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Loss of Religious or Spiritual Identitie
Wood, A. W., & Conley, A. H. (2014). Loss of religious or spiritual identities among the
Abstract
Lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) individuals are at risk for having negative
experiences with religion due to mainstream religions’ non-LGBT affirming stance. Negative
religious experiences could lead to religious or spiritual (R/S) struggles and loss of (R/S) identity
in order to maintain sexual identity. We describe R/S abuse, R/S struggle, and how they can
result in loss of R/S identity in LGBT individuals. Finally, we provide a case study, counseling
individuals’ lives and can complicate their lives by eliciting emotions that range from relief to
anger (Barra et al., 1993). Often when individuals experience pain they turn to their R/S beliefs
for comfort; however if their R/S beliefs are a source of pain, their R/S identity can be in
religious institutions can be contentious. If R/S leaders, religious community members, or other
influential R/S individuals teach lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) individuals that
their sexual identities and R/S identities are mutually exclusive, LGBT individuals are at risk to
experience R/S struggles. When R/S struggles result in loss of R/S identities, individuals may be
unprepared for resulting feelings of grief. Therefore, the purpose of this manuscript is to
underscore a need for counselors and researchers to address the effects of LGBT individuals’
loss of R/S identities and to examine the concepts of R/S abuse and R/S struggle. Finally, we
present a case study of an individual that suffers from a loss of R/S identity and explore the
Researchers have examined concepts related to religion, such as spirituality and faith, for
decades (Allport & Ross, 1967; Fowler, 1981; Hill & Pargament, 2003; James, 1902). Religion
and spirituality are closely related and are often mistaken for one another (Hill & Pargament,
2003; Zinnbauer et al., 1997). Spirituality refers to individualized, subjective experiences that
focus on the sacred and lacks institutional or denominational aspects (Ellor & McGregor, 2011).
The concept of religion, on the other hand, refers to communal, objective experiences that focus
on the sacred and includes institutional or denominational aspects. However, religion and
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spirituality are not necessarily mutually exclusive concepts (Zinnbauer et al., 1997). To this end,
we will use the terms religion and spirituality together in this manuscript. In all other contexts,
use of the words religious and religion refer to institutional and ritualized practices; use of the
As individuals develop what their R/S lives mean to them, they begin to develop an R/S
identity (Fowler, 1981). R/S identity varies greatly among individuals; for some it can be a
bedrock of their core identity, for others it may be constantly in flux, or lost altogether (Barra et
al., 1993). In addition, R/S identity can be at odds with other aspects of individuals’ core
identity. One type of identity that may conflict with R/S is sexual identity (Melton, 1991).
Consequently, as LGBT individuals with developing R/S identities come to terms with this
conflict, certain experiences may result in spiritual struggles that can lead to loss of R/S
identities. One type of experience that R/S LGBT individuals can encounter is R/S abuse.
Historically, researchers use the term R/S abuse to examine non-mainstream R/S
situations, particularly in looking at individuals who have recently left cults (Langone, 1993;
Ward, 2011). Researchers also use the term R/S abuse in conjunction with other terms like
physical abuse (Bent-Goodley & Fowler, 2006; Dehan & Levi, 2009). One definition of R/S
abuse is the “mistreatment of a person who is in need of help, support, or greater spiritual
empowerment with the result of weakening, undermining, or decreasing that person’s spiritual
empowerment” (Johnson & van Vonderen, 1991, p. 20). In addition, Ward (2011) emphasized
that individuals in leadership positions can perpetrate R/S abuse in order to produce conformity
within R/S communities. Others use the term R/S abuse to refer to physical, sexual, or
psychological abuse perpetrated by those in power within R/S communities (Gubi & Jacobs,
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R/S abuse, as religious denominations have various tenets and beliefs that relate to approval or
disapproval of LGBT individuals (Melton, 1991). We will explore R/S abuse via Ward’s types of
R/S abuse (2011), integrate microaggressions as defined by Sue et al. (2007), and expand
Ward (2011) identifies six types of R/S abuse: (a) leadership representing God, (b)
spiritual bullying, (c) acceptance via performance, (d) spiritual neglect, (e) expanding
external/internal tension, and (f) manifestation of internal states. Individuals experience R/S
abuse when they experience negative mental health effects due to their interactions with others in
regards to their R/S lives. Individuals that experience R/S abuse can experience any one of the
Leadership representing God is a type of R/S abuse that entails R/S leaders speak the
literal words of a deity (Ward, 2011). Religion itself can also be a type of leadership, with
religious tenets being considered the words of deities. LGBT individuals may feel that because
their religion or R/S leaders denounce homosexuality, that their deity denounces homosexuality,
and in turn, LGBT individuals (Schuck & Liddle, 2001). An example of leadership representing
God would be if a religious leader uses a religious text that negatively references homosexuality
Spiritual Bullying
Spiritual bullying is a type of R/S abuse that refers to religious leaders or religious peers
who actively bully or harass individuals to produce conformity of R/S community members
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(Ward, 2011). Due to communal aspect of some religions, spiritual bullying can come from R/S
leaders, from religious communities, or from society (e.g., national and international news that
describe LGBT issues in religion). For example, spiritual bullying would occur if a religious
leader threatens to let R/S community members know about an individual’s sexual identity if the
Acceptance via performance is a type of R/S abuse that refers to a need for individuals to
perform in R/S desirable ways, due to fear of retribution by their religions (Ward, 2011). LGBT
individuals may deny their sexual identities in order to perform effectively in and feel acceptance
from their religions. Other types of R/S abuse, like spiritual bullying, can influence acceptance
attempts to hide a sexual identity for fear of disapproval by R/S community members.
