Senior High School

Personal Development
Quarter 2 – Module 1, Week 1
Personal Relationships
in Middle and Late Adolescence
Personal Development - Senior High School
Alternative Delivery Mode
Second Quarter - Module 1: Personal Relationships in Middle and Late Adolescence
First Edition, 2020

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 Senior High School

Personal Development
Quarter 2 – Module 1:

Lesson 1: Teen-age Relationships

Lesson 2: Attraction, Love, and
Commitment

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Quarter Alternative Delivery Mode (ADM) Module on “Discuss an understanding
of teen-age relationships, including the acceptable and unacceptable
expressions of attractions - (EsP-PD11/12PR-IIa-9.1)” and “Express his/her
ways of showing attraction, love, and commitment - (EsP-PD11/12PR-IIa-9.2)”
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You are reading the Personal Development – Senior High School: Second
Quarter Alternative Delivery Mode (ADM) Module on “Discuss an understanding
of teen-age relationships, including the acceptable and unacceptable
expressions of attractions - (EsP-PD11/12PR-IIa-9.1)” and “Express his/her
ways of showing attraction, love, and commitment - (EsP-PD11/12PR-IIa-9.2)”
as written and found in the K-12 Most Essential Learning Competencies.
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 WHAT I NEED TO KNOW

Good day dear learner!

This module is solely prepared for you to access and to acquire lessons
befitted in your grade level. The exercises, drills and assessments are carefully
made to suit your level of understanding. Indeed, this learning resource is for you to
fully comprehend “Discuss an understanding of teen-age relationships,
including the acceptable and unacceptable expressions of attractions - (EsP-
PD11/12PR-IIa-9.1)” and “Express his/her ways of showing attraction, love, and
commitment - (EsP-PD11/12PR-IIa-9.2)”. Independently, you are going to go
through this module following its proper sequence. Although you are going to do it
alone, this is a guided lesson and instructions/directions on how to do every activity
is plotted for your convenience.

Using this learning resource, you are ought to “Discuss an

understanding of teen-age relationships, including the acceptable and
unacceptable expressions of attractions - (EsP-PD11/12PR-IIa-9.1)” and
“Express his/her ways of showing attraction, love, and commitment - (EsP-
PD11/12PR-IIa-9.2)” as inculcated in the K-12 Most Essential Learning
Competencies.

This Module consists of two competencies which comprise lesson 1 and 2,

as follows:

Lesson 1: Teen-age Relationships

Lesson 2: Attraction, Love, and Commitment

At the end of this module, you are expected to achieve the following
objectives for this session:

 Understand the teenage relationships;

 Identify between the acceptable and unacceptable expressions of
attractions;
 Create their own commandments in their relationships;
 Distinguish between the appropriate and inappropriate actions to
maintain a healthy relationship;
 Express their ways of showing attraction, love, and commitment;
 Identify ways to become responsible in a relationship; and
 Show sincerity in accomplishing all exercises in this module and
maintain a journal.

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Lesson 1: Teen-age Relationships

WHAT I KNOW

Directions: Identify the kind of relationship that is being shown in each picture.
Choose the words inside the box in writing your answer.
Friendship Family Romantic Professional Self

1. 2. 3.

4. 5. 6.

7. 8.

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 WHAT’S IN

Directions: Define the following words found inside the box. Write the word/s in your
answer sheet.
Relationship Friends Personal relationships Love
Commitment Attraction Responsibility Family relationship
Professional relationship Self Relationship

________1. The social force that binds you to the courses of action demanded by
that force.
________2. A state of connectedness between people (especially an emotional
connection).
________3. Strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personalities.
________4. The action or power of evoking interest, pleasure, or liking for someone
or something.
________5. Relationships between people, especially those between friends,
lovers, and family members.
________6. The act of binding yourself (intellectually or emotionally) to a course of
action.
________7. People who we are not related to but we choose to interact with.
________8. Relatedness or connection by blood or marriage or adoption.
kinship, relationship, relation - an abstraction belonging to or
characteristic of two entities or parts together.
________9. Relationships that are solely for the purpose of getting your work done
help you advance your career and would not exist if not for your job.
________10. The connection with oneself or looking after yourself and your mental
health.

