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Handout For Short Report
Handout For Short Report
Most of the time, when people think of “social skills,” they think of their
everyday interactions. It’s how they gain acceptance from their colleagues
or peers and involves being comfortable when speaking to strangers, easily
making friends, and earning the respect of your co-workers.
These things don’t always come naturally. Individuals with social anxiety , for
example, might have trouble connecting with others. Introverts or shy
people who like to keep to themselves may actively avoid social interactions
— and appear rude as a result. Or, sometimes, we get uncomfortable
around people we don’t know and lose some of our social confidence.
No matter the case, it’s nice to have some basic principles to fall back on.
Knowing how to develop your social skills will help you in the long run.
In terms of mental health, people with strong social ties have lower rates of
anxiety and depression . They also have higher self-esteem, greater
empathy, and are more cooperative.
For your physical health, researchers knew as early as 1988 that lack of
social connection is more harmful than obesity, smoking, and high blood
pressure. And, more recently, they learned that isolation is associated with
a 50% increased risk of dementia as you age.
Sharpening your social skills will also pay you back in the form of social
capital. Entire university programs are devoted to studying this concept. But,
to keep it simple, we can define social capital as the sum of all benefits from
being part of a social group.
In today’s gig economy, social capital is critical. It can earn you a higher
salary, win you more interesting projects, and may be the deciding factor in
your next job application. Consider working with a BetterUp coach to
improve this area of your career.
We’re glad you asked! You can definitely learn or improve your social life.
Here are some general guidelines to get you started:
Put yourself in their shoes . Imagine what they might be going through and
try to understand their feelings. You’ll better understand their perspective,
which will help you respond appropriately.
Use tactics like active listening and open body language to demonstrate
attentiveness. This opens the door to more positive interactions.
Try acting like your more social peers, even if it’s just small talk. It will
become easier every time you try it.
You don’t have to worry about speaking up; ask open-ended questions and
use active listening. People love talking about themselves.
3-7. Be polite
Good manners go a long way. Words like “please” and “thank you” are small
but powerful ways to soften requests.
Face the person with whom you’re speaking. Pay attention to your tone of
voice. Make eye contact. Use your body language to show you’re present
and paying attention.
It’s okay to feel a little anxious, but don’t let it get the best of you. You’re not
your thoughts. Take a deep breath and try to let them go; this will help you
relax in a social situation.