Spiritual Neglect
Spiritual neglect is a type of R/S abuse that entails that R/S leaders or members of a
religion neglect individuals as they are in emotional or physical pain (Ward, 2011). That is, R/S
leaders can reason that emotional or physical pain originates from sins or wrongdoings by
individuals that experience emotional or physical pain. LGBT individuals can feel that when they
seek LGBT-affirming support, they distance themselves from their religions, which can
encourage neglect from their religious communities. For example, an LGBT individual
experiences depressive symptoms when attempting to integrate a sexual identity and a R/S
identity, and the individual’s religious community disregards the depressive symptoms because
Expanding external/internal tension is a type of R/S abuse that entails that individuals
cannot express individuality due to their strong group identity (Forsyth, 2009; Ward, 2011).
LGBT individuals can wish to express their individual sexual identities but feel pressure to
suppress their identities if their identities are incongruent with the group’s R/S identities. An
example is an LGBT individual that lives a compartmentalized lifestyle in which the individual
expresses a sexual identity and a R/S identity, but not concurrently. LGBT individuals that face
Finally, manifestation of internal states is a type of R/S abuse that entails physical and
psychological repercussions of experiences of R/S abuse (Ward, 2011). LGBT individuals may
express symptoms of stress, anxiety, depression, and suicidal ideations in relation to their
religious experiences (Shelton & Delgado-Romero, 2011; Super & Jacobson, 2011). For
example, a LGBT individual develops ulcers due to stress of living incongruent lifestyles
Sexual Microaggressions
In order to encapsulate how LGBT individuals can experience R/S abuse, we suggest a
seventh type of R/S abuse that is an integration of microaggressions (Sue et al., 2007) and sexual
marginalization felt by non-majority individuals (e.g., LGBT individuals; Sue et al., 2007).
Racial microaggressions are defined as, “brief, everyday exchanges that send denigrating
messages to people of color because they belong to a racial minority group” (Sue et al., 2007, p.
273). Similarly, the term sexual microaggression applies to microaggressions with foci against
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LGBT individuals (Shelton & Delgado-Romero, 2011). Sexual microaggressions can increase
of microaggressions (Sue, 2010) through the lens of sexual microaggressions (Shelton &
Individuals in power perpetrate microassaults when they (a) feel levels of protection that a veil of
anonymity provides, (b) have viewpoints in common with the majority of their audience, or (c)
are able to control their attitudes and opinions in multiple settings. As individuals in power
perpetrate microassaults and the majority agrees with the individuals in power, the effects of
microassaults felt by individuals can go unnoticed (Sue, 2010). An example would be a R/S
community leader that states that LGBT individuals lead lifestyles that are an abomination to
emphasize senses of otherness (Sue et al., 2007). Individuals that perpetrate microinsults may not
intend to cause any emotional or psychological harm to individuals. Microinsults are dangerous
in institutional settings because perpetrators of microinsults often do not notice the impacts upon
unnoticed (Sue, 2010). An example would be a religious community member that tells a LGBT
individual “God still loves you” in regards to an individual’s sexual identity (Sue et al., 2007).
victims perceive as though a part of their identities are invalid (Sue, et al., 2007).
religions. Otherness felt by LGBT individuals can lead to negative emotions and the effects of
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microinvalidations felt by individuals can go unnoticed (Barton, 2010; Sue, 2010). An example
community that he or she “loves the sinner, but hates the sin” in regards to the LGBT member’s
sexual identity.