WHAT’S NEW

Directions: In order for you to identify the different statements about relationship.
State whether the following statements are true or false.

________1. It is important to work on communicating our feelings in relationships.

________2. To love someone, we must love our self first.
________3. Trying to understand where other people are coming from rather than
judging them helps us build and maintain relationships.
________4. Having a good relationship does not contribute anything to us having
good health.
________5. When people listen deeply and let us know that they recognize the
feeling behind our words, more likely than not, our relationship is doing
well.

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________6. In our relationships, it is vital that we practice forgiveness when a loved
one has hurt us.
________7. Our loved ones cannot help us when we deal with stress.
________8. Using positive methods to resolve conflict will more likely help us
maintain good relationships.
________9. Expressing gratitude to our friends and family help us maintain good
relationships.
________10. Significant differences in core values and beliefs never create a
problem in relationships.
________11. We are happy in our relationships when our loved ones stay
connected by spending time with us and letting us know that they love
us.
________12. Excessive reliance on social media can be a cause of tension in
relationships.
________13. Relationships are static; they are unchangeable.
________14. Being compassionate, forgiving and grateful contribute to healthy
relationships.
________15. To fully enjoy and benefit from relationships we need skills,
information, inspiration, practice, and social support.

WHAT IS IT

Reading: WHAT DO WE MEAN BY PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS?

The concept of relationship is very broad and complex. In our model, personal
relationships refer to close connections between people, formed by emotional bonds
and interactions. These bonds often grow from and are strengthened by mutual
experiences.
Relationships are not static; they are continually evolving, and to fully enjoy
and benefit from them we need skills, information, inspiration, practice, and social
support. In our model there are three kinds of personal relationships:

Family
The concept of "family" is an essential component in any discussion of
relationships, but this varies greatly from person to person. The Bureau of the
Census defines family as "two or more persons who are related by birth, marriage, or
adoption and who live together as one household." But many people have family
they don't live with or to whom they are not bonded by love, and the roles of family
vary across cultures as well as throughout your own lifetime. Some typical
characteristics of a family are support, mutual trust, regular interactions, shared
beliefs and values, security, and a sense of community.

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 Although the concept of "family" is one of the oldest in human nature, its
definition has evolved considerably in the past three decades. Non-traditional family
structures and roles can provide as much comfort and support as traditional forms.

Friends
A friendship can be thought of as a close tie between two people that is often
built upon mutual experiences, shared interests, proximity, and emotional bonding.
Friends are able to turn to each other in times of need. Nicholas Christakis and
James Fowler, social-network researchers and authors of the book Connected, find
that the average person has about six close ties—though some have more, and
many have only one or none.
Note that online friends don’t count toward close ties—research indicates that
a large online network isn’t nearly as powerful as having a few close, real-life friends.

Partnerships
Romantic partnerships, including marriage, are close relationships formed
between two people that are built upon affection, trust, intimacy, and romantic love.
We usually experience this kind of relationship with only one person at a time.

WHAT’S MORE

Directions: Copy the Venn diagram below in your answer sheet. Identify the
differences and similarities of each kind of relationship by writing in the diagram what
you learn from the previous reading.

1. Do family relationships is replaceable by friendships or partnerships? Why?

2. How does each of these contribute to your well-being?

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 WHAT I HAVE LEARNED

Directions: Write your ideas, knowledge or understanding on why personal

relationships are important? Consider the following concepts that follow.

Advantages of having a healthy relationships What are the possible reasons?

