Embrace– An 8 Week Online Program

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NVC understanding today
NVC is to be seen in the context of
• your own spirituality
• trauma – it is important to be trauma
informed
• neuroscientific research of recent years

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 «... Spirituality is at the base of
Nonviolent Communication... it’s more
than a communication process ... It’s
really a spiritual practice that I am trying
to show as a way of life.»
Marshall B. Rosenberg

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«NVC is an awareness discipline
masquerading as a
communication process.»
Kit Miller

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 «There is no such thing as NVC.
As soon as we call it a thing,
we lose sight what it is about.
We create distance to the connection to
the divine beloved energy.»
Marshall B. Rosenberg

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 «...my name for God is “Beloved Divine
Energy” ... I know Beloved Divine Energy by
connecting with human beings in a certain
way. Then God is very alive for me.»
Marshall B. Rosenberg

God can be replaced by Love.

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 «When we experience trauma, we loose
connection to ourselves, to our essence.»
Gabor Maté

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«When we support others to reconnect with
their essence, their own innate wisdom will
lead them in the right direction.»
Gabor Maté

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The Spiritual Awakening:
• Spiritual Crisis: We all carry trauma (wounding) – Healing from
Trauma is growing into Who We Are as Souls in this human
experience
• Observing -> Love
• Feeling -> To heal is to feel
• Needs -> Soul qualities: Who am I
• Request -> Self-expression: not what to get but how to manifest

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 Weeks 1/2: Observation
"When you are able to look at yourself as you
are [not "what you should be" or "what you
must be" or "what you were"], without
judgment, then all fear ceases. The result is an
extraordinary sense of love."

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 Weeks 3/4/5:
When does NVC not work
Understanding Trauma
Tools that help us to self-regulate and re-
parent ourselves

HAVENING / NARM / DYADS

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Weeks 6:
We are the needs!
Needs are soul qualities
The three dimensions of needs
• We have needs
• Needs as energetic qualities
• We are the needs
Who are we?
A direct experience of the truth
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Weeks 7/8:
Soul expression

How to express myself?

How to bring myself to
the world?

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Exercise
• Introduce yourself: Just your name and where you’re from (about 3 min)
• Decide who is A and who is B.
• Person A is taking the time (1 min gong)
• You both close your eyes for 1 minute yet being present with each other –
focus on your breathing. Pay attention to your breathing. Breath
consciously.
• After one minute when you hear the gong, you open your eyes and person
A is starting the timer again (1 minute). Now you look at each other. Your
are being present with each other. Try not to interact such as smiling, start
talking etc. but try to relax into the presence of your partner.
• Use the rest of the time to exchange. How was this exercise for you? We
will call you back into the main room after total 10 minutes.
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 Observation
• „Self awareness starts with observation.“
• „If you are capable of looking at yourself (or someone else) as you (they) are [not
„what should be“ or „what must be“ or “what has been“, but “what is”], without
any evaluation, then there is the cessation of fear, and out of that comes an
extraordinary sense of love.“
• Direct experience of the truth.
• „Watching, observing, slows down the mind.
• “In order to solve our problems, we have to see our situation as it
really is.»

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 Observation
• When you’re in fear, ask yourself: In this very moment, is there
anything to be afraid of?
• The answer is always: NO.

• Pure observation is being in the present moment.

-> Always new, fresh. Present moment. The Now.

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Exercise
• Part II: 15 min
• You are with the same person
• Both of you need the timer ready when you start. Person B does the timing first and takes time for 2
minutes.
• Person A is closing her/his eyes and Person B is looking at A through the Eyes of Love. With an open heart.
Curious who is that person in front of me. For 2 minutes.
• Person A – with closed eyes – is observing, sensing into her/his own body, watching what happens inside
when she/he knows that she is seen/looked at through the Eyes of Love. What happens inside?
• After 2 minutes both take a deep breath and a moment of silence and when you are ready you switch. Now
A does the timing and takes 2 minutes.
• B closes her/his eyes und A is looking at B through the Eyes of Love. With an open heart. Curious who is that
person in front of me. For 2 minutes.
• Person B – with closed eyes – is observing, sensing into her/his body, watching what happens inside when
she/he knows that she is seen/looked at through the Eyes of Love. What happens inside?
• After 2 minutes you take a deep breath and a moment of silence and then
• Exchange: take the rest of the time to exchange before we bring you back into the big group.

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Your practice for week 1
• Be as often as possible in a state of
wondering (Exercise: Aimless Wondering)
• Connect with your soul buddy for the
week
• Relisten to the meditation (in the class
room)
• Enjoy your week!

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Aimless Wondering
„If you are capable of looking at yourself as you are without
any evaluation, then there is the cessation of fear, and out of that
comes an extraordinary sense of love.“ J. Krishnamurti
See the world with new eyes. See the things that you encounter
with an open mind as if you’d see them for the first time.
Don’t try to name them. Watch how your body is responding.
Imagine that you just landed from outer space on this planet Earth
for the first time. All is completely new. You have never seen it
before.
Walk aimlessly through your garden, in nature for at least 10
minutes a week. You might want to walk barefooted. Sense and
listen with your whole body.
Take your time to capture your impressions (drawing, writing,
dancing etc.).
Enjoy !

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