PSYC 1205 - Emotional Intelligence

Written Assignment Unit 2

Submitted To: Courtney Creegan

Dated: 8 Feb, 2022

Who are you? How do people see you?

As we all know, emotional intelligence helps us to deal with our very own emotions and
psychological reactions to certain conditions. It helps us to understand ourselves. In addition, we
can also enhance our ability to deal with others emotionally. This test will help us to identify
these two approaches. I think this is a date with truth, a date to discover who are you and how
other people see you.

My profile

My type is ESFJ, according to the MBTI test with the following percentages: Judging (16%)
Extravert (22%) Sensing (25%) Feeling (38%)

Described as (the giver), she loves to care for others, supports them, value social relations and
she is a social figure. She never hesitates or gets shy from participating in social gatherings, host
is often referred as the giver.

I encourage and believe in team work and encourage all the members to participate equally in the
team. If a team shows full enthusiasm and hard work, it can achieve anything because different
minds are working together. So these specifications showed by the host apply to me amazingly. I
am sensitive to criticism. I generally care a lot about the people around me. I try to abide by
general laws and regulations. I like to be appreciated for the good work I do. Personal
tendencies: strict, emotional, sensual and open-minded.
My Character Challenges

The biggest challenge that the consul's personality has to face is to find a solution to to their
excessive sensitivity towards their emotions especially when they are exposed to disagreements
and criticism, and they are painful and harmful to them. The giver desires to be valued and
understood for what he does for others and for himself. Sometimes this desire reaches at the
point where he emotionally demands himself. The giver will resort to the method of trolling for
thanks only to satisfy his desire to be listened to if those thanks and encouragement are not
constantly offered. ESFJ usually hates controversies and criticisms to a great extent. He
considers any type of accusation and criticism as a threat to him. The giver must be aware of the
fact that this is one of his greatest weaknesses. The giver may become severely depressed and
frustrated when he has to suffer through negative reactions and is not exposed to expressions of
thanks. Therefore, the greatest gift a husband can give to the presenter is gratitude and
encouragement.

Strengths in social life:

- Affectionate, encouraging and good-natured. Doesn’t care about time when exerting efforts to
accomplish his tasks and duties. He loves to help and please others. He can be relied upon to
accomplish daily duties means he is responsible and practical. People are subconsciously drawn
to him, he is loved by everyone and lives optimistically. He is close to relationships and loves to
keep them bonded and strong. Good at dealing money. Keen to celebrate with family, enjoys at
occasions and try to involve the whole family.

The opposite of my character:

The personality of the thinker, the analytical and the objective person INTP, is the opposite of
my personality (ESFJ Consul). It is considered difficult to communicate with these kinds of
people. The process of understanding them requires a lot of understanding, expression of feelings
and transparency.
Two Situations from the Past

First Situation

Three years ago, I faced one of the most difficult situations in my life. I was working as an
online teacher, an assistant who has to explain each and everything in Turkish to the Arab
students. I worked there as a full time and did everything a teacher would do who was loyal to
her profession. I was working as usual, although I received very little wage and sometime, I had
to work even more than 8 hours with students. The supervisor didn’t pay attention to the subject
we presented and no matter how much hard-work I did or efforts I made he was never satisfied.
He was biased towards teachers at the expense of others. I tried to leave this job many times but
couldn’t because of my financial conditions.

One day I was sick but did all my homework and didn’t ask for vacation just for the sake of my
students so that they don’t feel any negligence. I sent the solution as an audio message and it was
the first time they hear my voice. I was shocked to hear that principal had an objection over the
poor quality of recording and my sick sound. After few days, I was surprised to hear that some of
the students whom I helped demanded me back so the principal called me and I was back at
work. , I felt that I had been fair, and the school year did not pass, otherwise I would have moved
from an assistant school to responsible for the primary stage, after that I was appointed in the
place of the previous supervisor. Today, I am the principle in the same academy, at primary stage
where she criticized me. My hard-work and my true intentions proved that I deserved a lot more.
I got the result of my work although I may have endured a lot.

Second Situation:

Another most difficult situation that I had to face was to leave my country because of a tragedy
that took place there. My husband had a car accident due to which he went through many
different surgeries including spinal. At first, doctors were hopeful about him but then the harsh
reality came over. He couldn’t walk after that. Because of his inability to work, I had to take
some really hard decisions which I never thought I would. At that time, I don’t know how but my
hidden talents and abilities showed themselves. After this incident, there was a clear transition in
my personality. I was now more able to face reality and became self-reliant. If I could go back in
time, I would like take steps that I took now. I think my I was wasting my hidden confident
personality which can achieve a lot more.

The situations that I wish to change in my behavior is the weakness or inability to respond in the
face of some people with whom I encountered.

The Strategies:

In an effort to overcome my weakness and enhance my strengths, I will pay good attention on
my strengths and allow myself to take advantage of opportunities to enhance and develop
conditions in my family and work environment. I will like to address my weaknesses by facing
them. I would stay away from thinking what is best for others, because the best they might think
may not be the best in my opinion. In this way, I can avoid many disagreements and mental
torture. I give ideas sometime to settle, if I am not in a hurry, as each person must bear his
responsibility and many things are not judged by their appearances. I must tell them about the
difficulties I am facing despite their needs and why I made a certain decision or changed my
decision. I absolutely should not expect from others.

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References

Little, W. & McGivern, R. (2014). Introduction to sociology. 1st Canadian Edition. Houston.

OpenStax College, Rice University, & B.C. Open Textbook Project.

INTP and ESFJ Relationship. Crystal. (n.d.). Retrieved September 15, 2021, from

https://www.crystalknows.com/personality-type/relationship/intp-esfj