• Live longer

• Deal with Stress

• Be healthier

• Feel richer

Consequences on having low social support

• Depression

• Decreased immune function

• Higher blood pressure

WHAT I CAN DO

Directions: Appraise your own relationships. Think of a plan for building responsible
future relationships.

Personal Relationships What went right / wrong? Personal Plan to build responsible
future relationship

1. Parents

2. Siblings

3. Friends

4. Boy/Girl friend

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 ASSESSMENT

Directions: Read the questions carefully and select the letter of the correct answer.

1. This refers to close connections between people, formed by emotional bonds, and
interactions. This is known as ______________.
A. Personal Relationship C. Mutual Benefit
B. Personal Bias D. Mutual Understanding

2. Which of the following does not belong to the group?

A. Family C. Enemy
B. Friendship D. Partnership

3. The following are the most common relationship problems EXCEPT __________.
A. Affairs/ Infidelity/ Cheating C. Lack of communication
B. Prolonged period of stress D. Thoughtfulness of the partner

4. In a healthy relationship, both partners:

I. Are treated with kindness and respect
II. Are honest with each other
III. Like to spend time together
IV. Take an interest in things that are important to each other
A. I and II are correct C. All are correct
B . I, II, and III are correct D. Only I is correct

5. One of your friends doesn’t know how to avoid date pressure. What can you
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A. Say “NO” and mean “NO” if that’s how you feel.
B. It’s ok to hang out on a date so as not to be rejected by friends
C. Hang out with friends who also believe that it’s OK to not be ready for
dating
D. Go out with a group of friends rather than only your date

6. In creating a long lasting relationship, the following serves as your basis

EXCEPT:
A. You must love yourself first
B. You must nurture the relationship for it to thrive
C. You need not to express yourself openly to your partner
D. Your relationship will be challenged by change

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7. The following are statements showing the signs of a healthy relationship EXCEPT:
A. You can express your opinion without fear or dread.
B. You and your partner can make decisions together and fairly.
C. Each person takes responsibility for their own actions.
D. Your partner tries to control how you spend time and who you hang out
with.

8. Which of the following is NOT an element of a healthy relationship?

A. Negotiation is required for a relationship to last
B. Lack of communication about important matters
C. Partnering is a choice
D. Creating love is a process

9. How will you nurture your relationships?

A. Practice gratitude, learn to forgive, connect with your family
B. Neglect your partners concern
C. Love your partner as long as he/she satisfies your needs
D. Be patient but not all the time

10. Patience is essential to a healthy relationship. There are times when others will
respond to us in a way that is disappointing. When this occurs, what will you do?
I. Give the other person space
II. Communicate your disappointment
III. Be willing to give the person some time to reflect
IV. Leave the person
A. I,II, and III are correct C. Only item III is applicable
B. I and II are correct D. II and III are correct

11. A type of relationship which tends to be less intimate, with lesser self-disclosure
involved, but may still be exclusive, and may demand certain levels of loyalty.
A. Personal Relationship C. Family Relationship
B. Social Relationship D. Relationship with siblings

12. The following are the things that you can get when you are involved in
community activities EXCEPT:
A. You can come in contact with like-minded people
B. You can understand yourself better
C. Inferiority and shyness
D. Skills and competencies

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13. Getting involved with community organizations and activities gives you the
following:
I. It will encourage you to see the world in different ways
II. You can come into contact with like-minded peers and positive adult role
models
III. It puts your own family into possible threat
IV. Gives you a lot of responsibilities and stress
A. I and II items are correct C. I, II, and III are correct
B. Item I is correct D. Item IV is only correct

14. Community activity is part of ____________. It’s about doing things in our
community because we want to or feel we should, rather than because we have
to by law.
A. Civic Responsibility C. Political Responsibility
B. Economic Responsibility D. Personal Responsibility

15. You can take social responsibility and be active in your community by:
I. Joining a Youth Club, a scouting group or a local environmental or clean up
group
II. Helping a primary school play, or coordinating or coaching junior
Sport
III. Being part of a youth advisory group through the local council
IV. Staying at home and taking no care outside your community
A. I and II items are correct C. I, II, and III are correct
B. Item I is correct D. Item IV is only correct

ADDITIONAL ACTIVITY/IES

Directions: Draw or cut out pictures that will show your personal relationships.