Experiences of R/S abuse and sexual microaggressions can hamper LGBT individuals’
sexual identity developments and R/S identity developments (Rodriguez & Ouelette, 2000).
Experiences of R/S abuse can cause feelings of depression, low self-esteem, and suicidal
ideations (Barton, 2010). Consequently, LGBT individuals can experience R/S struggles as
In the past 10 years, research on spiritual struggles has increased (Bryant, 2011; Ellison
& Lee, 2010; McConnell, Pargament, Ellison, & Flannelly, 2006; Pargament et al., 2005;
Rockenbach, Walker, & Luzader, 2012). R/S struggles are “efforts to conserve or transform a
spirituality that has been threatened or harmed” (Pargament et al., 2005, p. 247). R/S struggles
can result in positive outcomes, negative outcomes, or both (Pargament et al., 2005). R/S
struggles can have multiple characteristics, such as doubts of the concept of a deity, negative
experiences with individuals within a religion, and questions of R/S validity (Ellison & Lee,
2010). Individuals can experience multiple types of R/S struggles and the outcomes of R/S
struggles vary amongst individuals (Ellison & Lee, 2010; Rockenbach et al., 2012; Rodriguez &
Ouellette, 2000).
Ellison and Lee (2010) identify three types of R/S struggles: divine struggles,
intrapsychic struggles, and interpersonal struggles. Ellison and Lee found that individuals who
experience any types of R/S struggles experience psychological distress (n = 1,445). Individuals
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that experience divine struggles have the most distressful experiences in regards to mental health,
respectively. Ellison and Lee (2010) only explored factors reported in previously gathered data,
limited and warrants continued research. Individuals that experience R/S abuse can arrive at R/S
struggles, therefore it is important to understand how R/S abuse can cause R/S struggles.
Divine Struggle
Divine struggles occur when individuals question their deities (Ellison & Lee, 2010).
Individuals may come to doubt that their deities care about them, answer prayers, or exist. For
LGBT individuals, R/S abuse may lead to divine struggles. Individuals may feel that their deities
have made mistakes in regards to their sexual identity or that their deities hate them because of
their sexual identity (Rodriguez & Ouellette, 2000). The diversity of religious views of LGBT
individuals can complicate divine struggles (Melton, 1991). If religions endorse negative views
of LGBT individuals and their lifestyles, involvement of church leaders that support these tenets
can encourage R/S abuse via leadership representing God, which can encourage microassaults
Intrapsychic Struggle
Intrapsychic struggles occur when individuals have personal doubts in their R/S beliefs
(Ellison & Lee, 2010). For some individuals, intrapsychic struggles can become opportunities for
growth and R/S development (Pargament et al., 2005); however, intrapsychic struggles can also
have negative effects on individuals’ mental health (Ellison & Lee, 2010). Doubt and worry,
consequences of intrapsychic struggles, relate to negative mental and physical health effects over
time. Individuals can experience intrapsychic struggles from R/S abuse due to acceptance via
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performance (Ward, 2011). Also, expanding internal/external tensions (Ward, 2011) can cause
intrapsychic struggles in individuals that feel separations between their R/S communities and
support groups that provide encouragement (e.g., LGBT resource centers and youth networks).
Interpersonal Struggle
Finally, interpersonal struggles occur when individuals have negative interactions with
individuals in religious settings (Ellison & Lee, 2010). Interpersonal struggles can be a result of
individual interactions with R/S community members or extended experiences with religious
experience interpersonal struggles (e.g., negative experiences with religious leaders have more
impact than negative experiences with religious peers). Individuals that experience spiritual
bullying components of R/S abuse can arrive at interpersonal R/S struggles due to negative
interactions with individuals in their religions (Ward, 2011). In addition, individuals may
experience spiritual neglect if they feel that their religious communities believe that they have
turned from their religions due to not fulfilling certain tasks. Finally, microinsults and
microinvalidations can play a role in causes of interpersonal R/S struggles (Ellison & Lee, 2010)
as individuals can perpetrate them even though they are not aware that they are a cause of harm
to others (Sue et al., 2007). Experiences of spiritual struggles can cause individuals to examine
their R/S beliefs and decide how they feel their identities can or cannot continue to develop.
