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Fox FirstPersonAccountSchiz
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I became isolated regarding my illness; but I knew the It would have been awful for my children to experience
stigma well and knew if my illness were known, neither I that and therefore for me too.
nor my child would be treated "normally" any longer. I After a number of years of single parenting, the
was part of coffee klatches, shopping excursions, and unthinkable happened. I became ill—unbeknown to me.
lunches out with my friends and our children. It was fun, The life I was living was gone. My children went with
but I had an ache deep inside me—I wanted to be liked their father. (Thankfully, they had a secure environment to
for who I was, someone having an illness, but I was afraid go to.) I became homeless and mentally ill. I don't want to
to reveal my illness to even my closest friends. dwell on that period except what is relevant to mothering.
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who was older when I became ill, has kept me more in her always kept communication open. Just in the past year or
life; wherever she is, she faithfully calls me and invites two, she has opened up to me so at least some of what
me to her home for visits, introduces me to her friends, she felt is being talked about. Even when deep communi-
and is supportive of me. This was not easily come by. cation was not present, I had hope because she always
When she was in college and on her own, she opened up kept in contact with me. One Christmas, she gave me a
to me. She confided to me how hard it was for her when I crystal angel with two candle holders as arms. It made
got sick. I listened, and the pain was unbearable for me at me cry because during homelessness when I did speak
times because I knew I was the cause of my child's hurts. with my children on the phone (very rarely), I would say
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