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Lesson 2: Attraction, Love, and Commitment

WHAT I KNOW

Directions: Read and comprehend the questions carefully and enumerate the
correct answer.

1. What should you consider when making decisions around sex and sexual limits?
a. Your values c. Your family
b. Your friends d. All of the above
2. What is the best style of communication to use when making decisions about
sexual limits and boundaries?
a. Assertive b. Passive c. Aggressive
3. Name three important qualities of a healthy relationship.
4. Which of the following is NOT an element of a healthy relationship?
a. Trust one another b. One person makes all the decisions
c. Respect one another d. Open and honest communication
5. Name a reason why you may not make healthy choices when it comes to sex.
6. Name three resources you can turn to if you are worried about abuse in your
relationship.
7. Name three characteristics of an unhealthy relationship.
8. What skills do you need to make healthy decisions in a relationship?
a. Intelligence, memory, ability to do public speaking
b. Assertive communication, active listening, and negotiation skills
c. Ability to persuade others, love,
d. passive communication
e. None of the above
9. Why would you choose abstinence? Give 3 reasons.
10. Which of the following are signs that you may be in an abusive relationship?
a. Bruises, scratches and other signs of injuries b. Avoiding friends
c. Apologizing for your partner`s behavior d. All of the above

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 WHAT’S IN

Directions: Read and analyze each of the situations/statements below. Judge,

whether the situation/statement shows attraction, love, or commitment. Write any of
those words as your answer.

________1. Sanji told his friends that he was attracted to a girl in the first 90
seconds after they meet.
________2. Sakura always wanted to look like her much-loved Korean character.
________3. Zero Two and Hiro feel free to be themselves and disclose personal
information.
________4. Natsu and Lucy choose to make time for each other on a regular basis.
________5. Hinata choose Naruto because they have a similar family background.
________6. Frequent smiles and delicate features of a girl tend to be on Kirito’s list
of desired qualities in a long-term mate.
________7. Chichi out of insecurity and desire to make sure that Goku is locked
into their relationship.
________8. Bell and Hestia enjoys each other’s company and make memories
together that last for a lifetime.
________9. Though Sakura loves to eat chocolates, she controlled herself because
of Haruki’s health condition that is prohibited to eat sweets.
________10. Sakura did not decide on her own but take into considerations
Haruki’s situation.

WHAT’S NEW

Directions: Put a mark for each statement that you think is a sign of a healthy
relationship; put an X mark on each statement that you think is a sign of an
unhealthy relationship.

1. You can express your opinion without fear or dread.

2. You and your partner can make decisions together and fairly.
3. Each person takes responsibility for their own actions.
4. Your partner respects your feelings about sex.
5. Your partner supports you and your choices—even when they disagree with you.
6. You respect and encourage each other.
7. You give each other space to study or hang out with friends or family.
8. You are able to make your own decisions about spending your money without
worrying about your partner’s reaction.

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9. You can discuss pregnancy and parenting decisions and your view is respected.
10. You feel isolated from friends and family.
11. Your partner tries to control how you spend time and who you hang out with.
12. Your partner tries to control how you spend money.
13. Your partner doesn’t support your decisions.
14. You are sometimes forced to do something that you’re not comfortable with.
15. Your partner threatens, insults, or humiliates you.
16. Your partner hurts you physically or emotionally.
17. Your partner doesn’t keep your secrets safe.
18. Your partner undermines your decisions about pregnancy and parenting.
19. Your partner tries to keep secrets and information from you.
20. Your partner makes fun of your opinions and interests.

