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Eric Moore The Design Thinker NVC Guide 2022 Low
Eric Moore The Design Thinker NVC Guide 2022 Low
Eric Moore The Design Thinker NVC Guide 2022 Low
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Observations: Feelings:
Making observations without Expressing feelings without
judgments or criticisms. confusing them with thoughts.
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Needs: Requests:
Identifying and articulating Make requests not demands
needs so they can be met. for unmet needs.
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OBSERVATIONS
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FEELINGS
02 /FEELINGS For many of us, we’ve been told not to share our
feelings, especially in a professional setting. But
conventional attitudes towards feelings are
shifting to more acceptance in the workplace.
NVC promotes the expression of feelings in a
way that helps people recognize what is
prompting your message. It also reinforces the
contrast between your feelings and thoughts to
communicate your message clearly.
See the next page for examples.
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NEEDS
After NVC:
Janelle, for the past two projects, I’ve noticed
your work has been late and I am worried about
your progress. It’s important to me that our
team members grow and flourish.
In this example, the sender is expressing a clear
need to help Janelle grow and flourish, not just
scold her for late work.
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REQUESTS
After NVC:
Chris: Janelle, I’m working a little late tonight and would appreciate
your help on my project.
Janelle: Oh Chris, I’m tired. Can you ask Eric to spend time with
you? I know he was intending on working late.
Chris: Oh, okay. Long week?
Janelle: Yes, I received a last-minute revision on the Bonobos site,
and I want to conserve my energy for that.
Chris: I totally get that. I am just feeling helpless on the direction of
my project and need some guidance. Is there any chance you could
spend some time with me before next week?
Get
Nonviolent communications has four key
components: Observations, Feelings, Needs, and
Requests. Each component has unique success
factors that won’t take long to learn.
started
To start your journey into the practice of
nonviolent communication, begin with
Observations. For the first two weeks, focus only
on making observations without judgments.
today!
Keep track of how many times you insert a
criticism or judgment versus times you do not.
Note how people react to your use of pure
observations versus critiques.
Don’t worry if it takes you longer than two
weeks, just keep going and encourage others to
join your exercise.