identity development that explores how these two identities coexist and how they can work
against each other at times (Buchanan, Dzelme, Harris, & Hecker, 2001; Rodriguez & Ouellette,
2000; Schuck & Liddle, 2001; Sherry et al., 2010). Researchers find that LGBT individuals from
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conservative R/S backgrounds feel shame and guilt in regards to their sexual identities when they
attempt to reconcile their R/S identities (Sherry et al., 2010). Researchers also find that
incongruences between sexual identity and R/S identity can lead to questions of R/S identity that
require individuals to question, redefine, or abandon their R/S identities (Hansen & Lambert,
2011; Rodriguez & Ouellette, 2000). Individuals’ sexual identities can exacerbate the quantity
and quality of R/S struggles in LGBT individuals due to competition with R/S identities
If LGBT individuals experience R/S abuse, they can experience conflicts between
multiple identities (Barton, 2010; Buchanan et al., 2001; Schuck & Liddle, 2001). Individuals’
R/S development and sexual development play important roles in self-concept and identity
formation. Indeed, positive mental and physical health positively correlate with R/S beliefs and
sexual identity openness (Lutjen, Silton, & Flannelly, 2012; Smith, McCullough, & Poll, 2003;
Vaughan & Waehler, 2010). As individuals come to terms with incongruent R/S and sexual
identities, R/S questions can arise (Rodriguez & Ouellette, 2000; Sherry et al., 2010). When
LGBT individuals experience R/S abuse, identity integration becomes complicated; thus, LGBT
individuals can be vulnerable to experience R/S struggles. When R/S struggles occur, individuals
can attempt to reconcile their R/S and sexual identities. Rodriguez and Ouellette (2000) identify
four potential outcomes for LGBT individuals’ attempts to reconcile their R/S and sexual
identities: (a) integration of R/S and sexual identities, (b) compartmentalization of R/S and
sexual identities, (c) rejection of sexual identities, and (d) rejection of R/S identities.
Identity Integration
The first outcome is that LGBT individuals integrate their R/S identity and their sexual
identity to live both identities simultaneously (Rodriguez & Ouellette, 2000). Consequently,
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experiences of integration can cause LGBT individuals to redefine their R/S identities and sexual
identities to fit their needs for a harmonious life (Hansen & Lambert, 2011; Sherry et al., 2010).
Often, LGBT-affirming religious institutions help individuals with integration of their identities
(Lease, Horne, Noffsinger-Frazier, 2005; Rodriguez & Ouellette, 2000). Identity integration can
lead to positive mental health outcomes (Rodriguez & Ouellette, 2000; Schuck & Liddle, 2001).
Compartmentalization
The next potential outcome occurs when LGBT individuals do not reconcile their R/S
and sexual identities, thus both identities exist separately (Rodriguez & Ouellette, 2000). The
increased stress if individuals do not reconcile their R/S identities and their sexual identities
(Sherry et al., 2010). LGBT individuals that experience compartmentalization can experience
continuation of R/S abuse, which can lead to subsequent emotional and psychological distress
(Ellison & Lee, 2010; Sherry et al., 2010; Super & Jacobson, 2011).
identities in order to maintain R/S identities (Rodriguez & Ouellette, 2000). LGBT individuals
who do not reconcile their R/S identities and their sexual identities can abandon or conceal their
sexual identities. Researchers that study loss of sexual identities refer to methods such as
reparative therapy (also known as conversion therapy) as a way to aid individuals to abandon
their sexual identities. Reparative therapy is seen as a controversial and dangerous form of
therapy that is used to aid individuals that identify as LGBT to identify as heterosexual (Maccio,
2011; Spitzer, 2003). Reparative therapy is seen as harmful to clients and has been challenged by
Association, and the American Medical Association, (Drescher & Zucker, 2006; Jenkins &
Johnston, 2004). Treatments like reparative therapy can exacerbate detrimental mental health
The final potential outcome of attempted identity integration is rejection of R/S identity
in order to maintain individuals’ sexual identities. Wagner et al. (1994) found that 69% of gay
men reject their R/S identities when they attempt to integrate their sexual identities and R/S
identities in order to embrace their sexual identities. Sherry et al. (2010) note loss of R/S
identities in 10.5% of individuals that attempt to integrate their sexual identities and R/S
identities. Sherry et al.’s study did not show high generalizability due to self-admitted low
variation in their population (e.g., predominantly identified as white and single), but
nevertheless, loss of R/S identities has been noted in literature numerous times (Ganzevoort, van
Researchers identify positive and negative effects of identity integration (Rodriguez &
Ouellette, 2000), compartmentalization (Coyle & Rafalin, 2000), and rejection of sexual
identities (Maccio, 2011). Rejection of R/S identities has not received sufficient research,
(D’Andrea & Sprenger, 2007; Gallup, 2010). There has been little research that conceptualizes
loss of R/S identities (Cataldo, 2010), and less that provides counseling implications for
individuals that have experienced, or are experiencing loss of R/S identities (Herzbrun, 1999).