WHAT IS IT

Reading: NURTURE YOUR RELATIONSHIPS

1. Connect with your family

One of the biggest challenges for families to stay connected is the busy pace
of life. But Blue Zones research states that the healthiest, longest-living people in the
world all have something in common: they put their families first. Family support can
provide comfort, support, and even influence better health outcomes while you are
sick. Relationships and family author Mimi Doe recommends connecting with family
by letting little grievances go, spending time together, and expressing love and
compassion to one another. Of course, the same practices apply to close friends as
well. This is especially important if you don’t have living family, or have experienced
difficult circumstances, such as abuse, that would make it difficult for you to connect
with your relatives.
2. Practice gratitude
Gratitude is one of the most accessible positive emotions, and its effects can
strengthen friendships and intimate relationships. One 2010 study found that
expressing gratitude toward a partner can strengthen the relationship, and this
positive boost is felt by both parties—the one who expresses gratitude and the one
who receives it. Remembering to say “thank you” when a friend listens or your
spouse brings you a cup of coffee can set off an upward spiral of trust, closeness,
and affection.

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3. Learn to forgive
It’s normal for disagreements or betrayal to arise in relationships, but your
choice about how to handle the hurt can have a powerful effect on the healing
process. Choosing to forgive can bring about a variety of benefits, both physical and
emotional. Fred Luskin, head of the Stanford Forgiveness Project, says it’s easier to
let go of the anger or hurt feelings associated with a circumstance if you remind
yourself that much of your distress is really coming from the thoughts and feelings
you are having right now while remembering the event—not the event itself. Don’t be
afraid to clearly articulate why you are upset, but once the other party has listened,
be willing to lay down your anger and move on.
4. Be compassionate
Compassion is the willingness to be open to yourself and others, even in
painful times, with a gentle, nonjudgmental attitude. When you feel compassionate
toward another person—whether a romantic partner, friend, relative, or colleague—
you open the gates for better communication and a stronger bond. This doesn’t
mean taking on the suffering of others, or absorbing their emotions. Rather,
compassion is the practice of recognizing when someone else is unhappy or whose
needs aren’t being met and feeling motivated to help them. We are an imitative
species: when compassion is shown to us, we return it.
5. Accept others
It is also important to be accepting of the other person in the relationship.
Obviously, this does not apply in situations of abuse or unhealthy control, where you
need foremost to protect yourself. But otherwise, try to understand where the person
is coming from rather than judge them. As you do for yourself, have a realistic
acceptance of the other's strengths and weaknesses and remember that change
occurs over time.
6. Create rituals together
With busy schedules and the presence of online social media that offer the
façade of real contact, it’s very easy to drift from friends. In order to nurture the
closeness and support of friendships, you have to make an effort to connect. Gallup
researcher Tom Rath has found that people who deliberately make time for
gatherings or trips enjoy stronger relationships and more positive energy. An easy
way to do this is to create a standing ritual that you can share and that doesn’t create
more stress—talking on the telephone on Fridays, for example, or sharing a walk
during lunch breaks, are ways to keep in contact with the ones you care about the
most.
7. Spend the right amount of time together
Gallup researchers Jim Harter and Raksha Arora found that people who
spend 6-7 hours per day socializing (which could mean hanging out with friends,
sharing meals with family, or even emailing a colleague) tend to be the happiest. In
contrast, those who have zero interactions (or an exhausting overload of social time)
feel more stressed. Knowing when to give your time to others and when to take
some time for yourself can be crucial in maintaining balanced, healthy relationships
as well as emotional well being.

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 WHAT’S MORE

Directions: In order to have a healthy relationship with your family, friends and special
someone, copy the appropriate actions to take in every situation.

