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We all have preferences and set of standards.

Let’s say you got a partner that has all the qualities and
standards that you want. They are tall, successful, and
bad which is what you want. But are they the one you
actually need to find long term happiness?

For example, being emotionally available, understanding,

and being a family man meet are your big must haves. If
he doesn’t meet those things, then throw them back to
the pond!

I can tell you with my experience, that a great partner for

you is kind, loyal, generous, and he makes you feel safe
and secure.

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In meeting someone, have you ever experienced those

butterflies flying inside your stomach? Is it a good sign?
Is it the heavenly signal that you finally found that
perfect one for you? If yes, think again.

Butterflies in our stomach is our gut feeling. Those

butterflies in your body are telling you to run! Having
butterflies after that first date probably means that there
is something wrong! That is the way your body and
intuition is telling you that you must stay away from that
person.

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Still not convinced? Then look back at your past

relationships. In my experience, I also felt these
butterflies during the time I was dating that girl in my
past. In that moment, I thought it was some kind of
“spark” or connection between us that made it special.
So, I continued dating her and brought me to my worst
heartbreak of my life.

Unfortunately, we human
beings often mistake fear for
excitement!

So, if your stomach is flipping

over after that first date, it
means that your gut is saying
fear, anxiety, and there is a
danger ahead and you should
get the damn out of there
immediately!

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If you go out on a first date with someone who then immediately

wants to see you the next day, and the next day, and the next
day and he is blowing up your phone and talking about the
future, here’s the problem, you may not be dealing with the man
who is actually heads over heels for you.

You might just be dealing with someone who is emotionally

unavailable or worst, narcissistic. Most of the time, if someone
comes on too fast and furious will probably flame out just a s
quickly.

On the first several dates,

keep the date to about 90 mins.
If you are having a great time,
good!

It means
you both be looking forward to
the next dates because you are
left wanting
more.

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So, avoid that all-day get away and being together for a
long time at first. Because you need to be careful about a
guy that comes on with everything, they can’t keep up
that pace! In just 90 days, they will show you who they
really are.

You want to get them thirsty. You want to have them

looking for you in a daytime using a flashlight. So, after
all those clear intentions and sincerest motives and when
they finally get you, they will be going to treat you
differently with the outmost level of respect.

The harder you work on something, the more you

appreciate its values. As per Bob Marley says;

“If she’s amazing, she won’t be easy. If she’s easy, she won’t
be amazing. If she’s worth it, you won’t give up. If you give
up, you’re not worthy… Truth is, everybody is going to hurt
you; you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for.”

Believe me because that’s just

how it works.

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If someone is constantly texting you and leaves you a

message on chats and social media all the time, taking
you out on dates, having a video call and all. But
suddenly, they are now too busy. They don’t call or text
you and takes you out as much like before. Their feelings
have changed.

Remember, nobody is too busy to call or see someone,

ever! If they like you, they will fina a way to be with you.
A man who wants to be with you will move mountains to
be with you.

Like we said earlier, a good partner is reliable. So, If he

shows you otherwise and doesn’t make a move after you
communicated and reach out to them, it’s time to take
the bait and bring him back to the pond and move on.

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So many people don’t pay attention to how their date

phrases and talks about certain things. When they lead
and tells you what they are not looking for or what they
are not attracted to, they are just telling you and showing
you exactly who they are.

A negative person maybe and angry person who has not

worked on themselves or their past relationship issues.
They are still dealing with the past. Beware on this kind
of people because instead finding love and peace, you
might end up being used to tamper all the mistake and
make up for their ghosts brought by their past.

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Have you been guilty of ignoring those red flags? Did you
learn something that you must immediately apply to your
dating game? Those are the reasons why you are always
attracting a bad fish and ends up having manipulated and
controlled by them into misery.

How are you feeling after reading all these? Can you
already spot a red flag by now? You should carve these
things into your brain to easily catch red flags when they
are just waving in front of your face.

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 Especially in this quarter life, there are a lot of other
kind of red flags that you will encounter but they will still
fall on those five categories. Now your eyes are open and
make the most out of it. Be courageous enough to cut
the bait and brought them back to the sea if they give
you those red signs. Calmly walk away and proceed to
the next person. It is better to be sure than investing in a
wrong relationship.

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 In this quarter life, red flags are a great way to avoid
people who have a great probability of making your life
miserable.

But hey, even though you have mistaken many times in

the past, you can still make them as your lessons. No
losers here!

All of the people you will meet has flaws and will hurt you
at times, don't worry because it happens. Human are
wired to disappoint.

So even though your date or your partner has a red flag,

you just need to fight for the ones worth fighting for.

Follow your heart but take your brain with you :)

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