of R/S struggles leads to stronger, more mature R/S identities, while the other outcome can lead
to weaker R/S identities (Ellison & Lee, 2010; Fowler, 1981; Pargament et al., 2005). There is a
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breadth of research on the negative and positive aspects of R/S struggles, but there exists a need
for researchers to address loss of R/S identities and the consequences that this form of loss
entails. We posit that LGBT individuals experience R/S struggles more often, and in greater
amounts, than heterosexual individuals due to greater vulnerability to R/S abuse. The amount of
R/S abuse that LGBT individuals experience appears to lead to weaker R/S identities, or loss of
R/S identities altogether (Sherry et al., 2010). To understand how to conceptualize loss of R/S
identities, we will examine two identity development models (Cass, 1979; Fowler, 1981) to assist
us in treatment of clients that have experienced, or are experiencing, loss of R/S identity. We will
also examine research that addresses loss of R/S identities in general (Barra et al., 1993).
individuals are vulnerable to R/S identity loss in the identity tolerance stage and the identity
acceptance stage. In the identity tolerance stage, individuals begin to accept their new identities
as LGBT and associate with others that identify as LGBT. In this stage, as individuals have
positive or negative encounters with other LGBT individuals, their perceptions of their new
identity shapes accordingly. When individuals accept their LGBT identities, they move into the
identity acceptance stage wherein they are subject to exposure to non-LGBT individuals.
Increases in negative experiences (e.g., religious abuse) with individuals at this time can lead to
loss of R/S identities, as their LGBT identities and R/S experiences become incongruent.
individuals are particularly vulnerable to R/S identity loss in the synthetic-conventional stage and
an appeal-to-authority mode in which they believe what R/S leaders teach. In this stage, LGBT
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leaders tell individuals that homosexuality is a sin, then individuals may reject their LGBT
they develop internal authority of their R/S identity versus relying on external authority. It is at
this stage that individuals can become more critical of their religions and can question their
beliefs: therefore, spiritual struggles may take place. If individuals reach the individuative-
reflective stage of R/S identity development, incongruence between their R/S identity and LGBT
The authors identified only one study that examined loss of R/S identity. Barra et al.
(1993) found in a sample of college students (n = 338), 49% of males and 63.1% of females
reported no sense of loss in regards to loss of R/S identities. In the same sample, Barra et al.
found that males and females reported that they have felt loss in regards to R/S identities (13.7%,
21.7%). In Barra et al.’s sample, males and females experienced feelings of anger (5.9%, 6.5%),
sadness (15.7%, 19.6%), guilt (33.3%, 43.5%), and anxiety (21.6%, 17.4%) in regards to loss of
R/S identities. Barra et al.’s research is more salient today than ever, due to an increasing amount
As LGBT individuals are at risk to experience R/S abuse (Sherry et al., 2010; Super &
Jacobson, 2011), they are at risk to experience negative feelings due to loss of R/S identities.
Negative feelings that individuals experience due to loss of R/S identities can relate to numerous
processes, specifically the process of grief (Barra et al., 1993). If we consider grief and the nature
of this non-finite loss (see Schultz & Harris, 2011), individuals that experience loss of R/S
Counseling Implications
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As we describe in this manuscript, there are important connections between R/S abuse
and loss of R/S identities. For many individuals, specifically LGBT individuals, experiences of
R/S abuse (Shelton & Delgado-Romero, 2011; Ward, 2011), can lead to R/S struggles
(Pargament et al., 2005). R/S struggles can result in loss of R/S identities that lead to negative
mental health effects. As this line of reasoning is conceptual, we will offer counseling
implications via a case study: individual counseling with a focus on disenfranchised grief, the
need to be religiously literate, and the need to seek out competency standards set out by
counseling organizations.