1. Your parents found out that you are in a relationship with someone older than your
age.
 Your parents will slap your face in front of that someone.
 Your parents will talk to you in private after the event.
2. Your boy/girl friend used to get jealous when you are with your circle of friends.
 Your boyfriend/girlfriend will raise her/his voice because he/she is angry.
 Your boyfriend/girlfriend will call and told you that he/she don’t like your
company.
3. You are suspecting that your friend is having trouble with you through his/her
actions.
 You will just ignore your friend’s action.
 You will talk to her/him calmly and express about your suspicion.
4. Your boyfriend has stolen a kiss from you.
 You will just allow him because you love him anyway.
 You will tell your boyfriend that you don’t like to be treated that way.
5. Your newly found friend asked you for a date.
 You will say YES because you are also attracted to him.
 You will say NO because you don’t know him better yet.
6. Your best friend invited you in a party where alcoholic drinks are present.
 You will ask permission from your parents.
 You will have to decide whether you will go or not.
7. You father brought with him his co-worker for a drinks in your house. In a moment
that your father went to the comfort room, you have noticed his co-worker trying
to do malicious act on you.
 You will tell your father at the moment when he came back.
 You will tell your father later when he is not drunk.
8. Your circle of friends often talks about activities like sex. They encourage you to
have also your intimate partner.
 You will say NO if that’s how you feel.
 You will say YES so that you will never be left behind.
9. Your boyfriend/girlfriend says “I’m not interested in other people,” but you notice
that he/she is flirting with everyone else at school.
 You will ignore her/him, he/she is yours anyway.
 You will talk to her/him about your feelings of what you have noticed.
10. You have a crush on your best friend’s boyfriend/girlfriend.
 You will keep distant to the boyfriend/girlfriend of your best friend.
 You will always go with your best friend just to be with his/her partner.

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 WHAT I HAVE LEARNED

Directions: Write your reflection on the relationship you had that bothers you at
present. Consider the important suggestions on how to nurture your relationships.

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Print Name & Signature Date

WHAT I CAN DO

Directions: Make your own 10 Commandments for a Strong and Healthy

Relationship. Present it creatively.

1._____________ 6. _____________

2._____________ 7. _____________

3._____________ 8. _____________

4. _____________ 9. _____________

5. _____________ 10. ____________

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 ASSESSMENT

Directions: Read the questions carefully and select the letter of the correct answer.

1. This refers to close connections between people, formed by emotional bonds, and
interactions. This is known as ______________.
A. Personal Relationship C. Mutual Benefit
B. Personal Bias D. Mutual Understanding
2. Which of the following does not belong to the group?
A. Family C. Enemy
B. Friendship D. Partnership
3. The following are the most common relationship problems EXCEPT __________.
A. Affairs/ Infidelity/ Cheating C. Lack of communication
B. Prolonged period of stress D. Thoughtfulness of the partner
4. In a healthy relationship, both partners:
I. Are treated with kindness and respect
II. Are honest with each other
III. Like to spend time together
IV. Take an interest in things that are important to each other
A. I and II are correct C. All are correct
B . I, II, and III are correct D. Only I is correct
5. One of your friends doesn’t know how to avoid date pressure. What can you
suggest to help her?
A. Say “NO” and mean “NO” if that’s how you feel.
B. It’s ok to hang out on a date so as not to be rejected by friends
C. Hang out with friends who also believe that it’s OK to not be ready for
dating
D. Go out with a group of friends rather than only your date
6. In creating a long lasting relationship, the following serves as your basis
EXCEPT:
A. You must love yourself first
B. You must nurture the relationship for it to thrive
C. You need not to express yourself openly to your partner
D. Your relationship will be challenged by change
7. The following are statements showing the signs of a healthy relationship EXCEPT:
A. You can express your opinion without fear or dread.
B. You and your partner can make decisions together and fairly.
C. Each person takes responsibility for their own actions.
D. Your partner tries to control how you spend time and who you hang out
with.

