appreciated.
 MODULE ONE
What are personal boundaries?

Personal boundaries are principles, rules, or boundaries that a person creates to determine for
himself the reasonable and safe ways that other people are allowed to behave with him and how
he will respond when someone crosses these boundaries. These boundaries are built from a
combination of beliefs, opinions, attitudes, past experiences, and social learning.
Personal boundaries are the boundaries we place between ourselves and other people that
separate what we find acceptable and what we find unacceptable in their behavior towards us and
how close they are to us.
 MODULE TWO
Why are boundaries important?

Knowing how to set limits is a way of taking care of yourself. So, by learning to set boundaries
in relationships, people can avoid feeling resentment, disappointment, or anger toward others. It
is therefore very important to know what our limits are and to respect them.

Why is it important to know how to set limits?

Boundaries are a way to gain respect and self-esteem. People who know how to set boundaries in
their relationships tend to know themselves and know how to communicate effectively with
others. When a person doesn't know how to set healthy boundaries with others, the following
relationship problems can arise:
 You get too involved in other people's problems.
 It is very difficult for you to say "no" to the requests of others.
 You share too much personal information with other people
 You seek to please others because you are afraid of rejection.

Thus, a person who clearly defines his limits and respects them understands that this behavior
helps, not only himself but also the people around him.
It's normal that, if you haven't learned to set good boundaries in your relationships, you don't
know where to start. Here are some ways to learn to set boundaries and stick to them:

Focus on Knowing Yourself

Knowing yourself is one of the keys to starting to set boundaries for others. In other words,
understanding why these boundaries are important to you and how they benefit your emotional
well-being is the first step to being able to start respecting them. Keep especially in mind
situations where you have felt uncomfortable around other people without understanding the
reason.

Start small
If you haven't set many boundaries in your relationships yet, starting small can feel
overwhelming. For example, you can communicate with your loved ones about certain things
that made you feel uncomfortable and that you would not like to see repeated.
 Set them early
In some cases, setting boundaries can be especially difficult because of a long-standing
relationship. Indeed, when you have established a routine within a bond, it will be more difficult
for you to modify the behaviors of others that make you feel uncomfortable or hurt you. On the
contrary, by setting limits and expectations early on, you can mitigate the frustration and the
hurtful feelings that can arise in a relationship.

Be consistent
Not respecting your boundaries can lead to a lot of confusion and encourage hurtful attitudes
from others. So, if you have a limit, try to respect it at all times, because it will allow those
around you to understand.
 MODULE THREE
Setting boundaries for oneself

How do I know my limits in different relationships? How do I know if someone's behavior

towards me is a breach of my personal boundaries and how do I act in this situation?
In general, any interference that makes you feel uncomfortable is a breach of your personal
boundaries and you should act against it.
The key to setting your personal boundaries in relationships is to know well what you want from
your different relationships in life and then set boundaries based on what you want and to be
clear with yourself and with others about these boundaries.
That is, your personal limits in a love relationship or with a member of your family or relatives
differ from your limits in a friendship relationship, and both of them differ from your limits in a
work-association relationship, and your limits in all these relationships differ from your limits in
dealing with strangers.
In each of these forms of relationships, you have to decide what makes you comfortable and
what does not, and the appropriate degree of closeness for you in dealing with the parties to the
different relationships set your limits accordingly, and make the matter clear to you and the other
party.

In order to start setting boundaries with others in different relationships, you need to start doing
the following:

1. Clearly know your mental, emotional, social, spiritual, and physical boundaries with your
intimate partner, family, relatives, friends, co-workers, and strangers.

2. Review past experiences in which you felt uncomfortable, angry, or frustrated with different
people in different situations. This will help you know your limits when dealing with different
people in different situations.

3. You can make a table consisting of 5 horizontal fields in which you write the five forms of
personal boundaries “mental, emotional, social, spiritual and physical boundaries” and five
vertical fields in which you write the five main types of relationships “family and relatives,
intimate partner, friends, co-workers, strangers.
 CONCLUSION

In addition to setting your boundaries, it's also important to appreciate other people's boundaries,
even if they're different from yours. In fact, setting clear boundaries is essential for healthy
relationships because it's a way to relate to others in a balanced way, without inequalities. This
will create bonds based on total respect for oneself and others.
 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS / ASSESSMENTS

1. The absence of boundaries brings about the absence of

A. Love
B. Strength
C. Respect
D. Wealth

2. Principles, rules, or boundaries that a person sets for oneself is

A. Self-love
B. Self-respect
C. Self-determination
D. Self boundaries

3. One of the signs that someone lacks self-boundaries is

A. They get too involved in other people’s problems

B. They are loved by people
C. They earn respect in return
D. They get emotional easily

4. Any interference that makes you feel uncomfortable is a breach of

A. Personal love
B. Personal heritage
C. Personal boundaries
D. Personal trust
5. In addition to setting your boundaries, it's important to appreciate other
people's
A. Opinion
B. loyalty
C. Love
D. Boundaries