Case Study
Maggie is a 26-year-old lesbian whose parents raised her in the Church of Jesus Christ of
Latter-day Saints (LDS) in rural Florida. Maggie’s family would spend three hours at church
every Sunday and she would give her testimony of the church’s teachings every month.
Maggie’s family went to the temple two hours away from home every three months to do
different jobs to help in the church. At the age of 19, Maggie went on a mission trip for a year
and a half in Italy. In her mission trip, she began to realize that she was a lesbian. Throughout
Maggie’s time in the church, her bishop and other members of the church often told her the
importance of having a family that consists of a husband and children. In Maggie’s time in the
church, religious leaders told her that LGBT individuals would not be with their families in the
afterlife. Religious leaders and peers taught Maggie the importance of love for everyone as a
child of God, but that LGBT individuals are misguided and that attraction to someone of the
Maggie left the church at the age of 25 began individual counseling a year later. In the
second counseling session, Maggie reported that when she heard that the LDS church donated to
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various anti-LGBT rights causes, she felt that her church, her family, and God did not want her
anymore and that she decided to leave the church. Maggie reported that she felt empty and angry.
When the counselor asked Maggie about how she felt about no longer being religious, she
confessed to suicidal ideations when she decided to leave the church and commented that she felt
that she was not a holy individual because she could not change her attraction to women. She
reported crying spells most nights out of the week since she left the church. She reported that she
did not share her emotions on this topic to anyone as people have told her that it was her decision
to leave her church. Conversations with others exacerbated her negative emotions and
In her time in counseling, Maggie and her counselor discussed how her loss of R/S
identity could be similar to other types of loss, including death of loved ones. Maggie mourned
her R/S identity and longed for the time that she could talk to someone from her church to help
cheer her up and let her know that God would always be there for her. Maggie’s counselor began
to help Maggie identify individuals that shared her experiences (e.g., online support groups).
Maggie began to experience grief, and in the grief process, she began to feel an alleviation of
depressive symptoms. Maggie acknowledges that she missed the ritual aspect of the LDS church,
and that being involved in online support groups as well as joining LGBT advocacy groups has
started to fill the void of the social aspect of church. When Maggie and her counselor felt that
she had grieved her R/S identity, her counselor provided Maggie with resources for LGBT-
affirming churches in her area if she felt the need to be a part of a religious group again. Maggie
chose not to join any LGBT-affirming churches, but later noted that she had volunteered at an
LGBT rights event alongside individuals from the local Metropolitan Community Church (an
Implications
In the case study, Maggie experienced R/S abuse through her interactions with church
members (i.e., spiritual bullying, spiritual neglect, expanding external/internal tension, and
microinsults), the church as a unit (i.e., acceptance via performance and microinvalidations), and
the practices of the church representing God (i.e., leadership representing God and
microassaults). In Maggie’s transitions, she perceived the teachings of the LDS church and the
attitudes of others as abusive. Maggie entered a state of R/S struggle that manifested in divine
struggles, intrapsychic struggles, and interpersonal struggles. Because of Maggie’s R/S struggles,
she experienced a loss of R/S identity, as she could not integrate her R/S and sexual identities.
Maggie experienced disenfranchised grief in this process, as she did not have adequate social
support that would accept her loss of R/S identity as a valid form of grief. The counselor helped
Maggie to grieve her R/S identity as she would grieve the loss of a loved one. Maggie’s
Maggie’s sexual identity transition, from Cass’s perspective (1979), is a transition from
the identity tolerance stage to the identity acceptance stage. Zubernis, Snyder, and McCoy (2011)
describe that individuals transitioning through the identity tolerance stage to the identity
acceptance stage (Cass, 1979) need social support to help individuals find a sense of community.
