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Sadism In-Depth
Sadism In-Depth
INTRODUCTION
Psychoanalytic discourse is sometimes hampered by the way that our vo-
cabulary evolves. As our theories develop, terms take on new meanings,
but common usage may blur the distinctions. This process is further
complicated when we use terms from ordinary language to connote new
ideas; often the two (or more) uses persist, and it is not always clear what
is being communicated.
One such term is sadistic. It has been used to name a perverse sexual
practice, a cruel act, an aggressive act or tendency, a destructive act, a
Lee Grossman is a Training and Supervising Analyst at San Francisco Center for
Psychoanalysis.
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Gabbard (2000) wrote about hatred, saying “To hate is to hold onto
an object in an unforgiving way” (p. 411, italics added). He elaborated,
“Hatred binds the patient to the hated object . . . . While rage tries to
remove the object, hatred forges an unbreakable bond between object
and self” (p. 412). These are all important contributions, but even in
this short sampling we see the equation of hate and control (Gabbard),
the opposition of aggression and control (Grotstein, Cooper), the op-
position of hate and rage (Gabbard), and the equation of sadism and
destructiveness (Blos, Giovacchini, Casoni).
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Of course, we must always distinguish between sadism as an inferred
unconscious motive and sadism as a manifest behavior.1 I assume that
all manifest behaviors obey the principle of multiple function (Waelder
1936). When later on I offer a hypothesis about the role of the sado-
masochistic component in sexual perversion, I do not mean to suggest
that perversion is “reducible” to sadomasochism. And, when in a clinical
example I suggest a sadistic aim in a patient’s behavior toward me, I do
not mean to imply that the behavior has no other, nonsadistic aims. In
fact, I will argue that often there is clinical utility in trying to tease out
the various aims, including the sadistic/controlling, the hateful, and the
aggressive, rather than to lump them all together under the term sadism.
With this distinction in mind, I think it will be seen that my goal is
a modest one, which is to help us attend to what Gabbard (2000) called
the binding function in sadomasochism. I suggest that we pay more at-
tention to the effort to maintain an object tie by controlling the object, in
contradistinction to other aims, especially aggressive ones.
In what follows, I will try to show how the clarification I am advo-
cating matters in clinical work. In addition, I will take a brief look at
the fluidity that seems to exist between sadistic and masochistic roles in
human behavior, and consider a possible developmental explanation. I
will end with an observation about the role of sadomasochism so under-
stood, in adult sexual perverse practices. But to begin, I would like to
follow how Freud’s thinking about sadism and masochism developed as
his theory of instincts changed.
FORT-DA REVISITED
At this point, I would like to revisit one of Freud’s observations. Along
with the formulation of the death instinct, Beyond the Pleasure Principle
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This interpretation is consistent with Cooper’s (1988) formulation of the function
of masochism as protecting the infant from the narcissistic blow of facing his helplessness.
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the similarity to Winnicott’s (1953) transitional object—“the first ‘not-
me’ possession” (p. 89). If the string represents the tie to the mother,
then the child’s connection to the mother is preserved and enjoyed on
his terms. Then the child’s (adultified) message, besides being vengeful
and defiant, might be: “I am not at the mercy of your whims. In fact, I
am the one who determines when you come and go. I can dictate your
presence on my schedule.”
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