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8. Which of the following is NOT an element of a healthy relationship?
A. Negotiation is required for a relationship to last
B. Lack of communication about important matters
C. Partnering is a choice
D. Creating love is a process
9. How will you nurture your relationships?
A. Practice gratitude, learn to forgive, connect with your family
B. Neglect your partners concern
C. Love your partner as long as he/she satisfies your needs
D. Be patient but not all the time
10. Patience is essential to a healthy relationship. There are times when others will
respond to us in a way that is disappointing. When this occurs, what will you do?
I. Give the other person space
II. Communicate your disappointment
III. Be willing to give the person some time to reflect
IV. Leave the person
A. I,II, and III are correct C. Only item III is applicable
B. I and II are correct D. II and III are correct
11. A type of relationship which tends to be less intimate, with lesser self-disclosure
involved, but may still be exclusive, and may demand certain levels of loyalty.
A. Personal Relationship C. Family Relationship
B. Social Relationship D. Relationship with siblings
12. The following are the things that you can get when you are involved in
community activities EXCEPT:
A. You can come in contact with like-minded people
B. You can understand yourself better
C. Inferiority and shyness
D. Skills and competencies
13. Getting involved with community organizations and activities gives you the
following:
I. It will encourage you to see the world in different ways
II. You can come into contact with like-minded peers and positive adult role
models
III. It puts your own family into possible threat
IV. Gives you a lot of responsibilities and stress
A. I and II items are correct C. I, II, and III are correct
B. Item I is correct D. Item IV is only correct
14. Community activity is part of ____________. It’s about doing things in our
community because we want to or feel we should, rather than because we have
to by law.
A. Civic Responsibility C. Political Responsibility
B. Economic Responsibility D. Personal Responsibility
15. You can take social responsibility and be active in your community by:
17 or a local environmental or clean up
I. Joining a Youth Club, a scouting group
group
II. Helping a primary school play, or coordinating or coaching junior
Sport
III. Being part of a youth advisory group through the local council
IV. Staying at home and taking no care outside your community
A. I and II items are correct C. I, II, and III are correct
B. Item I is correct D. Item IV is only correct

ADDITIONAL ACTIVITY/IES

BASIC RIGHTS IN A RELATIONSHIP

• The right to emotional support
• The right to be heard by the other and to respond
• The right to have your own point of view, even if this differs from your partner's
• The right to have your feelings and experiences acknowledged as real
• The right to live free from accusation and blame
• The right to live free from criticism and judgment
• The right to live free from emotional and physical threat
• The right to live free from angry outbursts and rage
• The right to be respectfully asked, rather than ordered
In addition to these basic relationships rights, consider how you can develop
patience, honesty, kindness, and respect.
Patience: Patience is essential to a healthy relationship. There are times
when others will respond to us in a way that is disappointing. When this occurs, it
important to communicate our disappointment, but also to give the other person
space. Be willing to give the person some time to reflect, indicating that you are
ready to talk when they are ready. If the person is never ready to discuss the
situation, you may need professional help to resolve the issue, or ask yourself
whether or not you want to continue the relationship.
Honesty: Honesty is another essential quality in healthy relationships. To
build honesty in a relationship, you should communicate your feelings openly, and
expect the other person to do the same. Over time, this builds trust.
Kindness: Kindness is extremely important to maintaining healthy
relationships. You need to be considerate of others' feelings and other people need
to be considerate of yours. Be kind when you communicate. Kindness will nurture
your relationships. Note that being kind does not necessarily mean being nice.
Respect: Respect is a cornerstone of all healthy relationships. If you don't
have respect for another person, it will have a negative impact on all of your
interactions. Think of a time when you encountered someone who didn't respect you.
How did it feel? What are some ways that you show respect to others?