Use of groups (e.g., LGBT support groups) outside of individual counseling can help individuals
in dealing with their loss of R/S identity. Gaining support from the LGBT community can aid
individuals during their sexual identity changes and replace some of the role of religious
communities. Encouraging clients to engage in community support for LGBT individuals can
also increase social support. Maggie’s R/S transition, from Fowler’s perspective (1981), is a
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(2011) describes that individuals moving to an individuative-reflective stage can grieve the loss
of friends and religious community members, as those that hold less advanced (i.e., advancement
of stages) views on religion and spirituality and can interpret questioning of religious beliefs as
threatening. Counselors can aid individuals in their transition from the synthetic-conventional
stage to the individuative-reflective stage (Fowler, 1981) by allowing for individuals an open-
space to explore their loss of R/S identity, how it is affecting them, and guide them in making
meaning from their loss of R/S identity (Parker, 2011; Wong, 2010). Meaning making can have a
powerful effect in the life of those suffer from loss (Neimeyer, 2000). While researchers and
clinicians normally associate meaning making with physical death, a loss of R/S identity
warrants the use of meaning making in counseling due to the existential nature of R/S identity
(Klaassen & McDonald, 2002). Meaning making strategies found in existential and brief
therapies can be particularly helpful (Frankl, 1959; Presbury, Echterling, & McKee, 2007). The
counselor had an ability to provide resources if Maggie sought a more LGBT-affirming religious
experience due to the counselor’s religious literacy. It is also important to note that if Maggie did
not find the need to join a more LGBT-affirming religion, that the counselor should help Maggie
find her way through her new identity of being a non-religious individual. The counselor would
be effective by being present and adaptable with Maggie as they both move through a process of
While counseling individuals that are experienced, or are experiencing, a loss of R/S
identity, counselors should refer to counseling competencies from the Association for Spiritual,
Ethical, and Religious Values in Counseling (ASERVIC) that provide counselors with standards
for addressing R/S concerns in counseling (2009). The ASERVIC competencies contain
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guidelines to prepare counselors to address issues that those who have experienced loss of R/S
identity may have experienced (e.g., counselor vs. client worldview, awareness of a lack of
knowledge of client experiences, and R/S development). Counselors should also refer to
counseling competencies from the Association for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Issues in Counseling (ALGBTIC) has two sets of competencies: one for counseling lesbian, gay,
bisexual, queer, questioning, intersex, and ally individuals and one for counseling transgender
individuals (2010; 2013). Both ALGBTIC sets of competencies contain guidelines for counseling
LGBT individuals, such as those facing loss of R/S identity, dealing with a variety of issues (e.g.,
institutional oppression, client R/S values, and identity development). In reference to grief
grief therapy competencies will assist counselors to ethically counsel those with grief, possibly
Discussion
More research is necessary to explore loss of R/S identities amongst all individuals. The
concepts that we have brought forth in this manuscript, although important, do not yet have
empirical bases. Counselors should use these concepts with caution as individual differences
exist in experiences of R/S abuse, R/S struggles and loss of R/S identities. To assess the validity
of these concepts and the true value of counselors that approach these topics, further research is
necessary. First, qualitative studies that detail the experiences of LGBT individuals that suffer
loss of R/S identities are important to validate these ideas. To research a new concept such as the
loss of R/S identities appropriately, it would be prudent for researchers to use methodology such
as grounded theory in order to conceptualize this experience (Charmaz, 2006). As we look at loss
of R/S identities, it is important to look at religious factors, such as different religions (e.g., non-
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western and non-Christian religions) and polity (Finke & Stark, 2005). Quantitative research is
necessary to assess the validity of the negative effects of loss of R/S identities as well as
identities (e.g., religious abuse and spiritual struggles) would benefit the counseling field by
particularly susceptible to R/S abuse (Super & Jacobson, 2011). Finding causes of loss of R/S
identities and evidence-based practices for treatment of these individuals is an important task.
Conclusion
Loss of R/S identities can cause negative mental health effects in some individuals (Barra
et al., 1993). As the United States becomes a less religious country (Gallup, 2010), we can infer
that the amount of individuals that abandon their R/S identities is increasing. This loss is of
concern for counselors and researchers especially when they assess the possible mental health
concerns of LGBT individuals who are more likely to experience R/S abuse. As LGBT
individuals experience R/S abuse, they can enter into R/S struggles, which can then lead to loss
of R/S identities. Due to the non-finite nature of loss of R/S identities (Schultz & Harris, 2011),
LGBT individuals can experience negative mental health effects. The counseling implications for
this phenomenon are important as multiple facets of individuals’ identities (e.g., R/S identities
and sexual identities) can be affected and require attention in order to help LGBT individuals
experience loss the most functional way possible. The research implications for this phenomenon
are important as more research needs to be conducted that concerns R/S abuse as well as who is
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