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 ANSWER KEYS

Lesson 1 Lesson 2
What I know: What I know:
1. Family 1. All of the above
2. Friendship 2. a. assertive communication
3. Romantic 3. Possible Answers: Trust, Respect, Honesty,
Loyalty, Fun, Caring, Open Communication
4. Family
4. b.One person makes all the decisions
5. Professional 5. Possible Answers: Pressure, Alcohol, or
6. Family substance use
7. Self 6. Possible Answers: Family, Friends,
8. Professional Teachers, Guidance Counselors, Parents
7. Possible Answers: Jealousy, Abuse,
What’s In:
Obsession, Manipulation, Dishonesty
1. Responsibility 8. b. Assertive communication, active listening
2. Relationship and negotiation skills
3. Love 9. Possible Answers: Moral/Family/Religious
Beliefs, Prevent STI and HIV, Prevent early
4. Attraction pregnancy, have not met the right person
5. Personal Relationship yet, long term commitment/waiting for
6. Commitment marriage
7. Friends 10. All of the above
What’s In:
8. Family Relationships
1. Attraction 6. Attraction
9. Professional Relationships 2. Attraction 7. Love
10. Self Relationship 3. Love 8. Commitment
What’s New: 4. Commitment 9. Love
5. Attraction 10. Commitment
1. TRUE 6. TRUE 11. TRUE
What’s New:
2. TRUE 7. FALSE 12. TRUE
1.  6.  11.  16. 
3. TRUE 8. TRUE 13. FALSE 2.  7.  12.  17. 
4. FALSE 9. TRUE 14. TRUE 3.  8.  13.  18. 
5. TRUE 10. FALSE 15. TRUE 4.  9.  14.  19. 
What’s More: Answers may vary 5.  10.  15.  20. 
What I have learned: Answers may vary What’s More:
What I can do: Answers may vary 1. 2 6. 1
Assessment: 2. 2 7. 2
3. 2 8. 1
1. A 9. A 4. 2 9. 2
2. C 10. A 5. 2 10. 1
3. D 11. B What I have learned: Answers may vary
4. C 12. C What I can do: Answers may vary
5. A 13. A Assessment:
6. C 14. A 1. A 6. C 11. B
7. D 15. C 2. C 7. D 12. C
8. B 3. D 8. B 13. A
4. C 9. A 14. A
Additional Activities: Answers may vary 5. A 10. A 15. C

Notes to the Teacher!

The teacher will check all the

Answers Vary Part.

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 REFERENCES

Published Books

Personal Development. Learner’s Manual. Department of Education Republic of the

Philippines. First Edition 2016.
Personal Development. Teacher’s Guide. Department of Education Republic of the
Philippines. First Edition 2016

Electronic Resources

What do we mean by Personal Relationships? Retrieved from

http://www.takingcharge.csh.umn.edu/enhance-your-
wellbeing/relationships/what-do-we-mean-personal-relationships
Nurture your Relationships Retrieved from
http://www.takingcharge.csh.umn.edu/enhance-your-
wellbeing/relationships/nurture-your-relationships

Other Resources

K to 12 Most Essential Learning Competencies with Corresponding CG Codes

family-mother-father-child image Retrieved from

https://www.publicdomainpictures.net/en/view-
image.php?image=191763&picture=family-mother-father-child
mother and son image Retrieved from https://pixabay.com/vectors/mother-son-
mothers-day-woman-3500136/
friends image Retrieved from
https://www.google.com/url?sa=i&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.thefriendshipapp
.com
lovers image Retrieved from
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photo_37043437_silhouette-of-two-lovers-isolated-on-white-background.html
Co-workers image Retrieved from
https://www.google.com/url?sa=i&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.publicdomainpi
ctures.net
Siblings image Retrieved from
https://www.google.com/url?sa=i&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.psychologytoda
y.com%2Fus%2Fblog%2Fthe-hero-within%2F201708%2Fbrothers-and-
sisters
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2Fphoto%2Fdownload%2F839256%2Fhiring-hr-hire-job-recruit-recruiting-
people-employer-worker
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https://www.google.com/url?sa=i&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.dreamstime.co
m%2Fillustration%2Fwoman-silhouette-mirror.html

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